@4eyebutterfly: You too are ignorant. Nobody knows what causes autism, but the evidence is out that any kind of trauma in early infancy can make a child predisposed to autism. If you think that neglect isn't a trauma, you have another think coming. It turns out that nearly all the newborn babies in Somalian and Romanian orphanages ended up autistic. None of them recover fully. Do a little internet research, and you will see what I mean.
As a parent with two children with Autism. One girl and one boy. There as so many differenence just between the two sexes. Let alone the whole broad spectrum of Autistic. Many Autistic people have sensory disorders. And it just may be she doesn't like the way utensils feel or the way they may make the food taste. Still she is a beautiful child and Her Mom is doing a great job, God Bless Them Both......
I realize that it is meant to be an educational thing. I too have a form of autism, and while it takes me a while to understand things, I got that one right off the bat. Though I do appreciate you attempting to clarify things.
excuse me she is beautiful.................... great piece showing what life is like living with an asd child................ i know i have two much peace and thanks for postingx
@hobbity67 Then dear u should not even allow posting these comments pls. All the best and my love. P. S. : Your daughter is a beauty she's really cute :-)
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She has the start of toretts w/ that swaying...a mild case. She needs to watch that movie Nellie w/ Jodie Foster. I bet she would try to speak like the girl in the movie.
I feel for you it seems so heart breaking this girl wants to comunicate but cant can you Imagine what it must be like if some one took your abiliity to comunicate even the simplest things
My daughter is going to be 5 soon, very similiar behavour and coaching at our house. What bothers me is people, friends you have known for your entire life don't seem to understand. Autism sounds like a nice word. As a parent for me it's devastating and left us in financial ruin, funny, not too many people even care or want to help, I actually think I'm at some stage where i avoid reading and looking at stuff like this because it just makes me cry and I don't know how the future will be
@k2000day Have you heard of applied behavioral analysis? Lots of insurance covers this and even state insurances which many states give to parents regardless of their income if their child is on the spectrum. ABA can be done at home.
Respond to this video... I do not want to sound cruel or anything but I hope parents will try to use less nagging and more rewards to shape behavior. Nagging does not work on typical children, toddlers, babies or even husbands. Rewards do not even need to be tangible. See list of 100 free things to reward your child with See website behaviordoctor for "forms and tools" for a list
See also 1001 Great Ideas for teaching and raising children with Autism or Aspergers
i love the title! I have to say that so many times in my day as a carer for children with autism and various special needsin recreation and community access. I used to say "sorry" alot until i decided, why apologise for the diversity of humanity. This is a great video and you have a beautiful daughter.
Take her to africa 6 month, for holidays living with black poor people, searchin water far away, washing the ground, doing the kitchen, you will notice many apparent problem moving from your daughter. No medecine or vaccine can be more accurate for her.
NO vaccine EVER proven safe or effective. 1853 UK had mandatory small pox law= fines increased to criminal jail in '67 & near 100% compliance by '71. Results? 1872 worse epidemic small pox ever near 45,000 deaths. 1955 health director Peterson of Idaho halted Salk polio vaccine program. Medical industry pushes vaccines because they create sick people. They need sick people to make money. If there were no sick people they'd be out of cushy jobs. Sadist should be charged criminally liars they R.
Thanks for posting this. I can see alot of similarities in the way my own child with sensory integration disorder eats her meals and sits at meal time. Lot's of figiting and eating with hands despite our constant reminders and you were doing in the video. It helps to see things like this. Our world needs to be more educated and informed in differences instead expecting conformity at every turn.
Your a very sad person. The world would be better off without someone like you. Why even make a comment like that. I think you the Fucking retard.. Please do us all a favor and don't even bother making comments on something you don't even care about.
Your a very sad person. The world would be better off without someone like you. Why even make a comment like that. I think you the Fucking retard.. Please do us all a favor and don't even bother making comments on something you don't even care about.
with autistic children sometimes half the battle is getting them to actually eat the food, so for the people who are bitching about her eating with her hands, you can suck it because having your child actually eat something is a big deal in itself. sure you can 'educate' yourself on the internet about children with autism, but walking in the footsteps of a parent with a child like this..thats a different story, and i BET none of you mindless bastards can do half of what these parents do! :)
@multisnootyundead She can't help it she was born with it. What if you where autistic you would be the exact same! Instead of insaulting try to help for once by donating or doing somthing nice!!!
@queenvelvet You have to have structure with Autistic Kids. If she allows her to sit anyway she wants and eat anyway she wants at home the child will do the same when they go out. What you do in one place will come back to haunt you in another. The structure in this scenario that is being taught is that when one is eating one "sits nice" and uses proper utensils. So when the mother takes her out to a restaurant the child will know that she is supposed to sit nice and use proper utensils.
@charimoore7 The child may be trying to use sentences but that does not mean that the child fully understands you when you use them. Echolalia is common in Autism. My predominately non-verbal daughter can quote entire sections of scripts from movies and TV shows but she is clueless as to what many of the words mean. Just because the child copies your linguistic styling does not mean he understands what he is saying or that what he is saying is what he is wanting to say. You Assume Too Much!
@charimoore7 that is far too many words for most autistic children. Spoon please might have sounded nicer but if the child doesn't respond to "nice" language because it is meaningless to her then you use what works. I am autistic adult and there are times when people say too many words and it is very hard for me to translate what they mean versus what they say. I use one and two word "commands" when giving directions to my children. If I want to have a conversation with them then I use sentences
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@Hagurus Agreed >.> My girlfriend has Aspergers as well as myself, and she is very beautiful, crazy smart, and very clever, despite her somewhat amusingly childish nature :) Most parents are like that probably because they do not understand. They are not so much stupid as they are ignorant. They aim too high. Their way is not the only way to do things.
@Hagurus i have Asperger's Syndrome and my step-dad was a dick because he didn't understand the nature of my... gift. can't put it anymore blunt than that.
@RayRayRayLol1 What is so damn embarrassing about showing the true face of autism? Huh? All you see is the motions...that's all...the motions. I see more embarrassment in your stupid statement then this video. Shame on you for just reading the cover of a book. Providing you can even read. Because you sure as hell can't spell.
I don't think the mom expresses bad behavior towards her child. Our Asperger's child requires constant reinforcement. She is feeding her child proper foods. My stepson's mom, who has him 3/4s of the time, is too 'far tasked' to do much more than prepackaged foo, even though she does not work. Cameron will not sit properly either, and is constantly trying to lay down while he eats. Sometimes, one is just happy that the food gets into his mouth at all before he phases out on you.
have you heard of metabolic disorders? The fact that he is lying down when eating might be a clue that he is not just developmentally different. There really is a lot of intervention and supplementing that can be done to help these kids but is takes the adults in these kids lives to be very diligent. I feel sorry for this kid the way the mom is trying to correct her behavior.
some of the comments on here are really rude. I dont have an autistic child or any child for that matter, I'm watching these vids for insight into Autism to help me complete a Speech Path Assignment and I have watched A LOT!!. This mother is doing the best she can, and I think she's doing a fine job. did you ever think that maybe Marlena knows what her mother means by 'sit nice'? she responded didn't she?! I see many similarities in this mother to the 100 other mothers I have seen on youtube!
FYI: Autism (as any other "disorder") has been redefined several times during recent years, so more patients are diagnosed. THE REAL ISSUE is that under the same umbrella now are really sick kids suffering neurological disorders (with obvious impairments) to more or less "normal" kids who behave "oddly" (don't like noise, have focused attention for certain things, etc).
FYI: Autism (as any other "disorder" has been redefined several times during recent years, so more patients are diagnosed. THE REAL ISSUE is that under the same umbrella now are really sick kids suffering neurological disorders (with obvious impairments) to more or less "normal" kids who behave "oddly" (don't like noise, have focused attention for certain things, etc).
Being a parent of an autistic child, our patience can sometimes run thin and we can sound snippy or rude. People don't understand how exhausting it is physically and mentally to do this day in and day out with little to sometimes no progress at all. It's very draining. I think it's safe to say that most, if not all parents of an autistic child have lost their patience or just broken down from the weight of stress. Having a child that rarely shows affection can also be very difficult to cope with
@NephelimApocalypse You don't know shit. Never assume that you are the only one suffering from this handicap. The real suffer lies with the child. I am on the Autistic spectrum. I have severe Asperger's Syndrome. Can you not realize how much we are ridiculed because of our difference?? You want to cry about things being difficult to cope with? You want to cry about having a child that doesn't function the way everyone else does? I can tell you things that will make you cry FOREVER!!!!
@maureenmomof3 I have seen this scenario too many times to not care about it. A mother has a severely Autistic child and knows not of how she works, and as a result she begins berating her for tiny mistakes and believes herself to be suffering more than the child is. She cannot know how wrong she is. She cannot know what living with Aspergers is like because she does not have it. Being born this way is both a blessing as much as it is a curse, and people just have to live with our workings.
