@katattx77901 I rented it from someone in Monterey, CA, where we were living at the time. They are often for rent all around the country but you will need to do some searches. I did hear, though, that birth tubs are on the block by the FDA for regulation...sooo irritating. They just want a piece of the money action. Hypocrites.
@numanuma218 What's "not right" about it? It may not be how you want to birth, but that doesn't mean it's wrong. It makes birth less traumatic for the baby and less painful for the mom. Heaven forbid a child see that birth doesn't require wires and tubes sticking out of the mother and baby! Heaven forbid the child see that their mother is strong, powerful and capable. As for "onlookers" what do you think the doctors and nurses are when you give birth in a hospital? Except they don't support mom.
Wow so beautiful. I also had a homebirth after a traumatic first hospital birth. My eldest daughter was also present to witness the birth of her little sister. So important to help normalise birth for future generations of birthing women. Go mama.
for your info numanuma218 there is nothing wrong with having your child at the birth of your new baby. My son was at my daughters birth. Because thats how i wanted it to be. And there is also nothing wrong with have A baby in a pool. If you dont agree with this then why did you watch it.
Thank you for sharing this....it made me think about my own experience giving birth to my twins & wish that I had had a more natural experience like this one.
@numanuma218 How is it not right? They(babies) are basically in a pool for nine months and it's not like you leave them in there for too long. And all of the people with her SUPPORTED her. I am going to let my baby's watch the other's be born
JulieFilter fantastic your girl watched her siblings be born, we had our 1st born who was born rapidly, watch our 2nd be born rapidly in the hospital while daddy held her at 3 years old, as the midwife delivered our 2nd, and the midwife wanted her to stay, then as our 3rd child a 2nd daughter was born rapidly our 1st daughter who was 5 years old and our son who was 2 years old at the time watched our 3rd child a 2nd little girl be born rapidly
That is awesome! I think the people at the hospital should have shut THEIR doggone faces and let you vocalize if that's what you wanted to do! I had birth distress as a baby and almost died and I'm hoping that my own birth doesn't have to reflect on any births I have in the future, even if I AM in my late 30's or 40's, whenever, if at all, it happens. Sounds to me like that "High risk birth" just because someone's over 35 (I'm 37 now) is just a bunch of propaganda bull crap!!
Thanks for this video, I had a horrible experience with an unnecessary c-section last time and when i'll get pregnant again i'm looking to have a home waterbirth, I only wish I had known then what I know know and nothing bad would have happened to me, I suffered so much I had PTSD and I hope in the future giving birth will again be seen as something natural and not something to fear or for what getting treated like money meat. Great effect makes the video softer and more reserved without lacking
@PINKLUNAMOON I know exactly what you mean. I may not have ended up with a C, but I know how traumatic negative birth experiences can be. I have now enjoyed three homebirths (I really need to post the other two!), my last one just May 27! They really are amazing experiences, and I wish you the best. I'd love to hear how it goes =0) God bless, Pink.
How was the pain compared to your first birth? And how effective was the water in relieving the pain? A great birth, I'm looking into waterbirth right now for my first child, hopefull it will be a possibility! Looks wonderful!
@gabbb432 The pain was MUCH more manageable with the water. I have now had two more water births since this video (haven't made videos of them yet though) and I can definitely say the water helps immensely when in active labor. The biggest thing I would say when it comes to labor is recognizing that no matter how intense the contractions are, they go away. They come and go, so keeping this as the focus helps with management too.
this is one of my favorite water birth/homebirth videos. so inspiring! i was literally bawling throughout the whole thing. i just hope my birth goes as well as yours.
@othersideofher Thank you and let me say that I am so excited for you! I also hope your birth goes as well, but ultimately that you continue to trust in your ability to give birth. Your midwife (assuming you have one) is there to help guide you and protect you in the event that anything is not looking right. Listen to your body and give in to the process =0) I hope to hear how it goes!!! God bless.
I loved the "I can't not push!" I've had two boys in the hospital and on both occasions when I felt that uncontrollable need to push, they told me not to push and wait for the doctor. Like you said, it's like your body is doing most of the work on its own. Thanks for sharing :)
I loved the "I can't not push!" I've had two boys in the hospital and on both occasions when I felt that uncontrollable need to push, they told me not to push and wait for the doctor. Like you said, it's like your body is doing most of the work on its own. Thanks for sharing :)
@peachypan Man, screw the doctors BIG TIME!!! I soooooo fiddlestickin' don't want to have a baby in a hospital. I should show this stuff to my best friend when she gets married so she'll know her options because if someone treats Courtney that way I'm afraid of what I might say or do to the bastard.
I see how you were trying to mask your nakedness and whatnot in this very intimate experience, but the jitteryness of the black and white effect just took away from the video.
Good decision! I had the same thing,,,after hosp birth for 1st, I swore never again. Next 2 girls born at home w/ midwife, no drugs. Now I'd have cannabis if I was doing it again, just for pain and Irie vibe. Yeah mon. Jah bless!
@Marleyites Ooohh, you sure that cannabis wouldn't be harmful to the baby? If I could rest assured it wouldn't I'd be open to trying that stuff just for pain control too.
@Lavenderrose73 Lav, cannabis won't hurt the baby. Women have used it in childbirth ever since time began. It's the longest-used herb in pharmacoepia. One study done on Jamaican women who used it during pregnancy showed babies with higher IQs - no other difference. You will have a great birth now & empowering yourself to do what's right. This birth will also clear up your own birth distress for eternity. It's funny but I can see it all in my mind right now - just clear as day. Irie!
=( I'm scared of having a baby ;~; it looks SORE ! :) im like telling to myself -IM NEVER HAVING KIDS WITH MY FUTURE HUSBAND- lool xD anyway CUTE ! <3 Love, Sarah xxx (reply back if u want to =D)
@OzzyJ0 I apparently never answered this, but it really just depends on when labor is considered to begin. I have known people who literally were in stages of labor for 6 days and had a healthy baby. But, it was off and on labor where they had periods of time of progression and then things would settle down. Gave a lovely break in the process. =0)
This was so amazing i have 7 children 3 c sections 2 whith no medications and 2 with an epidurals all in the hospital.... i tried to have a homebirth with2 of them but i wont go into detail it didnt work out my daughter is married and am hoping she when God allows will beable to have her babies at home...God bless your family
I am due anytime now and am trying to come up with ideas on how to capture the labor/delivery. I LOVE how you went to black/white while you were naked in the tub. I am a very modest person and didn't know how I was going to mask everything - what a great idea! You have a beautiful family and your birth looked like it went how you wanted it to go! Thanks for sharing!!!
Awesome! Another thing you can do is wear a black tank top, or just a dark tank top to cover your top. =0) But, if you think you will feel best completely bare, than the aging technique works well! =0) It was definitely the birth I wanted! I'm looking forward to another one in May!
omg so sad having the kids there why not throw the kids in the tub with her and why have ur mum there and everyone else . i wouid not have had my kids there .
Well, that is your preference. I am thrilled that we had our first daughter with us while our second child was born. She was GREAT throughout the entire experience and took to the baby immediately without any transitional separation issues. I am so happy that we had her there as well as other people present to be part of the experience. I actually only had one extra person there, as our midwife team was 3 people. It was WONDERFUL!
@JulieFilter I've never heard of anyone having a bad experience by having their older children at the home birth. Only positive outcomes. It's totally natural that they be there instead of with a babysitter or something like that. Most homebirth families don't even believe in babysitters - I never used them, just kept my children with me & we did things as a family. They're all very close now. Thanks for sharing, Julie!
What a beautiful, amazing homebirth family...and such beautifull birthing sounds, made without any inhibition, isn't that amazing? Embarking on our family's 7th journey to baby our 6th at home...each precious & unique & with those we love. Thank you for sharing your special day
OMG SO BEAUTIFUL. Thank you so much for sharing this, this is such a precious gift you have shared here!! I'm in tears, so wonderful! May God bless you and your Angels!! You did absolutely perfect Momma! and Dad, terrific job being right there for her!
i would like to congratulate u for the 2nd addition to ur family it is so beautifull to see that i loved being there with my wife when she had our baby
@crazyforhorses124 Yeah, that's one thing I've been afraid of if I ever get married, is that he might not be supportive about how I want to have the baby. I hope if you were expecting that he came through for you.
Wow that was beautiful. I really wanted a home birth with my second baby that is due in May but because I had a previouse c-section my midwife team don't feel comfortable with a home vback.
what a great soundtrack you picked for this video very touching.
congrats and wish you health and happiness for years to come...<3
in the 1st place im so nervous, coz u r giving birth in pool omg...... but u have a very very cute angel.... all i can say is congratz and im hapi 4 u nd to ur family.............
