John Gray - Do Men and Women Deal with Stress Differently?

[1WhoSeeks]

Simple. Don`t marry her and you wont hear her nag.

[rad7610884]

Both Gray and Gurian are smarmy whimps.Go look at Micheal Gurian.haha He's just as whimpy as Gray! lol!

[1nV1nC1Bl3BaLaM]

Women are arrogant when under-stress

[etbella3]

Youtube discriminates against me when all my comments aren't on top. Youtube needs wider screens to put all my best comments on top.

[etbella3]

@etbella3 And no it's not dirty, if you are thinking kama sutra missionary position. There should be all-girls youtube and all-boys youtube.

[etbella3]

@etbella3 Youtube is from Mars and Venus in Blue Jeans is better.

[rad7610884]

I live off of stress.Gray has no idea what he's taking about.

[CAYLIEN]

he's a retard

[thomarsebt]

in my own relationship with my wife. And understanding, noticing and observing my OWN behavious and thought patterns has made me even more understanding of my wife and her needs.

Read, listen and think about the subjects with an OPEN mind. Then THINK and analyse how they do or do not relate to you, your partner and your relationship, is my advice.

Much more healthy than just dismissing it entirely or even, I guess, just taking it all as gospel.

My 2c. Actually, that was about $2. Lol.

[etbella3]

@thomarsebt Plus I never told your wife about our affair. Give credit where credit is due.

[etbella3]

@thomarsebt So that's why NASA goes to Mars? To bring us back better men?

[thomarsebt]

Man, some of the comments you guys post really cracks me up... Some are obviously posted without thought, or without thinking about what's actually being said in the video...

YES, John Gray's statements in his books are somewhat sexist. As a man, I agree.

AND, he openly admits in an interview with Tony Robins, these are all GENERALISATIONS. Nothing more.

However, if you read, listen and think about them, a great many truths are there to find.

I have personally seen some of these behaviours

[Catlin44]

Men are less stressful than women because they do not pay attention to little things the way women do so they do not let small things bother them. If the issue or situation does not apply to them they do not really care most of the time. A great book that supports this statement and what John Gray was trying to say is "You Just Don't Understand " by Debra Tannen, in this book Tannen talks about how men and women think and approach different situations.

[oliviamulgrew]

for god sake ,,get off ya ass and cook your own meals then ,,we have been at fking work too ... and woman for god sake f him sit down make him run after you for a while ,,,if he leaves ya better off without him ...

[AfroSchmuck]

There are people hopeless enough to listen to this guy? You power through life, and you don't complain. You deal, if you can't then jump out a 5 story window.

[jlgtuesday]

Most people don't think for themselves.Each relationship is different,therefore,these people are listening to bs.

[AfroSchmuck]

Ahahah I love your comment!

[jlgtuesday]

You guys! Ya know what it is? Men are taught to suck it up.Thus,you guys you have the no word guy vs the allowed to be emotional gal.Thus you get problems.Most folks don't land in either catagory.

[ilovecountry71]

It's true,such as the old men aren't supposed to cry.

[mylovelyman2]

"Neither do I know people who have communication problems with the opposite sex."

If you are really serious about that quote then I think you should be giving a lecture on it. In my limited life experience at 32 years of age I have to say I have come across countless relational problems that find their origin in poor communication.

You will always find exceptions to any trend, that does not mean the trend does not exist, it just means you have found an exception.

[ilovecountry71]

If we look in the way males and females are raised in general to oppose one another,This is a breeding ground for poor communication.Little girls are talked to more,little boys are rough housed more.There needs to be more balance in raising children.

[AfroSchmuck]

Oh boy... I'm guessing you're a girl...

[ilovecountry71]

If someone wants to listen to John Gray so be it.But his system doesn't follow the pattern if everyone's life.

[etbella3]

@AfroSchmuck You are a martian asshole.

[etbella3]

@etbella3 Star Wars. Put your dukes up, Mars. Marmaduke

[AfroSchmuck]

@etbella3 My ass? "Little girls are talked to more,little boys are rough housed more." Yeah let's change how children have been raised for thousands of years... "There needs to be more balance in raising children." That liberal ideology is exactly why we have such a rotten society.

[etbella3]

@ilovecountry71 That's why Jay Edgar Hoover spread the rumor, probably false, that he was a cross-dresser.

[ilovecountry71]

So how does he explain a man who worries and a woman who sits on a couch and watches TV? hmmmmmmm

[ilovecountry71]

What about women who like to sit on a couch? He's so lame!

[ilovecountry71]

I thrive on stress.Explain that one Gray!

[mylovelyman2]

This does not, of course,exclude the role of other determinants of human behaviour. eg: Cognitive, social and environmental factors. Individual differences are highly influential.

