should i tell people i am a Transgender girl when i make new friends??

[probounderxxx]

Hi Han. I'd rly like a tutorial for make up and haircut tutorial :| so they dont look like guy hairs or maybe you use wigs ?

[thesabrinahill]

I would say no. But really it should be on a case by case basis and how you feel about it, in each situation.

[realplayngod]

aww princess no problem :-) :-) :-) also what the problem with many guys that don't understand or know of tgs they ASSume they are strange.But you're NoT. They are very immature most guys maybe look for older guys or friends in general who would be more understanding or knowledgeable about Special girls.:-) you'll find the right group of friends who will be more understanding to you and your feelings. and not play on your emotions Be well princess...Han :-) :-) :-) Your eyes are so captivat

[MrPicathartes]

Hi Han. Just some thoughts. First, you ARE a woman ( the shape of your genitals shouldn't determine your life ) Second, the only restrictions to telling / not telling someone you are trasitional should be if you would put yourself in danger by doing so. If you feel a new friend could handle the truth then, by all means tell them, be proud. The world is full of adults who behave like adults but, sadly, there are those who don't. Just be careful, and enjoy your life. XXX

[chrishan0822]

@MrPicathartes Thank you for your comment , yes i dont want people make my issues.. so i really dont tell people expect going on dates.~ , well for having some friends, i think i should tell who i am , if i want to get closer with my new friends.. but i still worry ..sometimes.

[MrPicathartes]

@chrishan0822 I think you have got the balance just about right. Worrying can't be helped :-( but try not to let it get in the way of trying to live your life as you want to. XXX

[dontlookatmeokay]

@MrPicathartes If someone has a penis, they are a man, not a woman. Now, a man can have the thoughts, perception, desires etc. of a woman, but people born with a penis are male and people born with a vagina are female.

[MrPicathartes]

@dontlookatmeokay We all start out as female ( in utero ). The fact that one foetus develops a clitoris and vagina and another goes on to develop a penis is purely down to genetics. Psychologically this doesn't mean that you are constrained by this ( to think that would be to be constricted by the basest form of determinism) TS's are only condemed to follow the strictures of their birth-form by man-made laws and predudice, not in reality.

[yurikomuro]

@dontlookatmeokay So according to that logic, if genitalia determines one's gender, assuming you are a straight male, consider the following scenario: You are trapped on an island with Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie. Here's the catch 22, Brad Pitt has a vagina (FTM), and Angelina Jolie (MTF) has a penis. Who would you have sex with?

[realplayngod]

damn it fatfingerd the rest .Your a girl now your more girl than guy now. You know in you heart if you can tell certain people about your back ground. but just to tell a stranger that you might encounter say employer its no ones business except you own.Your a very attractive girl, you also seem intelligent you'll be able feel if its the right decision to tell people about you.

[chrishan0822]

@realplayngod oppssyyyyy , i made a mistake i deleted your comment,..:(( i am so sorry.... i just , wnated to delete my comment and wirte again .. but i deleted your comments ah.... i am so sorry :(((((((((((((((((((( dont missunderstand!! :( anyway thank you for your comments , well i am really scared of straight guys actually even making friends ... but i can do that!! because i am HAN!! thank you for your comments and sorry for deleting your first comment !! :(( huggssss

[michaeloflaherty]

I accept you Han ;)

[courtneyblushtg]

Really you should keep it to yourself if they are a new friend and you get to know them better. If they are religious or from the middle east I would try to just stay away from them because they tend to hate gays of all kinds and it’s hard to tell if they might try to hurt you for being Transsexual! It helps to ask questions like what do you think of gays or say I have gay friends would you be comfortable around them? To see how they respond to it before you (OUT yourself) to them!

[sarahbrice10]

I think you should because if they were real friends they would love you no matter what! When my friends found out i was bi they didn't change our friendship! My Best older friend is gay. My best friend in the whole intire world has axiety. My other friends have everything from asthma,to depression, to ADHD, to bi-ism(?), to diabeties, to canser and i would do anything for them and there are only 5 of them! I am sarah Rice i have asthma, depression, mild- anxiaty, I'm bi and i love my life! :)

[crunchny]

I am a straight guy in nyc I have transgender friends. You should be who you are so don't hide it . If someone meets you they must like you for your true self. I'm sure you are great to be around

[chrishan0822]

@crunchny yes thats ture , i meant welll trusting is very important for realationship i think (both of friendship or love realationship ) so i wont hide myself .~ so if they run away from me ~ i understand ~ and if they want to be my friends !~ very happy to be their good friends!! hehe :)))))))))))) i dont expect everyone understand me . that is a rule of nature ,, there is always sunny side and dark side together ~ :)

