DOWMIR: "So, if I'm gay I'm sexist towards women for not treating the two sexes exactly the same?" >> I've been WAITING for someone to ask this question and the answer to that is this: If you're homosexual, YES, you are sexist by default for defaulting the opposite gender as obsolete, inferior, immaterial, and unimportant to your gender. You WOULD be sexist, by default, because the act of homosexuality is the declaration of separation from the opposite gender. --The Final Justice
Hold on, I think you missed one point in Coughlans video. How are you suppose to differentiate between someone who is benevolently sexisy and someone who is just benevolent. The problem with your video on "benevolent sexism" is that you give no criteria for anyone to tell when they are behaving benevolently or being "benevolent sexist".
This makes me think that I really can't win, say I buy a woman dinner is that a form of sexism? And if I suggest splitting the bill doesn't that just make me seem cheap? I would think most women would view my assumption that they should pay for half the meal as cheap or even rude. I may be wrong but I'd like to know what people think.
SK8 BAM: "say I buy a woman dinner is that a form of sexism?" >> The gesture in itself is NOT sexist. HOWEVER, to do so in a chivalrous manner IS sexist to BOTH the woman AND especially yourself. First off, a woman is NOT entitled to being treated to dinners, gifts or ANYTHING simply because she's female. That kind of treatment reduces her to a piece of property and elevates her to pedestal status, while reducing YOU to ATM machine and elevates you to (HUMAN) property owner. --FJ
Women getting easier jobs is sexist. Women expecting men to lift heavy things is sexist. Women complaining about sexism towards women while ignoring sexism towards men is sexist. Women not taking out as much life insurance as their husbands is sexist. Women not doing hard physical labor is sexist. Women having to have their own separate sports teams instead of competing with men is sexist. Women having complete control of whether to have an abortion or make a man pay child support, sexist.
Men being constantly told by society that they are not real men if they are not willing to give their lives to save women they don't even know is sexist. Women and children first is sexist, why not children first then adults. Men having to ask women out and pay for the date is sexist. Men being forced to work to support women is sexist. Women treating men as success objects is sexist. Women living an average of 7 years longer than men is sexist. Men having no say in their children, sexist.
Sexism against men is way more prevalent and damaging than sexism against women. The sexism against men ends up with men dieing. The sexism against men ends up with women worry about if the man doing stuff for her respects her enough to keep doing stuff for her without looking down on her for it. And if you are not willing to admit that there is sexism against men then that makes you sexist. Chivalry is sexist, against men that is. It states men should do for women based on gender.
The primary reason for someone buying you a drink or taking you out to dinner is because they want to sleep with you, not because you are a woman. The reason that a straight man wouldn't do that for another man is because they aren't attracted to that gender. If a gay guy was to buy another gay guy a drink at a bar I'm sure you wouldn't say that therefore he's a sexist.
I think the real shame is, that good intentioned guys, trying to be nice to someone who happens to be a woman, are labeled by the woman as doing that nice thing MERELY because they are some helpless woman.
The problem isn't men doing nice things, it's women assuming they KNOW the intent of the person doing the nice thing, and that intent being one which would put a woman down.
The real issue is.... that if chivalry is sexist, and something like holding the door open for another human being who happens to be a women, CAN BE MISTAKEN AS SEXIST.
It inherently discourages any man from being nice in those ways, for a woman.
Why do ppl dislike her vids? She's very clear. She doesn't dislike that ppl are nice to women, she's upset by being nice to women but not men. We all need to be nice to everyone. The ppl whining about "fuck this ill never help a woman again!" Are either clueless or feel attacked because they see how sexist they are in actions and expectations and rather than changing they choose to be angry and ignore it.
I unsubscribed after the last sexism video and thought I'd come back and see if any follow-ups had occurred. Fun to see she's still fumfering around with this topic like a blind dog without a bone.
Chivalry is sexist when it is done to a woman who is not sexually attracted to the man who is being chivalrous to her. If, on the other hand, she is sexually attracted to a certain man, she will expect nothing less than chivalrous behavior from him.
the few of your vids from 08/09 that I've seen seemed at the very least borderline fake, meaning, you came off like an actor. and here you are again in 11, so I'm wondering if there was some video where you came out as trolling foe veiw count back then??
You are stupid.....you think you are smart, I see that, nope, you probably should just delete you're account or just shoot yourself because you are really fuckin dumb............Now make me a fuckin sandwich
Hmm... I didn't see this response vid initially it was a bit hidden.
But yes, I totally get your vibe. I'm 49 now and people pretty much snap to and call me "sir", or hold the door open for me when I come up, and its ... kinda sucky.
The thing is one part of me still wants people to treat me as a possible sex monkey and confront me, but on the other hand I know they are just saying "we could prolly kick ur ass so accept this".
What good does this girl bring to the World? All I've seen spew out of her mouth is liberal retardation. Is her brain big enough to defeat liberalism? I don't know...
interestingly enough, there is a "chivalry-now" movement that is trying to distance itself from the sexist attitudes that medieval chivalry had, and more focusing on a "code of honor" for all people...interesting stuff
You'll dominate many who try to argue with you, even if they are too stupid to perceive that.
And before I finish watching, I'll just agree with that Super kind things can be sexist, I find it rather obvious even.
If all sexism(Yes, Including kind acts of sexism) making you feel somewhat smothered, then boohoo, I feel bad that you are being smothered, I hope you find a way to reverse that by not trying to resist men holding up the door for you "What you resist will persist.".
I just wish men and women could swap places for any period of time, all at once. I bet you guys would have just as much to learn from it as us. I mean I've seen plenty of misguided feminism over the years. When I was a teen I used to find the idea of acting different towards females, just because they are females, utterly revolting. Then I grew up and I learned a few things. But if you feel the need to show your physical strength, if that's what feminism is about these days, be my guest.
I hold doors open for women if they're a little way down the corridor, then they have to break into a run. i think "Yeah!! fuck you woman kind. i made you run!!" and then they thank me for it.
You(as a woman) have within you a certain wisdom about things related to men...if you pay too much attention to studies, you won't listen to your gut..and you'll get this...
I have to say that I disagree with your point 1. I think that the intention is what makes an act sexist more then anything. Example:
If I offered to buy a woman dinner because I liked her and wanted to do something nice, then its not sexist.
If I offered to buy a woman dinner because I thought that, as a woman, she had no job and therefore no income to be able to afford to pay for her own dinner, then that would be sexist.
Same act, different intentions, different outcome.
And men do buy each other dinner / get the check, pay for rounds of drinks etc, In fact I cant really think of anything that I would only do for women, ( well, ... : )
I see I am setting myself up there but anyhow ) ... but what is this!?, the 3rd or 4th video you have made on this topic, and I for one still don't understand what the heck you want / expect / or would like to see changed?
