No contradiction saying ‘only call self Aspie if formally diagnosed’ and then say ‘diagnosed Aspie isn’t despite diagnosis because they are expressive’. People can feel a person has been misdiagnosed but still have the thought about reference in general. One is an opinion about ‘reference’ and the other a doubt about ‘diagnosis ’. However, it doesn’t mean we can’t be expressive. We learn manually things that we are deemed not to be able to. The milder amongst us can be very expressive.
1st. Here's my rant..I have a daughter with a moderate cognitive delay and Aspergers. I absolutely hate to death the word "Aspies". It's a word created by lazy people who wanted to put a cute spin on it. It's not cute. 2nd. I don't think that you have Aspergers type Autism. Although the autism spectrum is a vast diagnosis, there are many variants of it. The specialists describe my daughters as Aspergers type autism, so it's not like she is a square peg that fits into a square diagnosis hole.
Actually it can be almost invisible to another person if one have Aspergers. So you should never for ANY reason say "That person can't have Asperger's." There are so many things that can be difficult without even showing.
I think we would click well for a lot of things. I too have Aspeger's. I through the help of my mother and family in general have helped me over come many things. The funny thing i that it affects me in a lot of different ways. I use metaphors and i guess stories to explain how i feel about stuff. But to best describe the affect it has on me is to think of it as a grain of sand. You would think it would do much, but it can blind you if you let it stay stuck in the corner of our eye,
They never got a concept of a spectrum disorder. Like when I was diagnosed I fit majority of the "categories" for it. Almost all my friends can never see it in me that I show no signs of it or where ever aware of the social therapy classes. I do control mine but I got days where I lose total control and "short out." Nobody never had ever seen me revert from it.
This is a problem in my relationship even though my boyfriend also has AS. He talks a lot about his special interest where I'm mostly a listener and easily distracted by him because I have so many thoughts of my own that I don't voice. When he pauses to see what emotional state I'm in, he never can really tell from my facial expressions and body language. Sometimes I don't even know what I'm feeling exactly. But he's thought I was mad when I was just tired, etc.
everybody tells me i look like im going to beat them so people stay away when i try to be aware of it i come off as losing about 50 iq points their is no way to even try to emulate it doesent work!
I pretty much agree with this video. I believe am significantly expressive w/o the ability to read other peoples expressions very well. Additionally I don't think my expressions are consistent with others' (NTs'). My expressions are often misinterpreted. This is probably because I am not aware of what I'm doing with my face or body as well as what I should do to express a particular emotion. One last thing: how can you stand that beeping sound in your video!?
I'm very expressive but I have no self awareness of what I am displaying and I am not fully aware of what I am feeling. I could be angry and have a glare on my face but Id just think I was being neutral while feeling sad. I can read body languages in terms of positive and negative feelings but the specifics like happy, excited, angry, sad, content. are hard to determine if they are do not have staples.. like smiling,yelling, crying, slaming stuff around, laughing. its like everyone is secretive.
People should just shut the fuck up about having something or not having something unless they are a specialist in the feild.... ugh people piss me off too much... *grumbles*
... environments. By that I mean what every Neurotypical can socialize or stay in with no problems. There is too much noise, too much light, too many eyes, too many distractions, whatever and it ruins my chances to even process whatis going on. How do you ever truly put yourself in a situation where you can succeeed. When you ahve all abilities if things were just on paper. Yet when you go out into those situations the environment more than anything else messes it up.
What the hell is wrong here. Every aspie video has sound problems. Ugh! I tr so hard not to click off this. But really I can relate to the author of this video, I am extremely expressive. Can and have always written forever and am very prolific in my writing. And very romantic, and can pretty much express thing sin my own way and girls seem to appreciate it. My issues always go back to the eye contact (which I see you do too) and inititating with strangers. and trying to meet someone in strange.
I agree, I consider myself to have a good affect, my facial expressions can be at times animated, however, I have always had difficulty in reading other peoples expressions and body language.
I have AS I was diagnosed when I was 13 got books on body language, facial expressions. An Aspie can learn to read them. I am very good at body language and reading your facial experiences now. I was reading your facial expressions and listening to the tone of your voice. during the video. And based on the nervous laughter, tone and some repetitive information I'd say you're not an aspie.
