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  • The ongoing music...I don't mind you playing it for the intro and the outro, but WHY the WHOLE ELEVEN MINUTES?! That is DUMB. It just makes you more difficult to hear.

  • You're sounding like a therapist...this may help deal with personal problems but not increase your confidence...the way to build your confidence is determining your values....what you like and dislike about women and don't be shy about expressing your values and opinions. Overcome your fear of rejection and be yourself and women would respect that...

  • @DeChief1

    Dude just nail a few fatties. The hotties will get jealous and that will bring back your confidence. Narcissism is bad news bro. Just go troglodyte on them.

  • lol at all the men hating the truth and sarcastically dissing the women on youtube....just be yourselves but with confidence and STOP putting women on a pedestal, that being said....that doesn't mean be an asshole but just ease up man, be a human being and chill, enjoy the moment. respect doesn't mean being overly nice and cuddly women don't necessarily like that. tease them, make fun of them at the end of the day both of you know the deal and care for each other....geez

  • Skip to the ending, that's the best part.

  • Wear chino's and a shirt with rolled up sleeves , the rest will work itself ;)

  • Whats your Email address? 

  • How to confident according to women

    1. don't act intelligent

    2. don't respect anyone's space around you, especially women

    3. think you're God's great thing he put on this Earth

    4. act like you have money

  • Same with me but it's b's and basketball WOW

  • I don't know why I'm not super confident. I'm a straight A student that is good at football and other stuff, and I guess I'm pretty sociable around people I know. But that's only in school. It seems like I can be friends with someone at school but I don't take the next step to hang out after school and stuff. And talking to new people is kinda weird for me too.

  • i like u soooooooooooooooo much

  • & Happiness comes from Achievement. 

  • you rock

  • thank you so much!!! I was the shy kid that got picked on in school. My dream was to become a police officer and I needed to learn how to be social but really my main issue was confidence. thank you for helping me out

  • what's your email again !?> :D

  • Is Confidence...really the key?

  • @VanillaSnow23

    There really isn't a "key".

    You just have to inform yourself and try to work on every aspect of atracting women and being social.

    And then all it takes is just a bit of luck.

  • love the background song :)

  • good advice

  • Honestly, I always think that I shouldn't care what others think of me because I know that it actually doesn't matter but I just can't and I hate it.

  • 11:11 I see this everywhere

  • I love this and think it's going to help a great many people in terms of confidence. If any of you guys want super help in the confidence department, you should check out this site that has this ebook that's made a big difference in a lot of people's lives.

    You can find it here, just copy and paste the below:

    howcanibeconfident.

    com

  • just treat all girls like bitches trust me it works.

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  • @pacloro hahaha good advice

  • how can u talk alone dun u feel weird

  • @browneyedS doesnt everyone talk to themselves?

  • Guys,

    It's really not hard to pick up girls. You just need to educate yourself and luckily, there's some sick guides out there. "The Game" by Neil Strauss started things off for me and most recently, I've been using the techniques from P.Box

    Here's what you need to do

    Step 1: Go to MackMethods. com

    Step 2: Get the "pandoras box" program

    Step 3: Use the tips and blend it in with your own twist

    Picking up girls is a skill. Educate yourself and you'll laugh at how easy it is.

  • @eGXModzz just make up shit, ask her questions, lol if you have an open mind like me you never run out of topics, i use to text this girl i liked everyday for 3 months, after 3 months we hooked up and we dated for 6 months and we still talked everyday but we broke up 2 months ago so yeah but still lol

  • i love this girl , i wached a lot of her videos and i swear she should have a tv show about relationships ^^

  • thnx for the advice for over 8 years of being single i finally got the confidence to talk to a girl i like and ask her out and she said yes ^^

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  • @eGXModzz thats when you whip your dick out.

  • Thank You.

  • Good video, good tips. Only thing I did not like is background music and it ruins the whole video.

  • dont have a car , broke is a + ? .  Damn i should sell some of my cars so i can pick up more chicks...

