I want to let you know that I suffer from infertility as well (PCOS) and I had a chemical pregnancy on 12/27/10 after our first IUI. I am an athiest so there will be no praying from me but I hope we will have our babies soon!
I totally understand. Honey i will keep you in my heart and pray for you. Please dont take on everyone elses feelings over your infertility. . . Your own will be hard enough to cope with, youll just burden yourself even more xxxxxxxx
I know exactly where those tears come from! 2 years and 4 months we have been trying and 2 miscarriages later.... it's hard to hear of family members having babies and hard to see my parents hopeful faces when we visit.... with no news. My hubby's sister had a baby last year and I thought that would lessen the pressure from them, but now it's all they talk about is grand babies! hugs girl! It will be our turn one of these days!
Jess...I'm so sorry you have to endure all this hurt. I KNOW you're going to be such an amazing mother...You already are...Stay the strong and amazing woman you are...<3
Aww Jess I seriously want to jump through the computer screen and give you the biggest hug!!!! You are so positive all the time so to see you cry just breaks my heart. :o( You will get your baby and that baby is going to be the most spoiled baby on the planet!!! :o) Your dad sounds like my dad.. I can so see him saying something like that. I LOVE YOU!!!!!! <3
I think I understand half of the pain you're in because when I had the miscarriage I felt that my own parents were hurt because it would of been their first grandchild but I am only 23 and it came out of the blue. Reason I say half is because you have been trying for much longer and you have been ready for a while, my heart breaks for you, I want this to happen for you more than for myself right now :( You are the sweetest girl and I'll be thinking about you, sending you all my Baby dust XO
@jessicaleitexoxo Oh Jessica! I thank you so much for your sweet words! Honestly, I know you feel the pain because of what you've gone through. Every heartbreak is different, yet the same so I know you get it. Your words are really sweet but I know it'll happen for you again, soon! It was a a beautiful surprise the first time around and I know it'll be a beautiful gift the second time around. You'll be the greatest mommy! I wish you the best along with buckets of baby dust to you! XO
@kyleandjessP Awh thanks Jess :) You'll be an amazing mom too! The day you get your BFP I will be just as excited as if it were mine, FX for this cycle :) Can't wait for your next update. Do you know when you'll be testing? You'll probably speak about it in your next few updates though.. GOODLUCK!! XOXO
My husband is an only child, and his mom has been begging for grand babies. I can tell she is really disappointed we havnt had any yet. She brings it up all the time. I tried explaining to her that we have been trying for 3 years, but she is kind of dense and still just thinks we don't want any :/. I hate that she is so disappointed, and I really wish he had some
Brothers and sisters to help us out!! I have 5 siblings all who have kids so it's not a problem in my side.
@laurenstand I am so sorry you are going through the same. It can just be so tough when you feel like all the pressure is on you. I have so much hope for the both of us, though!
My heart just broke to a million pieces when I saw you so upset. I do pray that a baby will come to you very soon my dear. You will be a great mom and I can't wait to see how adorable that baby will be <3
Awww, My Jess! I do completely understand how this feels-and you WILL get that precious family that you deserve so much! This is so hard! To have people be reluctant to be happy to not hurt others feelings is such a tough one, because it does make you feel responsible, even when things are not your fault! I LOVE YOU! Your heart is SO huge and loving and this video was/is beautiful. I'm quite sure you will come back to this video someday soon while expecting and cry for a complete new reason! <3
@LeAnnaMae29 I can't wait to be able to look back and know the tears were for a reason.... and I know it'll happen soon. Thank you sweet friend! You always know what to say to put a smile on my face. Love you!
So sorry to see you hurt like that Jess, watching you so sad is breaking my heart. Please don't beat yourself up about this, it is not something any of us ask for but you will overcome this and your time is not far off. Sending hugs to you and your mom, family... stay strong for everyone!!
Aww Jess, I wish I could just hug you!!! I wish I knew the exact "right" thing to say that might bring you some comfort. I am constantly amazed at your positivity in all your vlogs about what you are going through, you are a remarkable person! I know that someday you will get your little miracle baby and even though it's hard now to hold on to that hope, I hope that it can help you through this situation! Sending lots of hugs your way!
Jess, my heart just broke for you watching this, I wish I could give you the biggest hug! You are such an amazing woman and have the biggest heart, because of that you take on these burdens that you have no control over. I know its way easier said then done but if you can please dont put this on you. Bless your heart darlin! BIG HUGE hugs to you! love you lady, very MUCH!
awe jess!!! i know it sucks i have the same thing going on in my family. i know your mom loves you and i agree 100% with lisa,,, she stole the words right out of my mouth! i'll be praying for you.
@jovanessa yes, i did watch the whole thing. You're right i'm sorry that I was insensitive. I understand she's going through a hard time. I was only stating that just because someone is young doesn't mean that they're not ready to have a baby. I'm not saying i think it's awesome teen girls are getting pregnant i'm only saying it's a stereotype that is constantly being pushed on my husband and I. It's annoying and I lashed out.
@MarkandJessie Maybe you missed her notation? She said that it has little to do with her age; more to do with her situation and her independence/stability. I can see why stereotypes would upset you, but trust me, its safe to say that Jess is not the type of person to just spew stereotypes. She was speaking about a specific situation with her cousin; not 20 year olds in general. I hope she sees your apology. And I appreciate that you did take the time to do so. :-)
Love you. I am sorry u r hurting. Please don't take the burden on. I can only guess that ur mum is a little sad but I bet she is more sad 4 u. Knowing ur struggling & u want a child. I bet any saddness is overshadowed by her love and saddness for you. Not that I mean that to make you feel bad. I hope its not come out wrong.
It is hard that people don't want to tell her, it just shows that so so many people love and care enough about your mum and you that they do not want to hurt you at all.
