FAGGOT. (Loft XVA 24)

[gloryolivine]

Great video

[demi3o5]

my uncle called my nephew a faggot the other day (my nephew is  only like 10 and my uncle is like 23) and it jus broke my heart cuz i aint out the closet yet but the way i see it unless i come out completely i aint tryin 2 look for any relationships lol

[sexymiyoki]

the hypocrisy that TRADES display on a daily basis irritates me, I sometimes feel compelled to call them out on their sexuality, hypocrites....GAY is GAY.

[RazeGeneration]

@sexymiyoki

not all trades are like that, im trade and i have fem friends, other trades, straight men and women, lipstick lesbians, studs, ect. ect. I love everybody for who they are, you judging all trade men is just as bad as the trade men that judge all fems, maybe you should check your hypocrisy before you try to check others.... just sayin... (O_O)

[CBlargh]

Oh no! Miss Tony's dead?

Poor creature. It looks like she went back in the closet. I have such great memories of her voice on the radio.

How you wanna crrrrrrryit?

Does Club Bunns still exist?

[Kelamy87]

U are my hero...(sigh)

[Jaquarius2g4]

I mean it can be looked at two ways i guess in one way it iis just a word and its only powerful when people give it power, but through out history we know words have been used to inslave, demonize, and even kill people who are considered the "other". By using the words nigger or fagot infront of those who are not apart of our communties we in some ways reinforce there own hate filled notions!

[fuckyoufucktard1919]

Well done my friend! That gave me great pride to be in the gay comunity. Some one has the balls to say what is all on are minds.

[chicoeastunitmug]

they callem' tortiyeras round my way.

[felisdomesticus5676]

I agree 100% !!!

[KanyeWestBoi]

I like the terms "Trade" and "cunt".

I'm a gay guy, but I don't use the terms to cause hurt, but just to use it towards my friends.

[smewr]

Why do female faggots have their own special name,,,"Lesbian" ? "Gays and Lesbians",,,, ? ? Arn't Lesbians' gay?

[UrieWhore68]

I think thats lame -- you don't call a man lesbian, so you shouldn't call a woman gay.

[Cody0Snow]

i say faggot but just cuz its a hilarious word lol

i have no prob with homosexuals tho lol

[shairaptor]

12yo kiddies that write "fag, faggot, gay" are gay themselves. Which is perfectly ok btw :)

[Siiren]

no shade. most gays are fem in some way. just wait around long enough... youll see. lol. especially if they get drunk/high or they think its just them and their friends listening/watching. lol.

[SrgtBarney]

exactly mah brotha. when did being called gay ever become an insult in society?

[joshuaofjericho]

It alwayz has been!

[ITANAGAR12345]

I m a gay too but i would never date a feminine gay cos they r loud, shows too much attitude and never understand the situation, they r stupidiously stuborn and soo irritating.. u cant joke wid them.. they will eat ur head.... and offcourse if liked the feminine quality then i would be st8.. but i dont laugh at them atall..

[ucofw]

Amen brother...the same goes for the word "nigga" too...you should do a video on this

[aGwEENapple]

'Masculine" men of whatever, gay/straight are just mean to anyone if you ask me.

Alot of them are insecure and just feel they can tell everybody else what they should do.

They think they make the world a better place.

They just use labels to put everybody else who's looked at as "weaker" down.

They feel powerful calling themselves "the man".

"A woman shouldn't do this and that".

They don't want to see anyone surpass the limits they've set.

[bigphat200]

I am a masculine gay man and i have had some of my feminine gay friends would say that i was lucky that me and my boy friend don't look feminine. but it never bothered me to hang out with my friends regardless of what others think. It is very sad though when my straight friends are so hard on others who aren't like them. and use that word. You got to stand up for your friends when that happens. .

[jaided79]

Great video!

Very ground-breaking, in my opinion.

I don't have too much to add,just HAD to drop you a line.I like what you're doing,and I'm watching you.

[DEYONCE9779]

IM WITH YOU ON THAT!!!

[alia9009]

good video!!

[SixtyCentNinetyFour]

I am not gay myself. But this is pure gold.

(This is just kinda ironic, pay no attention to it but: I am the 70th commenter, meaning there are currently 69 comments hehe :D)

*posts comment* There are now seventy.

