Sex, Intimacy, Love: The Fear Chronicles

[U2ber17]

I have a fear of sex and intimacy and i have no clue how to solve them........I'm a 17 year old guy on my V's have trouble talking to girls.....if i want a hook up...well iv never tried interms of a hook up.....but i tlkd to a chick... nice to her....when on a date she wanted to kiss and i just got pain in your gut from anxiety, got so nervous a bit shaky... now im scared of feeling those anxietys again

[Ben141esd]

_YOURFREEGAYWEBSITE._COM_ the song is just wtf??But very funny though and I think that Sasuke is gay even though I'm a girl

[tammpon]

I could am married for almost 11 years so I have no idea what you are talking about sweetie, but I will check out U2bianSynic and try and understand maybe more on this subject! lol

Never really knew you like women the same as I do! I always knew you were way cool for many reason then just being such an adorable lady with wonderful thoughts, but I support you still as I do not judge any one and would welcome a few tips if ya will give! I mean pointers..lol

Take care!

PeaceouTy!

TAMMpON

[ButterRivaLs]

Great video, IS! PM on way. :)

[BOBIzizou87]

I dont want to love anymore cuz it hurts so much. Blah! :`(

[Ravensinger]

You said the same thing I did...I crave intimacy! I have to do a video for Syd but am swamped. Great video Gina...I love hearing your thoughts on this and am looking forward to her chronicles very much!!! I'm fascinated with what makes people tick. HUGS to you sweetie!

[dafttool]

I agree w/what you said about being friends 1st. It's two fold great,... except if it fails, then it's twice as bad as you lose both your best friend & lover. As you can tell, I've been burned, so I know all too well the pain involved. It makes me hesitant to go down that path again, even though I know how wonderful it can be.

Intimacy & sexual intimacy both come easy for me. What's more of a struggle is nonsexual physical intimacy. *blames upbringing* Practice, trust & patience are the cure.

[KimOsh72]

this was a great topic. I have a VERY STRONG fear of intimacy, in relationships, friendships and even with family. I had one relationship with a man who was my best friend before the relationship began. It was the most intense relationship and the hardest to get over once it ended. But you're right, you respect each other and you share soo much of yourself with that person already, I didn't fear intimacy with him. I have a hard time sharing myself with anyone now.

great topic!

[KimOsh72]

on second thought (after watching Travis' video LOL) maybe what I'm experiencing is a fear of people but being intimate still scares me. this was thought provoking.

[TamHickey67]

Absolutely have to agree with this. My wife and I are totally besotted by one another and are our best friends. Intimacy on that level is very deep and priceless.

[ItalianStallionette]

Amen to that Tam! Two snaps up in a Z formation...

[squirrelywrath2]

I agree, there is something about being close close friends first and then moving into something deeper thats so much more intense then just starting to date to begin with. You have so much more invested emotionally.

[Rocketman16]

It's true, there is just sex and there is Sex as a component of Love. It's the emotional aspect of the latter that brings lives together and creates deep relationships....

[ItalianStallionette]

Thank you Rick..She's pretty great. I lucked out this time..

[thenudo]

Great definition of intimacy!! I must admit I am intrigued by the FEAR Chronicles.

[mrmortonblogs]

"I don't let people into certain parts of me"... that made me giggle. I'm such a dude. ;)

[ItalianStallionette]

mrmorton, what does it mean if I think the same way? I'm I a dude?

[mrmortonblogs]

Indeed.

[Ranblv]

I agree with you about your last comment.

being friends first makes it all that much better and intimate.

[TubeSkanke]

Mwah!!!

[ItalianStallionette]

My Skanke!

[txnrobin]

well said, gina. the connection has to be more than sexual. lust fades, then what? trust and respect are inherent.

[ItalianStallionette]

Lust fades? When? LOL

[txnrobin]

lol, it do ;)

[NaturalTwentyFilms]

Great vlog and response. These topics/questions are so hard to define because in each of us, fear manifests itself, both within and without, in different ways. Again, great vlog!

[PooHunny69]

Wow Gina! Great views. I have been trying to come up with something to respond to Syd with, but I'm not sure of what to say. Its such a broad topic. WOW!

[ItalianStallionette]

Then say whatever you want Poo. There's nothing wrong you can say. Whatever is you, is right..

[tlg847]

Nicely said. Trying to describe that connection to someone who's never experienced it is like describing "blue" to a blind person. All you can do is talk around it but you can't really get to it in words.

[ItalianStallionette]

WOW tlg... Nicely stated.. Thank you !

[PlanetRoboGoretex]

are you a gemini?

[ItalianStallionette]

Nope, I'm a scorpio... Don't hold that against me though...LOL

[marquisdejolie]

I REALLY like your channel icon.

:)

[ItalianStallionette]

Thanks marquis!! :)

[fr3thinker]

Great video. Well worth watching - thank you.

Since the original video was on fear, I notice you are not afraid to share your views on intimacy even on video. That is quite something in itself. There are haters out there who makes all sorts of nasty comments. I get them. I block the hate comments I get now after telling them they are the one to be pitied. But being around or vulnerable to hate comments can stop one being intimate on levels too. You are awesome btw.

[ItalianStallionette]

great comment fr3. I have started to think that haters is an over glorified term for the unsuccessful vlogger... haha

[fr3thinker]

It might be but there are haters on here and off here. BTW (as a compliment) I wish I was your girlfriend or boyfriend) :-)

[nbwulf]

Lovely...=)

[Bikermom69]

Great one Gina!

