My Only, older brother was caught out, as it happens. My dad barely speaks to him, and my mom is accepting of it only because she doesn't want to lose het son. But she looked me in the eyes and told me she prays and hopes that I don't become gay. I'm gay.
i told 2 people last week... and yesterday my whole theatre class had this "emotion circle" everyone said something thats wrong or problems at home. so after a while i told my story and said that i am gay, it was a little hard but after that people said they respected me more & are proud of me because i told a HUGE group like that. So i would say be comfortable with yourself and tell people when the time is right for you, i did and now i get a ton of respect. :)
i just came out to my brother today and he did not take it too well.. he was absolutely disgusted by it and is in a state of total shock .. i now feel horrible about it and i feel that my entire life is collapsing around me like a house of cards i am so depressed right now..... my brother used to trust me , but now everything has changed i shoulda kept it a secret. FML...
It might help, to remind people that you're no different than you were before coming out, it's just that they know you a little better. Best of wishes to all--
I remember 3 times as a teenager trying to start that tricky "i'm gay chat" to my folks each time i was met with a wall of silence - In the end i settled for "i'm not the marrying kind" shortly after aged 17 I moved to the city on me tod - a few years latter on one of my few visits my mother said -" you were a good boy but we were relieved when you left" - now many years on they ask how WE are so I guess thats progress : )
Try & leave a trail of bread crumbs so to speak. lil by lil start to change how you want not like to the xtreme but just little things & if they ask u if only if u feel ur rdy come out if not just do what i did "im just trying something new, every1 else is doing it" lol Watch the tone of ur voice tho dam i almost lost my teeth
I came out to my parents and youngest brother the same week I came out to my friends. It wasn't hard (thank god), it was rather reassuring. But two years after that, my older brothers still don't know and I don't feel like telling them. I don't think it's gonna do me or anybody any good. I'm the only girl, and the youngest, so there's a lot of pressure. I don't hide it, if they ever ask me anything I'll tell, but right now I'm comfortable with the situation.
i tried coming out to my mom....she threatened to take a knife and kill me in my sleep and banged my head against the wall nearly cracking my skull screaming that gay is wrong and that im not gay and then she called dyfus cause she thought i was mentally unstable so i saved the blood soaked shirt for evidence and she cancelled but my friends love it who does'nt want a gay friend? my advice....wait until your OUT of the house
I'm not gonna be coming out anytime soon. My parents know, and three or so friends know I'm Bi, but that's basically it.
The reason is kinda superficial, though. The biggest reason that I don't want to come out anytime soon is because I'm afraid girls will think that I'm gay, so I won't be able to get any.
That, and I live in the backwoods of Maine, where the majority of teens use the word "Fag" in every other sentence.
a sort of "easy" way to come out, is to make it "natural" and "common"... so i started to tell "small" friends i was gay... i played this came called wizard101... so i started to tell people there i was gay... try to make it as easy and common as possible. then when i felt it was more...natural..??? i told my best friend, which i KNEW would be happy :P... then i told some other friends, and later on family.
so my tip would be, make it common first, and feel confident! :)
Hey, well to start, my names david.I have an issue with comin out and with a relationship. Thing. If youy could help that would be great. So, I came out to people, but it was on fb as my status. So I don't know who knows and who don't. There is this guy I like and he likes me, but his friends, are my friends. And I don't know if they know or not and I don't wanna date him if they don't know ya know? Do you have any suggestions? Please help if you can. Thankyou so much!!!
It sucks, because I will never be able to be open about it at home. My mother is extremely homophobic, but here's the thing, she's also one of the best, most loving people I've ever met, and she (and me) have gone through piles and piles of shit in our lives. Telling her would mean hurting her in a way I could never bring myself to, even if I could never agree with the way she thinks about this. I don't quite understand why she thinks like this, but I love her anyway.
@kroozader o.o And she has to feel the same way about you... not like she'll get a butcher knife in the middle of the night and kill you while your sleep <.< no no she'll insult you for a few weeks and....lemme stop there o.o basically she'll have to live with it knowing that she is living with it. You could always wait til your out of the house :D
As someone who just came out two days ago, it is a very fulfilling thing to do, but as said in the video, it has to be when you're ready. But just know it is a great feeling to be honest with yourself :).
I wish I could find people like you in my city, but I can only find people like this on the interenet. I came out almost a year ago and my parents did not accept it. Still dont. But they know I'm bisexual. And how they take it, isnt really imporant to me. I know they still love me because I'm their kid. But what they gonna know is, I have a brother, who is also bisexual. And we are both attacted to the same sex more than the other.
@llouw1 o.o eh, they just want you to be gay <.< so you can do whatever they want you to (giggity). Your straight your straight and have fun wit it :p
coming out was pretty easy all my friends and family accepted it and i did not even say i am gay i just introduced them to my boyfriend and they loved him so it was okay. but i life in europe so its not that big of a deal here anyway. in germany our foreign minister is gay (dont like him anyway )and the mayor of berlin is gay so its pretty much accepted by society here
And i say that, because you KNOW not everyone is going to accept it. And they get violent when you try shoving it in their face, which I've seen a lot. I'm not in the closet. If you ask me, I won't lie. But my credo has not become "We're here. We're queer. Get used to it." Of course people will resist when you're constantly slapping them in the face with that. The Pride Parades sure don't help with the fight either....
@89crazycanuck so, we are just supposed to pretend to be heterosexual or not say anything? whether people want to believe it or not homosexuality is natural, and our society should accept it. not making people aware of homosexuality just continues the taboo that has been going on for the past few thousand years, dont contribute to this
My advice. Don't make a huge deal about it. I came out to my parents at the end of grade 11. I came out to my close friends way before that. I was happy. My best friend decided that he had to make everyone accept it when he came out. He ended up not having such a good time. Do you NEED the whole school to know? My school just ended up knowing. Mostly because gossip is a bitch. But I didn play the part, I just acted like I always did before I came out. People appreciate that more than "ACCEPT IT!
I believe that its easier to come out when you think you can live your life on your own, it get rids of that "omg he may stop funding my education" fear thing.
That way, if your dad did disowns you, you'll still be good, they have no choice but to accept you because they can't blackmail you. Some are threaten to be thrown to a military camp if they come out, so its best when you're already done with your studies and already working
My advice is that some people may surprise you. My Ag teacher and coach doesn't treat me any different because I'm gay, and CA's difinitive red county, Kern. He thinks homosexuality is bad(pro-prop 8), despite the debates we've had (he's the debate team coach, so I can get away with it), but he accepts me as me, and I'm glad for it. Although he does make jokes about my sexuality at times, it's all in good fun
Actually, i've found it easier if you let you siblings know first. I let one by one know and they were all okay, for they are family and family stick together. My siblings helped me come out to my parents.
Dan, good advice. As a gay man and a Truman grad is great to see someone so active about gay issues and concerns in K- ville, even if only temporarily.
i came out as a lesbian to my sister last week, i was nervous she said what was wrong, and we played 20 questions, and when she asked "Are you gay?" i shook my head, she just exhaled and said "God i thought you ever addicted to drugs of something......well that explains why you like Emilie Autumn (the best electric violinist, singer and hottest girl in the world) so much" it went good, but like you and my bff Chad said "If people can't except you they're not worth one minute of your time".
