I want to say thank u for ur videos! They come at a time when I need it most. My husband of 11 years and I are going through a separation ( in Cali it's not legal) .. However it's really been tough losing my soulmate and ur words have inspired me! Thanks again!
@transpirit20 Depend on which side of the pond you live on. I'm February 19th, which some define as Pisces and others Aquarius. I guess I can wake up and choose what I want to be.
I grew up and went to school with my First BF, the first time we got intimate (just kisses and what not) was when we were 12. He and I dated secretly on and off for many years afterward but he was ashamed of being gay where I was out and proud by the time I was 13...which was hard on both of us.. finally he decided he wanted to have kids and settled on finding a woman, but he did say that once she had kids he would come back for me >.< needless to say I declined his offer..eventually *sigh* lol
the beginnings of your first relationship sounds soo familiar to me...did you model the beginning of Tim and Ben's relationship in Something Like Summer after it?
@Jesse782010 Oh, I forgot to answer this question when you posted it on my profile. Sorry! I wouldn't say there’s much of Ben and Tim in my relationship with Daniel. He was completely out and proud, as was I. Daniel struggled instead with being feminine and being generally unhappy in life. I’m not sure I could ever write a character like Daniel, because looking back, I still don’t get him. There was definitely a thing or two he wasn't telling me.
@JayBellBooks it's fine! sorry for posting it twice, my curiosity gets out of control sometimes! i see. okay, just wanted to know. i find it really interesting because we're studying 'Something Like Summer' in my Literature class, and my teacher thinks you put a little something from your own life in all your books and he said that Tim and Ben or Ben and Jace might be based on one of your relationships! :) now he wants us to write an opening chapter to a gay romance novel! any advice?
@Jesse782010 Aaand, now I'm going for worst response time. It's been a crazy week! :( There's a class studying Something Like Summer? At what school? That's great! As for the opening chapter, I think it's always good to establish who the main character is, like where they are at in life, and to have them encounter the love interest. This can be from afar, like in Something Like Summer, or be more direct contact, but don't let them get too involved. The build up is the best part of romance!
@JayBellBooks Relax, i don't expect a reply back a couple of minutes after i post the comment! It has? I'm sorry to hear, hope everything settles down for you! We're in Australia! It's kind of hard to explain, but cliff notes version, we get to study 4 books a year, 2 of them approved by the Education Department and the other 2 are just for fun, Something Like Summer is the just for fun one :) That's awesome! Thanks for the advice! I'll give full credit when i submit the chapter! :) Thanks again
Jay, you've always been a good role model for me. Thanks for that. I have realized lately that I've fallen more in love with the idea of being in love than love itself, and you've just confirmed that for me. :]
@PolyesterSweater Don't let that stop you from pursuing whatever you want. If you find the right partner, you might fall in love with them instead. Then again, its also good to take breaks in life and figure out what you really want. I guess what I'm saying is to just keeping doing your thing. :D
Just a few months ago I got out of my first real relationship. 3 months. I honestly believed we couldve worked out but he wasnt ready. He hated himself and his past (his first love really hurt him and he hadnt dealt with it). I tried to be there for him but you can only do so much. When it ended i was hurt felt like i wasnt good enough and did stuff i am not proud of. Thankfully im better and we are in good enough terms to still talk every once in a while.
@guyofthelostforest Sounds like a rough experience, but I'm glad you've pulled through it. Sounds similar to my own story too, since my first boyfriend was definitely damaged goods. But hey, we survived, right?
There is a movie called Edge of Seventeen. It is set in Ohio in the 1980s, and the main character falls for a college boy he meets while working at an amusement park during the Summer before his senior year in HS.
I remember visiting a friend's house and he used to chat with this small group over a dial-up modem, it seemed strange to me at the time but here we all are. I saw First Knight with a few of those chatters sitting behind me- that WAS 5000 years ago!
Wow, I couldn't have handled a relationship at 16. I love that you talk about these things, not too many people do. I don't think I have any really bad tales to tell, just guys who didn't know what they wanted. "In love with love" would describe me 2
@warmgulfwind Good old dial-up modems! It was a new age! There's so much we take for granted these days. There weren't even onscreen images in those days. Not proper ones anyway.
I couldn't really handle a relationship at sixteen either, which is one reason it didn't work out so well. :)
So...not many people know this about me. I've always told everyone that the person that I'm engaged to now is/was my first boyfriend. But the truth is, I did have a boyfriend before him. I always seem to exclude him because things ended with us very quickly (less than 3 weeks), and the whole time I was with him I felt like it was a bad situation. He and I were best friends and college roommates and since then, we don't speak any longer or see each other. That's why I exclude him, I guess...
