I've always heard that the silver rule was the "negative golden rule" "Do NOT do to others what you wouldn't have done to yourself." What your talking about is "Tit for tat" or "an eye for an eye".
very interesting.i think u make a sensible point darryl. there was a time when i lived mostly by the silver rule. but nowadays i find myself living more by the golden rule. i don't think we should choose one or the other. i think they both have their place. i think we should strive to be decent and civilised citizens and put the golden rule first. but hold the silver rule as plan b just in case.
way I see it.... you can use the rules for better or worse... depends on your intention doesn´t it... you can be manipulative with the golden rule... you can be an "ars" with the silver... it is possible to express your limits without beeing "violent" ... I mean I would not hear anyones bullshit about how I shoud live my life an simply explain that it´s none of their busyness... and maybe point out why an where my standpoints are... guess this is a nother solution to the golden and silver thing
You're regressing back to the times of, "an eye for an eye and a tooth for tooth". Fool. Next time you are in dire need and you ask someone for help and they happen to live their lives by the "silver rule", well you won't get any help will you.? I hope for your sake you then find a stranger to help you who lives by the "GOLDEN RULE"!
well when someone voices their opinion about a subject you don't agree with, i don't believe they can be wrong nor right because it is merely the observation/perception of reality that is interpreted differently from one person and another, who's to say someone perception is more right or wrong than another. For example if someone believes a black pen is red, well in their perception of reality their correct, because i believe we create our own realities.
Great presentation Darryl. I have lived by "The Silver Rule" most of my life, and it's really quite wondrous. It immediately brings to the fore real time issues and consequences, even to those that think they are tough, because I am too! I used to have the nickname of "Instant Karma," especially to those of religious psychosis as I'm also quite well read in such things due to the break away of early life indoctrination. I'm as JFK said we should be, "Free and Independent."
Very interesting topic...I grappled with this for years, usually letting others walk over me in the process, I think the golden rule still hold true but it's how you look at it, like
if I'm being a jerk to someone for no good reason I would expect them to set me straight, therefore the golden rule frees me to set others straight if they are being complete jackasses, yet sometimes there's good in bad, so if someone is insulting me and it's true then this frees me to do harm if it's constructive.
some people really need a reality check with what they are doing to others because just acting nice and polite while they are rude and obnoxious does not let them know the consequence of being such a dick.. until they are able to reflect inwards.
this *silver rule* seems like a great way to encourage such people to look inwards
Ive practiced the golden rule my whole life and then like you I *explode* at times and end up feeling bad about getting so angry, but its because I let it get to that point.
I have always followed the Golden rule.. as much as I would like to use the silver rule in my life, I'm afraid I would do to much damage emotionally because sometimes I mistake their feelings for something different. Or If it became physical, there is two choices, give damage or take all the damage. I don't want either to happen, is there a rule inbetween or simply chose which action is best for the time? :) good video, got me thinking
I think the golden rule and the silver rule are one and the same rule. I live by the golden rule because I treat others the way I want to be treated. I live by the silver rule because I want to be treated exactly the way that I am treated because this is the only universe experience so however it is thats the way I wanted it.
I haven't heard it called the Silver Rule, but I've been mostly living by it for the past few years myself. It's definitely not about revenge, as has been suggested... I think of it more as "tough love." While the Golden Rule can be more effective in some situations with some people, the Silver Rule can work better for others. Our intent should be to inspire growth, emotional fortitude, and learning in people. The most effective way to inspire these things is often through tough love.
Hi Darryl, Daniel here. Hope you are well. Another interesting video! If you believe ultimately we are all 1 consciousness, then surely by using your silver rule you are only conflicting insults such as the ones you mention in you video to youself? ... in a way. In my opionion, whatever rule I choose would be down to my own morales... which is generally the golden rule :-)
@dwallwin Even thought everything is one underneath, we exist in a dualistic universe that makes it impossible for the ego/mind to unconditionally love everyone and everything. There's a continual dance of energy going on that, on the level of biological life, expresses itself as survival of the fittest. To deny natural law is suicide.
Silver Rule is the way of the balance, the dificulty of this "rule" is to calculate the amount of feeling you must transmit to the others who interact with you first.