I'm so sorry you are feeling down. You are only human though, so of course there are going to tough days. Your mom WILL get her grand baby from you-I know you know that. And it may be sooner than you think. Just remember that all this will be a memory for you one day and you will be able to have babies. Ask for peace and strength and keep going-all these tears will be worth it in the end:)
I'm 20 and have been married since I was 18 (not because of a pregancy but because I love my husband.) and I got pregnant 9 months after i got married. I'm pretty sure that just because I'm 20 and have had a baby doesn't mean i'm not/wasn't ready. Age is only a number.
@MarkandJessie That is why I felt like I had to add the note when I said her age. Maybe you missed it. I understand many people have babies at 20 and younger because they are ready and have their life in order. However, in my cousin's situation, she is not ready. She does not have a job, steady relationship, and still lives at home while my aunt & uncle support her 100%.
@MarkandJessie Is that all you got out of this video? Did you watch the whole thing? I'm sorry, I missed where it was about 20 year old pregnant women. Maybe you should watch it again. This time, in empathy-mode rather than defense-mode. Honestly, I think this comment was a bit insensitive.
I understand you SO much! Your mom sounds a lot like my mom. My mom is dying to be a grandmother too and it breaks my heart to hear thing like this on my end too : ( I'm sending you HUGS and I just want to say I understand. ♥
Awww, Jess, bless your heart. I wish I could reach through this screen and give you a big squeeze. It will be so wonderful when your mom and dad get to tell their family about your future someday baby. They sound like parents with a lot of love to give. You have such a big heart. Love you!
I just want to give you a great big hug! just focus on the moment when you do become a mother and when your mom does become a grandmother! I'm so sorry you guys I wish I had something better to say :(
Huge hugs!!! It really does suck how IF effects more than just us. It's just not fair! I know beyond doubt that when a baby is in your lives, you all will be all more overjoyed and celebrate him/her daily. You're always so positive but of course you deserve to feel down and overwhelmed at times too. Just remember that you are an inspiration to so many of us!!
I am sorry you are hurting. Just know that you are not alone in your feelings. I too feel this same guilt with not being able to provide my parents with grandchildren yet. It's hard not to feel this way when you see what you're going through affecting those that you love. I'm sure that you're not breaking your mom's heart. She is probably just feeling the pain that any parent does when they see their child struggle or hurt. She will be a grandma one day! Lots of love and hugs to you!!
I am sorry *hugs* my parents are the same way and it hurts to see that we can bring pain to our family and there is nothing we can do...I think parents of children who struggle in this way sort of battle with it in a similar way you know...somedays are good and some arent...I hope you feel better soon.
@ML0822 I agree. I think it's hard only because they can't fix it, ya know? Our parents are still trying to protect us and unfortunately they can't make this go away.
I am so sorry for her hurt! I really felt for you and I just wanted to hug you!! God knows all things and He is in control! Keep up your postive attitude and keep smiling. I pray that your dreams come tru for you very soon... xoxox
I am going through the same thing, my mom is asking all the time about babies and she knows we are struggling over this. I am here to listen for whats it is worth. I am now avoiding baby showers ect.... But we have to keep our heads up and press on. Maybe you should tell them about your infertility I understand why you don't but it may be a positive. Does your mom know?
@claudia62782 My parents know about our infertility. Our extended families do not know. My mom is so wonderful when it comes to listening and being so supportive with our infertility. I wish you the best during your journey. I have so much hope that I will give my mom and grandbaby and that you will, too.
I've been through what you're going through and i'm still going through it.. you are just braver than me :) my mom and dad are the only ones on both sides of their families that have no grandchildren. i'm almost 34 and the only 1 married so far.. i can just hear my clock ticking so loud.. i know your parents are strong and your love for them is awesome. keep on shining. we are here for you, *hugs*
I feel this same way. I feel alot of guilt too. Not so much for my mom or my MIL but for my husband. We have male factor and my husband cant have children so I feel alot of guilt that I am not getting pregnant and guilt that I can't make him a father. I know you will work through this and come out on the other side. Sending my thoughts and prayers to you.
Oh sweetheart....My heart breaks with yours. I totally get where you are coming from. But the appreciation your parents will have when that baby comes....well, it will wipe all of this away. Sending you lots of love girl!!!
Don't ever give up! It will happen one day. You have to hold on to hope and know that you are not alone. My heart goes out to you and I feel your pain.
Awwww :0( I am so sorry that you are going through this :0( I do believe that you will be a mum so your mum will get her turn but it still cant be easy. Big big huge hugs !!!!!! You are going to be the most amazing mother ever and thank you so so much for inviting us all along for the ride. We ADORE you !!!!
@oswestryGIRL Thank you for sharing your story. I hope you didn't take what I said the wrong way about her not being ready. It had nothing to do with her age more of where she is in life. I wish you the best when you are ready for #2 :)
I am so sorry i just turn 19 and have a one year old since ive been watchin u it has make me think about the other people out there i have a 1 yr old and my sister has a 9 month old and i guess being yound i take for granted what other people cant have u no :-( my sister is 28/29 tho and married my partnes and bd is in the army my step sister has 2 (a 3yr old and an almost 2 year old and is pregnant again i do think she is stupid anyway i am in no way ready for anymore untill married but u...
@hell0kittygurl Ya know, I'm not one to really cry (anymore) about infertility so I was pretty surprised with myself that I started crying when I was talking about it. I guess it's real and I put everything else out there so I felt like I needed to do it. Thank you for your support.