One of the books I read is 'The Book of Tells' by Peter Collett. I'm giving you the author in case you want to get it. It has Conversation tells( how to take control - and let your body do the talking), Power Tells(how to gain the upper hand- and keep it), Lying tells( how to be an effective lie detector - and hide your own fibs) The last one is if your going for a relationship, Sexual Tells( how to read the signals - and always send the right ones. for more info ask
Well yes and no. Let me give you an example say from meeting someone: When you go to shake a guys hand if you are another guy he would be expecting a firm handshake. So the way I do it is right foot out, then right hand, so he raises his left hand, and I tighten my grip a little not too much. Shaking with your right hand gives you the ' upper hand ' as it is known. Dominance is important in some aspects of social skills, but only some. Mainly confidence, thanx & Merry Xmas!
If your parents didn't express their emotions effectively during your childhood then you will have a hard time reading peoples emotions as an adult. My question to you is, "How well did your parents express their emotions?" Well or not so well? Also, "Were either of your parents absent thoughout a large part of your childhood?" "Did you not have a lot of good mentorship while growing up? Not having good mentorship as a child can lead to these diseases. Mentors are key to fighting off diseases.
The hormone oxytocin has been shown to be effective in treating autistic spectrum disorders in experimental subjects. More studies are needed, but oxytocin appears to hold promise for treating this very difficult to treat set of disorders
I think I go a lot on the tone of voice. When my man is quiet i always ask him "Are you angry with me?" He's usually quiet when he's angry while I want to talk until the matter is resolved. He's told me that he sometimes sais that he's not angry even though he is... That's not helping. I don't think I've ever considered trying to find out how someone is feeling from how their face looks though I know I see emotoins in movies and such... Strange new insight for me!!!
I have aspergers too and i can express basic emotions BUT cannot understand other people's. In my country there isnt any doctor who knows aspergers.(Turkey) what should i do ?
question. Aspie's learn how to interact with others, correct? They learn to speak a certain way or be conscious of not looking people in the eye so they force themselves to do this and remind themselves, right? Is this part of the process of conforming? An aspie would not normally do these things but learns to adapt and learns to do things in order to fit in. ?
@directrpep sadly yes. We are high functioning but because we are high functioning we aren't immediately recognized by most people has having those issues which creates a negative image (lazy, rude, etc.
I have to learn how to act "normal" every day. I have to filter my actions and wear an emotional mask i can barely control. Some days i just can't handle all that pressure and break down, when that happens i make sure no one sees me because it only leads to problems when they do
Sorry to rant and rave like this, but I just find it irksome that the scientific/medical community expects all AS types to inhabit the same area of diagnosis, which may be the reason for the rampant misdiagnoses of certain personality types that typify Asperger's Syndrome. Perhaps even my own diagnosis is flawed, in which case things are bound to get harder for me. Again, thank you for the thought-provoking video; hopefully other people, and aspies alike, can broaden their views on AS.
I exhibit most of the more self-destructive elements of AS, such as a lack of interest in social endeavours, routine isolation to de-stress after protracted stints in the outside world that can sometime stretch on into full-blown seclusion, jumping at certain sounds (bread toasters key among them). This does not include some of my more esoteric characteristics, such as morbid self-analysis and ego-centrism, and the classic 'rambling' of most AS profiles.
I can be very facially expressive in conversation with those I have warmed to, even smiling and laughing should I really let myself go, but always find that my body remains this cocoon that refuses to do anything more than feign "expression". I find myself doubting what I've been told by medical professionals, despite having received three separate opinions that categorize me as exhibiting "mild AS", and being prescribed the relevant medication that fits the disorder, such as risperidone.
This rigid diagnostic system is perhaps as, if not moreso, rigid than the AS itself! It can make it very hard to outline any coping strategies for dealing with the complications of living with what can be a crippling neurological disorder. Is it possible that AS features dual psychological/emotional dimensions and that some may leans towards the former or the latter? I believe that my AS, though sharing certain traits common to all aspies, is more psychological in nature than emotional.
Thank you for the informative video. As one of those newly-diagnosed with AS, it has been a nightmare for me to explore the intricacies of my disorder as I feel that the topic largely remains a grey area. I have spent the last 24hrs trawling the internet for any indication of my own archetypal form of AS, only to discover that the standard template for AS sufferers does not wholly match mine!
It started when several years ago I knew a kid with Asperger's, and it hit me pretty hard that he was a WHOLE lot like I was when I was a teen (right down to frequently tipping/stumbling a bit when sitting down or standing up, bumping his shoulder into door frames when he walked through them, trying very hard to fit it but having it go wrong and make him only appear more awkward, having trouble taking turns in conversations etc.).