This rule teaches the people that any thing they do has consequences, and allows you to think about it too. This rule makes better persons if they understand that: "all have consequences"
At this point the equilibrium is a natural way: if you kill all photosintetic live forms, they don't trasform CO2 in O2 and soon or late you die
Do you consider that the silver rule could ultimately be used as a tool to manipulate your behavior? The golden rule Is that perhaps a way to sustain your own mindset and not be manipulated by the behavior of others. I ultimately see that the golden rule is a way to overcome the reality projections of others that mean me wrong and sustain my own mindset integrity.
@ShirakOmegaX I think every situation calls for its own consideration of consequences. If my aim is to teach my adversary that he ought to think twice before opening his mouth, I will use the silver rule.
@darrylsloan Fair enough. & dont get me wrong im not perfect Ive used the silver rule quite a few times lol & I like to joke around with my friends and talk s**t but when doing so i hold no angry feelings..anyways i get where your coming from I just find its best not to fight darkness with darkness but instead turn on the light as 'jesus" said ;)
@mindfreak419666 I use the natural world as my guide to what humans are supposed to be (because we're part of nature), and the natural world works by survival of the fittest, evolutionary betterment through conflict and adversity. Any insight about "one consciousness" must take into account how things simply are in the universe of separate consciousness.
@darrylsloan Of course if its application was proactive and not reflexive it would be controlled. Have you caught the TV series called the Mentalist. I have just started watching it and I find it fascinating though its only fiction how he manipulates people by taking advantage of reflexive response. In your explanation it seems employing present moment decision making ie mindful application considering the variables of both methods in essence awareness of both gives the power to control outcome
@ShirakOmegaX You bring a really important observation to light - that my use of the silver rule is not reflexive or reactionary; it's conciously employed to achieve a certain outcome, usually to make your adversary withdraw with his tail between his legs - dare I say it, having gained a little wisdom from the experience. Each situation calls for individal assessment, and the silver rule is intended as a generally useful principle to cover most situations of conflict.
These rules can be skipped all together for a well rounded responsible way of mingling. Its just a matter of how you want to use your energy. Do you want to run around in circles? then use the silver rule. Do you want to actualy manifest a positive influences in the world? then use the golden rule.. BUT you have to be responsible for yourself aswell - meaning be honest... and if not, prepare for the psychological damage you convinced yourself you need.
I try my best to follow the Golden Rule at all times. The silver one does seem a bit devilish to me :)
You shouldn't bottle things up though. You should be vocal about your feelings. And this is still following the Golden Rule - if I was doing or saying something to someone that they didn't like, I'd rather they told me (in a polite manner) that what I was doing or saying offended them.
So the same rule still applies: do unto others as you would have them do unto you :)
I do understand your feelings. Though, I must point out the the golden rule doesn't require you to tolerate abuse. There are sometimes other choices besides confrontation & passivity. You said that after blowing up at your friend, you walked away. When you get a whiff of abuse why not walk away sooner, and remain happy without forcing yourself to become the jerk who might be insulting you? Unless you're a child; a slave, or prisoner, you usually have some say on who's worthy of your energy:)
@darrylsloan I have long friendships as well, but I think that it's healthier if friendship is earned daily rather than given weight based on nostalgia. Fighting for your unalienable rights, and fighting for friendship are different things. You have a right to be yourself & be happy if your not hurting anyone. Sometimes walking away saves a friendship.There were times that I thought I'd lost friends & family, to discover later that they had grown from my absence:)
@291006058 Yes, but you can't function here without a level of self-identification with your ego. That's the rub. The mind/ego is the tool we use to interact in this dualistic reality. Therefore, take care of your ego. Don't abuse it or ignore its needs.
@darrylsloan If the ego's need is to kill someone will you ignore it's need? The only reality is LOVE. Do onto others as they do onto you is the old way of thinking. Why would you let ignorance affect you. Just smile and walk away. The reality is there is no me and there is no you but LOVE in expression. Everything coming your way is some kind of lesson. Many blessings to you and yours.
@291006058 If someone were about to kill m, my survival instincts would kick in and I wou defed myself, to the point of killing my adversary if necessary. This is natural law. You, on the other hand, deny your connection with nature, in favour of a "love all" principle that totally in opposition to what you are and ultimately suicidal. I get that we are all one; it just doesn't mean we can live in denial of the dualistic experience.