Like the video, coming out has been the biggest problem for me. Most, if not all, of my friends know. But not my parents, not my family. I am pretty sure my parents (at least my dad) would disown me. They may even have the gall to stop funding my college education. So I am walkin on thin ice, in that respect.
I think the worse part for me is trying to come out to my parents. Everyone but my family knows and attempting to come out to my parents. Just never seems a good time. My dads a cancer patient, my mothers not willing to listen., and my sisters clueless. coming out is also about timing just trying to find that right time can be a bloody pain.
Well said, man. I would say that you could ask some of your closest friends if they've got your back (my friend did this with me the other day, of course I was there for her,) and know who your friends are early off. I'm sorry if it sounds unintelligent, I can't say I have the most experience with coming out.
imma don't compare African Americans to FAGS. There is a big difference. Fags go to hell for being Fags, Blacks don't go to hell for being Black. You are a dumb ass.
You're missing the idea, man. You see, only an idiot would try and solve a controversial subject with another. I don't believe in a hell, so to me it doesn't exist. What scientific proof do you have that there is a God and that he said just that? There's no difference between anything. I think if there is a hell, anyone who discriminates for something that isn't a choice should go there. Oh, and please don't say fag, it's likely you don't even understand the origin of the name.
Look, I'm not arguing, I'm trying to tell you in the politest way that I can that you're an idiot. If you feel this strongly about a matter that doesn't involve you, then you should be put down. I feel that people who rave about things that they don't know about shouldn't be alive. Have a nice day, sir, I hope you learn something new today, or at least improve your character a bit. Isn't the Christian way to love thy neighbor? You best be getting on that, brother.
Is that your best retort? Oh, how the self-supremacists have devolved. I was really hoping for an intelligent response, for once. Don't get worked up about it, man, it's just the internet.
As much as I would like to antagonize you like I so did to VideosRfun, I can't say that I want to. What I'm implying is that I would gladly shut up and leave things be if he came up with an intelligent response, but he hasn't. Instead, he acts like a 3rd grader with a bad mouth who's only responses consist of insults, and no real facts. If you wish to feel a certain way about a hot subject, I'm not going to judge. However, you should leave people who think differently to live their lives.
And STILL with the unintelligent remarks. Look, if you give me even ONE intelligent response, I probably wouldn't find the act of antagonizing you to be so funny.
fuck you, man, would you say the same thing to a black man? FUCK NO. You're just afraid of gays, with little reason to be. It's genetic, it's not like someone chooses to be gay.
I think your advice is right on the mark. Some people dare not come out because of what their own families might do to them. If they can wait a little, though, they can find and create their own families of choice.
Some of these comments remind me of a cartoon I saw years ago. One person tells another, "I don't mind straight people, as long as they act gay in public."
Thanks, I am so sick of hiding myself...but coming out is really hard especially like me who grew up in more strict, conservative society. I really want to open myself but the fear meke me hide again..
this comming out thing is bullshit, if this was the 1950s then it would be a big deal, but today, no one cares, do yourself a favor and find some other worthy cause to champion
Oh, yeah, you're right. No one cares. Like the people who stalk someone they think is gay and MURDER him. Sure. Just one more dead person. No big deal.
I'm sorry that you're not aware of what's really _still_ happening in this world; but I'm not going to sit here and pretend my people are not being abused and murdered.
I agree. I think that trying to act more eccentric and "weird" is what causes a lot of discrimination. I have no problem with the homosexual community, but men who try as hard as they can to be overly effeminate and pushy and loud get on my nerves.
"I have no problem with... BUT...." Have you ever heard anyone say, "I'm not racist, but..."? Please read again what you yourself typed. 'I have no problem with this group of people, but some get on my nerves.' Really. Really?
Has it never occurred to you -- have you never once thought -- that maybe just one of these "overly effeminate" men is actually NOT trying to be too effeminate (for your tastes)? Maybe he's actually TRYING to meet what he imagines as your standards? It happens.
It's blatantly obvious when someone is trying too hard. I don't mean acting feminine, I mean being very pushy and flirtatious in an irritating way. You know the type- constantly discussing being gay and bringing it up even when uncalled for. I'm bisexual, I have no problem with the gay community, I just have a problem with people who choose to be irritating, just as much as I have a problem with straight people being irritating.
I totally see where you're coming from, man. I see on both sides of the spectrum as well, being bi romantic, and I know how irritating it is when either of my friends is being pushy about being straight or gay, because there's no need for it; I feel people should be treated like humans, not like gays or straights or asexuals or whatever.
Oh, right. Because those people who "choose" to act that way deserve... what? To be beaten? Called names? Raped? Murdered? Because they're "just asking for it" by being the way they are. Right? Is that it?
My gosh, has it never occurred to you that some of these "effeminate weirdos" actually ARE being themselves? Please, take a moment and think on it some more. Maybe talk with a few weirdos, and find out they're human, too, and worthy of respect.
the one thing a person SHOULD be judged on is their character. so yes, if you act stupid you'll be treated as such.
you honestly think that talking in a phony feminine voice is being yourself? no, thats called trying to be something else you wish you were.
i could dress up as superman and run around in circles outside making airplane noises because i have the right to do it, but it wouldnt make anyone wrong for pointing and laughing at me because i knew what would happen before i did it.
And by the way, totally separating oneself is not the way of equality. African Americans did not gain equality by cutting off ties with the white world and behaving as differently as possible. I totally accept people for who they are, no matter how "weird" they act, but that's not going to stop them from getting on my nerves. People should learn to live together and blend. Everyone seems to think that we should either hate or love gays, but I think we should accept it as a sexuality and move on.
But also, why is it even that important to come out? Straight people don't have to come out to everyone. Why do we place such importance on having to let everyone know if you are attracted to people of the same sex?
dan, this was, arguably, by far your best video. you almost made me cry.
I came out to my step mom and dad, who are very catholic, butt i haven't come out to my mom. I say, if you're worried about them asking questions, it's going to happen, and i was, trust me. Just be as honest as you can, and don't beat around the bush. Just come out and say it.
Thanks, Dan. Many times our fears are greater than reality. In spite of having been knocked unconscious when someone suspected I might be gay... of family members who want me to visit as long as I don't bring any "special friend"... of being told by certain "friends" that they love me but disagree with my "lifestyle"... I've discovered that I have so many true friends who have my back and openly reciprocate affection, that it's simply not worth living in fear of what may or may not happen to me.
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I think that homosexuality is a result of sin and that it is morally wrong. I think that homosexuals were either abused, missled, or lacked certain attention while they were young.
Vinnygil, if you're not gay you have absolutely no inkling of what Dan is talking about. You will also never understand this video or how much it will help people who are still afraid to come out.
I don't know why you're even watching and commenting on this. It makes one wonder about you, eh?
Don't even think about quoting the Bible, by the way. That book has lost all credibility when the church decided that they can follow some of the rules in it and reinterpret or ignore the rest.
There is one church that does not reinterpret the bible though... the seventh-day adventist church. I have to respectfuly disagree that it has lost credibility. But anyway am i wrong? I'm assuming that you are gay since you are watching this video also and so why would you judge me if I was gay?
