I told him that I didn't want to have sex, but ultimately he chose another woman so he can have sex with her. We had a fallen out on facebook, so I deleted and blocked this bastard and texted him and he pretty much said that it's fine and to stay away from him and his family. I deleted his email, I deleted his phone, and I plan on blocking his phone from contacting me.
I had my low points in my Christian walk myself. I was a little involved with this guy, a test pilot of the USAF and he lives in Vegas and I live in PA. He came up to PA to see me twice and we made out and all that, but didn't have sex because I'm a virgin. I thought he respected that, but ultimately he ended up with a Mexican girlfriend who lives in Alburquerque. I learned this in the beginning of January. I was heartbroken.
I totally agree with this video. As a woman, I totally understand how we are with the "no" thing. And we do need to make sure that anyone we have sex or get in that situation with understands completely when we actually mean "no."
OK bro, you want to talk about the standard you claim? Check your standard.
1 Thess. 4:4-6 that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God; that no one should take advantage of and defraud his brother in this matter, because the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also forewarned you and testified.
If you didn't claim to hold yourself to that standard no one would care about this video. I
I know my standard and in the video I acknowledged that I was fell short of it. I don't see the point you are trying to make though. Are you saying if I didn't claim to be a Christian, then no one would care about this video in the first place?
Because as sinners we still laugh at the bad things we do to people we feel they deserve it. If I really didn't feel bad about it, I would have done it again and again. When I was a kid, I punched a kid in the nose who pissed me off and made him bleed. I laugh about it because I can't believe I still did that but part of me still feels bad because he did nothing to warrant that.
As a woman who has been raped(not from these circumstances) I agree wholeheartedly. Ladies we have have to make ourselves CLEAR. In a perfect world no would mean no, but if your mouth says no and your tone and body language says yes, it can become confusing. No one wants to stop in the middle ruin the mood and be like "what degree of no do you mean?" They should, but they aren't going to. Make your intentions clear.
Dude you shot the fuck out on this one. I initially subscribed to your channel to learn a bit more about basic training. Since those videos you have been on a nonstop rampage of the fucking most ignorant subjects ever. ??? I guess if this is how you want to hold yourself bro lol to each their own ...
Its all good lol the more of you basic training leeches I chase away, the less stupid questions I have to answer from you guys lol I regret everyday making those videos for you guys lol
I totally understand where you're coming from Im a girl and as a girl I got myself into situations where no meant no but i didn' want to seem like a buzz kill so i said no the same way you were describing girls who say no but really mean"yes but slow down"so things went way too far There comes a point when you can't be afraid to kill the mood and i dont think it can be considered rape if you don't push him away and tell him to leave or to stop If you're sending mixed signals it's your own fault
@alexavasquez1992 Well that's the weird thing. Look I agree that I didn't have a good choice in guys when I dated him, he was the worst boyfriend I've ever had I hate to say lol. However I do know that it just doesn't seem like he would do something like that, so maybe he just misread my signs or something? I don't know I'm really confused myself.
@TeaLavender i don't want to sound cross, but i don't see how trying to physically get him off with force can be misread. and you said yourself he was the worst guy you ever dated, so i also don't see how it can be surprising that he would do something like that. and because you said he doesn't seem like he would, i think it's very possible that he had had experience in doing that sort of thing
LOL!!!! LMAO!!!! Your the one telling the Story and I don't know who's Blushing More! Me from Watching and Picturing Fun Bags LMAO Or what LOL Love It.... You Rock!
Okay, but let me take you through the mind of a woman, she's not gonna be like NO STOP IT YOU JERK because you would call her a bitch and the mood would be ruined and no making out would happen.
No did mean no. She changed her mind later. I don't know how it is with her, but maybe you even pressured her into it by persisting.
Both genders have a lot going on through their minds. This is why I hated the "No means no" phrase because these situations are a lot more complicated than a bumper sticker slogan. She did tell me no (in a sexual way) but her no did not mean no. I know my ex very well. If I did just stopped, she would have teased me and say I wasn't a "real man" because I was "afraid" to touch her, just like she said the other times I refused to take things far.
I'd like to ask you a question Jovan14606. I was dating a guy in the past and he was about to deflower me. I didn't know how to say no, and he was kissing me at the same time. I was scared to say no, and scared in that situation but I knew that I didn't want him to do that. I pushed his hand away as hard as I could but he was too strong. This lasted for about 10-20 seconds and I didn't win, I gave him and I let him. We broke up, but is that considered rape? Still don't like thinking about this..