@JustEmbers I blew it off though, not knowing anything at all about Asperger's, and not realizing those things were part of his Asperger's. I just thought we were a lot alike, and went about my life. Several years later, an acquaintence I see a few times a year, who teaches special ed, started working exclusively with kids with HFA/Asperger's. She'd come over and tell me about the kids, their challenges and strengths, and it blew me away. I was hearing her, essentially, talk about my childhood.
@JustEmbers I still sort of blew it off. My daughter, however, for the first 18 mo.-2 years of her life would almost never smile. It had me seriously worried. She also wouldn't play with her toys, she'd study them... intensely. Her language development, however, has been very precocious. I started looking online, and when I tried to find anything about things like not smiling much and not "playing" with toys, combined with precocious language, guess what I came up with, over and over again?
@JustEmbers I also kept seeing that there was a huge genetic factor, and it ran in families. Between my daughter's traits (oh, and at 3 she uses frequently formal language ex. "earlier" vs. "before"), my acquaintances stories matching my childhood so closely, and having known a kid with AS who reminded me of me in such startling ways, I found a clinician who is experienced in working with people on the spectrum. I told her I wanted to get tested, she tested me, and guess what? I have AS.
No worries. 500 characters is not enough. My Iphone doesn't show me how many I have remaining, so I always have to be careful and ready to paste the rest of my response on the next comment. I tend to rant, so about 10,000 is about my minimal need. Lol
I can let things build up to an unhealthy level and then have to unload them on someone or something. That can be problematic and lead people to think "WTF?" And that doesn't stand for World Trading Federation. Lol
That's interesting. That makes me recall how my old client used to pace or go for walks. It's good to have something soothing to do for anyone. I tend to twirl my hair. I have done that since I was a kid. at least I stopped sucking my thumb... a couple of days ago. Kidding ;-) I consider myself pretty good at reading people and I am almost too good at hiding my emotions. That can be an advantage in my work life and my downfall in my personal life.
That's cute. I saw enough of it to determine that it must be a penguin :-) I think everyone has their own unique characteristics that can be considered an impairment by some people and that can vary as much as people's individual names. I am a tad bit OCD, but I use it as an advantage (when possible) You seem to be very intelligent as was the youth I referred to earlier. It's sad that people can have biases about people with a certain diagnosis and expect it to be obvious and apparent.
@GeoGarcia10 Thank you. I think so too, particularly when what they are seeing is simply a small slice; little more than a snapshot. What people don't always see, but what would (if people saw it more) make my AS a bit more obvious, are things like my stimms. I pace almost constantly (my neighbors see this a lot because I do it while smoking on the balcony). If I'm agitated I'll shake my hand (usually my left hand) vigorously.
@GeoGarcia10 (sorry, didn't have enough characters) When I'm excited I hand flap/clap a lot. When I'm extremely stressed I rock. I stroke my hair across my face. I sway a lot (was easier to do without looking odd when my daughter was an infant lol). Those are just some of my stimms. Then there is the whole "long string of verbal instructions" thing.
@GeoGarcia10 This has always been a problem. If I'm verbally given a list of tasks, I can't go through it unless I have time to do one before being given the next. Also, selective mutism, when in intense situations This is usually misinterpreted as I'm being stubborn and defiant, when the reality is I. Can't. Speak. Again, sorry, my responce was too long, so I had to break it into 3.
Interesting stuff since I majored in Psychology. I work as a youth counselor and had a youth that was believed by his mom to have Aspergers. Most of the staff, including myself thought he didn't have it, especially since his mom seemed to treat him like a patient over a son. This makes me reconsider that bias. I bet sarcasm is annoying as hell... Is that a penguin on the bed? Lol
@GeoGarcia10 Oh and yes, sarcasm, if it's not obvious, can be annoying... except when I'm using it (because, after all, I don't have to read myself lol).
This is absolutly not rambling. I was myself recently diagnosed with Aspergers´s Syndrome. During my diagnosis they showed me what criteria I had and not had and explained just as you did now about the 2 out of 4 etc . I am also doing expressions but I also miss out on reading them. I was facinated to learn about that there is alot to read from people except for their words. Also makes me abit annoyed I miss out on these signals. But Now when I know I can read up on it .
