Explaining the Symptoms (1/2) - Do you have Asperger's Syndrome?

[TooMuchGass]

We are sentenced to a life in moribound solitude.

[KnarlyDUDE09]

I love your accent, by the way. :)

[KrakenNinja]

As for the empathy thing, you are misenterpreting a little. A little.

But the people who made the list could have as well.

The true definition of "Empathy" is actually really understanding why someone else feels a certain way, and thus being in a unique position to sympathise.

"Sympathy" is when you feel bad for someone's suffering, but don't quite understand the nature of it.

I call bullcrap on it too, mostly. I'm an aspie, and most people I know can vouch for my exceptional level of caring.

[KrakenNinja]

The nugget of truth in it is that, being different in some odd ways, people with Asperger's may not empathise on some points.

For instance, when I was in elementary school, I would call the other kids names.

Teachers would ask me how I would feel, and I would honestly reply "I wouldn't care", because I wouldn't.

There are some things like that (different ones), but I can still sympathise with the situation and empathise with the emotion.

[KendrasPhilosophies]

You have the coolest accent EVER... u sound like dracula LOL

[b0ta1M]

WTF. You do videos on Aspergers with a Youtube name of 'InjuredMinds'. Offensive much. Aspies are mentally superior to NTs.

[InjuredMinds]

@b0ta1M Miss the point much?

[meer1120]

@b0ta1M Feeble-minded vermin are feeble-minded vermin, regardless of the one thing they have which gives them so much. They still cannot function in the same capacity as any normal person. Such vermin must not exist.

[InjuredMinds]

@meer1120 "Capacity" of what? Social interaction? If you think that's what life is about or even the future of humanity then you really are calling yourself names.

[meer1120]

@InjuredMinds I will not be wrongfully associated with the feeble-minded, and I will definitely not stand to have a condemnation thrown back at me by some busybody who gets himself involved in my reply to someone else's comment.

You want to know what capacity I am talking about!?

Social interaction is only one of many. The ability to not obsess, involuntarily and without reason, on any one thing and the ability to not be uncontrollably repetitive are some of the many capacities of normal peopl

[InjuredMinds]

@meer1120 I'm a busybody because I reply to a comment made on one of my own videos? Do you think that youtube comments are private all of a sudden now? You use phrases like "feeble minded" but your lack of logic and your trolling ignorance is just making you sound like the feeble minded one.

Go back to nazi germany if you want to try and weed out the imperfection of the human race, if you're not going to do that then just shut up because you're a waste everyone's time.

[meer1120]

@InjuredMinds These are not private comments. This is my true point of view. My diatribe. The world must know where I stand.

Socialization, the ability not to be uncontrollably obssessed with any ONE thing, and the ability not to be mindlessly re-petititive are only SOME of what are defined as the capacities of all normal people. I could list some more, but YouTube only allows 500 characters per message.

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[InjuredMinds]

@meer1120 Wait, wait, wait... are you under the impression that YOU'RE "normal"? You think you don't have any quirks that at least 50% of the world would consider weird? In that case you're not only a liar but an idiot. x.x

[meer1120]

@InjuredMinds (continued from previous message)

I have known a lot of other normal people who have been wrongfully associated with feeble-minded vermin. The existence of such vermin offended me. Therefore, I have vowed to destroy all of them. Be it taking down such vermin one at a time or sparring over the YouTube comments page, I will not stop until all of them are defeated and destroyed.

[InjuredMinds]

@meer1120 Also, hatespeech, eh? You really are feeble minded. And blocked for that matter. Man, you sure did "defeat and destroy" me.

[Olivares1207]

Thanks mate, Ive got AS and this has helped me understand some things.