@MyTTCjournal Thank you so much! I know they don't blame me but it still doesn't stop me from feeling bad that they don't have grandchildren. I appreciate you support! :)
I just want to hug you!!! Your mom would never want you to be sad on her account. She knows she will be a grandmother some day, by you and by your siblings! If you are the oldest and your siblings are younger, your parents realize there's likely to be some waiting involved. People who have never struggled with infertility have NO idea what it is like. They can say the most inane things!!! Ignore them; they just don't know.
@TheCozyFamily My mom is so cute. She always says that her grandbaby will be worth the wait. Thank you so much for the support! I truly appreciate it! :)
Jess, your mom adores you and I am sure you are not breaking her heart... You have said many times that you will be a mom one day and you know that as a truth!! Well, that means your mom will be a Gramma... it will be amazing for your mom WHENEVER it happens. Hugs, HUGS, HUGS!!!
Oh Jess... Please cry on camera and come here to vent whenever you need/want. We are all here to support you and send you our good vibes. Lots of virtual HUGS! x
I don't know what to say, I cried right along with you through this video. I know that you know it isn't your fault, and that you know better then to blame yourself, so I won't even remind you. I guess I'll just say thank you for voicing something that I think a lot of people are struggling with, but are unable to talk about. Your honesty is so meaningful.
Oh love, I just want to reach through the computer and hug you!! You have such a huge heart. You are always so strong and positive but everyone is allowed to feel down and have a bad day. Sometimes crying really does make you feel better. I just adore you Jess!! Xoxo
awww Jess, i love you so much!!! i have no words that will make this all better but i send HUGS HUGS HUGS!!!! i soooo wish we lived near so i can just come and sit with you and just hug you!
Oh Jess. I'm so sorry. You have such a big heart and I hate that you have to go through this. I just want to tell you that one day your baby is going to be the MOST loved baby on the planet. I don't have parents who are involved in my life, but I remember the pain my MIL felt, and how bad I felt for causing her pain. But I can tell you, it has been so heart warming to watch W get smothered in love and prayer and excitement. Your baby will answer so many prayers and will be worth it! Love & hugs.
Oh jEss! I wished so bad, during this whole video, to give you a hug! It will happen for you! I know that! And until then, we all are here for you to cry, vent or share anything you want! :)
(continued) realized that even though my family may not exactly understand or say the right things or whatever regarding our infertility, they hurt as well and it broke my heart...in one way I know that they are in this with me and in another way it makes me hate what we are going through that much more...I hate infertility and I'm so sorry that any of us is experiencing it :( I don't know if this comment helps but it's how I feel at least...
@vallygirl7 It did, thank you! It just helps to know that I'm not alone with how I'm feeling. I appreciate your comment and your support! It will happen for us and for our parents! <3
You just made me cry Jess! It's always good to shed tears. Especially when going through something as painful as infertility. We have to let the stress out somehow, right? Sunday was the first time in a long time I let myself cry. It sounds like your parents will make amazing grandparents! And they will be someday soon! My mom says the same thing as your mom, "God has a plan. Everything happens for a reason. And there is a time and place for everything." I remind myself this every day ♥
Hey Jess, I'm thinking of you right now and sending loads of support and love your way...it breaks my heart as well and once when I opened up to my mom one day about how I didn't know how she was able to get through her miscarriages when me and my brother were dependent on her as she struggled through those she told me how she had been down lately too and part of it was because she was mourning the loss of my miscarriage as our due date was coming up and it was then that I, too, realized that e
<3 Oh Jess. I am so sorry. I wish I could reach through and give you a big hug. You are amazing and so strong. I know that you will make your mother a grandmother soon.
Oh man...HUGS!!! I just wanna hug you. I too have been fighting infertility and failed attempts to adopt for over 6 years now...and I'm only 26 (been married to DH for 7 1/2 years). I'm now at the point where i'm content with life for now...but like you..I get most sad with I think about think about my parents and in-laws.
I often feel sad on what they are missing out on and wonder if the in-laws wish that DH had married someone else. Anyway, your not alone! God is with you and has a plan!
@CareETsu I am so sorry that you are also going through infertility! It's never easy but you sound like you are in good spirits. I highly doubt that your inlaws wished for another daughter in law! I can guarentee that they wouldn't trade you in for a grandbaby. I wish you the best in your journey and I truly appreciate your sweet words.
Oh it makes me so sad to see you so sad. I really understand how you are feeling. I felt really guilty too when we had infertility. No one really knew about our infertility at all. When we finally got pregnant and announced it my nun said "i thought maybe I would only have one grandchild (my niece)" it made me feel sad, because she didn't know how hard we had to try. Keep your chin up it will get better, I was at the point where I thought it was never going to happen then one day it did.
A few months after my miscarriage, my sister's friend and her baby came over for dinner at my parent's house. I was so not ready to be around babies (plus it was my birthday) and I was pretty miserable. Then I saw my sisters passing the baby around, my mother and father doting over him. It occured to me for the first time how my loss affected my family, and it broke my heart that my baby would never get that kind of love from them. It's not exactly the same situation, but I understand the hurt.
@sunnysmom31710 You're right... it's a different situation (not one is the same, really) but the hurt and pain the you feel for them is the same. I appreciate you telling me this. I know I'm not alone but it's always nice to know that others "get it." XO
It hurts much more when your family is hurt, but I´m convinced that you will be a mother!! And your mother sounds like she will be a very loving grandmother. I send you a big big hug. They are lucky to have such a caring daughter :)
I'm crying right along with you watching this Hun :( I'm so sorry it is affecting your family. Infertility is so hard & frustrating but you are right God does have a plan. I tell myself that everyday & it really helps me but it doesn't make it any easier to wait. Keep the faith your such a beautiful person. ((hugs))
Im so sorry Jess I wish I could give you a huge hug right now. You're such a beautiful person and you will be a mom one day. You and Kyle are going to be amazing parents. Your baby will to be so loved!! Take care dear.
