As a gay black man with a preference for men of color, I have to say that I agree with a right to a sexual preference. But I will say, that your unwillingness to even chat with someone who is not your type is a bit shallow and superficial. I think the dude that hit you up was correct when he said..you had him pegged wrong. Maybe he just wanted to get to know you. So you cant make a friend who is not sexually attractive to you? Dude that is scumbaggy in my opinion. Question though? Whats a wog?
@theslabbxxx - well, seeing as I'm scumbaggy... you're an idiot :) When I am on a "dating" app looking for a potential boyfriend, dates, etc. Then OBVIOUSLY I want to chat to people who I'm attracted to.. I don't have the time to sit in my house for hours typing and "getting to know" the dozens of guys that "want to chat" - That's what "real life" is for.. Grindr is about finding guys that I like and might be interested in and see potential of something more? make sense?
@thewiredtongue I love your maturity level when someone disagrees with you. Your past replies to other commentors on this subject, proves you have some maturity issues. I meant the situation is scumbaggy. Personally I have no cause to call you anything outside of what you posted as opinion on a dubious topic, that you started. I agree with you to a degree but I stand by the opinion that making a friend of any type, color, race, creed, or gender is an awesome thing, maybe your missing out???
@theslabbxxx - you're one of these people who likes to twist words around aren't you? Read your comment again.. you called ME a scumbag.. it's really easy to see that.. so don't act all hurt now because I called you a name back :) and not that I have to explain myself to you.. but I have wonderful friends of ALL nationalities.. spanish, asian, greek, irish, black... but newsflash - friends is not what I'm looking for on GrindR.. do you get it? obviously not...
There is a fine line of expressing your preference and adding insult. The latter being discriminatory and racist. In person, or in a vehicle like Grindr or online forums, the issue of preference vs sexual racism is a prevalent one. Indeed beauty is in the eye of the beholder, however beauty comes in all shapes and forms and varies from each person. Nevertheless, one see's clearly only with an open heart, what is essential is invisible to the naked eye. - Little Prince
You know man. Sexual racism does exist and it comes from the more deeper source of racism. In some gay subcultures it is NOT DONE to date outside your race. I think a lot of (white) guys are attracted to other races but are being kept from that by peer pressure. I have a preference for the type of guy on the video (dark, white, hairy)but it is a PREFERENCE. Excluding people because of their race is racism so racist. I would really like to debate..not enough room here though
I understand what you're saying. I dont think you were rude or anything to the guy. He was nuts.
As for me, Im primarily attracted to Asian Men. I do like other guys of all flavors, but Asians are my preference. I dont think it makes me a racist. And neither are you.
Your saying black people are ugly. 'In your opinion' yadda yadda, THAT is what your saying. That is categorically racist. You are making general statements about the appearance of a general race. As a black man I find it the most insulting thing you could possibly say. If you have fault with being labelled.. SHIT, you just said millions of people not part of 'your' face are instinctively less attractive. Hows that for a label. Dick.
@JudiciousJermaine - I love how you have to INVENT things to be able to argue my logic.. haha.. I NOT ONCE said "black people are ugly" you moron. I see hot black guys all the time! but sexually... I PREFER the blonde scruffy "beach bum" look.. just like I prefer "chunky" guys rather then slim guys. Just like I don't like long hair. etc. don't MAKE UP shit to convince yourself how racist I am - that makes YOU the dick. It's about PREFERENCE! not about who's less attractive.
Wow, I knew you were a douche, but you are a super douche! Its been a while since we saw each other last but your single life is obviously not serving you well. Why is no one allowed to insult you when you call someone who has Sexual Racism on their profile a Douchebag... is that fair?
As for profile headings its really quite a simple formula. Say what you like, there is no reason to say your dislikes.
Example - Looking for masculine muscular caucasian guys.
Or you could be an insensitive prick & say - No asians no blacks
Not everyone can be attracted to everyone else, thats a given. But there are better ways at communicating our likes & dislikes, & in ways that do not cause offense to others. As LGBT we should know a lot better.
