Thanks, but i'd still rather go with the assumption that grieving when someone close to us dies is not culturally conditioned at all, but encoded in our genes. It seems to have been selected for in order to "punish us" for losing some of our reproductive resources.
Sometimes (well, pretty often actually), in these rambling Dharma musings, Ajahn Brahm sounds so easy-going that it sort of (pardon my French) pisses me off - but then I only have to remember the bhikkhuni ordination incident to realize that mellowness doesn't equate weakness, that courage can also take this anger-free, gentle form! So why do I remain puzzled?
@nealezumm: The answer in one word is: conditioning; just what Ajahn was talking about. Our experience most of the time has been that mellow people are also weak & lack courage. So, we learn to equate mellowness with weakness, foolishness & other negative qualities & even despise such people subconsciously. Here you have someone who is mellow (which triggers despise), yet has wisdom & courage (which trigger respect). As despise & respect arise in your mind at the same time, you are puzzled.
Wonderful talk. It is without a doubt that I always learn something from these drama talks; a new view, a new perception that changes my own. So thank you once again :)
Thanks for the talk, another that everybody should hear! It's a surprise that nobody is arguing in the comments! I guess nobody wants to make the tea or buy a round of drinks... lol.
Another great talk. Its hard to find people that wont let their egos go and accpet new wisdom because of it.I glad to know at least a few people that I could debate with and we could both walk away a little right,a little wrong, and over all happy from new wisdom.But it is hard when people try to press their views and they themselves can't accpet anything new or just being a little wrong.Sad to have known so many that would end a friendship over a simple debate.
I was wrong so many times in my life but I didn't want to admit it. I didnt want to admit because 1 my super duper awsome ego. and 2 no one in my family ever admit their mistakes, nor anyone i know likes to admit they are wrong. Ajahn brahm is so right that we are conditioned to behave and think in certain ways. Great video.
@SupermarketsRevil Consider this your training to consider an argument without considering the person who brings it forth and the way in which it is brought forth.
@garouHH Now that I actually watched the pertinent part of the talk I realize that SupermarketsRevil actually only did what Ajahn Brahm asked for; too bad that his comment is gone.
I had a coworker who was on the opposite side of every political belief I have. He was a gentleman who could argue without making it personal. I learned so much from him and miss him more than many friends I had who have the same political views I do.
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pinkiipromise 3 months ago
Your notion that indigenous Thais don't grieve is nonsense.
Happyascanbe1 6 months ago
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Happyascanbe1 6 months ago
Thanks, but i'd still rather go with the assumption that grieving when someone close to us dies is not culturally conditioned at all, but encoded in our genes. It seems to have been selected for in order to "punish us" for losing some of our reproductive resources.
Happyascanbe1 6 months ago
Thanks Ajahn Brahm! Can we "undo" our conditioning?
marcnaidu 10 months ago
Like this talk so much..
Build up the friendship with christians, muslims, anybody because they will challenge you to look deeper..
renywatan 10 months ago
This gives me a better perception towards internet trollz
TietCanhVit 10 months ago
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nealezumm 10 months ago
Sometimes (well, pretty often actually), in these rambling Dharma musings, Ajahn Brahm sounds so easy-going that it sort of (pardon my French) pisses me off - but then I only have to remember the bhikkhuni ordination incident to realize that mellowness doesn't equate weakness, that courage can also take this anger-free, gentle form! So why do I remain puzzled?
nealezumm 10 months ago
@nealezumm: The answer in one word is: conditioning; just what Ajahn was talking about. Our experience most of the time has been that mellow people are also weak & lack courage. So, we learn to equate mellowness with weakness, foolishness & other negative qualities & even despise such people subconsciously. Here you have someone who is mellow (which triggers despise), yet has wisdom & courage (which trigger respect). As despise & respect arise in your mind at the same time, you are puzzled.
drav1dan 10 months ago
@drav1dan Smart explanation - and it sounds plausible enough too. It might even be right!
nealezumm 10 months ago
and noI would say that there is more evidence of mourning from totally different societies. maybe Buddhist societies just know something more.
lyntonio 10 months ago
Wonderful talk. It is without a doubt that I always learn something from these drama talks; a new view, a new perception that changes my own. So thank you once again :)
NyDrPa 10 months ago
A very nice talk. Thank-you.
NingyoRenee 10 months ago
Thanks for the talk, another that everybody should hear! It's a surprise that nobody is arguing in the comments! I guess nobody wants to make the tea or buy a round of drinks... lol.
kensei85 10 months ago
Another great talk. Its hard to find people that wont let their egos go and accpet new wisdom because of it.I glad to know at least a few people that I could debate with and we could both walk away a little right,a little wrong, and over all happy from new wisdom.But it is hard when people try to press their views and they themselves can't accpet anything new or just being a little wrong.Sad to have known so many that would end a friendship over a simple debate.
MetalPanda777 10 months ago
Never bend the truth to fit your faith, a quote i agree with soo much! Good talk as always
Yaiyasmin 10 months ago 3
Another great talk from a wonderful talker. Thank you Ajahn Brahm.
ThePeacefulBuddhist 10 months ago 2
I was wrong so many times in my life but I didn't want to admit it. I didnt want to admit because 1 my super duper awsome ego. and 2 no one in my family ever admit their mistakes, nor anyone i know likes to admit they are wrong. Ajahn brahm is so right that we are conditioned to behave and think in certain ways. Great video.
Ashitanoyuki 10 months ago 3
@Ashitanoyuki
Good for you man. Way to go!
Shouseinthehouse 10 months ago
@SupermarketsRevil Consider this your training to consider an argument without considering the person who brings it forth and the way in which it is brought forth.
garouHH 10 months ago
@garouHH Now that I actually watched the pertinent part of the talk I realize that SupermarketsRevil actually only did what Ajahn Brahm asked for; too bad that his comment is gone.
garouHH 10 months ago
I had a coworker who was on the opposite side of every political belief I have. He was a gentleman who could argue without making it personal. I learned so much from him and miss him more than many friends I had who have the same political views I do.
stevesusenet 10 months ago 6
Thank you Ajahn Brahm.
stevesusenet 10 months ago
whats wrong with laziness
HLecterPHD 10 months ago
thank you Ajahn Brahm for the talk
Anastasia1me1kanter 10 months ago
@Anastasia1me1kanter Ajahn Brahm is awesome
Anastasia1me1kanter 10 months ago
I love this guys talks !
mrxyzee 10 months ago
"That's not an argument, that's just contradiction"
"No it isn't"
"Yes it is"
Kyuslydian 10 months ago
Ajahn Brahm !! come Singapore :)
Kimimakos 10 months ago