@darrylsloan I am not asking you to deny it but rather see it for what it is. I will not reply anymore to this inquiry. I would like to share with you my best website and hope that you are open minded. Just disregard if you do not approve, i do not need to know. Again many blessings. heaven letters org. And please defend yourself if physically attack.
@WatchCharmedOnline But here's a major question: why is conflict always wrong? In fact, conflict is the entire basis of the natural world and is the driving force of betterment. Recall my video on adversarial nature.
Yeah. You're right. There's nothing wrong with conflict. It's conflict that makes life worth living. Our lives are based on a Want and then we try to attain that Want. The harder the Want is to attain, the more meaningful it is when when it is attained. Getting a want is the conflict here. This may be the reason rich people are often depressed; they can have anything they want without conflict and their life looses meaning to themselves,
This is an interesting topic. I'd say I exercise both the The Golden and The Silver Rule. Although, to me The Silver Rule is preferred. If someone is causing me emotional stress or discomfort, I don't want them in my life. It may seem selfish or rude to some, but I don't see why we should put up with people who bring us sadness. Surely you wouldn't want to be around them? I say, reward those who are kind to you, and let go of those who are simply a pain up the backside.
The silver rule isn't necessary. Just a more mature and honest perspective of the golden rule. If you are mature then you would want people to be honest with you even if that means pointing out that you are being an ass. I am sometimes quite harsh with people, but as long as my intent is to help them wake up, then I consider that within the golden rule.
My philosophy is dualistic and is based on a balance of Wiccan/Buddhist and Satanist philosophy. My default is be nice to people and spread joy whenever possible, and as long as I am not harming anyone, do whatever I want. However, at the same time I have a commitment to myself to do what I need to do to defend my life, integrity, and well-being, and I do see my life as more important than most others. I think living either extreme - being a dormat, or taking advantage of everyone, is unhealthy
@machinalabs Additionally, I will generally avoid retribution and acts of vengeance - unless it directly benefits me in some way. All actions have consequences, so good acts spread more good, and same goes for negativity. So, if acting out has a low likelihood of changing the person's behavior, and revenge would only float my ego, I will (try to) just let it go.
Somehow I'm pretty sure at least a sizeable amount of people tried both the "silver" and "golden" rule in their lives... In my experience, both fail horribly.
Like rigid morality, I find they simply don't scale well to all circumstances of life. Rigid rules fail in a flexible environment. What really needs to be done is treating each circumstance by its own merit, analyzing what would be best in each case.
Sometimes you have to be patient. Sometimes you have to fight back.
well i actually think the golden rule does not really just work with holding your tounge. you have to be mindful of what you think as well. or else you get the results like you had. i like the saying kill them with kindness. i believe the way we go about things in positive or negative ways is how your results will turn to. i think every time we speak and every thought that we say and think will happen or result in some way or form... but idk :)
what i believe is you cant follow either golden or silver rule, there has to be balance, or else there will be bad consequences and misunderstandings.
I have been switching to the silver rule aswell. The golden one just gets really tiring if its not coming from the heart. You end up feeling like a doormat. Who wants to feel like a helpless victim all their lives? Knowing that youre on the mercy of everyones mood swings and you just have to suck it up. Except you dont have to suck it up and most people probably dont expect you to suck it up but to fight back. Sometimes when you give people back what you get with the good as well as the bad...
I prefer a more pragmatic 'applied psychological' approach - perhaps a combination of the rules. Personally, those 'arsey' people who make acidic comments expect a similar reply. I find that when they can see that you respect their POV but maybe not their manner, they become less aggressive and proper debate takes place. I've got some cool friends on YT, some of who are very Christian - we muddle along very well - we find a common ground - interests etc. I find this a very interesting question.
Ooh, never heard of the Silver rule as a satanist, but there's many different kinds of satanism, so :S. Silver Rule sounds very nice. Even though not all types of Satanism are based on the eye-for-eye philosophy... I think they're more so based on the freedom to have that option; Satanism seems to be in essence, the philosophy of Ultimate Freedom.
Though most of the times, the things people 'do unto me' really aren't worth doing back to them since it's most often a waste of my time and useless.
Excellent video! I've always found the Silver Rule more practical.
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love83forever 5 months ago
I've always heard that the silver rule was the "negative golden rule" "Do NOT do to others what you wouldn't have done to yourself." What your talking about is "Tit for tat" or "an eye for an eye".