I don't think most of the people commenting on here have actually dealt with living and/or caring for an Autistic child. Though I understand why watching this video people think the mother/caregiver is being "mean." I don't think the girl should have been given a super hot plate of food - unless perhaps she DOES have the ability to recognize when foods are hot and to be cautious like anyone else is able to do.
My grandson was just diagnosed with autism. Dont know the severity of it yet but it isnt mild. He will be 3 next month and can only say about 10 words. Mostly he screams. I noticed this child still trys to eat with her hands. We are trying to get my grandson to use a spoon but it is difficult. he takes large bites, stuffs his mouth and doesnt chew the food well. I know the problems this woman must have had for the years she has raised this child. Do not be too judgemental on her.
@crichton55 Ignore the ignorant, they just dont understand. We have to use one word commands for Phillip because he doesnt understand. Mostly the word is 'No' or 'Stop' though lol. I think trying to get them to use utensils or sit still is the hardest.
@Mavericks2222 You are not wrong. You are perfectly correct. As much control as I have over my Autistic side, there is still a part of me that I now have no more control over since the day I first realized I had it. Some things never change.
@redstormfighter29 The effects of autism varies from each person. Some children have severe autism and can be agonizing to deal with. I've dealt with many autistic children, mild and severe. The difference is staggering. Calling this child a brat because her autism is more severe than the ones you've witness is a bit ignorant.
@redstormfighter29 As much fun as I could have with showing how wrong your sorry ass really is, I won't. No, attempting that will be about as useless as trying to drown a fish. Therefore, I resign myself to my own personal victory in the fact that I know full well that your ignorance cannot know what kind of horrors this sweet girl and everyone like her has faced and will encounter. For that I both envy you, and pity you. Your ignorance and arrogance is disgusting....
If you knew anything about ASD then you would know they need short sharp simple directions like "sit nice" say anymore and you will confuse them as it's too many things for them to think about and comprehend! Yes affection is needed but i'm sure she shows affection. i would like to see you dcs002 do better and show more affection when you're a single mum looking after an autistic child
OMG autism is NOT due to bad parenting skills... that s IGNORANCE talking and not understanding how to work with autistic children. thy need direction with most steps and I thought she did a great job with Marlena.
@HalfricanItalian If all you can think about is how "gross" it seems to you that she is eating with your hands you are far worse off than anyone on the autistic spectrum. Finding entertainment in someone else's disability just goes to show how much intelligence and understanding you lack. Maybe if you took the time to research and understand autism spectrum disorders you would think before you speak. Your vocal diarrhea belies your low i.q., and only goes to show your lack of understanding.
@HalfricanItalian If all you can think about is how "gross" it seems to you that she is eating with her hands you are far worse off than anyone on the autistic spectrum. Finding entertainment in someone else's disability just goes to show how much intelligence and understanding you lack. Maybe if you took the time to research and understand autism spectrum disorders you would think before you speak. Your vocal diarrhea belies your low i.q., and only goes to show your lack of understanding.
Oh come on...if someone does something funny, are we supposed to suppress it just because we know they have a syndrome of some kind?
I have Aspergers and I've had plenty of people laugh at me for the 'off'' or weird things I do, and I don't get all offended. I laugh at myself in home videos, I do some funny stuff which is definitely caused by my AS.
@christophe323 I think it's probably intended to be more than just entertainment. It's supposed to show people how a lot of Autistics act or tend to act. This is an education project!
@christophe323 I have high functioning autism, and I think eating with your hands could be considered unhygienic.
Although, I do not believe that it is 'gross'. From what I've seen, many autistic people have obsessions, in which if they do not complete their day feels incomplete. Or they become anxious, in this case. This female's obvious obsession is to eat with her hands instead of utensils. (More commonly, a fork and knife.)
Having two female friends with Aspergers syndrome, I know that some are very easy to cope with, and you need the patience of a saint with others. They are very intellegent people though.
For information on the bases of many nonverbal learning disorders (common in Asperger's), in addition to audiological disorders such as Autism (toward end of talk) search "Dr. Laurie Cestnick" and "harvard university" on youtube for a video. MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!!
My symptoms of autism turned out to be apparently low levels of vitamin B12 which doctors had not bothered to test for. I started studying neurology for my own survival once learning how our brain is effected by vitamins, blood flow, sugars, wiring, toxins, etc. I had taken one a day vitamins with 100 percent RDA of B12 but did not realize some people have may have absorption or conversion problems with some vitamins like apparently myself.
Hey, barking commands at your daughter like a bad dog! THAT'LL get her to communicate with you! What, trying to understnad her and how she communicates? But that would imply admitting that her form of thought may be valid, and recognizing her inherent personhood- lord forbid! Get a hint, lady; it's not all about you. Stop being so self-centered, and try adapting for her. We try to adapt for you every day.
@CrawdaddyJoe your silly (and so selfcentered) comment is like a clash into the face of every person who is in the unlucky position ot have to do (or cope, which is impossible) with these ppl. Autist is the definition of selfcenteredness. But still, if you orientate to them you still pay a high price bc. these persons only react on others (also the meanings others spread) when they want. Autists are some sort of trap you can never deal satisfyingly with
@Pianda I AM one of 'these people', and I'm awfully sorry if you feel it hard to cope with me. You know what I find hard to cope with? Twits who think that yelling at people like me makes us more social. People who think that there's only one valid way of thinking and communicating. People who worry about how autism affects the non-autistic, and don't give a damn about how the non-autistic treat us. That's a pretty self-centered thing, huh? Deine Englisch ist furchtbar.
@CrawdaddyJoe what you do no know is that an autist says, I'm the person who understands him best. He has lots of therapies and several social workers help - and what is he doing? He only does what he wants, even if he knows that this will bring disadvantage in future. And: e changs ideals quicker than he can speak out.He made his environment (mother) fulfill all his wishes, but never do a step on his own(though he could!).Try to see this film with the eyes of the mother, this will help you
@Pianda So, I'm an autistic, but I somehow can't understand us. You're not autistic, and somehow can. Riiiiiiight. Here's an idea: Try to see this film through the eyes of the autistic. Why the hell do always have to look through your eyes? Try looking through ours once. It's not our imperative to remake who we are so you can like us. It's our imperative to be who we are. You can accept us, or pound sand. Your choice.
Children under 2 years old are very sensitive to their mother's/parents subconscious state. They pick up any stress, material desire, pride, fear and etc. from their mom. What are the consequences? Autism, depression, violence and etc later on. Change within, your inner impression of the world, accept self forgiveness, love and your children will get better. And stop vaccines before they are 2 years old. If you have to do them, descrease their quantity and do only basic ones after a child is 2..
@RUSSKAYAG Please.... Give me a break.... Vaccines do not cause autism and I have living proof in the form of an 8 year old daughter that never had a vaccine until after she was diagnosed. There is clear genetic evidence that it is caused by a series of repeats on many genes and that the repeats are not exactly the same in all autistic people but the extra repeats are there in all the people in the study. These were families with multiple cases of autism. We are born Autistic we don't "get" it.
watching this video id like watching a video of my son, i have been pushing for a couple of years now for him to get help and its only now hes started secondary school he is starting to get some help
@chrisnkazza Hi, I don't know if you are a sinlge mom like i am, i do know help is very important, because children with Autism will ask so much energy from you and other siblings. My son (6yo) has pdd-nos, and a behaviour issue, also adhd. I love him to bits, and see his improvements ever day, little by little. I got help from the day the doctors found out he had pdd. (he was alomost 2 then) and i get money to be able to pay for an extra caretaker so i can have some time off now and then.
: can you easily imagine, that this lady is nonstopp depressed? The girl is fine, but: the mother knows, that the other mothers with daugthers of this age have girls that come home from school, are in a "normal" state, show normal bio-physical reactions (listening, vital glances, eye-contact),they tell stories from school,they inv. their friends - this is normality for ALL parents of normal children.See the narrow and weird channel, this mother is kept in.Do you really understand the prob?
@Pianda That mother made her decision, and though it's a tough road, it's still her duty to follow it with love..
"Intell. adult autists can reflect about problematic sides of themselves but in the end they do not really want to understand." You do not know me or what I want to understand. I DESPERATELY WANT to understand people, and I've gotten very good at it as a 44 year-old adult. By making such prejudicial assumptions about me and my fellows you have closed your own mind. You don't get it.
@dcs002 A non-autist like you cannot know what's going on inside the mind of an autist like me or anyone else. Do you understand that? That quote of yours is so filled with prejudice and ignorance, and it's attitudes like that that make people think it's ok to view autists not as people but as problems, as nothing but burdens on other people. I am SO offended by that attitude!
Einstein was a great scientist and a great humanitarian. Don't you realize he was also autistic?
@dcs002 You have counseled me enough on how you think I should try to understand other people. I doubt you will understand how hypocritical you are with each of those statements. You can remain in your own comfortable ignorance of what it's like to be autistic, but know that you do so by choice. You have an opportunity, right now, to learn directly from an autistic person what it's like, but you choose to assume you already know what I think, want, and need to do.