That was so beautiful! Thank you so much for sharing such an incredibly personal moment. I wish I had birthed my children at home. I feel so honored to have been able to see this. Thank you!
wonderful! all of it, cute girls and cute family. my baby #2 was all natural but still in the hosp and i still felt a little neglected but was so glad I went natural. It was better for me.
I have been watching a lot of births, and this is by far the most beautifully put together video - senstive in nature, soothing music, and just so very speacial. WELL DONE
wow, when i gave birth my son ( natural birth in hosp with community midwife team) When i got to full dilation, i was on the toilet and i yelled out 'I can't not push!!!' and i was helped back to the bed and i lay on my side and the same as you said i didn't have to push exactly cause my body was doing it involuntarily and my son was born after 3 pushes in 8 minutes... I'm defo having my next at home possibly in water....great video :)
YOU ARE AAAMAZING!! MIGHTY WOMAN I HAVE HEARD YOU ROAR!!!
i had to have c-section for my son but now 4 years later i am concidering going with a mid wife. Im terrified however i was amazed how quicky the women who delivered "naturally" recovered where as i was all drugged up for the first few weeks after my c-section. hurt alot all at once with some pain afterwards v.s no pain and alot of hurt later?
Beautiful! This video made me cry very happy tears. I am looking forward to a career in midwifery AND having my own precious miracle babies! I am sure you know how blessed you are...(and the music was sooo soothing: i enjoy Celine Dion :) Happy nurturing!!!
What a wonderful video. We had our first daughter in the water with midwives at the hospital, and this time we are planning a homebirth. I have been checking out birth videos to show our 20 month old daughter as she will be present. I love that your first daughter is there and I am so excited to show this video to her.
That's great! I totally recommend watching birth videos often. I did that when pregnant with my second (I watched a midwifery show on DHC...the only one I knew of that was natural births instead of medicated ones). When the woman made noises I just told her, "that woman is having a baby," and then she would see the baby on the screen soon thereafter. When it came time for me to labor, she was told, "Mommy is just having the baby." It all made sense to her, since next came the baby. =0)
being a mother i know what a divine experience it is to finally hold your baby after waiting for so long ... hope you all have a beautiful life ahead... :-)
Your children are beautiful!! My husband and I recently found out we are expecting. Unfortunately we live in an apartment so I don't know about being able to be at home but I would like to use a birthing center instead of a hospital. Your video was very encouraging to me!
A Birthing Center is a wonderful middle of the road option! I wouldn't even mind going there, which might be the situation in future births if we are unable to afford the midwives, as our insurance pulled coverage for CPMs....
Thank you so much for sharing your experiences!!! We had very similar births actually... my first daughter was a 43 hour hospital marathon of hell, and my second daughter was 16 hours in a birthcenter with midwives that respected me and my birth! Hindsight is 20/20 and I am grateful for my first experience because it led me to be a doula and advocate for birth! You have beautiful girls and again, thankyou for sharing !!
After reading your comment: "...never again go to the hospital to have a baby". I nearly wept. It is tragic that you had a bad experience with a hospital birth but could it be any less tragic if you lose a future child in a home birth? Please, PLEASE make a separate and informed decision with each birth!!! As a father of 8, I can tell you that 2 of our precious, healthy children would ABSOLUTELY have died were they not born in a hospital. Home birth is great but it's not for every birth!
I am aware of the complications that can arise with birth, and in the event that there were any signs that there is a danger in the birth situation we would of course go to a hospital. Midwives are well-trained individuals that are more adept at knowing the signs of a problem in its earliest stages, which would be the time when the switch would be made. I agree that homebirth is not for every birth, but I also know the probability of something going awry at home is less than in a hospital.
thank you for sharing such a wonderfull thing! if you dont mind me asking... how does one go about setting up a home birth? And why do they do it in water tubs like that?
You look for local midwives in your area, which often can be found through the MANA website, or just a general search for midwives in our city. The birth tub (waterbirth) is optional, but I, and many people, love it because of the serious amount of comfort it provides during labor. It helps the laboring mother to relax and offers a wonderful transition environment for a baby moving from the womb. For the baby to move from womb to water to mommy's arms creates a gentle birth with little shock.
A nice nurse told me it could just be stress or a possible infection from a high white cell count where she had toxic changes in the neutrophils, the mean nurse said no I think its an infection, yet the test coudl not find an actual infection. She acted like I made my baby sick, acted like it was bad if I visited her adn was very annoyed at me askign her if I could have a cuddle of my baby who was not on a vent/cpap.nasal cannula but 23-28% room air.
she looked upset at me as my baby was sick.. She then said don't touch her foot or you will start a code blue because I said her feet was cute, without any intention to touch the pulse oximeter on her foot, amde her grumpy to ask for a hold, grumpy I was even looking at her, I looked past the medical isntrument, and saw my cute babies perfect features,
My daughter was born sick due to AROM durign a rapid NVD birth, whilst her birth was filled with wonderful caring folks in an ER in a smaller hospital, I wish I could have had her at home, funny thing is when we went to a bigger hospital the nurse said did you have your baby at home,
aww how amazing =]. I believe in natural childbirth 100% (with an exceptional few who need that extra hospital help) but its actually better for you. Good job!
*BAWLS* That was so beautiful... *bawls some more* Thank you so much for sharing the wonder obvious in your face after the birth. The happiness of your family together at such a special time... <3
What an amazing video. Wow, what a tear jerker. I am 22 weeks pregnant with our second.. Although I can't say I had a "bad" hospital experience with our first, I can say that since that very day i have regretted opting for pain relief. I am choosing a hospital with labour rooms with tubs and look forward to the experience.. the "real one"! Thanks for posting this video for others to watch... It gives people like me hope! Congratulations!! :)
That's great! And REALLY awesome that your hospital has those things available for your use. My only word of caution/encouragement, is to make sure your husband is the one ready to fight for your wishes, and does not let the nurse/doctors influence your decision when your in active labor. This is very common, and he will really need to be your supporter and coach when you get to the point of indecision. God bless!
Wow, so beautiful mama. Amazing. i was bawling lol!
i have had one drug-free hospital birth (with too many intefventions to count) one c-section for breech, and then my last baby, 8 months ago was a drug-free VBAC in hospital..this time with almost NO interventions. it was incredibly healing and amazing. i hope this birth brought you some healing as well. :)
You know, it REALLY was. It's amazing how therapeutic birth can be. It is completely contrary to what one would think, considering the fact that there is still labor and the birth of a "football coming out of a hole the size of an egg." Lol...leave it to God to create us with such a fascinating ability! =0)
I've had a bad experience with the hospital birth of my daughter too HOWEVER I will never have a home birth. If there are any complications and if you end up needing an emergency c-section, the time between your home and the hospital may determine the outcome of your life and your baby's. I personally don't think it's safe.
The question for me is not where would be safer in the event of an emergency, but what is the likelihood of an emergency, and what were the conditions that led to the emergency? If women are unaware of the potential, and likely, side effects of the drugs they take during labor, they would not understand that their own choices led to their necessary c-section. If the events that lead to a c-section are avoiding, the c-section is not needed and therefore the risk is diminished. Choices need info.
And just to clarify, I would also add "interventions" to things that could lead women down the path to an emergency situation. Things like breaking the bag of waters, being bed ridden, and immobile during labor, not being able to use different positions for pushing and birthing, etc. Each of these effect the final outcome, too.
Yup. I totally understand. I had not even really thought about other options than the hospital with my first, but after that experience I continued to read and learn, because I knew there had to be a better alternative. And, this was it. Of course, I did not make the decision lightly and I did not choose to take it so far as an unassisted homebirth, but we found with all we read that we would be more likely to get what we desired at home...we were right.
thanks for the reply julie. i will definetly choose homebirth! Pregnancy is not a disease, so why go to the hospital! Of course, if something goes wrong or im high risk, i may reconsider. blessings!
And, it is totally fucked up that someone would tell you to quiet down while in labor!!!! I'd have slapped someone for that!! I had c-sections, though. No way around them, otherwise I'd have opted for drug free natural in a hospital. I was told that a woman in labor should make as much noise as she needs to but to keep in mind that it uses strength to make noise.
Two little redheads!! Watch their tempers!! Lol. Beautiful family!! I'd have to agree that hospitals are the best place for birthing but I'm not judgemental and I say to each, his own. If your midwives thought you would've been better off in a hospital, they'd have told you. Congratulations on your home birth!!