Also your example as the basis of this video is pathetic. You base the majority of your argument with one guy who yes seems a little unstable, but what do you think created this? He kept asking you What should I do? He obviously has encountered this before & probably from some rude c*nts.
Your comparison to being short is also laughable. I think its acceptable to compare this to being "woggy" as you would have encountered discrimination over the years, but I argue it is much easier for you to integrate into the gay scene than it is for an asian man.
You can have your opinion mate, but for every 10 messages of support for the fight against sexual racism, there is always one douche... & congrats as today that is you!
all u idiots are so pathetic hes not being racist he has a preference! stop bkaming in for telling the truth fuck u all no ones perfected get a fucken life u loser
People who claim they are not attracted to certain races are taught that racism by their family, environment, culture, etc. There is nothing natural about excluding entire groups of other humans because of the color of their skin.
Good grief. Seems to me like you have no problem rejecting others for shallow reasons, and then calling them crazy for highlighting that you are a asshole. There is not a single human on Earth who is not attracted to another entire race of humans, bottom line. It's a good thing you're a racist, because no self-respecting gay black/asian/Latino/whatever guy would want an insensitive jerk like you, with a voice that sounds like a badger being flattened under the wheels of a transit bus!
Ehhhh. The thing you need to think about these racial issues is where people's "preferences" come from. Why are people so quick to dismiss entire ethnic groups? Hint: it isn't some innate and benign biological preference. I myself used to have these kinds of "preferences" and thought the same way you do, until I started examining where these "preferences" came from. In western societies, people of color are constantly devalued.
Once I opened up a little and started meeting people regardless of race, I learned that I can easily be attracted to people of any ethnic group. You gotta acknowledge that your preferences are racist--not necessarily with malicious intentions, but your attitude is pervasive amongst people with racial privilege and damaging to minority groups.
Excluding people based on race is considered racist, just as excluding entire segments of people based on height, hair color etc is considered shallow. It's the definition of the term. It's your right to be attracted to whomever. However, taking offense to the term won't change its legitimacy. The only thing you can do is make your peace with being called a "sexual racist".
@raab1987 - Dude, it's really sad that people like you are so quick to label everyone racist. I don't have to make peace with anything because I'm not a racist. When someone says to me "I'm not attracted to "woggy" or "ethnic" guys" I don't start insulting them. It's unfortunate that people like you... when faced with sexual rejection... are not happy to go "fair enough, he's not attracted to me" but rather.. "Oh my god, you're such a racist!". Playing the victim doesn't become anyone...
@thewiredtongue Dude, you seem to be super sensitive and too quick to take offense. Where does all the "people like you" stuff come from? I could care less about what some random dude finds attractive. I was merely pointing out how people are going to perceive your "preference". As for the playing victim, don't you think you're doing just that with the whole " Why are people calling me a racist because I discriminate sexually based on race thing"? You're making yourself a victim/
I think you are not educated enough to even understand what sexual racism means. Sexual orientation is not well understood, there is evidence for genetic and hormonal aspects of it. But sexual attraction is very well understood, and it is purely social. Your own culture, family, fashion magazines, tv shows, etc., have conditioned us from an early age into considering what we find attractive. It doesn't mean we can change our attrraction overnight, but that we recognise where it comes from.
@Nejiboud I know EXACTLY what sexual racism means.. would you like me to send you the definition? because you seem to be a bit confused... It doesn't matter WHERE sexual attraction comes from.. my point still stands - I'm allowed to have personal preferences in what I'm attracted to without being branded a racist... For someone that's attacking other people's education levels, your message doesn't make a whole lot of sense in the context of my video.. what's your point?
I don't think who you are attracted to can be changed overnight, as this sort of socialisation takes a lifetime, but it still makes you a racist, its just not as dangerous as the KKK variety, but benign racism is still racism.
@Nejiboud some people like blondes, some people like brunettes, some people like tall, some people like short. Some people like beefy guys, some people like skinny guys. Some people like asian guys, some people like indian guys, some people like redheaded guys. some people like black guys, some people like white guys. some like masculine, some like feminine. But if someone doesn't like you, they're a racist.. you're full of shit.. sorry man, what you're saying is absolute nonsense.