I also fail to see how bringing to people's attention the fact that the two sexes do use differing communication stratergies causes men and women harm. As with most relational problems, it is usually due communication breakdown.

[ilovecountry71]

Neither do I know people who have communication problems with the opposite sex.BTW I played with GI Joe's growing up.You would probably want me to have a sex change.

[mylovelyman2]

:) Well you have not sat with many therapists!

[ilovecountry71]

Therapists have subjective ways of dealing with patients problems.I do know a woman who went to a MarsVenus therapist,she felt boxed in with sterotypes she sensed the therapist wanted her to live instead of being herself.

[mylovelyman2]

Sexist because you don't like the patterns of behaviour he has identified.

It would be quite moronic of any research group to make a claim about behavioural patterns and claim them to be universal, there is too much variation within the human gene pool. However it would be equally moronic to claim that there are not overwhelming statistical trends which demonstrate a strong physiological basis for behaviour of different genders.

[ilovecountry71]

I agree with Jade.I find what Jade said to be enlightening.If we believe the other sex has a fixed behavioral pattern,how are we to view them as an individual.John Gray has caused harm to both genders!

[mylovelyman2]

My position all hinges on what you mean by " fixed".

I am afraid that there is overwhelming neurophysiological evidence to back up the claim that, on a Statistical level ( emphasis mine),for a normal distribution a given human sample that there are significant differences in behavioural responses of the two sexes to a number of different stimuli.

See Work on cortisol release and oxytocin release in the studies on SAM pathway and HPA axis for different genders.

[ilovecountry71]

I discount the "evidence" because the powers which controll the world want people to believe they are limited.I think for myself,period.John Gray is a fraud.Read about it online.He's done damage to relationships.

[ilovecountry71]

So what do they do when the behavioral response doesn't match their given set of past patterns in their studies? They come upon someone who doesn't fit their narrow catagories of what a male or female is?

[ilovecountry71]

If I knew a female friend who had the behavioral patterns he described,I'd think she's a gaga baby and needs to have a back bone.

[mylovelyman2]

Sorry dont' quite follow that one :)

[jadeorchid2009]

The powers that be in the world want people to "think:" they're limited.They spew out their version of "reality" to the masses for blind obedience.They HATE individuality because it has potential and influence.

[slimmyd]

In my opinion you seem all not to be married. I have experienced almost all these things he talks about in my relationship. My woman wants to be heard and I try to fix everything and want to feel needed by her. Its true for my relationship And please don't think of me as sad case. I am conscious of my deepness within myself as a experiencing being a human and not a victim of life on this planet. John Gray is pretty highly evolved himself. There is more to his deep intelligence than you realize.

[jadeorchid2009]

Every woman is different plus some people regardless of gender need things fixed for them while others would rather fix it themselves.

[Zarbod]

Well at least he's not lying about being a doctor anymore. I wonder if he ever got sued for fraud.

[TMO25]

so you must be a man! jadeorchid2009

[jadeorchid2009]

Not all women follow the sterotype Gray rants about.I've read his books and don't see myself in any of the discriptions he gives of women's behavior.I think the same of Gurian..both very sexist!

[jadeorchid2009]

I'm a woman,I come home and watch TV...John Gray is a sexist jerk!

[monkeystu52]

I'm with you, he doesn't actually know what he's talking about. I am male. I am also a clinical psychology PhD student. However as I've said before, we cannot overlook that his counselling tecniques don't work. He is obviously good at what he does even if the things he says are extreme and in many cases not true.

[jadeorchid2009]

Hi Monkeystu52.. In most of psychology today the individual is being overlooked..Many seem to follow a pattern similar if not the same to John Gray's..I've noticed this where I live..It's a very conservative status quo thinking town..If someone says the same thing

over and over..people start buying into it..

[DarkOneLives]

jadeorchid2009 "John Gray is a sexist jerk!"

He's a phony, unqualified, closet queen, sexist jerk.

Do a little research into Columbia Pacific University where "Dr." Gray got his "Doctorate".

[jadeorchid2009]

Hi DarkOneLives! :) CPU closed I think but is now under a different name...I'll go look and see about the history of CPU thanks! :) Gray thinks women are weak little needy love junkies.His time should be nearing an end because many are getting wise to him.

[DarkOneLives]

jadeorchid2009 "I'll go look and see about the history of CPU thanks! "

From what I've read CPU didn't even rise to the level of the kind of "Mail-Order" school that people joke about. Complete joke that should have never even been allowed to call itself a school.

JG is a clown who came up with a catchy book title and has essentially been eating off that. He holds these outer space "encounter group" seminars and idiots give him money.

[etbella3]

@jadeorchid2009 My Favorite Martian is better than this.

[jadeorchid2009]

@etbella3 lol! I wonder if JG ever met a woman that handles stress by throwing a nerf ball at a wall.JG needs to realize everyone takes on stress in their own way.