Iconoclast444 7 months ago
You still going on about pnd for exposing your reptilian ways..! lol
Avatar2050 10 months ago
An eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth. By the end of the fight you'll have nothing left.
Seeing eye to eye is the is the Ultimate Truth.
The Ultimate Rule is Truth. It is the only thing in the Universe that does not change.
14cpm 1 year ago
I ignore "trolls" or any retarded comment\feedback on any subject, regardless.
Although, if it is constructive criticism it's all good.
I actually use both the golden rule as well as the silver rule. It depens on the situation.
I'm generally nice against anyone and just ignore the "retards" BUT If ignoring them is not an option, I'l easily fight back.
DreamvoidStudios 1 year ago
very interesting.i think u make a sensible point darryl. there was a time when i lived mostly by the silver rule. but nowadays i find myself living more by the golden rule. i don't think we should choose one or the other. i think they both have their place. i think we should strive to be decent and civilised citizens and put the golden rule first. but hold the silver rule as plan b just in case.
lijit77 1 year ago
@lijit77 Each situation merits its own consideration consequences. I apply the golden or silver rule depending on the outcome I wish to achieve.
darrylsloan 1 year ago 2
way I see it.... you can use the rules for better or worse... depends on your intention doesn´t it... you can be manipulative with the golden rule... you can be an "ars" with the silver... it is possible to express your limits without beeing "violent" ... I mean I would not hear anyones bullshit about how I shoud live my life an simply explain that it´s none of their busyness... and maybe point out why an where my standpoints are... guess this is a nother solution to the golden and silver thing
jollesen 1 year ago
You're regressing back to the times of, "an eye for an eye and a tooth for tooth". Fool. Next time you are in dire need and you ask someone for help and they happen to live their lives by the "silver rule", well you won't get any help will you.? I hope for your sake you then find a stranger to help you who lives by the "GOLDEN RULE"!
gilbertrr 1 year ago
@gilbertrr When you scorn me without provokation by calling me "fool," is that an example of you using the Golden Rule?
darrylsloan 1 year ago 5
I use the golden rule in less "stressfull situations" but if things get ugly ill kick it up a level.
yu5uck 1 year ago
Might I suggest the golden mean between the 2?
srn347 1 year ago
golden rule: treat all people kindly up front, and hope they return the favor.
Silver rule: treat all people according to their actions.
silver rule is much more practical.
Shemhamforash
smackythefrog23 1 year ago
well when someone voices their opinion about a subject you don't agree with, i don't believe they can be wrong nor right because it is merely the observation/perception of reality that is interpreted differently from one person and another, who's to say someone perception is more right or wrong than another. For example if someone believes a black pen is red, well in their perception of reality their correct, because i believe we create our own realities.
hamiltino 1 year ago
Great presentation Darryl. I have lived by "The Silver Rule" most of my life, and it's really quite wondrous. It immediately brings to the fore real time issues and consequences, even to those that think they are tough, because I am too! I used to have the nickname of "Instant Karma," especially to those of religious psychosis as I'm also quite well read in such things due to the break away of early life indoctrination. I'm as JFK said we should be, "Free and Independent."
Tron108 1 year ago
Very interesting topic...I grappled with this for years, usually letting others walk over me in the process, I think the golden rule still hold true but it's how you look at it, like
if I'm being a jerk to someone for no good reason I would expect them to set me straight, therefore the golden rule frees me to set others straight if they are being complete jackasses, yet sometimes there's good in bad, so if someone is insulting me and it's true then this frees me to do harm if it's constructive.
Jammieg001 1 year ago
some people really need a reality check with what they are doing to others because just acting nice and polite while they are rude and obnoxious does not let them know the consequence of being such a dick.. until they are able to reflect inwards.
this *silver rule* seems like a great way to encourage such people to look inwards
drewschkelton 1 year ago
Very well said Darryl.
