mulatto diaries #114 stephanie part four

[blackimpressions]

I'm looking for that little cracker boy wphonor, any body seen him!

[blackimpressions]

How about black poeple date their own and we can end this Biracial proble How are you gonna change human nature were tribal and clanish we identify with our race and how about not claiming my race at all

[lookatdadamage94]

@blackimpressions women of other races love black men so it goes both ways

[blackimpressions]

People keep saying that biracials that have black mothers identify as black. But I guess ms tiffany jones is proving them wrong, she has so many videos on her confusion with her little identity sense more biracial people have black fathers most of them identify as black and some dont.

[Courtnet2121]

....... So because i'm mixed, i'm confused? sorry but that makes no sense to me

[LexxxDeliod]

I'm a 20 year old mulatto woman, and these videos help me so much with discovering more about who I really am, not who I'm "supposed" to be. Thank you for these videos. :)

[MultiCoexist]

I am mixed. People have asked me if I am confused. Yes, I am very very confused as I run my fingers through my long soft wavy hair and flip it in their faces..... wink wink

[184Dwayne]

You mulatto's look like mexicans

[TheCapn5]

@184Dwayne I dont look mexican at all...

[ashleyslaundry]

i dont belive if you have a mix child your child going to be confused people need to stop living there life difyned by other people. And what people think its old and annoying

[Libradiaries]

wow what a thing to say.

[vernontrumpet2000]

tsk tsk tsk,look stupid as long as they see NEGRO in your face, they see you as black and thats that

[sharlylpn]

if they all did then so many people wouldn't ask us so many stupid questions about our race.

[DominicanIdentity]

@vernontrumpet2000 My slave mentality senses are tingling. She is what she is, and that's a BIRACIAL woman.

[Papillonmuscogee]

I don't mind at all, when bi-racial people say they're bi-racial. (African American and White parents) What irritates me, is when someone claims to be "black" and you can clearly, clearly see, there is wonderful mixed blood there. Why deny it?

[sweetcandy592]

im 15 and im seeing all this on youtube comments on mix this and black that ,light skin vs dark skin this is ALL new to me! im mix light skin, but who cares i dont.. im just human ! im from the U.K and seriously mix race and black people in the U.K dont share the extreme identity confusion like you americans do..and i what know why ?

[army2k08]

Simply because of the history and the one drop rule that exists/existed in America.

[sweetcandy592]

hello army sorry i dont understand one drop rule that exist and existed in your country whats one drop rule im more confused now than i started with ??

[army2k08]

The one drop rule is an American rule that says you are black even when you are mixed. It was meant to keep the races separate and even though the rule has no legal backing for 40 years, many black and white Americans believe strongly in the rule today. I'm Canadian, so the rule never existed here like in the UK..it is an American thing.

[sharlylpn]

exactly. and it really amazes me how many minorities want to hold on to something so racist.

[sharlylpn]

it's an issue because of our history of slavery and the One Drop Rule. Look it up. I didn't know anything about either ( i'm american ) until I started doing research on mixed race people online. The On Drop Rule is a myth that many Americans just can't seem to let go of.

[sweetcandy592]

Yes yes i know now thank you..white man was sooooooooooooo evil.. some times i look into my grand mum and grand dads eyes, they are white spainsh and i wonder in their teens were they ever racist ? i never dair ask them that !!! question lol

[bellasong75]

hey tiffany, i miss your vids. i hope u make more soon:)

[Kidfromtheblock77]

mixed people r racist and would love 2 blacks extinct and wiped of the planet!

[musepigg]

This series is so interesting to me. I am not a mix of races but of two cultures and it is a pretty similar experience dealing with your identity. Even though the culture it is not as visible on my face or complexion, it is still part of my identity. Thank you!

[biracialbutterfly100]

when ever some one may ask me what race I am, I am never defensive I am proud to tell people that I am biracial weather they get to know me or not. I think being bi racial is one of the greatest gifts from god. It is my personal experience that because I am bi racial I found that I really had to find out who I was on the inside, instead of worrying about identifying with black people or white people I had to learn to identify with who I truly was on the inside.

[jWestdd]

Why is it that in all you interviews, it seems to be the Black community that has to make a change. I never seem to hear you question yourself or others if people feel you are denying your whiteness. Quite the contrary, you are so busy trying to be accepted into the White community that you don't even see your bias. Just as you both say that you are Black and White, and when it is pointed out that 'the white in you is coming out', you take offense... I guess it was said by someone Black.

