Advice: I'm Obsessed With His Ex

[waldoman7]

i would never date a divorced or widowed woman, or remarry for that matter. I take it marriage so seriously that if i agree to it that means she is my first and last. Everything i do from that moment on is for her. If she dies the day after the wedding i don't remarry. I'd never date someone who had already been married because you know that you can't be their first and last. You've at best got a 50% chance of being the one she loved most. This makes being devoted difficult.

[5posen]

i read this somewhere: we always believed that our first love would be our last, and our last love, the first.

just thought i'd share that.

[waldoman7]

@5posen it's not necessarily your first love that i'm talking about, but if you're taking an oath then at that point you should be completely devoted to her. I had a couple girlfriends before i met my wife. One of them was very very serious. I never swore to love any of them forever though. It's a decision to devote yourself to them completely, which then develops into a different kind of love which never dies.

[Josuatik]

Well she can't be your first .. let's be honest here .. It's true that mariiage is something to be taken seriously,you see the girl you marry as the last girl you'll ever love,might be your first..but that's rare.

[waldoman7]

i wasn't speaking literally when i said "first and last".

[Bubbles1779]

than get the f out of the relationship moron

[BlackLily888]

What's with matt and tamsen changing clothes before and after the question....?

[5posen]

haha, they didnt change clothes on the same day, its just a different take. the 'before' was probably recorded on a different day, and the same take was used for all the introductions.

[unknownfantasygirl]

keyword being 'for now' :D

[foxgirl123]

I missed you guys :D

[ChristopherMast]

You guys seem to give better advice than Dr Brownteeth.

[XXTheRealMcCoyXX]

Now thats good information from matt & tamsen for once! damn I was waiting for these guys to say somthing good... it's true!

obsession with anything is never good! I've learned that the hard way in the past = / you need to focus on a more ultimate goals in your life...it can't just be about one person.

[funkadalik]

wow that the guy said was amazing lol

[Xschatzii87]

yay i like them waaaay better than that other weird lady

[dbz987]

YAY They're back!

[imonfire95]

I completely agree with them. :)

[justanotherZOE]

APPARENTLY matt had a piercing.. ;) :P

[EliteParanoia]

I didn't really understand the question, but okay. :/

[mickysantos]

Well... "he loves you b/c he's with you not and not her" is something to be discussed - I mean it isn't always true though it should be. Anyway, obcessing is always bad, not matter what you're obcessing about...