I love this. I wish I knew a sweet guy like that, but unfortunately, I'm more likely the one to get walked on, and the only good guy friend I have doesn't seem to realize what gender I am.
So I agree that you shouldn't take your friends for granted, but you don't owe someone love for being nice to you. Obviously, some of this is hypothetical, but you can't expect someone to know something is bothering you unless you speak up. Sometimes people let themselves be walked over.
God I wish I could show my ex this. She was a total jerk, I would talk her through her problems, and then when I was upset about something she would barely even try to talk about it. There was also the fact she broke up with me the week after my parents got divorced, and how she always complained about her last relationship, yet even though I always complimented her, that relationship lasted longer than ours. The kicker? The reason she broke up with me was because I was to nice.
Yep. Very true... Sometimes though the nice one has to be the one to step away for the sake of his own well being. It's not worth it to be there for people who treat you that way. Much better to go out and find other nice people. They are out there and life is so much easier when you are there for each other. One-sided things hurt too much.
I know that feel, though mostly in the context of friendship. I've been on both sides, and each time it took me a while to realize what I was doing and what they were doing. It's difficult to escape the habit of catering to an individual, as well as depending on someone else.
This sound more like 'nice guy syndrome' than 'food for thought'.
I mean, if what was said here was just about being appreciated as a friend, ok, but most of them sound like complaining that the girl did not like you back, and blaming her for something that is actually nobody's fault, saying that the 'problem' is that she only likes jerks and she goes out partying and then turns to you when she needs a friend, cuz you're her friend.('you' here is not you, travis, but whoever says this things).
@HiperactiveZombie It's more like Taking People for Granted Syndrome. The 'nice' people in question aren't usually looking for the other person to fall in love with them; they just want the same thoughtful and understanding treatment in return. The 'problem', as you put it, would be the person thinking it's okay, or not realizing, that they're walking all over their 'friends' because they do it without a moment's thought. So yeah, it's food for thought.
@WhatTravisSays As we were not given any context at all, I saw this as 'nice guy syndrome'. But if this is about friendship not being appreciated at all, I do agree with you. It's just that some of the examples given were a bit too similar to the usual 'nice guy' whine.
Hope you get to work things out with the person who doesn't appreciate your friendship.
Every now and again i take a step back and reflect on my life to make sure i'm not using anyone or that no one is using me. This video reminded me of why :)
Sadly this video is my life. Except for a few points (like holding the car door open), which I don't do. I have done almost all of the mentioned things. This video was just really well done. I think it's a good thing to have out there, and way to stand up for yourself.
This had to have summed up for many years for many people, and its time to share it with them. You are truely awesome and the world needs it cause world suck, sucks.
Though this was probably made with unrequited love in mind I feel it could be applied to any situation involving one person who gives everything they have to a relationship while the other half only takes. This is the perfect video to make a response to because enough can be said about it.
Though I doubt I could walk away from a domestic violence situation no matter how sound my reasoning is for breaking away from them is.
You are awesome Travis. Even if a smidgen of this video applies to you, it is a sign that any girl will be lucky to date you. Thank you for reminding us what true love should be.
I´ve been on both sides: The idiot who didn´t notice what she had in front of her, and the idiot waiting for a guy to realize that she loves him for who he is,wonderful yet flawded.
Both suck: Not realizing what you had until it´s too late,wondering what would have happened if you had, and being heartbroken whenever he talks about that girl who treats him like trash when you would treasure him...
This should be played to everyone who complains about stuff on Facebook, right before you hit post it should be mandatory to view this video. It is so nice to know that there are people like you out there Travis, it gives me faith on the future.
This video needs to be shared. I would like to point out that it goes both ways. I'm very typically the girl that listens to her guy friends problems, and it's really difficult when I see girls tossing aside wonderful guys left and right and then complaining about their relationships. It's an evil circle of suck. I will be sharing this video- because Travis, you put into words what so many people want to say. A thousand thanks. :)
I'm crying now. I'm sorry that people make you feel this way, because I know how it feels. I'm sorry that people don't see you for every bit of the amazing human being you are. Not just Travis, but all of you. I don't need to know you to know that it's true, you deserve to be loved.