... In my observation, the solution to sexism is this:
A man is taken seriously by another man when he feels that the other man has some measure of power or skill about him - either because he's a threat (physically; financially; sexually; intellectually; and so on), a worthy adversary, or someone worthy of respect for some other reason.
In short: The strong subdue the weak. This is the law by which all known living things exist. /People/ who prove that they are strong make the rules.
... I think that if a person observes something they believe is sexist and as a result lose some measure of self-esteem, then the problem lies less with the outside world and more with that person's perception of the outside world - Or, where the observer's perception and self-evaluation /are/ properly calibrated, then the problem lies more in that person's /actual/ (rather than self-perceived) lack of personal empowerment. ...
But to address the topic of your vid, healthyaddict:
At this moment, i don't know if sexism is good or bad, in absolute terms. I think it depends a lot on the people involved in each situation, and how the person who is the recipient or focus of a sexist act perceives that act. I think, ultimately, the best way to handle being the focus of a sexist act is to become, or remain, personally empowered. (And with that empowerment, to not overreact.) ...
Sexism is so prevalent in most world cultures that it is almost imperceptable to most people, i think. There are certain assumptions people consider a priori (for instance in regard to gender roles, or physical prowess - as demonstrated in DeityDestroyer's comment).
The topic of sexism is a challenge to address even without extra resistance, but those things i've mentioned make the topic even harder.
i stay away from women, there have been several unfortunate incidents where i approached women and they either run off screaming into heavy traffic or into a lamp post and knock themselves out.
You can't just go opening the door for anyone. You've only got a limited amount of time. You have to stick to opening the door for those who give you the best chance of getting your genes into the next generation!
Well that doesn't make things ambiguous at all. I understand that there are acts that may be inherently sexist, but there are certainly acts that are not sexist that could be construed as such. If you could, please provide a list of acts that are sexist regardless of intent.
she's come up with her own definition of "chivalry" which doesn't give any regard to the word's historical etymology and how we can apply it's reference to contemporary society. Since women are equal now then why can't chivalry describe women, too? I prefer that approach of thought because it's much more democratic and respectful to all parties.
How exactly can actions regardless of intent be sexist? Let's say Alice finds that Bob opens the door for her. This act in itself cannot be sexist, because Alice cannot select between the hypothesis that Bob opens the door for everyone and the hypothesis that Bob only opens the door for women and is therefore a benevolent sexist just based on this event. Alice has no business whatsoever drawing any conclusions about sexism from it.
Is it still benevolent sexism if you're doing something polite for a woman that you're actually attracted to in order to gain her favor or, at least, attention?
I think that if everyone was nice to everyone, then we would have to worry about sexism. I do agree that sexism exists, and I think that we should be nice to everyone. End of story :)
When I go out with my friends, we buy each other beers... fight over the ticket at our favorite dive, first guy in/out holds the door for everyone, etc. When I hold the door open for a female I don't know, I always worry, given that she doesn't know me, that she will assume I'm a patronozing, sexist bigot. Sometimes I don't hold the door because of that and get dirty looks or hear nasty things muttered about my having been rude. I am a man, and I can't not lose.
I am going to sub to you again... Only because you did not rabidly jump in on the BS that one dude was saying to me.. Means, even if I dissagree with you, you seem be pretty easy going.. so.. I am re-subbing and that dude should take some debate lessons.
I don't think its coincidence, that after you are seen in a video with thunderf00t, that coughlan comes out and makes a video about you, he has probably been waiting for something like this.
@VindicatorReturns You are seriously fucking stupid Vin, did you not see the video i made. Was i antagonistic or angry towards ashely? did i try and provoke drama? NO. I just responded. I've actually shared several PM's with ashley following this video. We get on fine with each other. Just like I get on well with DPRJones even though he's Tf00ts friend.
Chivalry is sexist towards women, that's its whole point. An acknowledgement of the differences between the sexes.
If you haven't noticed yet, men are generally more physically powerful than women. That puts women at a clear disadvantage to men. Chivalry is a negotiated social contract that accepts the physical differences.
We open doors for you as a sign of respect and understanding, and you say thank-you in recognition that if we chose to, we could overpower you.
@DeityDestroyer You open doors for us as a sign of "respect and understanding" that we're not strong enough to open said doors? And then you end your comment with a thinly veiled threat? Just fuck off.
The next time I see a women coming towards a door I'm going through, I'll be sure to let the door go in her face before walking off.
Sometimes its just called being polite. There is absolutely nothing sexist about holding a door for someone and I hold doors for both men and woman if Im going through them and theyre just behind me because I have the manners not to just let it go in their face.
Some women just think WAY too much into it and need to get over it.
@Maca68 It's not really, specifically, about holding the door open. It is just an acknowledgement of the physical differences between man and woman.
Men have been metaphorically opening the door for women for millions of years. That's why men are generally physically superior to women. We have been burdened with being the hunters while women have been the gatherers. The result being that we have now genetically developed more strength.
My girlfriend is 40 and i am 32 and she used to go out with older guys. And compared to guys 20 years older than me? I am not chivalrous, in the sense of i do not treat her like i have to pay for everything for instance.
But i am considerably less sexist than they are and generally value and respect woman a lot more than they do. So i think there is a correlation between how chivalrous and how sexist you are but i guess culture changes over time.
All this incident does is prove once again that an MRA is just as bitchy and hyper-sensitive as a Steinemite neo-feminist. People don't fucking think on this site; they hold their egos out on a stick ready to be bruised; they're whores for negativity, even if they have to imagine it onto something.
It seems you are splitting hairs here.... with technicalities of sexism.... while yes technically you're correct it is sexism... it is in no way offensive (as you stated yourself, it wouldn't offend you) but yes technically it falls on the fringes of sexism... and just because it falls within the definitive boundaries... does it at all make it a bad thing? worth fighting against? I think not... and others clearly agree
Clearly she's one of those people who thinks she has the best view on absolutely everything, has a real problem with masculinity, aggressively pro-choice, covers topics with a veneer of patronising and defensive sarcasm.
Interesting how these traits tend to accompany one another. I've seen a few women who act the same way. They often have a problem with men and don't seem comfortable being women.
Personally I think she's ugly inside. Smart-arsed bitch. (sorry was that "hostile sexism"?)
I feel sorry for her. She clearly has a problem with men, and no understanding about how men and women relate to each other socially.
Instead, she appeals to this "benevolent sexism" nonsense and that all us men are culturally predisposed to regard women as weak and helpless.
No HealthyAddict, it is YOU who regard women as weak and helpless, since you are the one insecure about the role of your own gender in society - otherwise you wouldn't have a problem with what men do.
I only have sex with women. This is an example of doing something with (for?) a woman that I would not do for a man. The majority of the population is straight and thus only has sex with one gender group. Does this make sex itself a sexist act?
He is just a fucking troll. If you ackowledge him, he gets into your head.... and see what happended to thunderf00t when he let that stupid fucking junkie get into his head.