Yes, I am gay and damn proud of it. The question here is, why ARE YOU watching this video? You stand on your pulpit and tell us that our way of life is wrong? We did not wake up one day and "decide" TO BE gay, it takes so much courage to come out with so much bigotry and hate out there and with people telling us we are sinners just for being ourselves. You have no idea what it's like so don't go around being self-righteous and saying we were abused, misled, or are in need of attention.
And oh, I don't see Adventists stoning adulterers and people who engage in premarital sex to death. I am willing to bet not all Adventist men are circumcised. I also do not think they've all missed out a hamburger (with or without cheese). It seems modern "Christian" society has taken what is convenient from the bible and ignored everything else on account of "changing times" but the only thing that they won't adjust to is GLBT people. Kindly read Jesus' second greatest commandment, Matt 22:39
dude it looks like all you look at is everyone elses wrongs in order to try to justify your sin. sorry but yea. And yes nobody is perfect and your right about that not all adventists live up to our doctrine, probably nobody in the world has ever lived up to it 100%. What does this imply? It implied that we are all imperfect human beings, that is why we need a savior, that is why Jesus Christ died on the cross, because we will always fall short of perfect. Is that credible enough for you?
Oh my, Vinny, what bubble have you been living in? I was not pointing out imperfection, I was pointing out hypocrisy which is endemic to Christian societies. You've all forgotten how to be "human". Jesus' credibility is not even the issue, you are completely missing the point. The problem here is how you went on to judge us by saying that we're gay because we were either abused or that we are in need of attention. Do not make judgments you are not prepared to support with facts.
alright im just gonna say it now. Fuck you, do you even have any friends you judgmental oversensitive shit! I wasn't judging you, well maybe you in particular under the current circumstances, but not gay people in general. So pretty much all i have to say is Fuck you and well Fuck you....
Vinny: First, I have tons of friends. Most of them are well-adjusted adult heterosexuals. Second, you WERE judging gay people in general. You said we were either abused or are in need of attention. Do you want us to dig up that comment of yours which started all this? Finally, thanks for showing us that you are actually a homophobic hater disguised as a "good educated Christian". I wouldn't fuck you even if you were the last man in the galaxy.
Sorry you feel that way. I'm not a "homophobic hater" and i didn't mean "fuck you" like actually fuck you you asshat. I dont hate gay people whatsoever, it just irritates me a little that you would justify being gay because "good christians" dont live up to their morals. lol ya im sure you have 'tons of friends" wtf ever
Poor Vinny, you obviously don't know what sarcasm is. You have an extremely convoluted logic. What irritates you is not that fact that I'm speaking for gay people but the reality that not everyone is homophobic and judgmental like you. Seriously, not once have you explained how you came up with "gay men were abused or are in need of attention". You never once acknowledged that you made that baseless judgment. Again, you should not be making judgments about things you don't understand.
your so retarded with your sophisticated assumptions. my brother is gay you idiot. and perhaps you have a reference on how homosexuals are being treated?.
Oh NOW you have a gay brother! It must be so convenient for you to suddenly have one at this point in the argument. Was he abused or is in desperate need of attention (this was your theory, remember?)? I wasn't born yesterday. And yes, I do have a reference to how gay people are being treated all over the world. It's plastered all over the internet. Google is your friend: begin with human rights and homosexuals.
The world is much bigger and more complicated than you can imagine. Don't you think it's about time you grew up? Please read and be informed about how people all over the world are being treated on the basis of sexual orientation alone, why this is such a touchy subject, and why we don't appreciate being judged as casually as you have.
Actually, they can. I read an article on Psychology Today about asexual people and the difficulties it represents when trying to begin a relationship.
Oh , sorry my bad , I missunderstood.. I used to think asexual meant being about to repoduce without the opposite sex. Hence why i said humans cant be asexual..But i was wrong , sorry ha
So, I have a kink with Youtube right now... Where's the SIXTH star? Yeah, that's how great this video is.
I've hit a road bump or ten since came out. Especially with my parents. But as you said, it was something I had to do for me. I told my parents because I needed to tell them, knowing they'd freak out, as they did.
6 years later, they still freak out, but I'm happy being me, and though it brought me much pain, I probably wouldn't be here if I hadn't came out when I did.
your previous coming out videos helped me come out. its the best thing I did. I hope this can help other people as much as it helped me. I was one of those guys who thought he was going to be able to suppress it and marry a woman and "be normal." I am so happy I realized that that is not who I am. I am happy now. Thanks Dan.
All I can say is that I wish I'd done it sooner and more completely. My coming out happened in stages first to myself, then to other gay people, some family, the str8 world, and now to all my family. I used to think my sexuality was no one's business but my own, but I came realize that it's not really about sexuality. It's about being me and being fully known and being fully loved. Expression of self is fundamentally important. Don't deny yourself to you or to anyone who's important to you.
Just to throw it out there I did a video response to the other coming out video you did. But one of the biggest things that I have to agree and who ever is reading this LISTEN! The thing I absolutely agree with is the fact that if their is certain things in the way as far as finance, housing, or possibly getting physically or mentally abused and you can't handle it then WAIT!!!! In my video I briefly talked about my issue with my mom and its not worth it...just wait until you have more security
Does someone HAVE to be qualified in order to give advice? And even if someone is qualified does that mean their advice on such a sensitive topic such as this is any better? While I am all for qualified officials, I have good friends who are, I dont think that this young man is any less qualified than they. I say this because he is a gay youth whom has come out much sooner than many qualified people. I'm not trying to argue just food for thought
Its awesome to have a "go to" gay guy on youtube..You help a lot more people that you probably understand. Wish you were around when I was 13 :)! anyhow, great job on your videos..I'm a big fan of our page..
my advice like he said is come out when ur ready and for some people its good to have a best friend come for support. I had my best friend to come help me...wl she told them because i couldnt say a word.
Wow. I love you and always have. Good looking AND full of wisdom. Winning combination?
I think so.
Havnt come out to family yet.... only some of my closest friends. Its a tough road, i dont know if coming out to my family is something i wanna risk the senior year of high school. Love ur vids and advice :)
Awesome video! Now that's the type of vid I like to see from you. 5 stars for this vid. And yes, coming out is not always the practical thing to do, given the circumstances of some people's lives. Waiting until circumstances change is sometimes the best option.
To most people i never had to come out. People already knew and is was just an unspoken truth. People should never have to "come out". Straight people dont have to go to there parents and loved ones to tell them they are straight. So why should gay, lesbian, bisexuals have to? The world has to many problems to be focused on hatred and despare. My advice is dont worry about what someone might think of how you choose to live your life. If they are true, it wouldnt matter how you choose to live.
I'm not a camp guy, 'straight acting' (as much as i hate that term) ... but everyone just seemed to know about me... lol. With parents, a lot of the time it's something they just know already, or at least have suspicions about it. And with friends... well... if they wont accept you for being gay? Then they're not really friends are they?
haha good vid ;] its always good toask first, "are you my real frirnd? will you accept me no matter what?" and if they say like "not if ur gay!!!" then say "dumb ass" and walk away. they'll get it
First of all, can I just say that it is people like you (Dan and fellow viewers) that make me proud to be gay. I'm undergoing the whole coming out process at the moment. I'm in London for a few weeks where I am telling the remainder of my friends and my sister. I'm telling my parents when I return home =S I'll post a vid when I'm out as I think some of my experiences could really be of benefit to others out there.