@dcs002 Pianda, I am a successful artist (with a recent excellent review in the Minneapolis paper), a neuroscientist (with a PhD and peer-reviewed publications), and a teacher (formerly at 2 colleges & 2 universities, and now at an inner-city high school and a science museum). And I'm autistic. Wrap your prejudices around those facts for a while and then tell me how I should think, and what authority you have to advise me on how I should live my life.
@dcs002 One of the colleges I taught at was a tribal college. I was immersed in a foreign culture (to me), yet I gained the respect of (and for) many elders and tribal members not affiliated with the college, my colleagues, and most importantly my students. The inner-city high school I work at now is a charter school for especially at-risk youth.
Pianda, I doubt you could do work that requires this level of human understanding because you think you ALREADY understand people. I'm still learning.
I am a problem on my own with grave effects on my surrounding? I ask you sincerely, is English your second language? If so, I'll just chuckle at the misunderstanding and try my best to clear up a grave misunderstanding. But if this is truly what you mean, my first instinct is to lash out at you for judging me so poorly. That is the message being spread by Autism Speaks, an organization loathed by many autistic people because of their continual portrayals of us as nothing but problems. (more)
oh god i am not the only person whose life is spent saying out loud each STEP that has to be taken. how could i not know my son was autistic for christ's sake? i am myself! i was so blind.
this is a good video and now i am understanding that i am not alone in how my child eats and she is autistic also thanks for the video and my child is 6
Do you think anyone with autism would ever have a chance to get married? I have a high functhioning form of it though I'm still very scared that people wouldnt want to marry me since I have it.
I really think you should have patience with your daughter and lots of praise for your daughter, you didnt say once well done or thats great what you have done ...
@spazitude80 That's because the men can't handle it. Many marriages break up because many men can't relate. Of course, this is not across the board, but talk to those single moms and you will find they have similar stories.
Autism is Mercury Poisoning. Exact same symptoms, look it up. All the Pro-Vacciners are either Being Paid by the Merck Corporation, are Sociopathic Scum who enjoy watching children be Tortured, Or are grossly misinformed morons who do not no they are advocating Genocide. Zeolite Powder, Seaweed, and Cilantro treats Mercury Poisoning AKA Autism.
Autism is Mercury Poisoning. Exact same symptoms, look it up. All the Pro-Vacciners are either Being Paid by the Merck Corporation, are Sociopathic Scum who enjoy watching children be Tortured, Or are grossly misinformed morons who do not no they are advocating Genocide. Zeolite Powder, Seaweed, and Cilantro treats Mercury Poisoning AKA Autism.
Mom doesn't speak to her child except in sharp, unexplained, often loud and angry commands. Marlena had to sit in an awkward position on a stool up against the counter with no room for her legs to go, yet she was expected to understand what "sit nice" means? Every attempt to get comfortable led to a bark from Mom.
This could have been a pleasant little lunch if Marly could get comfortable and if Mom showed just a hint of affection for her child.
@dcs002 I really have no clue how to diagnose autism, but I have to agree. I was too distracted by her mom's constant sharp and short tone to notice the child having any serious problems.
@CoastalCaldwell You are assuming the child even understands what thank you means. Showing appreciation for following directions is an abstract concept and very concrete children often do not understand abstracts. I struggled with it for years as a child and I am an Aspie. My Autie kids have no idea what the words Thank You mean. They might say them at certain times when prompted to or because we have programmed them to say them but they don't really understand them.
@dcs002 don't you imagine that the mum told or taught her daughter "how to sit nice" for about 10 years until now? This is the problem of Autism and the problem of this child - she nearly doesn't respond at all. A pentrant "communication"style is reported as typical for families with autism. How would you esp. feel, having to serve a child and say the same all day within a climate of ignorance AND by the fact that the girl doesn't learn adequately?
@Pianda It's not the child's job to respond to the parent's need, it's the other way round. What climate of ignorance? And what do you mean the girl doesn't learn adequately??? (I'm autistic, and I'm angered by that comment, though I'm not clear why.) She learns the best she can. Her mother decided to have a child, and when adults decide to have children, they take on awesome responsibilities, including the responsibility to subordinate their own wishes to the child's needs, special or not.
@dcs002 Your attitude is not new for me; I know such a case as you who is used to naturally take everything for granted, but himself can only say "no" or want "more, more, more" from everything. Reciprocity is not known by him. Believe me that I do not like the claiming-attitude you show here, bc. you didn't reflect the load that also your arents had/have in coping with their fate having an autistic son. They do not understand as kids, but as adults I can only advice them: REFLECT THIS!
@Pianda I mean, Autists do not understand as kids, but later on SHOULD reflect what their autistic focus does mean to the family. This would also be the best support for their therapies, bc. then they would have a scoial focus.Please, dcs,try TO NEVER EVER pronounce, what the task of your parents is -> just try ONLY to see1) what you already took unilateral 2) how you can contribute to reach some reciprocity within the family system!Don't claim, just develop yourself tws. social standards
@Pianda So sorry that you don't like my charming attitude, but you assume so many negative qualities about me. You assume I haven't reflected on my parents' turmoil. I HAVE! You assume I don't understand relationship reciprocity. I DO! Autistic people can and do learn these things over time. But while a child is a child, this mother needs to be a loving, responsible, and reasonable parent. She needs to treat her special child like the precious gem that she is.
@dcs002 the question is, what quality of esult you gained. I am sure, that with the degree of real grief you experience by thinking of the effects your autism had on the family menbers, the more adequate is your functioning. The your family gets comfort for th.selves and they see that things run o.k. for you, which means secondary comfort. But the more you pronounce (prob.ly in autistic manner) the unilateral duties of (your) parents, the more you are distant to optimal dev.
@Pianda this may sound cruel to you, but see: autists continue to see the world only with their eyes. The view on others does (in my exp.) lacks the quality that generally makes the autistic difference. Your fam. is (actually) not interested, when you "declare" them your insight (in somewhat penetrant manner). They wann FEEL it, they want to feel your (relative) normality- I mean ACTUALLY they do!!! But I suppose, your view is still orientated tow. your direct well-being in every situation
@Pianda think about this intensively and then go on try to really gradually set yourself into a functioning that makes you think and perceive HOW other pll. feel and function. Put THIS in a rank of high priority-stuff. So you can contrfibute best to your development. Intell. adult autists can reflect about problematic sides of themselves but in the end they do not really want to understand, what the difference to other pll. is. Try to find out from now on and never leave this path! It heps!
@Pianda Try to see it from the child's perspective instead of the mother's. No matter how many times an autist hears a rule given, it will be extremely difficult to follow if it doesn't make sense to the autist. Mum responds with anger, and the daughter does her best, despite the fact that what she's being told makes no sense at all. Mum needs to know that rules make no sense to autistic children without explanation, and a clear showing of love is extremely important at ALL times.
@dcs002 a=i agree! and she even gives her AUTISTIC child that VERY hot food, and tells her "this is very hot"! what an idiotic mother, you don't even give a healthy child hot food, you let it cool before serving it! god I hate this mother!
@gruntlover2 Another person that has the intellect of a bucket of rocks. Who do you think created most of today's technology? Autistic people...that's who. Only retard I see...is someone that would have the audacity too make such a ludicrous statement. Without autistic children, man would be still living in caves. My son is autistic, and he is no RETARD. He is far more intelligent then any of his older classmates. He may not meet your standards. He SURPASSES them. Read a book why don't you.
@gruntlover2 Apology accepted. Dealing with autistic children is a learning experience. They come with no hand book. Since they are all different, what works with one autistic child, does not necessarily work on another. Remember, autistic children have problems with language processing. What you say, and what they hear, are not the same. Too much words only confuses them. So, we make short cuts to get to the point. My son is 7 years old, and I will continue to learn from him.
@Pixiemel2 She Can't stand all these experts that know nothing about everything. She clearly stated that it was "very hot" .Something that I do for my autistic son. They are not STUPID. They heed the warning and wait until it cools down. Parents of autistic children know what they are doing...and how to communicate to their child. Maybe it don't meet your standards of living, but it gets the job DONE. Unless you care for an autistic child. you have no right to comment here.
i have a right to comment everywhere, its a free world. i do care for an autistic child, yes. my fiends little boy is autistic & i babysit for him 3 times a week for a few hours, but i'd never give him hot food, neither do his parents. they arent stupid, i agree with you, quite the contrary they are extremely intelligent. But that doesnt mean we dont need to be extra careful with them. maybe i care too much & overprotect him, as i do wth every kid. and i talk softer too.but thats just me.
@Pixiemel2 coddling an autistic child will make them far too dependent to ever live alone and a reality is that children outlive their parents most of the time. I am an autistic adult raising autistic children. Believe me they need to learn that food is hot and to not eat it when ti first comes off the stove or out of the microwave. If they don't learn it then when they move into an independent or supported living arrangement they will get hurt. Short verbal instructions work best.