Ignore Coughlan. Ignore the troll. He is uncivilized and only wants attention and drama.
@b14blah As of yet there has been no technology that can transmit smells over distance, so I would look more closely at your own environment for the offending element.
"If you only commit that act for one sex and not the other it is sexism".
So...being straight or gay is being sexist? Because I know hell of a lot of people that would only commit the act of inducing an orgasm (not themselves included) into ONE sex. Either consider yourself PWNED to bits or explain further. Ciao!
It is easier to follow the rules of the road. When the elevator door opens I let women go ahead because there is that kind of expectation. when I come to a 4 way stop sign I let the guy on the right go before me if we arrived at the same time. Just a convention.
@motogriso1 Actually letting women go first is social programming, where society would say if a man being physically stronger barged past he would be considered an unaware brut and be shamed for that by the community in not showing chivalry.Where women via empowerment barge past men all the time because they expect men to move for them. Chivalry has come to form a part of male oppression.You can see in my statement here that the cause of chivalry is forced onto man, he must protect himself by it
So in the end what you're saying is that I'm a sexist, oppressive son of a bitch for putting the acts of kindness I was taught 'by women' (mother, aunts, grandmother) as a child in practice.
BUT that you don't mind as long as it benefits you in some way or other.
You really do need to learn to keep that yap shut and stop putting your own foot in your mouth
@BENY0HAMA Why am i an idiot.? It's quite obvious that i wasnt the only person who wasnt sure about Ashley's original video. Next time im unsure of something i wont bother asking out of fear of seeming an idiot shall i?
We're people who should make an effort to understand *each other*, and we should worry far less about correcting imperfections in our "cultural history". If a guy is opening the door (for example) ask yourself if he *really* means to patronize you or whether he's simply not on your same wavelength about "cultural history". Get pissed if he's being a jackass. Don't get pissed if he genuinely means well. It's Not That Hard.
so what if i woman opens another woman. is her femininity challenged?
what about transgender people? pretty sexist of you to not include them.
and its not the acts! it is how people perceive them. just as you see all acts as sexist acts. i will not, i would see them as random acts of kindness.
@MsRobotRock My Boss tries to say that "perception is reality" when more often than not, nothing could be farther from the truth. Perception cannot be reality since perceptions are often mistaken.
The Christian influence on chivalry, unfortunately, is undeniable but was originally a code of conduct to protect and honor weaker members of society. Also, to maintain peace, and to protect the church. Later, religion became more tolerant of war, leading to the Crusades.
@Kamidake83 Not sure if you're being serious, but don't get charged for assault no matter who it is. If you're practicing a martial art, then refusing to hit a woman in that situation is worrying about nothing.
@whiteflagstoo Yes, i was actually trying to be serious with my question. I received some flack the other day from some co-workers for admitting that i would hit a woman under the correct circumstances. Now i don't make it a practice to go around hitting women, or men for that matter, but if it's life or death, or maybe some rough kinky sex, yeah I'd do it. And with that i am labeled as a woman hater/abuser, and when i called them out on them out on this as being sexist i was met with a shrug
@Kamidake83 Yeah that all resonates with me. It's really easy to make logical leaps about what purpose physical contact has. I'll give you a real world example. A mutual friend of my sister's was talking to me and I noticed some bruises and stuff: it turns out he liked sex rough. But you're right, "don't hit girls" is quite sexist because it's a mixed message that, if you don't think about it, doesn't have great things to say about either gender.
Being kind and helpful to all people is best. Being that way to only certain groups of people is condescending. Being that way to no one makes you a jerk. I've encountered a number of men who used to be in category 2, but became jerks because of the reaction they got.
Chivalry itself is not sexist. It's about stepping in to make things easier for someone in a specific moment. If I hold the door open for you it's probably because not doing so is rude or detrimental to you. Sexism sneaks in when you favour women not based on the actual need but on perceived need.
Note however, that one of the studies you mentioned, had a person help out someone, and this was regarded as sexist (by the researchers, and given the result, probably also the subjects), simply because he was male and the one he helped was female, completely disregarding any indication as to whether it was made simply because she was female, or just to help out a fellow human (that is to say, that is how you portrayed it)
No offense, but I know what you were kinda trying to say in the first video I just think you explained it poorly and I don't think this video really helps.
Ladies open doors for me all the time, my wife pumps the gas, and I do the dishes, but I still have to change the oil and mow the lawn. I accept this compromise in benevolent sexism, because I am not looking forward to shaving my arm pits, or to her hairy legs, if it only costs me an oil change to keep her mowing her lawn.
I'm glad you added the part about women propagating this as much if not more so than men part. I've NEVER had a women appear offended when I opened a door for them, but I've had many give me the "are you going to be a gentleman, and open the door for me" look, and even sigh like I was an asshole if I don't react quickly enough and they have to open it for me.
It's sexist for a woman to shave her armpits because only women shave their armpits in our society so that makes women that don't shave their armpits feel ostracized simply becasue they do not shave their armpits. Women are sexist against women. Check and mate.
By this logic me not punching a woman in the face if she talks shit to me or randomly slaps me or whatever would be sexist since i would probably punch a man for the same thing.
I doubt many women would like it if men really treated them the same as they would other men in certain situations.
@VioletRice True, you shouldn't just go around punching anyone in the face, but most guys would be more resistant to hitting a woman than they would a man. Even if she initiated it.
You do nice things for one gender and not much for the other is considered sexist. I get that. Like, I hold doors opened for everybody. But of course, if that person happens to be a woman, well....some women will think that's being sexist, and making such assumption pisses me off.
Lets say hypothetically, you are walking out of an establishment when a person (male/female, older/younger) is walking in. They reach the door just ahead of you and instead of holding the door open or waiting for you to leave, they just open the door and walk right past you without paying no mind at all. Do you think "what a fucking asshole" as most would or is that train of thought gender/age determined?
My main problem with this way of thinking is it reminds me of how Christians address homosexuals "Oh we don't hate gay people we just hate the sin." When you say that a man may not be sexist, but his actions are, sounds a lot like the hate the sin not the gays thing.
I think there's a cultural difference here. The U.K. is an insanely polite country, and it's almost mandatory to hold doors open for people etc. I believe Coughlan is seeing things through a British perspective, where these behaviors are FAR more formalised.
This is just based on assumptions. If someone's nice why not shut the fuck up and take it as a nice gesture. If you want attention for making up some bullshit to shock people why not do something constructive instead of jumping on people who do acts of kindness by assuming life is a dating sim and they just cleared an event.
So carry something for an old lady is both sexist and ageist. How fucked up is it that you can turn something benign and helpful into something negative.
Ashley, at 2:10 you make a point I kind of disagree with. I don't really consider it sexist if the person is doing the behavior in order to gain a girlfriend, or in order to treat their girlfriend/wife. The only thing to balance it would be if other women (in general) (or homosexual men) did the same thing to get men, which I suppose they don't do, but I'd consider that sort of a non-action type of sexisism, because some women are sort-of conditioned to not impose upon men. Understand my point?