I totally agree; to each his own. I only care about individuals being informed enough to make a personal decision, not dictated by society or their doctor's personal opinion. Not talking about if someone is high risk for reasons other than VBAC, or twin, because those are gray areas. Whatever decision a person makes is no difference to me, but my hope is for the person to understand the implications of that decision, such as the pros and cons to interventions, as well as risks at home.
homebirthing sounds absolutely wonderful and i plan on it for my pregnancy and birth.. the only thing im afraid of is what if something goes wrong? that threatens babys life or my own? But overall i feel like its a great choice, homebirth and drug free birth
I understand your fears, especially since majority of the birth shows on tv right now show things going wrong about all the time. The thing is, with homebirths (or births out of the hospital setting), the possibility of something "going wrong" is much more reduced because of a comfortable environment full of people you know and love. Hospitals are stressful and full of interruptions and people telling you what to do, not necessarily for what is best for you, but their own agenda.
I highly recommend "Gentle Birth Choices" by Barb Harper. It is full of great information offering the statistics and verified safety of birth and homebirths. Our culture has instilled a sense of fear in us as birthing women, because it is profitable, sadly. I also suggest renting (Netflix has it) "The Business of Being Born." This, too, has a load of historical information showing the progression of midwife-centered births to the medical model we now experience.
One final thought; the Certified Nurse Midwife who oversaw my birth in the hospital had only been part of 6 births before my own. She was brand new to the scene. In contrast, midwives must attend numerous births and be part of the experience in order to even obtain their education. They must be "on the front lines." My midwife who oversaw my pregnancy with my second daughter (born at home) had been present for over 5,000 births, and had been practicing for over 30 yrs! I trust her MUCH more!
Home birth is dangerous. Birth in general is dangerous. Postpartum bleeding is a potential life threatening complication. Home birth is a dangerous risk.
Don't do it! Get to a hospital, where there is proper staff, expertise, and the means.
This is a fight the midwifes and "natural" birth advocates can *NOT* win.
I can see how our culture's brainwashing has taken effect in you, since there is no evidence to support your perspective at all. On the contrary, statistics prove homebirth, with a midwife present, to be SAFER than a hospital. Giving birth in a hospital, with all the medicines and interventions is dangerous. Do some reading, by someone other than those who profit from your ignorance and you will find the truth. O, and midwives are not untrained. They know what to do about bleeding.
I can see how how our natural midwife quackery has taken affect on you, since there is lots of evidence that only a hospital setting can cope with various complications.
Postpartum bleeding, baby's heart rate dropping, these are examples of things that are addressable at a hospital, but not at home.
Birthing is just plain dangerous in general. Midwives are so eager to skew reality and con people into thinking that intervention is bad, while often it is absolutely necessary and life saving.
What are you talking about? "Our natural midwife quackery"...Midwifery has been around for thousands of years and the current medical model has only been around for a little over a hundred. There is nothing new to midwifery, and nothing new to birth. It is natural, and we were created and purposefully designed to birth babies. There is nothing inherently dangerous about birth. Yes, there are potential complications, but that does not mean it is inherently dangerous.
Birth is not inherently dangerous just because there are potential risks. When births are allowed to proceed without any interventions, over 90% are problem-free. Only when interventions take place is when the problems begin. Our country is ridiculous with the amount of interventions that occur, of course all within a hospital setting. If you want natural birth in a hospital, you will probably have to fight for your right!
The EFM that is used in hospitals was not even supported by the man who invented it because he found it was incorrect over 75% of the time! And yet, it is still used as a lazy way to "monitor" mother and baby, but causing countless false alarms that something is wrong, making the doctors out to be heroes, and women incapable baby birthing machines. More midwives attending births equals less babies and mothers dying every year. US is one of the highest in death rates. Not my opinion, but fact.
The hospital uses a Doppler radar held in place with a band. It continuously monitors the heart rate and draws a graph. A second sensor, also Doppler based I believe tries to translate tension to a number, helping to estimate the start and intensity of a contraction, also drawn onto a graph.
The heart rate should be steady with an acceleration once in a while.
So how is this "lazy"? Again, the hospital has the top notch equipment.
The Doppler is the EFM. Electro-Fetal Monitor. What is the "good percentage" of home births that are transferred to a hospital? There is nothing wrong with a homebirth being transferred to a hospital. That is a midwife knowing their limits and when more medicinal intervention is necessary...i.e. a TRUE emergency, not the false emergencies that happen for probably 20% of the 30% of "emergency c-sections" that occur in our country.
Oh, and this is not true that midwives do not have tools necessary to deal with complications within a home. You must think they arrive with a rusty pocket knife and stapler to cut the cord. In my experience midwives come prepared with oxygen, pain medication (if needed), an ability to stitch (just like a regular doc), and an entire slew of other materials to assist them in case their knowledge is needed. Their goal, of course, is to not be needed, but let the mother's body birth the baby.
MIdwives do *NOT* have the kind of tools and techniques at their disposal. Birth is just plain dangerous, and a hospital is the correct setting.
A good percentage of home births get transferred to the hospital for a good reason: they see a risk. I am NOT willing to let a midwife assess that risk. In fact, I've just seen it go wrong.
I'm just yacking about it here, but all the midwife zealots know better. Rriigghhtt..
I'm not sure what you are trying to say at the end here about the midwife zealots. Look, if you are so scared of birth, don't have babies, or go to the hospital, whatever. But, you have no verified truth to the opinions you are spouting out here, which is just adding to the birth hysteria. Anyone who wants to learn about the process of birth has a slew of awesome information available at their local bookstore...NOT written by midwives, but supporting midwifery.
Midwives have been riding on what negative things they can extract from hospital births. Threatening people with scare tactics about c sections and such.
I sticking with my original story. A proper birthing unit in a hospital is the best setting for birth. Having seen complications, anything else does not make sense.
We've read many books, which is what got all this started, quite the hysteria. Push comes to shove, their actions were inferior, like taking a step back in time.
I am very sad that you feel this way, because it is just a shame you will never truly have the joy that birth offers because of the extreme fear you have in relation to birth. Fear of birth will cause a bad birth experience. The only people I have ever known who could say "I ENJOYED MY BIRTH" were those who experienced natural, drug-free labors and births, many of which at home. I have had a hospital birth and it was horrible! I had all the interventions, and it sucked. Natural is best.
I don't get it. If you have such a problem with homebirth, why did you even watch my video. I'm not saying that there are NEVER reasons to need interventions, or the importance of a doctor, but that is the exception, not the standard. And you are the one "conning" people, because you are spouting rhetoric without documentation. I have read information by both sides and the proof is in the numbers, which tell all. Homebirths are safer. Natural is safest, for 90% of the population.
I'm not spouting rhetoric, I'm speaking from experience. It's midwifes that are conning people into thinking it's all just fine to give up on proper science available in hospitals. It's highly highly arrogant for them *CON* people that they know better. THEY DO NOT. NOT BY A BLOODY LONG SHOT.
"Natural" - what does that mean, really? Just let it happen they "nature" intended? People used to DIE that way.
Having experienced life threatening complications, I'm quite quite sure of my standpoint.
Look, I'm not discounting that experience and I am so sorry you, or someone you know experienced that. But, just because it happened does not mean it is the norm. I had three births and my only bad experience was the one with the drugs, so should I ignore my own experiences to accept yours as truth? Aren't they both truth? All I am saying is that birth is not a disease and though it can have risks that does not mean it is dangerous 100% of the time. Also, there are many doctors who agree.
Since I can see that neither of us are going to relent on our particular positions, I am going to agree to disagree, because we each have our experiences to back up our perspectives. I do not think that it is wise for your all-inclusive, no exceptions mentality, but that is my opinion. I bear no judgment against those who choose hospitals births, drugs, or c-sections, but care only for the woman to have all the information, pros and cons of each, before making their decision. Take care.
At least agree that some women experience life threatening complications that hospitals can cope with. Realize that the wonderful scientific obstetricians are very experienced and are able to take charge of very serious problems. Tools, drugs, procedures, are at their disposal. They really do save lives.
On the other hand, I do realize that hospital settings are not perfect. Infections, too easily resorting to interventions.
There is no perfect solution. But never dismiss science.
I never said that women do not experience those things. All I said is that the percentage of time those things occur is very infrequent (statistically 10% worldwide). I do not have any problem with the medical world when it is in its due place, but when interventions are occuring because of time limits or convenience for the doctor I disagree.
I hope that you, too, realize though, that midwives, too, are experienced in the ability of women to naturally give birth without the assistance of drugs. They really are informed and aware of the signs when something is going wrong. They are not so prideful to not move a necessary women to the hospital if something is occurring that needs more medicinal assistance than they are purposed. There, of course, are pros and cons for each, but each women needs to make that decision for herself.
Ok, I don't think we're that far off from each other. What irks me what many others to no end, is that midwifes seem to be riding on a wave of negativity towards hospitals, and many people seem to be conned into thinking that hospitals are just a bunch of unnecessary "unnatural" nonsense, and that midwifes know better. I thoroughly disagree with that.