  • Hi vanae12. Nice video. Very interesting. Keep it up. :)

  • @eGXModzz I feel the same way! I'm very shy and I have social anxiety so it's really hard for me to make new friends or even start a conversation

  • i met a french girl down the town because your held my head up and look more confident ^^ it helps even if your scared inside

  • i worte a blog on yahoo answers today asking people if i was ugly because people have said i was in school. i guess i was attetion seeking a little but i rearly get attetion so i did it and yh people did say im not ugly and cute but ill admit it made me feel good and i instanly got happy for a lot my depression decreased big time

  • 4:10 "You can take public transportation."

    This is America; WHAT public transportation?

    "You can take a bike." And arrive at the girls house smelling like sweat and BO?

  • @CrocodilusPontifex

    Depending on the city you live in, there is plenty of pt. Like where I live we have the light rail, the bus, shuttles, etc. I'm lucky I have a car though lol.

  • @eGXModzz it happens to me, but listen, to fill the gap just ask the other person questions, it would allow the conversation to move forward, and if u dont know much about it, just say it, hope it helps, its all about being self assured

  • i'm not happy because i don't have many friends....catch 22

  • Guys,

    It's really not hard to pick up girls. You just need to educate yourself and luckily, there's some sick guides out there. "The Game" by Neil Strauss started things off for me and most recently, I've been using the techniques from P.Box.

    Here's what you need to do:

    Step 1: Go to MackMethods. com

    Step 2: Get the "pandoras box" program

    Step 3: Use the tips and blend it in with your own twist

    Picking up girls is a skill. Educate yourself and you'll laugh at how easy it is.

  • @MMArtist99 men should be able to engage in sexual activity with women quickly and easily. men shouldn't have to date or spend money on women just to engage in sexual activity with them other than spending money on transportation to go to her or to buy her any sexy outfits for her to wear for him. men should be able to just approach women and be open, honest, and straightforward about their need for sex and polygamy with them from the start, and it should be happen within the same week.

  • @MMArtist99 I'm a sexually frustrated 32 year old heterosexual male virgin whose extremely horny and wants to engage in sexual activity with at least 200 women and i want to do it as fast as possible, hopefully within the same day i meet them. engaging in sexual activity with sexy women my type between the same day to same week i meet them is extremely important to me. it shouldn't be fuckin' rocket science. if it was, the human race would've died out millieniums ago.

  • @MMArtist99 i mean, dammit, there shouldn't be shows like the pickup artist from 4 years ago on vh1 or books or datings tips or articles on it. and like i said, men should be able to just come on to women and be totally open and honest about how badly they want and need sex and polygamy with them and it should happen within the first 7 days, if not as quickly as later on that same day. and women should urgently crave sex with men just as much, quickly, casually, and frequently as vice versa.

  • It also helps if you are confident in your looks or appearance. Get in shape. Find someone whose style you admire, and take bits and pieces. Never copy a look in its entirety. And when you do start that initial conversation, do NOT ask closed questions! Closed questions are just that-- the conversation will remain closed(questions that can be answered easily with a simple yes or no, followed by an awkward silence because you were not ready for the short answer.) Good luck.

    Bitches.

  • How to be more confident- be able to offer something in a conversation or a relationship. If you don't feel you have anything to offer, ask a close friend--it is probably the reasons they stick around, and if you can project that 'reason' properly, you can win over a potential love interest. If you want more to offer, take interest in something--read books, take up a hobby. It is always a good thing when you are able to hold a conversation.

  • at first i was wondering who con fidence was

  • @tabledancer99 wow ur so cool! hahaha not!! i bet ur ugly urself bitch

  • @tabledancer99 Your such a fucking asshole you troll : D i Hope you die in hell : D because u will : DDD

  • @tabledancer99

    Dear tabledancer99-

    Fuck you. You are probably the little stereotypical kid who sits in the corner and broods, then decides to act badass on the internet and comment on random shit just hoping that your comment will get a measly "like".

    Regards,

    The rest of the world. (We're bigger than you)

  • @tabledancer99 HAHAHAHAHA man you are so funny!!! I'll compare u to the people that wants to be on Idols, but can't sing for fuck...but they still think they have 'thee' most beautiful voice on earth. Your one of those but only u think that you are good looking but actually agly as shit. U ARE OVER CONFIDENT U DICK! Why would u wan't to post on this video if you are SO perfect????

  • you are beautiful!