@MsHojat I think your point that inaction can be sexist is valid. But it does come from gender roles being synergetic. So yes if only one sex is passive and the other is active, the whole pattern is sexist. So to call the active side sexist I do not think is problematic, because it recognizes it. And yes, the non-sexist solution is indeed that people are actively nicer to each other, regardless of sex, age or shirt-color.
I saw your other vid than his. I think in your last video you overstated which your message was lost. I see what you were trying to say yet I know why most thought there was a very extreme message. I am glad you took the time to explain it.
I open the door for everyone... Male or female. If I perform an action out of courtesy, it's out of courtesy. To assume anything else from it is offensive and I'm more than happy to rebuke anyone who assumes anything other than courtesy from any actions I take in this regard.
I've had women look at me funny for holding doors open, completely ignoring the fact that I had held open the door for the guy standing right behind her. I've been tempted to point out the misandry in that, but why bother?
You're very cute. :3
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Your making an observation with out an explanation for why these things are. So...basically you've taken one step. Step 2 please.
mzyzer19 1 month ago in playlist Sexism 101
So, if I'm gay I'm sexist towards women for not treating the two sexes exactly thesame?
Dowmiir 1 month ago
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FinalJusticeMovement 1 month ago
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Hold on, I think you missed one point in Coughlans video. How are you suppose to differentiate between someone who is benevolently sexisy and someone who is just benevolent. The problem with your video on "benevolent sexism" is that you give no criteria for anyone to tell when they are behaving benevolently or being "benevolent sexist".
EmperorLibertarian 1 month ago
I'm a girl and I love chivalry....
bandgeek5353 1 month ago
@bandgeek5353 and I'm a girl and I don't care for it at all. My guy friends always get defensive when I offer to pay for their meals...
Misayra 1 month ago
This makes me think that I really can't win, say I buy a woman dinner is that a form of sexism? And if I suggest splitting the bill doesn't that just make me seem cheap? I would think most women would view my assumption that they should pay for half the meal as cheap or even rude. I may be wrong but I'd like to know what people think.
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FinalJusticeMovement 1 month ago
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SK8 BAM:
"And if I suggest splitting the bill
doesn't that just make me seem cheap?"
>> NO! It makes you HUMAN, it makes you RESPECTABLE,
and most importantly, it declares YOUR EQUALITY to the
woman, who is CAPABLE of paying her own way (especially
since they own the MAJORITY of worldly income).
(to be continued)
--The Final Justice
FinalJusticeMovement 1 month ago
SK8 BAM:
"I would think most women would view my assumption
that they should pay for half the meal as cheap or even rude."
>> That's because you're not thinking clearly enough to recognize
your own self-worth. What's RUDE is a woman's assumption that
men should ALWAYS pay for the meal... PERIOD, let alone half.
No, Bam, that's HER being not only cheap, but also disingenuous,
selfish, and complteley UNWORTHY of your time, your respect,
or even your breath. You deserve better.
--FJ
FinalJusticeMovement 1 month ago
@healthyaddict unlike most you convey your thoughts on this topic quite concisely and within reason, hence i shall subscribe and view :)
1Jivan642 2 months ago
I'll open the door for anyone. If a woman thinks I'm being sexist, that's her problem.
ClumsyRoot 2 months ago
"What's wrong with being sexy?" ~ Nigel Tufnel
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ClumsyRoot 2 months ago
Women getting easier jobs is sexist. Women expecting men to lift heavy things is sexist. Women complaining about sexism towards women while ignoring sexism towards men is sexist. Women not taking out as much life insurance as their husbands is sexist. Women not doing hard physical labor is sexist. Women having to have their own separate sports teams instead of competing with men is sexist. Women having complete control of whether to have an abortion or make a man pay child support, sexist.
johnman1911 2 months ago
Men being constantly told by society that they are not real men if they are not willing to give their lives to save women they don't even know is sexist. Women and children first is sexist, why not children first then adults. Men having to ask women out and pay for the date is sexist. Men being forced to work to support women is sexist. Women treating men as success objects is sexist. Women living an average of 7 years longer than men is sexist. Men having no say in their children, sexist.
johnman1911 2 months ago
Sexism against men is way more prevalent and damaging than sexism against women. The sexism against men ends up with men dieing. The sexism against men ends up with women worry about if the man doing stuff for her respects her enough to keep doing stuff for her without looking down on her for it. And if you are not willing to admit that there is sexism against men then that makes you sexist. Chivalry is sexist, against men that is. It states men should do for women based on gender.
johnman1911 2 months ago
Benevolent sexism is a stupid concept, period, only a modern feminist would come up with such a thing.
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unhappy4life9 2 months ago
The primary reason for someone buying you a drink or taking you out to dinner is because they want to sleep with you, not because you are a woman. The reason that a straight man wouldn't do that for another man is because they aren't attracted to that gender. If a gay guy was to buy another gay guy a drink at a bar I'm sure you wouldn't say that therefore he's a sexist.
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TheReasonWhyGuy 3 months ago
I think the real shame is, that good intentioned guys, trying to be nice to someone who happens to be a woman, are labeled by the woman as doing that nice thing MERELY because they are some helpless woman.
The problem isn't men doing nice things, it's women assuming they KNOW the intent of the person doing the nice thing, and that intent being one which would put a woman down.
TheReasonWhyGuy 3 months ago
The real issue is.... that if chivalry is sexist, and something like holding the door open for another human being who happens to be a women, CAN BE MISTAKEN AS SEXIST.
It inherently discourages any man from being nice in those ways, for a woman.
TheReasonWhyGuy 3 months ago
Why do ppl dislike her vids? She's very clear. She doesn't dislike that ppl are nice to women, she's upset by being nice to women but not men. We all need to be nice to everyone. The ppl whining about "fuck this ill never help a woman again!" Are either clueless or feel attacked because they see how sexist they are in actions and expectations and rather than changing they choose to be angry and ignore it.
XXBleedingrose 3 months ago
I unsubscribed after the last sexism video and thought I'd come back and see if any follow-ups had occurred. Fun to see she's still fumfering around with this topic like a blind dog without a bone.
QuimbyMouse 3 months ago
Screw that, I'm never helping another female again, regardless of age. Only my wife, screw old ladies and little girls.
billyrubinbrown 3 months ago
i am an asshole equally to males and females. That is, if i dont like them, i dont just act like an asshole to everybody.
naturalistmind 3 months ago
Chivalry is sexist when it is done to a woman who is not sexually attracted to the man who is being chivalrous to her. If, on the other hand, she is sexually attracted to a certain man, she will expect nothing less than chivalrous behavior from him.
shmiggen 3 months ago
What a fucking juvenile perspective. Enjoy your first year in college.