Birth is just plain dangerous, and science is there to save us - people should have the utmost respect for that and not dismiss it.
Also, when I question the validity of midwifes, especially after having experienced first hand how a hospital, their expertise, tools, and means, ended up saving a life, which is *quite* the emotional shock, I get pissed off in a serious way to hear people say "oh you're just buying in to the hysteria". I see it the other way around. Midwives and their negativity towards hospitals to create a business for themselves is what I'm seeing as the hysteria here.
Alrighty then, with all that said, the other side of the coin. Yes, I understand midwives offer value. They deal with births all the time, are educated (but to what degree...) (and keep those darn students and trainees at bay), they can help reduce interventions (even though interventions are often *more* beneficial - but the hysteria says it's not).
I'm still having a hard time recognizing midwifes, because I can't help see complications.
You need to stop commenting on these peoples videos. Each Woman gets the make an educated choice on what THEY want to happen. Enough with your personal experience, this video is about the happiest days of their lives, who are you to take that away from them. If she needed the hospital the midwife would have sent her there.
Enough is enough already a1mint, You're bad experience shouldn't ruin natural birth for the rest of the world.
im not denying that it happened to you, but its not fact for everyone. You're one experience doesn't change all of the research which shows it being just as safe.
it is significantly less likely that you would have a post-partum haemorrhage after a home birth than after a hospital birth, because the risk of PPH rises with interventions such as assisted delivery and induction of labour, which are only carried out in hospital. Midwives at home would be regularly monitoring the baby's heart rate, and if this showed signs of distress then you would transfer to hospital.
Rarely, a baby may die after a homebirth, when he or she might have survived after a hospital birth. And the converse is true - sometimes babies die after hospital births, when they might have survived after a homebirth. This can happen because of breathing difficulties after caesarean section, hospital-acquired infection, birth injuries from assisted delivery, severe reactions to drugs given to the labouring mother, or stress or injury resulting from labour being induced or augmented.
I don't fully disagree with your points. I understand that the various interventions carry risks as well. These risks would have been preventing in a more patient setting like at home.
I realize that.
Complications happen. Time to transfer, once serious problems arise, could be an unacceptable risk.
I've seen a number of articles now most stating over 1/4 of first time home births being transferred to the hospital.
End of day, it seems there is no perfect solution.
Its up to each parent who is having the baby, its their decision to make, all anyone can do is educate themselves and be prepared. The worst can happen in either scenario. You experience was a bad one, so it is understandable that it left a bad tase in your mouth, but that doesn't mean no one should have home births
Part of educating yourselves is by listening to people's experiences. What I experienced would have been fatal at home. Realize those types of risks.
Now, I'm not against "birth" or "having babies". It's all very beautiful. If a home birth works out, fantastic. I admire birth just as much as the next guy.
The problem is that I think people think that naturally is perfect and things going wrong is the fault of interventions. And that's just not correct at all.
congradulations on your beautiful family i had the pleasure of watching both of your birth videos and must say in this one you look so much more connected with the process then the first im sorry your hospital birth was so disconcerting for you i had all of my 5 kids in the hospital and understand what you mean its all red tape and bull with them if i had them to do again i would go homebirth all the way unfortunately i always ended up high risk =( however the end result is so worth it
I've seen hospitals births and they seem so stressed. I know I shouldn't be thinking about this yet [I'm only 15 lol] but I think a home birth would be perfect for me eventually :)
Nice tub! Where did you get it?
katattx77901 6 months ago
@katattx77901 I rented it from someone in Monterey, CA, where we were living at the time. They are often for rent all around the country but you will need to do some searches. I did hear, though, that birth tubs are on the block by the FDA for regulation...sooo irritating. They just want a piece of the money action. Hypocrites.
JulieFilter 6 months ago
@numanuma218 What's "not right" about it? It may not be how you want to birth, but that doesn't mean it's wrong. It makes birth less traumatic for the baby and less painful for the mom. Heaven forbid a child see that birth doesn't require wires and tubes sticking out of the mother and baby! Heaven forbid the child see that their mother is strong, powerful and capable. As for "onlookers" what do you think the doctors and nurses are when you give birth in a hospital? Except they don't support mom.
edefyinggravity 6 months ago
Wow so beautiful. I also had a homebirth after a traumatic first hospital birth. My eldest daughter was also present to witness the birth of her little sister. So important to help normalise birth for future generations of birthing women. Go mama.
ashnbenji 9 months ago
for your info numanuma218 there is nothing wrong with having your child at the birth of your new baby. My son was at my daughters birth. Because thats how i wanted it to be. And there is also nothing wrong with have A baby in a pool. If you dont agree with this then why did you watch it.
haemommy 9 months ago
TEARS ARE COMING!!!!!!!!!
Tulip905 10 months ago
That is a really gorgeous baby! Congrats! :)
tessa6126 11 months ago
Thank you for sharing this....it made me think about my own experience giving birth to my twins & wish that I had had a more natural experience like this one.
DeauxFaced 1 year ago
@numanuma218 How is it not right? They(babies) are basically in a pool for nine months and it's not like you leave them in there for too long. And all of the people with her SUPPORTED her. I am going to let my baby's watch the other's be born
DaddysGirl3181 1 year ago
that was amazing such a cool thing to experience
notsolittle09 1 year ago
Thank you for sharing your home birth :)
xuxifu 1 year ago
what a beutiful video.
jesspatrick12 1 year ago
awwww what a wonderful baby!!! she is very beautiful!!! and u made me cry T__T nice video and nice song T___T
darkangelmegami 1 year ago
thanks for sharing...im turning into a big baby crying at all these vids... the beauty and miracle of birth. cant wait to see my bub. all the best x
vhomesick 1 year ago
Gorgeous Baby!
mylovesofmylife 1 year ago
JulieFilter fantastic your girl watched her siblings be born, we had our 1st born who was born rapidly, watch our 2nd be born rapidly in the hospital while daddy held her at 3 years old, as the midwife delivered our 2nd, and the midwife wanted her to stay, then as our 3rd child a 2nd daughter was born rapidly our 1st daughter who was 5 years old and our son who was 2 years old at the time watched our 3rd child a 2nd little girl be born rapidly
mylovesofmylife 1 year ago
wowwwwwwwww
moodygurl90 1 year ago
i absolutely loved the choice of music, just in a lower volume! Great video!
lymmie2long 1 year ago
I think, the pain was less, because you were home, and more relaxed. instead of having to worry bout what was going to happen, you know?
r4wrxiloveyoux3 1 year ago
Beautiful and informative video.....except for the celene dion....lol
jeffery19677 1 year ago
That is awesome! I think the people at the hospital should have shut THEIR doggone faces and let you vocalize if that's what you wanted to do! I had birth distress as a baby and almost died and I'm hoping that my own birth doesn't have to reflect on any births I have in the future, even if I AM in my late 30's or 40's, whenever, if at all, it happens. Sounds to me like that "High risk birth" just because someone's over 35 (I'm 37 now) is just a bunch of propaganda bull crap!!
Lavenderrose73 1 year ago
Thanks for this video, I had a horrible experience with an unnecessary c-section last time and when i'll get pregnant again i'm looking to have a home waterbirth, I only wish I had known then what I know know and nothing bad would have happened to me, I suffered so much I had PTSD and I hope in the future giving birth will again be seen as something natural and not something to fear or for what getting treated like money meat. Great effect makes the video softer and more reserved without lacking
PINKLUNAMOON 1 year ago
@PINKLUNAMOON I know exactly what you mean. I may not have ended up with a C, but I know how traumatic negative birth experiences can be. I have now enjoyed three homebirths (I really need to post the other two!), my last one just May 27! They really are amazing experiences, and I wish you the best. I'd love to hear how it goes =0) God bless, Pink.
JulieFilter 1 year ago
How was the pain compared to your first birth? And how effective was the water in relieving the pain? A great birth, I'm looking into waterbirth right now for my first child, hopefull it will be a possibility! Looks wonderful!
gabbb432 1 year ago
@gabbb432 The pain was MUCH more manageable with the water. I have now had two more water births since this video (haven't made videos of them yet though) and I can definitely say the water helps immensely when in active labor. The biggest thing I would say when it comes to labor is recognizing that no matter how intense the contractions are, they go away. They come and go, so keeping this as the focus helps with management too.
JulieFilter 1 year ago
@JulieFilter i found this to when i was in labour..tho unfourtantly my labour ended in a c seaction :( in labour for 48 hrs
jesterdustin 5 months ago
this is one of my favorite water birth/homebirth videos. so inspiring! i was literally bawling throughout the whole thing. i just hope my birth goes as well as yours.
othersideofher 1 year ago
@othersideofher Thank you and let me say that I am so excited for you! I also hope your birth goes as well, but ultimately that you continue to trust in your ability to give birth. Your midwife (assuming you have one) is there to help guide you and protect you in the event that anything is not looking right. Listen to your body and give in to the process =0) I hope to hear how it goes!!! God bless.