Ive practiced the golden rule my whole life and then like you I *explode* at times and end up feeling bad about getting so angry, but its because I let it get to that point.
drewschkelton 1 year ago
I have always followed the Golden rule.. as much as I would like to use the silver rule in my life, I'm afraid I would do to much damage emotionally because sometimes I mistake their feelings for something different. Or If it became physical, there is two choices, give damage or take all the damage. I don't want either to happen, is there a rule inbetween or simply chose which action is best for the time? :) good video, got me thinking
joshmccoll 1 year ago
I would like to create a new rule right now. I call it the purple rule. It goes "Treat others however you feel like treating them in your heart"
seattlekg 1 year ago
I think the golden rule and the silver rule are one and the same rule. I live by the golden rule because I treat others the way I want to be treated. I live by the silver rule because I want to be treated exactly the way that I am treated because this is the only universe experience so however it is thats the way I wanted it.
seattlekg 1 year ago
I haven't heard it called the Silver Rule, but I've been mostly living by it for the past few years myself. It's definitely not about revenge, as has been suggested... I think of it more as "tough love." While the Golden Rule can be more effective in some situations with some people, the Silver Rule can work better for others. Our intent should be to inspire growth, emotional fortitude, and learning in people. The most effective way to inspire these things is often through tough love.
alienamnesiac 1 year ago
Hi Darryl, Daniel here. Hope you are well. Another interesting video! If you believe ultimately we are all 1 consciousness, then surely by using your silver rule you are only conflicting insults such as the ones you mention in you video to youself? ... in a way. In my opionion, whatever rule I choose would be down to my own morales... which is generally the golden rule :-)
dwallwin 1 year ago
@dwallwin Even thought everything is one underneath, we exist in a dualistic universe that makes it impossible for the ego/mind to unconditionally love everyone and everything. There's a continual dance of energy going on that, on the level of biological life, expresses itself as survival of the fittest. To deny natural law is suicide.
darrylsloan 1 year ago
Silver Rule is the way of the balance, the dificulty of this "rule" is to calculate the amount of feeling you must transmit to the others who interact with you first.
This rule teaches the people that any thing they do has consequences, and allows you to think about it too. This rule makes better persons if they understand that: "all have consequences"
At this point the equilibrium is a natural way: if you kill all photosintetic live forms, they don't trasform CO2 in O2 and soon or late you die
glointhir 1 year ago
Do you consider that the silver rule could ultimately be used as a tool to manipulate your behavior? The golden rule Is that perhaps a way to sustain your own mindset and not be manipulated by the behavior of others. I ultimately see that the golden rule is a way to overcome the reality projections of others that mean me wrong and sustain my own mindset integrity.
ShirakOmegaX 1 year ago
@ShirakOmegaX RIght on shirak
mindfreak419666 1 year ago
@ShirakOmegaX I think every situation calls for its own consideration of consequences. If my aim is to teach my adversary that he ought to think twice before opening his mouth, I will use the silver rule.
darrylsloan 1 year ago
@darrylsloan Well then your simply fighting negativity with negativity Imo.. Your adversary is your brother Darrysloan..All is one
mindfreak419666 1 year ago
@mindfreak419666 While everything is one, I think you're making life out to be far simpler than it is in practice.
darrylsloan 1 year ago
@darrylsloan Fair enough. & dont get me wrong im not perfect Ive used the silver rule quite a few times lol & I like to joke around with my friends and talk s**t but when doing so i hold no angry feelings..anyways i get where your coming from I just find its best not to fight darkness with darkness but instead turn on the light as 'jesus" said ;)
mindfreak419666 1 year ago
@mindfreak419666 I use the natural world as my guide to what humans are supposed to be (because we're part of nature), and the natural world works by survival of the fittest, evolutionary betterment through conflict and adversity. Any insight about "one consciousness" must take into account how things simply are in the universe of separate consciousness.
darrylsloan 1 year ago
@darrylsloan Of course if its application was proactive and not reflexive it would be controlled. Have you caught the TV series called the Mentalist. I have just started watching it and I find it fascinating though its only fiction how he manipulates people by taking advantage of reflexive response. In your explanation it seems employing present moment decision making ie mindful application considering the variables of both methods in essence awareness of both gives the power to control outcome
ShirakOmegaX 1 year ago
@ShirakOmegaX You bring a really important observation to light - that my use of the silver rule is not reflexive or reactionary; it's conciously employed to achieve a certain outcome, usually to make your adversary withdraw with his tail between his legs - dare I say it, having gained a little wisdom from the experience. Each situation calls for individal assessment, and the silver rule is intended as a generally useful principle to cover most situations of conflict.