Pizuzuzimmer 3 months ago
The very definition of how stupid you wind up being as a result of half an education.
Pizuzuzimmer 3 months ago
the few of your vids from 08/09 that I've seen seemed at the very least borderline fake, meaning, you came off like an actor. and here you are again in 11, so I'm wondering if there was some video where you came out as trolling foe veiw count back then??
OPE08 3 months ago
You remind me of Captain Janeway! (it's a GOOD thing!)
mrzombiepants 3 months ago
You are stupid.....you think you are smart, I see that, nope, you probably should just delete you're account or just shoot yourself because you are really fuckin dumb............Now make me a fuckin sandwich
DNA1056 3 months ago
Hmm... I didn't see this response vid initially it was a bit hidden.
But yes, I totally get your vibe. I'm 49 now and people pretty much snap to and call me "sir", or hold the door open for me when I come up, and its ... kinda sucky.
The thing is one part of me still wants people to treat me as a possible sex monkey and confront me, but on the other hand I know they are just saying "we could prolly kick ur ass so accept this".
Oh, the trade offs.
threeofwands 3 months ago
Look at these nonentities argueing about nonsense.. LOL and look at all the sheep...
haha...wow s
iCOOLFACE 3 months ago
Your lips look nasty Bitch!
pacbiggiecom 3 months ago
so she divorced her military husband. the she says military men are evil?
happyninslave 3 months ago
@DesBlackmore The guy she's responding to is named Richard...
VioletRice 3 months ago
What good does this girl bring to the World? All I've seen spew out of her mouth is liberal retardation. Is her brain big enough to defeat liberalism? I don't know...
happyninslave 3 months ago
hmm makes sense...
interestingly enough, there is a "chivalry-now" movement that is trying to distance itself from the sexist attitudes that medieval chivalry had, and more focusing on a "code of honor" for all people...interesting stuff
rationallegomaniac 3 months ago
You really seem to like that:
"Now get your ass to bed. I'll fuck you later."
Don't worry, I do get the irony. Keep up the good work with the sexist videos and clarifications, Ash. Thanks!
You had mentioned a while back that you may eventually talk about the psychology of belief. Can we expect that any time soon?
satanaugustine 4 months ago
You'll dominate many who try to argue with you, even if they are too stupid to perceive that.
And before I finish watching, I'll just agree with that Super kind things can be sexist, I find it rather obvious even.
If all sexism(Yes, Including kind acts of sexism) making you feel somewhat smothered, then boohoo, I feel bad that you are being smothered, I hope you find a way to reverse that by not trying to resist men holding up the door for you "What you resist will persist.".
Eraisu 4 months ago
I'm never going to help a woman ever as of now.
The next time you need to carry something heavy, don't come crying to me do it for you, if that's the way you want it to be.
Maca68 4 months ago
@MrLordLaws Little bitch.
DionLaurent1 4 months ago
Whoa, you look like you never left the 1990's. That's hot.
lessconcerned 4 months ago
There was NOTHING wrong with your Chivalry Sucks video!
DionLaurent1 4 months ago
@DionLaurent1 lol u again! hahaha
Buntzums 4 months ago
@Buntzums what's that suppose to mean? This isn't your video. So that comment is moot.
DionLaurent1 4 months ago
@DionLaurent1 ok... well.... u again lol
Buntzums 4 months ago
@Buntzums Wow, troll much?
DionLaurent1 4 months ago
I just wish men and women could swap places for any period of time, all at once. I bet you guys would have just as much to learn from it as us. I mean I've seen plenty of misguided feminism over the years. When I was a teen I used to find the idea of acting different towards females, just because they are females, utterly revolting. Then I grew up and I learned a few things. But if you feel the need to show your physical strength, if that's what feminism is about these days, be my guest.
sorin7486 4 months ago
I open doors, help people out with carrying heavy things for both men and women, regardless of gender.
MarkJohansen123 4 months ago
sexism is ok sometimes and not ok sometimes.
greenghost2008 4 months ago
okay.. now i do have a problem with your point#1)
What you are basically saying is that intend doesnt matter.
and i think you're wrong, intend does matter, a lot.
bla34112 4 months ago
here is one small disagreement i have.
What if a man is being chivalrous to women with the specific purpose of doing her?
Basically, courting.
Chivalry yes, in general rule i agree with you, but Courting, trying to get laid, is that a sexist act?
bla34112 4 months ago
I hold doors open for women if they're a little way down the corridor, then they have to break into a run. i think "Yeah!! fuck you woman kind. i made you run!!" and then they thank me for it.
spunkternal 4 months ago
You(as a woman) have within you a certain wisdom about things related to men...if you pay too much attention to studies, you won't listen to your gut..and you'll get this...
xy11xy 4 months ago
Thinking about the terrible COST of me opening door for women.. Nooo not get it at all :-P
SamuelRust 4 months ago
Woman are only worth 1/2 of men problem?
juangta117 4 months ago
I have to say that I disagree with your point 1. I think that the intention is what makes an act sexist more then anything. Example:
If I offered to buy a woman dinner because I liked her and wanted to do something nice, then its not sexist.
If I offered to buy a woman dinner because I thought that, as a woman, she had no job and therefore no income to be able to afford to pay for her own dinner, then that would be sexist.
Same act, different intentions, different outcome.
jbiemans77 4 months ago
My favorite difference between the sexes is the physical part.
connerjd 4 months ago
And men do buy each other dinner / get the check, pay for rounds of drinks etc, In fact I cant really think of anything that I would only do for women, ( well, ... : )
I see I am setting myself up there but anyhow ) ... but what is this!?, the 3rd or 4th video you have made on this topic, and I for one still don't understand what the heck you want / expect / or would like to see changed?
HandsInMyHead 4 months ago
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HandsInMyHead 4 months ago
... In my observation, the solution to sexism is this:
A man is taken seriously by another man when he feels that the other man has some measure of power or skill about him - either because he's a threat (physically; financially; sexually; intellectually; and so on), a worthy adversary, or someone worthy of respect for some other reason.
In short: The strong subdue the weak. This is the law by which all known living things exist. /People/ who prove that they are strong make the rules.
vclxrr 4 months ago
... I think that if a person observes something they believe is sexist and as a result lose some measure of self-esteem, then the problem lies less with the outside world and more with that person's perception of the outside world - Or, where the observer's perception and self-evaluation /are/ properly calibrated, then the problem lies more in that person's /actual/ (rather than self-perceived) lack of personal empowerment. ...
vclxrr 4 months ago
But to address the topic of your vid, healthyaddict:
At this moment, i don't know if sexism is good or bad, in absolute terms. I think it depends a lot on the people involved in each situation, and how the person who is the recipient or focus of a sexist act perceives that act. I think, ultimately, the best way to handle being the focus of a sexist act is to become, or remain, personally empowered. (And with that empowerment, to not overreact.) ...
vclxrr 4 months ago
Sexism is so prevalent in most world cultures that it is almost imperceptable to most people, i think. There are certain assumptions people consider a priori (for instance in regard to gender roles, or physical prowess - as demonstrated in DeityDestroyer's comment).