JulieFilter 1 year ago
I loved the "I can't not push!" I've had two boys in the hospital and on both occasions when I felt that uncontrollable need to push, they told me not to push and wait for the doctor. Like you said, it's like your body is doing most of the work on its own. Thanks for sharing :)
peachypan 1 year ago
I loved the "I can't not push!" I've had two boys in the hospital and on both occasions when I felt that uncontrollable need to push, they told me not to push and wait for the doctor. Like you said, it's like your body is doing most of the work on its own. Thanks for sharing :)
peachypan 1 year ago
@peachypan Man, screw the doctors BIG TIME!!! I soooooo fiddlestickin' don't want to have a baby in a hospital. I should show this stuff to my best friend when she gets married so she'll know her options because if someone treats Courtney that way I'm afraid of what I might say or do to the bastard.
Lavenderrose73 1 year ago
Absolutely Beautiful birth ...... and what beautiful children... Wow....
kastnmagic 1 year ago
I see how you were trying to mask your nakedness and whatnot in this very intimate experience, but the jitteryness of the black and white effect just took away from the video.
kibbles1053 1 year ago
Good decision! I had the same thing,,,after hosp birth for 1st, I swore never again. Next 2 girls born at home w/ midwife, no drugs. Now I'd have cannabis if I was doing it again, just for pain and Irie vibe. Yeah mon. Jah bless!
Marleyites 1 year ago
@Marleyites Ooohh, you sure that cannabis wouldn't be harmful to the baby? If I could rest assured it wouldn't I'd be open to trying that stuff just for pain control too.
Lavenderrose73 1 year ago
@Lavenderrose73 Lav, cannabis won't hurt the baby. Women have used it in childbirth ever since time began. It's the longest-used herb in pharmacoepia. One study done on Jamaican women who used it during pregnancy showed babies with higher IQs - no other difference. You will have a great birth now & empowering yourself to do what's right. This birth will also clear up your own birth distress for eternity. It's funny but I can see it all in my mind right now - just clear as day. Irie!
Marleyites 1 year ago
thank you for such a great video , I have 3 kids which I delivered at home... It made me realize the greatness of it...
cleng24 1 year ago
=( I'm scared of having a baby ;~; it looks SORE ! :) im like telling to myself -IM NEVER HAVING KIDS WITH MY FUTURE HUSBAND- lool xD anyway CUTE ! <3 Love, Sarah xxx (reply back if u want to =D)
Lertriea66 1 year ago
oh really thats odd but im so happy that your wife gave birth to a healthly baby girl
OzzyJ0 1 year ago
Great job mama!!! Nice job. :)
Beautiful family. God bless you all.
5 stars!!!!
vallchick79 1 year ago
how long can a birthing last up to?? a day?
OzzyJ0 1 year ago
@OzzyJ0 I apparently never answered this, but it really just depends on when labor is considered to begin. I have known people who literally were in stages of labor for 6 days and had a healthy baby. But, it was off and on labor where they had periods of time of progression and then things would settle down. Gave a lovely break in the process. =0)
JulieFilter 1 year ago
This was so amazing i have 7 children 3 c sections 2 whith no medications and 2 with an epidurals all in the hospital.... i tried to have a homebirth with2 of them but i wont go into detail it didnt work out my daughter is married and am hoping she when God allows will beable to have her babies at home...God bless your family
joedebbi 1 year ago
I am due anytime now and am trying to come up with ideas on how to capture the labor/delivery. I LOVE how you went to black/white while you were naked in the tub. I am a very modest person and didn't know how I was going to mask everything - what a great idea! You have a beautiful family and your birth looked like it went how you wanted it to go! Thanks for sharing!!!
MajestaBuck 2 years ago
Awesome! Another thing you can do is wear a black tank top, or just a dark tank top to cover your top. =0) But, if you think you will feel best completely bare, than the aging technique works well! =0) It was definitely the birth I wanted! I'm looking forward to another one in May!
JulieFilter 2 years ago
omg so sad having the kids there why not throw the kids in the tub with her and why have ur mum there and everyone else . i wouid not have had my kids there .
JANELISA25 2 years ago
Well, that is your preference. I am thrilled that we had our first daughter with us while our second child was born. She was GREAT throughout the entire experience and took to the baby immediately without any transitional separation issues. I am so happy that we had her there as well as other people present to be part of the experience. I actually only had one extra person there, as our midwife team was 3 people. It was WONDERFUL!
JulieFilter 2 years ago 5
@JulieFilter I've never heard of anyone having a bad experience by having their older children at the home birth. Only positive outcomes. It's totally natural that they be there instead of with a babysitter or something like that. Most homebirth families don't even believe in babysitters - I never used them, just kept my children with me & we did things as a family. They're all very close now. Thanks for sharing, Julie!
Marleyites 1 year ago
i am 53 and i still cry at these the best of luck to you all
hizzer51 2 years ago
What a beautiful, amazing homebirth family...and such beautifull birthing sounds, made without any inhibition, isn't that amazing? Embarking on our family's 7th journey to baby our 6th at home...each precious & unique & with those we love. Thank you for sharing your special day
realhvnlygoddess 2 years ago
What a totally amazing video, brought tears to my eyes, you are all very blessed!
VioletUK86 2 years ago
Very beautiful! I just love all the red hair! I'm due in 7 weeks and would love to have a similar labor! Thank you so much for sharing!
lillymarch1 2 years ago
i love it, congrats sooo much!!! she is adorable!!
notredamske 2 years ago
It's been almost 25 years since I last gave birth.....oh my.....this was soooo wonderful!!! I'm gonna cry happy tears!! :)
nomopms1 2 years ago
Water Baby
TheLastVampireChild 2 years ago
that was so beautifuL!! your baby is so tiny and sweet! congrats!
EmilyGah 2 years ago
your baby is so ADORABLE!! she will be successful when shes older.. :)
hommie1988oner 2 years ago 2
OMG SO BEAUTIFUL. Thank you so much for sharing this, this is such a precious gift you have shared here!! I'm in tears, so wonderful! May God bless you and your Angels!! You did absolutely perfect Momma! and Dad, terrific job being right there for her!
idiannalynne 2 years ago
That was so cool. thats the wrong word for it but I can't come up with a better one. Thank you for sharing it with us.
dryman101 2 years ago
so beautiful
MITULINKA1 2 years ago
i would like to congratulate u for the 2nd addition to ur family it is so beautifull to see that i loved being there with my wife when she had our baby
blayze0411 2 years ago
so beautiful :)
congratulations!
thanks for sharing :)
cristinasilvadoula 2 years ago
Great Job! This video was beyond 5 Stars.
YAAUFA 2 years ago
k...i would never have my whole family around...just my man,and the doctors,thats all!!!
id love to have a home birth,not in water though...but my husband prefers hospital... =/
crazyforhorses124 2 years ago
@crazyforhorses124
Well, next time your husband is having a baby, tell him he can do it at the hospital. You should have yours where ever you feel most comfortable.
KrikkyR 1 year ago
@crazyforhorses124 Yeah, that's one thing I've been afraid of if I ever get married, is that he might not be supportive about how I want to have the baby. I hope if you were expecting that he came through for you.
Lavenderrose73 1 year ago
´Thank you! But I wished the musik wasnt so loud. I would have loved to enjoy the sounds more pure.
ideenfee 2 years ago
This video makes me feel so much better about our decision to do a waterbith
maiziah 2 years ago
oh my BEAUTIFUL!
DWDavis2008 2 years ago
the baby is soooo cute
bimbo4jesus 2 years ago
awesome job!!!
Hisgurl942 2 years ago
Wow that was beautiful. I really wanted a home birth with my second baby that is due in May but because I had a previouse c-section my midwife team don't feel comfortable with a home vback.
what a great soundtrack you picked for this video very touching.
congrats and wish you health and happiness for years to come...<3
fuzzypeach5 2 years ago
this is grate... its makes me think about avin a hme both.. but gt no room lol
mytwobabys 2 years ago
in the 1st place im so nervous, coz u r giving birth in pool omg...... but u have a very very cute angel.... all i can say is congratz and im hapi 4 u nd to ur family.............
kulotzotchie 2 years ago
Thanks for sharing such a wonderful video.
All of best wishes to your children.
vanquynh05 2 years ago
You look so shocked afterwards. Like "Wow - is this baby REALLY here?! I've done it?!?"