  • wow i have to say i almost every time i see a vid titled this or about this kind of topic i think its for sissys but i said why not on your vid and was really suprised to see that i enjoyed your video. keep up the good work being an insperation and helping people

  • lol I could have made a video like this.....

  • Are you philipina, Chinese , japenese ?

    Do philipines girls like black guys?

  • vanae thank u for sharing your intelligence..i think you r an amazing mind..thumbs up girl..too many girls cannot figure out what they want for themselves..u got most of it figured..

  • love u ... :) u r such a sweet heart :) can i have ur email add??

  • huh...

    this is my problem: I can pick any girl I want in the U.S. The problem is when I get back home (Guadalajara, Mexico). I can date, I can flow with the crowd, day whatever's on my mind, throw lines, and all that works like a charm in the U.S. BUT NOT BACK HOME! WHY SO?

  • He is a damn trans wtf fuck u u fucking preak go and kill yourself

  • Okay I got bored after the 2 minutes of bullsh*tting.

  • i think that shes pretty cute

  • @MegaRdario really?O>o

  • i'd still hit it.

  • this is the first vidio ive seen of yours. it realy made my day my face hurts from smiling so much. P.S. you have such a fun hair cut its aa perfect complement to your person a

  • DAMN VANAE YOU ARE EXTREMELY SEXY, I LOVE HOW THAT BLACC HAIR COMPLIMENTS YOUR BEAUTIFUL FACE SWEETHEART! YOU CAN TUTOR ME IN ANYTHING!!

  • @truassassian the best feeling is to feel nothing

  • Wow, this broad is hot. I love the dark hair.

  • hi vanae12 When I watched your video somehow it contributes something to my confidence somehow I feel that I could like get myself a girl or talk to someone today thanks for your advice thou its been real helpful :))

  • This video is absolutely amazing!!! If you don't mind please help me with a struggle that I want to accomplish but couldn't.

    I usually don't talk with people much in school. It's because when I talked to them for a while I ran out of ideas. Please give me some tips and stay talkative while in a conversation. What do I need to do to talk like you( I know it sound Crazy but please help me). Give any ideas that you could think of please. Thank You.

  • what song is it??

  • what is that song called

  • How to get any women: confidence.

    How to be confident: not giving a crap what others think of you.

  • @koochkooch is it really that simple? lol

  • @koochkooch how do you stop giving a crap what others think because not matter how much i try i cant do it

  • @kurtanglerocks555

    1. It is scientifically proven that 90% of people's thoughts (on average) are about themselves, therefore the facat of the matter is that they actually don't really care too much about what you're doing/wearing/saying.

    2. The way you perceive yourself is the way people will perceive you. If you think you're the greatest human being alive, it will show and people will think that of you too. As the saying goes, "Whatever the mind conceives and believes it can achieve."

  • @koochkooch went out today and you know waht i was actully walking around showing confidence lol my shyness dident even show

  • @kurtanglerocks555 Good on you! Keep it up =)

  • @koochkooch thnx =) after years of being self-loathing and being insecure im trying my best to not feel that way and its working

  • @koochkooch yea but how do i not give a crap ????

  • Look them in the eye and smile, observe them and not your self. That's my view.

  • i am bad beacuse when im talking to someone i dont know and i want to make a good impression i get nervous and blush >.< Whch is wierd beacuse i never had that hapened to me in any other schools i was in..

  • @aferg76 lock it down scrawny little spit-fuck. I aware to god you really need to learn some fucking respect before someone comes to your house and tbags your face until your saliva turns into dust. Because shit-chutes like you, the world is fucked up. Quit fuckin up our world or trust me I WILL fuck up yours. Hard.

  • i aint get a damn what she said...i was just lookin at her face and thinkin 'damn shes one kind of a girl' :)

  • I know who I am and I don't pretend to be anything else.

    Still don't have any confidence.

    I can't carry a conversation. Run out of stuff to talk about quickly.

    And i have excellent posture.

  • lol?? you gave out you phone number on Youtube? did you have to change line since this?

  • damn girl, u so cute..

  • If you are tired of being single and bored then give e-datebook a try!! No spam, NO email phishing, NO viruses. E-datebook is a dating website that is gaining popularity around the country. E-datebook lets you search, message, and chat with anyone in the world for free.

    its e-datebook with a dot com on the end!!