The topic of sexism is a challenge to address even without extra resistance, but those things i've mentioned make the topic even harder.
vclxrr 4 months ago
i stay away from women, there have been several unfortunate incidents where i approached women and they either run off screaming into heavy traffic or into a lamp post and knock themselves out.
fewthinkers 4 months ago
Dick sweety? That's not sexist?
sowcratees 4 months ago 5
@sowcratees ya sounds pretty sexist to me..but i guess it only goes one way, only men can be sexist to these types of women
xBecka88x 3 months ago
I try to be courteous to everyone but I only buy dinner for people I want to sleep with.
moodydaniel 4 months ago
Chivalry is sexist. It oppresses men (and women). Gender-based "jobs" are oppressive. Patriarchy is actually bad for males.
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You can't just go opening the door for anyone. You've only got a limited amount of time. You have to stick to opening the door for those who give you the best chance of getting your genes into the next generation!
fluffymcdeath 4 months ago
"An act can be sexist regardless of intent."
Well that doesn't make things ambiguous at all. I understand that there are acts that may be inherently sexist, but there are certainly acts that are not sexist that could be construed as such. If you could, please provide a list of acts that are sexist regardless of intent.
therealeeeo 4 months ago
Note to self, feminism is stupid.
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she's come up with her own definition of "chivalry" which doesn't give any regard to the word's historical etymology and how we can apply it's reference to contemporary society. Since women are equal now then why can't chivalry describe women, too? I prefer that approach of thought because it's much more democratic and respectful to all parties.
sesopenko 4 months ago
How exactly can actions regardless of intent be sexist? Let's say Alice finds that Bob opens the door for her. This act in itself cannot be sexist, because Alice cannot select between the hypothesis that Bob opens the door for everyone and the hypothesis that Bob only opens the door for women and is therefore a benevolent sexist just based on this event. Alice has no business whatsoever drawing any conclusions about sexism from it.
TheEfkk 4 months ago 13
If chivalry makes a woman feel that she's more fragile than men, well what can I say... the truth sucks?
Cyber000000 4 months ago
Is it still benevolent sexism if you're doing something polite for a woman that you're actually attracted to in order to gain her favor or, at least, attention?
gambleor 4 months ago
So is having sex… sexist?
danmonsterhog 4 months ago
Oh boy. This is really clear to me now.
smpaudio 4 months ago
I think that if everyone was nice to everyone, then we would have to worry about sexism. I do agree that sexism exists, and I think that we should be nice to everyone. End of story :)
JefRob7 4 months ago
When I go out with my friends, we buy each other beers... fight over the ticket at our favorite dive, first guy in/out holds the door for everyone, etc. When I hold the door open for a female I don't know, I always worry, given that she doesn't know me, that she will assume I'm a patronozing, sexist bigot. Sometimes I don't hold the door because of that and get dirty looks or hear nasty things muttered about my having been rude. I am a man, and I can't not lose.
dorkrock 4 months ago
I am going to sub to you again... Only because you did not rabidly jump in on the BS that one dude was saying to me.. Means, even if I dissagree with you, you seem be pretty easy going.. so.. I am re-subbing and that dude should take some debate lessons.
compman67 4 months ago
I don't think its coincidence, that after you are seen in a video with thunderf00t, that coughlan comes out and makes a video about you, he has probably been waiting for something like this.
VindicatorReturns 4 months ago
@VindicatorReturns You are seriously fucking stupid Vin, did you not see the video i made. Was i antagonistic or angry towards ashely? did i try and provoke drama? NO. I just responded. I've actually shared several PM's with ashley following this video. We get on fine with each other. Just like I get on well with DPRJones even though he's Tf00ts friend.
Coughlan000 4 months ago
That was funny as shit at the end!
RosieDesire 4 months ago
Chivalry is sexist towards women, that's its whole point. An acknowledgement of the differences between the sexes.
If you haven't noticed yet, men are generally more physically powerful than women. That puts women at a clear disadvantage to men. Chivalry is a negotiated social contract that accepts the physical differences.
We open doors for you as a sign of respect and understanding, and you say thank-you in recognition that if we chose to, we could overpower you.
Be careful what you wish for.
DeityDestroyer 4 months ago 14
@DeityDestroyer You open doors for us as a sign of "respect and understanding" that we're not strong enough to open said doors? And then you end your comment with a thinly veiled threat? Just fuck off.
AylinIsAwesome 4 months ago
@DeityDestroyer Don't worry then.
The next time I see a women coming towards a door I'm going through, I'll be sure to let the door go in her face before walking off.
Sometimes its just called being polite. There is absolutely nothing sexist about holding a door for someone and I hold doors for both men and woman if Im going through them and theyre just behind me because I have the manners not to just let it go in their face.
Some women just think WAY too much into it and need to get over it.
Maca68 4 months ago
@Maca68 It's not really, specifically, about holding the door open. It is just an acknowledgement of the physical differences between man and woman.
Men have been metaphorically opening the door for women for millions of years. That's why men are generally physically superior to women. We have been burdened with being the hunters while women have been the gatherers. The result being that we have now genetically developed more strength.
Chivalry is the social recognition of that fact.
DeityDestroyer 4 months ago 8
My girlfriend is 40 and i am 32 and she used to go out with older guys. And compared to guys 20 years older than me? I am not chivalrous, in the sense of i do not treat her like i have to pay for everything for instance.
But i am considerably less sexist than they are and generally value and respect woman a lot more than they do. So i think there is a correlation between how chivalrous and how sexist you are but i guess culture changes over time.
So be happy and get the sand out of your vagina
srspower 4 months ago
All this incident does is prove once again that an MRA is just as bitchy and hyper-sensitive as a Steinemite neo-feminist. People don't fucking think on this site; they hold their egos out on a stick ready to be bruised; they're whores for negativity, even if they have to imagine it onto something.
niriop 4 months ago
Most girls I know love it when guys are chivalrous.
dugganater 4 months ago
It seems you are splitting hairs here.... with technicalities of sexism.... while yes technically you're correct it is sexism... it is in no way offensive (as you stated yourself, it wouldn't offend you) but yes technically it falls on the fringes of sexism... and just because it falls within the definitive boundaries... does it at all make it a bad thing? worth fighting against? I think not... and others clearly agree
Triathlete5551 4 months ago
I'm sure this is an issue with some people, but I treat both Men and Women the same with regards to what I'll do for them (which is most things)
Now my sexual orientation (bi) may have something to do with that? But that's only an untested hypothesis
spursdude92 4 months ago
Clearly she's one of those people who thinks she has the best view on absolutely everything, has a real problem with masculinity, aggressively pro-choice, covers topics with a veneer of patronising and defensive sarcasm.