darrylsloan 1 year ago
These rules can be skipped all together for a well rounded responsible way of mingling. Its just a matter of how you want to use your energy. Do you want to run around in circles? then use the silver rule. Do you want to actualy manifest a positive influences in the world? then use the golden rule.. BUT you have to be responsible for yourself aswell - meaning be honest... and if not, prepare for the psychological damage you convinced yourself you need.
robuzy 1 year ago
I try my best to follow the Golden Rule at all times. The silver one does seem a bit devilish to me :)
You shouldn't bottle things up though. You should be vocal about your feelings. And this is still following the Golden Rule - if I was doing or saying something to someone that they didn't like, I'd rather they told me (in a polite manner) that what I was doing or saying offended them.
So the same rule still applies: do unto others as you would have them do unto you :)
dairniel 1 year ago
I do understand your feelings. Though, I must point out the the golden rule doesn't require you to tolerate abuse. There are sometimes other choices besides confrontation & passivity. You said that after blowing up at your friend, you walked away. When you get a whiff of abuse why not walk away sooner, and remain happy without forcing yourself to become the jerk who might be insulting you? Unless you're a child; a slave, or prisoner, you usually have some say on who's worthy of your energy:)
TheMoonKingdom 1 year ago
@TheMoonKingdom A friendship of over 15 years was worth fighting for.
darrylsloan 1 year ago
@darrylsloan I have long friendships as well, but I think that it's healthier if friendship is earned daily rather than given weight based on nostalgia. Fighting for your unalienable rights, and fighting for friendship are different things. You have a right to be yourself & be happy if your not hurting anyone. Sometimes walking away saves a friendship.There were times that I thought I'd lost friends & family, to discover later that they had grown from my absence:)
TheMoonKingdom 1 year ago
Only the ego gets insulted. When you realize who you are , nobody can insult you.
291006058 1 year ago
@291006058 Yes, but you can't function here without a level of self-identification with your ego. That's the rub. The mind/ego is the tool we use to interact in this dualistic reality. Therefore, take care of your ego. Don't abuse it or ignore its needs.
darrylsloan 1 year ago
@darrylsloan If the ego's need is to kill someone will you ignore it's need? The only reality is LOVE. Do onto others as they do onto you is the old way of thinking. Why would you let ignorance affect you. Just smile and walk away. The reality is there is no me and there is no you but LOVE in expression. Everything coming your way is some kind of lesson. Many blessings to you and yours.
291006058 1 year ago
@291006058 If someone were about to kill m, my survival instincts would kick in and I wou defed myself, to the point of killing my adversary if necessary. This is natural law. You, on the other hand, deny your connection with nature, in favour of a "love all" principle that totally in opposition to what you are and ultimately suicidal. I get that we are all one; it just doesn't mean we can live in denial of the dualistic experience.
darrylsloan 1 year ago
@darrylsloan I am not asking you to deny it but rather see it for what it is. I will not reply anymore to this inquiry. I would like to share with you my best website and hope that you are open minded. Just disregard if you do not approve, i do not need to know. Again many blessings. heaven letters org. And please defend yourself if physically attack.
291006058 1 year ago
I'd saythere are times for the golden rule and times for the silver rule
akatsuki415 1 year ago
The Silver Rule = Revenge
If someone kills your cat, you kill their dog. Lool.
The silver rule is the foundation of all major conflicts in history.
WatchCharmedOnline 1 year ago
@WatchCharmedOnline But here's a major question: why is conflict always wrong? In fact, conflict is the entire basis of the natural world and is the driving force of betterment. Recall my video on adversarial nature.
darrylsloan 1 year ago
@darrylsloan
Yeah. You're right. There's nothing wrong with conflict. It's conflict that makes life worth living. Our lives are based on a Want and then we try to attain that Want. The harder the Want is to attain, the more meaningful it is when when it is attained. Getting a want is the conflict here. This may be the reason rich people are often depressed; they can have anything they want without conflict and their life looses meaning to themselves,
WatchCharmedOnline 1 year ago
The Silver Rule is my kind of rule!