:) Congrats
fbsfbs1 2 years ago
THIS IS GREAT!
jfta 2 years ago
happy birthday to your baby!
akvergara 2 years ago
I cried through most of this video. I had all four of my children in military hospitals(c-sections), I am so happy for you and your family! Congrats!
kalaharirose 2 years ago
What stupid doctors to tell you to quiet down. Have they ever given birth? what jerks.
detachedlegs 2 years ago 2
That was so beautiful! Thank you so much for sharing such an incredibly personal moment. I wish I had birthed my children at home. I feel so honored to have been able to see this. Thank you!
KateHZ34 2 years ago
I'm 14 and am very interested in home birth, even though it's probably like 10+ years off.
dogsarebetter 2 years ago 2
thanksssssssssssssss
hossammoha 2 years ago
wonderful! all of it, cute girls and cute family. my baby #2 was all natural but still in the hosp and i still felt a little neglected but was so glad I went natural. It was better for me.
strawberryme08 2 years ago
I have been watching a lot of births, and this is by far the most beautifully put together video - senstive in nature, soothing music, and just so very speacial. WELL DONE
bisleygirl1004 2 years ago
Beautiful. I had to have my son by C-section, but I don't want to have to go through that again!
harmonikisses 2 years ago
wow, when i gave birth my son ( natural birth in hosp with community midwife team) When i got to full dilation, i was on the toilet and i yelled out 'I can't not push!!!' and i was helped back to the bed and i lay on my side and the same as you said i didn't have to push exactly cause my body was doing it involuntarily and my son was born after 3 pushes in 8 minutes... I'm defo having my next at home possibly in water....great video :)
WildCatXoX 2 years ago
YOU ARE AAAMAZING!! MIGHTY WOMAN I HAVE HEARD YOU ROAR!!!
i had to have c-section for my son but now 4 years later i am concidering going with a mid wife. Im terrified however i was amazed how quicky the women who delivered "naturally" recovered where as i was all drugged up for the first few weeks after my c-section. hurt alot all at once with some pain afterwards v.s no pain and alot of hurt later?
casperboo2002 2 years ago 2
Beautiful! This video made me cry very happy tears. I am looking forward to a career in midwifery AND having my own precious miracle babies! I am sure you know how blessed you are...(and the music was sooo soothing: i enjoy Celine Dion :) Happy nurturing!!!
dontai0704 2 years ago
Sweet after bitter
고진감래[苦盡甘來]
-> Pain is gone, and pleasure is come
Jon747 2 years ago
What a wonderful video. We had our first daughter in the water with midwives at the hospital, and this time we are planning a homebirth. I have been checking out birth videos to show our 20 month old daughter as she will be present. I love that your first daughter is there and I am so excited to show this video to her.
Paigekitten86 2 years ago
That's great! I totally recommend watching birth videos often. I did that when pregnant with my second (I watched a midwifery show on DHC...the only one I knew of that was natural births instead of medicated ones). When the woman made noises I just told her, "that woman is having a baby," and then she would see the baby on the screen soon thereafter. When it came time for me to labor, she was told, "Mommy is just having the baby." It all made sense to her, since next came the baby. =0)
JulieFilter 2 years ago
being a mother i know what a divine experience it is to finally hold your baby after waiting for so long ... hope you all have a beautiful life ahead... :-)
mischellecruz27 2 years ago 2
THATz ONE CUTE BABy
iT LOOKED SORE
jobrosluver1217 2 years ago
Sore? In which part?
JulieFilter 2 years ago
Your children are beautiful!! My husband and I recently found out we are expecting. Unfortunately we live in an apartment so I don't know about being able to be at home but I would like to use a birthing center instead of a hospital. Your video was very encouraging to me!
centralstudent1 2 years ago
A Birthing Center is a wonderful middle of the road option! I wouldn't even mind going there, which might be the situation in future births if we are unable to afford the midwives, as our insurance pulled coverage for CPMs....
JulieFilter 2 years ago
Beautiful x
natashalundconlon 2 years ago
Thank you so much for sharing your experiences!!! We had very similar births actually... my first daughter was a 43 hour hospital marathon of hell, and my second daughter was 16 hours in a birthcenter with midwives that respected me and my birth! Hindsight is 20/20 and I am grateful for my first experience because it led me to be a doula and advocate for birth! You have beautiful girls and again, thankyou for sharing !!
LetItBeBirth 2 years ago
After reading your comment: "...never again go to the hospital to have a baby". I nearly wept. It is tragic that you had a bad experience with a hospital birth but could it be any less tragic if you lose a future child in a home birth? Please, PLEASE make a separate and informed decision with each birth!!! As a father of 8, I can tell you that 2 of our precious, healthy children would ABSOLUTELY have died were they not born in a hospital. Home birth is great but it's not for every birth!
jjl1800 2 years ago
I am aware of the complications that can arise with birth, and in the event that there were any signs that there is a danger in the birth situation we would of course go to a hospital. Midwives are well-trained individuals that are more adept at knowing the signs of a problem in its earliest stages, which would be the time when the switch would be made. I agree that homebirth is not for every birth, but I also know the probability of something going awry at home is less than in a hospital.
JulieFilter 2 years ago
thank you for sharing such a wonderfull thing! if you dont mind me asking... how does one go about setting up a home birth? And why do they do it in water tubs like that?
MysticMomentss 2 years ago
You look for local midwives in your area, which often can be found through the MANA website, or just a general search for midwives in our city. The birth tub (waterbirth) is optional, but I, and many people, love it because of the serious amount of comfort it provides during labor. It helps the laboring mother to relax and offers a wonderful transition environment for a baby moving from the womb. For the baby to move from womb to water to mommy's arms creates a gentle birth with little shock.
JulieFilter 2 years ago
That was a good video but the music totally ruins it, it would have been nice to hear what the midwives were saying
cassawong 2 years ago
A nice nurse told me it could just be stress or a possible infection from a high white cell count where she had toxic changes in the neutrophils, the mean nurse said no I think its an infection, yet the test coudl not find an actual infection. She acted like I made my baby sick, acted like it was bad if I visited her adn was very annoyed at me askign her if I could have a cuddle of my baby who was not on a vent/cpap.nasal cannula but 23-28% room air.
sweetpeacegarden 2 years ago
she looked upset at me as my baby was sick.. She then said don't touch her foot or you will start a code blue because I said her feet was cute, without any intention to touch the pulse oximeter on her foot, amde her grumpy to ask for a hold, grumpy I was even looking at her, I looked past the medical isntrument, and saw my cute babies perfect features,
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sweetpeacegarden 2 years ago
My daughter was born sick due to AROM durign a rapid NVD birth, whilst her birth was filled with wonderful caring folks in an ER in a smaller hospital, I wish I could have had her at home, funny thing is when we went to a bigger hospital the nurse said did you have your baby at home,
sweetpeacegarden 2 years ago
your daughter is incredibly gorgeous, what an amazing birth, left me in tears
sweetpeacegarden 2 years ago
Absolutely amazing !!! wish u all the best ;* beautiful baby
Beatrinka007 2 years ago
This is an amazing video. i'm due in 3 months. This made me cry <3
congrats.
sequoia1709 2 years ago
you had a very preety child your very lucky and well done for getting through that
fruityduck 2 years ago
aww how amazing =]. I believe in natural childbirth 100% (with an exceptional few who need that extra hospital help) but its actually better for you. Good job!
Wolfiette 2 years ago
*BAWLS* That was so beautiful... *bawls some more* Thank you so much for sharing the wonder obvious in your face after the birth. The happiness of your family together at such a special time... <3
spacewolfcub 2 years ago
What an amazing video. Wow, what a tear jerker. I am 22 weeks pregnant with our second.. Although I can't say I had a "bad" hospital experience with our first, I can say that since that very day i have regretted opting for pain relief. I am choosing a hospital with labour rooms with tubs and look forward to the experience.. the "real one"! Thanks for posting this video for others to watch... It gives people like me hope! Congratulations!! :)
ilovekylemeade 2 years ago
That's great! And REALLY awesome that your hospital has those things available for your use. My only word of caution/encouragement, is to make sure your husband is the one ready to fight for your wishes, and does not let the nurse/doctors influence your decision when your in active labor. This is very common, and he will really need to be your supporter and coach when you get to the point of indecision. God bless!
JulieFilter 2 years ago
Wow, so beautiful mama. Amazing. i was bawling lol!
i have had one drug-free hospital birth (with too many intefventions to count) one c-section for breech, and then my last baby, 8 months ago was a drug-free VBAC in hospital..this time with almost NO interventions. it was incredibly healing and amazing. i hope this birth brought you some healing as well. :)
Newmommy604 2 years ago
You know, it REALLY was. It's amazing how therapeutic birth can be. It is completely contrary to what one would think, considering the fact that there is still labor and the birth of a "football coming out of a hole the size of an egg." Lol...leave it to God to create us with such a fascinating ability! =0)
JulieFilter 2 years ago
I've had a bad experience with the hospital birth of my daughter too HOWEVER I will never have a home birth. If there are any complications and if you end up needing an emergency c-section, the time between your home and the hospital may determine the outcome of your life and your baby's. I personally don't think it's safe.