@FatherToaSon Thank you for commenting. I get really tired of hearing people say "All Aspies___." We're all individuals, right? It's always good to hear from other Aspies who are more expressive, but often ignored by other Aspies (or are attacked by them) because we are. It doesn't mean we don't have Asperger's, and it doesn't make us less.
people are dumb, and they forget that things manifest themselves differently in everyone just like drugs, some people get a side effect while another dosnt....
Spot On! Thank U 4 making this video <3
2wrkrbs 6 days ago
No contradiction saying ‘only call self Aspie if formally diagnosed’ and then say ‘diagnosed Aspie isn’t despite diagnosis because they are expressive’. People can feel a person has been misdiagnosed but still have the thought about reference in general. One is an opinion about ‘reference’ and the other a doubt about ‘diagnosis ’. However, it doesn’t mean we can’t be expressive. We learn manually things that we are deemed not to be able to. The milder amongst us can be very expressive.
more2debra 1 week ago
1st. Here's my rant..I have a daughter with a moderate cognitive delay and Aspergers. I absolutely hate to death the word "Aspies". It's a word created by lazy people who wanted to put a cute spin on it. It's not cute. 2nd. I don't think that you have Aspergers type Autism. Although the autism spectrum is a vast diagnosis, there are many variants of it. The specialists describe my daughters as Aspergers type autism, so it's not like she is a square peg that fits into a square diagnosis hole.
OrandarO 1 week ago
Actually it can be almost invisible to another person if one have Aspergers. So you should never for ANY reason say "That person can't have Asperger's." There are so many things that can be difficult without even showing.
NittonNio3 1 week ago
It has its advantages too, most aspies look way younger than they are, because they dont move their faces much
Storybrett 1 week ago
I think we would click well for a lot of things. I too have Aspeger's. I through the help of my mother and family in general have helped me over come many things. The funny thing i that it affects me in a lot of different ways. I use metaphors and i guess stories to explain how i feel about stuff. But to best describe the affect it has on me is to think of it as a grain of sand. You would think it would do much, but it can blind you if you let it stay stuck in the corner of our eye,
shexdensmore 1 week ago
They never got a concept of a spectrum disorder. Like when I was diagnosed I fit majority of the "categories" for it. Almost all my friends can never see it in me that I show no signs of it or where ever aware of the social therapy classes. I do control mine but I got days where I lose total control and "short out." Nobody never had ever seen me revert from it.
Jaket2000 2 weeks ago
I am curious... does anyone else hear the high pitched sound in this video? Not complaining, just inquiring...
feralucce 2 weeks ago
This is a problem in my relationship even though my boyfriend also has AS. He talks a lot about his special interest where I'm mostly a listener and easily distracted by him because I have so many thoughts of my own that I don't voice. When he pauses to see what emotional state I'm in, he never can really tell from my facial expressions and body language. Sometimes I don't even know what I'm feeling exactly. But he's thought I was mad when I was just tired, etc.
infoandexpression 2 weeks ago
i wonder if they can't handle a clowns face as a kid?
CliveGains80s 2 weeks ago
@CliveGains80s
Clowns faces are scary as hell. :l
I have aspergers but I've gotten the impression that it is common for humans of all kinds to feel that way about clowns. :P
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@CliveGains80s
Clowns faces are scary as hell. :l
I have aspergers but I've gotten the impression that it is common for humans of all kinds to feel that way about clowns. :P
MordZith 2 weeks ago
@CliveGains80s I can, and did
feralucce 2 weeks ago
everybody tells me i look like im going to beat them so people stay away when i try to be aware of it i come off as losing about 50 iq points their is no way to even try to emulate it doesent work!
PhilMyBod41 2 weeks ago
Good video - really informative. Thanks very much. I've been wondering about this myself for a little while and I am almost 50 years old!
