Unlocking the Heart of Adoption documentary trailer

[eagoodlife]

Most mothers did want us and the concept of being chosen is bullshit!

[yowurstnitmare]

i think ppl who look upon other's children as their own are sick in the head and heart. i could raise a child to help them but i would never cross that line and pretend i was actually the child's parent. the world is full of unnatural bonds and deception.

[LeeMIlby]

@yowurstnitmare

Sounds like you have some issues yourself if you think that love has such boundaries.

[krissykirchmann]

@yowurstnitmare : I love my child more than anything in this world and i didn't give birth to her. I am also not sick in the head. Just a mom who loves her child unconditionaly. I hope you have found peace.

[yowurstnitmare]

i am against unnatural bonds and adoption. i was adopted by my stepfather who took too much obsessive interest in me and spent too much time in manipulating my life & paid more attention to me than his own children but for all the worst vile reasons. he sexually molested me, and kept insisting i was his daughter and was jealous of even the mention or existence of my real father. then when i grew up and had a child of my own, those same ppl tried to take my child away from me and adopt him.

[LeeMIlby]

@yowurstnitmare

Please know that your experience was not typical. Sounds like your stepfather was a monster and shamed the title of "father". What he did to you was not love.

[LizzyBrew]

Did they tell you that 'birthmothers' are very traumatized people and that staying away for decades is indicative of the damage of the shaming and blaming associated with the loss of a child at birth during bygone eras. Please look into the findings of Rickarby, consultant psychiatrist to the NSW Parliamentary Inquiry into Past Adoption Practices (1950-1998) - before you canonize those who received the healthy newborn child of such a mother without any cost to themselves.

[TheAnandaXX]

To all of the kids who cop that nasty little phrase "Your parents didn't want you!" remember this. You were not merely born you were chosen! : )

[unlockingheart]

@TheAnandaXX Also remember that many many birthparents wanted their child, as did I, was had no resources and family would not help us because we weren't married.

[asynkronos]

My son's adopters aren't loving and honest like the ones here. They emotionally abused him. They're hostile and wish I were dead. He told me that! They've treated me as if I were a dangerous freak. I'm not. I'm a normal, loving mother -his mother. They have no empathy for my son. They and his adopted siblings are nothing like him. His natural father and I are still friends. We and our son and his real (half!) brothers and sisters have amazing things in common.

[LeeMIlby]

@asynkronos

What an unusual situation, open adoptions are pretty rare to my knowledge. Why not raise him yourself, i wonder?

[BAZHE]

powerful - favored - thank you

[asynkronos]

I saw your documentary at a conference. It's fantastic! I like how you included some history of American adoption. Original adoption decrees were based on bills of sale for chattel - material possessions! Adoption laws try to make it appear that the natural parents are dead and the child is reborn to the adoptive parents. It's legalized insanity! Last time I checked, most of us 'dead' parents and children were alive and kicking, much to the regret of the babyselling industry.

[nomorefunds]

@asynkronos  True.

[enchantedwood]

Had to come back and see this again Sheila, and I hear you are making another film now? Thanks for all the work you do towards more understanding of the issues surrounding adoption. Good luck with your new film! love, Lina

[MiriamPorter]

I've watched the entire documentary. Thank you so much for making it! It shows the reality of adoption better than anything else I've ever seen. (I tried to give this video the top rating and by mistake gave it the lowest, but YouTube won't let me fix it. I'm sorry.)

[SOADalltheway]

Excellent, Sheila! So glad that this is up for all the members of the triad, and indeed the general public, to see and learn!

[lilysea]

Excellent trailer, Sheila!  I look forward to seeing the whole film.

[rododpat]

Thank you Sheila, I am looking forward to joining a triad group so I can now understand what my own birthdaughter went through. Thank you again for speaking for so many of us.

[southmomto7]

way to go Sheila........thanks for sharing I sent your info to all my friends and esp our sons birthmother

Deb

SC

[AdoptedandLooking]

Nice piece. I'm an adoptee. I don't feel the way that any of the adoptees in this clip feel, but it's put together very nicely. Very important that this was put on film for all to see and try to understand.

[Mchokozi44]

I am an adoptive parent and Sheila's movie is profoundly moving and insightful about this journey. I believe she opened our hearts and spirits to a unique and treasured level of caring and tenderness with our son's birth mother. Incredibly well done movie that touches the pain with candor and without flinching.

[itoroark]

this film is extremely moving; highly recommended.

[TheresaTheUngrateful]

Sheila I'm so happy you've put the trailer up on YouTube - thank you!

[ih8u2be]

Sheila,

You did a great job. This is an important issue. Thanks.

Enza S.

[denicast66]

Yay! Very nice, Sheila. Wonderful.

[enchantedwood]

Great little trailer for a really wonderful film about adoption issues. A must see for anyone whose lives have been touched by adoption!