Prayers for Bobby

[kevinxavier777]

can you be my boyfriend?

[CityStreetShoes]

love this movieee

[thrashdouche21]

very nice

[MrLalala15]

i saw prayers for bobby and cried my eyes out

[816cameron]

Prayers for Bobby will make you weep for humanity. How with all the reasoning used of imaginary beliefs to bring so much hate and pain to gain control of their society and condemn each other. And maybe, just maybe there are some Bobbies out there who will be able to live a full and happy life and bring joy to others, if only the veil of hatred stoked by ignorance can be lifted just ever so little. EVERYONE should see this movie and look within and ask yourself, How can I change this story?

[superflapper2]

Great greetz from Belgium!

[blainebill39]

@coolkid00761

Ciao Bello!

Chris it's Bobby Griffiths' old lover/boyfriend "Blaine" here, just wanting to share with you that I saw Bobbys' Mother Mary, and the rest of the Griffith Clan last week, for the first time since the mid 1990s! We all did spend some time discussing just how proud we were of wonderful young folks like yourself, gay and straight! I want to express just how fricken proud you make me my boy!

Con L'Amore e Molti Baci! (With My Love And Kisses)

Blaine

[tesolonaki]

Hi Chris, I trided to send you an email to ctt3n@virginia.edo but failed permanently said. Were I can write you? Like too much your way to say this things... you are so inteligent and responsable, lol;) Tom

[ErnieFairchild1]

Say "um" as much as you want <3

[mexicancricket7]

i like your vid but you say "um" too much. yet still, your point gets accross buddy:)

[SanguivorousRevenant]

@fruitycunt You are an ignorant person. I have male relatives and friends who were assaulted and none of them are gay. Molesters can be any orientation...rape is a matter of donination of a victim. Get your facts straight and grow up.

[miklo1811281]

@fruitycunt Nice choice of words it's kinda hard not to predict you to become a child abuser or molester (or both).... =)

[chrisbartley88]

@fruitycunt yeah and thats why it was never known, but was truly always there, alot of men have never lived who they really are because of fear, because they where never acceptd so they never acceptd themselfs, its a shame really.

[Madrigal369]

Wow Chris, you're really tough for coming out of the closet. To me that shows the bravery & courage you have. I'm straight, but I do fight for gay rights because no one should be treated in such horrible ways just cuz of their sexuality. It's just down right fucked up(pardon my french, but it sounds fitting). I can't imagine how life struggling that must've been for you or for anyone really. & I admire you for wanting to help out others. That's all I wanted to say, & I wish you the best in life!

[Madrigal369]

@fruitycunt Ok first off, you need to seriously get some manners. & 2nd, you're not the one who has to go through such a hard life. All people who are gay have every right to live how they want to & they should really get some respect. I'm straight, but I accept gay people as my equals, not as a disease of society. If this were YOU doing video blogs about coming out of the closest, you'd be hurt to for some idiot who wrote something nasty to you. & DON'T LIE, YOU WOULD GET HURT.

[benjaminmeraz]

I just saw your video. It pretty good .

[MrCraigfj]

your video was really good,i come out to freinds first,family later on,i come out by writing a letter and leaving it on the shelf for them to read,was the hardest thing to ever do,mum ok with it,dad still cant accept it,i come out at 17 and im 22 now,but all my mates are great towards me,which has really helped,and i try to help other people coming out when i can,as i know its not easy at all,so thanks again for the video,keep up the good work.

[gloss26]

Well done. I can only assume you know you are quite litterally saving lives. I am gay and I mentor young kids. I look forward tro sharing your thoughts and feelings. Your a hero. Peace~

[max231985]

i love :D

[Andrue1338]

this film is so freaking gay!

[Butteye01]

Yes - we only have one life, and a portion of it should be devoted to trying to help others that are not as fortuanate as our selves. Particularly gays in the HOmophobic States of Amerika

Make sure you in your lifetime help other gay people in particular. Gert invovled

[Butteye01]

I've basically devoted my life to trying to end homophobia. And btw - Prayers for Bobby - tthat horrible scxene was one of my inspirations in a sense. And strangely enough, I was in the portland OR area when that suicide happened back in the early 80s if I remember correctly. Although I had no idea what it was about until decades later

And to all of you, never never never let the religious assholes cause you to lose your self respect. Do that and everything that implies, and you'll be fine

[Chann223]

You have great advice chris, even for the older gays who are married. Keep it up. I know your helping alot of people out there, like me.