  • this is the stupidest thing ive ever seen! who is this chick?

  • You don't know how long she has looked like that or where she has come from. And beauty doesn't make you confident.

  • a beautiful girl telling people how to become confident? lol dont make me laugh, you've probably neer lacked confident in you rlife

  • love you :))

  • LMAO! This chick is such a scam artist. Everything she says is common sense and easily accesible for free on the net. Don't waste your money on this person.

  • asians are unattractive. there is nothing attractive about flat eyelids. i dont know why white guys run after these freaks

  • @aferg76 wtf you talking about? some might be attracted by asians some are not. Im also a "white guy" and to be honest this girl is attractive, it has nothing to do with flat eyelids, I like her voice and how she talks and her personality and thats what makes someone attractive.

    People talking trash about others are unattractive like yourself. You might be good looking or whatever but you just made urself unattractive because of your trash talk...

  • @aferg76 Sounds like somebodies jealous... and possibly a closeted gay? " i dont know why white guys run after these freaks... "

    LOL. Should they be running after you instead?

  • the whole happiness thing is so spot on!

  • I've found a brilliant way of gaining confidence. Whenever my neighbour's dogs are in his back garden I jump over the fence and dick-slap one of them :)

  • I wonder how many phone calls this chick gets everyday.

  • you are cute,girl. I wanna marry you!!!

  • i had bullies from 3-8th grade. you can imagine the lack of self-esteem I have even in the 12th grade

  • @reepermaple Wow, sounds the same like me... I'm so bad with girls, I'm just so inconfident that it's almost something to shame for.

  • I HATE IT WHEN PEOPLE CALL ME GINGA OR RANGA IT REALLY PUTS ME DOWN AND IM NOT GINGA OR RANGA IM STRAWBERRY BLONDE!!!!!!

  • A jijo!!!!! Toda la sabiduria del oriente, yo si te creo todo. No en vano hay tanto chino, son expertos ligadores ahahahaha!!!!!

  • We can all agree she's good looking, but ... BUT, if her personallity is like this in real life and in person, then the looks is a second thought!

  • THIS IS HOW YOU GET CONfidence if your a man HIT YOURSELF IN YOUR BALLS WITH A METAL BASEBALL BAT THAT IS HOW YOU GET CONFIDENCE and it will hurt alot o.o

  • i like your voice :D

  • sry nvm...i got the name of the song! XD

  • thanks for being so inspiring!!! =D

    wats the name of the song btw? ty!

  • Thank you very much for the pep talk. You're awesome.

  • some1 is cute =)

  • You're sooooooo beautiful!!! Inside and out. It's soooooo damn sweet of you to take your time and give out your email/phone number and letting us ask you questions! Plus how you took your time and made this video plus all the other ones<3 I really admire that about you, and you're so unique, and different from other youtube users :] This is what I needed! Thank you so much!! <3 Only watched 5 minutes of your vid and subscribed! ;] Keep it up♥

  • delete the video and get rid of the music

  • It is hard to hear her cause of the fucking music! Otherwise good video.

  • I like the best part in the end. LOL.

  • Gaining Confidence 101: Belief in Self, Finding your Goals and making plans and taking in action in achieving them, Workout and nutrition, make friends with people you like, make minimal contact with people who piss you off or are blocking you from your goals. Find hobbies that you like and keep improving at them. Share them with people.

    Always be a Master/Student combination - Learn from everybody, but also help others along the way. Go outside your Comfort Zone. There you go! Have fun!

  • Gaining confidence is something I've spent a lot of time on the last few years.. I think you just have to force yourself to interact with people.

    An exercise that helped me: go to a shopping mall and force yourself to talk to 20 people(especially opposite sex). You'll find that many people are actually quite friendly, and if you have negative interactions.. well why do you care about those people?

    Also the music is depressing.. pretty but depressing

  • Belief in one's own self. Key!