[MustNotRead]

@jWestdd

i guess you're black because you haven't got a clue about anything.

[peanuts8]

@jWestdd atleast she's not trying to be something she's not!!! this black girl trying to be arab when she's just as black as i am hell we are all BLACK PEOPLE all of us, all the whites, the hispanics, the asians, the arabs, the palestinians who are hidden behind the berlin wall and no one sees them at all!! we are all black now ALL OF US ARE AFRICANS NOW!!!

[nukanub]

100% cuties

[sjkflies]

just say i am stephanie.

[kamansense]

I seem to get a feel for what is being conveyed. I think maybe it would help if you first recognized or acknowledged the fact that by looking at the both of you the notion of being bi-racial wouldnt cross any typical American's mind. I think that you both realize that. Therefore, consider expressing for the viewers what it is like being raised by parents from different cultural or ethnic backgrounds which in this case would be an American who is Caucasian and American who is Negroid.

[nulifeagain]

Not true about the racial issue being more prominent in United States. At least not from my experience.

[lexiconlover]

I agree. The only culture I identify with is the American culture. I am mixed with many things but I don't know any of my grandparents so I had no other culture to learn about during my childhood.

Should I go and do research on what my ancestors did and then adopt that as part of my identity?

[conwasa]

Yes.... not to clarify your identity but to find the sources of (any) ingrained habits and beliefs, so as to understand them.

[dlfunky]

shes a beautiful person inside and out and she is right about america being more obsessed with race. My parents never really spoke to me about race at all however, i learnt about African history and british history when i was really young ad they they taught me about ghanian culture but i still felt british.

[proff180]

I put a question mark over people who state "they would never have mixed-race children" , they claim that they don't want their children growing up confused etc, the fact of the matter is the only "confusion" I and many other mixed-race people had growing up was caused by racism, not because there is anything inherently confused in us, if such people were REALLY interested in solving the problem of racism then miscegenation would be the answer, but they are not because THEY are the problem.

[woodie62]

That's a good point. The confusion is caused by others who have the race problem within themselves. Sometimes the greatest confusion comes from our own family. My sibs and I were looked at differently than my cousins at the time. They were "full" black in our community so friends and strangers tended to treat my sibs and I differently. But we played with our cousins indifferently. We ate together, slept together, got beat toegether when wrong. It was all good and still is. . . . ♦

[TheCapn5]

@proff180 thank you so much for putting into words what I have felt in me for 18 years.

[lexyladybug81]

i think u have the right to say your race or races. but people put this idea and say well if u went missing and they gave a brief description on the news it would say black , white. latino or asian even though u know i know and pretty much most people know there awhole lot of races and combinations....and america is not the most racist country....ive been to many countries and have been in utter lost for words just at a lost....that idea is jus because we live in the states ....

[Crazzzybabie]

russia is very racist too

[kindsomali]

congrats to your mom for bringing up a nice, well grounded girl. keep on being good, steph

[09KNU]

the question is what are you for we (it can be black askin or white...) lol...i would answer we can be friend...

[09KNU]

well under the african skies generation after generation we all become black

[komododr]

I'll be your daddy, hhhe hhhe hhhe. XD

Seriously though I Loved her breasts. Love diversity, get your cuts in while you can black, white, mulatto we'll be 6feet under one day anyway. So make with the love, if your lucky enough to pull different colors, sizes, shapes and backgrounds, kudos. If you glove before you love, cool if not fool ;-)

ps I love your lips.

[jensnoztree]

thanks for this interview series!

[BronzeSista]

I don' t think anyone should deny their parents regardless of what they appear to be. They should love and respect them, but remember they are not you, you are a unique individual. You can't live through your parents. It doesnt matter whether they are Black or White. That's what I like about Barak Obama, he loves his white family and his Black family even though, he was really never around them, but he is an individual...and that's how he lives his life.

[0cTheONE0]

I dont think Biracial people get much of a choice of which race they get to call themselves in America, because of the racial caste sytems here. Yes we do have one, its just not official :) . Think about this....if a person is Black and White they are callled a "Light " skinned Black. They are never called a "Dark" skinned white are they? In a racial caste sytem a mixed "breed" receives the classification of the "lower" caste in the system.