BastendorfEvergrass 1 year ago
This is an interesting topic. I'd say I exercise both the The Golden and The Silver Rule. Although, to me The Silver Rule is preferred. If someone is causing me emotional stress or discomfort, I don't want them in my life. It may seem selfish or rude to some, but I don't see why we should put up with people who bring us sadness. Surely you wouldn't want to be around them? I say, reward those who are kind to you, and let go of those who are simply a pain up the backside.
fellowtuber123 1 year ago
The silver rule isn't necessary. Just a more mature and honest perspective of the golden rule. If you are mature then you would want people to be honest with you even if that means pointing out that you are being an ass. I am sometimes quite harsh with people, but as long as my intent is to help them wake up, then I consider that within the golden rule.
StormCloudsGathering 1 year ago
My philosophy is dualistic and is based on a balance of Wiccan/Buddhist and Satanist philosophy. My default is be nice to people and spread joy whenever possible, and as long as I am not harming anyone, do whatever I want. However, at the same time I have a commitment to myself to do what I need to do to defend my life, integrity, and well-being, and I do see my life as more important than most others. I think living either extreme - being a dormat, or taking advantage of everyone, is unhealthy
machinalabs 1 year ago
@machinalabs Additionally, I will generally avoid retribution and acts of vengeance - unless it directly benefits me in some way. All actions have consequences, so good acts spread more good, and same goes for negativity. So, if acting out has a low likelihood of changing the person's behavior, and revenge would only float my ego, I will (try to) just let it go.
machinalabs 1 year ago
i missed ur voice it's awesome!!!!!!!
Sora657 1 year ago
@Sora657 i feel the should be balanced out. yin and yang good and bad.
Sora657 1 year ago
Rules suck.
Somehow I'm pretty sure at least a sizeable amount of people tried both the "silver" and "golden" rule in their lives... In my experience, both fail horribly.
Like rigid morality, I find they simply don't scale well to all circumstances of life. Rigid rules fail in a flexible environment. What really needs to be done is treating each circumstance by its own merit, analyzing what would be best in each case.
Sometimes you have to be patient. Sometimes you have to fight back.
Imho.
SexyMelon 1 year ago
well i actually think the golden rule does not really just work with holding your tounge. you have to be mindful of what you think as well. or else you get the results like you had. i like the saying kill them with kindness. i believe the way we go about things in positive or negative ways is how your results will turn to. i think every time we speak and every thought that we say and think will happen or result in some way or form... but idk :)
machacra 1 year ago
what i believe is you cant follow either golden or silver rule, there has to be balance, or else there will be bad consequences and misunderstandings.
bandzajus 1 year ago
lawl, he enjoys the art of trollin'. xD
Deathscythe767 1 year ago
... you might end up becoming close friends. But if you always mask your true feeling no one can get close to you.
JNiina 1 year ago
I have been switching to the silver rule aswell. The golden one just gets really tiring if its not coming from the heart. You end up feeling like a doormat. Who wants to feel like a helpless victim all their lives? Knowing that youre on the mercy of everyones mood swings and you just have to suck it up. Except you dont have to suck it up and most people probably dont expect you to suck it up but to fight back. Sometimes when you give people back what you get with the good as well as the bad...
JNiina 1 year ago
hahah i do that too
vicktrickly72 1 year ago
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lifeline369 1 year ago
An eye for an eye will leave the whole world blind
xxSlyJokerxx 1 year ago
I prefer a more pragmatic 'applied psychological' approach - perhaps a combination of the rules. Personally, those 'arsey' people who make acidic comments expect a similar reply. I find that when they can see that you respect their POV but maybe not their manner, they become less aggressive and proper debate takes place. I've got some cool friends on YT, some of who are very Christian - we muddle along very well - we find a common ground - interests etc. I find this a very interesting question.
alanstarkie2001 1 year ago
Ooh, never heard of the Silver rule as a satanist, but there's many different kinds of satanism, so :S. Silver Rule sounds very nice. Even though not all types of Satanism are based on the eye-for-eye philosophy... I think they're more so based on the freedom to have that option; Satanism seems to be in essence, the philosophy of Ultimate Freedom.
Though most of the times, the things people 'do unto me' really aren't worth doing back to them since it's most often a waste of my time and useless.
xtensitymusic 1 year ago
you sould get more views than this
VxReaperVx 1 year ago
very interesting video.
I prefer the satanist version personally :L
in an imperfect world, you have to fight
ThatsMrFrank 1 year ago