Oooh sweetheart! :( I am so sorry you are feeling this way! I soooo wish I could use Kelsey's private jet and fly across the country and give you huge hugs! <3<3<3
HUGE hugs!! My guilt is for my son, he asks us all the time why he doesn't have brothers or sisters and says its unfair. My husband and I have been struggling with infertility as well.
@justsewbabysew People always think that just because you already have a child you can't be infertile. I am so sorry you are going through this, too! Best of luck to you and your husband on baby #2.
I want to let you know that I suffer from infertility as well (PCOS) and I had a chemical pregnancy on 12/27/10 after our first IUI. I am an athiest so there will be no praying from me but I hope we will have our babies soon!
hkRN83 3 months ago
@hkRN83 I am so sorry! I appreciate the thought! I wish you well, too :)
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
I totally understand. Honey i will keep you in my heart and pray for you. Please dont take on everyone elses feelings over your infertility. . . Your own will be hard enough to cope with, youll just burden yourself even more xxxxxxxx
msbutterflybaybee 3 months ago
@msbutterflybaybee Thank you for your encouraging words. It really means a lot!
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
I know exactly where those tears come from! 2 years and 4 months we have been trying and 2 miscarriages later.... it's hard to hear of family members having babies and hard to see my parents hopeful faces when we visit.... with no news. My hubby's sister had a baby last year and I thought that would lessen the pressure from them, but now it's all they talk about is grand babies! hugs girl! It will be our turn one of these days!
MrsNorthernChick 3 months ago
@MrsNorthernChick I hope sooner than later! Best wishes to you!
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
Jess...I'm so sorry you have to endure all this hurt. I KNOW you're going to be such an amazing mother...You already are...Stay the strong and amazing woman you are...<3
ldsauer 3 months ago
@ldsauer Thank you Leah! You are so sweet XO
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
@kyleandjessP You made me cry too.
simoninhaassis 3 months ago
aaawwww.... Don't cry Jess, you're making me cry........ It's ok, we can all cry together.
addicted0525 3 months ago
@addicted0525 XO
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
Aww Jess I seriously want to jump through the computer screen and give you the biggest hug!!!! You are so positive all the time so to see you cry just breaks my heart. :o( You will get your baby and that baby is going to be the most spoiled baby on the planet!!! :o) Your dad sounds like my dad.. I can so see him saying something like that. I LOVE YOU!!!!!! <3
JenNTim509 3 months ago
@JenNTim509 Oh Jen! Thank you for your kind words! Thank you for always being so supportive and so sweet! XOXO
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
I think I understand half of the pain you're in because when I had the miscarriage I felt that my own parents were hurt because it would of been their first grandchild but I am only 23 and it came out of the blue. Reason I say half is because you have been trying for much longer and you have been ready for a while, my heart breaks for you, I want this to happen for you more than for myself right now :( You are the sweetest girl and I'll be thinking about you, sending you all my Baby dust XO
jessicaleitexoxo 3 months ago
@jessicaleitexoxo Oh Jessica! I thank you so much for your sweet words! Honestly, I know you feel the pain because of what you've gone through. Every heartbreak is different, yet the same so I know you get it. Your words are really sweet but I know it'll happen for you again, soon! It was a a beautiful surprise the first time around and I know it'll be a beautiful gift the second time around. You'll be the greatest mommy! I wish you the best along with buckets of baby dust to you! XO
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
@kyleandjessP Awh thanks Jess :) You'll be an amazing mom too! The day you get your BFP I will be just as excited as if it were mine, FX for this cycle :) Can't wait for your next update. Do you know when you'll be testing? You'll probably speak about it in your next few updates though.. GOODLUCK!! XOXO
jessicaleitexoxo 3 months ago
My husband is an only child, and his mom has been begging for grand babies. I can tell she is really disappointed we havnt had any yet. She brings it up all the time. I tried explaining to her that we have been trying for 3 years, but she is kind of dense and still just thinks we don't want any :/. I hate that she is so disappointed, and I really wish he had some
Brothers and sisters to help us out!! I have 5 siblings all who have kids so it's not a problem in my side.
laurenstand 3 months ago
@laurenstand I am so sorry you are going through the same. It can just be so tough when you feel like all the pressure is on you. I have so much hope for the both of us, though!
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
My heart just broke to a million pieces when I saw you so upset. I do pray that a baby will come to you very soon my dear. You will be a great mom and I can't wait to see how adorable that baby will be <3
Bwarren0609 3 months ago
@Bwarren0609 Thanks Brit! Same goes to you! XO
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
thinking of you
taetwa 3 months ago
@taetwa Thank you.
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
Awww, My Jess! I do completely understand how this feels-and you WILL get that precious family that you deserve so much! This is so hard! To have people be reluctant to be happy to not hurt others feelings is such a tough one, because it does make you feel responsible, even when things are not your fault! I LOVE YOU! Your heart is SO huge and loving and this video was/is beautiful. I'm quite sure you will come back to this video someday soon while expecting and cry for a complete new reason! <3
LeAnnaMae29 3 months ago
@LeAnnaMae29 I can't wait to be able to look back and know the tears were for a reason.... and I know it'll happen soon. Thank you sweet friend! You always know what to say to put a smile on my face. Love you!
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
Lots of xoxoxo to you!
jollyjess6 3 months ago
@jollyjess6 Thank you Jess! XO
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
So sorry to see you hurt like that Jess, watching you so sad is breaking my heart. Please don't beat yourself up about this, it is not something any of us ask for but you will overcome this and your time is not far off. Sending hugs to you and your mom, family... stay strong for everyone!!
NYCbaby711 3 months ago
@NYCbaby711 I appreciate your kind words so much! Thank you.