@kinged2586 Why not! If the guy wasn't important, you have every right to exclude him. I often say my first boyfriend was the first guy I slept with, since the true first was a drunken encounter I don't really remember. We write our own history. :)
I'm sorry to hear you had some bad relationship experiences but I am happy you found your prince charming in Andreas you two seem so happy together and beautiful I'm happy for you two and hope one day for myself find that same happiness.
I don't think teenage relationships are meant to last, there is to much you haven't experienced. Nine months for gay teenagers of 16 and 19 is an eternity . I didn't have a real relationship until I was 27.
Its kind of strange but Ive never had a relationship with anyone until recently. Of course, what you described was pretty much the case with me. Someone showed interest in me and in my head I figured it was my last chance so I gave it a go. Even though we really weren't meant for each other in that way. We're still friends but he's gone on to someone else and I ended up alone anyway. Oh well, I tried. Im glad I had this brief experience so at least I could say I had one.
@brentbraniff Hopefully there will be more, if you want there to be. I look back on those I've had, and I don't regret them either. Love is always interesting, no matter what form it takes.
:D I've never been in a relationship but I'll definitely take your advice about starting out. I know I've wanted a BF for a while and I'm now 20 and still have never experienced a relationship but honestly I'm not in a hurry for one because of things in my past at least so far :) I have a hard time trusting guys Also sorry I haven't told you more of my thoughts about your Hell's Pawn book been busy with other things but I'll get to it sometime soon :D
@cianna15 Not a problem about Hell's Pawn. And it's probably good that you've taken your time. When you do have a relationship, it will probably be a lot healthier without crazy teenage hormones messing with your brain.
I want to say thank u for ur videos! They come at a time when I need it most. My husband of 11 years and I are going through a separation ( in Cali it's not legal) .. However it's really been tough losing my soulmate and ur words have inspired me! Thanks again!
Dortiz8925 1 week ago
@Dortiz8925 Glad I could help. Best of luck with all the changes you are going through!
JayBellBooks 1 week ago
you seem to me like an aquarian.... are you?
transpirit20 1 month ago
@transpirit20 Depend on which side of the pond you live on. I'm February 19th, which some define as Pisces and others Aquarius. I guess I can wake up and choose what I want to be.
JayBellBooks 1 month ago
@JayBellBooks wow! I was partly right! my deceptive skills are improving :D
transpirit20 1 month ago
I grew up and went to school with my First BF, the first time we got intimate (just kisses and what not) was when we were 12. He and I dated secretly on and off for many years afterward but he was ashamed of being gay where I was out and proud by the time I was 13...which was hard on both of us.. finally he decided he wanted to have kids and settled on finding a woman, but he did say that once she had kids he would come back for me >.< needless to say I declined his offer..eventually *sigh* lol
ZAmpedNZ 3 months ago
the beginnings of your first relationship sounds soo familiar to me...did you model the beginning of Tim and Ben's relationship in Something Like Summer after it?
Jesse782010 3 months ago
@Jesse782010 Oh, I forgot to answer this question when you posted it on my profile. Sorry! I wouldn't say there’s much of Ben and Tim in my relationship with Daniel. He was completely out and proud, as was I. Daniel struggled instead with being feminine and being generally unhappy in life. I’m not sure I could ever write a character like Daniel, because looking back, I still don’t get him. There was definitely a thing or two he wasn't telling me.
JayBellBooks 3 months ago
@JayBellBooks it's fine! sorry for posting it twice, my curiosity gets out of control sometimes! i see. okay, just wanted to know. i find it really interesting because we're studying 'Something Like Summer' in my Literature class, and my teacher thinks you put a little something from your own life in all your books and he said that Tim and Ben or Ben and Jace might be based on one of your relationships! :) now he wants us to write an opening chapter to a gay romance novel! any advice?
Jesse782010 3 months ago
@Jesse782010 Aaand, now I'm going for worst response time. It's been a crazy week! :( There's a class studying Something Like Summer? At what school? That's great! As for the opening chapter, I think it's always good to establish who the main character is, like where they are at in life, and to have them encounter the love interest. This can be from afar, like in Something Like Summer, or be more direct contact, but don't let them get too involved. The build up is the best part of romance!