None of us were born liking blondes or disliking Asians. What features we find attractive in others is a socialised process that occurs over a lifetime. Again, I don't believe you have the grasp of what I'm trying to say. And your low class language is uncalled for. I can only imagine how queeny you must be getting behind that screen as you type that up for me.
@Nejiboud You know what's funny. whenever someone (like you) starts commenting with this holier than thou attitude.. and starts branding others as superficial or racist.. pretty much 100% of the time, when I check their channel, there is no information about them, no videos, no photos, etc. You're not worth all this typing. When you are a real person, and not an anonymous YouTubr user, I'll bother to say anything else.. good day to you.. sorry about your persecution complex.. :(
@Iwillbeanhero hhhhmmm, that sort of sarcastic tone makes you sound very self rightous for someone that's got all these videos of "fat chicks" and "ugly chicks" and "porn" all in your favourites list..
I just think it's unfortunate that people are so quick to label others racist without really understanding what it means. :(
I use this account to troll people, not on here, but other sites, so I need those videos favorited (what's funnier than bait and switch to fat porn? Nothing, my good man, nothing).
And yeah, I can still call racism, because I know what it is.
As a gay black man with a preference for men of color, I have to say that I agree with a right to a sexual preference. But I will say, that your unwillingness to even chat with someone who is not your type is a bit shallow and superficial. I think the dude that hit you up was correct when he said..you had him pegged wrong. Maybe he just wanted to get to know you. So you cant make a friend who is not sexually attractive to you? Dude that is scumbaggy in my opinion. Question though? Whats a wog?
theslabbxxx 3 weeks ago
@theslabbxxx - well, seeing as I'm scumbaggy... you're an idiot :) When I am on a "dating" app looking for a potential boyfriend, dates, etc. Then OBVIOUSLY I want to chat to people who I'm attracted to.. I don't have the time to sit in my house for hours typing and "getting to know" the dozens of guys that "want to chat" - That's what "real life" is for.. Grindr is about finding guys that I like and might be interested in and see potential of something more? make sense?
thewiredtongue 3 weeks ago
@thewiredtongue I love your maturity level when someone disagrees with you. Your past replies to other commentors on this subject, proves you have some maturity issues. I meant the situation is scumbaggy. Personally I have no cause to call you anything outside of what you posted as opinion on a dubious topic, that you started. I agree with you to a degree but I stand by the opinion that making a friend of any type, color, race, creed, or gender is an awesome thing, maybe your missing out???
theslabbxxx 3 weeks ago
@theslabbxxx - you're one of these people who likes to twist words around aren't you? Read your comment again.. you called ME a scumbag.. it's really easy to see that.. so don't act all hurt now because I called you a name back :) and not that I have to explain myself to you.. but I have wonderful friends of ALL nationalities.. spanish, asian, greek, irish, black... but newsflash - friends is not what I'm looking for on GrindR.. do you get it? obviously not...
MeowWoofMoo 3 weeks ago
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BigTimeShowdown 2 months ago
There is a fine line of expressing your preference and adding insult. The latter being discriminatory and racist. In person, or in a vehicle like Grindr or online forums, the issue of preference vs sexual racism is a prevalent one. Indeed beauty is in the eye of the beholder, however beauty comes in all shapes and forms and varies from each person. Nevertheless, one see's clearly only with an open heart, what is essential is invisible to the naked eye. - Little Prince
pesangga 3 months ago
You know man. Sexual racism does exist and it comes from the more deeper source of racism. In some gay subcultures it is NOT DONE to date outside your race. I think a lot of (white) guys are attracted to other races but are being kept from that by peer pressure. I have a preference for the type of guy on the video (dark, white, hairy)but it is a PREFERENCE. Excluding people because of their race is racism so racist. I would really like to debate..not enough room here though
BigTimeShowdown 3 months ago
I understand what you're saying. I dont think you were rude or anything to the guy. He was nuts.
As for me, Im primarily attracted to Asian Men. I do like other guys of all flavors, but Asians are my preference. I dont think it makes me a racist. And neither are you.