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
Aww Jess, I wish I could just hug you!!! I wish I knew the exact "right" thing to say that might bring you some comfort. I am constantly amazed at your positivity in all your vlogs about what you are going through, you are a remarkable person! I know that someday you will get your little miracle baby and even though it's hard now to hold on to that hope, I hope that it can help you through this situation! Sending lots of hugs your way!
thedodgefamily 3 months ago
@thedodgefamily Your words meant so much to me. Thank you, thank you! <3
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
Jess, my heart just broke for you watching this, I wish I could give you the biggest hug! You are such an amazing woman and have the biggest heart, because of that you take on these burdens that you have no control over. I know its way easier said then done but if you can please dont put this on you. Bless your heart darlin! BIG HUGE hugs to you! love you lady, very MUCH!
ababyforus 3 months ago
@ababyforus Thank you for your sweet words, Mel!! Just love you to pieces! XO
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
awe jess!!! i know it sucks i have the same thing going on in my family. i know your mom loves you and i agree 100% with lisa,,, she stole the words right out of my mouth! i'll be praying for you.
mshaileyboo 3 months ago
@mshaileyboo Thanks Hailey! XO
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
love u jess <3 thinking of u
WaitingForOurWish 3 months ago
Your such a wonderful daughter! I love watching your videos and your such an amazing person. :)
ErinAlyssa15 3 months ago
@ErinAlyssa15 Thank you so much <3
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
You're such a strong person and I admired you! (HUGS) ♥♥♥May
MayandJC 3 months ago
@MayandJC Admire!! Don't ever give up hopes Jess. I know you're future kids are so lucky to have you as a mom!
MayandJC 3 months ago
@MayandJC Thank you so much May! It's really means a lot <3
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
@jovanessa yes, i did watch the whole thing. You're right i'm sorry that I was insensitive. I understand she's going through a hard time. I was only stating that just because someone is young doesn't mean that they're not ready to have a baby. I'm not saying i think it's awesome teen girls are getting pregnant i'm only saying it's a stereotype that is constantly being pushed on my husband and I. It's annoying and I lashed out.
MarkandJessie 3 months ago
@MarkandJessie Maybe you missed her notation? She said that it has little to do with her age; more to do with her situation and her independence/stability. I can see why stereotypes would upset you, but trust me, its safe to say that Jess is not the type of person to just spew stereotypes. She was speaking about a specific situation with her cousin; not 20 year olds in general. I hope she sees your apology. And I appreciate that you did take the time to do so. :-)
joanvanessa 3 months ago
Love you. I am sorry u r hurting. Please don't take the burden on. I can only guess that ur mum is a little sad but I bet she is more sad 4 u. Knowing ur struggling & u want a child. I bet any saddness is overshadowed by her love and saddness for you. Not that I mean that to make you feel bad. I hope its not come out wrong.
It is hard that people don't want to tell her, it just shows that so so many people love and care enough about your mum and you that they do not want to hurt you at all.
lumdeedums 3 months ago
@lumdeedums I agree! Thank you for your support and love! <3
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
I'm so sorry you are feeling down. You are only human though, so of course there are going to tough days. Your mom WILL get her grand baby from you-I know you know that. And it may be sooner than you think. Just remember that all this will be a memory for you one day and you will be able to have babies. Ask for peace and strength and keep going-all these tears will be worth it in the end:)
TheBlueberrymuffin47 3 months ago
@TheBlueberrymuffin47 I think that's why I am able to keep going. You are right, this will all be a memory one day and I can't wait :)
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
I'm 20 and have been married since I was 18 (not because of a pregancy but because I love my husband.) and I got pregnant 9 months after i got married. I'm pretty sure that just because I'm 20 and have had a baby doesn't mean i'm not/wasn't ready. Age is only a number.
MarkandJessie 3 months ago
@MarkandJessie That is why I felt like I had to add the note when I said her age. Maybe you missed it. I understand many people have babies at 20 and younger because they are ready and have their life in order. However, in my cousin's situation, she is not ready. She does not have a job, steady relationship, and still lives at home while my aunt & uncle support her 100%.
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
@MarkandJessie Is that all you got out of this video? Did you watch the whole thing? I'm sorry, I missed where it was about 20 year old pregnant women. Maybe you should watch it again. This time, in empathy-mode rather than defense-mode. Honestly, I think this comment was a bit insensitive.
joanvanessa 3 months ago
I understand you SO much! Your mom sounds a lot like my mom. My mom is dying to be a grandmother too and it breaks my heart to hear thing like this on my end too : ( I'm sending you HUGS and I just want to say I understand. ♥
AnasJourney 3 months ago
@AnasJourney I appreciate it! It's never easy to feel like you are the only one going through something like this.
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
This bought tears to my eyes and i am thinking of you x
MsRrossi 3 months ago
Awww, Jess, bless your heart. I wish I could reach through this screen and give you a big squeeze. It will be so wonderful when your mom and dad get to tell their family about your future someday baby. They sound like parents with a lot of love to give. You have such a big heart. Love you!
Launderlife 3 months ago
@Launderlife I truly appreciate you my friend! <3
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
I just want to give you a great big hug! just focus on the moment when you do become a mother and when your mom does become a grandmother! I'm so sorry you guys I wish I had something better to say :(
rmmartin92405 3 months ago
@rmmartin92405 I just appreciate you and your kind words. Thank you Megan!
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
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anaboldea 3 months ago
I feel the same way for my mom! Its such a relief that were not alone in this.
hardingpug 3 months ago
Huge hugs!!! It really does suck how IF effects more than just us. It's just not fair! I know beyond doubt that when a baby is in your lives, you all will be all more overjoyed and celebrate him/her daily. You're always so positive but of course you deserve to feel down and overwhelmed at times too. Just remember that you are an inspiration to so many of us!!
dren0951 3 months ago
@dren0951 Thank you Adrienne! I always appreciate your sweet comments!