@TeaLavender yeah, you physically tried to get him to stop, but he overpowered you and if you were that scared, something was wrong and it seems he was getting ready to use force from the get go and just took advantage (further) that you didn't say anything
I totally get what you're saying in this video (I'm a girl) and i agree with this. Don't let these ignorant & close minded people get to you. He is NOT saying it is ok to rape! He's just speaking about a certain type of rape, acquaintance rape and the situations that sometimes come up! There are types of rape just like there stranger rape, statutory rape etc. Nowhere in this video is he justifying rape.
Thanks for understanding! I'm only showing what goes on in a guys mind when we hear no, why we think that way. I'm not even justifying any of it, just trying to make girls mind readers so next time, they do that no (teehee) stuff, they know what is going on in his mind.
@Jovan14606 No need to thank me. Not only do I understand but I agree. I thank you for this. You're only trying to give us a little hand by being honest when it comes to situations like this. I hear this all the time from guy friends, they'll be with girls that do this to them. & when this happens testosterone is taking action and they're not gonna think "ok no is no" while she's right there giggling and not stopping him unless she REALLY means it. Like you said they have to kill the moment.
I realllyyy agree with that cause with my boyfriend I always say no u can leave no I don't want u to stay in hopes of him saying no babe I wanna stay with u.. Chicks mess with guys heads all the time! Haha I'm guilty of that but I let my real no mean no so u have a really good point there!(:
i understand what you mean BUT STILL, there is NO and with this i mean NO (ya i had to say that so you could 'understand' ) relation with a girlfriend/boyfriend situation, and a man who has a mental disorder, or a messed up life experience which made him rape a girl. to prove what im saying, tell me why are there boys raped by women ? would you say then, that a little boy had this thingy about saying a no but yes as u say? next time try to think of where do problems in this world come from
In the case you mentioned, a male getting raped by a female, this whole double speak thing wouldn't apply because men aren't known for saying one thing and meaning the other like women are. The instances you mentioned about a mental disorder, that has nothing to do with the type of rape I'm talking about. I'm not talking about stranger rape but rape in a more intimate setting with someone you know. You can't say NO when getting raped on the street because you have no voice.
I still think if a girl says something like 'no, i dont feel comfortable with that' thats no excuse for a guy to go all the way or anything anyway- and I would still call that a minor form of rape- but I really agree that girls need to take things more into control and if they mean no sex all the way they need to at least kill the mood for a moment and say real serious 'no sex' and set the boundaries instead of still teasing and suggesting. Also completely agree about ashamed whores!
My boyfriend and I are active with each other, but he does this thing where he asks me every time before any actual "intercourse" occurs...it comes from stuff drilled in his head about rape while he was in the Navy for 6 years. Just thought I'd offer my input.
@Mdulcebella You can say no sex until marriage. If some guy attacks you & rapes you, well he's taking your innocents away. Just because you wait until marriage doesn't mean it won't happen to you.
Thats true what you say, however, what she said is true for this video. In my video, I was only speaking about rape within a close circle, like with a friend, boyfriend, ex, etc. The rapes that happen on the street are different and my video doesn't apply for those moments.
I have a friend that was just put through hell and his life was turned upside down because someone claimed he raped them. It recently came out that she lied, and we are all grateful that they got the truth out of her, but that is a period of time in his life that he wont be able to have back. There were nasty things said about him and the way he was treated changed all because of one girl. He is a great guy. That was totally messed up!
I told him that I didn't want to have sex, but ultimately he chose another woman so he can have sex with her. We had a fallen out on facebook, so I deleted and blocked this bastard and texted him and he pretty much said that it's fine and to stay away from him and his family. I deleted his email, I deleted his phone, and I plan on blocking his phone from contacting me.
mercyhurstchic 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos
I had my low points in my Christian walk myself. I was a little involved with this guy, a test pilot of the USAF and he lives in Vegas and I live in PA. He came up to PA to see me twice and we made out and all that, but didn't have sex because I'm a virgin. I thought he respected that, but ultimately he ended up with a Mexican girlfriend who lives in Alburquerque. I learned this in the beginning of January. I was heartbroken.
mercyhurstchic 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos
#funbags , chervony the details...too much, but i love this vid
dribaby93 1 month ago
To eat this OUT!!! I CAN'T I CAN'T I CAN'T
AshleyNicoleVocals 1 month ago
Bc ur ashamed of ur whore habits *I'm on the floor crying laughing*
AshleyNicoleVocals 1 month ago
I got the titties :D G status lol
juliaxxjesus 1 month ago in playlist Main Episodes
You can tell that saying this stuff is totally making you uncomfortable. Hahahah.
sammylee2693 1 month ago
fun bags?! lol funny
kasfami 1 month ago
There's nothing wrong with rape. Men have needs and women need to realize that they need to be ready at all times to satisfy our needs.