@Pixiemel2 At what point in time do you teach the child that the food is hot for an NT child? 8, 10, 12 years old? When do you teach the child that the food coming out of the microwave is hot and can burn them? This girl is obviously at least 8 or 10 years old. I think she is perfectly capable of learning that the food is hot and to wait about eating it without the mother putting the food aside and waiting on it to cool.
It is human to think that our children are "special" in one way, but the DEFINITION of autism has reached a point of fuzziness that make it useless.
As a scientist, if I want to develop a treatment for this syndrome, what kind of patients should I cure first? The ones who shows genius-like behavior (Aspergers) or those ones that barely can speak? How the same alleged disease produce TOTALLY OPPOSITE symptoms?
do you have an autistic chid? NO? I DO. maybe her daughter understands things better in SHORT DIRECT TALK. Maybe her daughter understands sit nice as a certain way shes been taught to sit. i tell my son how exactly to sit- feet off the furniture. sit up its how I HAVE TO DEAL WITH HIM. is lunch unpleasant for us? NO. her daughter puts her legs up like that- probably creates a better sense of balanced feeling. dont judge this woman. her daughter seems happy. MY SON IS AUTISTIC.SO AM I.
I'm tired of hearing about the plight of the poor parents. They only know what's going on on the outside. They don't have to deal with the inner turmoil. They're not the ones with autism. This mom should be happy she's got a beautiful daughter and stop the pity party.
@mleenoy I don't have an autistic child. I am autistic. Can you possibly understand how it feels to be autistic and watch your parents putting on the pity party about how hard it is to raise you? How much they've had to sacrifice because of you?
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Now imagine that situation as I lived it, as an autistic kid who didn't know he was autistic, but whose divorced parents acted like he was the source of everything that was wrong in their lives. And I believed it.
@dcs002 Well you should be happy that you can communicate and be rational about someone comments. My son is 5 now and communicating with him is a challenge even though they sat parents always know what there children want or saying is hard to tell.
Looks like you are high functioning or something are you working so if you are be happy you can express your feeling and say what you want and don't bash on the parent we are trying the best we can for our children,,
@dcs002 I just saw your older comments - do YOU have an idea of the inner turmoil of your parents? If not, which I think is the case, just shut up and use your energy to ask yourself, what the inner turmoil of your parents is/was/always had been!You are not guilty, but you are a problem on your own with grave effects on your surrounding - the more you understand this in depth, the more it helps you developping-AND to be able to give s.th. reciproq back to your parents ->give back is the key
@Pianda You have no idea where my social reciprocity skills are, or how much work I've put into relationships in my life. Don't you see how offensive that is?
As for my parents, my dad left us, and my mom was neglectful, and I seriously mean that in a legal sense, severe child neglect. I was told regularly how much of a burden I was, though none of us knew at the time I was autistic. Yes, my mom suffered from many things, and she made sure I knew it every day. (more)
all you people saying she's not autistic, listen to her TALKING. notice that she stims! if that's not high functioning autism at least, well, my friends and i (with asperger's syndrome) would like to have a word with you.
I have just 1 question about this video. I have also 2 girls that are diagnosed with ASD and the youngest is also doing something else while we sit down and eat.
The question i have is where is the rest of the family?
I think your girl seems lonely and that is just natural behavier she's doing because the lack of a fast rutine with the entire family sitting down eating together.
@danchewie I really don't think that having a meal with her family is going to change her bahavior. I have an aspies child that won't eat at the table with us most of the time. Just getting her to eat at any time is a miracle.
And how about tell the parents what the symptoms of mercury poisoning are. Aggression, Violent outbursts, loss of coordination, loss of speech, GI tract problems, food allergies, social withdrawal. But sadly most autism "specialists" are paid corporate whores who care more about getting rich then telling the truth. Zeolite cures mercury poisoning.
@CodexAlimentarius1 very true im living proof autisim by mmr vaccine my parents dont beleive it the vaccine that gave me it , but ive done 2 years of research on the topic and is very convinced .
@TheNatho1988 What lab did you do your research in? What did you use as a control group? Because all of the carefully controlled research has found otherwise.
I'm autistic too, and nobody caught it until I was an adult. It happens. Stop whining about it and blaming people. You've got it. Now live with it. It can be fun!
Is she non-verbal? Or is she just vocalizing?
Rokinroxy1 1 week ago
very pretty! i adore her.
hag03004en 1 month ago
@4eyebutterfly: You too are ignorant. Nobody knows what causes autism, but the evidence is out that any kind of trauma in early infancy can make a child predisposed to autism. If you think that neglect isn't a trauma, you have another think coming. It turns out that nearly all the newborn babies in Somalian and Romanian orphanages ended up autistic. None of them recover fully. Do a little internet research, and you will see what I mean.
izeenoss 3 months ago
As a parent with two children with Autism. One girl and one boy. There as so many differenence just between the two sexes. Let alone the whole broad spectrum of Autistic. Many Autistic people have sensory disorders. And it just may be she doesn't like the way utensils feel or the way they may make the food taste. Still she is a beautiful child and Her Mom is doing a great job, God Bless Them Both......
DreaminApril 3 months ago 4
I realize that it is meant to be an educational thing. I too have a form of autism, and while it takes me a while to understand things, I got that one right off the bat. Though I do appreciate you attempting to clarify things.
christophe323 3 months ago
how old is she? Both in the videos and now
musicbox193 3 months ago
excuse me she is beautiful.................... great piece showing what life is like living with an asd child................ i know i have two much peace and thanks for postingx
ravenindigo 3 months ago
Maybe if her mother sat down and ate with her, she would learn by example eventually.
mammamia4434 3 months ago
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boldhero44 4 months ago
I have 2 sons with autism. I really think people who do not have a deep understanding of these kids should not be allowed to post any rude comments.
LilasRose1973 4 months ago 2
@LilasRose1973 I AGREE. As the mother of an autistic child I am sickened by the ignorance I see in the comments. It blows my mind.
hobbity67 4 months ago
@hobbity67 Then dear u should not even bother posting these comments pls. All the best and my love.
LilasRose1973 4 months ago
@hobbity67 Then dear u should not even allow posting these comments pls. All the best and my love. P. S. : Your daughter is a beauty she's really cute :-)
LilasRose1973 4 months ago
@LilasRose1973 ???? I was just a person agreeing with the comment YOU made. This is not my daughter, or my video.
hobbity67 4 months ago
@hobbity67 I just read the intro again (project), sorry!
LilasRose1973 4 months ago
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2ndSamuel710 4 months ago
She has the start of toretts w/ that swaying...a mild case. She needs to watch that movie Nellie w/ Jodie Foster. I bet she would try to speak like the girl in the movie.
drumheadcircle 5 months ago
Acts like my 67 old sister with undiagnosed autism
chdbox366 5 months ago
I feel for you it seems so heart breaking this girl wants to comunicate but cant can you Imagine what it must be like if some one took your abiliity to comunicate even the simplest things
JohannaGotTalent41 5 months ago
Thank you for this video. Your daughter is a lovely young lady, and you a clearly a loving and involved mom.:)
JennieHolder 6 months ago
My daughter is going to be 5 soon, very similiar behavour and coaching at our house. What bothers me is people, friends you have known for your entire life don't seem to understand. Autism sounds like a nice word. As a parent for me it's devastating and left us in financial ruin, funny, not too many people even care or want to help, I actually think I'm at some stage where i avoid reading and looking at stuff like this because it just makes me cry and I don't know how the future will be
k2000day 6 months ago
@k2000day Have you heard of applied behavioral analysis? Lots of insurance covers this and even state insurances which many states give to parents regardless of their income if their child is on the spectrum. ABA can be done at home.
0774SPLV 5 months ago
Respond to this video... I do not want to sound cruel or anything but I hope parents will try to use less nagging and more rewards to shape behavior. Nagging does not work on typical children, toddlers, babies or even husbands. Rewards do not even need to be tangible. See list of 100 free things to reward your child with See website behaviordoctor for "forms and tools" for a list
See also 1001 Great Ideas for teaching and raising children with Autism or Aspergers
0774SPLV 5 months ago
i love the title! I have to say that so many times in my day as a carer for children with autism and various special needsin recreation and community access. I used to say "sorry" alot until i decided, why apologise for the diversity of humanity. This is a great video and you have a beautiful daughter.
indoril81 7 months ago
Take her to africa 6 month, for holidays living with black poor people, searchin water far away, washing the ground, doing the kitchen, you will notice many apparent problem moving from your daughter. No medecine or vaccine can be more accurate for her.
bneiharash 7 months ago
@bneiharash just go crawl in a hole somewhere... the world needs less people like you and more like this mother
voivode24 6 months ago
@voivode24 What he said is true. You go crawl in a hole.
dearestjen 5 months ago
NO vaccine EVER proven safe or effective. 1853 UK had mandatory small pox law= fines increased to criminal jail in '67 & near 100% compliance by '71. Results? 1872 worse epidemic small pox ever near 45,000 deaths. 1955 health director Peterson of Idaho halted Salk polio vaccine program. Medical industry pushes vaccines because they create sick people. They need sick people to make money. If there were no sick people they'd be out of cushy jobs. Sadist should be charged criminally liars they R.