[Qwerter18]

You are one of THE persons who make the world a better place ;)

Continue!

[Gullytale]

@themossyoak07 NO. It means you're a normal human being capable of loving and being loved. Nothing else matters. Trust me. I'm your granny. But don't tell your mother that. Forget labels kiddo. You only need one. Human being. The bestest you can be. You have a close friend. Be thankful. When you meet someone you really love - you'll know it :-) No one can tell you who you are. Just be you and take care of yourself !!

[separatesix]

@themossyoak07 You maybe could be bisexual.

[dddog71]

Well said! Everyone has to live the life they know is right for them, no matter what peoplke think!

[TheMusiclover2122]

thank you you have helped me so much

[blainebill39]

@coolkid00761

I misspelled "bigotry"

How pathetic!

Thank you again!

Blaine

[blainebill39]

@coolkid00761

May G-D bless you,

Listening to your' video here, I marvel at the boldness and courage you display

while navigating through your' coming out process! Things are so different

from what they were when Bobby and I met and began dating almost 30yrs

ago! Our culture here in the U.S. was mired in biggotry and ignorance.

There were almost no resources such as hotlines or support groupes. The

gay community wasn't much help at the time either! Wow!!!

Again, bless you!

Blaine

[aznboiofpower]

Thanks for such an honest and inspirational video. True words of wisdom.

[bvlgary09]

It amazes me how most gay guys in the U.S. manages to act in a very manly manner. I think it's really decent and cool. I, on the otherhand, am very girly and I sometimes dislike it cuz all the people I meet are like, "hey gurl waddup." :(

[KelliferandLanifer]

yeah your bookshelf is falling apart man you need to rebolt it together or something

[Nancylollypop]

That movie was stupid and gay. he made out with a girl and he chose to be gay.

[shinichi997]

@Nancylollypop

kill you, asshole

[dokolacious]

nice video...and its so charming...good.

[deepbleuswimmer]

It's great that are there for others to talk to who are having problems with being gay.

You're a great guy.

[jaydawg34]

Fantastic video!

[liw213]

Oh My God.What the Hell were Bobby's parents thinking when they did that stuff to him?

[stoodOnAnArk]

God is all things. Those pious ones should stop throwing stones at God. For what you do to the lowest in my kingdom, you do to me!

Yahuah loves his Homos, all of them!!!!!

Call on his name and feel the love.

Repent liars whom take God to court before his people, lest you be judged as you do!

HallEluYah.

[nickjonasismyman33]

aww I hope you find love hun :)

[clarencefields2007]

i saw the movie and it hit me really hard

[itsbradie]

This is really cool. I really appreciate you and your videos. Your so incredible. Thanks so much and ur really attractive.

[batas022]

I saw prayers 4 bobby few days ago, and it had impact on me 2!!!! it is a big deal 2 come out, never easy!!!! good luck everybody!

p.s. u look like a great guy!!!

[jumbobobcleo]

and on the light side, you may be gay, but

your bookcase is not. that thing is gonna

fall over and kill somebody. we wouldnt

want to lose somebody as sweet and

handsome as you. be happy, but please

be tasteful while you are at it. smile!

[gpeddino]

When I came out to my mother, she sat still for a good ten minutes. Then she turned to me and told me that even though she was shocked, she was my mother and would never turn her back on me. Guess I'm a lucky guy. :-)

Thank you for working on these videos and giving some good input on being gay and coming out of the closet. I bet it's quite helpful for loads of people.

By the way, are you single? ;-)

[Anatariel]

thx

[g0ysorg]

Dude, did you know that +63% of the population deals with same gender affections. Most guys are selectively BI. And +63% is NOT a minority. See how messed up society is? Find out more about this stat by checking out the g0ys (spelled w. a zer0) men's movement. G00GLE 'em -I dare ya! G0YS also have an AWESOME section for answering bad religion that preaches hate against SGA. Oh, and "BI" does NOT equal "GAY". Most guys are "BI" & scared sh1tless to admit to it! G0YS -inspired by Bobby G. in 2003

[anthonyok]

@g0ysorg that site is more hateful than most religous stuff ive read, just be yourself, you dont need to define yourself as "gay'" or "g0y" , just be who you are

[g0ysorg]

Interesting: The only group of people who seem to think that the g0ys site is "hateful" are those giving/taking "it" up the arse & thus are the ones responsible for the massive spread of STDs/STIs globally. My sources: the CDC & WHO. When you look at what actions actually CAUSE HARM, --It is the GAY-MALE-COMMUNITY that is the "HATE-GROUP". And those statistics DON'T BUDGE. G0YS - spelled w. a zer0: G00GLE 'em!

