Butch vs. Stud vs. Femme

[AlyseAK]

Stud= masculine identifying lesbian. Mainly used (but not limited to) in the black community, id day gen x'ers and 80s babies use this the most.

Butch= Masculine identifying lesbian. Mainly used (but not limited to) white community/older generations. ie the baby boomer generation

[AlyseAK]

Tomboi, stems, no label, versatile,faggy boi, androg= do not fit fully into the stud/butch-femme category, sometimes they can act/dress as both. the gray area group.

AG- dominate person of any label/non label. In certain regions it's used interchangeably with stud (DMV area and NY) but in reality its anyone with a dominate personality. Heterosexuals can be AG

[imawsome131313]

im a stud :) ha and ironically im black too so i go with both of your descriptions on what a stud is

[TennesseLesbian]

<--- femmm <3

[rellox3]

stud :) & your cute js

[neverlovedaboy1]

*hair

[neverlovedaboy1]

So I am a stem then...I have long hear but mostly because I don't know how I want to cut it but I wear it back in a pony tail all the time. I am a jeans a t-shirt girl...so...oh well I am a lesbian that sums it up lol

[Tmbroadway06]

I'm Wayyyy beyond Femme....

[RayBanFan009]

I'ma STUDUTCH!!! uhh...sounds like a disease don't it.

[wellsbritney]

stem lol!!

[Casshern1100]

LMFAO So my lez friend is a stud? When she takes off her cap she winds up looking like a skaterboy.But better looking than most of them :o

I'm soooooo nicknaming her "mighty mouse" (cuz her nickname is already "mousey") or simply "stud" now.XD

[hidemeinthecorner]

I like this :)

[CapricornusGoat]

I iz studful. lol x)

[SOURL23]

I'm a stud...but I guess we both define them differently....I wear no make up have long hair and have all boy clothes but fitted....

[Asfastasea]

Yayy, I have something to call myself now :D

[karmalevel]

femmes for femmes unité! stop the gender roles

[KBeOKEH]

@karmalevel Be nice, girl! No shame in those who prefer the butches, studs, etc. Sometimes there are more things, complicated things involved for every individual. Like I said before, for myself, my preference is dating another femme, because that's just me. Now if a femme is drawn to a butch, or a stud, so be it, nothing wrong with that. It's only when those who shove it down our throats, telling us, that's the way it should be. Now, that's bullshit!

[karmalevel]

@KBeOKEH I agree thanks :)

[mayfri77]

so i like pants, cute tshirts and blouses, long hair, no makeup, just a nice watch...and it took a date with a woman in order to put on a dress!LOL ... loved it, but feel comfi in my pants!;) ....what am I?

[KBeOKEH]

I look like a total straight woman and I prefer other straight looking woman. I prefer women who look like a woman, not a man. Just saying!

[karmalevel]

@KBeOKEH ditto for me and many many gay women! if I wanted a man i would go for one with a real penis

[karmalevel]

@KBeOKEH you rock!!

[foxblade2]

@KBeOKEH hmm whataboutthose who want to look girly but can't really cus they don't feel theywouldsuit it and/or are androgenerous lesbians

[KBeOKEH]

@foxblade2 People should dress in a way that makes them feel comfortable or feel good about themselves. There's no need for anyone to feel pressure to look a certain way. I was simply referring to what my personal preference is. I am a femme and I prefer to date women who look femme though not all of them act like femme. Sexuality is so complex these days. Everyone is different. I just hate the ones who try to shove only one point of view, like butch only date femme. It's not true!

[TaurusBabyy]

I'm glad my mom was cool about it when I told her that I was into girls..

I was totally open about it and it was almost as if she already knew I was lesbian before I came out and said something.. lol (6th grade)

but I am as well a stud. im a 'top & bottom' type of girl .. rlly depends on if I'm being lazy that day or not. aha

[karmalevel]

I am a woman who is attracted to other women like me who are femme and classy and pretty!!! bulldykes be dammed

[emogoddest]

Ahh !! My Girlfriend Is A STUD !

She Has Short Hair , & Usually Wears A Tee Shirt/Hoodie, Jordans, & Some Jeans . ! (:

Idk What It Is , But She's Fucking Sexy !

Im A Femmeee ! She Says She Doesnt Mind Being A Bottom Or A Top , Just As Long As She gets Some ! ;) Hehe

[karmalevel]

@emogoddest you are a closeted straight with penis issues!!!