We cant help who we like!
Canleo68 8 months ago
Your saying black people are ugly. 'In your opinion' yadda yadda, THAT is what your saying. That is categorically racist. You are making general statements about the appearance of a general race. As a black man I find it the most insulting thing you could possibly say. If you have fault with being labelled.. SHIT, you just said millions of people not part of 'your' face are instinctively less attractive. Hows that for a label. Dick.
JudiciousJermaine 8 months ago
@JudiciousJermaine - I love how you have to INVENT things to be able to argue my logic.. haha.. I NOT ONCE said "black people are ugly" you moron. I see hot black guys all the time! but sexually... I PREFER the blonde scruffy "beach bum" look.. just like I prefer "chunky" guys rather then slim guys. Just like I don't like long hair. etc. don't MAKE UP shit to convince yourself how racist I am - that makes YOU the dick. It's about PREFERENCE! not about who's less attractive.
MeowWoofMoo 3 weeks ago
Wow, I knew you were a douche, but you are a super douche! Its been a while since we saw each other last but your single life is obviously not serving you well. Why is no one allowed to insult you when you call someone who has Sexual Racism on their profile a Douchebag... is that fair?
As for profile headings its really quite a simple formula. Say what you like, there is no reason to say your dislikes.
spunkybear 8 months ago 2
@thewiredtongue
Example - Looking for masculine muscular caucasian guys.
Or you could be an insensitive prick & say - No asians no blacks
Not everyone can be attracted to everyone else, thats a given. But there are better ways at communicating our likes & dislikes, & in ways that do not cause offense to others. As LGBT we should know a lot better.
spunkybear 8 months ago
@thewiredtongue
Also your example as the basis of this video is pathetic. You base the majority of your argument with one guy who yes seems a little unstable, but what do you think created this? He kept asking you What should I do? He obviously has encountered this before & probably from some rude c*nts.
spunkybear 8 months ago
@thewiredtongue
Your comparison to being short is also laughable. I think its acceptable to compare this to being "woggy" as you would have encountered discrimination over the years, but I argue it is much easier for you to integrate into the gay scene than it is for an asian man.
You can have your opinion mate, but for every 10 messages of support for the fight against sexual racism, there is always one douche... & congrats as today that is you!
Sexual Racism Sux
spunkybear 8 months ago
all u idiots are so pathetic hes not being racist he has a preference! stop bkaming in for telling the truth fuck u all no ones perfected get a fucken life u loser
iamluisgaribay 8 months ago
You choose your level of attachment based on someone's skin color and It's your right but I see it in bad taste.
jumperchu 8 months ago
People who claim they are not attracted to certain races are taught that racism by their family, environment, culture, etc. There is nothing natural about excluding entire groups of other humans because of the color of their skin.
NTXweather 9 months ago
Good grief. Seems to me like you have no problem rejecting others for shallow reasons, and then calling them crazy for highlighting that you are a asshole. There is not a single human on Earth who is not attracted to another entire race of humans, bottom line. It's a good thing you're a racist, because no self-respecting gay black/asian/Latino/whatever guy would want an insensitive jerk like you, with a voice that sounds like a badger being flattened under the wheels of a transit bus!
NTXweather 9 months ago
Ehhhh. The thing you need to think about these racial issues is where people's "preferences" come from. Why are people so quick to dismiss entire ethnic groups? Hint: it isn't some innate and benign biological preference. I myself used to have these kinds of "preferences" and thought the same way you do, until I started examining where these "preferences" came from. In western societies, people of color are constantly devalued.
Spellcar2 11 months ago
Once I opened up a little and started meeting people regardless of race, I learned that I can easily be attracted to people of any ethnic group. You gotta acknowledge that your preferences are racist--not necessarily with malicious intentions, but your attitude is pervasive amongst people with racial privilege and damaging to minority groups.