[raph227]

that video is amazing.. didn't watch the other yet, and i will. thanks :)

[tiklovesaom]

thnk u sir! wow u dont look gay at all. well anyways thnx for the good advice and it really got me thinking. but i still fear and still dunno wat to do. but i feel like i'm in the process of comingout but i am still scared to face it. u got any advice? like u said we only have one life to live and i want to be happy. i saw the trailer prayers for bobby and my eyes watered. its just like me.. but thnx!

[MrVersus001]

hi kind and thoughtful. his exactly like an angel. maybe our saviour from God?

i'm sure angels look like him too.

[jimbobubbadj]

i forgot to add play it safe too.

[jimbobubbadj]

you are kind and a cutie. strike a balance between having fun and putting yourself in danger. enjoy life while you are young, its special.

[primohomme]

You are a cutie!

[Triforce007]

well, im bi, I have told some close friends or people i know would not mind, but i havent told my close family members yet. And there will be some people that will never accept me, well thats their lost.

[koolboyiskool]

im bi too and i tolled some of my closest freinds to and they approve me

im afraid to tell my family that i am bi

[TheJoshanderson192]

your great. Your videos have been helped me some.

[swimmer35]

Great to share your story and you are quite mature. I too wish I were as 'together' as you are at your age. Way to go :)

[drakejoseph25]

nice story

[connectmoi]

Thank you for your time and the thought you put into your videos.

Handsome too btw ;)

[satan163]

sometimes its easier to stay in the closet - Xander (from drawn together)

[roksain]

i agree. i'm gay and live in a very conservative socity. if i go out of the closet then i'll put all the members of my family in risk, because people will dislike them too. maybe i have the right to live the way i want but what right i have to make their lives a shit?!

[Triforce007]

you are a brave and selfless person to put the well being and status of your family before yourself. But sometimes you need to think about yourself, there is nothing wrong with wanting what you want.

[Triforce007]

yes it is easier, but it may not be the right thing to do.

[artavius18]

Man I totally understand wher you're coming from b/c being gay is not easy at all. Dealing with friends and family and yet the world, at time you begin to feel like its you up against the whole world, but what I tell people is to keep yo head up and everything will get better over time.

Much love, Tay

[Alexandernopolis]

:(  .....................

[PurpleNightButterfly]

bravo for you...and i truly agree with you

good luck in your life and i hope you can find love

everyone deserves to be loved and happy

xx

[Alexandernopolis]

Rambling. Inarticulate. Self-indulgent. Aweful.

[johnathanp2010]

Shutup...

[DomesticatedDanger]

*Awful. (Sorry, I'm a grammar Nazi)

[whataboutAlfie]

You're making a lot of good sense Chris. I find it amazing that young men like you are so mature about their homosexuality. I wish I had been half of that when I was your age. I was in a total mess then.

Ciao, take care.

[cocteaucain]

good luck to you buddy.........

[gorfeert18]

i rly like ur video's but um... sry im retarded and i cant stop looking at the bookshelf behind you lol. u know its falling over tight? lol =)

[dindonnet]

lol!!

[reltoc1]

lol! i was thinking the same thing. but great video and thanks for posting it! it has helped me... i am going to come out to my sister next month when i visit her.

[tamestew]

@gorfeert18 LOL... so true. I've had one of those cheap bookshelves too.

[gsotoaz]

geez your physical appearance looks so different from when you first started posting!

[4everdreamzzz]

I still have hard to coming out. Time will tell..

[andrewdb01]

Hey.

You, my friend, are wise beyond your years. It is my prayer that your video continues to offer hope and inspiration for people who feel they have no hope, or perhaps they do but they need more inspiration. We should chat. :) I actually do have some questions for you...send me a message. :)

[riotboy256]

hey i just wanted to say that u helped me out alot but im still kinda nervouse to come out u know . eh my friends know but my famaly doesnt know can u help e ?? i was wondering if u have a my space or facebook or email adress i can talk to u private or somethin ill give u my myspace or something ?/ and yeah

[justjam11432]

i love that movie, it really shows wat a person has to go through, very powerful movie.

[Gavin2Becentie]

WOW, i cant believe parents would actually do that! Like damn....i thought a mother loves no matter what! im so glad my parents still love me for me. I didn't even have to tell them...they came to me and im glad they did. Wish you all the best and hope everything turns out OK!.