Interesting how these traits tend to accompany one another. I've seen a few women who act the same way. They often have a problem with men and don't seem comfortable being women.
Personally I think she's ugly inside. Smart-arsed bitch. (sorry was that "hostile sexism"?)
LoneRookRS1 4 months ago
I feel sorry for her. She clearly has a problem with men, and no understanding about how men and women relate to each other socially.
Instead, she appeals to this "benevolent sexism" nonsense and that all us men are culturally predisposed to regard women as weak and helpless.
No HealthyAddict, it is YOU who regard women as weak and helpless, since you are the one insecure about the role of your own gender in society - otherwise you wouldn't have a problem with what men do.
LoneRookRS1 4 months ago
I only have sex with women. This is an example of doing something with (for?) a woman that I would not do for a man. The majority of the population is straight and thus only has sex with one gender group. Does this make sex itself a sexist act?
vexgodglove 4 months ago
Why are you responding to Coughlan??
He is just a fucking troll. If you ackowledge him, he gets into your head.... and see what happended to thunderf00t when he let that stupid fucking junkie get into his head.
Ignore Coughlan. Ignore the troll. He is uncivilized and only wants attention and drama.
ulladullahsen 4 months ago
I hope you brushed your teeth when you showered. You got some viscious morning breath.
Yours truly,
The Sexist
b14blah 4 months ago
@b14blah As of yet there has been no technology that can transmit smells over distance, so I would look more closely at your own environment for the offending element.
kamijk 4 months ago
@kamijk Good morning dumbass...it was a joke (and funnier than yours).
b14blah 4 months ago
@b14blah It isn't morning.
kamijk 4 months ago
Isn't real chivalry always finishing last...?
Moontanman 4 months ago
Is having sex…sexist?
danmonsterhog 4 months ago
Ashley..... hi :-).... I like your hair.... :-)
fullygodfullyhuman 4 months ago
Well shit. I'm sexist. I can live with that.
TheFallenBeard 4 months ago 4
"If you only commit that act for one sex and not the other it is sexism".
So...being straight or gay is being sexist? Because I know hell of a lot of people that would only commit the act of inducing an orgasm (not themselves included) into ONE sex. Either consider yourself PWNED to bits or explain further. Ciao!
chiggevara 4 months ago
It is easier to follow the rules of the road. When the elevator door opens I let women go ahead because there is that kind of expectation. when I come to a 4 way stop sign I let the guy on the right go before me if we arrived at the same time. Just a convention.
motogriso1 4 months ago
@motogriso1 Actually letting women go first is social programming, where society would say if a man being physically stronger barged past he would be considered an unaware brut and be shamed for that by the community in not showing chivalry.Where women via empowerment barge past men all the time because they expect men to move for them. Chivalry has come to form a part of male oppression.You can see in my statement here that the cause of chivalry is forced onto man, he must protect himself by it
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Oh no, another sexism video. Zzzzzzz.
goosed1 4 months ago
So in the end what you're saying is that I'm a sexist, oppressive son of a bitch for putting the acts of kindness I was taught 'by women' (mother, aunts, grandmother) as a child in practice.
BUT that you don't mind as long as it benefits you in some way or other.
You really do need to learn to keep that yap shut and stop putting your own foot in your mouth
puppyXslayer 4 months ago
The problem with grasping the concepts is that people don't disassociate sexism with the negative connotations. It isn't necessarily negative.
daemonowner 4 months ago
Coughlan is an idiot. You were actually pretty easy to interpret in that video.
BENY0HAMA 4 months ago
@BENY0HAMA Why am i an idiot.? It's quite obvious that i wasnt the only person who wasnt sure about Ashley's original video. Next time im unsure of something i wont bother asking out of fear of seeming an idiot shall i?
Coughlan000 4 months ago 2
what a rationale and coherent digression on youtube? i must be dreaming!!
judoisoww 4 months ago
I get what you're saying. It's like when you over do the help for old people - it can be depressing for them and make them feel incompetent.
Dangerman5 4 months ago 4
And by the way -
There's more than one way to be a patronizing a-hole. And this video - literally *oozing* with passive aggressive hostility - is one of them.
geodgereturns 4 months ago
I thought this was about some good morning COCK
lukeism2 4 months ago
This didn't help.
We're people who should make an effort to understand *each other*, and we should worry far less about correcting imperfections in our "cultural history". If a guy is opening the door (for example) ask yourself if he *really* means to patronize you or whether he's simply not on your same wavelength about "cultural history". Get pissed if he's being a jackass. Don't get pissed if he genuinely means well. It's Not That Hard.
geodgereturns 4 months ago
It comes down to intent, and that requires some assumptions by the observer.
unclexbob 4 months ago
so what if i woman opens another woman. is her femininity challenged?
what about transgender people? pretty sexist of you to not include them.
and its not the acts! it is how people perceive them. just as you see all acts as sexist acts. i will not, i would see them as random acts of kindness.
MsRobotRock 4 months ago
@MsRobotRock My Boss tries to say that "perception is reality" when more often than not, nothing could be farther from the truth. Perception cannot be reality since perceptions are often mistaken.
The Christian influence on chivalry, unfortunately, is undeniable but was originally a code of conduct to protect and honor weaker members of society. Also, to maintain peace, and to protect the church. Later, religion became more tolerant of war, leading to the Crusades.
Eldrave20 4 months ago
is it sexist for men to not hit women?
Kamidake83 4 months ago 2
@Kamidake83 Not sure if you're being serious, but don't get charged for assault no matter who it is. If you're practicing a martial art, then refusing to hit a woman in that situation is worrying about nothing.
whiteflagstoo 4 months ago
@whiteflagstoo Yes, i was actually trying to be serious with my question. I received some flack the other day from some co-workers for admitting that i would hit a woman under the correct circumstances. Now i don't make it a practice to go around hitting women, or men for that matter, but if it's life or death, or maybe some rough kinky sex, yeah I'd do it. And with that i am labeled as a woman hater/abuser, and when i called them out on them out on this as being sexist i was met with a shrug
Kamidake83 4 months ago
@Kamidake83 Yeah that all resonates with me. It's really easy to make logical leaps about what purpose physical contact has. I'll give you a real world example. A mutual friend of my sister's was talking to me and I noticed some bruises and stuff: it turns out he liked sex rough. But you're right, "don't hit girls" is quite sexist because it's a mixed message that, if you don't think about it, doesn't have great things to say about either gender.
whiteflagstoo 4 months ago
Being kind and helpful to all people is best. Being that way to only certain groups of people is condescending. Being that way to no one makes you a jerk. I've encountered a number of men who used to be in category 2, but became jerks because of the reaction they got.