But I'm glad you had a good experience.
camny07 2 years ago
The question for me is not where would be safer in the event of an emergency, but what is the likelihood of an emergency, and what were the conditions that led to the emergency? If women are unaware of the potential, and likely, side effects of the drugs they take during labor, they would not understand that their own choices led to their necessary c-section. If the events that lead to a c-section are avoiding, the c-section is not needed and therefore the risk is diminished. Choices need info.
JulieFilter 2 years ago
And just to clarify, I would also add "interventions" to things that could lead women down the path to an emergency situation. Things like breaking the bag of waters, being bed ridden, and immobile during labor, not being able to use different positions for pushing and birthing, etc. Each of these effect the final outcome, too.
JulieFilter 2 years ago
She's absolutly BEAUTIFUL.
:)
I'm glad you weren't in a lot of pain. And I can't even BELIEVE they told you to quiet down while giving birth in the hospital.
It makes me think.
MoLlIeDiLlOn 2 years ago
Yup. I totally understand. I had not even really thought about other options than the hospital with my first, but after that experience I continued to read and learn, because I knew there had to be a better alternative. And, this was it. Of course, I did not make the decision lightly and I did not choose to take it so far as an unassisted homebirth, but we found with all we read that we would be more likely to get what we desired at home...we were right.
JulieFilter 2 years ago
thanks for the reply julie. i will definetly choose homebirth! Pregnancy is not a disease, so why go to the hospital! Of course, if something goes wrong or im high risk, i may reconsider. blessings!
cakekawaii 2 years ago
Excellent! That's exactly as I feel and I wish you the best. God bless!
JulieFilter 2 years ago
And, it is totally fucked up that someone would tell you to quiet down while in labor!!!! I'd have slapped someone for that!! I had c-sections, though. No way around them, otherwise I'd have opted for drug free natural in a hospital. I was told that a woman in labor should make as much noise as she needs to but to keep in mind that it uses strength to make noise.
geminirose85 2 years ago
Two little redheads!! Watch their tempers!! Lol. Beautiful family!! I'd have to agree that hospitals are the best place for birthing but I'm not judgemental and I say to each, his own. If your midwives thought you would've been better off in a hospital, they'd have told you. Congratulations on your home birth!!
geminirose85 2 years ago
I totally agree; to each his own. I only care about individuals being informed enough to make a personal decision, not dictated by society or their doctor's personal opinion. Not talking about if someone is high risk for reasons other than VBAC, or twin, because those are gray areas. Whatever decision a person makes is no difference to me, but my hope is for the person to understand the implications of that decision, such as the pros and cons to interventions, as well as risks at home.
JulieFilter 2 years ago
Sooo amazing! I can't wait to have my own babies!
limeNcoconut333 2 years ago
homebirthing sounds absolutely wonderful and i plan on it for my pregnancy and birth.. the only thing im afraid of is what if something goes wrong? that threatens babys life or my own? But overall i feel like its a great choice, homebirth and drug free birth
cakekawaii 2 years ago
I understand your fears, especially since majority of the birth shows on tv right now show things going wrong about all the time. The thing is, with homebirths (or births out of the hospital setting), the possibility of something "going wrong" is much more reduced because of a comfortable environment full of people you know and love. Hospitals are stressful and full of interruptions and people telling you what to do, not necessarily for what is best for you, but their own agenda.
JulieFilter 2 years ago
I highly recommend "Gentle Birth Choices" by Barb Harper. It is full of great information offering the statistics and verified safety of birth and homebirths. Our culture has instilled a sense of fear in us as birthing women, because it is profitable, sadly. I also suggest renting (Netflix has it) "The Business of Being Born." This, too, has a load of historical information showing the progression of midwife-centered births to the medical model we now experience.
JulieFilter 2 years ago
One final thought; the Certified Nurse Midwife who oversaw my birth in the hospital had only been part of 6 births before my own. She was brand new to the scene. In contrast, midwives must attend numerous births and be part of the experience in order to even obtain their education. They must be "on the front lines." My midwife who oversaw my pregnancy with my second daughter (born at home) had been present for over 5,000 births, and had been practicing for over 30 yrs! I trust her MUCH more!
JulieFilter 2 years ago
Home birth is dangerous. Birth in general is dangerous. Postpartum bleeding is a potential life threatening complication. Home birth is a dangerous risk.
Don't do it! Get to a hospital, where there is proper staff, expertise, and the means.
This is a fight the midwifes and "natural" birth advocates can *NOT* win.
a1mint 3 years ago
I can see how our culture's brainwashing has taken effect in you, since there is no evidence to support your perspective at all. On the contrary, statistics prove homebirth, with a midwife present, to be SAFER than a hospital. Giving birth in a hospital, with all the medicines and interventions is dangerous. Do some reading, by someone other than those who profit from your ignorance and you will find the truth. O, and midwives are not untrained. They know what to do about bleeding.
JulieFilter 3 years ago
I can see how how our natural midwife quackery has taken affect on you, since there is lots of evidence that only a hospital setting can cope with various complications.
Postpartum bleeding, baby's heart rate dropping, these are examples of things that are addressable at a hospital, but not at home.
Birthing is just plain dangerous in general. Midwives are so eager to skew reality and con people into thinking that intervention is bad, while often it is absolutely necessary and life saving.
a1mint 3 years ago
What are you talking about? "Our natural midwife quackery"...Midwifery has been around for thousands of years and the current medical model has only been around for a little over a hundred. There is nothing new to midwifery, and nothing new to birth. It is natural, and we were created and purposefully designed to birth babies. There is nothing inherently dangerous about birth. Yes, there are potential complications, but that does not mean it is inherently dangerous.
JulieFilter 3 years ago
Birth is not inherently dangerous just because there are potential risks. When births are allowed to proceed without any interventions, over 90% are problem-free. Only when interventions take place is when the problems begin. Our country is ridiculous with the amount of interventions that occur, of course all within a hospital setting. If you want natural birth in a hospital, you will probably have to fight for your right!
JulieFilter 3 years ago
When things get tough and difficult they end up either moving you to the hospital or call an ambulance for help.
Yes there are risks in a hospital too, infection being one of them. But they have MRI and antibiotics to cope with that.
For bleeding there are specific drugs and tools that are not available to midwives.
a1mint 3 years ago
The EFM that is used in hospitals was not even supported by the man who invented it because he found it was incorrect over 75% of the time! And yet, it is still used as a lazy way to "monitor" mother and baby, but causing countless false alarms that something is wrong, making the doctors out to be heroes, and women incapable baby birthing machines. More midwives attending births equals less babies and mothers dying every year. US is one of the highest in death rates. Not my opinion, but fact.
JulieFilter 3 years ago
The hospital uses a Doppler radar held in place with a band. It continuously monitors the heart rate and draws a graph. A second sensor, also Doppler based I believe tries to translate tension to a number, helping to estimate the start and intensity of a contraction, also drawn onto a graph.
The heart rate should be steady with an acceleration once in a while.
So how is this "lazy"? Again, the hospital has the top notch equipment.
a1mint 2 years ago
The Doppler is the EFM. Electro-Fetal Monitor. What is the "good percentage" of home births that are transferred to a hospital? There is nothing wrong with a homebirth being transferred to a hospital. That is a midwife knowing their limits and when more medicinal intervention is necessary...i.e. a TRUE emergency, not the false emergencies that happen for probably 20% of the 30% of "emergency c-sections" that occur in our country.
JulieFilter 2 years ago
Oh, and this is not true that midwives do not have tools necessary to deal with complications within a home. You must think they arrive with a rusty pocket knife and stapler to cut the cord. In my experience midwives come prepared with oxygen, pain medication (if needed), an ability to stitch (just like a regular doc), and an entire slew of other materials to assist them in case their knowledge is needed. Their goal, of course, is to not be needed, but let the mother's body birth the baby.
JulieFilter 3 years ago
MIdwives do *NOT* have the kind of tools and techniques at their disposal. Birth is just plain dangerous, and a hospital is the correct setting.
A good percentage of home births get transferred to the hospital for a good reason: they see a risk. I am NOT willing to let a midwife assess that risk. In fact, I've just seen it go wrong.
I'm just yacking about it here, but all the midwife zealots know better. Rriigghhtt..
a1mint 2 years ago
I'm not sure what you are trying to say at the end here about the midwife zealots. Look, if you are so scared of birth, don't have babies, or go to the hospital, whatever. But, you have no verified truth to the opinions you are spouting out here, which is just adding to the birth hysteria. Anyone who wants to learn about the process of birth has a slew of awesome information available at their local bookstore...NOT written by midwives, but supporting midwifery.