PoopStainedUnderwear 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos
the beginning of all your videos always scares me lol
pretdaymado 1 month ago
I totally agree with this video. As a woman, I totally understand how we are with the "no" thing. And we do need to make sure that anyone we have sex or get in that situation with understands completely when we actually mean "no."
2010kawaiipanda 1 month ago
@2010kawaiipanda
I so agree, No means NO. But as a woman we also need to be aware of the situations we put ourselves into.
robynjh 1 month ago
OK bro, you want to talk about the standard you claim? Check your standard.
1 Thess. 4:4-6 that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God; that no one should take advantage of and defraud his brother in this matter, because the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also forewarned you and testified.
If you didn't claim to hold yourself to that standard no one would care about this video. I
MiguelitoSan 1 month ago
@MiguelitoSan
I know my standard and in the video I acknowledged that I was fell short of it. I don't see the point you are trying to make though. Are you saying if I didn't claim to be a Christian, then no one would care about this video in the first place?
Jovan14606 1 month ago
lol
RawbyD 1 month ago
Dude, if it was a 'low point' why are you laughing and making a video about it on youtube? Doesn't sound like you feel bad about it.
MiguelitoSan 1 month ago
@MiguelitoSan
Because as sinners we still laugh at the bad things we do to people we feel they deserve it. If I really didn't feel bad about it, I would have done it again and again. When I was a kid, I punched a kid in the nose who pissed me off and made him bleed. I laugh about it because I can't believe I still did that but part of me still feels bad because he did nothing to warrant that.
Jovan14606 1 month ago
As a woman who has been raped(not from these circumstances) I agree wholeheartedly. Ladies we have have to make ourselves CLEAR. In a perfect world no would mean no, but if your mouth says no and your tone and body language says yes, it can become confusing. No one wants to stop in the middle ruin the mood and be like "what degree of no do you mean?" They should, but they aren't going to. Make your intentions clear.
BellaVooith8990 1 month ago
I agree a hundred percent. I know how misleading women can be, and we can sometimes say things we don't mean. This is a really good video.
NightSilk 1 month ago
Dude you shot the fuck out on this one. I initially subscribed to your channel to learn a bit more about basic training. Since those videos you have been on a nonstop rampage of the fucking most ignorant subjects ever. ??? I guess if this is how you want to hold yourself bro lol to each their own ...
Kdnce 2 months ago
@Kdnce
Its all good lol the more of you basic training leeches I chase away, the less stupid questions I have to answer from you guys lol I regret everyday making those videos for you guys lol
Jovan14606 2 months ago
@Jovan14606 lmao well i like all of your subjects
amaka38 2 months ago
@Kdnce
i know that feel bro
xXMarivXx 2 months ago
I totally understand where you're coming from Im a girl and as a girl I got myself into situations where no meant no but i didn' want to seem like a buzz kill so i said no the same way you were describing girls who say no but really mean"yes but slow down"so things went way too far There comes a point when you can't be afraid to kill the mood and i dont think it can be considered rape if you don't push him away and tell him to leave or to stop If you're sending mixed signals it's your own fault
ciara8993 2 months ago
when you screamed NO NO NO! i jumped XD
OAKLANDSHAWTY 2 months ago in playlist Uploaded videos
There's a problem with rape? I had no idea.
ToadsMGodes 2 months ago in playlist Main Episodes
@alexavasquez1992 Well that's the weird thing. Look I agree that I didn't have a good choice in guys when I dated him, he was the worst boyfriend I've ever had I hate to say lol. However I do know that it just doesn't seem like he would do something like that, so maybe he just misread my signs or something? I don't know I'm really confused myself.
TeaLavender 2 months ago
@TeaLavender i don't want to sound cross, but i don't see how trying to physically get him off with force can be misread. and you said yourself he was the worst guy you ever dated, so i also don't see how it can be surprising that he would do something like that. and because you said he doesn't seem like he would, i think it's very possible that he had had experience in doing that sort of thing
alexavasquez1992 1 month ago
LOL!!!! LMAO!!!! Your the one telling the Story and I don't know who's Blushing More! Me from Watching and Picturing Fun Bags LMAO Or what LOL Love It.... You Rock!
anw9786 2 months ago in playlist Main Episodes
Okay, but let me take you through the mind of a woman, she's not gonna be like NO STOP IT YOU JERK because you would call her a bitch and the mood would be ruined and no making out would happen.