[Trioxyn245]

Im starting to think I have aspergers myself, I was diagnosed with ADD as a child and basically ignored it up until about 5 years ago. In those last 5 years I've taught myself tricks to appear "normal", and while I just considered myself an antisocial attention deficit person I may have been also teaching myself how to deal with my aspergers also. It's funny you mentioned "lie to me" , the fact they present social interaction as more of science rather then art has helped me read peoples emotion

[jesskazen]

The lacking empathy thing is more like we don't overtly show a body language response as intense as an NT. I understand how people feel, but I have no idea of what they want me to do about it. I do offer advice very often, but a lot of people don't want a real solution to their problem.

[PassedTime2788]

I agree with you about calling bullshizzle on the lack of empathy in Aspies. I think it's determined that way by psychologists because it's hard to see it as it doesn't always display behaviorally the same as in normies. I feel like i am emotionally empathic but sometimes I can miss culturally-created social nuances.

[masonwade1]

you missleading

[Elricwulf]

Great video. Thanks for giving the POV of someone with Aspergers. I am currently trying to understand a family member who may show several symptoms of this diagnosis.

On #3 Do you think that the perception of "lack of empathy" could be due to some kind of defense mechanism that someone might put up against other people, even specific people - so instead of being able to see their pov, the person automatically over-reacts defensively as if being attacked?

Could this be a symptom of Aspergers?

[honorsthizzics]

I went to yahoo because i dont go to goog- *closes vid*

[aldoranada]

somes i read backwards i mean i start from the ending to start usually those small type story books or news papers

[aldoranada]

i have doubts about having asperger but this video really saying out what my symptoms are thank you buddy.... ^_^

[sweetkone]

I, fully, enjoyed your video, on the syndrome labeled Aspergers.

[Iyrsiiea]

It's not that we don't have any empathy, it's that we don't know how to express our emotions correctly. We often appear blank or uncaring becuae we don't know how to show what we're feeling.

[nexxam1011]

i click link 2 video thinking: "woooooooooh jag kommer lära mig lite om psycologi eller vafan järna eller var är jag? vad händer? SPACE!"

and then your mic kicked in and i kinda sorta whent: ":U"

and didn't pick up a single word you said... bass was awesome though.

[guitaristman23]

i don't agree on the empathy part i don't have any no matter who it and and i can stand being touched or touching people in genral i find in difficult to get emotions out....which then cause my tics

[suzyvzy]

My poor son never understands sarcasm, it took them 8 years to diagnose him. Poor boy.

[Omgsome1just]

lol "because i luv pyschology" hehe :D

[pueblo1016]

Very awesome video! Im a parent of a teen with Aspie, and really appreciate the effort you put into your video in clarifying what the internet tends to say about Asperger's. In particular the empathy....my daughter is one of the most empathetic people I know! Thanks! :)

[Takeo1813]

Hey, to the thing about Empathy, i can aggree with you, but you cant say it isnt true, because i know some aspergers, who do not show any kind of empathy, even when they try, you cant say its untrue, only because it only dont match to you, it do not mean that it dont match at anyone, i know aspies, who cant live alone or even work, it depends on the aspie, because we are all individuals and all different, so you cant say, we are all like that or that, its different.

[uranusisnotfunny]

Swedish Redneck....hilarious!

[MellyJuffin]

I love the word 'inadequate', its one of my favorite words, but when I want to use it, I often can't seem to find where its located in my brain. I love the way you say 'inadequate'. (in this video) I like the way you say a lot of words, your voice has a lovely calming, mesmerizing quality....well to me anyway and I could listen to you talk all day, until I get bored anyway, I get bored easily.

I also love the way you say 'yahoo'. Why don't U use Google? Gonna watch part 2 now.

[bambooman654]

wait...isnt that adkit2? wtf u doin steallin his video?

[InjuredMinds]

@bambooman654 I am Adkit2. x.x I link to this channel from my Adkit2 channel.