  • Respond to this video: As soon as her chewbacca lookin' ass gains a little self-confidence, she'll start to thinking her pussy is the best there is out there. Haha! That's why they hate prostitutes, 'cause prostitutes cut through all the BS & just get to doing their job--and what a job! :P

  • Vanae I`m Cristina i`m 17 years old I am from Romania and I would like to chat with you online because I need some advices. Can you reply me where can we chat? Thanks a lot

  • "How to gain confidence' first, dont watch shit videos of egocentric chink bitches who make themselves feel better by giving inane advice to the lovelorn.

    Another Patronising Cunt.

  • @5709843 get off of youtube you racit idiot, she is trying, dont call her a chink you low-life

  • Good advice n i tink i hv a crush on u :)

  • not to be offensive...but i wish someone could do a video on confidence that is less than average looking...idk you always see the super pretty girls do it and all i think is of course you have confidence your gorgeous!

  • Y do people need to talk about the shit everybody already knows about? If u don't already know any of this, u r a dumbass, sorry

  • What an ugly Bitch i wonder who'd Call ya

  • i nid confidence to make commentaries...

  • Sexy cognitive self help, I love it.

  • i am actuaaly quite confident its just when im on camrea i get really shy

  • girl you got alot of confidence giving your number out on youtube.....some freaker can call you at odd hours of the night

  • I'm an introvert because quite frankly there's no one I enjoy more to be with than myself. I am that awesome ^^

    More seriously, I like being on my own. But when I'm with others I'm quite cool. I don't mind other people but after a while I just want to be alone.

  • Volunteer? Yeah, right! Happy people don't volunteer. It's for needy people seeking attention.

  • Im sorry. This chick is not beautiful at all.

  • How many calls have you received from men basically wanting to hit on you lol

  • With me it's more trust-isue related with having conversations. The reason being most people I've known as friends have left me/ refuse to talk to me anymore. Plus I feel like I'm letting down my parents all of the time. ._. I'm not the most pretty girl in the world so that doesn't really help. I know it sounds self pittying/whiny and I hate it, but it's how I feel.

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  • Yeah... posture and body language is EXTREMELY important.

    Most people read off from your body language than what you say. You can blabble all you want about yourself, but if it doesn't match your body language, people won't buy it.

    It's a sad thing because parents are the ones that are supposed to teach these things and many parents do not. My parents never taught me anything about life lessons and society. I had to learn everything from trial and error, not the best way to learn it.

  • @woodyfly but posture and body language is really difficult if ur smaller than others and they can just see that ur insecure 'bout urself and they r way more confident than u which makes u even feel less secure

  • @CrazyGirlKorean That's how I feel sometimes. I'm 5'5" and it's discourages me sometimes, because allot of American women are uptight and won't give short guys the time of day. But I suppose it's the personality and the confidence that matters most.

  • @Andrewz05

    Andrew I was one of those picky girls who was all "oh I like tall men only" but I ended up falling head over heels for a guy your same height..he was special, he had this contentment with himself (a.k.a confidence)..his personality and smile out shined his physical appearance..my perspective was completely shifted because of him..

    So my words of truth to guys with self esteem is "Be content with yourself, be humble and smile! because one special lady will fall for the real you."

  • @xSakuranokaorix Thank you! That was super nice of you! It's reassuring to know there are more women are accepting of stuff like that.

  • @woodyfly Dam I feel you dude, i had to learn everything the hard way.

  • @woodyfly Yeah same here I think thatz why most people who viewed thiz video r here smh

  • Isn't kind of weird to have your phone number up? creeps tend to creep on stuff like that.

  • Great video Vanae, but do you really need happiness to be confident? Isn't that kind of a catch22? You can't be happy without confidence but you can't be confident without happiness.

  • i like the song and it wasn't too loud, thanks...

  • To gain confidence I put a gun to their head

  • for girls, I have alot of things except confidence and buff-ness?

  • call me 911

  • having the music in the background is very distracting btw.

  • I'm in-love with you.. ;)

  • A hot girl telling people how to gain confidence? lol

  • @Angel61323

    hot? u must be blind 

  • @Angel61323 Not very hot. Average more like it. IMhO

  • @Angel61323 She's not really hot ...

  • very nice video im very inspired thanks so much.

  • do you really think that with this ijustwokeupinthemorningwithout­coffee face can really motivate anyone?:)

  • stupid question: but can we text you?