No did mean no. She changed her mind later. I don't know how it is with her, but maybe you even pressured her into it by persisting.
1Lozzix1 2 months ago in playlist Uploaded videos
@1Lozzix1
Both genders have a lot going on through their minds. This is why I hated the "No means no" phrase because these situations are a lot more complicated than a bumper sticker slogan. She did tell me no (in a sexual way) but her no did not mean no. I know my ex very well. If I did just stopped, she would have teased me and say I wasn't a "real man" because I was "afraid" to touch her, just like she said the other times I refused to take things far.
Jovan14606 2 months ago
I Hope you asked god for forgivenss for what you've done SMH
Hummingbird527 2 months ago in playlist Main Episodes
hahaha this video is so true!!!
jeskuhisfetch26 2 months ago
Sorry I meant to say *I didn't win, and I ended up letting him.
TeaLavender 2 months ago
I'd like to ask you a question Jovan14606. I was dating a guy in the past and he was about to deflower me. I didn't know how to say no, and he was kissing me at the same time. I was scared to say no, and scared in that situation but I knew that I didn't want him to do that. I pushed his hand away as hard as I could but he was too strong. This lasted for about 10-20 seconds and I didn't win, I gave him and I let him. We broke up, but is that considered rape? Still don't like thinking about this..
TeaLavender 2 months ago
@TeaLavender
That's rape. if you feel scared to say no, then it's rape. I'm really sorry :(
1Lozzix1 2 months ago in playlist Uploaded videos
@TeaLavender yeah, you physically tried to get him to stop, but he overpowered you and if you were that scared, something was wrong and it seems he was getting ready to use force from the get go and just took advantage (further) that you didn't say anything
alexavasquez1992 2 months ago
I absolutely LOVE your laugh haha. Love your lil stories lol
YoAmandaRobles 2 months ago
-3*****
Michelitax3 2 months ago
Lol, I haven't even gotten out of bed to brush my teeth 'cos I was sitting here laughing from your video lol -3
Michelitax3 2 months ago
lmao.... this kid.
laurenpatricia2 2 months ago
I totally get what you're saying in this video (I'm a girl) and i agree with this. Don't let these ignorant & close minded people get to you. He is NOT saying it is ok to rape! He's just speaking about a certain type of rape, acquaintance rape and the situations that sometimes come up! There are types of rape just like there stranger rape, statutory rape etc. Nowhere in this video is he justifying rape.
ER111390 2 months ago
@ER111390
Thanks for understanding! I'm only showing what goes on in a guys mind when we hear no, why we think that way. I'm not even justifying any of it, just trying to make girls mind readers so next time, they do that no (teehee) stuff, they know what is going on in his mind.
Jovan14606 2 months ago
@Jovan14606 No need to thank me. Not only do I understand but I agree. I thank you for this. You're only trying to give us a little hand by being honest when it comes to situations like this. I hear this all the time from guy friends, they'll be with girls that do this to them. & when this happens testosterone is taking action and they're not gonna think "ok no is no" while she's right there giggling and not stopping him unless she REALLY means it. Like you said they have to kill the moment.
ER111390 2 months ago
I realllyyy agree with that cause with my boyfriend I always say no u can leave no I don't want u to stay in hopes of him saying no babe I wanna stay with u.. Chicks mess with guys heads all the time! Haha I'm guilty of that but I let my real no mean no so u have a really good point there!(:
I love your videos your so funny! Hahaha
teenmommmy2011 2 months ago
"What kind of retard rape is that? I don't even like to cuddle!" lmao
Jessii1124 2 months ago
i always wanted to ask you.... whered you get that patrick java junkie poster?
maatu1 2 months ago
Somewhere around 8:16 where you screamed "NO NO NO!" I'm wearing head phones, and you scared the crap out of me -__-
Naval334 2 months ago
i understand what you mean BUT STILL, there is NO and with this i mean NO (ya i had to say that so you could 'understand' ) relation with a girlfriend/boyfriend situation, and a man who has a mental disorder, or a messed up life experience which made him rape a girl. to prove what im saying, tell me why are there boys raped by women ? would you say then, that a little boy had this thingy about saying a no but yes as u say? next time try to think of where do problems in this world come from
xXMarivXx 2 months ago
@xXMarivXx
In the case you mentioned, a male getting raped by a female, this whole double speak thing wouldn't apply because men aren't known for saying one thing and meaning the other like women are. The instances you mentioned about a mental disorder, that has nothing to do with the type of rape I'm talking about. I'm not talking about stranger rape but rape in a more intimate setting with someone you know. You can't say NO when getting raped on the street because you have no voice.