2ndSamuel710 7 months ago
What is she eating? Just a question.
pizzaparty212 7 months ago
Thanks for posting this. I can see alot of similarities in the way my own child with sensory integration disorder eats her meals and sits at meal time. Lot's of figiting and eating with hands despite our constant reminders and you were doing in the video. It helps to see things like this. Our world needs to be more educated and informed in differences instead expecting conformity at every turn.
beautifulmind546 8 months ago
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Your a very sad person. The world would be better off without someone like you. Why even make a comment like that. I think you the Fucking retard.. Please do us all a favor and don't even bother making comments on something you don't even care about.
dragonfly71stacey 8 months ago
Your a very sad person. The world would be better off without someone like you. Why even make a comment like that. I think you the Fucking retard.. Please do us all a favor and don't even bother making comments on something you don't even care about.
dragonfly71stacey 8 months ago
@multisnootyundead YES, YOU ARE.
egnbigdave 8 months ago
with autistic children sometimes half the battle is getting them to actually eat the food, so for the people who are bitching about her eating with her hands, you can suck it because having your child actually eat something is a big deal in itself. sure you can 'educate' yourself on the internet about children with autism, but walking in the footsteps of a parent with a child like this..thats a different story, and i BET none of you mindless bastards can do half of what these parents do! :)
becksoli88 8 months ago 8
@multisnootyundead She can't help it she was born with it. What if you where autistic you would be the exact same! Instead of insaulting try to help for once by donating or doing somthing nice!!!
xXxXJbrmk9XxXx 8 months ago
Thank you for sharing lunch.
EnjoyHi5Autism 9 months ago
@queenvelvet You have to have structure with Autistic Kids. If she allows her to sit anyway she wants and eat anyway she wants at home the child will do the same when they go out. What you do in one place will come back to haunt you in another. The structure in this scenario that is being taught is that when one is eating one "sits nice" and uses proper utensils. So when the mother takes her out to a restaurant the child will know that she is supposed to sit nice and use proper utensils.
Spydyee2 9 months ago
@charimoore7 The child may be trying to use sentences but that does not mean that the child fully understands you when you use them. Echolalia is common in Autism. My predominately non-verbal daughter can quote entire sections of scripts from movies and TV shows but she is clueless as to what many of the words mean. Just because the child copies your linguistic styling does not mean he understands what he is saying or that what he is saying is what he is wanting to say. You Assume Too Much!
Spydyee2 9 months ago
@Spydyee2 My grandson, Phillip, uses phrases too! He can say no but never says yes. When he agrees or wants something he says "there ya go".
bjstur44 7 months ago
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@charimoore7 that is far too many words for most autistic children. Spoon please might have sounded nicer but if the child doesn't respond to "nice" language because it is meaningless to her then you use what works. I am autistic adult and there are times when people say too many words and it is very hard for me to translate what they mean versus what they say. I use one and two word "commands" when giving directions to my children. If I want to have a conversation with them then I use sentences
Spydyee2 9 months ago
this is really sad. i was diagnosed with a miner autism. i tend to have weird body movement, but my social skills are good. i think.
xXPsychoticMonkeyXx1 9 months ago
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culotta0048 9 months ago
Autistics are generally beautiful, sweet, and adorable. Their parents on the other hand are generally obnoxious, rude, and stupid!
Hagurus 10 months ago
@Hagurus Agreed >.> My girlfriend has Aspergers as well as myself, and she is very beautiful, crazy smart, and very clever, despite her somewhat amusingly childish nature :) Most parents are like that probably because they do not understand. They are not so much stupid as they are ignorant. They aim too high. Their way is not the only way to do things.
crichton55 10 months ago
@Hagurus i have Asperger's Syndrome and my step-dad was a dick because he didn't understand the nature of my... gift. can't put it anymore blunt than that.
rockergod789 10 months ago
r u doing all theese videos to Embaress ya daughter???
RayRayRayLol1 10 months ago
@RayRayRayLol1 What is so damn embarrassing about showing the true face of autism? Huh? All you see is the motions...that's all...the motions. I see more embarrassment in your stupid statement then this video. Shame on you for just reading the cover of a book. Providing you can even read. Because you sure as hell can't spell.
ajfelix67 9 months ago
I don't think the mom expresses bad behavior towards her child. Our Asperger's child requires constant reinforcement. She is feeding her child proper foods. My stepson's mom, who has him 3/4s of the time, is too 'far tasked' to do much more than prepackaged foo, even though she does not work. Cameron will not sit properly either, and is constantly trying to lay down while he eats. Sometimes, one is just happy that the food gets into his mouth at all before he phases out on you.
tabbersmurf 10 months ago
@tabbersmurf
have you heard of metabolic disorders? The fact that he is lying down when eating might be a clue that he is not just developmentally different. There really is a lot of intervention and supplementing that can be done to help these kids but is takes the adults in these kids lives to be very diligent. I feel sorry for this kid the way the mom is trying to correct her behavior.
0774SPLV 5 months ago
some of the comments on here are really rude. I dont have an autistic child or any child for that matter, I'm watching these vids for insight into Autism to help me complete a Speech Path Assignment and I have watched A LOT!!. This mother is doing the best she can, and I think she's doing a fine job. did you ever think that maybe Marlena knows what her mother means by 'sit nice'? she responded didn't she?! I see many similarities in this mother to the 100 other mothers I have seen on youtube!
princesslisa4 10 months ago 2
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FYI: Autism (as any other "disorder") has been redefined several times during recent years, so more patients are diagnosed. THE REAL ISSUE is that under the same umbrella now are really sick kids suffering neurological disorders (with obvious impairments) to more or less "normal" kids who behave "oddly" (don't like noise, have focused attention for certain things, etc).
DJVARAO 10 months ago
FYI: Autism (as any other "disorder" has been redefined several times during recent years, so more patients are diagnosed. THE REAL ISSUE is that under the same umbrella now are really sick kids suffering neurological disorders (with obvious impairments) to more or less "normal" kids who behave "oddly" (don't like noise, have focused attention for certain things, etc).
DJVARAO 10 months ago
Being a parent of an autistic child, our patience can sometimes run thin and we can sound snippy or rude. People don't understand how exhausting it is physically and mentally to do this day in and day out with little to sometimes no progress at all. It's very draining. I think it's safe to say that most, if not all parents of an autistic child have lost their patience or just broken down from the weight of stress. Having a child that rarely shows affection can also be very difficult to cope with
NephelimApocalypse 10 months ago 2
@NephelimApocalypse You don't know shit. Never assume that you are the only one suffering from this handicap. The real suffer lies with the child. I am on the Autistic spectrum. I have severe Asperger's Syndrome. Can you not realize how much we are ridiculed because of our difference?? You want to cry about things being difficult to cope with? You want to cry about having a child that doesn't function the way everyone else does? I can tell you things that will make you cry FOREVER!!!!
crichton55 10 months ago
@crichton55 Did she say she suffers more than the child or that she is the only one suffering?? I must have missed that.
maureenmomof3 10 months ago
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@crichton55 Did she say she suffers more than the child or that she is the only one suffering?? I must have missed that.
maureenmomof3 10 months ago
@maureenmomof3 I have seen this scenario too many times to not care about it. A mother has a severely Autistic child and knows not of how she works, and as a result she begins berating her for tiny mistakes and believes herself to be suffering more than the child is. She cannot know how wrong she is. She cannot know what living with Aspergers is like because she does not have it. Being born this way is both a blessing as much as it is a curse, and people just have to live with our workings.
crichton55 10 months ago 2
I don't think most of the people commenting on here have actually dealt with living and/or caring for an Autistic child. Though I understand why watching this video people think the mother/caregiver is being "mean." I don't think the girl should have been given a super hot plate of food - unless perhaps she DOES have the ability to recognize when foods are hot and to be cautious like anyone else is able to do.