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
Someday your mom will be holding your baby, it WILL happen for you. (((hugs)))
elisam34 3 months ago
@elisam34 I know it will soon. Thank you!
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
I am sorry you are hurting. Just know that you are not alone in your feelings. I too feel this same guilt with not being able to provide my parents with grandchildren yet. It's hard not to feel this way when you see what you're going through affecting those that you love. I'm sure that you're not breaking your mom's heart. She is probably just feeling the pain that any parent does when they see their child struggle or hurt. She will be a grandma one day! Lots of love and hugs to you!!
WithGodsGrace 3 months ago
@WithGodsGrace Thank you for the sweet note!
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
(hugs)
WowenLikeWoah 3 months ago
I am sorry *hugs* my parents are the same way and it hurts to see that we can bring pain to our family and there is nothing we can do...I think parents of children who struggle in this way sort of battle with it in a similar way you know...somedays are good and some arent...I hope you feel better soon.
ML0822 3 months ago
@ML0822 I agree. I think it's hard only because they can't fix it, ya know? Our parents are still trying to protect us and unfortunately they can't make this go away.
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
I am so sorry for her hurt! I really felt for you and I just wanted to hug you!! God knows all things and He is in control! Keep up your postive attitude and keep smiling. I pray that your dreams come tru for you very soon... xoxox
JSmith0316 3 months ago
@JSmith0316 Thank you so much for your kind words! <3
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
I just want to give you a big hug :( I really hope your dreams come true very soon for you xox
mummybee88 3 months ago
@mummybee88 Thank you so much for your support!
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
i adore you jess & i wish i could give you a big hug. xoxoxo
saltydog721 3 months ago
@saltydog721 I appreciate your kind words :)
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
i know its sux believe me but it will happen we all deserve it we just keep hanging on i so sorry wish i could give u a hug xoxo
nessaguel2010 3 months ago
@nessaguel2010 Thank you
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
I am going through the same thing, my mom is asking all the time about babies and she knows we are struggling over this. I am here to listen for whats it is worth. I am now avoiding baby showers ect.... But we have to keep our heads up and press on. Maybe you should tell them about your infertility I understand why you don't but it may be a positive. Does your mom know?
claudia62782 3 months ago
@claudia62782 My parents know about our infertility. Our extended families do not know. My mom is so wonderful when it comes to listening and being so supportive with our infertility. I wish you the best during your journey. I have so much hope that I will give my mom and grandbaby and that you will, too.
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
I've been through what you're going through and i'm still going through it.. you are just braver than me :) my mom and dad are the only ones on both sides of their families that have no grandchildren. i'm almost 34 and the only 1 married so far.. i can just hear my clock ticking so loud.. i know your parents are strong and your love for them is awesome. keep on shining. we are here for you, *hugs*
waitingtobeblessed 3 months ago
@waitingtobeblessed Thank you for your sweet words. I just know that we will both get to give our parents a grandbaby! I have so muich hope <3
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
My heart aches for you. Stay hopeful, You're going to be an amazing mother
vloggingmama 3 months ago
@vloggingmama I appreciate your kind words. :)
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
I feel this same way. I feel alot of guilt too. Not so much for my mom or my MIL but for my husband. We have male factor and my husband cant have children so I feel alot of guilt that I am not getting pregnant and guilt that I can't make him a father. I know you will work through this and come out on the other side. Sending my thoughts and prayers to you.
MrsAprylM 3 months ago
@MrsAprylM Thank you so much! Likewise! <3
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
One day your "lil peanut" is gonna have amazing grandparents:) Hugs.
NauticalGirl85 3 months ago
@NauticalGirl85 Definitely! <3
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
Oh sweetheart....My heart breaks with yours. I totally get where you are coming from. But the appreciation your parents will have when that baby comes....well, it will wipe all of this away. Sending you lots of love girl!!!
ashleycsal1 3 months ago
@ashleycsal1 I can't wait for it all to be a memory. I have so much hope. Thank you for your sweet words!
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
You made me cry seeing the pain you are in :( I'm sorry hun!
xxxjoelpolexxx 3 months ago
@xxxjoelpolexxx Thanks Lucy. I'll be ok. I don't know what got into me.
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
I pray so much for you! you are so strong, Big hugs. We don't always understand God's plan but hold on to your hope. xoxo
amandanoahandjaxten 3 months ago
@amandanoahandjaxten I appreciate your sweet words <3
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
My heart goes out to you and I pray that your dream comes true for you soon. Much love xx
BiddyBop7 3 months ago
@BiddyBop7 Thank you so much <3
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
Don't ever give up! It will happen one day. You have to hold on to hope and know that you are not alone. My heart goes out to you and I feel your pain.
imdexter88 3 months ago
@imdexter88 I appreciate your sweet words!
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
Sending huge hugs your way x
rachyriottt 3 months ago
@rachyriottt Thank you <3
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
Awwww :0( I am so sorry that you are going through this :0( I do believe that you will be a mum so your mum will get her turn but it still cant be easy. Big big huge hugs !!!!!! You are going to be the most amazing mother ever and thank you so so much for inviting us all along for the ride. We ADORE you !!!!