[johnnieboyupt504]

Well XEm I'am In The Card Of Androgynous! i Guess I'am A Pretty boy Nigga That Has masculine N Feminie Ways! Like Wayne Said Niggas R Bitches, Bitches N Ful of Estrogen! LOL Stay Real! I fuck All my Haters With a dildor!

[ciel222]

There are a lot of very masculine very macho manly looking gay guy who indeed calling other gay guys who are femining faggot, and poof. i think it's a shame of those very masculine macho gay men calling feminin gay guys faggot and poof it's really ashame.

[btl1271]

you should do a mini movie.yr grahics are off the hook. I love watching yr yideos

[AllAboutZane]

well it wouldn't let me post but check out my video "Diversity in the Gay Community".

[AllAboutZane]

I can appreciate this video. You were definitely on point with everything you said. I have a video that I did and I am going to use it as a response to this video because the discussion we have in them are so similar.

[ikanasoldier]

I say faggot all the time, not to offend anyone just because i can and its fun to say, i mean seriously the people who use it to purposely offend you are always ALWAYS retarded assholes , it's like making fun of them. faggot faggot faggot words only offend people who LET themselves be offended. freedom of speech rules, shit fuck cunt prick pussy ass dick cock piss tits

[bigphat200]

freedom of speech has nothing to do with verbal assault, get it right.

[Cortez63]

Thank you so much Xem....you're the best son.

[SouthernCum4It]

just wanted 2 say this video is on point

[carrington45]

As you grow,, you learn!

[CHIWIL10]

Man Dude you are a great speaker man!

[wordjunkiee]

Once again Xem you manage to preach on an issue that many people take too lightly. So many members of the gay community frequently condescend or contradict in areas they should be vocalizing and correcting people. Thanks for making this!

[tyshawn17]

Wow Xem u hit it on the nose i myslef was wondering the thing especially in the gay black community i mean its so stupid to hear to gay people to call eachother Faggots

[derickmls14]

wow u should be a youth speaker i far this is my favorite video from youtube

[papanick818]

You are innovative and a good mentor for the next generation! You are a blessing to the gay community. Peace!

[desih17]

I don't like the word..the "n" word is also derogatory and people use it like water

[alcoholharmony]

*Turns to the book of Webster, chapter "Faggot"*

The term Faggot really means:

a: bundle of sticks

b: a bundle of pieces of wrought iron to be shaped by rolling or hammering at high temperature.

And Gay means happy so, WTF?

Dudes tell on themselves on a daily basis and don't even realize HOW much attention they are directing to their OWN closet.

But that's how people are and it probably won't change because being mean and hateful ain't goin' NOWHERE, man.

[smoothinak]

good point for coming up with the etimology of the word. I look at it like this...if you call someone a faggot you are basically saying that I want to burn you to death. What do people do to a bundle of sticks? Burn them...In England a fag is another name for a cigarette. What do you do to a cigarette? Burn it...Maybe a little extreme, but still there is no use for the word

[RossclartRETROGRADE]

I hate how people hate on gay people with the word faggot. It makes me think they're brainless. I tend to allow "puff" and "gayboy" because those don't bother me but fag.... just ¬_¬_¬_¬_¬

You have such a good way of expressing your ideas Xem :). You should make like... an hour long docu-drama for a UK TV channel so I could see it too, on how gays are dicriminated :). :')

[Ariesstar26]

I feel you Xem, I have never seen any occasion to use that word. I have been called a faggot for the better part of my life and will never see any reason for it to ever be used. It infuriates me to hear it from within our community. I see its use as a means to further separate and label ourselves. When will we as gay black men realize our manhood does not lie in our behavior. We belong to a culture that has the freedom to define our own image of what it takes to be a MAN !!!

[RandolfeWicker]

Feminine males are infinitely more attractive than macho ones. Unfortunately, macho gays are more prejudiced against nelly males than many heterosexuals are. That's because their sense of masculinity is always threatened by the widespread idea that gay males are 'naturally' feminine. I'm against all disparaging terminology--including this latest 'fad' of rehabilitating the word "queer".

[Andreas2g]

I was discriminated against for the first time by a lesbian woman because I am a stud. It blew my mind! I'd never experienced that before in my life at least from within the community. It really hurt and continued for awhile until I told the young woman, 'it's out lesbians like me that are paving the way and taking the crap while you to hide behind your pumps and lipstick.' I refuse to be ashamed of who I am. Thank you for posting this.