[emogoddest]

@karmalevel Lol . That Made Me Laugh ! ^_^ ! & How Would I Be Closeted?

I Dont Think You Should Tell Me What I Am Because You Dont Know Me , & You Are NOT ME . So You Wouldnt Know How I FEEL , Or What I LIKE. Or My ISSUES!

So I DONT Need U To Tell Me What I Am, What I Like, Or What My Issues Are. :)

[karmalevel]

@emogoddest you sound like a typical angry dyke

[emogoddest]

@karmalevel haha , Im Angry ( Not Cause Of You) But Im Not A Dyke ! :)

[karmalevel]

@emogoddest what are you?

[emogoddest]

@karmalevel

Check first Comment ! :)

[karmalevel]

@emogoddest you are bi? :)

[SuperLezNumberoUno]

Im a Stud nd have no problem being a bottom as long as i can top every once nd awhile. plus uve helped me decide where im transferrin next year haha thanks. bw- ur really cute

[mssangelsingh]

Wow your mom didn't notice, my mom would have flipped shit too! We have a new blog coming out, Gclique and we are looking for ideas for our new video on youtube. If you have any ideas or thoughts..your coming out story, types of lesbians, ex homosexuals. ANY ideas or feedback would be great! Look for Gclique on facebook! Thanks

[textchick4ever]

I'm a stem (:

[sdrayton2006]

dude i need to transfer colleges u have an all gay dorm?!

[lilmissmommy17]

im a total femme and love studs and butchs girls

[karmalevel]

@lilmissmommy17 you are a total straight chick with dick issues!!! I am a femme who loves real women!!!!

[rand0mn33ss]

Gay dorm? Really? Why doesn't my college have that??

[dcerna123]

:O !!!! gay dorm!!!! xD i must transfer NOW!

[hackysackjoeful]

I AM A STUD:) I ROCK BOTH:)  you are very cute btw:)

[danceinside9]

I am good at looking stud or femme. Depends on how I feel.

[shelbielynnVEVO]

Hey lady, I'm a stem. Wink wink... ;D

[happydees1]

wish there was a gaydorm at my school, then i defently would have lived there :-). ps your funny

[rufie1286]

you look like Kate Walsh

[AliceCrofty]

You, are what I call. HOT,

[MsLoveLoveLove1231]

what would you call a stud that likes top and bottom? lol a rare breed..? idk haha

[JessikaLynnOConnor]

IM a butch

[stud0816]

your wrong :) lmfao

[sammdenena17]

your a babe........

[manuandbtz]

I call a femme a lipstick lesbian, I think it sounds nice ;)

[Paulymat]

I can not believe she talked all that time, and didnt even show her tits once. What a shame. I hope her Mom sees the video and spanks her hard.

[SoyUnPerdedorKillMe]

@Paulymat You sound a little bit insane with the whole 'mum spanking her' thing...ew.....

[ChelsBu]

awesome that you have a 'gay dorm' :-)

[theLPaigeD]

torriebear15 wants some

[TorrieBear15]

youre soo cute [: 

[ashleyscoolyo]

Gay Dorm?! :D I wanna gooo! <3 I subbed ;) and the first picture oh my gawd ;) actually all the pictures... :D

[jayeerenee]

damn, what school do you go to? lol

[thelesbiancorner]

guys its just a youtube video

[babylana70]

the 2nd stud pic is sexy

[TheFallingAutumn]

yeah despite the stereotype, anyway, is it wrong if what you call a 'femme' likes another femme? coz i just accepted myself for being a lesbian. i know nothing about this. all i know is that i like girls.

[juju92able]

@TheFallingAutumn no there is nothing wrong with that...in fact it is not the first time I have seen a couple consisting of 2 femmes ;-)

[likeag666]

Hi guys go see on my channel vid I put about me being androgynous .people get confused they dont know am I a girl or a boy...please subscribe and tell me what do you guys think!:D btw I'm a girl!

[mcdyke]

news flash...people are people and labels destroy intellect

[LesMarvelous]

@mcdyke :))

Thanks for your "new flash... people are people and labels destroy intellect."

You brought it very well to the point. Thumb up!

I wonder sometimes if the kids of today have no other problems than to confirm the stereotypes. They miss the fact that human gets paid nothing, but that all changes began with non-adaptedness.