NephelimApocalypse 10 months ago
My grandson was just diagnosed with autism. Dont know the severity of it yet but it isnt mild. He will be 3 next month and can only say about 10 words. Mostly he screams. I noticed this child still trys to eat with her hands. We are trying to get my grandson to use a spoon but it is difficult. he takes large bites, stuffs his mouth and doesnt chew the food well. I know the problems this woman must have had for the years she has raised this child. Do not be too judgemental on her.
bjstur44 11 months ago
@bjstur44 Thank you so much for understanding :)
crichton55 10 months ago
@crichton55 Ignore the ignorant, they just dont understand. We have to use one word commands for Phillip because he doesnt understand. Mostly the word is 'No' or 'Stop' though lol. I think trying to get them to use utensils or sit still is the hardest.
bjstur44 10 months ago
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shivazephyra 11 months ago
she has a tone that is appropriate I see with her daughter
angelmom1995 1 year ago
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redstormfighter29 1 year ago
@redstormfighter29
1. Read the title again
2. It is harder for some young children to control you realize
3. If you don't have a valid argument, then STFU!
gunmoon2 1 year ago
@redstormfighter29
correct me if i am wrong, but some kids have no control over it
Mavericks2222 1 year ago
@Mavericks2222 You are not wrong. You are perfectly correct. As much control as I have over my Autistic side, there is still a part of me that I now have no more control over since the day I first realized I had it. Some things never change.
crichton55 10 months ago
@redstormfighter29 The effects of autism varies from each person. Some children have severe autism and can be agonizing to deal with. I've dealt with many autistic children, mild and severe. The difference is staggering. Calling this child a brat because her autism is more severe than the ones you've witness is a bit ignorant.
slgerbil 11 months ago 3
@redstormfighter29 As much fun as I could have with showing how wrong your sorry ass really is, I won't. No, attempting that will be about as useless as trying to drown a fish. Therefore, I resign myself to my own personal victory in the fact that I know full well that your ignorance cannot know what kind of horrors this sweet girl and everyone like her has faced and will encounter. For that I both envy you, and pity you. Your ignorance and arrogance is disgusting....
crichton55 10 months ago
If you knew anything about ASD then you would know they need short sharp simple directions like "sit nice" say anymore and you will confuse them as it's too many things for them to think about and comprehend! Yes affection is needed but i'm sure she shows affection. i would like to see you dcs002 do better and show more affection when you're a single mum looking after an autistic child
jesskel55555 1 year ago 3
I hate sitting on stools. I don't blame her for trying to get comfortable. Her mom is so ignorant.
xXXREapERCHiLD216XXx 1 year ago
OMG autism is NOT due to bad parenting skills... that s IGNORANCE talking and not understanding how to work with autistic children. thy need direction with most steps and I thought she did a great job with Marlena.
4eyedbutterflyfish 1 year ago 32
lol shes eatin with her hands. Thats so gross, lol
HalfricanItalian 1 year ago
@HalfricanItalian If all you can think about is how "gross" it seems to you that she is eating with your hands you are far worse off than anyone on the autistic spectrum. Finding entertainment in someone else's disability just goes to show how much intelligence and understanding you lack. Maybe if you took the time to research and understand autism spectrum disorders you would think before you speak. Your vocal diarrhea belies your low i.q., and only goes to show your lack of understanding.
christophe323 1 year ago
@HalfricanItalian If all you can think about is how "gross" it seems to you that she is eating with her hands you are far worse off than anyone on the autistic spectrum. Finding entertainment in someone else's disability just goes to show how much intelligence and understanding you lack. Maybe if you took the time to research and understand autism spectrum disorders you would think before you speak. Your vocal diarrhea belies your low i.q., and only goes to show your lack of understanding.
christophe323 1 year ago 32
@christophe323
Oh come on...if someone does something funny, are we supposed to suppress it just because we know they have a syndrome of some kind?
I have Aspergers and I've had plenty of people laugh at me for the 'off'' or weird things I do, and I don't get all offended. I laugh at myself in home videos, I do some funny stuff which is definitely caused by my AS.
labilewolfberry 9 months ago
@christophe323 I personally don't see anything wrong with eating with your hands either. i do it all the time.
oboepercussionist 5 months ago
@christophe323 I think it's probably intended to be more than just entertainment. It's supposed to show people how a lot of Autistics act or tend to act. This is an education project!
musicbox193 3 months ago
@christophe323 I have high functioning autism, and I think eating with your hands could be considered unhygienic.
Although, I do not believe that it is 'gross'. From what I've seen, many autistic people have obsessions, in which if they do not complete their day feels incomplete. Or they become anxious, in this case. This female's obvious obsession is to eat with her hands instead of utensils. (More commonly, a fork and knife.)
TheFree33333 3 months ago
Having two female friends with Aspergers syndrome, I know that some are very easy to cope with, and you need the patience of a saint with others. They are very intellegent people though.
Stemax1960 1 year ago
For information on the bases of many nonverbal learning disorders (common in Asperger's), in addition to audiological disorders such as Autism (toward end of talk) search "Dr. Laurie Cestnick" and "harvard university" on youtube for a video. MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!!
lcestnick 1 year ago
Her mom didn't even brush her hair. D;
kisha2itachi2 1 year ago
My symptoms of autism turned out to be apparently low levels of vitamin B12 which doctors had not bothered to test for. I started studying neurology for my own survival once learning how our brain is effected by vitamins, blood flow, sugars, wiring, toxins, etc. I had taken one a day vitamins with 100 percent RDA of B12 but did not realize some people have may have absorption or conversion problems with some vitamins like apparently myself.
bowlinggreenohio 1 year ago
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Trex2788 1 year ago 3
Does that girl know there's videos about her on internet?
drinndrann 1 year ago
Hey, barking commands at your daughter like a bad dog! THAT'LL get her to communicate with you! What, trying to understnad her and how she communicates? But that would imply admitting that her form of thought may be valid, and recognizing her inherent personhood- lord forbid! Get a hint, lady; it's not all about you. Stop being so self-centered, and try adapting for her. We try to adapt for you every day.
CrawdaddyJoe 1 year ago 3
@CrawdaddyJoe your silly (and so selfcentered) comment is like a clash into the face of every person who is in the unlucky position ot have to do (or cope, which is impossible) with these ppl. Autist is the definition of selfcenteredness. But still, if you orientate to them you still pay a high price bc. these persons only react on others (also the meanings others spread) when they want. Autists are some sort of trap you can never deal satisfyingly with
Pianda 1 year ago
@Pianda I AM one of 'these people', and I'm awfully sorry if you feel it hard to cope with me. You know what I find hard to cope with? Twits who think that yelling at people like me makes us more social. People who think that there's only one valid way of thinking and communicating. People who worry about how autism affects the non-autistic, and don't give a damn about how the non-autistic treat us. That's a pretty self-centered thing, huh? Deine Englisch ist furchtbar.
CrawdaddyJoe 1 year ago
@CrawdaddyJoe what you do no know is that an autist says, I'm the person who understands him best. He has lots of therapies and several social workers help - and what is he doing? He only does what he wants, even if he knows that this will bring disadvantage in future. And: e changs ideals quicker than he can speak out.He made his environment (mother) fulfill all his wishes, but never do a step on his own(though he could!).Try to see this film with the eyes of the mother, this will help you
Pianda 1 year ago
@Pianda So, I'm an autistic, but I somehow can't understand us. You're not autistic, and somehow can. Riiiiiiight. Here's an idea: Try to see this film through the eyes of the autistic. Why the hell do always have to look through your eyes? Try looking through ours once. It's not our imperative to remake who we are so you can like us. It's our imperative to be who we are. You can accept us, or pound sand. Your choice.
CrawdaddyJoe 1 year ago 2
Children under 2 years old are very sensitive to their mother's/parents subconscious state. They pick up any stress, material desire, pride, fear and etc. from their mom. What are the consequences? Autism, depression, violence and etc later on. Change within, your inner impression of the world, accept self forgiveness, love and your children will get better. And stop vaccines before they are 2 years old. If you have to do them, descrease their quantity and do only basic ones after a child is 2..
RUSSKAYAG 1 year ago
@RUSSKAYAG Please.... Give me a break.... Vaccines do not cause autism and I have living proof in the form of an 8 year old daughter that never had a vaccine until after she was diagnosed. There is clear genetic evidence that it is caused by a series of repeats on many genes and that the repeats are not exactly the same in all autistic people but the extra repeats are there in all the people in the study. These were families with multiple cases of autism. We are born Autistic we don't "get" it.
Spydyee2 9 months ago
watching this video id like watching a video of my son, i have been pushing for a couple of years now for him to get help and its only now hes started secondary school he is starting to get some help
chrisnkazza 1 year ago
@chrisnkazza Hi, I don't know if you are a sinlge mom like i am, i do know help is very important, because children with Autism will ask so much energy from you and other siblings. My son (6yo) has pdd-nos, and a behaviour issue, also adhd. I love him to bits, and see his improvements ever day, little by little. I got help from the day the doctors found out he had pdd. (he was alomost 2 then) and i get money to be able to pay for an extra caretaker so i can have some time off now and then.
huisvrouwtjuh 1 year ago
: can you easily imagine, that this lady is nonstopp depressed? The girl is fine, but: the mother knows, that the other mothers with daugthers of this age have girls that come home from school, are in a "normal" state, show normal bio-physical reactions (listening, vital glances, eye-contact),they tell stories from school,they inv. their friends - this is normality for ALL parents of normal children.See the narrow and weird channel, this mother is kept in.Do you really understand the prob?
Pianda 1 year ago
@Pianda That mother made her decision, and though it's a tough road, it's still her duty to follow it with love..