I'm sorry that it took this video for me to see why I've alienated a great friend. When you've spent so long without friends, when you find one, it's easy to take them for granted. Well that day changes. Fortunately though I don't like I've ever had to apologize over love but with friendship? Yeah, I've made some mistakes.
I'm sorry that a lot of us women are shallow, cold hearted bitches. I'm also sorry that a lot of men's brains are in their pants. I'm sorry that I see beauty as something that radiates from the inside out. I'm sorry that I see a man's ability to show his emotions and a sense of humor as defining features of attractiveness. Not how rich he is, or what kind of car he drives etc.
This video made me want to give you a hug, though for the first half a minute or so I was just thinking "Wait... Travis has a goatee!"
This also made me feel bad, because even though I don't go looking for "the one" and don't go around dating assholes and complaining about it... I had one person in mind during most of this. And I really hope that's not how he feels.
Oh my gosh this video, the last part at the end, oh my gosh. I can't form an adequate sentence to describe how much I relate to that. This video was absolutely fantastic.
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Woah man, I'm a long time fan, but c'mon stop the "dramaqueening"? There is enough of that on facebook. Your story didn't have some personal point in the end, it was more of a "blablabla has blablabla disease - share this on your wall" facebook thing. :/
@Noobst3R99 Dramaqueening? This isn't me complaining about my life. This isn't me telling the internet that I had a bad day and that people should feel bad for me. This isn't me being sad because something didn't go my way. This is a video for two types of people. The walked on, because they need to know that they don't have to stand for that treatment, and the ones doing the walking, because they need to wise up on how they're treating their friends. I'm sorry you missed my entire point.
I want to send you all the hugs. Mainly because I'm sorry you feel this way, and I'd like to think that there are people out there who won't just walk all over your kindness and let it go unnoticed.
I think is one the best videos you have done!! It touch my heart cause i am usually the one they call! :( People will realize one day! love ya Travis!
Yeah... I was a doormat. Spent four years throwing my all into a relationship and when I needed her to be there for me after my Grandma died, she left me for a jerk. More than two years later I'm still suffering the crushed ego and shattered self-esteem all because she asked me to keep it quiet and I did and our friends didn't know what really happened to me. She returned the ring to me in public and told me she never wanted to be with me again. A grown man cried in public. Dignity, I miss you.
I have been married for 9 years, and have actually been with my husband for 14 years, and none of what you said applies to our relationship, BUT before I found him, there was ALOT of that criteria that my past relationships fell into. In my mind, if you are not happy with who you are with 97% of the time, then maybe you should look around and take a step back. I love my husband, and I am glad we found each other. :)
At some point, you have to cut people off and focus on yourself. Even if all you want to do with your time is help people, if that's really all you do there will soon be nothing left to do that.
If only I was still into that guy that I was ALWAYS there for but went out with all the tarts. I'm sorry. I really am. I'm sorry that I liked you for at least 5 years ever since 5th grade. I'm sorry I wasted things on you. I'm sorry that I helped you cope with growing up and becoming a guy or at least half of one since you spend most of your time of MTV or MW3. I'm sorry I wrote a poem about you. And I'm sorry I never went out with you because you only thought of us as "just friends."
whether they're just playing to my nerdy side or they're being so incredibly true to reality, you're videos never cease to have truly incredible content. I have (in various ways) felt the exact emotions put forth in this video. Thank you and I am genuinely sorry for anyone who is ever made feel this way.
I know exactly how this feels. the part about being sorry for not caring any more applies as well I sort of stopped caring for people who I know will end up using me just to feel better.
Its sad that there are people like that who cannot see the best thing for them is right in front of them. Sort of reminds me of the Taylor Swift song 'You Belong with me'.
... I may now be crying a little bit because like 99% of this applied to me.
Travis: Your videos never fail to amaze.
You never FTBA. Anyone who can't see how awesome you are? Well, I'm going to say the same, cliche thing that I have been repeating over and over to my friends when I stay up till 4am listening to them rant, even when I have to get up at 7:30 for a class, just because I am always there for everyone around me: They are not worth your time.
