Relationship Self Sabotage and Why Men Leave You!

[Arthurbeinghonest]

Is that depressed looking guy in the background on purpose? haha

[ilovespirito15]

Yeah, I understand a depressed feeling about something, but depression for me is a mental illness I don't think I'll ever get over.

Am I content that my life is in shambles? No.

Am I content that I almost got raped a few years back? Nope.

Am I excited that I cut because my future looks so bleak? Nada

I'm sorry, but your views will not change the fact that depression is real and not a cursory feeling because of something happy. It's the truth, bro

[itowedin]

I'm sabotaging a relationship right now. I'm afraid I've mistakenly put the nail in the coffin of something absolutely wonderful. This really helped understand why. I have a history of depression and and understand this pattern.

[itsmedontusee]

liked and favourited

[itsmedontusee]

WOW your videos are amazing!!! subscribed

[ApplezSwaggaVision]

This is beautiful...I feel like I sabotage relationships sometimes and Ive been in ones were the boy sabotaged it looking for that excitement....

[MyMentalistmind]

But what if you really are unhapppy at a job or in a relationship. I don't know if I can accept that I am really happy at work or content when I really am miserable. I can think in the past of a job where I was really miserable, not at all happy. And the thought of a different job made me happy. Excitement as you say. But, where does the defining moment come when that is the truth, of being miserable at a job, or when you are just complaining? I hope that makes sense.

[shiftm4n]

i would define depression as a negative thought or feeling (mostly feeling) that your mind replays unconsciously. it's hard to overcome that with logic. depression is difficult to explain some people out of. i'm saying, this realization that someone is not truly depressed may work for some people, but it won't work for the people that depression hurts most, since depression IS truly only a problem for people who cannot get their minds off of it.

[shiftm4n]

or some people just feel something really bad inside of them that they cannot explain. it feels really bad, somewhat similar to pain in that the pain is not a conscious thought (by this i mean a thought that is thought like speaking in your mind). these people cannot rationalize the pain, they cannot find a way to consciously avoid it (aka something as simple as a choice between taking a drink of water or starving oneself of that drink). this is a very good analysis

[zerolv30000]

Fallout 3 music @ 4:11

[Rtv03]

Dammit, i wish my girlfriend would see this. But then again she'd think there's something wrong with her. *sigh*

[tigerandcookie]

2:37 you are so right!!!!!! this took me SUCH a long time to understand because i was VERY depressed about my cat but when i looked back i relized i was so happy and she was too. But it still doesnt mean that im not sad at all

THUMBS UP SO HE CAN SEE PLEASE :3

[tigerandcookie]

2:37 you are so right!!!!!! this took me SUCH a long time to understand because i was VERY depressed about my cat but when i looked back i relized i was so happy and she was too. But it still doesnt mean that im not sad at all

[stardust1830]

that's pretty awesome c:

[MsSaraty]

the man behind you is funnny lol

[Meshastatam]

Oh, wow.. This was amazing... SUBSCRIBE, lol

[guyfughgtuik]

i love the fact that he replies to his viewers :)

[WhyMenLeave]

wow... really good.. thanks thanks thanks

[WhyMenLeave]

interesting video... will have a look at the other one... thanks.

[dianalombanastube]

I had the water, and my pc got wet... Im no happy. Havent been in a long long time

[RigamortisGardless]

too bad your in to white women....cuase your fine.

[cutieerica]

Damn Brotha....you spoke to me directly in this video. Thanks for this video.

[sheliene12]

Then this would mean that we must incorporate more excitement into our daily routine especially when we get married people!!!!(*_*)LOL! We are talking years of commitment. "STAY THIRSTY MY FRIENDS" Have a "Dos Equis"!........LOL! I am just kidding don't kill me!Hehe!!

[Meskerem065]

'You're not depressed;You are, in fact, happy.

All you now need is some excitement in your life.'

Did I get that right Wan?Had no idea it was quite that simple?!

As always, Thank You!

[whitmanzwicker]

Looking to the past: futile

Looking to the present: utile

Looking to the future: infantile

[RawrgasmsAreFun]

I really do love your video, but I have one question...

Can this all apply if you have depression as a mental illness? Like, when the synapses in your brain are unbalanced? Because, so many times I tried believing in contentment, but then I couldn't hold onto it anymore.

I really appreciate your advice, and this is why I am asking you. Thank you for your time.

[blackgirllost1]

@ journik. I see your point of view, well said! I myself left what I thought at the time was an unhealthy marriage trying to find love and ended up going through two more unhealthy relationships. I didn't end up with the the next two men I dated and now question myself if I made a mistake. Well everything happens for a reason not sure what as of yet. I now have a relationship with God now and I pray which I never did before and am more CONTENT with my life just the way it is right now.

[dievi]

whit who are you? 

[slawaq8]

Thats good ,thats very good. I feel it ,its so right

[ejayarts]

love how u dont care about others in starbucks.lol ur awesome! :D

altho sometimes, we have to take risks to be in a way happier place... ryt?

[vronkan34]

Hmm...he is really on to something..

[Imanstar145]

wow i loved this video

[flyingjoed]

I have just experienced this in my life. I would much rather be where I was in my last relationship than by myself now, looking back now knowing I really was happy. Thanks for this great message!!

[oweheh]

right on! only people with deep thoughts can realize what you said.

[sirasy]

the noises in background r really VERY disturbing!

[Revolt714]

you are a genius...

[amiterisu]

This....is strangely relevant.Nice.

[lova368]

i begin to like him...:)

[mamuay]

love it - your words are so wise - i needed to hear this

[redwolf1]

Interesting thoughts.