Awhile ago my friends were playing assassin in the dorms & i had interrupted so i could come out to them, & i remember coming out to like a group of 50 friends, all together at the same time, and after, one of my friends was like " that's it? wow! you wasted 2 seconds of my life for that?! Lmfao good times =)
i was kinda pulled out thanks to my little sister. i got kicked out of the house and i haven't talked to my dad in 3 years. but i didn't loose any friends :]
i agree with you mostly, i think its as and when your ready and its about you and self confidence, if other people dont like it its there problem not yours, my biggest issue is the gay community, i think it does more harm than good, and its not something i like getting involved in cus of the type of people it often attracts, not all obviously, but i think people who get in peoples faces about being gay are just as bad as the people who react poorly to it, dont give them a reason by being an ass
If gender issues, who I am attracted to or the likes we're the least of issues. *smirk*
There is much more and you know what I dove deep into who I am. I know who I am, well I know most of what makes me. Even if after the LGBT society is fully accepted it means I am seen as a "different" one.
My Only, older brother was caught out, as it happens. My dad barely speaks to him, and my mom is accepting of it only because she doesn't want to lose het son. But she looked me in the eyes and told me she prays and hopes that I don't become gay. I'm gay.
DexSwart 1 week ago
Love who you are <3
JayMusicMoore 2 months ago
i told 2 people last week... and yesterday my whole theatre class had this "emotion circle" everyone said something thats wrong or problems at home. so after a while i told my story and said that i am gay, it was a little hard but after that people said they respected me more & are proud of me because i told a HUGE group like that. So i would say be comfortable with yourself and tell people when the time is right for you, i did and now i get a ton of respect. :)
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I'm already out to 5 friends who are all very accepting of it, I'm 14, and this scares me about coming out completely.
DrConnorful 4 months ago
i just came out to my brother today and he did not take it too well.. he was absolutely disgusted by it and is in a state of total shock .. i now feel horrible about it and i feel that my entire life is collapsing around me like a house of cards i am so depressed right now..... my brother used to trust me , but now everything has changed i shoulda kept it a secret. FML...
KougsMotors454 5 months ago
It might help, to remind people that you're no different than you were before coming out, it's just that they know you a little better. Best of wishes to all--
snamaarGoliM 7 months ago
This actually made me tear up a little. =/
u5m4nr4j4 10 months ago 2
I remember 3 times as a teenager trying to start that tricky "i'm gay chat" to my folks each time i was met with a wall of silence - In the end i settled for "i'm not the marrying kind" shortly after aged 17 I moved to the city on me tod - a few years latter on one of my few visits my mother said -" you were a good boy but we were relieved when you left" - now many years on they ask how WE are so I guess thats progress : )
trevortrevortsr2 1 year ago
I think be Gay is not easy to come out for s
pon88moi 1 year ago
al never stop tryin
evade531 1 year ago
Try & leave a trail of bread crumbs so to speak. lil by lil start to change how you want not like to the xtreme but just little things & if they ask u if only if u feel ur rdy come out if not just do what i did "im just trying something new, every1 else is doing it" lol Watch the tone of ur voice tho dam i almost lost my teeth
kazzuma15 1 year ago
I came out to my parents and youngest brother the same week I came out to my friends. It wasn't hard (thank god), it was rather reassuring. But two years after that, my older brothers still don't know and I don't feel like telling them. I don't think it's gonna do me or anybody any good. I'm the only girl, and the youngest, so there's a lot of pressure. I don't hide it, if they ever ask me anything I'll tell, but right now I'm comfortable with the situation.
luhelvis 1 year ago
i tried coming out to my mom....she threatened to take a knife and kill me in my sleep and banged my head against the wall nearly cracking my skull screaming that gay is wrong and that im not gay and then she called dyfus cause she thought i was mentally unstable so i saved the blood soaked shirt for evidence and she cancelled but my friends love it who does'nt want a gay friend? my advice....wait until your OUT of the house
Fudgebegood 1 year ago
I'm not gonna be coming out anytime soon. My parents know, and three or so friends know I'm Bi, but that's basically it.
The reason is kinda superficial, though. The biggest reason that I don't want to come out anytime soon is because I'm afraid girls will think that I'm gay, so I won't be able to get any.
That, and I live in the backwoods of Maine, where the majority of teens use the word "Fag" in every other sentence.
thepercussionistME 1 year ago
omg i love you! you're my idol <3
Kroumph 1 year ago
a sort of "easy" way to come out, is to make it "natural" and "common"... so i started to tell "small" friends i was gay... i played this came called wizard101... so i started to tell people there i was gay... try to make it as easy and common as possible. then when i felt it was more...natural..??? i told my best friend, which i KNEW would be happy :P... then i told some other friends, and later on family.
so my tip would be, make it common first, and feel confident! :)
lovegaysex4ever 1 year ago
Hey, well to start, my names david.I have an issue with comin out and with a relationship. Thing. If youy could help that would be great. So, I came out to people, but it was on fb as my status. So I don't know who knows and who don't. There is this guy I like and he likes me, but his friends, are my friends. And I don't know if they know or not and I don't wanna date him if they don't know ya know? Do you have any suggestions? Please help if you can. Thankyou so much!!!
daveyboy2116 1 year ago
@daveyboy2116 o.o Tell them? <.< Besides there not gonna be around all the time when your with him
jekal5M 1 year ago
It sucks, because I will never be able to be open about it at home. My mother is extremely homophobic, but here's the thing, she's also one of the best, most loving people I've ever met, and she (and me) have gone through piles and piles of shit in our lives. Telling her would mean hurting her in a way I could never bring myself to, even if I could never agree with the way she thinks about this. I don't quite understand why she thinks like this, but I love her anyway.
kroozader 1 year ago
@kroozader o.o And she has to feel the same way about you... not like she'll get a butcher knife in the middle of the night and kill you while your sleep <.< no no she'll insult you for a few weeks and....lemme stop there o.o basically she'll have to live with it knowing that she is living with it. You could always wait til your out of the house :D
jekal5M 1 year ago
As someone who just came out two days ago, it is a very fulfilling thing to do, but as said in the video, it has to be when you're ready. But just know it is a great feeling to be honest with yourself :).
wkittel 1 year ago
@InjectMorphineIntoMe I know how u feel about liking the same sex more and ur parents not really accepting u, uh it's tough, r u a teenager?
Bisexual1221 1 year ago
Definatly telling your parents is the hardest :(
But Its worth it once you know for sure!
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kubbalist 1 year ago
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you fucking faggot =D !
Avian98X 1 year ago
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
YOU LIKE IT IN THE BUTT XD
j3loood 1 year ago
@j3loood your an asshole.
SloMoMumboJumbo 1 year ago
I like your shirt! just saying. your awesome!
jairahleightonwarren 1 year ago 8
I wish I could find people like you in my city, but I can only find people like this on the interenet. I came out almost a year ago and my parents did not accept it. Still dont. But they know I'm bisexual. And how they take it, isnt really imporant to me. I know they still love me because I'm their kid. But what they gonna know is, I have a brother, who is also bisexual. And we are both attacted to the same sex more than the other.