[Intuitionatwork]

i really want to help you put a ring in it...yo i feel you so much dude...i like everything about you we have some of the same goals and alot of things in common im not on the low...but if you want to personally message me hit contact me much love to you and your future bro...you are so damn sexy...

[Pebblies01]

"National Exude" I love it; the way you you are able to put into words some of the things I have been telling my House Family. Keep speaking on it.

Much Love

[scrazy88]

I'm guilty of using this word and I'm gay myself. I never thought of it that way until now. I'm glad I watched.... needed to wake up a lil.

[EpiphanyChanel]

Me and you are on the same boat!!! Wow!!! I feel stupid and in shock.

[shouji05]

wow dude, you're a powerful speaker.

[hslovett02]

I really feel you about that division. I had a birthday party also last year, and invited my boys (gay men) and my girls (gay women) alone with my (straight) boys and girls. I had my family there because I dont see anyone as being separated. Some of my family and friends know that I prefer the other and the others just wonder why Im still single without children. They have never seen me display any acts or gestures toward the same sex so this makes them more comfortable.

[hslovett02]

If I was a finger popping and hip twisting type of person they would treat me differently and I would not have more straight friends then gay friends. With that being said, Im not in this box that I can not be subjected to hatred or even bashing. My owe brother called me a FAGGOT from the time I was six until maybe several years ago. This only stopped because I was not continuing to feed him the shame and hurt that he wanted me to feel.

[hslovett02]

This only stopped because I was not continuing to feed him the shame and hurt that he wanted me to feel. I realized that there is nothing wrong with loving someone of the same sex. My brother continues to use the word with other individuals but will not in front of me also. Its funny how tables can be turned now that I have to financially take care of him and he has to ask for approval of simply tasks because of his mental state of mind. All I have to say is God is good.

[reevesemail]

You be killin it!!! I rarely leave messages but your videos give an insight to our world: A world of being black, gay, and living in America. Needless to say, being all three can either break or make ya.

[xavierbazil]

A friend introduced me to your V/Blogs, and i'm hooked. I your passion, ideas, and delivery floored me. I really resonate with your ideas, and experiences. (My introduction to the word "faggot" was by my father as well, albeit in a far more direct manner. Sadly, This socialized, internalized hatred starts at home at an early age. No wonder its so ingrained).

Keep up the phenomenal work. I'll be checking out the blog, and I am officially

Subscribed!

~M.

[sweeterthananything]

I am around mostly white LGBT people and I don't hear "faggot" much but lots of gay men (the last ones I want to be around) demean feminine men using a word like "flamer" or "queen" in a negative way. And you know, it's about self-hatred and this idea that we're all supposed to be just like straight people. But I hear "fag" a lot, for anyone gay really, just like "dyke" in that community - it's almost kind of the opposite. Like, yea I'm a fag, so? The word "tranny" still makes me cringe though.

[JudgeAxe]

CHURCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[NorthernStar2187]

OUTSTANDING VIDEO... POWERFUL VOICE! I agree with everything you said!

[tjai2000]

u on point man...keep up the good work!

[mjk0386]

Yeah this is so true, it is used more in our community but then again those outside our community who are not so much "gay pone" to what we do and dislike our lifestyle tend to ALWAYS use the word because they do have a clear understanding of the word and the nature behind it and how it affects the person they are saying it too.

[makezmuzic]

Excellent, as usual.

The word is used to intimidate young Black men into acting like a mythical, dehumanising male stereotype. It's a control technique for people who fear difference & themselves, and the difference in themselves..

[sfcalvinaz]

Absolutely spot on. Thanks for that. Much appreciated.

Hugz!

Calvin

Phoenix AZ (86 degrees today LOL)

[IanJar]

I love you.

[aaliyahboo]

You are so right in what u are saying. I couldnt agree with you more. Its real and people need to realize this on the real.

[44SCOTTY]

LOL.......WOW I THINK HE WAS MAD

[BKTonyStark]

I am openly gay , i dont vogue but i understand that that ia apart of my gat culture as well even though i dont vogue and outward wise i look straight. Im prob the most pro gay man i know. But know tha it works on both sides. masculine men do get threatened with exposure because they are masculine.

[BKTonyStark]

Also Faggot is like the word Nigger. It will be used by the very people it was used to hurt as a means of classifying some who are like them but are not quite the same. Like you say "Trade " sees it as Exerything they are aggainst . With in our community there is racism and sexism and thats what that is. There is a division still today amongst gay men.