[sallcc]

i havent seen a better man....!! and that makes me Jour Fan!!<3

[Yazmin2112]

You are so pleasant to watch ;)

[kmoney100b]

so when we don't get something, we should try to understand it's opposite and work backwards?

[missyquel]

touche'

[SeerNubian]

Love it! Thanks fore teaching me about the chi ball. Keep up the good work.

[BruceGiron]

dojo lol

[YourDarkAccomplice]

and why men leave you? lol last I checked.. I think men were human right? The media makes it seem like both men and women are entirely different species. It's quite annoying. If someone leaves you in a relationship, obviously either you are not comfortable with yourself or you were not in alignment with universe to judge that he/she was not for you. *shrug* this seems to work for me.. someone who has no "men' trouble. My #1 secret being; Don't forget that they're HUMAN BEINGS..lol and vice versa

[Jonnyeth]

And yet even while you say all that, you don't believe it! Right? ;-)

[oxonthewall]

what you say its true :)

[2Nyce4Ya]

dude ur awesome

[buildsbest]

Thanks I enjoyed your perspective.

[cpy06a]

Why? I cast God from my heart on a plane back from dads house and 3 months later 9/11 hit...So then I say FUCK you religion and the stockmarket crashed. Does he really expect me to blame myself just because I refuse to worship?HA! i havent laughed in days And If I never said or thought those things like it would really fucking matter....I guess were all already dead then. Why should I smile at this Iceberg when theres so much more to it that I cant see? Negatives come from negatives I knowbutFFS

[cpy06a]

Awe wan let me say im sorry for bringing negative energy to you channel. I watched a dying plant outside and realised he isnt dead yet because he is content with what he has...even tho he hasnt been watered in weeks and hes the only one left alive in his garden. He hasnt ended his life as surely I wanted to end it for him...for me so I wont have to see a crying plant, wilting and losing. But he is content with everything around him. Im in a good place with something that plant doesnt have,water.

[PsycReaper]

wow ... that ... that helped...

[samleclam]

wow.

[i94yeh2p]

That one was intense. Its like being a couch potato at home on the couch all day Saturday feeling depressed from the boredom except its not depression its just the dullness of being alone and non-productive.

[dominoeffecttheory]

Great Video

[desertflower20]

This is so true, I wasnt happy in an abusive relationship. I am so happy in my new relationship, because I look back at when I was miserable. Thanks for this information.

[Gopeno]

4:44 weird guy with a lump on his back. lol

[djsteenkamp]

thx

[Dylan122]

that actully was insightful

[ikeuab1]

Wow! Great Job!

[Wheel333]

That's a beautiful insight, eloquently put. Thank's for sharing.

[s7r337sw33p3r]

this may sound offensive but this sounds like one of the first useful, insightful helpful things you have taught

[humancureDOTcom]

hehe I dont think its offensive to Wan - He teaches on so many levels, it has to be that some teachings make more of a connection to you than others

[DRUBainsey]

I was somewhat sceptical at first, especially as I wasn't getting particularly animated when he claimed I was not depressed, however I will try to apply what I was taught before I discard it.

[MrWinston1984]

The guy can't even shave in the morning meanwhile he's trying to teach other people how to live their lives. Uh hu.

[Kjjoker1]

maybe he cant shave in the morning becuase hes trying to TEACH people how to IMPROVE their lives..

[Kennady]

Some women think stubble is sexy. :)

[MrWinston1984]

Some women like men who don't bathe too. I still choose to bathe.

Listen this faggot Yoga meditation guy is okay I'm just a little pissed because he blocked me because I made a joke and because I told him he should make that sexy asian chick in his videos his girlfriend. But, really, he looks much more presentable when he's clean shaven. A sloppy appearance reflects a sloppy mind.

[Kennady]

LOL! Gotcha. She is a very beautiful girl. I absolutely love her lashes. :)

[seancris11]

Great video, Wan.

[Medusaloveshemlock]

i was he wasnt

[Mario119]

Before - Durning - After

Anxiety - Pain - Suffering

Exitement - Happiness - Joy

Is it?

[journik]

mario... brilliant! now you see the different levels of one big clump... you have a 3rd eye now!

[valken666]

@Mario119 excitement - pleasure - happiness

a thought.

[teeahtate]

This is wonderful!

[seththegreek]

thats good stuff right there!!!! your vids rock!!!

[redindygo]

This is exactly what I need now- been getting confuse on things with career stuff thanks Wan!!! And I'm glad you've took a moment to show the place around the paintings on the wall makes me understand what to do for my thesis. ;-D

[ayinainsoph]

wow

[AndreaMNarciso]

BEAUTIFUL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[musedivine]

Its true, I got the tip to be thankful when I feel depressed bevore and it works! Since I do it I`m way more emotional stabile. But the relationship hink hit me right to the right time ^^. thx

[aileanjeune]

Can I ask; how do you know if what you are feeling is that contentment, or if what you are feeling is not being content? I am in a relationship right now with a friend, who used to be my gf, and now she is dating a woman :P but i still have feelings for her. How do I resolve this?

[journik]

ailean, good to see you again!! 1. I'm going to do a video on Hunger and Desire today... watch it and join journik...

[Sasygrl0131]

the more I watch your videos, the more I want you as my personal therapist. ;)

[MafiaBoy206]

for me its a lil more. i just want to be around Wan. Hes so .......... (not going to use a word here, but i think everyone knows)

[TheOverfiendDj]

This was a better explination than the biodrux videos : ) 20 stars.

[gerry2345]

Wonderful Wan. I just figured that I need more excitement..

[treasurechip]

Excellent as usual, I'll check out the website now.