[revemupman]

some people are actual parents others are just pro creators HUGE DIFFERENCE

[bluemew88888]

yep my mother said i was an accident and that i was only her son by biology and my dad said hes ashamed of me because im gay.

[dwintter]

aww don't let them get you down. just tell tell your mother that pussy is gross to you as it is to her and vise versa to your father. lol I am just kidding. but you deserve better.

[alxazazel]

Very wise. You are a very wise person and a wise advisor. It's easy to love you for your love of helping people.

[maohuerta]

Wish U the Best ,Greetings from Mexico !!

[oklisten23]

i love ur video and story

[flame132]

I think your an absolutely beautiful person full of kindness. I've watched all your movies, it's a shame you live so far away!

[saralyfe]

I love how everyone is being positive and supporting the gay community. I am Gay myself and i wish that it was the same way in the real world and we didnt have to come out... I wish that someday people would look at it as an ok thing. I Think that you should be able to choose your sexuality and not others, its something you should develop and once it is developed u cannot go back or else it can end up hurting you. Im Proud to be gay =)

[iamglory]

It is awesome you are still answering emails!

[TConradC]

Even thought I have been out for a long time now, I found your videos interesting and watched all of them. I think you are generous to share your life in this way and think are a very fine person. Tom

[dukey96]

Man, you are awesome. I hope you eventually run for political office and get elected. Good luck with school.

[totallywickedangel]

i loved that movie my fav.

[lexZender57732]

Chris, you should continue to post videos. It is uplifting to see how centered you are, how human. Sometimes people like you are the only positive gay image that one can have. I am a reject in many ways. I am too manly for the gay community, too gay for the straight community, too Jewish for my nonJewish friends, and too much of a gentile for my Jewish family. I am too religious for my atheist friends but too much of an atheist for my religious friends. I look too young but I am too old.

Lex

[alxazazel]

Life's ironies for people who seek for themselves (for their inner "I/ego")... Exactly the same thing happens to me: "I am too manly for the gay community, too gay for the straight community..."

[NZlaughs4u]

Hey Thank you..

I think you have an amazing future. You should write a book :D BEt you it would be popular...

[farahkhanum]

You are sooooo cute Chris.

Thx. for sharing your story. I am sure it helps many people. I tried to show this video to my son but he does not want to watch it. He is struggling and is very scared.

He just does not want to be gay.

Please guys,if you need to speak with someone go to your PFLAG chapter near you. We are there to help you or any glbtq member.

[soulclipse27]

That movie is pretty good. It reminded me of my Boyfriend Bobby actually lol. He is having a very hard time with his coming out. He and I have been together for 4 years and about a year into our relationship he decided because he loved me that he needed to tell his family about us. Well he has since started using drugs really bad and is having a hard time dealing with the fact hes in love with a guy and his mom totally rejects me. I wish it was easy for him as it was for me....

[yagatza]

Originally I had just wanted to stay in the closet where it's nice and safe. I didn't want to come out. All the negativity surrounding homosexuality was something I wasn't ready to deal with. But when I was 14 the closet walls came crashing down. My stepmom suspected it and confronted me about it. I told her I was gay and it was the worst moment of my life. She told me it was wrong and god didn't make mistakes. She made me feel so awful about myself. I had seriously thought about suicide.

[yagatza]

continued

I was so lonely. I didn't know any other gays. Well 13 years later it's a lot better. Looking back on my teen years. It was hard to imagine a light at the end of the tunnel. As for my stepmom she has now accepted me and sometimes jokes about me having a boyfriend.

[wejust22]

Thanks for all the help!

I still haven't come out completely with everyone I know, but your videos helped me A LOT when I was struggling to come in terms with myself several months ago.

[unlimitedcuteness]

i am gay and i don't like to came out. i'm afraid my parents would disown me...and yeah, i'm their ONLY son, the rest are girls...what can i do?

[augustenburg]

If you are afraid of your parents reaction, you should not come out to them until you are financially independent.

[unlimitedcuteness]

I mean, to come out. Sorry for the wrong grammar there. Yeah, that is actually my plan - to come out when I'm already financially independent and with my boyfriend for an additional support.

[apostolicguy89]

I'm in a very similar situation except I have a brother who is straight. BUT, I am very rooted in my church and as soon as I come out, I will become un-rooted. As sad as it will make me to have to leave, I won't be welcome there anymore but everything happens for a reason.

