Hurting Your Teenager's Feelings [R U Listening?]

[KISSYPR]

What about if my son is the one with the big mouth and they see this and turn it against us.

[thesugerstick]

my mom calls me a no talent loser, an ugly lazy shit, that i discust her, that my face makes her want to vomit, a bitch, and she never says sorry. living with her is like living in a house made of egg shell. i dont deserve what she calls me and half the time i dont even know what i did wrong. she knocks stuff over and makes me clean it up, while calling me lazy and a whore. when i was younger my mom would tell me to stand up agenst bullys, but what do i do when my mother IS the bully?

[asorita1]

@thesugerstick have you ever tried leaving her a long letter explaining how you feel when she talks to you this way?

[s4lj4y]

Good word

[JRMCNEA]

I love how people use a general term like "Kids are going to make mistake" when the reality of it is teenagers think they are smarter and more clever then their parents. And even though they continue to find out this is not the truth they continue to try and pull stuff. Its not about making mistakes. Its about being unremorseful for making them in the first place. The idea of well I did it now so what can you do about it. I'm not taking about forgetting a book for school. But disregard for rules

[AndyHarglesis]

@JRMCNEA In many cases teenagers can be proven smarter than their parents.

[JRMCNEA]

@AndyHarglesis smarter in capacity of knowledge. But a teenager has no experience in the world. Which is why we have laws protecting them to a arbitrary age of 18. And every teenager gets in trouble for that same ignorant statement you made.Just because you are "smarter" then your parents doesn't mean you will get away with what you are doing. again ignoring the fact that when said smart teen get in over their head they run to their stupid parents to fix it.

[JRMCNEA]

Yeah Because preparing your kids to live in the real world where people don't give s shit about them is less important then telling them when they screw up? i would love to meet that boss who fire a person after they don't do what they where directed to numerous times. there are more important thing in live then your feeling. Like food shelter oh yeah and your life. Which will be in danger if you don't know how to deal with criticism. Teenagers. R U listening? Act your age. your not 2 anymore.

[94fulLmp]

very good

[bluefireturtle]

@FoxifiedNutjob

You forgot the close-minded lies and false sense of hope.

[bluefireturtle]

Oh my god. Yes, you will fail at some things in life, shit will happen that you can or can't control and it will suck. You may as well get that lesson over when you're a teen and learn how to deal with it. 

And not all people can pull off tact. I think that's the understatement of the year. Your parents might yell at you, or tell you you're a dumb, idiot, smartass, and guess what, you'll get over it. PS. if your daughter comes home with a smashed car... hard to form a game plan. Just saying.

[dadoody]

Big difference in American teens from year ago who used to get whooped for being buttholes, working the fields, going to war, and the teens of today who start crying crocodile tears and cutting themselves if they don't get the latest iPhone.

[Kidasha]

@dadoody hey! its not like our generation doesn't have any problems of our own! with the economy as it is now we can't find jobs and don't have money to go to college. As for going to war, many people I know joined the army because they couldn't pay for college and didn't have a choice. Also, cutting is no joke! Its a serious issue that many teens have died from

[Sis37Bright]

Curious, what do you suggest to do when a child is openly defiant? Who continues to be defiant and rebellious? Taking a page from God's Word - He kicked them out of the garden of Eden, women now have pain in childbirth and man has to work hard for a living. You can't plan for every situation, but I'm glad you have perhaps started a dialogue for parents and their kids to work with. Let's get some tough advice now? :)

[bhickman6]

The god of the bible is the "greatest parent" ever? Is this guy trying to make a joke? Has he not actually read the old testament. I loved my parents and am glad they didn't burn and torture me because I didn't profess to loving them all the time.

[mannsdan]

great topic and even better advice! thanks David!  kids are gonna blow it and home is the place where kid's should experience firsthand the grace of God!

[acts1124]

Great response to a tough question. Looking forward to more great stuff from you guys!