Jovan14606 2 months ago
hes obviously not talking about violent rape, hes talking about when a girl has regrets after sex and can legally say it was rape.
EFFORTLESS7 2 months ago
@EFFORTLESS7 or feel as though she was "raped" ...
EFFORTLESS7 2 months ago
funniest video yet
EFFORTLESS7 2 months ago
Dirt Bag
EmoBeater18 2 months ago
Good video man. "Say it with your chest." I like that!
xlNowhereManlx 2 months ago
@xlNowhereManlx
Thanks bro!
Jovan14606 2 months ago
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xlNowhereManlx 2 months ago
okay, so you get a girl really Horney NOT to have sex with her... sir, do give me your man card you won't be needing it.
brandtaylor93 2 months ago
Hahahahaha!!!!! "Say it with your chest!!!" I'm glad sumbody said it. IDK who created double-speak but they need to be slapped.
vvbanks 2 months ago
Yo your a funny MF man. I get what u mean and I agree w/ u but make sure this is ya last video on this topic u gonna make ppl go nuts
mrmikeVIVO 2 months ago
You are evil.
But its great lol
EdeLovesGerrard 2 months ago
I still think if a girl says something like 'no, i dont feel comfortable with that' thats no excuse for a guy to go all the way or anything anyway- and I would still call that a minor form of rape- but I really agree that girls need to take things more into control and if they mean no sex all the way they need to at least kill the mood for a moment and say real serious 'no sex' and set the boundaries instead of still teasing and suggesting. Also completely agree about ashamed whores!
WoohooILoveDolphins 2 months ago
OMFG 8:15 I think I literally shit my pants.
dropdeadchewy 2 months ago
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dropdeadchewy 2 months ago
thank god I killed it ^_^
pretdaymado 2 months ago
Funbags lol
jdmswervinfam 2 months ago
oh lord XD 'retard rape'. lol good poiints here
cenalover159 2 months ago
jovan you dirty sly fox
Kevn3000 2 months ago
I said no with my chest. pushed him off and dipped out like you. lol I did kill it. :)
DaisytheDaisy 2 months ago
@DaisytheDaisy
AMEN!!! I love that =]
Jovan14606 2 months ago
That scared me!!!
jacobmhijkl 2 months ago
lol @ 1:29 - hilarious
Agree w/ the message of the video
Gootch82 2 months ago
Agree 100%.
My boyfriend and I are active with each other, but he does this thing where he asks me every time before any actual "intercourse" occurs...it comes from stuff drilled in his head about rape while he was in the Navy for 6 years. Just thought I'd offer my input.
blueeyedgirlie249 2 months ago
Agreed 110%
fliliu 2 months ago
I got the titties!
hahahahaha I almost died laughing!
BradyLS93 2 months ago
@ 08:13 Scared me! lol! I agree with you 100% I love your videos!
karinaluvzu 2 months ago
Yes this is a good case. I agree with the "No, No, No!"
You are really teaching. Cause you're real. Making sure is
always key. I say no sex until marriage. Avoid all the shame.
Let the wise hear.
Mdulcebella 2 months ago
@Mdulcebella You can say no sex until marriage. If some guy attacks you & rapes you, well he's taking your innocents away. Just because you wait until marriage doesn't mean it won't happen to you.
missrecklessdoll 2 months ago
@missrecklessdoll
Thats true what you say, however, what she said is true for this video. In my video, I was only speaking about rape within a close circle, like with a friend, boyfriend, ex, etc. The rapes that happen on the street are different and my video doesn't apply for those moments.
Jovan14606 2 months ago
i was gonna say the problem with rape is....everything. but several good points were made...all guys think that way
ddelz01 2 months ago
I have a friend that was just put through hell and his life was turned upside down because someone claimed he raped them. It recently came out that she lied, and we are all grateful that they got the truth out of her, but that is a period of time in his life that he wont be able to have back. There were nasty things said about him and the way he was treated changed all because of one girl. He is a great guy. That was totally messed up!
SandraCheree 2 months ago
Java Junkie!!
socomjunki 2 months ago