Dude... I love you! You are so amazing! I'm sad enough to write things I'm sorry for down in my diary, so I think, after watching this, I will do a video similar. But things that I'm sorry for!
I really appreciate this. I have tried to give some of my friends this sort of advice, but it's difficult to bring them to a point of really understanding it. It really sucks. I also know a lot of really good guys that are often overlooked because so many girls don't realize that it's a wonderful thing to be with a guy who is a good friend.
I... am actually tearing up now... because this was always how I felt ...
questionsneveranswer 1 week ago
I love this. I wish I knew a sweet guy like that, but unfortunately, I'm more likely the one to get walked on, and the only good guy friend I have doesn't seem to realize what gender I am.
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I am sorry that it took me so long after subscribing to actually watch your videos. I can't believe how much awesome I missed.
I also can't believe how amazing you are and how many amazing guys there are out there. Next time I complain, I will look up
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I'm sorry I haven't clicked the subscribe button yet.
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... Well we love you Travis! Even if we don't mean nearly as much. But hey, I'd date you :)
EpicViolinistIsEpic 3 weeks ago
It kinda' sounds like you like all the wrong girls. Sigh
sectvideo 1 month ago
A semi story of my friends life :-/
Scarlett55505 1 month ago
Wow. More guys like you need to exist.
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It's terrible that some peoples are ungrateful little butt wipes.
Here you (The friend) listen to their problems and when u want them to listen to u, they ignore u. (does that make sense?)
Anyway... It's not a true friend because a true friend
-Listens to you
-Doesnt take advantage of you
-Is always there (or at least mine r... Idk)
-and other things bc this list could be a mile long haha
You Travis are a wise dude
I respect that
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Scarlett55505 2 months ago
Travis.... U are wonderful :P
It's like the song "You belong with me" by Taylor Swift
Scarlett55505 2 months ago
Um... Ouch?
ShadowAngel20101 2 months ago
I gotta say, Travis, you're my hero for making this video.
DACnumber1 2 months ago
So I agree that you shouldn't take your friends for granted, but you don't owe someone love for being nice to you. Obviously, some of this is hypothetical, but you can't expect someone to know something is bothering you unless you speak up. Sometimes people let themselves be walked over.
friendoftheood18 2 months ago 2
Man, this brings me down! It reminds me of all heartaches, I ever had to stand..
And moreover I feel sorry for all, who know these emotions, too!
"Don't kiss a fool, or a kiss will fool you."
Sadly, that's it...
MyCateLynn 2 months ago
God I wish I could show my ex this. She was a total jerk, I would talk her through her problems, and then when I was upset about something she would barely even try to talk about it. There was also the fact she broke up with me the week after my parents got divorced, and how she always complained about her last relationship, yet even though I always complimented her, that relationship lasted longer than ours. The kicker? The reason she broke up with me was because I was to nice.
DACnumber1 2 months ago
Yep. Very true... Sometimes though the nice one has to be the one to step away for the sake of his own well being. It's not worth it to be there for people who treat you that way. Much better to go out and find other nice people. They are out there and life is so much easier when you are there for each other. One-sided things hurt too much.
RandomerThanAverage 2 months ago
I know that feel, though mostly in the context of friendship. I've been on both sides, and each time it took me a while to realize what I was doing and what they were doing. It's difficult to escape the habit of catering to an individual, as well as depending on someone else.
spoinkchick93 2 months ago
Preach it Travis, preach it!
Alreadyrice 2 months ago
I can't even look at the screen.... Lol you're just too needy. Be less available. It's fucked up but it works :/
LOVE808s 2 months ago
@LOVE808s he is a person too, so you could be a little less rude.
shadownerd13 2 months ago
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TheLexieRokey 2 months ago
"This is me, getting out."
froregon 2 months ago
This sound more like 'nice guy syndrome' than 'food for thought'.
I mean, if what was said here was just about being appreciated as a friend, ok, but most of them sound like complaining that the girl did not like you back, and blaming her for something that is actually nobody's fault, saying that the 'problem' is that she only likes jerks and she goes out partying and then turns to you when she needs a friend, cuz you're her friend.('you' here is not you, travis, but whoever says this things).