[browngirl1986]

that a very good point. what about the black people who are called light skin but have two black parents?

[BronzeSista]

Very true browngirl, there are many Black people who have what they call biracial hair, there are plenty black people with hazel eyes,green, etc. I have cousins with green eyes, and freckles and they are not biracial. Sometimes hearing people on here describe a biracial person sounds weird, as if no one looks like them? For every biracial person, there is a Black person with 2 Black parents that look the same as they do, hair, features, eye color, etc.

[Crazzzybabie]

So? Most blacks still don't look like biracials, sorry. Most black people don;t look like mariah carey, adriana lima of even like Jennifer freeman. And if they do, they are mixed with white blood. But most of them just don;t.

[BronzeSista]

Crazzybabie, I said for every biracial person you can find a black american that looks biracial. As a matter of fact my sister-n-law reminds me of Mariah Carey. I don't know where you live but as you travel through-out the United States you'll find Black Americans of any hue. Just because some Black Americans have white blood doesnt mean they hate being Black.  You have to remember they are not biracial so many of them are not taught to hate their blackness or to hate black people.

[Crazzzybabie]

well, there aren't that many biracials in america so obiously there aren't that much black people that look biracial. your sister in law reminds you of mariah carey? congrats, that's ONE person.

I live in Europe, where things are different. and why do you write 'black' with a capital everytime?

[BronzeSista]

Crazzzybabie, you should come to America, I know many Blacks in America who look biracial. We have a friend who is Black with blue eyes. I know Blacks with green eyes, hazel eyes, wavy hair, straight hair, kinky, and many with lightskin, and some near white, and they are not biracial. Genetics is an interesting thing. When you get a chance look at Halle Berry's Baby she had with her white boyfriend, not that I care who she dates...but look at the child.

[Crazzzybabie]

Yes, the child looks mixed.

the child doesn't look like she's from east africa and she has her dad's facial features. You have to aknowledge that there is a difference between Nahla Ariella Berry and Alek Wek.

There is also a difference betwee Nahla Ariella and Lindsay Lohan. We is the last one the only one to be aknowledged?

It's paradoxal.

[BronzeSista]

who are not that lightskinned but brownskinned.

In regards to the Capital Letter B. For some reason when people make reference to Black Americans they Capitalize the B, but not always when they say White Americans. I've actually had this conversation with a few people on that very same question. In writing you will see it Capitalized.

[flipbrady75]

Bronze Sista- I've read you're comments about how theres alot of blacks that have light skin, green or blue eyes and frickles, and that is 100% true. but to say they don't have any white blood in them is false. their parents my not have it, but how about their grand parents or greatgrands. Because NO full blooded black has those traits because they are white traits. and there is no such thing as a full blood black in america. We've been here for 500yrs.

[flipbrady75]

Bronze Sista- I'm bi-racial and I have neices and a nephew that are as high yellow as the rest of us, with wavy hair and the whole nine. and if you asked are you mixed? they will tell you no, even though they live with my white mama! lol. and when they have kids one day and if some of them come out the light skinned with green eyes or whatever, they will say no their not mixed. cause they might not know about my mom, but the point is that her blood will be in their genes.

[BronzeSista]

Not all Black people with mixture can trace it to an immediate white person. This is one reason they don't hate their Blackness or Black people. There is no white person to tell them that they are inferior for having Black blood, so many Blacks with white blood were raised as Black, and they are not trying to find the white people responsible for the mixture. There is difference between biracials and Blacks with mixture. Biracials have a Black & a White parent.

[flipbrady75]

Bronze Sista- I know the difference between a bi-racial person and a person of mixture, because I am bi- racial. who ever said on a video I HATE my blackness. I haven't heard one bi-racial person on any video yet say I DON'T WANT TO BE BLACK! what I have heard is that most bi-racials don't see why they have to choose between a parents race. when their made of both, instead of saying I'm black or I'm white they just say I'm bi-racial or mulatto. without slighting a parent.

[BronzeSista]

If you do enough searching on you tube and read some of the comments coming from some biracial people, you'll know what I'm speaking of.