[1k3n7sk]

yr beautiful



[natplymouth86]

Let Friends Get To Know The Real You First!!!! Be Yourself!!! Yes You Look like a girl, so nothing else should matter!!! You Don't have to tell anyone your status, because that is not important, because friends like you for you!!!xx

[WyllowRose]

I don't tell unless I am very comfortable with the person. I want people to comfortable around me and if they already are, why change their mind before they get to know me? I'm still in guy mode but I wear skirts and wrap sarongs alot so people know I'm different anyway.

[dria39]

Hello, how are you doing a good question, in my opinion is beautiful people discover them slowly, then you know it all. Who loves you deserve. then if you're referring to Internet friends, I think that if there are judgments to say that it is not worth amicizia.un hug you soon

[chrishan0822]

@dria39 Thank you darling!!! :) xoxo

[Barnsey79]

when you feel ready you should tell friends. maybe you could bring it up in conversation, you could pretend you used ti know a transgendered person and then see there reaction to the topic. people are more opened minded now. If you were my friend it would'nt bother me, it's who you are inside that matters above all else.

[somekindaperv]

Yes , you should tell them , because the reaction , of you being transgender , can be very unpredictable by some people . I would want to know , that you are transgender , if we were becoming friends .

[MaleCDTSlover]

NO, i don't think it's important when first meeting someone...if you get closer and things get closer, then you should feel them out and then tell them...no problem for me, anyway

[MOUNTAINOUS]

no you dont have too. that is like if i meet someone and say i am jason and i am a christian. or i am jason and i like army movies. lol. only if you are going to be intimate or develop a relationship should you have to tell them. his loss

[sw33tch33ksXXX]

i like yuu

[lexadlanod]

@sw33tch33ksXXX :: Yes I know and I could have bitten my tongue :) Persians are (were?) very civilised, anyway most of them. But Iran today has heritage from Persia, Farsi etc.

[TransDIYer]

Here's the thing. The ONLY person who needs to know is a person you plan on taking to bed. You wont be taking him to bed, so why tell him? However, I will say that as you become closer and closer and closer it MIGHT be a good idea to just tell them but you dont need to unless you're going to sleep with them. I'm going through some friend drama right now, check it out on my page.

[dontlookatmeokay]

By the way, you really are a woman - for you think like a woman and not a man. You assumed that the Persian guy wasn't interested in you because you two just went to dinner as 'friends'.

[lexadlanod]

Persia is known to be very transphobic, isn't it?

[blaster28]

@lexadlanod persia is a long since dead country my friend.

[lexadlanod]

Having dinner with a guy will be thought of as an introduction which can lead to a relationship. Except if it is an official dinner - and even then!

As soon as guys take measure of you - look at you with that look, you know! - then be careful :)

If you need advice find an LGBT website and read/ask - go to a support meeting if there is any such thing near you :)

Good luck!

[Admirer4U510]

No tell unless you make friend a "boyfriend"

[Dreamerlok]

You don't really need to keep telling every friend you make that you are. Give it time when your friendship grows and then you should consider telling them when you know you can trust that person.

[newkie2008]

If you dont want problems there's is no need dor it take your time amd tell them just if really have to.

So yeah just do what your heart tells you

[R6iness]

I would agree with the person down there saying that people who are a "friend of

a friend" and people u meet once or

twice don't really need to know. if you're getting close with somebody, don't force yourself to tell them, but at the same time don't force yourself to keep it a secret. wether u tell them in a couple days, or tell them in a couple months... the bottom line is, if ur new friend cannot respect you for who you are, they were never a true friend in the first place! hugs!

[msseabreeze1]

could'nt say it better than SassyQ87's comment 

[dontlookatmeokay]

I don't think you should tell strangers and passer-bys that you will only interact with once or twice in your lifetime, but I think you should tell your friends who you will see more frequently.

[SassyQ87]

I feel that If you are just friends and are just meeting and getting to know each other , then no you don't have to tell them. If you eventually feel comfortable enough to tell them because you become close friends then sure go right ahead. If you are dating, or interested in dating someone then yes it may be a good idea to let them know since the beginning. Just to avoid any type of issues. And btw those people who stopped talking to you because you were transgendered we're not real friends, s

[thekarenheart]

kill him--ok--smiles

[PaperNun]

From a fellow Tgirl to another. NO FUCK THEM!!