LQOTW 3 weeks ago
I pretty much agree with this video. I believe am significantly expressive w/o the ability to read other peoples expressions very well. Additionally I don't think my expressions are consistent with others' (NTs'). My expressions are often misinterpreted. This is probably because I am not aware of what I'm doing with my face or body as well as what I should do to express a particular emotion. One last thing: how can you stand that beeping sound in your video!?
lewisktownsend 1 month ago
I'm very expressive but I have no self awareness of what I am displaying and I am not fully aware of what I am feeling. I could be angry and have a glare on my face but Id just think I was being neutral while feeling sad. I can read body languages in terms of positive and negative feelings but the specifics like happy, excited, angry, sad, content. are hard to determine if they are do not have staples.. like smiling,yelling, crying, slaming stuff around, laughing. its like everyone is secretive.
britters220 1 month ago
People should just shut the fuck up about having something or not having something unless they are a specialist in the feild.... ugh people piss me off too much... *grumbles*
britters220 1 month ago
Ever heard of male privilege??? look it up and you'll understand why females are getting the brunt of negatively charged comments.
dustysxy 1 month ago
I know what you are...and it only took me a couple seconds.. a total waste douchebag
countbloodula 1 month ago
... environments. By that I mean what every Neurotypical can socialize or stay in with no problems. There is too much noise, too much light, too many eyes, too many distractions, whatever and it ruins my chances to even process whatis going on. How do you ever truly put yourself in a situation where you can succeeed. When you ahve all abilities if things were just on paper. Yet when you go out into those situations the environment more than anything else messes it up.
Sean021122 2 months ago
What the hell is wrong here. Every aspie video has sound problems. Ugh! I tr so hard not to click off this. But really I can relate to the author of this video, I am extremely expressive. Can and have always written forever and am very prolific in my writing. And very romantic, and can pretty much express thing sin my own way and girls seem to appreciate it. My issues always go back to the eye contact (which I see you do too) and inititating with strangers. and trying to meet someone in strange.
Sean021122 2 months ago
I agree, I consider myself to have a good affect, my facial expressions can be at times animated, however, I have always had difficulty in reading other peoples expressions and body language.
jomcbar1 2 months ago
I always tend to act like one everyday.
INDLIS 2 months ago
I have AS I was diagnosed when I was 13 got books on body language, facial expressions. An Aspie can learn to read them. I am very good at body language and reading your facial experiences now. I was reading your facial expressions and listening to the tone of your voice. during the video. And based on the nervous laughter, tone and some repetitive information I'd say you're not an aspie.
Matthewlovesanime 2 months ago
@Matthewlovesanime which books did you read? all books i know on this subject are quite confusing; greetings
flaminia5 2 months ago
@flaminia5
One of the books I read is 'The Book of Tells' by Peter Collett. I'm giving you the author in case you want to get it. It has Conversation tells( how to take control - and let your body do the talking), Power Tells(how to gain the upper hand- and keep it), Lying tells( how to be an effective lie detector - and hide your own fibs) The last one is if your going for a relationship, Sexual Tells( how to read the signals - and always send the right ones. for more info ask
Matthewlovesanime 2 months ago
@Matthewlovesanime thanx a lot! it sounds like an instruction how to dominate, what if you do not have this intention? merry Christmas!
flaminia5 2 months ago
@flaminia5
Well yes and no. Let me give you an example say from meeting someone: When you go to shake a guys hand if you are another guy he would be expecting a firm handshake. So the way I do it is right foot out, then right hand, so he raises his left hand, and I tighten my grip a little not too much. Shaking with your right hand gives you the ' upper hand ' as it is known. Dominance is important in some aspects of social skills, but only some. Mainly confidence, thanx & Merry Xmas!
Matthewlovesanime 2 months ago
@Matthewlovesanime confidence is ok! i never shake hands, i let them be kissed;)
flaminia5 2 months ago
If your parents didn't express their emotions effectively during your childhood then you will have a hard time reading peoples emotions as an adult. My question to you is, "How well did your parents express their emotions?" Well or not so well? Also, "Were either of your parents absent thoughout a large part of your childhood?" "Did you not have a lot of good mentorship while growing up? Not having good mentorship as a child can lead to these diseases. Mentors are key to fighting off diseases.
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drubaloa 3 months ago
I think I go a lot on the tone of voice. When my man is quiet i always ask him "Are you angry with me?" He's usually quiet when he's angry while I want to talk until the matter is resolved. He's told me that he sometimes sais that he's not angry even though he is... That's not helping. I don't think I've ever considered trying to find out how someone is feeling from how their face looks though I know I see emotoins in movies and such... Strange new insight for me!!!
sofiaengvall 3 months ago
@ColombianaXO7 Lol! They hate that! That cracks me up.