JayBellBooks 3 months ago
@JayBellBooks Relax, i don't expect a reply back a couple of minutes after i post the comment! It has? I'm sorry to hear, hope everything settles down for you! We're in Australia! It's kind of hard to explain, but cliff notes version, we get to study 4 books a year, 2 of them approved by the Education Department and the other 2 are just for fun, Something Like Summer is the just for fun one :) That's awesome! Thanks for the advice! I'll give full credit when i submit the chapter! :) Thanks again
Jesse782010 3 months ago
Jay, you've always been a good role model for me. Thanks for that. I have realized lately that I've fallen more in love with the idea of being in love than love itself, and you've just confirmed that for me. :]
PolyesterSweater 3 months ago
@PolyesterSweater Don't let that stop you from pursuing whatever you want. If you find the right partner, you might fall in love with them instead. Then again, its also good to take breaks in life and figure out what you really want. I guess what I'm saying is to just keeping doing your thing. :D
JayBellBooks 3 months ago
every mistake makes one grow, just don't make the same mistake over again and again. And now see what you got! A nice man sleeping beside you!
myzackfair01 3 months ago
Just a few months ago I got out of my first real relationship. 3 months. I honestly believed we couldve worked out but he wasnt ready. He hated himself and his past (his first love really hurt him and he hadnt dealt with it). I tried to be there for him but you can only do so much. When it ended i was hurt felt like i wasnt good enough and did stuff i am not proud of. Thankfully im better and we are in good enough terms to still talk every once in a while.
guyofthelostforest 4 months ago
@guyofthelostforest Sounds like a rough experience, but I'm glad you've pulled through it. Sounds similar to my own story too, since my first boyfriend was definitely damaged goods. But hey, we survived, right?
JayBellBooks 3 months ago
@karthboi I agree completely. It's takes a lot of bad ones to find the right partner, and there's a lot to learn along the way.
JayBellBooks 4 months ago
Great video good to see you again!
pvampire 4 months ago
There is a movie called Edge of Seventeen. It is set in Ohio in the 1980s, and the main character falls for a college boy he meets while working at an amusement park during the Summer before his senior year in HS.
jaredhtx 4 months ago
@jaredhtx That was the joke. ;) That movie is uncomfortably close to home for me.
JayBellBooks 4 months ago
Very true about falling in love with idea of being in love than actually falling in love with the person!
telicstorm 4 months ago
I remember visiting a friend's house and he used to chat with this small group over a dial-up modem, it seemed strange to me at the time but here we all are. I saw First Knight with a few of those chatters sitting behind me- that WAS 5000 years ago!
Wow, I couldn't have handled a relationship at 16. I love that you talk about these things, not too many people do. I don't think I have any really bad tales to tell, just guys who didn't know what they wanted. "In love with love" would describe me 2
warmgulfwind 4 months ago
@warmgulfwind Good old dial-up modems! It was a new age! There's so much we take for granted these days. There weren't even onscreen images in those days. Not proper ones anyway.
I couldn't really handle a relationship at sixteen either, which is one reason it didn't work out so well. :)
JayBellBooks 4 months ago
So...not many people know this about me. I've always told everyone that the person that I'm engaged to now is/was my first boyfriend. But the truth is, I did have a boyfriend before him. I always seem to exclude him because things ended with us very quickly (less than 3 weeks), and the whole time I was with him I felt like it was a bad situation. He and I were best friends and college roommates and since then, we don't speak any longer or see each other. That's why I exclude him, I guess...
kinged2586 4 months ago
@kinged2586 Why not! If the guy wasn't important, you have every right to exclude him. I often say my first boyfriend was the first guy I slept with, since the true first was a drunken encounter I don't really remember. We write our own history. :)
JayBellBooks 4 months ago
I'm sorry to hear you had some bad relationship experiences but I am happy you found your prince charming in Andreas you two seem so happy together and beautiful I'm happy for you two and hope one day for myself find that same happiness.
chatte578 4 months ago
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DrNHand1994 4 months ago
I don't think teenage relationships are meant to last, there is to much you haven't experienced. Nine months for gay teenagers of 16 and 19 is an eternity . I didn't have a real relationship until I was 27.
tjport1980 4 months ago
Its kind of strange but Ive never had a relationship with anyone until recently. Of course, what you described was pretty much the case with me. Someone showed interest in me and in my head I figured it was my last chance so I gave it a go. Even though we really weren't meant for each other in that way. We're still friends but he's gone on to someone else and I ended up alone anyway. Oh well, I tried. Im glad I had this brief experience so at least I could say I had one.
brentbraniff 4 months ago
@brentbraniff Hopefully there will be more, if you want there to be. I look back on those I've had, and I don't regret them either. Love is always interesting, no matter what form it takes.
JayBellBooks 4 months ago
:D I've never been in a relationship but I'll definitely take your advice about starting out. I know I've wanted a BF for a while and I'm now 20 and still have never experienced a relationship but honestly I'm not in a hurry for one because of things in my past at least so far :) I have a hard time trusting guys Also sorry I haven't told you more of my thoughts about your Hell's Pawn book been busy with other things but I'll get to it sometime soon :D
cianna15 4 months ago
@cianna15 Not a problem about Hell's Pawn. And it's probably good that you've taken your time. When you do have a relationship, it will probably be a lot healthier without crazy teenage hormones messing with your brain.
JayBellBooks 4 months ago
@JayBellBooks Yeah hopefully it's not lol :P
cianna15 4 months ago