KaraDaneDallas 3 months ago
@KaraDaneDallas Thank YOU so much for your support. I can't even imagine going through all of this without you all! <3
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
:( awh, you made me all emotional. you shouldn't ever feel guilty or responsible for any of this! big hugs xxxx
smoothseas1 3 months ago
@smoothseas1 Thank you for your comment <3
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
I am crying with you. xx
TTCbabybump 3 months ago
@TTCbabybump <3
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
Have a baby one day and maybe ul be blessed with twins i hear floric acid what u take when pregnant helps boost ferility xx
oswestryGIRL 3 months ago
@oswestryGIRL Thank you for sharing your story. I hope you didn't take what I said the wrong way about her not being ready. It had nothing to do with her age more of where she is in life. I wish you the best when you are ready for #2 :)
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
I am so sorry i just turn 19 and have a one year old since ive been watchin u it has make me think about the other people out there i have a 1 yr old and my sister has a 9 month old and i guess being yound i take for granted what other people cant have u no :-( my sister is 28/29 tho and married my partnes and bd is in the army my step sister has 2 (a 3yr old and an almost 2 year old and is pregnant again i do think she is stupid anyway i am in no way ready for anymore untill married but u...
oswestryGIRL 3 months ago
You're in my thoughts Jess. *hug* Thank you for sharing. I'm sure it's not easy to put all this out here on youtube. You're a very strong person
hell0kittygurl 3 months ago
@hell0kittygurl Ya know, I'm not one to really cry (anymore) about infertility so I was pretty surprised with myself that I started crying when I was talking about it. I guess it's real and I put everything else out there so I felt like I needed to do it. Thank you for your support.
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
I'm so sorry you're hurting, Jess. Just know that you have nothing to feel guilty about! Your parents don't judge or blame you.
HUGS!!
Jessica
MyTTCjournal 3 months ago
@MyTTCjournal Thank you so much! I know they don't blame me but it still doesn't stop me from feeling bad that they don't have grandchildren. I appreciate you support! :)
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
@kyleandjessP I completely understand what you're saying. And you're more than welcome- that's what we're here for :)
MyTTCjournal 3 months ago
I just want to hug you!!! Your mom would never want you to be sad on her account. She knows she will be a grandmother some day, by you and by your siblings! If you are the oldest and your siblings are younger, your parents realize there's likely to be some waiting involved. People who have never struggled with infertility have NO idea what it is like. They can say the most inane things!!! Ignore them; they just don't know.
TheCozyFamily 3 months ago
@TheCozyFamily My mom is so cute. She always says that her grandbaby will be worth the wait. Thank you so much for the support! I truly appreciate it! :)
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
:| *hugs*. Jess, I hear you. Thanks for sharing.
Angelalalynn 3 months ago
@Angelalalynn Thank you
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
Jess, your mom adores you and I am sure you are not breaking her heart... You have said many times that you will be a mom one day and you know that as a truth!! Well, that means your mom will be a Gramma... it will be amazing for your mom WHENEVER it happens. Hugs, HUGS, HUGS!!!
alandamandamama 3 months ago
@alandamandamama Can I just say that I just love you to pieces?!? Your comments always make my day. Thank you for all your love and support! <3
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
Jess my heart goes out to you. Infertility is hard on everyone. *HUGS*
hansandotto 3 months ago
@hansandotto Thank you so much.
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
Oh Jess... Please cry on camera and come here to vent whenever you need/want. We are all here to support you and send you our good vibes. Lots of virtual HUGS! x
emsoliv 3 months ago
@emsoliv Thank you so much!
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
I don't know what to say, I cried right along with you through this video. I know that you know it isn't your fault, and that you know better then to blame yourself, so I won't even remind you. I guess I'll just say thank you for voicing something that I think a lot of people are struggling with, but are unable to talk about. Your honesty is so meaningful.
LaureninPortland 3 months ago
@LaureninPortland Lauren, your comments always mean to so much to me! Thank you for your endless support and love. I truly appreciate you!
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
Your not alone in this at all.
hartrose33 3 months ago
@hartrose33 <3
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
OH Jess, I am so so sorry. WE love you all so much and supporting you so much too. Big huge hugs!
TheTurnersJourney 3 months ago
@TheTurnersJourney Thank you Kailin!! I appreciate your support :)
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
Oh love, I just want to reach through the computer and hug you!! You have such a huge heart. You are always so strong and positive but everyone is allowed to feel down and have a bad day. Sometimes crying really does make you feel better. I just adore you Jess!! Xoxo
Kaylandsky 3 months ago
@Kaylandsky I truly appreciate you Kayla!! Thank you for always being so wonderful <3
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
awww Jess, i love you so much!!! i have no words that will make this all better but i send HUGS HUGS HUGS!!!! i soooo wish we lived near so i can just come and sit with you and just hug you!
BabyAvahAndJovanna 3 months ago
@BabyAvahAndJovanna Thank you Jovanna! I always appreciate your comments and for always being so sweet. <3
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
Love and hugs to you my dear!
Malibustacy1982 3 months ago
@Malibustacy1982 Thank you for always being so wonderful!
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
Oh Jess. I'm so sorry. You have such a big heart and I hate that you have to go through this. I just want to tell you that one day your baby is going to be the MOST loved baby on the planet. I don't have parents who are involved in my life, but I remember the pain my MIL felt, and how bad I felt for causing her pain. But I can tell you, it has been so heart warming to watch W get smothered in love and prayer and excitement. Your baby will answer so many prayers and will be worth it! Love & hugs.
SubfertileFrugalista 3 months ago
@SubfertileFrugalista I appreciate your support Christina! I know all you said will be true. <3
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
Oh jEss! I wished so bad, during this whole video, to give you a hug! It will happen for you! I know that! And until then, we all are here for you to cry, vent or share anything you want! :)
TheresaCharlotte 3 months ago
@TheresaCharlotte I appreciate your support!
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
I have no words, just empathy beyond belief and a huge virtual hug just for you. x,
Fortherighttowalk 3 months ago
@Fortherighttowalk Big, big hugs, Maia! <3
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
Jess It is important to get your feelings out. Sending lots of positive thoughts your way!