[flipbrady75]

I'ma do that, I mean I don't doubt there are some that have a problem, all I can do is speak for myself, I'm Black and would'nt have it any another way. but at the same time I do acknowlge my moms part of making me. Besides, only one generation will be bi-racial, if they get with another black that kid is black period. then they be like your husband, just another light skin black. who claims to have indian in their family. lol, you know how we do it!

[BronzeSista]

You know my sister n law who reminds me of Mariah Carey, yep she is that light. Said, you know...I have come to the conclusion that a lot of Blacks who say they are mixed with Indian are really mixed with white. I told her, I believe your'e right about that. There maybe some Indian blood, but there is plenty of white as well. Although my husband's great grandfather was Black & Blackfoot. And some Black folks say Indian, because they don't want to say White, due to racism in life.

[Crazzzybabie]

Yes. I agree with you.

[BronzeSista]

I didn't say they didn't acknowledge that someone had sex with white people many years ago, and there is some mixture. I am saying they are classified as Black and so are the grandparents, and the greatgrandparents. Its just in recent years that I have noticed that many biracial people who have a Black & a white parent try to disown their Blackness and distant themselves from Black people, so no one will suspect they have Black blood, and try to escape by saying I don't associate with them.

[flipbrady75]

Bronze Sista- A white woman carried me in her womb for 71/2 months and took care off me my whole life even when her father disowned her. So, I'm supposed to act like her side that makes part of me don't matter? To make other blacks feel comfortable? That was retorical. because my white mamma made sure that me and my siblings where raise in a 90+% black town around my black family so that's who I indentify with, so when someone ask I tell them I'm black.

[flipbrady75]

My mom is one of those white women that loves black people not just black men. and she's had black friends since she was a kid and got whoopings for because she played with the little colored girl down the street. I think you view things a little ego-centric, I was raise to believe that if you have any black blood then your black. but not all mulattos are. some where raised by whites their whole life, with little contact with blacks and that's who they indentify with.

[flipbrady75]

SO can you blame them for the way they are raised? Hell I know blacks ( NO MIXED BLOOD) who where raised around nothing but whites and can't relate to other blacks. But what about the blacks who are quick to tell me or anybody like me that we're not black? or not black enough? like I ain't never been called a nigger! or had someone follow me in the stores. the misunderstanding is that cause some of us are light skin, that some how things are easier, I'm here to tell you, it's not true.

[BronzeSista]

I'm sure some ignorant fool has said that to you and I'm sure some racist fool has said some ignorant things as well. Like I said, my husband looks mixed but he's Black, he's heard all sorts of stuff as well, but he's not so full of hate like I hear some of these biracial people on youtube speaking, and trying to justify hate. I've had racism left and right coming from white people, but I don't get on here saying let me tell you what the racist did to me today. Its their problem, not mine

[flipbrady75]

I'm reading what your saying, but I don't think you are getting my piont. If a mix person claims to be black or don't, what does that have to do with you or anybody else? You are not mixed so you would never beable to see a mix persons view point. for some it's not that Black & White.LOL! (Pun) thank god I never had that problem, and it took me along time not to judge another mulatto, because they didn't claim black. all of us aint the same and I had to learn that.

[BronzeSista]

I don't care if they claim Black, its really not that, I just can't believe the hate and racists words I hear coming from people who have a Black parent just like I do, even if its just one, and pretend or try to erase them as if they don't exist. I like to study people, and I've never seen anything like this before. I know all biracial people don't think this way. It makes me think racism has done alot of damage to make a person hate their Blackness, and almost worship their White side.

[kemykat100]

@flipbrady75  Well said

[BronzeSista]

I would never tell anyone to not love and respect their mother or father regardless of what color there skin is, but we are not attached to our mothers anymore. We have to learn to live our own lives. I am not my mother , we are 2 different people. I am married, and have 2 children. My mother does not live in our house. I have my own life to live. Yes, She taught me to love all peoples, but God made me the person that I am.

[browngirl1986]

please share your comments just trying to get an understanding of all people

[flipbrady75]

Browngirl1986- I see your point and yes black genes are dominate only against recessive white genes like blue eyes and blonde hair. the lighter genes. but not so much of the darker genes like whites with brown eyes and hair. plus for some reason bi racial kids with white dads look whiter than kids with white mothers

[TheKingsMusician]

yeah very true I think its because the genes in a male are probably stronger in some cases

[flipbrady75]

good point!

