Ending Relationships

[hayley1020]

What you said is very powerful! what a concept! Thank you so much.

[christmasinjune3434]

You spoke to me with these words right here. Very good.

[makezmuzic]

Thank you Christmas in June.

It's a constant work in progress - figuring out what boundaries to set & with who. And when to cut our losses.

[christmasinjune3434]

Indeed. But I can tell you this, it is worth it. You are worth the time and effort. Who wants to be around anyone who just tolerates you or uses you because well, they can? I too am guilty of these self defeating behaviors and I am tired of it.

But here is what I have learned, if one wishes to be a well rounded healthy strong individual, one needs to set perimeters or cut the unecessary baggage out of one's life for good. Life is too short to accept anything less. May God bless you!

[lovedbyall28]

Well, I would not consider them to be friends anyway so the exit would be a good thing.I enjoyed this video thank you.

[makezmuzic]

Hi, thanks for taking the time to watch, and for your positive comment.

Question please, I've always been a "Pleaser" was trained that way. lol!

So this is all very new to me. At what point in your life were you able to able to differentiate tween real & fake wanna be friends? Thank you. MM

[ananda133]

can you get a massage ??

I really believe that it will help- from somewhere around, a little bit-- to a whole lot !!

as for toleration- as I get older, and a bit more crotchedy, I find that I have less tolerance to deal with other people's crap-- so I choose not to ! I am currently going through something on that level, and I know that it all will work out the way it does, so, I'm not concerned-

but I also know that it's hard to let go of someone that at one time meant a lot to you- so...

[makezmuzic]

Hai Ananda. Thanks for your comment. I would love massage, but its out of the question. Even having fabric touch my skin hurts when it gets like this. The warm moist towels of physical therapy helped when I was able to get a couple of sessions. Hot water feels wonderful. There is no hydrotherapy places in Seattle that take Medicade though.

[makezmuzic]

#2 I guess that's what I'm talking about. The older I get the more "crotchety" I get, the less tolerent I become to pretense. For diss-genuine relationships no matter who they are.

But running into the same thing you realised - it's hard to let go of someone that has meant a lot to me. And the older we get the narrower our scope of contact with new people gets. Sometimes its difficult to trust that it will work out in the end.

[ananda133]

LOL--

my original comment was so long, that i had to remove some of the characters--

DUH ! i coulda just added another comment !

:))

will continue this conversation in another way-

talk to you soon- well, you know-