It's great to be different, unique and sometimes crazy! ;))

Freedom from any kind of domination and normativity!

[TheBoldSpeaker]

Wait, what? They have GAY dorms?... like for gay ppl? hmph...interesting

[Bigrlboi1]

@SeducingEyes A touch me not stud is one who would rather be giving head than recording head. Hope I helped :) I use to be until my girlfriend (wifey) came into my life.

[SeducingEyes]

Hey cutie...you have a very sexy voice!!

[Mspetra92]

well i don't agree with lampeling people.. we already have a label GAY or BI.. we don't need to put us some more.. it's a girl who likes girls.. and of story.. not she is a butch liking a femme or whatever combo..

[annelien7]

haha i didn't knew they had names for the types of lesbianxp

guess i'm a stud?

[Bubbaleur]

lol you look a little like Katy Perry. if this comment is already on here, sorry but i aint going through 102 comments to see lol. im a Lazy Libra. but OAN: i understand your definition of each but to me, a stud is like a butch, just not always a short cut hairstyle. i consider myself a stud but i dont dress like a stem (as you described). i look at studs as the ones who dress sexy and always wanna look good and are slightly conceited about their looks lol (well i kinda am lol)

[JackieMelendezTV]

i dont kno what am i lol

[citizenlizard]

I guess I'd be a stud, but my hair isn't short...I just never got into crew cuts, I typically wear it in a pony tail though...Not that I care what anyone labels themselves or myself as, just going on what the chica on this vid said. I like both femmes and butches hehehe!

[TheMonsterChrissy]

I'm a butch! Woompa Woompa! :D

[Bigrlboi1]

@nailsdnyourback true! And there are also the touch me not studs! I should know lol I am one!

[SeducingEyes]

@nailsdnyourback.....what is a touch-me-not-studs? That is new to me?

[bglieberwitz]

You are gorgeous!

[nailsdnyourback]

You have no idea what a real Butch is. Then again, you're probably what? 19? You'll learn that a true Butch will never allow you to "Top" them! Good luck.

[thelesbiancorner]

@nailsdnyourback yes because someones style of dress influences their sexual preference. dressing like a guy, a girl, whatever doesn't necessarily correlate with what you like in bed. after all, there are no clothes in sex.

[DeimosSaturn]

Somehow, I know even less about lesbians than before I watched this video. Gay dorms? What?!

[emilzzyz]

yea, i don't fit into any categorie... and most people don't believe i'm a lesbian. ugh!!

[lesbianpowerforever]

THERES GAY DORMS????????? AMAZING!!!

[unknown666able]

you are fucken gorgeous

[daisylovelady]

If i go by your definition...Im a stud. ^_^

[shaquanshia]

Gay Dorm? Well, I know what college I'm going to. :D

[Julespsych]

Trascend the binary system. It's time to move beyond the "butch" "femme" "stud" "dyke" ect, words that only reinforce the patriarchy. You are you, and that's it. The whole categorization of different lesbian expressions or any kind of expression is what diversity is about. Putting it in a box is just a way to divide us when we need to unite.

[rubberductape]

@Julespsych I agree with what you're saying, but I also think that some people feel a need for self-definition that goes beyond "I am me". There's something very comforting about categories. For a woman who dresses in a way that society views as "masculine", the word "butch" might enable her to assert herself as the person that she is, make her feel legitimized and not alone, because the fact that the word "butch" exists means that there are others like her out there...

[mmaciasvball22]

Yupp I'm femme (;

[creverett24]

i don't fit in any of those three categories, i guess i would be closet to stud but i have long hair. i've been told i'm a sporty girl... i feel like that can be a whole other category though. anyways i liked your video and a gay dorm is awesome. my old university just split up a dorm b/c there were too many lesbians in it. i guess they feel spreading them out will solve it..

[shayboo1513]

Lmao xD you made my day

[krzyjazzy]

The image you used for butch seemed more like a tomboy pic to me. But eh. Anyways, you're cute, you're cool and to each their own. :) Just saying hi.

[omfgCantGetaUsername]

Just yesterday this stud girl kept looking at me like she was gonna drool. I found it weird at first though cus I assumed she was a butch til I learned the difference now and wasn't tryna be a dude. I guess I got her natural girl senses going because I have facial hair, broad shoulders, and a deep voice LOL. Straight girls always give me looks but for some reason I have an infatuation for cute studs cus I can't help that they're still girls and likely have apple bottoms. =)

[madnegro69]

I'm a man and I fantasize about studs all the time. I wanna eat there asses and bust fat cum on them.