HiperactiveZombie 2 months ago 5
@HiperactiveZombie It's more like Taking People for Granted Syndrome. The 'nice' people in question aren't usually looking for the other person to fall in love with them; they just want the same thoughtful and understanding treatment in return. The 'problem', as you put it, would be the person thinking it's okay, or not realizing, that they're walking all over their 'friends' because they do it without a moment's thought. So yeah, it's food for thought.
WhatTravisSays 2 months ago 6
@WhatTravisSays As we were not given any context at all, I saw this as 'nice guy syndrome'. But if this is about friendship not being appreciated at all, I do agree with you. It's just that some of the examples given were a bit too similar to the usual 'nice guy' whine.
Hope you get to work things out with the person who doesn't appreciate your friendship.
HiperactiveZombie 2 months ago
Every now and again i take a step back and reflect on my life to make sure i'm not using anyone or that no one is using me. This video reminded me of why :)
IckleBefny 2 months ago
The 1 dislike has to be from the mentioned girl. Lol.
ThatBeastyKidJames 2 months ago 2
Perfect video. Really gets the point across.
ThatBeastyKidJames 2 months ago
Nice video.
genevievevlogs 2 months ago
Well done Travis. Very powerful.
alaninnh 2 months ago
Sadly this video is my life. Except for a few points (like holding the car door open), which I don't do. I have done almost all of the mentioned things. This video was just really well done. I think it's a good thing to have out there, and way to stand up for yourself.
Ravenclaw2313 2 months ago in playlist Watch Now
So true...
The1stDirector 2 months ago
This had to have summed up for many years for many people, and its time to share it with them. You are truely awesome and the world needs it cause world suck, sucks.
vamptigergal 2 months ago
Though this was probably made with unrequited love in mind I feel it could be applied to any situation involving one person who gives everything they have to a relationship while the other half only takes. This is the perfect video to make a response to because enough can be said about it.
Though I doubt I could walk away from a domestic violence situation no matter how sound my reasoning is for breaking away from them is.
MeekYetMighty 2 months ago
You are awesome Travis. Even if a smidgen of this video applies to you, it is a sign that any girl will be lucky to date you. Thank you for reminding us what true love should be.
kimberkali77 2 months ago
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I´ve been on both sides: The idiot who didn´t notice what she had in front of her, and the idiot waiting for a guy to realize that she loves him for who he is,wonderful yet flawded.
Both suck: Not realizing what you had until it´s too late,wondering what would have happened if you had, and being heartbroken whenever he talks about that girl who treats him like trash when you would treasure him...
marus815 2 months ago
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marus815 2 months ago
This should be played to everyone who complains about stuff on Facebook, right before you hit post it should be mandatory to view this video. It is so nice to know that there are people like you out there Travis, it gives me faith on the future.
Stump2502 2 months ago
This video needs to be shared. I would like to point out that it goes both ways. I'm very typically the girl that listens to her guy friends problems, and it's really difficult when I see girls tossing aside wonderful guys left and right and then complaining about their relationships. It's an evil circle of suck. I will be sharing this video- because Travis, you put into words what so many people want to say. A thousand thanks. :)
raechaosface 2 months ago
There are so many things I want to say to this, but all I seem to be able to say is thank you. So much. For posting this, and for never ftba.
sincemarchoflastyear 2 months ago
Truer words have never been spoken. Awesome video Travis!
NoWehDude 2 months ago
I'm crying now. I'm sorry that people make you feel this way, because I know how it feels. I'm sorry that people don't see you for every bit of the amazing human being you are. Not just Travis, but all of you. I don't need to know you to know that it's true, you deserve to be loved.