[browngirl1986]

if a biracial black and white person look white then their black parent has white genes in them that the only way they look white. genetically that the way it is.

[browngirl1986]

but dont fault people if they say i see you as just black because they are going by what they see. i think that is not what you are understanding. you cant change their opinion. i dont know what is like to be both . it seem like yu care too much about what people think. african genes are dominant over white recessive genes that is why you have afriacn features not causcasian features.

[Crazzzybabie]

What you're saying is not true at all. What exactly do you mean with 'african features'? If you mean kinky 'nappy' hair: biracials often have loosly or medium curly hair. So that indicates that they are not completely black.

Biracials have a lighter complexion, biracials often have narrower noses. They have mixed features.

Brown eyes and black hair might be dominant, they are not even fully dominant (green eyes, brown hair).

[bbvivertube]

Crazzzybabie,

Your knowledge of genetics is not very thorough. Please try to brush up on genetics, and African American history before pronouncing what is and is not an african feature. thanks

[Crazzzybabie]

Why is my knowledge of genetics not very thorough?

Kinky hair is een african feature

I wide nose is an african feature too

So is dark skin

my knowlegde of genetics is perfect.

[lexyladybug81]

wide noses are found in many other races not only african,

[Crazzzybabie]

but they are more common in africa

[Crazzzybabie]

And what does African American history have to do with this? :')

[browngirl1986]

when a biracial person phenotype is african american people are going to always see them as just black regardless of what their genotype is. tiffany and stephone genotypes may be black and white but their phenotype is african american and I think that once they can see why people just see them as just black then that will star the process of rectifying problems but have to start in our own black community. if you want to be referred to as biracial people should respect that

[Crazzzybabie]

they look mixed in my opinion. they don't look like their from ethiopia

[browngirl1986]

I think you have to realize how america is set up as far as race is concerned and everyone has their own opinions you just have to know how to deal with ignorant people. videos are informative. tiffany and stephanie look like two black women to me and no one is ever going to associate them with being white even though they have causcasion heritage a lot of african americans have that heritage that nothing new. they are women of color.

[flipbrady75]

browngirl1986- I agree yes they do look like two light skinned blacks, but again you have to look at how and where they where raised, stephanie said she was raised around her white side and never really seen her dad, so if she comes around a dark skinned black, all she knows is that she doesn't really look like that person. your right though they will never be seen as white, maybe latino, middle eastern or meditereane but not white, but I don't think that's what their saying

[flipbrady75]

I think what their saying is why do they have to choose between the two, when they are made up by both, they don't want to disown the other half by claiming a side. My white grandmother used to say "why do you always claim black, your half white too you know, I feel like your denying me when you do that" I told her nana we're from the south and you know like me that if I told people that I'm white I would get laughed at or hurt by both sides.

[flipbrady75]

Don't get it twisted whites know, atleast in the south they do, if a person is mixed, some might not want to admite it, but some will call you out. I had an old white guy come to me one time at work, who was a known racist, and said "I see you around the blacks all the time and I know your black, but your not all black are you? because you look different from them, your hair ain't like theirs and you have frickles and hell I'm darker than you are" after laughing, I told him I'm half white.

[Crazzzybabie]

that's horrible

[Crazzzybabie]

well. you're not telling them you're white, you're telling them you're HALF white

[browngirl1986]

Is it because you are not comfortable with who you are? i try to understand all perspectives.When a biracial person look like they have two black parents they are going to be called just black because sometimes they probably dont know that one parent is white.

[browngirl1986]

I just want clarity on this: Is it wrong to ask someone what their ethnicity is? Sometimes people are just want to know and may they find that person interesting. I think that if you are proud of who you are then why be offended? I dont understand because I dont experience that because both my parent s are black.

[browngirl1986]

All biracial people dont want to be seen as biracial . they just say they are black. I think it is good to get their perspective also. Why they think they way they do.

[flipbrady75]

browngirl1986- I am bi-racial person and when asked what am I, I say( Black) even though I'm very light skin with wavy hair, in the south I'm what is classed as a passer. But, that's because I was raise around nothing but blacks. but, if a bi-racial was raised around nothing but whites I wouldn't blame them for identifing with them more. it's your evironment that influences your way of thinking. I've had whites tell me you can put white on your app if you want, but I don't because it's not me!