[cymonebreathe]

i wish femmes had more categories to give more nuance

[karmalevel]

femme lesbians are the best!! if I wanted a man I would go for a real one with a penis

[BoysLikeMeee]

A gay dorm, that is awesome. What's the criteria to get in? lol..

[DomBarber]

How often do you have your hair cut ?

[nikkijay1115]

I wish we had a gay dorm :( And you are hot.

[TheRedligth]

i want to be in that room

[maria17954]

You go to UC Santa Barbara? And they have gay dorms? OMG. I AM GOING TO UC SANTA BARBARA FOR SURE.

[Mjayne11]

Stereotypes are stupid. I am me, I am a woman(regardless of the clothes I wear and the way I cut my hair), and so is my love.

[queencolondarkwing]

And lipstick lesbians are the girliest of girly.

Seriously I thought stud was still black and hispanic butches. It is interesting different areas differ.

[Apus100]

bla bla bla please stoopp talking!!..just look good...;)

[sonnetxi]

studs = justin beibers

[KatieBabyyy7]

helll yeah gay dors sounds sooo legit i found my new college lol

[Justme2simply]

Frikkin Sexy 1:55

[brittc18]

your beautiful.

[foxblade2]

=x= i idk anymore what type i am cus im a big softie and i do love cute things but i don't wear make up i just keep my skin clean cus theres loads of crap involved with it (don't mean it offensivelly to people who wear it.just it blocks your pores and stuff =x=;) and clothes i prefer boys clothes cus their baggy and comfortable although i do <3 my games so i am kinda nerdy XD and easy to scare XS as for hair long doesnt suit my family xp i have natural blonde,kinda spiky fauxhawk hair

[bugz2grrl]

Hahas.. I'm like hearing myself talking cause the way you talk is similar to me.. Like oMG :)) seriously Lols.. Ur cute btw

[guardgeek27]

im a stem (=

[TransmissionHydrogen]

I'm a stud that likes other studs or femmes.

You have pretty eyes :)

[leGAYlizePridee]

I lovee studs(: Hahha, juust sayin'

[Madgothchild]

LOL....totally loving this video....I'm adrogynous...when im femme I look super straight, and when i dress butch i look like a dude -_-...

[MrThatguyandrew]

I've always heard girls that you refer to as "stud" called "soft butch". I'm a straight guy, but I am super attracted to girls that are soft butch or hard fem. For a prime example of what I'm talking about see Hannah Hart from My Drunk Kitchen.

[youyouyou73100]

Tu es une femme for sure !

[kiwistasteyummy]

The two stud girls are realllllllyyy cute. :D

[0XRandomGirlX0]

if i had to put myself into one of them i would say i am a stud. coz i sometimes wear girls cloths but sometimes were guys cloths, have short hair that sort of thing. And i deffo find studs more atracttive, and some femmes

[IGoRawrr96]

I've Always Thought I Was A Stud.. But I Just Knew I'm Actually A Femme. You Know With Long Hair, Makeup And Whatever. Oops, Ohh Well.. That Helped. Thanks. (:

[1cortezblue]

hey guys i am a stud rapper and id appriciate it if u took a moment out and looked cortez_blue drake stunt hard remix

[karmalevel]

bulldykes are repulsive!!!

[killermoth242]

Ima butch but have long hair maybe because I listen to heavy metal

[TheWoodsOfWonderland]

I'd thought the deifnitions of butch/stud were reversed... o.o im suprised

[jazzgirl11235]

imma stud <3

[4491923]

am a stud haha

r u by any chance related to kate perry

love ur eyes



[highlighter221]

so I guess I classify as a stud ;) or a "stem" HA.. and your femme.. so here is how I think of it. I'm your type... you're my type.

[aubreyhurley94]

OMG!! You just made my day :) you said stud was your type and it gave me this feeling like "AHH there ARE femmes out there who like studs/chapsticks " thank you for the hope haha :)

[thezoner90]

Just thought you should know, you are stunning and your voice is amazingggg. But yeah :)

[mickiejames06]

im a femme

[karmalevel]

@mickiejames06 femmes for femmes rock!!!