Spellcar2 11 months ago
Excluding people based on race is considered racist, just as excluding entire segments of people based on height, hair color etc is considered shallow. It's the definition of the term. It's your right to be attracted to whomever. However, taking offense to the term won't change its legitimacy. The only thing you can do is make your peace with being called a "sexual racist".
raab1987 1 year ago 3
@raab1987 - Dude, it's really sad that people like you are so quick to label everyone racist. I don't have to make peace with anything because I'm not a racist. When someone says to me "I'm not attracted to "woggy" or "ethnic" guys" I don't start insulting them. It's unfortunate that people like you... when faced with sexual rejection... are not happy to go "fair enough, he's not attracted to me" but rather.. "Oh my god, you're such a racist!". Playing the victim doesn't become anyone...
thewiredtongue 1 year ago
@thewiredtongue Dude, you seem to be super sensitive and too quick to take offense. Where does all the "people like you" stuff come from? I could care less about what some random dude finds attractive. I was merely pointing out how people are going to perceive your "preference". As for the playing victim, don't you think you're doing just that with the whole " Why are people calling me a racist because I discriminate sexually based on race thing"? You're making yourself a victim/
raab1987 1 year ago
@raab1987 so, I'm racist and super sensitive.. well, no use arguing with me then.. :p but good luck to you.
thewiredtongue 1 year ago
I think you are not educated enough to even understand what sexual racism means. Sexual orientation is not well understood, there is evidence for genetic and hormonal aspects of it. But sexual attraction is very well understood, and it is purely social. Your own culture, family, fashion magazines, tv shows, etc., have conditioned us from an early age into considering what we find attractive. It doesn't mean we can change our attrraction overnight, but that we recognise where it comes from.
Nejiboud 1 year ago
@Nejiboud I know EXACTLY what sexual racism means.. would you like me to send you the definition? because you seem to be a bit confused... It doesn't matter WHERE sexual attraction comes from.. my point still stands - I'm allowed to have personal preferences in what I'm attracted to without being branded a racist... For someone that's attacking other people's education levels, your message doesn't make a whole lot of sense in the context of my video.. what's your point?
thewiredtongue 1 year ago
@thewiredtongue
I don't think who you are attracted to can be changed overnight, as this sort of socialisation takes a lifetime, but it still makes you a racist, its just not as dangerous as the KKK variety, but benign racism is still racism.
Nejiboud 1 year ago
@Nejiboud some people like blondes, some people like brunettes, some people like tall, some people like short. Some people like beefy guys, some people like skinny guys. Some people like asian guys, some people like indian guys, some people like redheaded guys. some people like black guys, some people like white guys. some like masculine, some like feminine. But if someone doesn't like you, they're a racist.. you're full of shit.. sorry man, what you're saying is absolute nonsense.
thewiredtongue 1 year ago
@thewiredtongue
None of us were born liking blondes or disliking Asians. What features we find attractive in others is a socialised process that occurs over a lifetime. Again, I don't believe you have the grasp of what I'm trying to say. And your low class language is uncalled for. I can only imagine how queeny you must be getting behind that screen as you type that up for me.
Nejiboud 1 year ago
@Nejiboud You know what's funny. whenever someone (like you) starts commenting with this holier than thou attitude.. and starts branding others as superficial or racist.. pretty much 100% of the time, when I check their channel, there is no information about them, no videos, no photos, etc. You're not worth all this typing. When you are a real person, and not an anonymous YouTubr user, I'll bother to say anything else.. good day to you.. sorry about your persecution complex.. :(
thewiredtongue 1 year ago
@thewiredtongue
I don't have a persecution complex, and I'm a straight girl, not a homosexual male.
Nejiboud 1 year ago
I *prefer* to think otherwise.
Iwillbeanhero 1 year ago
@Iwillbeanhero hhhhmmm, that sort of sarcastic tone makes you sound very self rightous for someone that's got all these videos of "fat chicks" and "ugly chicks" and "porn" all in your favourites list..
I just think it's unfortunate that people are so quick to label others racist without really understanding what it means. :(
thewiredtongue 1 year ago
@thewiredtongue
I use this account to troll people, not on here, but other sites, so I need those videos favorited (what's funnier than bait and switch to fat porn? Nothing, my good man, nothing).
And yeah, I can still call racism, because I know what it is.
Iwillbeanhero 1 year ago