Nerdobsessions 2 months ago
I'm sorry that it took this video for me to see why I've alienated a great friend. When you've spent so long without friends, when you find one, it's easy to take them for granted. Well that day changes. Fortunately though I don't like I've ever had to apologize over love but with friendship? Yeah, I've made some mistakes.
farshnuke 2 months ago
I'm sorry that a lot of us women are shallow, cold hearted bitches. I'm also sorry that a lot of men's brains are in their pants. I'm sorry that I see beauty as something that radiates from the inside out. I'm sorry that I see a man's ability to show his emotions and a sense of humor as defining features of attractiveness. Not how rich he is, or what kind of car he drives etc.
anneluke 2 months ago
that was awesome. way to just straight up say it how it is
EZCheesK9 2 months ago
I am so, SO fond of you.
buttonedsleeves 2 months ago
This video made me want to give you a hug, though for the first half a minute or so I was just thinking "Wait... Travis has a goatee!"
This also made me feel bad, because even though I don't go looking for "the one" and don't go around dating assholes and complaining about it... I had one person in mind during most of this. And I really hope that's not how he feels.
NonfatalNerdisms 2 months ago
to everyone these sentiments relate to, come together! we are young! Heartache to heartache we stand! No promises no demands! Love is a battlefield!
Mcfly88 2 months ago
Oh my gosh this video, the last part at the end, oh my gosh. I can't form an adequate sentence to describe how much I relate to that. This video was absolutely fantastic.
Gvf77x 2 months ago
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Woah man, I'm a long time fan, but c'mon stop the "dramaqueening"? There is enough of that on facebook. Your story didn't have some personal point in the end, it was more of a "blablabla has blablabla disease - share this on your wall" facebook thing. :/
Noobst3R99 2 months ago
@Noobst3R99 Dramaqueening? This isn't me complaining about my life. This isn't me telling the internet that I had a bad day and that people should feel bad for me. This isn't me being sad because something didn't go my way. This is a video for two types of people. The walked on, because they need to know that they don't have to stand for that treatment, and the ones doing the walking, because they need to wise up on how they're treating their friends. I'm sorry you missed my entire point.
WhatTravisSays 2 months ago 39
This was beautiful in a sad way. Nice video Travis.
DavidWoodFX 2 months ago
You're amazing :)
lizzizzleVIP 2 months ago
WOW.... I deal with this with my bestfriend.... This was an eye opener!
Nirvana123987 2 months ago
I want to send you all the hugs. Mainly because I'm sorry you feel this way, and I'd like to think that there are people out there who won't just walk all over your kindness and let it go unnoticed.
I'm sorry that experience tells you otherwise.
cisvlover 2 months ago
I'm sorry that I've said about 75% of these things to myself at least once in my life.
drifter01z 2 months ago
I more or less know these situations. *HUGS*
- Jason
crimsong19 2 months ago
And times like these is when I wish I could bake cookies for the world.
Hellybot 2 months ago
You're a good guy, man. You'll soon find someone who appreciates you!
RoxinPunch 2 months ago
Some of this applies for me too.
brokinwand92 2 months ago
Why are you so right? You are fantastically correct.
horrorkitty789 2 months ago
I think is one the best videos you have done!! It touch my heart cause i am usually the one they call! :( People will realize one day! love ya Travis!
TheInsanemonkey5 2 months ago
Yeah... I was a doormat. Spent four years throwing my all into a relationship and when I needed her to be there for me after my Grandma died, she left me for a jerk. More than two years later I'm still suffering the crushed ego and shattered self-esteem all because she asked me to keep it quiet and I did and our friends didn't know what really happened to me. She returned the ring to me in public and told me she never wanted to be with me again. A grown man cried in public. Dignity, I miss you.
elorfinthendt 2 months ago 10
this is honestly possibly one of my favorite videos, ever
Gtneff 2 months ago
I have been married for 9 years, and have actually been with my husband for 14 years, and none of what you said applies to our relationship, BUT before I found him, there was ALOT of that criteria that my past relationships fell into. In my mind, if you are not happy with who you are with 97% of the time, then maybe you should look around and take a step back. I love my husband, and I am glad we found each other. :)
GoneToTheSnowDogs 2 months ago
i've said that over 1000 times to pepole and say lookes dont matter but pepole never lisen
tigergirl500 2 months ago
I completely love this video. So much applies to me too. You don't deserve that. We should start a doormat support group.
maggieweasley 2 months ago
I will use this, FUCK YEAH
HjalmarFerner 2 months ago
I have often though a few of those things. Heartfelt dude. Thanks for airing what a lot of us are feeling
RebbelReb 2 months ago
Damn...best...PSA...EVER!