[zapkrackenbelt06]

Ur beautiful

[kaytecole94]

Very good definition. :). And good video.

[bluebastard915]

YAY! I finally know which my category is :D I'm Stub :D thanks for the vid ^^

[tr3vonne]

stud is still a black butch here in st. louis... but loved the video...

[Linuxdirk]

Damn, that's too complicated to me, do you mind if i just keep saying "that girl" or so?

[nikkatnight]

I thought you said your name was Chloe in another video...?

[ElloitsCass]

I think I'm a stud. Judging by your definition atleast. :P

[didithejanetfan13]

Stud still refers to masculine african american lesbians.

[zz604]

I'm the sexiset stud out chea lol

[rileymarie127]

what about to tom boys, like long hair up in a messy bun little bit off make up basket ball shorts....cuz thats my type and i tend to dress that way sometimes but mostly femme

[Abosh123able]

wow you have gay dommes........ awesome

[TheLesbianskater]

there wasnt one bad lookin girl in this video! gee wiz! i like all three types of girls. all that matters to me is that they like me for me not just for sex. and they they treat me right, and take care of them selfs. like they have to care about there apperiance, and they have to be able to make me smile thats all that matters, oh and im under the dyke section

[DJleonedanza]

:) your cute.. I'm def a stud

[TheVanz130]

I'm a stud. I mean I wear some girl jeans but I always have boxers on. Lol but still I like my fem to show some aggressiveness in the bed. I don't like pillow princesses.. Lol

[gtaloverfover]

im kinda of a stud , but mostly butchy :D

[wiggie666]

yeah ur rite studs kinda r in the middle wit the clothes. butch girls r like white boys, dey wear either lik emo or skater clothes most of the time and studs r like black boys all gangster or gansgter nerd,most of the time.

[swi0503]

You are my dream girl!! If u love studs come get me girl!

[Miikaika25]

did you ever tell your mom!!?

[ajayknowsbetter]

The butch girl looks like a girl I've talked to online before named Ashley or something..

[fuckinglesbian892]

@ajayknowsbetter Ashlie :p yea

[ajayknowsbetter]

@fuckinglesbian892 well, wadda yanno. Lol and I live in Florida lmao.

[phenoloperry]

Awfully restrictive, all these labels. Even top and bottom channels you into an identity that you then feel you need to continue and so maybe don't open yourself up to different sexual dynamics, but then, my mother would say that about the word "lesbian" too... she did, in fact, when I told her I was one.

[nuffflavor]

Sounds about right... the traits that is. Gay is Gay though. Doesnt matter if a person likes being on top or bottom.... its about who they are attracted too. LOL... one thing though (I am a guy) out of all of these traits..... I am attracted to females regradless... with exception of butches. They ARE a rough looking bunch. So rough looking that the feminine side has almost totally disappeared. Peace!

[lilkush909]

umm you live in cali im just sayin the inbetween is a stem

[Imogen1885]

I love labels. I love butches.

[Wolfbloodvamps171]

you are hot. A gay dorm? Damn I wish my university had that.

[Heresy94]

you are very nice...

[badtrinity72]

attitude also has a lot to do with the butch/stud/femme......'label'.­......but i dont like labels....... ;)

[missmissyphotography]

or as I call them "Chap-stick lesbians"

[missmissyphotography]

I <3 studs.:)))

[LGBTwist]

There are special dorms for gay people? Pahahaha

[malary1]

I agree w/ u on these

[CyberchondriacNess]

I guess I'm a stud then. Awww yeaaahhh. B-)

[TheRonmel]

You are a femme.

[fuckinglesbian892]

@TheRonmel i know

[matt517472]

@fuckinglesbian892 your really fucking hot. ik u dont really care cause ur lesbian but yea.. =p

[ohwotaday]

@fuckinglesbian892 y is there a gay dorm

[MsFiguren]

@ohwotaday

really?  most dorms can be really hostile to women in general, if not just aggressively heterosexual.

and straight people usually bore the life out of queer folk.

[snmpvamu]

I'm a black lesbian...a femme of course (from Texas)...a stud in our community is allll masculine, boxers, cologne, etc....a Stem is the in between a stud and femme to us as well.

But a stud is definitely all masculine. Soft studs---long hair still hard stud---fades.

Just a lil info from a black femme :-)

[fuqamber]

:O you totally have a picture of me on here. hahaha!

[dreadrea302]

I agree with you!