JulieFilter 2 years ago
Midwives have been riding on what negative things they can extract from hospital births. Threatening people with scare tactics about c sections and such.
I sticking with my original story. A proper birthing unit in a hospital is the best setting for birth. Having seen complications, anything else does not make sense.
We've read many books, which is what got all this started, quite the hysteria. Push comes to shove, their actions were inferior, like taking a step back in time.
a1mint 2 years ago
I am very sad that you feel this way, because it is just a shame you will never truly have the joy that birth offers because of the extreme fear you have in relation to birth. Fear of birth will cause a bad birth experience. The only people I have ever known who could say "I ENJOYED MY BIRTH" were those who experienced natural, drug-free labors and births, many of which at home. I have had a hospital birth and it was horrible! I had all the interventions, and it sucked. Natural is best.
JulieFilter 2 years ago
Ever seen anyone almost bleeding to death? I have. It's nerve wrecking.
Natural best? Not always. Natural births in the olden days killed lots and lots of women and their babies.
Go ahead, play Russian roulette, just don't con others into it.
The hospital is the best setting - and THAT is a fight noone can win.
a1mint 2 years ago
I don't get it. If you have such a problem with homebirth, why did you even watch my video. I'm not saying that there are NEVER reasons to need interventions, or the importance of a doctor, but that is the exception, not the standard. And you are the one "conning" people, because you are spouting rhetoric without documentation. I have read information by both sides and the proof is in the numbers, which tell all. Homebirths are safer. Natural is safest, for 90% of the population.
JulieFilter 2 years ago
I'm not spouting rhetoric, I'm speaking from experience. It's midwifes that are conning people into thinking it's all just fine to give up on proper science available in hospitals. It's highly highly arrogant for them *CON* people that they know better. THEY DO NOT. NOT BY A BLOODY LONG SHOT.
"Natural" - what does that mean, really? Just let it happen they "nature" intended? People used to DIE that way.
Having experienced life threatening complications, I'm quite quite sure of my standpoint.
a1mint 2 years ago
Look, I'm not discounting that experience and I am so sorry you, or someone you know experienced that. But, just because it happened does not mean it is the norm. I had three births and my only bad experience was the one with the drugs, so should I ignore my own experiences to accept yours as truth? Aren't they both truth? All I am saying is that birth is not a disease and though it can have risks that does not mean it is dangerous 100% of the time. Also, there are many doctors who agree.
JulieFilter 2 years ago
Since I can see that neither of us are going to relent on our particular positions, I am going to agree to disagree, because we each have our experiences to back up our perspectives. I do not think that it is wise for your all-inclusive, no exceptions mentality, but that is my opinion. I bear no judgment against those who choose hospitals births, drugs, or c-sections, but care only for the woman to have all the information, pros and cons of each, before making their decision. Take care.
JulieFilter 2 years ago
At least agree that some women experience life threatening complications that hospitals can cope with. Realize that the wonderful scientific obstetricians are very experienced and are able to take charge of very serious problems. Tools, drugs, procedures, are at their disposal. They really do save lives.
On the other hand, I do realize that hospital settings are not perfect. Infections, too easily resorting to interventions.
There is no perfect solution. But never dismiss science.
a1mint 2 years ago
I never said that women do not experience those things. All I said is that the percentage of time those things occur is very infrequent (statistically 10% worldwide). I do not have any problem with the medical world when it is in its due place, but when interventions are occuring because of time limits or convenience for the doctor I disagree.
JulieFilter 2 years ago
I hope that you, too, realize though, that midwives, too, are experienced in the ability of women to naturally give birth without the assistance of drugs. They really are informed and aware of the signs when something is going wrong. They are not so prideful to not move a necessary women to the hospital if something is occurring that needs more medicinal assistance than they are purposed. There, of course, are pros and cons for each, but each women needs to make that decision for herself.
JulieFilter 2 years ago
Ok, I don't think we're that far off from each other. What irks me what many others to no end, is that midwifes seem to be riding on a wave of negativity towards hospitals, and many people seem to be conned into thinking that hospitals are just a bunch of unnecessary "unnatural" nonsense, and that midwifes know better. I thoroughly disagree with that.
Birth is just plain dangerous, and science is there to save us - people should have the utmost respect for that and not dismiss it.
a1mint 2 years ago
Also, when I question the validity of midwifes, especially after having experienced first hand how a hospital, their expertise, tools, and means, ended up saving a life, which is *quite* the emotional shock, I get pissed off in a serious way to hear people say "oh you're just buying in to the hysteria". I see it the other way around. Midwives and their negativity towards hospitals to create a business for themselves is what I'm seeing as the hysteria here.
a1mint 2 years ago
Alrighty then, with all that said, the other side of the coin. Yes, I understand midwives offer value. They deal with births all the time, are educated (but to what degree...) (and keep those darn students and trainees at bay), they can help reduce interventions (even though interventions are often *more* beneficial - but the hysteria says it's not).
I'm still having a hard time recognizing midwifes, because I can't help see complications.
a1mint 2 years ago
You need to stop commenting on these peoples videos. Each Woman gets the make an educated choice on what THEY want to happen. Enough with your personal experience, this video is about the happiest days of their lives, who are you to take that away from them. If she needed the hospital the midwife would have sent her there.
Enough is enough already a1mint, You're bad experience shouldn't ruin natural birth for the rest of the world.
mirairyna 2 years ago
Ignorance is bliss.
Just as you think I'm trying to influence people's minds, so are you.
I experienced what I experienced, fact is fact.
a1mint 2 years ago
Its not Fact, its Your Opinion. Which is as far as you can get from fact.
mirairyna 2 years ago
What I experienced happened. I was there. You can't deny that.
a1mint 2 years ago
im not denying that it happened to you, but its not fact for everyone. You're one experience doesn't change all of the research which shows it being just as safe.
mirairyna 2 years ago
Close to 40% of first time home births are transferred to the hospital. Various complications are always a real risks.
Apparently, there isn't any proper research showing numbers how safe it supposedly is.
a1mint 2 years ago
your percentages are fabricated numbers.
it is significantly less likely that you would have a post-partum haemorrhage after a home birth than after a hospital birth, because the risk of PPH rises with interventions such as assisted delivery and induction of labour, which are only carried out in hospital. Midwives at home would be regularly monitoring the baby's heart rate, and if this showed signs of distress then you would transfer to hospital.
mirairyna 2 years ago
Rarely, a baby may die after a homebirth, when he or she might have survived after a hospital birth. And the converse is true - sometimes babies die after hospital births, when they might have survived after a homebirth. This can happen because of breathing difficulties after caesarean section, hospital-acquired infection, birth injuries from assisted delivery, severe reactions to drugs given to the labouring mother, or stress or injury resulting from labour being induced or augmented.
mirairyna 2 years ago
I don't fully disagree with your points. I understand that the various interventions carry risks as well. These risks would have been preventing in a more patient setting like at home.
I realize that.
Complications happen. Time to transfer, once serious problems arise, could be an unacceptable risk.
I've seen a number of articles now most stating over 1/4 of first time home births being transferred to the hospital.
End of day, it seems there is no perfect solution.
I choose the hospital.
a1mint 2 years ago
Good then, we can agree on there being no perfect solutions. (turned out to be a fairly decent debate i'll admit)!
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a1mint 2 years ago
Its up to each parent who is having the baby, its their decision to make, all anyone can do is educate themselves and be prepared. The worst can happen in either scenario. You experience was a bad one, so it is understandable that it left a bad tase in your mouth, but that doesn't mean no one should have home births
mirairyna 2 years ago
Part of educating yourselves is by listening to people's experiences. What I experienced would have been fatal at home. Realize those types of risks.
Now, I'm not against "birth" or "having babies". It's all very beautiful. If a home birth works out, fantastic. I admire birth just as much as the next guy.
The problem is that I think people think that naturally is perfect and things going wrong is the fault of interventions. And that's just not correct at all.
a1mint 2 years ago
congradulations on your beautiful family i had the pleasure of watching both of your birth videos and must say in this one you look so much more connected with the process then the first im sorry your hospital birth was so disconcerting for you i had all of my 5 kids in the hospital and understand what you mean its all red tape and bull with them if i had them to do again i would go homebirth all the way unfortunately i always ended up high risk =( however the end result is so worth it
tiggers70 3 years ago
That was beautiful :)
I've seen hospitals births and they seem so stressed. I know I shouldn't be thinking about this yet [I'm only 15 lol] but I think a home birth would be perfect for me eventually :)
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