BlackbirdtheNerd 2 months ago
At some point, you have to cut people off and focus on yourself. Even if all you want to do with your time is help people, if that's really all you do there will soon be nothing left to do that.
ctraver 2 months ago
I'm sorry I'm not there to pet you on the head and go "thanks, Travis".
bulleland 2 months ago
Yes food for thought. It tastes bitter, and sour. Sad.
weareatrandom 2 months ago
I do not know what made you do this video. But I am glad you did.
teenager00 2 months ago
I'm sorry that the good die young but pricks live forever.
feitocomfruta 2 months ago
Dearest Travis
You are every good adjective I can think of and I'm sorry if I write annoying comments, and thank you for replying to these comments.
Thank you bringing me into this YouTube community
Forever your fan girl
Amelia.
gilliemillie 2 months ago
No problem.
xSimmyN 2 months ago
Thanks for posting Travis. And even if it's 4 am and I'm writing this. I am awake enough to share this video, like it, and send these two posts.
DjHamHam411 2 months ago 6
@DjHamHam411 I'm awake too, for no discernible reason, haha. And thanks. :)
WhatTravisSays 2 months ago
If only I was still into that guy that I was ALWAYS there for but went out with all the tarts. I'm sorry. I really am. I'm sorry that I liked you for at least 5 years ever since 5th grade. I'm sorry I wasted things on you. I'm sorry that I helped you cope with growing up and becoming a guy or at least half of one since you spend most of your time of MTV or MW3. I'm sorry I wrote a poem about you. And I'm sorry I never went out with you because you only thought of us as "just friends."
WELL, no
DjHamHam411 2 months ago
whether they're just playing to my nerdy side or they're being so incredibly true to reality, you're videos never cease to have truly incredible content. I have (in various ways) felt the exact emotions put forth in this video. Thank you and I am genuinely sorry for anyone who is ever made feel this way.
EmilyExplosion27 2 months ago
I know exactly how this feels. the part about being sorry for not caring any more applies as well I sort of stopped caring for people who I know will end up using me just to feel better.
Its sad that there are people like that who cannot see the best thing for them is right in front of them. Sort of reminds me of the Taylor Swift song 'You Belong with me'.
Great video Travis :)
helloitsmasterhulk2 2 months ago
I bet this was cathartic and a long time coming. :)
rieily527 2 months ago
... I may now be crying a little bit because like 99% of this applied to me.
Travis: Your videos never fail to amaze.
You never FTBA. Anyone who can't see how awesome you are? Well, I'm going to say the same, cliche thing that I have been repeating over and over to my friends when I stay up till 4am listening to them rant, even when I have to get up at 7:30 for a class, just because I am always there for everyone around me: They are not worth your time.
You are good people, Travis. :)
foreverjynxed 2 months ago 13
@foreverjynxed Awwww, thank you so much for your comment!! :)
WhatTravisSays 2 months ago 2
@WhatTravisSays No, thank YOU for this wonderful video. :)
foreverjynxed 2 months ago
@WhatTravisSays No, thank YOU for this wonderful video. :)
foreverjynxed 2 months ago
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@WhatTravisSays No, thank YOU for this wonderful video. :)
foreverjynxed 2 months ago
Dude... I love you! You are so amazing! I'm sad enough to write things I'm sorry for down in my diary, so I think, after watching this, I will do a video similar. But things that I'm sorry for!
TheHHAddict 2 months ago
I really appreciate this. I have tried to give some of my friends this sort of advice, but it's difficult to bring them to a point of really understanding it. It really sucks. I also know a lot of really good guys that are often overlooked because so many girls don't realize that it's a wonderful thing to be with a guy who is a good friend.
anancybrown 2 months ago
I really enjoyed this! Not in like a weird way...
55gingerninja 2 months ago