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[nasaguy]

Good advice - I wish I'd known it back in July LOL. I met probably the most incredible person I will EVER meet, and we were getting along well. Then I think I torpedoed any chance with her by using those exact words too soon. :(

[sid6911]

hahah this is so true.

thats wat i did wrong and she left me for another guy..

fucking bitch..lol

[AvaiLCompetitive]

ahaha dude women are stupid they fall for the wrong guys and deserve to be hurt the friend is always the dickhead who misses out

[CasualMaggot]

I was forced to say these things, and now i'm in a bit of an awkward situation.. she kept asking me what i wanted of her, so i told her i wanted to be her boyfriend... now what should i do? i can't really pretend like i am her boyfriend.. all she said yes to was to give me a chance.. but what do i do with that chance? we're seeing eachother in 2 weeks if all goes well, but in the meantime i need to keep her interest... it just feels like i did all the mistakes i could have done. also, we did it.

[MrCanuck]

[...cont] I told her that I liked her (when I should've just kissed her). Guess what. Two weeks later, she dumped me. Cold hard dump. I didn't do anything to her. Classic break up speach that was "hope we can still be friends, blah blah blah".

She block/deleted me on MSN and even stopped responding to my Hellos in social situations!

Guys, NEVER tell a girl you like her, EVER. It kills the mystery and it completely gives away your power that initially got her attracted in the first place

[MrCanuck]

[...cont] So anyways, after going all the way a few times. I ended up admitting to her that I really like her. It was like one of those magic tricks that you see on TV: She disappeared ! She stopped calling, went cold on MSN, appeared offline more and more often, etc.

Next girl was even more crazy about me. She told me to my face that she liked me and had feelings for me. She even said she won't go look for a boy because it's me she likes. So me, not learning from my mistakes,... [cont...]

[MrCanuck]

Too early? Dude, never EVER EVER EVER EVER tell a girl that you like her. I've been on and off with this girl last year for about 2 years. We were really close then went our seperate way then met again. She was always attracted to me. One day we kissed and it was officially a romantic interaction. We'd slowly escalate physically week after week and she'd ask me how I feel. I'd always just tease her. She knew I was crazy about her but I never said anything. She was also crazy about me [cont...]

[ranma187]

what if you just simply state "I like you" from a standpoint of non neediness. you don't have to say "i'm in love with you blah blah blah". but just simply saying in the right moment. "Hey, i like you"

[impulsewithMiggyVee]

Jolly good I subscribed buddy..you give good advice

Thanks. Kudos

Your Friend Mig Vee

[ginalacubana]

You got some great insight and it is true that if told too early it would scare the woman off or take you for granted, but again, 6 months to wait to say, 'I really like you', is a little extreme and might also make a woman flee believing she is not attractive to you or that you are a cold person. Women also sometimes think the same way you do and thus, neither of the two are ever going to get through out of fear of being rejected or taken for granted. Wait, but also take a chance.

[narutorocks159]

I know that if a guy said that he liked me too soon, then it would be really uncofertable, so never rush

[playingAround81]

Hi arkady

I know why you should not tell a woman that you like her too early. But lets say you are on a second date with her, and you are dancing, and you just tell her that you think she is very beautiful. Anything wrong with that?

[arkady39]

I see no good purpose that it will achieve.

[playingAround81]

I mean as a buildup to a kiss. You cant just sit there and suddenly kiss her right? There has to be some sort of romance or attraction involved.

[gili71]

Arkady...

can you smile when you give advice, coz you dont seem happy... ;)

And please guys, don't say I think there is something special going on between us.. coz we gals know what's on your mind... its all about the sex...men would say almost anything to get laid. After sex, he will just think she is cheap.

[Sanzo84]

I disagree. Not all guys are simply after sex, especially those who are a bit older. You think there doesn't exist a man who'd just like to have someone that he can talk to about anything, his problems without hesitating or fear of ridicule? Is it so abnormal for a guy to actually look for a "companion"?

[proIMI]

gili71 every one wants sex. Both girl and boys. Some people like random sex, other like to be committed. The most important thing is that you find a like minded person on the subject.

Girls and boy often isn't as similar that we would like to think, but we arn't allways that different that some people often like to portay. Anyways. Waiting for the right timing is important for everything. And one should just understand when that is.. by feeling the communication

[Komaoala]

You always end every video with, "Thank You" but really, we should thank YOU instead for making these top notch dating wisdoms. I salute you for your generous effort in creating these videos.