"Intell. adult autists can reflect about problematic sides of themselves but in the end they do not really want to understand." You do not know me or what I want to understand. I DESPERATELY WANT to understand people, and I've gotten very good at it as a 44 year-old adult. By making such prejudicial assumptions about me and my fellows you have closed your own mind. You don't get it.
dcs002 1 year ago
@dcs002 A non-autist like you cannot know what's going on inside the mind of an autist like me or anyone else. Do you understand that? That quote of yours is so filled with prejudice and ignorance, and it's attitudes like that that make people think it's ok to view autists not as people but as problems, as nothing but burdens on other people. I am SO offended by that attitude!
Einstein was a great scientist and a great humanitarian. Don't you realize he was also autistic?
dcs002 1 year ago
@dcs002 You have counseled me enough on how you think I should try to understand other people. I doubt you will understand how hypocritical you are with each of those statements. You can remain in your own comfortable ignorance of what it's like to be autistic, but know that you do so by choice. You have an opportunity, right now, to learn directly from an autistic person what it's like, but you choose to assume you already know what I think, want, and need to do.
dcs002 1 year ago
@dcs002 Pianda, I am a successful artist (with a recent excellent review in the Minneapolis paper), a neuroscientist (with a PhD and peer-reviewed publications), and a teacher (formerly at 2 colleges & 2 universities, and now at an inner-city high school and a science museum). And I'm autistic. Wrap your prejudices around those facts for a while and then tell me how I should think, and what authority you have to advise me on how I should live my life.
And yes, I do love both of my parents.
dcs002 1 year ago
@dcs002 One of the colleges I taught at was a tribal college. I was immersed in a foreign culture (to me), yet I gained the respect of (and for) many elders and tribal members not affiliated with the college, my colleagues, and most importantly my students. The inner-city high school I work at now is a charter school for especially at-risk youth.
Pianda, I doubt you could do work that requires this level of human understanding because you think you ALREADY understand people. I'm still learning.
dcs002 1 year ago
I am a problem on my own with grave effects on my surrounding? I ask you sincerely, is English your second language? If so, I'll just chuckle at the misunderstanding and try my best to clear up a grave misunderstanding. But if this is truly what you mean, my first instinct is to lash out at you for judging me so poorly. That is the message being spread by Autism Speaks, an organization loathed by many autistic people because of their continual portrayals of us as nothing but problems. (more)
dcs002 1 year ago
I used to do what she did when I was a kid but not anymore.
KevinKlinelover 1 year ago
oh god i am not the only person whose life is spent saying out loud each STEP that has to be taken. how could i not know my son was autistic for christ's sake? i am myself! i was so blind.
ediself 1 year ago
this is a good video and now i am understanding that i am not alone in how my child eats and she is autistic also thanks for the video and my child is 6
thanks for the video.
stauffer301 1 year ago
Do you think anyone with autism would ever have a chance to get married? I have a high functhioning form of it though I'm still very scared that people wouldnt want to marry me since I have it.
MicahLuvFun26 1 year ago
@MicahLuvFun26 Yes and I know people with autism/aspergers who are married.
masterskorpz 1 year ago
I really think you should have patience with your daughter and lots of praise for your daughter, you didnt say once well done or thats great what you have done ...
mayor2692 1 year ago 2
sucks that its usually always a single mom with an autistic kid.
spazitude80 1 year ago
@spazitude80 That's because the men can't handle it. Many marriages break up because many men can't relate. Of course, this is not across the board, but talk to those single moms and you will find they have similar stories.
rancar29 1 year ago
Your doing a good job, but you might try and be a little more positive!!!!
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AutismIsMercury 1 year ago
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Autism is Mercury Poisoning. Exact same symptoms, look it up. All the Pro-Vacciners are either Being Paid by the Merck Corporation, are Sociopathic Scum who enjoy watching children be Tortured, Or are grossly misinformed morons who do not no they are advocating Genocide. Zeolite Powder, Seaweed, and Cilantro treats Mercury Poisoning AKA Autism.
AutismIsMercury 1 year ago
LEAVE HER ALONE!!!!!!!!!!
lindyloulou334 1 year ago 19
she's adorable. :)
RandomAxOfViolets 1 year ago 2
May I ask why you stopped making videos?
MTVacterss1 1 year ago
ur daughter is so pritty, and it looks like ur raiseing her with out a problem ur doing a fantastic job mom keep it up.
MsAmorLoca 1 year ago
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Ugly, greasy headed kid. You people are gross.
megamanamillion 1 year ago
Lol Autism must feel like being high as hell from weed..
antron15 1 year ago
@antron15 no... stop judging us!
nakita13williams 1 year ago
Mom doesn't speak to her child except in sharp, unexplained, often loud and angry commands. Marlena had to sit in an awkward position on a stool up against the counter with no room for her legs to go, yet she was expected to understand what "sit nice" means? Every attempt to get comfortable led to a bark from Mom.
This could have been a pleasant little lunch if Marly could get comfortable and if Mom showed just a hint of affection for her child.
This is how you increase your child's symptoms.
dcs002 1 year ago 26
@dcs002 I really have no clue how to diagnose autism, but I have to agree. I was too distracted by her mom's constant sharp and short tone to notice the child having any serious problems.
MrIbanez87 1 year ago
@dcs002 I agree. There was nothing but negative reinforcement. No "thank you" or "good job" when she does what she's told and cleans up the table.
CoastalCaldwell 1 year ago 4
@CoastalCaldwell You are assuming the child even understands what thank you means. Showing appreciation for following directions is an abstract concept and very concrete children often do not understand abstracts. I struggled with it for years as a child and I am an Aspie. My Autie kids have no idea what the words Thank You mean. They might say them at certain times when prompted to or because we have programmed them to say them but they don't really understand them.
Spydyee2 9 months ago
@dcs002 don't you imagine that the mum told or taught her daughter "how to sit nice" for about 10 years until now? This is the problem of Autism and the problem of this child - she nearly doesn't respond at all. A pentrant "communication"style is reported as typical for families with autism. How would you esp. feel, having to serve a child and say the same all day within a climate of ignorance AND by the fact that the girl doesn't learn adequately?
Pianda 1 year ago
@Pianda It's not the child's job to respond to the parent's need, it's the other way round. What climate of ignorance? And what do you mean the girl doesn't learn adequately??? (I'm autistic, and I'm angered by that comment, though I'm not clear why.) She learns the best she can. Her mother decided to have a child, and when adults decide to have children, they take on awesome responsibilities, including the responsibility to subordinate their own wishes to the child's needs, special or not.
dcs002 1 year ago
@dcs002 Your attitude is not new for me; I know such a case as you who is used to naturally take everything for granted, but himself can only say "no" or want "more, more, more" from everything. Reciprocity is not known by him. Believe me that I do not like the claiming-attitude you show here, bc. you didn't reflect the load that also your arents had/have in coping with their fate having an autistic son. They do not understand as kids, but as adults I can only advice them: REFLECT THIS!
Pianda 1 year ago
@Pianda I mean, Autists do not understand as kids, but later on SHOULD reflect what their autistic focus does mean to the family. This would also be the best support for their therapies, bc. then they would have a scoial focus.Please, dcs,try TO NEVER EVER pronounce, what the task of your parents is -> just try ONLY to see1) what you already took unilateral 2) how you can contribute to reach some reciprocity within the family system!Don't claim, just develop yourself tws. social standards
Pianda 1 year ago
@Pianda So sorry that you don't like my charming attitude, but you assume so many negative qualities about me. You assume I haven't reflected on my parents' turmoil. I HAVE! You assume I don't understand relationship reciprocity. I DO! Autistic people can and do learn these things over time. But while a child is a child, this mother needs to be a loving, responsible, and reasonable parent. She needs to treat her special child like the precious gem that she is.
dcs002 1 year ago
@dcs002 the question is, what quality of esult you gained. I am sure, that with the degree of real grief you experience by thinking of the effects your autism had on the family menbers, the more adequate is your functioning. The your family gets comfort for th.selves and they see that things run o.k. for you, which means secondary comfort. But the more you pronounce (prob.ly in autistic manner) the unilateral duties of (your) parents, the more you are distant to optimal dev.
Pianda 1 year ago
@Pianda this may sound cruel to you, but see: autists continue to see the world only with their eyes. The view on others does (in my exp.) lacks the quality that generally makes the autistic difference. Your fam. is (actually) not interested, when you "declare" them your insight (in somewhat penetrant manner). They wann FEEL it, they want to feel your (relative) normality- I mean ACTUALLY they do!!! But I suppose, your view is still orientated tow. your direct well-being in every situation
Pianda 1 year ago
@Pianda think about this intensively and then go on try to really gradually set yourself into a functioning that makes you think and perceive HOW other pll. feel and function. Put THIS in a rank of high priority-stuff. So you can contrfibute best to your development. Intell. adult autists can reflect about problematic sides of themselves but in the end they do not really want to understand, what the difference to other pll. is. Try to find out from now on and never leave this path! It heps!