InjectMorphineIntoMe 1 year ago
I have a couple of people who keep saying I'm gay (when in fact, I am straight)
llouw1 1 year ago
@llouw1 o.o eh, they just want you to be gay <.< so you can do whatever they want you to (giggity). Your straight your straight and have fun wit it :p
jekal5M 1 year ago
coming out was pretty easy all my friends and family accepted it and i did not even say i am gay i just introduced them to my boyfriend and they loved him so it was okay. but i life in europe so its not that big of a deal here anyway. in germany our foreign minister is gay (dont like him anyway )and the mayor of berlin is gay so its pretty much accepted by society here
brotmann86 1 year ago
@Studley969 - Shock horror! ¬_¬
AydiManzo 1 year ago
ur gay
Studley969 1 year ago
@Studley969 i have the feeling that he might be aware of that already .. lol!!
brotmann86 1 year ago
@Studley969 o.o he may be, but....
or or or i got this one from a person " Yea well your straight" well that wasn't from a person actually from that person's sister they say :p
jekal5M 1 year ago
Your sooooo cute!!
and i love tht u love roseanne
kylekid1223 1 year ago
And i say that, because you KNOW not everyone is going to accept it. And they get violent when you try shoving it in their face, which I've seen a lot. I'm not in the closet. If you ask me, I won't lie. But my credo has not become "We're here. We're queer. Get used to it." Of course people will resist when you're constantly slapping them in the face with that. The Pride Parades sure don't help with the fight either....
89crazycanuck 1 year ago
@89crazycanuck so, we are just supposed to pretend to be heterosexual or not say anything? whether people want to believe it or not homosexuality is natural, and our society should accept it. not making people aware of homosexuality just continues the taboo that has been going on for the past few thousand years, dont contribute to this
flekhes 1 year ago
My advice. Don't make a huge deal about it. I came out to my parents at the end of grade 11. I came out to my close friends way before that. I was happy. My best friend decided that he had to make everyone accept it when he came out. He ended up not having such a good time. Do you NEED the whole school to know? My school just ended up knowing. Mostly because gossip is a bitch. But I didn play the part, I just acted like I always did before I came out. People appreciate that more than "ACCEPT IT!
89crazycanuck 1 year ago
I believe that its easier to come out when you think you can live your life on your own, it get rids of that "omg he may stop funding my education" fear thing.
That way, if your dad did disowns you, you'll still be good, they have no choice but to accept you because they can't blackmail you. Some are threaten to be thrown to a military camp if they come out, so its best when you're already done with your studies and already working
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alan768 2 years ago
I'm openly gay in school.
PirateKing1256 2 years ago
dude, at 2:00... i lost my shit. :)
thanks man
quickdrawMMX 2 years ago
My advice is that some people may surprise you. My Ag teacher and coach doesn't treat me any different because I'm gay, and CA's difinitive red county, Kern. He thinks homosexuality is bad(pro-prop 8), despite the debates we've had (he's the debate team coach, so I can get away with it), but he accepts me as me, and I'm glad for it. Although he does make jokes about my sexuality at times, it's all in good fun
Barenstolz 2 years ago
Actually, i've found it easier if you let you siblings know first. I let one by one know and they were all okay, for they are family and family stick together. My siblings helped me come out to my parents.
3Sorine 2 years ago
-.- my aunt founf out i was bi and she made it such a big deal, she was all "want me to tell your mum?"
i didnt feel all that good, but i like who i am
GAY PRIDE!!!
Otagen97 2 years ago
Dan, good advice. As a gay man and a Truman grad is great to see someone so active about gay issues and concerns in K- ville, even if only temporarily.
gsbiggin 2 years ago
I have told my friends that I'm gay but I am afraid to tell my family, well at least my dad my mom I will tell her one time soon.
dagon55 2 years ago
i came out as a lesbian to my sister last week, i was nervous she said what was wrong, and we played 20 questions, and when she asked "Are you gay?" i shook my head, she just exhaled and said "God i thought you ever addicted to drugs of something......well that explains why you like Emilie Autumn (the best electric violinist, singer and hottest girl in the world) so much" it went good, but like you and my bff Chad said "If people can't except you they're not worth one minute of your time".
emptybliss2 2 years ago
not to say that i wana jump u or anything lmao
Epyon1224 2 years ago
lol ur sense of expression and speech is nice makes u vey attractive lmao
Epyon1224 2 years ago
Like the video, coming out has been the biggest problem for me. Most, if not all, of my friends know. But not my parents, not my family. I am pretty sure my parents (at least my dad) would disown me. They may even have the gall to stop funding my college education. So I am walkin on thin ice, in that respect.
NewCreation181 2 years ago
i would rather be homeless and happy as a gay man, then to have a home and be miserable because im hiding part of me from family/friends!
toshiro1010 2 years ago
The best time to come out is during x-mas when all your relatives are there and everyone is opening their presents! :3
CaffeineKitteh 2 years ago
@CaffeineKitteh xD! (No offense)
jekal5M 1 year ago
I didn't come out...I was dragged out and then shoved back in by my mom...
The only person I really trust is my best friend...she was the first person I came out to...and I just love her so much :3
xxvampirexfreakxx 2 years ago
Isn't this a re-issued video?
hpribot 2 years ago
I think the worse part for me is trying to come out to my parents. Everyone but my family knows and attempting to come out to my parents. Just never seems a good time. My dads a cancer patient, my mothers not willing to listen., and my sisters clueless. coming out is also about timing just trying to find that right time can be a bloody pain.
Mooglyooogly 2 years ago 18
lol
JBHutto 2 years ago
How do you come out, completely? Should I wear a sign on my forehead? Seriously, society is fuct. God help us.
chrispycrunchy86 2 years ago
sorry man , didn't mean to offend you ..
Anomiman 2 years ago
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Go to Hell Queer
IFukdYourGirlfriend 2 years ago
@IFukdYourGirlfriend go die you ignorant asshole
SloMoMumboJumbo 1 year ago
Well said, man. I would say that you could ask some of your closest friends if they've got your back (my friend did this with me the other day, of course I was there for her,) and know who your friends are early off. I'm sorry if it sounds unintelligent, I can't say I have the most experience with coming out.
ImmaPokeYourEyeOut 2 years ago
imma don't compare African Americans to FAGS. There is a big difference. Fags go to hell for being Fags, Blacks don't go to hell for being Black. You are a dumb ass.
videosRfun 2 years ago
You're missing the idea, man. You see, only an idiot would try and solve a controversial subject with another. I don't believe in a hell, so to me it doesn't exist. What scientific proof do you have that there is a God and that he said just that? There's no difference between anything. I think if there is a hell, anyone who discriminates for something that isn't a choice should go there. Oh, and please don't say fag, it's likely you don't even understand the origin of the name.
ImmaPokeYourEyeOut 2 years ago
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Poke take your FAG ass to hell, Fags don't have brains, I don't argue with Turd Jugglers
videosRfun 2 years ago
Look, I'm not arguing, I'm trying to tell you in the politest way that I can that you're an idiot. If you feel this strongly about a matter that doesn't involve you, then you should be put down. I feel that people who rave about things that they don't know about shouldn't be alive. Have a nice day, sir, I hope you learn something new today, or at least improve your character a bit. Isn't the Christian way to love thy neighbor? You best be getting on that, brother.