[BKTonyStark]

Xem i realized along time ago that every group of people have words taht were used to classify and opress. To me being an openly gay man, I feel that we have to take the power of the word. Its Hateful and Mean . I respect you for addressing such a sensative issue with respect and clarity. Keep it up my brotha!!!

[robertandcompany]

I love to hear you speak. Your intelligence and education speak volumes. Right, wrong or indifferent its nice to hear someone articulate their argument without all the nonsense. Nothing but on-point with this position.

[jronn76]

hmmmm, im usally with you on your videos...but not 100% with this one. but the gift is that it Keeps the conversation alive and gets people to talk about it because this is a very "swept under the rug" issue facing the community...so for that, i say thanks.

[ludakid07]

Xem, U know U were nothing but in the right with this video. I don't use the word nor do I like that word. People in general need to stop using this word. It is a disrespectful word, and it doesn't mean it's a cool word, like U said like the word Nigga. Anyway keep doing ya thing, you are truly uplifting the community. Love ya

[SpiritedAquarius]

Tell them X!!

Hello wake up ballroom kids , the shit ain't cute.

[moriseblack]

Relax!! Its just another word. This is what Ii don't understand, why would you give that word so much power? why would you let that word hurt you so much? "Its all In Your Head" People will normally use the word If they think the word will hurt by complaining about it you give them a satifaction.

[masterdoa]

that is so true

[brycen10]

lol, you better be FED UP!

[Bety3ny]

Xem this is another great video. You are one talented brother and every time I look at your videos I feel the need to be a better person. Keep doing what you man, cause you inspire alot of people.

[BoukenBlack]

love the video. looking good

[JUDGEWRIGHT]

Another splendid message from a brother who is clearly wiser than others that I can encounterd. I am so enlightend by his messages. I could visualize him with his block friends, at Tyson's Corner, hating on the those who use to be just like them. Closeted, Trade, Out, Block; there are dozens of adjectives to describe brothers who are "in the family". The good news is that as preached about in XenVanAdams latest video sensation, FAGGOT does not have to be one of them.

[Cwm368]

You are one smart brother... and I have never used that word! It is demeaning and gays that used it have no self respect for themselves which a lot of the younger ones in general don't have. Thanks for posting this opposition to that word!

[PookSter18]

My mom always says faggot.. she knows about, but her excuse is that she grew up in a household and community in new york where they all said it, and she got so use to the word that it doesnt even have an effect on her when she see's a gay man on tv and says "aww hes a faggot" right in font of me.. i learned to not take it personal as im very sure she didnt mean it to make me feel bad. its jus what in her mind gay people are called. I agrre with you 100%

[huntedrasta]

what a random story. so masculine male homosexuals called feminine male homosexuals faggots?

[onlyoneofme7]

love it boo :)

[parrishrturner]

There has always been a divison of so called class in our gay community; just as it has in the black community as a whole. You would think at least in the gay community we would stand together but thats not the case at all. There is still alot of self hate in our community. The Trade Boys hate on the Fem Boys, the Gym Boys hate on everyone it seems. It's sad to say but maybe it will change on our life time. We already had history made once, maybe we can make it happen again. Great Video Mr Xem.

[pozguy1970]

weel done!

[FierceTory]

wow i didnt know you were gay =] .. thank you for making this video . it taught me so much .serious. =] love it

[FoxxCleopatra]

another great video...5 stars

[nonpareil313]

yes you are on fire X!!! everything you said is so right and so needed for us right about now.

[lennysvibe]

The ballroom scene that you speak so highly of practices alot of superficial things. I think this wont change until we began to dig deeper and start to communicate with one another. I was suprised to see how many 'divides" there are in the gay community. Hey bro when are you gonna respond to my email...fukker...lol

[lennysvibe]

XEM...I loved this video. I agree 100%. I'm a bi-sexual male. It floors me to see gay bashing from other gay males who are more masculine. It actually scares me. Let me make it clear my bi-sexuality doesnt come from lusting after both a penis and vagina. It comes from wanting a soul connection with a person. I try to look past the sexual identitiy and superficial to the soul of that person. I think the gay community practices too many superficial ideas to ever get past this. Sorry to say.

[atlien06]

its slays me that some ppl fear themselves so much that they throw their insecurities on others by hurting them.

[AmorMuse]

this video will be watched by the world..its sooo good!

[sarkazzII]

excellent video!

[AmorMuse]

you better say it baby