[bambooman654]

@InjuredMinds ohhhh yeah i just realized after i commented xD sorry

[diannatena]

:) i thought "lie to me" had bad actors, maybe it's my asperger's, i was wondering about that the other day...How can i tell? with other shows like forensics and stuff, through reasoning i can tell what happened way before other people watching it with me, but lie to me is pfft i'm clueless

[InjuredMinds]

@diannatena I don't watch it for the actors though, I just enjoy the psychology of it... well... that's not completely true, Tim Roth is in it. He's my favorite actor of all times. Because he doesn't act, he just plays himself in every part he's in. A complete badass. Oh Tim Roth... I wish I was more like you.

[awashedupsterotype]

Are you dutch?

[Knollnase]

@awashedupsterotype hes swedish

[lilcrazyaznboy]

This doesn't sound like a disorder, more like just a personality. I don't think asperger's syndrome is even a real disorder. Here's the thing about me. It might confuse u but this is my personality or it can be a disorder. Who knows? I obsessed about certain things. I'm very organized and messy at the same time. I'm very lonely, I lack social skills. I'm very emotional, but at certain times, I just don't give a fuck. I play around alot, make jokes, hurting people feelings but don't mean it.

[lilcrazyaznboy]

@lilcrazyaznboy When I'm outside to the store or somewhere and people stares at me, I think they dislike me and instantly I just get hot.. There's more of me, but if this sounds like something bad should I get a check up? Peace.

[weirdguy75]

@lilcrazyaznboy you sound like me lol.

[MaskoftheWraith]

Sorry, I meant 'Aspergerer'. It's late xD

[MaskoftheWraith]

*Continued*

However when it comes to appropriate reactions to situations or through communication, I do feel much more comfortable expressing myself in written words as I love literarature (and probably because it's a more specific form of communication), than speaking them, though I don't have a problem with talking.

Would you say that I am more of an 'Asburgerer' or a 'Normie'?

[MaskoftheWraith]

I fall under the categories of 2, 3 and 5 on your list. I like a need my routine and I plan in advance as I am organised , I'm generally not very empathetic (except to close friends and family members or certain individuals that I feel for). As for 1, 4 and 5, I am just naturally observant, and along with my pre-planning nature, I can pick up on certain out-comes. I'm a bit of a dominant persona, so I tend to look people in the eye out of natural confidence (even in groups), however...

[SaraESainsbury]

like for one thing, when I am passing people on the street I will never ever look them in the eye and always look off the other way or downward. and when I'm in the doctor's clinic and there are more people waiting than just me I have to put in my ear plugs and look down the whole time. some times I will even start singing (even if it's in public), just to avoid eye contact and conversation with someone else. I just get too nervous, dunno why. even though I already take meds to help that.

[BlessedMom1305]

You are awesome! Thank you for creating this video. My son is about to be diagnosed with this and I have known all along. But this video certainly solidified my understanding even more! LOVE it!

[wm17959]

Thank you very much for your video. I think it is a very real possibility that I have Aspergers because of what you have described.

I'm very glad I found your video!

[madkittyjoey70]

thanks 4 this video. one of my closest friends has this and whenever he didn't seem 2 care about how i feel, i would get so angry at him and call him an asshole. after watching this video, i realized that he didn't mean 2 b rude...he just couldn't help it b/c of his condition.

[alexrod1991]

i dont get the pot one.

i dont get most jokes lol

[polkadotpants]

I hate it, I hate what it makes me feel and how it makes me act and how people look at me as a result; maybe that's down to other's negativity on it but that's my general feeling, if it's a gift I want to give it back.

[gkokmdam]

Hi,

thanks for the video and the list. Very helpful. Just wondering: how is it possible for you to love standup comedy if you miss jokes from your chef (about putting certain things in the pot or not). How does that work ?

[InjuredMinds]

@gkokmdam Standup comedy is usually very obvious jokes. Everyday jokes are usually sarcastic or ironic or hinting. Plus, a standup have an audience so it's easier to tell when he's joking since he will make people laugh. :P

[taleana2002]

I just thought i was weird cause of what you just described, no one has diagnosed me with AS but i may have it. I force myself to look into peoples eyes but i still look away excessively. Its hard to look into eyes. I DO have empathy! Not learned but from birth, i feel emotions throughout my body creating an desire to avoid people. I cant read body language, i have never laughed at a joke. Ive always been told im rudely blunt..could it be AS even though im empathic?