ImmaPokeYourEyeOut 2 years ago
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Go play in some Fags shit you dirty Turd licking fag.
videosRfun 2 years ago
Is that your best retort? Oh, how the self-supremacists have devolved. I was really hoping for an intelligent response, for once. Don't get worked up about it, man, it's just the internet.
ImmaPokeYourEyeOut 2 years ago
what does that even mean.
snailwatchmedia 2 years ago
As much as I would like to antagonize you like I so did to VideosRfun, I can't say that I want to. What I'm implying is that I would gladly shut up and leave things be if he came up with an intelligent response, but he hasn't. Instead, he acts like a 3rd grader with a bad mouth who's only responses consist of insults, and no real facts. If you wish to feel a certain way about a hot subject, I'm not going to judge. However, you should leave people who think differently to live their lives.
ImmaPokeYourEyeOut 2 years ago
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I think you are the dumb ass. Fuck you.
snailwatchmedia 2 years ago
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Go suck one
videosRfun 2 years ago
good one.
snailwatchmedia 2 years ago
And STILL with the unintelligent remarks. Look, if you give me even ONE intelligent response, I probably wouldn't find the act of antagonizing you to be so funny.
ImmaPokeYourEyeOut 2 years ago
@snailwatchmedia you think hes a dumb ass when hes trying to help someone wow
SloMoMumboJumbo 1 year ago
@SloMoMumboJumbo no I think the dumbass is videosRfun. Not this guy.
snailwatchmedia 1 year ago
love how idiots like to fight over the internet over a simple video, great advice btw
sailorsyaoran 2 years ago
So do you start speaking witha lisp or " gay talk" right before coming out or right after coming out of the closet ?
Anomiman 2 years ago
What the hell/s your problem, man? Do you stereotype EVERYONE like this?
ImmaPokeYourEyeOut 2 years ago
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Whats up with youtube and the high FAG content lately, shew, get back into your closet you filthy queer.
videosRfun 2 years ago
fuck you, man, would you say the same thing to a black man? FUCK NO. You're just afraid of gays, with little reason to be. It's genetic, it's not like someone chooses to be gay.
ImmaPokeYourEyeOut 2 years ago
I think your advice is right on the mark. Some people dare not come out because of what their own families might do to them. If they can wait a little, though, they can find and create their own families of choice.
Some of these comments remind me of a cartoon I saw years ago. One person tells another, "I don't mind straight people, as long as they act gay in public."
FuzzyElf 2 years ago
Dude, your the best!!!! Love the advocacy, and keep it up!
nc2qt2bstr8 2 years ago
I know all you haters are all gay soo just come out if the closet already everyone is just sick and tired of all your bull shit
sammyk9590 2 years ago
Thanks, I am so sick of hiding myself...but coming out is really hard especially like me who grew up in more strict, conservative society. I really want to open myself but the fear meke me hide again..
vyongs 2 years ago
Best wishes to you, I know what that's like.
ImmaPokeYourEyeOut 2 years ago
this comming out thing is bullshit, if this was the 1950s then it would be a big deal, but today, no one cares, do yourself a favor and find some other worthy cause to champion
david07003 2 years ago
You obviously don't live in the south...
pokekid716 2 years ago
Oh, yeah, you're right. No one cares. Like the people who stalk someone they think is gay and MURDER him. Sure. Just one more dead person. No big deal.
I'm sorry that you're not aware of what's really _still_ happening in this world; but I'm not going to sit here and pretend my people are not being abused and murdered.
FuzzyElf 2 years ago
as long as you dont act like a flamboyant or effeminate weirdo, most people really wont give a shit that youre gay.
just be yourself and dont try to dress or talk like a girl and youll be fine.
cilaboom 2 years ago
I agree. I think that trying to act more eccentric and "weird" is what causes a lot of discrimination. I have no problem with the homosexual community, but men who try as hard as they can to be overly effeminate and pushy and loud get on my nerves.
zebraplop 2 years ago
"I have no problem with... BUT...." Have you ever heard anyone say, "I'm not racist, but..."? Please read again what you yourself typed. 'I have no problem with this group of people, but some get on my nerves.' Really. Really?
Has it never occurred to you -- have you never once thought -- that maybe just one of these "overly effeminate" men is actually NOT trying to be too effeminate (for your tastes)? Maybe he's actually TRYING to meet what he imagines as your standards? It happens.
FuzzyElf 2 years ago
It's blatantly obvious when someone is trying too hard. I don't mean acting feminine, I mean being very pushy and flirtatious in an irritating way. You know the type- constantly discussing being gay and bringing it up even when uncalled for. I'm bisexual, I have no problem with the gay community, I just have a problem with people who choose to be irritating, just as much as I have a problem with straight people being irritating.
zebraplop 2 years ago
I totally see where you're coming from, man. I see on both sides of the spectrum as well, being bi romantic, and I know how irritating it is when either of my friends is being pushy about being straight or gay, because there's no need for it; I feel people should be treated like humans, not like gays or straights or asexuals or whatever.
ImmaPokeYourEyeOut 2 years ago
Oh, right. Because those people who "choose" to act that way deserve... what? To be beaten? Called names? Raped? Murdered? Because they're "just asking for it" by being the way they are. Right? Is that it?
My gosh, has it never occurred to you that some of these "effeminate weirdos" actually ARE being themselves? Please, take a moment and think on it some more. Maybe talk with a few weirdos, and find out they're human, too, and worthy of respect.
FuzzyElf 2 years ago
the one thing a person SHOULD be judged on is their character. so yes, if you act stupid you'll be treated as such.
you honestly think that talking in a phony feminine voice is being yourself? no, thats called trying to be something else you wish you were.
i could dress up as superman and run around in circles outside making airplane noises because i have the right to do it, but it wouldnt make anyone wrong for pointing and laughing at me because i knew what would happen before i did it.
cilaboom 2 years ago
and ill tell you something else.
its the flamers that are to blame for all the gay hate in the world.
its because of them that when people hear the word "gay" they think of words like "stupid" or "lame"
its because of them that so many people are so damn homophobic.
its truly sad that becuase of these idiots who cant grow up and stop playing dress up that all the normal gays must suffer.
cilaboom 2 years ago
And by the way, totally separating oneself is not the way of equality. African Americans did not gain equality by cutting off ties with the white world and behaving as differently as possible. I totally accept people for who they are, no matter how "weird" they act, but that's not going to stop them from getting on my nerves. People should learn to live together and blend. Everyone seems to think that we should either hate or love gays, but I think we should accept it as a sexuality and move on.
zebraplop 2 years ago
this was a great video. being gay is not a choice and people HAVE to understand that. Coming out to family and friends is the best way to explain it.
iluvfruitsosomuch 2 years ago
But also, why is it even that important to come out? Straight people don't have to come out to everyone. Why do we place such importance on having to let everyone know if you are attracted to people of the same sex?
OlivesForFingers 2 years ago
if you have to hide it, then you have to hide your relationships too.
mayamaeru 2 years ago
dan, this was, arguably, by far your best video. you almost made me cry.