[arkady39]

Thanks!!! :)

[wth357]

i really liked a girl in my class and we know each other for more than 1 year, is it time to tell her??

[arkady39]

Yes it is. In fact, it was time to tell her about 11 months, 3 weeks ago, but it still might be not too late.

[bannanahomie]

hi arkady i got a question and its a bit embarrassing

can a 14 year old fall in love after you get to know the person and flirt with her?

[arkady39]

There is nothing embarrassing about it at all. Some say that teen love is some of the strongest feelings a person can have, so - yes.

[popintaki]

your right man !!

[FlyingSaucer666]

I once had a girl tell me that she was in love with me only hours after we met. I told her I felt the same way. But that was because it was truly love at first sight.

It does happen. It DID happen to me. But I know what you're saying.

[savagexmilf]

shit your right!!

[mle011]

Oh my gosh, thank you so much for telling guys this!! I met this guy last year and we went on 3 dates. Exactly after the 3rd date he asked me to be his girlfriend...I was so freaked out! We had only spent like 7 hours together! I said no (in a nicer way) and that was the end of any potential we had together. Guys shouldn't rush asking girls to make things official, either.

[tylerjb85in]

thanks for the female feedback

[sammyiboi]

the biggest trouble that i had with a girl was that i rushed things too quickly and did things like telling her that i liked her

she eventually got really mad and annoyed by this. she said that i was rushing things too quickly, and she was right.

in the end, i believe that rushing was the defect in our relationship. i'm now in the process of trying to truly get over her.

[iheartyaweh]

you are awesome !!!

[arkady39]

Thanks!

[ralphmiel88]

question. so you mean arkady39 that it's okay to go out with a women for 6 months even she's not your girlfriend? coz that might bring you to that friendzone category if you don't make your intentions known.

[arkady39]

Hey. Not really. You can do everything that couples do without putting labels on it too early and too prematurely. What makes your interaction romantic is not what name you call it but it's substance - what it includes. Thanks.

[armandinonono]

Hey Arkady39,

You said "you can do everything that couples do without putting labels on it too early and too prematurely." So, for example, would that include bringing her a single red rose without telling her "I love you," or the such?

Thanks for your advice

[cfair15]

Hey man, I just got out of a real messy relationship.That I do not regret but what I am regretting is that I am so lonely now, I don't know how to get girls to look my way, I've even done research that says girls like outgoing guys with good bodies, I meet those. Is this anything I could be doing wrong that comes to your mind? One thing I can think of is that some of the girls I try to hit on I've grown up with and maybe they see me like a brother and how do I get past that? Cuz its awkward.

[kirillredscare]

absolutely correct

[arkady39]

Thanks.

[nishikawa7863]

I met a girl last week she is great and when i talk to her everything is fine, just that I get such a hard time reaching her at her phone, I even started to think that she wasn't interested. But then she always talks to me at IM and I haven't even noticed she is online when she is already talking to me. When she isn't answering her phone tells me that she forgot it. But when I do get to talk to her it's great. I'm kind of confused by her attitude. What do you think of this? What should I do?

[arkady39]

Hey, there. I don't think it's worth the effort. If you have ever had a girl who was interested in you, then you would well remember that it doesn't take nearly as much effort to meet her and spend time with her. Often, our wishful thinking prevents us from seeing it. You are probably much better off pursuing other things and other women around you. Thanks.

[mercilessgladiator]

yea man i watched all your videos

but i lack the confident, i think negative

sure womens are human like us but i fear that they will brush me off, what does this guy want ??

it seem liek everyone is in love but me

its so sad

im a pretty good looking guy dont get me wrong, girls look at me alot but im super shy to do anything

plz guide me, im a senior in hs and i really want to join my friends in goin to homecomming

but first i need a date =[

[mercilessgladiator]

hmm im still on teh step finding a girlfriend

its hard man, i cant find a girl i would be into

yet i see so many cute attractive girls at the mall with their friends

what should i do?

[arkady39]

There is nothing wrong with that. Enjoy the process. You will have plenty of time to have a girlfriend in the future.

Did you watch my video "how to approach a woman at the mall" yet? If so, does it answer your question? If not, let me know, and I will follow up.

A.I.