Dan Savage on Living With Your Ex While Dating New People

[Kalferzu]

hmmm. my ex insisted that she was friends with all her exes. it did make me uncomfortable, but my parents always told me that nothing is a bigger turn off for women than jealousy.

i dont think my ex(girl) consciously wanted to cheat, but i think she was naive. i think she was oblivious to the fact that when guys get horney to just NEED to blow their load. rational thinking dissapears. its in our biology and in our nature. women dont get that because they are not wired that way, I think.

[Aicirt8]

Man, Dan is a genius.

[recordingautist]

I never realized before... dan is totally jacked.

[xkcman]

My partner and me, 9 years, still have this situation, he lives with his ex. I had major problems with this for a few years but had a weird epiphany that I want me own space anyway and realized I do relationships better living apart, plus he only lives 2 miles away and his ex looks like shrek so that helps, but I totally understand why people would say fuck that.

[nieceypiecey100]

Im in this situation and it sucks. ppl assume it's built in fwb but it kills your dating life mostly...and it's probably going to end soon.

[DeadButBreathing]

It's understandable that the person will be jealous but personally I could easily see myself living with my ex and it being nothing more then a room mate\friend arrangement. If you need a room mate and you are comfortable living with your ex who you're now just friends with, there shouldn't be a reason for you not to live with them. I don't much like moving in with strangers and am still friends with two people that I have slept with in the past.

[monica42mlkopgd]

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[alexandervlad]

@monica42mlkopgd I don't see how that's going to help him

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[jackzwinger]

dan savage is a perfect secimen of trash that should be a victem of random murder.

[mcdharma]

@jackzwinger

Funny, my definition of "trash" has more to do with sad, small-minded, powerless little men who vent their anger over the internet and can't spell simple words like "victim."

[mcdharma]

@jackzwinger

Funny, my definition of "trash" has more to do with sad, small-minded, powerless little men who vent their anger over trivial matters on Youtube and can't spell simple words like "victim."

[mcdharma]

@jackzwinger

That's odd, my definition of "trash" has more to do with sad, small minded and powerless little men who advocate random violence over trivial matters and can't spell simple words like "specimen" or "victim."

[mcdharma]

@jackzwinger

That's odd, my definition of "trash" has more to do with sad, small-minded and powerless little men who advocate random violence over trivial matters and can't spell simple words like "specimen" or "victim."

[disamjisa]

Yeah, if you want to lose your friendship with your ex, move in with them.

[sashahan]

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[edadan2009]

@sashahan

The question is: Where will you go when you die?

[sashahan]

@edadan2009

I'll rot. Like everyone else. My soul? It will cease to exist.

[edadan2009]

@sashahan

Your spirit and soul are eternal. Jesus Christ died so you could have eternal life in Heaven with Him. Heaven is a place of peace, love and joy. There is no suffering or sickness in Heaven. Tell Jesus that you want to be with Him in Heaven and He will help you. Place your faith and trust in Jesus Christ - He is the ONLY way.

[sashahan]

@edadan2009

Are there any gay people in this celestial kingdom?

[otooleme]

My boyfriend is living with his ex. She has actively tried to ruin our relationship, she lies, manipulates and just tries to gum up the works whenever she can. I wish she would trip over her saggy tits and fall down the stairs. But I play nice and just avoid her.

[iseemoto]

this just happened to me. i was the one who completely freaked out ; /

[bearchewtoy75]

I lived with my ex when my now partner and I started dating four years ago. He just had to be around us for bit to know that we were just friends.

[BentonRox]

You know Dan's right on the money with the notion that the new girlfriend is going to resent the intimacy he has with his roommate. It isn't always about a fear of being cheated on. While this person is living with an ex, she is on the receiving end of all the comfort stuff that that new girl won't be part of.

[integral]

How'd Dan get to be so bleeding insightful?

[cant1be1original]

lol I think it's so bloody insightful, but I like how "bleeding insightful" sounds..

[integral]

"Bleeding" is a variation on "bloody" that I picked up in a small antique shop in Singapore.

[cant1be1original]

? lol Don't get the joke if any there, but regardless I went to your profile and liked the vid's even put one in my playlist. As well, i Like your AMV..

You watch a lot of anime's? What are some of your fav's?

Where are you located? Me-San Antonio Texas. (don't kill or stalk me i'm jus trying to be friends)

[BigNameFan]

So true. I actually have an exbf whose moving IN with me cause he's going to school in the area, we ended on good terms and we're still friends but I am not romatically/sexualy interested in him AT ALL! This arrangemnt was made before I even MET my new BF, he knew about it from the start and is only now telling me how much he doesnt like it. Exbf has no time to find somewhere new to stay, not that I'm making him look but damn boy grow some balls you should have told me in the first place!

[globean]

Lololol... I'm pretty sure that this person is a lesbian. Lesbians love their exes.

[lordofultima]

@globean This happened to me, we lived together and then broke up and just stayed living with eachother for a while. Until she brought some dude over and I almost killed him, then I had to move out.