CamillaCalamity 4 months ago
Chivalry itself is not sexist. It's about stepping in to make things easier for someone in a specific moment. If I hold the door open for you it's probably because not doing so is rude or detrimental to you. Sexism sneaks in when you favour women not based on the actual need but on perceived need.
AnonEyeMouse 4 months ago
This is good.
Now you've made it clear and accurate.
I approve.
Note however, that one of the studies you mentioned, had a person help out someone, and this was regarded as sexist (by the researchers, and given the result, probably also the subjects), simply because he was male and the one he helped was female, completely disregarding any indication as to whether it was made simply because she was female, or just to help out a fellow human (that is to say, that is how you portrayed it)
ZarlanTheGreen 4 months ago
No offense, but I know what you were kinda trying to say in the first video I just think you explained it poorly and I don't think this video really helps.
CappitranoBellephant 4 months ago
Ladies open doors for me all the time, my wife pumps the gas, and I do the dishes, but I still have to change the oil and mow the lawn. I accept this compromise in benevolent sexism, because I am not looking forward to shaving my arm pits, or to her hairy legs, if it only costs me an oil change to keep her mowing her lawn.
JusticeIsWhere 4 months ago
I'm glad you added the part about women propagating this as much if not more so than men part. I've NEVER had a women appear offended when I opened a door for them, but I've had many give me the "are you going to be a gentleman, and open the door for me" look, and even sigh like I was an asshole if I don't react quickly enough and they have to open it for me.
TheNakedAtheist 4 months ago
go ahead open doors and stuff for women. If they get offended fuck them go on to the next one
kilija383 4 months ago
I have learned helplessness due to benevolent sexism!
natas666971 4 months ago
It's sexist for a woman to shave her armpits because only women shave their armpits in our society so that makes women that don't shave their armpits feel ostracized simply becasue they do not shave their armpits. Women are sexist against women. Check and mate.
geragna 4 months ago
By this logic me not punching a woman in the face if she talks shit to me or randomly slaps me or whatever would be sexist since i would probably punch a man for the same thing.
I doubt many women would like it if men really treated them the same as they would other men in certain situations.
Solidus1086 4 months ago
@Solidus1086 Have you perhaps considered instead not punching men in the face rather than also punching women in the face?
VioletRice 4 months ago
@VioletRice True, you shouldn't just go around punching anyone in the face, but most guys would be more resistant to hitting a woman than they would a man. Even if she initiated it.
hades0013 3 months ago
The point I was trying to make is that if somebody can interpret holding a door opened as sexists, than what else can one interpret as sexist?
Justinfh2point0 4 months ago
You do nice things for one gender and not much for the other is considered sexist. I get that. Like, I hold doors opened for everybody. But of course, if that person happens to be a woman, well....some women will think that's being sexist, and making such assumption pisses me off.
Justinfh2point0 4 months ago
Lets say hypothetically, you are walking out of an establishment when a person (male/female, older/younger) is walking in. They reach the door just ahead of you and instead of holding the door open or waiting for you to leave, they just open the door and walk right past you without paying no mind at all. Do you think "what a fucking asshole" as most would or is that train of thought gender/age determined?
richieblackhearted 4 months ago
woh woh wtf are doing out of the kitchen,make us some sammaches
corghhh 4 months ago
My main problem with this way of thinking is it reminds me of how Christians address homosexuals "Oh we don't hate gay people we just hate the sin." When you say that a man may not be sexist, but his actions are, sounds a lot like the hate the sin not the gays thing.
MissGueraLove 4 months ago
I think there's a cultural difference here. The U.K. is an insanely polite country, and it's almost mandatory to hold doors open for people etc. I believe Coughlan is seeing things through a British perspective, where these behaviors are FAR more formalised.
salamirterra 4 months ago
This is just based on assumptions. If someone's nice why not shut the fuck up and take it as a nice gesture. If you want attention for making up some bullshit to shock people why not do something constructive instead of jumping on people who do acts of kindness by assuming life is a dating sim and they just cleared an event.
maxim377 4 months ago
So carry something for an old lady is both sexist and ageist. How fucked up is it that you can turn something benign and helpful into something negative.
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Cheers ashley, thanks for the reply
Coughlan000 4 months ago
I open doors for everyone regardless of gender, but how do women know this? They don't see my door opening acts towards men.
Danoftouni 4 months ago
Ashley, at 2:10 you make a point I kind of disagree with. I don't really consider it sexist if the person is doing the behavior in order to gain a girlfriend, or in order to treat their girlfriend/wife. The only thing to balance it would be if other women (in general) (or homosexual men) did the same thing to get men, which I suppose they don't do, but I'd consider that sort of a non-action type of sexisism, because some women are sort-of conditioned to not impose upon men. Understand my point?
MsHojat 4 months ago
@MsHojat I think your point that inaction can be sexist is valid. But it does come from gender roles being synergetic. So yes if only one sex is passive and the other is active, the whole pattern is sexist. So to call the active side sexist I do not think is problematic, because it recognizes it. And yes, the non-sexist solution is indeed that people are actively nicer to each other, regardless of sex, age or shirt-color.
socrates856 4 months ago
lol, dick sweetie
Dubickimus 4 months ago
l only ever buy flowers for my wife. I would never buy flowers for a man (unless he died) ... am intentionally sexist?
RegretfullyYes 4 months ago
I saw your other vid than his. I think in your last video you overstated which your message was lost. I see what you were trying to say yet I know why most thought there was a very extreme message. I am glad you took the time to explain it.
theatheistgal 4 months ago
Coughlan000??? Isn't he a drug addict? And suicidal? AKA just a teenage girl looking for attention....
LOPS666Orange 4 months ago
@LOPS666Orange I was a drug addict and i once tried to commit suicide...i guess you know some pretty fucked up teenage girls
Coughlan000 4 months ago
@Coughlan000 you tried? That means you failed? FUCK!! That sucks.
LOPS666Orange 4 months ago
I think Richard's point is that how does one ascertain when someone is doing something for politeness, and for paternal reasons?
SiriusMined 4 months ago
I thought this was a porno. I don't get the title
PazouwhProductions 4 months ago
Is she saying "good morning, Dick" or commenting on the quality of morning dick?
andyfnmizac1 4 months ago 13
@andyfnmizac1 That Oxford comma is DANGEROUS!! Also it's probably the best beginning to a video response he's ever received.
DolzaB 4 months ago
The point is really that women should try being chivalrous too.
tdurran 4 months ago
I open the door for everyone... Male or female. If I perform an action out of courtesy, it's out of courtesy. To assume anything else from it is offensive and I'm more than happy to rebuke anyone who assumes anything other than courtesy from any actions I take in this regard.
I've had women look at me funny for holding doors open, completely ignoring the fact that I had held open the door for the guy standing right behind her. I've been tempted to point out the misandry in that, but why bother?
FSAthe1st 4 months ago
what a dum dyke fucking sexist my ass
dopeskies 4 months ago