Pianda 1 year ago
@Pianda Try to see it from the child's perspective instead of the mother's. No matter how many times an autist hears a rule given, it will be extremely difficult to follow if it doesn't make sense to the autist. Mum responds with anger, and the daughter does her best, despite the fact that what she's being told makes no sense at all. Mum needs to know that rules make no sense to autistic children without explanation, and a clear showing of love is extremely important at ALL times.
dcs002 1 year ago
@dcs002 couldn't agree more
xBuscopanx 11 months ago
@dcs002 a=i agree! and she even gives her AUTISTIC child that VERY hot food, and tells her "this is very hot"! what an idiotic mother, you don't even give a healthy child hot food, you let it cool before serving it! god I hate this mother!
Pixiemel2 11 months ago
@Pixiemel2 Dude leave the mother alone its not her fault she has a retard for a daughter its the retards fault for being inferior
gruntlover2 10 months ago
@gruntlover2 Another person that has the intellect of a bucket of rocks. Who do you think created most of today's technology? Autistic people...that's who. Only retard I see...is someone that would have the audacity too make such a ludicrous statement. Without autistic children, man would be still living in caves. My son is autistic, and he is no RETARD. He is far more intelligent then any of his older classmates. He may not meet your standards. He SURPASSES them. Read a book why don't you.
ajfelix67 9 months ago
@ajfelix67 sorry i was kind of pissed when i saw this video i take that back
gruntlover2 9 months ago
@gruntlover2 Apology accepted. Dealing with autistic children is a learning experience. They come with no hand book. Since they are all different, what works with one autistic child, does not necessarily work on another. Remember, autistic children have problems with language processing. What you say, and what they hear, are not the same. Too much words only confuses them. So, we make short cuts to get to the point. My son is 7 years old, and I will continue to learn from him.
ajfelix67 9 months ago
@gruntlover2 no she isnt inferioor. Only ignorant tossers like you are inferior. fact . also epic failiure u are hehe
kaihiwatari111 9 months ago
@kaihiwatari111 Heil Hitler!
gruntlover2 9 months ago
@Pixiemel2 She Can't stand all these experts that know nothing about everything. She clearly stated that it was "very hot" .Something that I do for my autistic son. They are not STUPID. They heed the warning and wait until it cools down. Parents of autistic children know what they are doing...and how to communicate to their child. Maybe it don't meet your standards of living, but it gets the job DONE. Unless you care for an autistic child. you have no right to comment here.
ajfelix67 9 months ago
i have a right to comment everywhere, its a free world. i do care for an autistic child, yes. my fiends little boy is autistic & i babysit for him 3 times a week for a few hours, but i'd never give him hot food, neither do his parents. they arent stupid, i agree with you, quite the contrary they are extremely intelligent. But that doesnt mean we dont need to be extra careful with them. maybe i care too much & overprotect him, as i do wth every kid. and i talk softer too.but thats just me.
Pixiemel2 9 months ago
@Pixiemel2 coddling an autistic child will make them far too dependent to ever live alone and a reality is that children outlive their parents most of the time. I am an autistic adult raising autistic children. Believe me they need to learn that food is hot and to not eat it when ti first comes off the stove or out of the microwave. If they don't learn it then when they move into an independent or supported living arrangement they will get hurt. Short verbal instructions work best.
Spydyee2 9 months ago
@Pixiemel2 At what point in time do you teach the child that the food is hot for an NT child? 8, 10, 12 years old? When do you teach the child that the food coming out of the microwave is hot and can burn them? This girl is obviously at least 8 or 10 years old. I think she is perfectly capable of learning that the food is hot and to wait about eating it without the mother putting the food aside and waiting on it to cool.
Spydyee2 9 months ago
@dcs002 Most of the "autistic hysteria", ironically, exposes bad parenting all along... as such you point out clearly from this video.
DJVARAO 10 months ago
It is human to think that our children are "special" in one way, but the DEFINITION of autism has reached a point of fuzziness that make it useless.
As a scientist, if I want to develop a treatment for this syndrome, what kind of patients should I cure first? The ones who shows genius-like behavior (Aspergers) or those ones that barely can speak? How the same alleged disease produce TOTALLY OPPOSITE symptoms?
DJVARAO 10 months ago
@dcs002
do you have an autistic chid? NO? I DO. maybe her daughter understands things better in SHORT DIRECT TALK. Maybe her daughter understands sit nice as a certain way shes been taught to sit. i tell my son how exactly to sit- feet off the furniture. sit up its how I HAVE TO DEAL WITH HIM. is lunch unpleasant for us? NO. her daughter puts her legs up like that- probably creates a better sense of balanced feeling. dont judge this woman. her daughter seems happy. MY SON IS AUTISTIC.SO AM I.
n0x524 10 months ago
Wah wah wah.
I'm tired of hearing about the plight of the poor parents. They only know what's going on on the outside. They don't have to deal with the inner turmoil. They're not the ones with autism. This mom should be happy she's got a beautiful daughter and stop the pity party.
dcs002 1 year ago
@dcs002
Can I ask do you care for one of your children with autism??
If no I think you need to keep your comments to your self if there
not nice..
mleenoy 1 year ago
@mleenoy I don't have an autistic child. I am autistic. Can you possibly understand how it feels to be autistic and watch your parents putting on the pity party about how hard it is to raise you? How much they've had to sacrifice because of you?
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Now imagine that situation as I lived it, as an autistic kid who didn't know he was autistic, but whose divorced parents acted like he was the source of everything that was wrong in their lives. And I believed it.
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I have a voice in this discussion.
dcs002 1 year ago 2
@dcs002 Well you should be happy that you can communicate and be rational about someone comments. My son is 5 now and communicating with him is a challenge even though they sat parents always know what there children want or saying is hard to tell.
Looks like you are high functioning or something are you working so if you are be happy you can express your feeling and say what you want and don't bash on the parent we are trying the best we can for our children,,
mleenoy 1 year ago
@dcs002 I just saw your older comments - do YOU have an idea of the inner turmoil of your parents? If not, which I think is the case, just shut up and use your energy to ask yourself, what the inner turmoil of your parents is/was/always had been!You are not guilty, but you are a problem on your own with grave effects on your surrounding - the more you understand this in depth, the more it helps you developping-AND to be able to give s.th. reciproq back to your parents ->give back is the key
Pianda 1 year ago
@Pianda You have no idea where my social reciprocity skills are, or how much work I've put into relationships in my life. Don't you see how offensive that is?
As for my parents, my dad left us, and my mom was neglectful, and I seriously mean that in a legal sense, severe child neglect. I was told regularly how much of a burden I was, though none of us knew at the time I was autistic. Yes, my mom suffered from many things, and she made sure I knew it every day. (more)
dcs002 1 year ago
wow what trials and tribulations this poor mother had to go through. A child who wouldn't sit still for all that long!!!! oh no!
araless 1 year ago
man it sucks being a kid...
rizlas2 1 year ago
all you people saying she's not autistic, listen to her TALKING. notice that she stims! if that's not high functioning autism at least, well, my friends and i (with asperger's syndrome) would like to have a word with you.
torakokoneko 1 year ago 5
I have just 1 question about this video. I have also 2 girls that are diagnosed with ASD and the youngest is also doing something else while we sit down and eat.
The question i have is where is the rest of the family?
I think your girl seems lonely and that is just natural behavier she's doing because the lack of a fast rutine with the entire family sitting down eating together.
danchewie 1 year ago
@danchewie Don't judge.
rcleverett 1 year ago
@danchewie what is it like siting on a cloud of self-righteousness?
hs41982 1 year ago
@danchewie I really don't think that having a meal with her family is going to change her bahavior. I have an aspies child that won't eat at the table with us most of the time. Just getting her to eat at any time is a miracle.
merlinsbrat 1 year ago
There's a reason she's not "sitting nice". She shouldn't be up on a high stool with her feet dangling like that.
RustySpoons88 1 year ago
And how about tell the parents what the symptoms of mercury poisoning are. Aggression, Violent outbursts, loss of coordination, loss of speech, GI tract problems, food allergies, social withdrawal. But sadly most autism "specialists" are paid corporate whores who care more about getting rich then telling the truth. Zeolite cures mercury poisoning.
CodexAlimentarius1 1 year ago
@CodexAlimentarius1 very true im living proof autisim by mmr vaccine my parents dont beleive it the vaccine that gave me it , but ive done 2 years of research on the topic and is very convinced .
TheNatho1988 1 year ago
@TheNatho1988 baka
torakokoneko 1 year ago
@TheNatho1988 What lab did you do your research in? What did you use as a control group? Because all of the carefully controlled research has found otherwise.
I'm autistic too, and nobody caught it until I was an adult. It happens. Stop whining about it and blaming people. You've got it. Now live with it. It can be fun!
dcs002 1 year ago
please check out my page im doing a life list to raise awareness for autism. please comment and respond i could use the help
lifelistforautism 1 year ago
zeolite
CodexAlimentarius1 1 year ago