[ItalianStallionette]

Thanks Bikermom..

[Tobie2]

You rock G!

Love OBFF

[ItalianStallionette]

Hello my OBFF... So, do you still like me?

[Tobie2]

How could I not? 

Yer my OBFF and hey maybe we should become blood sisters when yer here LOL

Is it April yet?

[ItalianStallionette]

I wish it was April Tobie... I was see you NOW!

[achampag]

great vlog

=)

[ItalianStallionette]

How are you achampag?

[achampag]

trying to get back to normal, whatever the hell that is...

[RobNorthampton]

I think in any relationship, even a friendship, the first thing that you have to develop is a mutual trust, and maybe a shared sense of humour. Once you have that, the sex, intimacy and love come easily. Over time, all these things together mean you would walk to the ends of the earth to get to one another. That kind of pair bonding, once achieved, can hopefully last a lifetime.

[ItalianStallionette]

Wow Rob.. Great comment! Humor! I should of thought of that one too. This is very important. Laughter creates intimate bonds...hmmm... Just wonderful..

[gandersourcefilms]

i think there's a point where you can become too friends with someone to make love, but not always. nice thoughtful response.

[ItalianStallionette]

Maybe if someone is tooooo much of a friend, and you don't want to have sex with them..then it was a good thing you didn't right away. They were only meant to be your friend? whatcha think?

[gandersourcefilms]

well, obviously having sex with someone alters the dynamic of the friendship, maybe irreversibly. i heard an interesting interview on bbc radio once with gore vidal and one of the ways he characterised the difference between americans and british is he said the latter were much more promiscuous about having sex with their friends. i think he also said he thought it was usually a bad idea. i don't know if he was taking the piss or being sincere, though. :)

[anon2U224]

I've watched all the video responses on LiveVideo and this is unlike any of them. I believe that intimacy without friendship is pure BS. Intimacy only happens in the context of friendship. I do not agree that romantic relationships without friendship can be intimate. It's about the emotional linkage that can form when people are vulnerable. The key is finding someone who is capable of intimacy. Most aren't. You are very lucky. I have also been lucky in this regard. I have known it.

[ItalianStallionette]

I really like the way you think anon.. you have some great points... Maybe you should vlog about it.. hint hint..

[anon2U224]

This would require me to be waaay toooo intimate. lol

[Dlorezzz]

Are you at Chris Crocker's house ? That looks like his sheet you are under.. Dlorezzzzzzzzzzzz

[ItalianStallionette]

HAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHA Dlorezzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

Yes, Chris Crocker is my brother... lol

[Dlorezzz]

Be careful, I think he has sex with his sibblings..

[iheartslug]

That's beautiful. Man, I hope to find love someday. We'll see.

[ItalianStallionette]

iheartslug, love only comes to those who MAKE FREAKIN VIDEOS AT LEAST ONCE A WEEK! :D

[SimplyMelissa101]

I have experienced that intimacy before and you're right there is nothing else like it. You are a rich woman in many many ways.

[ItalianStallionette]

Yeah Melissa.. I'm glad you have too. Make a vlog woman!

[slmeyer22]

Gina, you have expressed such an emotional side here. I love the way you have put this out there. Thanks for saying what I haven't been able to say. YOU ROCK!!

[ItalianStallionette]

Thanks for watching meyer...

[OhCurt]

The friends first thing is enviable, Gina. I've never pulled that off successfully.

BTW (unrelated) really looking forward to April 19th!

:-D

[ItalianStallionette]

lol Curt.. Yeah.. the friend part is pretty important. I wonder if this is a woman thing?? nah..hmmm... maybe.. whatcha think?

[anon2U224]

agree on the friends part, although that is not always easy to do. It takes way too much discipline ..... sometimes. lol

[TimberGeek]

Nope, not a woman thing... At least from my point of view. I've not been intimate friends with enough heterosexual males to make that generalization.

[wdciii]

Listening with agreement. -Dennis

[ItalianStallionette]

Hey Dennis!

[U2bianSynic]

Aw, c'mon!! It's just SIX questions!!! hmmm..maybe I should put them in the text.lol

Selective about who you're intimate with...  That's probably normal. OMIGOD!! Gina's normal!! (I won't tell.)

NOTES:

*Two types of intimacy: friendship, romantic relationship.

*Intimacy shows trust.

*friendship first before romance.

Gina, when I hear you talk about yours and Shari's relationship, it makes me doubt my "Synical" tendencies. :o)

Thanks again!! You're such a sport!!

[ItalianStallionette]

It was sooo not SIX questions Syd! It was like7...or 8 thousand!! Now, I may not be the best at counting, but it was a lot! LOL

Ok, Now you're openly calling me normal!? I thought I told you to keep that a secret. I work hard keeping my secrets... haha

Wow! I had the ability to make you question your 'synical-self'... Hmmmm... Well, you better watch your back. I'm doing the Fear Chronicles!

It's only just begin woman!

[anon2U224]

thousands? definitely hype ...dozens? probably right on. I'm being forced to go through this as many times as it takes to write down each and every question she asks. I fear this will take me days...or weeks.... boy will I be exhausted when I finish, but at least I will truly know the question count. lol

[U2bianSynic]

lol

I put them in the text. It's eleven. :op

[ItalianStallionette]

I think you're cheating Syd...