SediluWarrior 3 months ago
I have aspergers too and i can express basic emotions BUT cannot understand other people's. In my country there isnt any doctor who knows aspergers.(Turkey) what should i do ?
yasamox 3 months ago
question. Aspie's learn how to interact with others, correct? They learn to speak a certain way or be conscious of not looking people in the eye so they force themselves to do this and remind themselves, right? Is this part of the process of conforming? An aspie would not normally do these things but learns to adapt and learns to do things in order to fit in. ?
directrpep 4 months ago
@directrpep sadly yes. We are high functioning but because we are high functioning we aren't immediately recognized by most people has having those issues which creates a negative image (lazy, rude, etc.
I have to learn how to act "normal" every day. I have to filter my actions and wear an emotional mask i can barely control. Some days i just can't handle all that pressure and break down, when that happens i make sure no one sees me because it only leads to problems when they do
JEL625 4 months ago
@directrpep Yes :)
SediluWarrior 3 months ago
Good Rant! I found it very informative. Ignorance can be very irritating -- especially when combined with arrogant judgement.
kozychik 5 months ago
Sorry to rant and rave like this, but I just find it irksome that the scientific/medical community expects all AS types to inhabit the same area of diagnosis, which may be the reason for the rampant misdiagnoses of certain personality types that typify Asperger's Syndrome. Perhaps even my own diagnosis is flawed, in which case things are bound to get harder for me. Again, thank you for the thought-provoking video; hopefully other people, and aspies alike, can broaden their views on AS.
Protocultist 8 months ago
I exhibit most of the more self-destructive elements of AS, such as a lack of interest in social endeavours, routine isolation to de-stress after protracted stints in the outside world that can sometime stretch on into full-blown seclusion, jumping at certain sounds (bread toasters key among them). This does not include some of my more esoteric characteristics, such as morbid self-analysis and ego-centrism, and the classic 'rambling' of most AS profiles.
Protocultist 8 months ago
I can be very facially expressive in conversation with those I have warmed to, even smiling and laughing should I really let myself go, but always find that my body remains this cocoon that refuses to do anything more than feign "expression". I find myself doubting what I've been told by medical professionals, despite having received three separate opinions that categorize me as exhibiting "mild AS", and being prescribed the relevant medication that fits the disorder, such as risperidone.
Protocultist 8 months ago
This rigid diagnostic system is perhaps as, if not moreso, rigid than the AS itself! It can make it very hard to outline any coping strategies for dealing with the complications of living with what can be a crippling neurological disorder. Is it possible that AS features dual psychological/emotional dimensions and that some may leans towards the former or the latter? I believe that my AS, though sharing certain traits common to all aspies, is more psychological in nature than emotional.
Protocultist 8 months ago 2
Thank you for the informative video. As one of those newly-diagnosed with AS, it has been a nightmare for me to explore the intricacies of my disorder as I feel that the topic largely remains a grey area. I have spent the last 24hrs trawling the internet for any indication of my own archetypal form of AS, only to discover that the standard template for AS sufferers does not wholly match mine!
Protocultist 8 months ago
It started when several years ago I knew a kid with Asperger's, and it hit me pretty hard that he was a WHOLE lot like I was when I was a teen (right down to frequently tipping/stumbling a bit when sitting down or standing up, bumping his shoulder into door frames when he walked through them, trying very hard to fit it but having it go wrong and make him only appear more awkward, having trouble taking turns in conversations etc.).
JustEmbers 1 year ago 2
@JustEmbers I blew it off though, not knowing anything at all about Asperger's, and not realizing those things were part of his Asperger's. I just thought we were a lot alike, and went about my life. Several years later, an acquaintence I see a few times a year, who teaches special ed, started working exclusively with kids with HFA/Asperger's. She'd come over and tell me about the kids, their challenges and strengths, and it blew me away. I was hearing her, essentially, talk about my childhood.
JustEmbers 1 year ago
@JustEmbers I still sort of blew it off. My daughter, however, for the first 18 mo.-2 years of her life would almost never smile. It had me seriously worried. She also wouldn't play with her toys, she'd study them... intensely. Her language development, however, has been very precocious. I started looking online, and when I tried to find anything about things like not smiling much and not "playing" with toys, combined with precocious language, guess what I came up with, over and over again?
JustEmbers 1 year ago
@JustEmbers I also kept seeing that there was a huge genetic factor, and it ran in families. Between my daughter's traits (oh, and at 3 she uses frequently formal language ex. "earlier" vs. "before"), my acquaintances stories matching my childhood so closely, and having known a kid with AS who reminded me of me in such startling ways, I found a clinician who is experienced in working with people on the spectrum. I told her I wanted to get tested, she tested me, and guess what? I have AS.