[Kingofcorrect]

Your IS a alittle flat. But your accent makes it sound cool

[amjPeace]

It was so good of you to make this video. You have helped me understand one of my students much better. I am happy to say he looks me in the eye quite often and has learned to trust me.

[2010producerx]

I've recently come to the conclusion that my father and brother both have AS. It answers so many questions in my life, and finally explains the reason for the breakdown in the relationship with my father, and my brother's pedantic, argumentative nature.

Finally I can see that it's not selfishness, or a rejection of me, but just the way they are, and I can find ways to modify my interaction with them and understand them more, even though I know now that it'll never be fully reciprocated.

[optifog]

I love these two videos, they were helpful and were really funny too. I notice though that you don't mention repetitive, stereotyped motor mannerisms, commonly known as stimming. Is that because you don't have this symptom yourself, or, as I have read, does it not get much attention in certain countries, like Sweden? It's quite a problem for me personally, because I get nagged and judged for it and it can be self-injurious. I think it's a good sign of AS because few NTs do it

[morgansheborgan]

Just for the record, I think you are a very attractive, interesting and uinque individual and can't imagine why a girl wouldn't want to gain an understanding of AS and be your girlfriend. Don't give up hope...there has got to be a girl out there who will be smart enough to see what a great guy you are.

[deadpoetoftheyear]

I don't think your voice is weird at all. But maybe you're focusing more on talking since it's not your 1st language, I notice I sound more normal speaking English... (Am Swedish)

[Aspie37]

Good to see a fellow advocate

[nfmblossoming]

Omg... Dude please I am freaking out O_O I wanna know!!! I wanna know!!!! D: this is annoying...

[maddenmaster365]

i have aspergers syndrome and its not fun it feels like people yell at you ALL THE TIME!!!

[Hallenena]

@maddenmaster365 i feel exactly the same way.

[hoboboxerjoe]

@maddenmaster365, I know what you mean :(. I tried posting on my facebook what its like to live with it and I just BARELY lost a friend over it. She is still in High School, im 24, so she is really immature, even for her age, but she didn't get what I was trying to do. I try to explain how hard it is (I'm also disabled and have rheumatoid arthrtis and one testicle so I have a lot stacked against me). Going through life like this, to shed light on people in our situation. And the msg they sent

[hoboboxerjoe]

@maddenmaster365-was so vile and mean it nearly made me cry. Saying how I just want attention, to I care about what people think, (which is kind of the foundation of human relationships), to me wanting pity. When I continuously mentioned that my entire msg was meant to get empathy and understanding. I was diagnosed until I was 22-23 somewhere between there. I did manage to become a hell of a boxer though, and combative martial artist, krav maga, kali, etc. But I don't have many friends...

[TheAlexander356]

You're a "redneck from Sweden"?

Is that like... a liberal? :P

[scaputo8500]

This is my son.....im sad about this, but I CAN deal with it...

[VaMom1975]

Thank you very much...you have helped me understand my son better....

[imtheonlysane1here]

Yeah, I have always had trouble interpreting sarcasm and jokes, unless they are REALLY obvious. I also tend to monologue a whole lot when talking about something I'm interested in. And yeah, I have a very monotone voice as well.

Also, I tend to talk with more complicated words than most people, and I am very detailed with grammar and pronunciation.

[NicArgent9]

Yep, I found your videos by searching for "Asperger's Syndrome" - so true about the eye contact. Between my bad eyesight and my underdeveloped social sensors, there's just no point in looking at a person, because I won't glean any information from it - but they will ASSUME that I have! - and they simply won't be able to conceive that I'm not like that.

I scored a 39 on that "Wired" test. I've been seeing a therapist about my ADD (diagnosed a few months ago) - maybe I should ask about AS, too.