LillyN85 3 months ago
@LillyN85 Thank you Lilly! FX for your bfp soon!
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
(continued) realized that even though my family may not exactly understand or say the right things or whatever regarding our infertility, they hurt as well and it broke my heart...in one way I know that they are in this with me and in another way it makes me hate what we are going through that much more...I hate infertility and I'm so sorry that any of us is experiencing it :( I don't know if this comment helps but it's how I feel at least...
vallygirl7 3 months ago
@vallygirl7 It did, thank you! It just helps to know that I'm not alone with how I'm feeling. I appreciate your comment and your support! It will happen for us and for our parents! <3
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
You just made me cry Jess! It's always good to shed tears. Especially when going through something as painful as infertility. We have to let the stress out somehow, right? Sunday was the first time in a long time I let myself cry. It sounds like your parents will make amazing grandparents! And they will be someday soon! My mom says the same thing as your mom, "God has a plan. Everything happens for a reason. And there is a time and place for everything." I remind myself this every day ♥
brooklynslove04 3 months ago
@brooklynslove04 Thank you for being such a great friend, Beth! It WILL happen for us! <3
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
Hey Jess, I'm thinking of you right now and sending loads of support and love your way...it breaks my heart as well and once when I opened up to my mom one day about how I didn't know how she was able to get through her miscarriages when me and my brother were dependent on her as she struggled through those she told me how she had been down lately too and part of it was because she was mourning the loss of my miscarriage as our due date was coming up and it was then that I, too, realized that e
vallygirl7 3 months ago
<3 Oh Jess. I am so sorry. I wish I could reach through and give you a big hug. You are amazing and so strong. I know that you will make your mother a grandmother soon.
plus1please 3 months ago
@plus1please Thanks for being such a wonderful friend! <3
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
Oh man...HUGS!!! I just wanna hug you. I too have been fighting infertility and failed attempts to adopt for over 6 years now...and I'm only 26 (been married to DH for 7 1/2 years). I'm now at the point where i'm content with life for now...but like you..I get most sad with I think about think about my parents and in-laws.
I often feel sad on what they are missing out on and wonder if the in-laws wish that DH had married someone else. Anyway, your not alone! God is with you and has a plan!
CareETsu 3 months ago
@CareETsu I am so sorry that you are also going through infertility! It's never easy but you sound like you are in good spirits. I highly doubt that your inlaws wished for another daughter in law! I can guarentee that they wouldn't trade you in for a grandbaby. I wish you the best in your journey and I truly appreciate your sweet words.
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
Oh it makes me so sad to see you so sad. I really understand how you are feeling. I felt really guilty too when we had infertility. No one really knew about our infertility at all. When we finally got pregnant and announced it my nun said "i thought maybe I would only have one grandchild (my niece)" it made me feel sad, because she didn't know how hard we had to try. Keep your chin up it will get better, I was at the point where I thought it was never going to happen then one day it did.
nell2884 3 months ago
@nell2884 I have so much hope that it will just happen for us. Thank you so much for your support!
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
A few months after my miscarriage, my sister's friend and her baby came over for dinner at my parent's house. I was so not ready to be around babies (plus it was my birthday) and I was pretty miserable. Then I saw my sisters passing the baby around, my mother and father doting over him. It occured to me for the first time how my loss affected my family, and it broke my heart that my baby would never get that kind of love from them. It's not exactly the same situation, but I understand the hurt.
sunnysmom31710 3 months ago
@sunnysmom31710 You're right... it's a different situation (not one is the same, really) but the hurt and pain the you feel for them is the same. I appreciate you telling me this. I know I'm not alone but it's always nice to know that others "get it." XO
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
@sunnysmom31710 I felt just the same after my miscarriage.
LaureninPortland 3 months ago
It hurts much more when your family is hurt, but I´m convinced that you will be a mother!! And your mother sounds like she will be a very loving grandmother. I send you a big big hug. They are lucky to have such a caring daughter :)
Irishpuntociara 3 months ago
@Irishpuntociara Thank you!
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
:Hugs:
babieejae1101 3 months ago
Hugs, Im sorry sweetie! I am sorry that infertility has started to affect your family also!
GonnaBAMom1Day 3 months ago
I'm crying right along with you watching this Hun :( I'm so sorry it is affecting your family. Infertility is so hard & frustrating but you are right God does have a plan. I tell myself that everyday & it really helps me but it doesn't make it any easier to wait. Keep the faith your such a beautiful person. ((hugs))
uca1748 3 months ago
@uca1748 Thank you for your sweet words. This really meant a lot.
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
Hugs! :(
Pixiedust0410 3 months ago
Im so sorry Jess I wish I could give you a huge hug right now. You're such a beautiful person and you will be a mom one day. You and Kyle are going to be amazing parents. Your baby will to be so loved!! Take care dear.
Erica020911 3 months ago
@Erica020911 Thank you for always being so wonderful to me!
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
Oooh sweetheart! :( I am so sorry you are feeling this way! I soooo wish I could use Kelsey's private jet and fly across the country and give you huge hugs! <3<3<3
PearlDahhhling 3 months ago
@PearlDahhhling Thanks for being so supportive. Love you friend!
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
Aw, Jess, I'm so sorry. {{hugs}}
katulka2 3 months ago
@katulka2 I appreciate you, Kaity!
kyleandjessP 3 months ago
HUGE hugs!! My guilt is for my son, he asks us all the time why he doesn't have brothers or sisters and says its unfair. My husband and I have been struggling with infertility as well.
justsewbabysew 3 months ago
@justsewbabysew People always think that just because you already have a child you can't be infertile. I am so sorry you are going through this, too! Best of luck to you and your husband on baby #2.
kyleandjessP 3 months ago