JustEmbers 1 year ago
@JustEmbers lol -_-* hmm i get a goverment check for aspergers i remember the extremely long test... so im sure i have aspergers.
1988talon 4 months ago
@JustEmbers you're a cute aspie...
greeniem 2 months ago
How did get test for Aspergers?
onecellbaby110 1 year ago
No worries. 500 characters is not enough. My Iphone doesn't show me how many I have remaining, so I always have to be careful and ready to paste the rest of my response on the next comment. I tend to rant, so about 10,000 is about my minimal need. Lol
GeoGarcia10 1 year ago
I can let things build up to an unhealthy level and then have to unload them on someone or something. That can be problematic and lead people to think "WTF?" And that doesn't stand for World Trading Federation. Lol
GeoGarcia10 1 year ago
That's interesting. That makes me recall how my old client used to pace or go for walks. It's good to have something soothing to do for anyone. I tend to twirl my hair. I have done that since I was a kid. at least I stopped sucking my thumb... a couple of days ago. Kidding ;-) I consider myself pretty good at reading people and I am almost too good at hiding my emotions. That can be an advantage in my work life and my downfall in my personal life.
GeoGarcia10 1 year ago
That's cute. I saw enough of it to determine that it must be a penguin :-) I think everyone has their own unique characteristics that can be considered an impairment by some people and that can vary as much as people's individual names. I am a tad bit OCD, but I use it as an advantage (when possible) You seem to be very intelligent as was the youth I referred to earlier. It's sad that people can have biases about people with a certain diagnosis and expect it to be obvious and apparent.
GeoGarcia10 1 year ago
@GeoGarcia10 Thank you. I think so too, particularly when what they are seeing is simply a small slice; little more than a snapshot. What people don't always see, but what would (if people saw it more) make my AS a bit more obvious, are things like my stimms. I pace almost constantly (my neighbors see this a lot because I do it while smoking on the balcony). If I'm agitated I'll shake my hand (usually my left hand) vigorously.
JustEmbers 1 year ago
@GeoGarcia10 (sorry, didn't have enough characters) When I'm excited I hand flap/clap a lot. When I'm extremely stressed I rock. I stroke my hair across my face. I sway a lot (was easier to do without looking odd when my daughter was an infant lol). Those are just some of my stimms. Then there is the whole "long string of verbal instructions" thing.
JustEmbers 1 year ago
@GeoGarcia10 This has always been a problem. If I'm verbally given a list of tasks, I can't go through it unless I have time to do one before being given the next. Also, selective mutism, when in intense situations This is usually misinterpreted as I'm being stubborn and defiant, when the reality is I. Can't. Speak. Again, sorry, my responce was too long, so I had to break it into 3.
JustEmbers 1 year ago
Interesting stuff since I majored in Psychology. I work as a youth counselor and had a youth that was believed by his mom to have Aspergers. Most of the staff, including myself thought he didn't have it, especially since his mom seemed to treat him like a patient over a son. This makes me reconsider that bias. I bet sarcasm is annoying as hell... Is that a penguin on the bed? Lol
GeoGarcia10 1 year ago
@GeoGarcia10 Yes, that is my Frankie (short for Francis) LOL I can't sleep without her, say what you will :-)
JustEmbers 1 year ago
@GeoGarcia10 Oh and yes, sarcasm, if it's not obvious, can be annoying... except when I'm using it (because, after all, I don't have to read myself lol).
JustEmbers 1 year ago
This is absolutly not rambling. I was myself recently diagnosed with Aspergers´s Syndrome. During my diagnosis they showed me what criteria I had and not had and explained just as you did now about the 2 out of 4 etc . I am also doing expressions but I also miss out on reading them. I was facinated to learn about that there is alot to read from people except for their words. Also makes me abit annoyed I miss out on these signals. But Now when I know I can read up on it .
FatherToaSon 1 year ago 2
@FatherToaSon Thank you for commenting. I get really tired of hearing people say "All Aspies___." We're all individuals, right? It's always good to hear from other Aspies who are more expressive, but often ignored by other Aspies (or are attacked by them) because we are. It doesn't mean we don't have Asperger's, and it doesn't make us less.
JustEmbers 1 year ago 3
@JustEmbers
people are dumb, and they forget that things manifest themselves differently in everyone just like drugs, some people get a side effect while another dosnt....
britters220 1 month ago