[browngirl1986]

flip brady i think that is a very good point you made. you are right.

[browngirl1986]

have you every done interviews of biracial people who just indentify with being black and dont say they are biracial? Maybe someone who does not feel the way you do?

[Ididucantoo]

excellent again! I wonder if you could tell her that maybe her mom hasn't yet dealt with the pain from her past (from part3) and that is why she didn't seem to open up about her path or journey. and some people live their whole lives and know what their life's purpose is so maybe she just didn't know.

[BUNNOBB]

Well I hope that Stephanie is persistent on building a realtionship with her bio-father...As well as He!!!

[GoingGREEN1]

Wow, this was such an insightful and interesting interview! I love Stephanie's thoughts on life and race. Great job!

[hollaatyogirldea]

nice videos!! you should invest in a camera stand!

[connner]

Tiff, I actually have one for you if you need it! :)

[wendy3711]

Best interview yet.  I like the way she doesn't let race run her life. Ppl like Stephanie will change our society for the better with her self confidence and positive attitude.

[halfbro]

Thanks for sharing ur story Stephanie... I really enjoyed listening.

[cutiebe2]

US is not the most hung up on race. If we are only including US vs UK then maybe. But there is tons of countries who have bigger problems. Race in the US is a problem but at least we are trying to address it.

[Unekwu89]

she is so smart. "if you get to know me you will find out" LOVE IT.

Im full black and I have had biracial, black/white friends. Ii the beginning I never asked their race, what does it matter?

Im glad I was brought up the way I was. I was never trailed to be hung up one race. My parents didnt distinguish between acting black or white. it was just whatever.

She is right,America is the most hung up on race. my parents lived in the UK and didnt experience racism til they got to the US

[saintswife1]

I have really learned a lot form this series.

[curlmebella]

ok - not full circle but Ill give it 320 degrees. I love her response to people asking what she is, I think that is so on point. I liked her comment about people focusing less on race and more on qualities. My only caveat would be that I dont want to live in a color blind world because we are all different. However I want people to see color and LOVE it, appreciate the diff in every culture and have a genuine respect for peoples diversity, THEN I believe we will have peace in the world.

[TheSoctress]

Exactly, I share the same sentiment. It annoys me, the concept of colorblindness or a "colorblind society." It's unrealistic and it's disingenuous for a person or for people to suggest that we shouldn't see color or that we don't really see color, Especially considering this country racial past and the whole Western world past and current relationship with people of color.

[TheSoctress]

The truth and the reality is that WE DO SEE COLOR AND NOTICE DIFERRENCE (S). A baby/child is able to recognize that people have different skin colors, hair textures,etc. It's OK to be able to see/acknowledge that people LOOK DIFFERENT AROUND THE WORLD. The most important thing that we need to realize and STOP DOING IS: ATTACHING MEANING, VALUES AND JUDGEMENTS TO DIFFERENT PHYSICAL APPEARANCES. We need to just know that we all look different and that's ok and MOVE ON!

[IOwe91]

I completely agree. Race is never going to go away. Humans are very visual we will always see race but like you said what we need to do is to embrace each others differences.

[zarbon700]

I think that Tiffany's interview is the best that you have done so far. Are you two friends?

BTW, she's so cute.

[canar7]

Within the Caribbean colour and race is always in the forefront and defines who you are and how your treated. The history of colonization and the plantocracy system still trickles down into society today. For example in Barbados Whites, Blacks, and people who are "mixed" stick to their own groups and do not mix. It's a fact. The colour of your skin depending on how dark or light you are or if you have "nice" hair or "nappy" is also prevalent.

[LaReginaPatrizia]

You are so insightful Stephanie. You are right, if people have an issue with who you identify with, then there is something within themsleves that they don't like.

[djslyfox]

wonderful piece. Nice job Tiff

[es4800]

I like how she verbalize her innermost thoughts tho on da real im dark skin black & I DIDNT know it was almost detestment 2 ask about yalls ethnicity b/c me bein 4rom da south we always do that 2 get a standpoint if u is "friend or foe" so 2 speak but i'll take 4rom this documentary type video of this female & apply it 2 my everyday life on how I interact wit mixed females

[AidanNagolxxx]

Thanks for making this video, it was very interesting to watch.

[es4800]

u aint lyin fam