I came out to my step mom and dad, who are very catholic, butt i haven't come out to my mom. I say, if you're worried about them asking questions, it's going to happen, and i was, trust me. Just be as honest as you can, and don't beat around the bush. Just come out and say it.
turtledove1993 2 years ago
Thanks, Dan. Many times our fears are greater than reality. In spite of having been knocked unconscious when someone suspected I might be gay... of family members who want me to visit as long as I don't bring any "special friend"... of being told by certain "friends" that they love me but disagree with my "lifestyle"... I've discovered that I have so many true friends who have my back and openly reciprocate affection, that it's simply not worth living in fear of what may or may not happen to me.
monreveur 2 years ago
Thanks so much for making this vidoe!
j2the69 2 years ago
I loves you lol ^^
robinsonj 2 years ago
WHOOHOO! GO DAN!
GlassWaterCreature 2 years ago
This vid felt way intimate. Sort of like playing a quiet personal song after an hour of loud rockin songs. Thanks Dan!
hugkoalas 2 years ago
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I think that homosexuality is a result of sin and that it is morally wrong. I think that homosexuals were either abused, missled, or lacked certain attention while they were young.
Vinnygil 2 years ago
Vinnygil, if you're not gay you have absolutely no inkling of what Dan is talking about. You will also never understand this video or how much it will help people who are still afraid to come out.
I don't know why you're even watching and commenting on this. It makes one wonder about you, eh?
Don't even think about quoting the Bible, by the way. That book has lost all credibility when the church decided that they can follow some of the rules in it and reinterpret or ignore the rest.
videolurker 2 years ago
There is one church that does not reinterpret the bible though... the seventh-day adventist church. I have to respectfuly disagree that it has lost credibility. But anyway am i wrong? I'm assuming that you are gay since you are watching this video also and so why would you judge me if I was gay?
Vinnygil 2 years ago
Yes, I am gay and damn proud of it. The question here is, why ARE YOU watching this video? You stand on your pulpit and tell us that our way of life is wrong? We did not wake up one day and "decide" TO BE gay, it takes so much courage to come out with so much bigotry and hate out there and with people telling us we are sinners just for being ourselves. You have no idea what it's like so don't go around being self-righteous and saying we were abused, misled, or are in need of attention.
videolurker 2 years ago
And oh, I don't see Adventists stoning adulterers and people who engage in premarital sex to death. I am willing to bet not all Adventist men are circumcised. I also do not think they've all missed out a hamburger (with or without cheese). It seems modern "Christian" society has taken what is convenient from the bible and ignored everything else on account of "changing times" but the only thing that they won't adjust to is GLBT people. Kindly read Jesus' second greatest commandment, Matt 22:39
videolurker 2 years ago
dude it looks like all you look at is everyone elses wrongs in order to try to justify your sin. sorry but yea. And yes nobody is perfect and your right about that not all adventists live up to our doctrine, probably nobody in the world has ever lived up to it 100%. What does this imply? It implied that we are all imperfect human beings, that is why we need a savior, that is why Jesus Christ died on the cross, because we will always fall short of perfect. Is that credible enough for you?
Vinnygil 2 years ago
Oh my, Vinny, what bubble have you been living in? I was not pointing out imperfection, I was pointing out hypocrisy which is endemic to Christian societies. You've all forgotten how to be "human". Jesus' credibility is not even the issue, you are completely missing the point. The problem here is how you went on to judge us by saying that we're gay because we were either abused or that we are in need of attention. Do not make judgments you are not prepared to support with facts.
videolurker 2 years ago
alright im just gonna say it now. Fuck you, do you even have any friends you judgmental oversensitive shit! I wasn't judging you, well maybe you in particular under the current circumstances, but not gay people in general. So pretty much all i have to say is Fuck you and well Fuck you....
Vinnygil 2 years ago
Vinny: First, I have tons of friends. Most of them are well-adjusted adult heterosexuals. Second, you WERE judging gay people in general. You said we were either abused or are in need of attention. Do you want us to dig up that comment of yours which started all this? Finally, thanks for showing us that you are actually a homophobic hater disguised as a "good educated Christian". I wouldn't fuck you even if you were the last man in the galaxy.
Please grow up.
videolurker 2 years ago
Sorry you feel that way. I'm not a "homophobic hater" and i didn't mean "fuck you" like actually fuck you you asshat. I dont hate gay people whatsoever, it just irritates me a little that you would justify being gay because "good christians" dont live up to their morals. lol ya im sure you have 'tons of friends" wtf ever
Vinnygil 2 years ago
Poor Vinny, you obviously don't know what sarcasm is. You have an extremely convoluted logic. What irritates you is not that fact that I'm speaking for gay people but the reality that not everyone is homophobic and judgmental like you. Seriously, not once have you explained how you came up with "gay men were abused or are in need of attention". You never once acknowledged that you made that baseless judgment. Again, you should not be making judgments about things you don't understand.
videolurker 2 years ago
your so retarded with your sophisticated assumptions. my brother is gay you idiot. and perhaps you have a reference on how homosexuals are being treated?.
Vinnygil 2 years ago
Oh NOW you have a gay brother! It must be so convenient for you to suddenly have one at this point in the argument. Was he abused or is in desperate need of attention (this was your theory, remember?)? I wasn't born yesterday. And yes, I do have a reference to how gay people are being treated all over the world. It's plastered all over the internet. Google is your friend: begin with human rights and homosexuals.
videolurker 2 years ago
The world is much bigger and more complicated than you can imagine. Don't you think it's about time you grew up? Please read and be informed about how people all over the world are being treated on the basis of sexual orientation alone, why this is such a touchy subject, and why we don't appreciate being judged as casually as you have.
videolurker 2 years ago
Very powerful and great advise
AngelicLight 2 years ago 3
rly good!
thiagonob 2 years ago 2
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Jesus can set you free!!
jesusbondservant 2 years ago
Hey, where havé you been? Are you okey? The vidéo was amazong but you look quite différent, maybe sad? Dont know, I really hope everything is ok :)
bbgccs 2 years ago 2
i feel so bad for people who have trouble with comming out. my parents always told me theyd accept me if i was gay but some people have it so hard =[
HiLoIimAdam 2 years ago 4
Simply put, I love you
this video is amazing! You worded it perfectly :D
Rhall7191 2 years ago
thx man, your a great person.
YellowTissueBox 2 years ago
amen
psycoroboproductios 2 years ago
Oh my Gods! Thank you for this amazing gift that you have given to youtubers! May you be blessed in your life!
SaxAddict1990 2 years ago 2
<3 lovely
ChaoticKstro 2 years ago
here here
I aplud you (claps)
no one is strong enough these to do it
but with this advice.. wow
if ur gay and in hiding ur not alone there is others like u so u should accept it
PrincessPunk025 2 years ago
Wonderful encouragement for those at a crossroads. You're so right...we matter as whole, beautiful people, not just people who are gay.
kriskahn21 2 years ago
All I have is just a humble thanks for your inspiring video. Thank you very much.
HanakoSenshi 2 years ago
Humans cant be A-sexual..lol
Reno9824 2 years ago
Actually, they can. I read an article on Psychology Today about asexual people and the difficulties it represents when trying to begin a relationship.