[sleekcartim]

i usually tell kids to hold off coming out till they are able to live on their own, you NEVER know how anyone will react. sadly it usally takes a while for parents to cope with it, they may lash out at 1st... peace

[wheaties543]

just wanted to say thanks for all your videos chris! they have helped me so much more than you know. good luck to you and god bless!

[tranquilking]

I came out to my mom last year, but she couldn't accept me. She was embarassed by the fact that her son was gay, so she just kept telling everyone that it was a phase. Everytime I look at my mom I flashback to the day it happened... I don't know where to go from here...

[TopThrillTravis]

Let her believe what she wants... Its a little tough for us to imagine how they feel, but your mom will need time to greave... YES greave! She will greave over the loss of everything she had planned for you. Your mom probably thought that you would grow up meet a nice girl, have kids, etc. and she would of been looking forward to helping out at your wedding, watching her grandchildren, etc.

However, now she is faced with the reality that, her dream for you will never come true. She may be...

[TopThrillTravis]

continued... in denial or maybe your mom just can't deal with it all. She can't be embarrassed by you, because you have done nothing which merits feelings of shame, rather she is embarrassed for herself. She may feel like she failed as a mother and that may be the source of her embarrassment.

One thing our parents will learn is, life goes on... Having a gay son or daughter is NOT the end of the world and eventually once the get a grip on reality and greave properly then it will be easier for...

[TopThrillTravis]

continued again... them to move on, and then acceptance starts. It took my mom a good 2 almost 3 years to accept who I was, every parent deals with this differently, just as some people greave differently than others. If I could give you any advice, its be who you are, not who others want you to be. Hang in there with time I'm sure your mother will come around, and if not maybe she could be in need of a support group like PFLAG or maybe counseling. She will eventually need your support...

[TopThrillTravis]

cont' 4... Just as you need hers, I'm sure that she still wants to be there for you, but she probably just hasn't figured out how yet.

I wish all the best to you and your mother, I hope the two of you can eventually rebuild a relationship that is stronger than the two of you had ever thought posable.

Family is everything, and we don't get to choose who belongs and who doesn't... so work with what you got and love them with all their flaws.

Hang in there tranquilking, peace out

-TopThrillTravis

[camcorderfreak]

good to see you again buddy. You look a lot mature in this video. Wish you the best. And oohh, please post more videos of your daily llive, that would be interesting.

[1108936]

if any one needs some help coming out to their non accepting parents i can help, i will tell my story!

[1108936]

I just came out to my mom last night!!! she did not like it at all but idc im in love with an amazing girl! and if my mom doesnt accept that then she can get over it! all my friends are so supportive! it was so hard to tell my mom though!

[crashovrride01]

I loved Prayers for Bobby. I really hope it gets released on DVD.

[soothingecho17]

he has a dlist =]

well he did, idk if he still does.

[brianv00]

What was the name of that film?

[rextrek]

Nice to see you again..u look a "tad" older..more mature....glad to see you're happy/happier....Happy New Year! ..and most of all...ALWAYS BE YOU! peace...rex

[arcoles4]

Thanks for sharing your story. Speaking of movies on Lifetime, have you seen the movie "Doing Time on Maple Drive"? That was a really good one on this subject.

[nbboi1]

I called my Mom 3 times to remind her to watch that movie, and I set my dvr to record it while I was at work. I got home & the disc was full. I watched it online too. I cried alway through, so many memories. My Mom loved it, I asked her about it tonight. I'm so gladd they did this movie.

[gay99508]

i have not seen it yat is it good love to go see but he is cute

[superc]

it's helped them come out because you're hot. lol they wouldn't even bother listening to your story if you weren't. thanks for sharing

[TopThrillTravis]

OMG I cried when I watched that movie!! It was so good, I watched it, then I had to watch the encore showing after it! lol

It was a wonderful movie and I'm glad you did a video about it!

I agree, suicide is never an option it hurts more people than you realize and if anyone needs to talk there is a national toll free suicide prevention hotline 1-800-273-TALK

Keep up the great videos, your awesome man!

-Travis

[SorrowAndRemorse]

very positive and helpful

keep it up

[trisshandy]

Hey Chris - it's great to open my YouTube box and find a video from you. It's been so long I was starting to think you went back in! I had a similar experience with Prayers for Bobby - it brought back a flood of memories and emotions - sometimes just the look on Bobby's face or in his eyes- that I thought were buried forever. I hope some parents, siblings, teachers, even priests and pastors watch the movie and take it to heart. On another level, I hope you watch "Milk" and feel the pride.

[mattsonc60]

Very nice video....comforting with good points.