NadLei 2 years ago
Oh , sorry my bad , I missunderstood.. I used to think asexual meant being about to repoduce without the opposite sex. Hence why i said humans cant be asexual..But i was wrong , sorry ha
Reno9824 2 years ago
they can. i've actually been on a asexual peoples blog just cuz i was curious
readaholic7437 2 years ago
Absolutely excellent! Your video posting was well balanced AND realistic!
pelam0709 2 years ago
So, I have a kink with Youtube right now... Where's the SIXTH star? Yeah, that's how great this video is.
I've hit a road bump or ten since came out. Especially with my parents. But as you said, it was something I had to do for me. I told my parents because I needed to tell them, knowing they'd freak out, as they did.
6 years later, they still freak out, but I'm happy being me, and though it brought me much pain, I probably wouldn't be here if I hadn't came out when I did.
Cheers.
maiaadriano 2 years ago 2
Keep up the good work Dan.
Lengun49 2 years ago
THANK YOU DAN.
your previous coming out videos helped me come out. its the best thing I did. I hope this can help other people as much as it helped me. I was one of those guys who thought he was going to be able to suppress it and marry a woman and "be normal." I am so happy I realized that that is not who I am. I am happy now. Thanks Dan.
zabmf 2 years ago 2
All I can say is that I wish I'd done it sooner and more completely. My coming out happened in stages first to myself, then to other gay people, some family, the str8 world, and now to all my family. I used to think my sexuality was no one's business but my own, but I came realize that it's not really about sexuality. It's about being me and being fully known and being fully loved. Expression of self is fundamentally important. Don't deny yourself to you or to anyone who's important to you.
sthrnmuscle 2 years ago
Just to throw it out there I did a video response to the other coming out video you did. But one of the biggest things that I have to agree and who ever is reading this LISTEN! The thing I absolutely agree with is the fact that if their is certain things in the way as far as finance, housing, or possibly getting physically or mentally abused and you can't handle it then WAIT!!!! In my video I briefly talked about my issue with my mom and its not worth it...just wait until you have more security
noselfdoubt 2 years ago
Smart man! Couldn't have said it better myself. There are certainly points I would extend on, but then the video would take forever to watch.
I seem to recall this sort of video being made before, or have you been going through your channel and deleting things again?
Either way, good to hear from you again!
shikishinobi 2 years ago 2
wntoply6,
I want to play devils advocate
Does someone HAVE to be qualified in order to give advice? And even if someone is qualified does that mean their advice on such a sensitive topic such as this is any better? While I am all for qualified officials, I have good friends who are, I dont think that this young man is any less qualified than they. I say this because he is a gay youth whom has come out much sooner than many qualified people. I'm not trying to argue just food for thought
jory330 2 years ago
Thanks bro...
I needed to hear that. Meant a lot! I'm almost there. On my time!
Bro4satan666 2 years ago
Its awesome to have a "go to" gay guy on youtube..You help a lot more people that you probably understand. Wish you were around when I was 13 :)! anyhow, great job on your videos..I'm a big fan of our page..
AlbertoSuarezMusic 2 years ago 2
my advice like he said is come out when ur ready and for some people its good to have a best friend come for support. I had my best friend to come help me...wl she told them because i couldnt say a word.
someonebehatinonme 2 years ago 2
Wow. I love you and always have. Good looking AND full of wisdom. Winning combination?
I think so.
Havnt come out to family yet.... only some of my closest friends. Its a tough road, i dont know if coming out to my family is something i wanna risk the senior year of high school. Love ur vids and advice :)
thecrogue 2 years ago
i like totally agree lie i came out at th tender age of 12 it was hard at first but itz gotten better
zackii2me 2 years ago
Awesome video! Now that's the type of vid I like to see from you. 5 stars for this vid. And yes, coming out is not always the practical thing to do, given the circumstances of some people's lives. Waiting until circumstances change is sometimes the best option.
spiralshaman 2 years ago
To most people i never had to come out. People already knew and is was just an unspoken truth. People should never have to "come out". Straight people dont have to go to there parents and loved ones to tell them they are straight. So why should gay, lesbian, bisexuals have to? The world has to many problems to be focused on hatred and despare. My advice is dont worry about what someone might think of how you choose to live your life. If they are true, it wouldnt matter how you choose to live.
clayster2 2 years ago
Excellent video Dan, all I will say for anyone who wants advice is to not live a lie.
keithzworld 2 years ago 2
you look good in a sweater.
HEIBAOSHEN 2 years ago
Solid sage advise.
WalterCWood
WalterCWood 2 years ago
I'm not a camp guy, 'straight acting' (as much as i hate that term) ... but everyone just seemed to know about me... lol. With parents, a lot of the time it's something they just know already, or at least have suspicions about it. And with friends... well... if they wont accept you for being gay? Then they're not really friends are they?
Darramondo 2 years ago 2
Excellent video. 5* and faved!
lucindio6669 2 years ago
haha good vid ;] its always good toask first, "are you my real frirnd? will you accept me no matter what?" and if they say like "not if ur gay!!!" then say "dumb ass" and walk away. they'll get it
ninjapancake303 2 years ago
First of all, can I just say that it is people like you (Dan and fellow viewers) that make me proud to be gay. I'm undergoing the whole coming out process at the moment. I'm in London for a few weeks where I am telling the remainder of my friends and my sister. I'm telling my parents when I return home =S I'll post a vid when I'm out as I think some of my experiences could really be of benefit to others out there.
Wanjito86 2 years ago 2
Awhile ago my friends were playing assassin in the dorms & i had interrupted so i could come out to them, & i remember coming out to like a group of 50 friends, all together at the same time, and after, one of my friends was like " that's it? wow! you wasted 2 seconds of my life for that?! Lmfao good times =)
AndyDrewandGarcia 2 years ago
=] <3
penguin3647 2 years ago
i was kinda pulled out thanks to my little sister. i got kicked out of the house and i haven't talked to my dad in 3 years. but i didn't loose any friends :]
randyrisque 2 years ago
omfg!!!!!! why would he do that?!?!
ninjapancake303 2 years ago
Well said!
russtex 2 years ago
Bravo.
vivaarnoldo 2 years ago
i agree with you mostly, i think its as and when your ready and its about you and self confidence, if other people dont like it its there problem not yours, my biggest issue is the gay community, i think it does more harm than good, and its not something i like getting involved in cus of the type of people it often attracts, not all obviously, but i think people who get in peoples faces about being gay are just as bad as the people who react poorly to it, dont give them a reason by being an ass
FF9MovieMaker 2 years ago
If gender issues, who I am attracted to or the likes we're the least of issues. *smirk*
There is much more and you know what I dove deep into who I am. I know who I am, well I know most of what makes me. Even if after the LGBT society is fully accepted it means I am seen as a "different" one.
masticina 2 years ago
You make an excellent argument.
Luvs,
Mooz
moomay11649 2 years ago
Tell the girls first. Girls can back you up when the real fight begins and most girls are more tolerant than boys.. not all, but a lot.
Otherwise remember that your friends are only friends if they accept it.
Jezzdenmark 2 years ago
thank you!
rafaeltadeu88 2 years ago
When I came out to my friend I told her that because she was a christian I was scared that she wouldnt be my