I think it would be a good idea to have one of your siblings show your mother this video so that she get's an uninterrupted view of how her actions have made you feel. This video was very disheartening to me and almost brought me to tears because of the detriment it has caused in your relationship with her. I will keep you in my prayers. However, I do feel at some point that you two need to talk, but first she needs to listen and be receptive to what you have to say.
Im Gay. My mom deep down isnt accepting of who I am. We had issues before my coming out. This just added fuel to an already huge fire. Now that Im much older, I realize that some parents have their own vision of who their kids should be. A fantasy of how they see their kids future. When you take that away from them, some parents cant deal with it. They think of the grandkids they will never have or the Sunday dinners that will never be. They don't realize that being gay is no different.
Where can I find niggas like you man? Come to Hawaii!! There is nothing wrong with you man. Sometimes life isn't fair. It could be that your mom doesn't know how to handle herself around you. Even if she does know your gay, that doesn't mean she's 100% "on board".
This is the reason why teenagers dont come out until after they move out of the house. Because they're afraid they would be disowned by their families.
Its hard man, but you need to tell her that. Ask her how it makes her feel?
CONT...if it's anything like mine. It's probably her problem and not yours. It's hard for our parents to find out new things about us that is different from the norm. She probably doesn't know how to act or present herself towards you because your different. You just got to do it man. Go visit her when you know she aint busy and then take her out to lunch or dinner and just have a one-on-one time with her. Just be honest about it. Ask her how you can have a closer relationship with her.
Doll, don't sweat it. It's just something that people have to get used to. My mom was the same way; at times she still is. It will get better, just talk about it, dont make it dramatic. Just ask. Much luv.....Siren
(2) Your mom has some stuff she's dealing with that really has little to do with you, if you follow me. But thats mom's stuff, not yours. Thats not to be selfish or careless but to say she is an individual who has some things and so are you. And it's not fare that you get the brunt of it but that what happens when we live and love. Your mom may come around and get through this thing or maybe not, but she needs your help; don't give up man, and don't loose the faith. Peace.
(1) Our parents especially our moms, have great expectations of us, along with other people as well. What we have to come to is, and this is a philosophy of a friend of mine, "You can't judge yourself by someone else's measuring stick". So in other words, You are your unique self and not a mistake by any means, and I do mean any means whatsoever. 99% of what people seem to have problems about in other individuals is 100% their opinion and has nothing to do with you.
Bro...believe it or not...many people share the same feelings that you express in this video. You're not the only one going thru this situation. Know this and keep ya' head up! You're a wonderful person that should be loved regardless! Love you bro! God bless!!
hey i love the when you talk i was listing and i dont know you but i feel i do know you lol... you seem like real cool plps and there is plp that love you but me on the other hand theres something wrong with me...
hey i love the when you talk i was listing and i dont know you but i feel i do know you lol... you seem like real cool plps and there is plp that love you but me on the other hand theres something wrong with me...
HEY BROTHER, YOU ARE NOT ALONE, I AM MY MOTHER'S OLDEST OLDEST SON AND WAS IN THE GAY LIFESTYLE, IT'S NOT THAT SHE DOESN'T LOVE YOU OR WANT TO COME AROUND YOU. i THINK THAT SHE MAY FEEL WHAT MY MOM FELT ABOUT ME RAISING US BOYS WITHOUT OUR FATHER AND MY SISTER WAS THE OLDEST, I HEARD HER SAID YEARS AGO THAT SHE AND MY SISTER HAD MADE GIRLS OUT US; SHE MAY FEELS THAT SHE HAVE FAILED YOU IN THAT AREA AND MAY HAVE CONTRIBUTED TO YOUR LIFE STYLE. SHOW HER MORE LOVE...
U R not ALONE. U R going2 hav 2 live UR life & find a support system so whn these moments comes U can hold strong. I have ben at my mom frm birth about da same issue & i realized it didn't help me & mom & dad went about there merry way. EVEN whn I died in the Hospital this Year! They still havn't caught on! I will Grad frm College N she Dont evn Know! cuz she isn't involved in my lif. UR Handsome, smart, hav UR own etc. Mr. You got it going on, now brush da dirt off, hold UR head up & smile!
This is not to suggest you shouldn't love your family but to suggest that you just be the best son, brother, uncle or whatever that you can be and leave it at that. From some, you'll get that love back, from others, you won't. But if you're fully loving yourself, hopefully it won't hurt so much. Good luck to you, bro.
I feel your pain, bro, I really do. This situation has probably - or hopefully - resolved itself by now but you know there's nothing wrong with you. We all want to be loved by our parents and most of us have a pretty good idea of how we want that love to be shown to us but sometimes, things just don't work. Difficult as it may sound, at a certain point in our lives we may just have to come to terms with the fact that loving ourselves is probably our best bet.
MY MOTHER THE SAME WAY SHE ACTS LIKE SHE LOVES ME BUT SHE DNT SHE TOLD ME MORE THAN ONCE SHE WISH SHE NEVER HAD ME BUT I FEEL AS THOUGH I SHOULDN'T HAVE TO KISS HER ASS EITHER TO GET HER AFFECTION
...NOTHING IS WRONG WITH YOU SON. WE ARE JUST BEING MOTHERS the best way we know how...which is not an excuse but we deal with issues wrong....or not at all....be incouraged, GOD LOVES YOU SO MUCH, and mom does to....... be blessed today.....
i did as well..but as mothers im sure youve heard of this saying "momma knows" right.. well some times we know so much that we dont have to see it or know whats going on and we get afraid b/c we dont know how to handle things as well...your a wonderful man, YOU ARE HURTING THOUGH ANTHONY i will be praying for you..the life style you live is Dangerous so instead of getting close.. mothers move away or distance themselves
Anthony is not that your mom does not love you.. please understand Son..It does get hard when we as parents have poured so much in to our children and their lives turn out totally different....AT one time i felt i was adopted..favortism hurts..rejection hurts, and I hear you love your mom so much that your proving yourself to your mom.. but Anthony you must keep living and moving forward...you long for your moms exceptance..
this is the type of mom I have, I was talkin to my mom,and I said what if I lost my job,"she said,well you will be a bum in the street end qoute"so what does that say?
Hey whats up I feel the same way in a sents,I love my mom but at the same time my mom is a professional t you pe woman and work was always first with her.And she never spent time,and my dad wasnt there,and when she got married she still gave more attention to her husband then me and my older brother.So I feel that it might be something thats on your mothers mind not you.
Hi Anthony and how are you doing man? I felt all of what you have said and i must say that i thought i wasthe onlyone going through simular situation like yours. I know it hurts but i think you should n ot let that get you down man. You seems a nice guy and carrying this burden inside only eats you up not solve anything. Pay her a visit and just tell her how you feel. You have one mind,one body,one soul,one life and one mom. Its now or never. Good luck! My number jm1jd1ttg1(phone keypad)
Anthony, I'm gonna tell you some real shit. Your mother may not say it, but no matter how much you try to include her in your life, she wants no part in it. It's a mother's thing. All mothers dream of their kids growing up becoming parents of their own and when one professes to be gay, the dream is OVER. I'm gay and I remember when my mother told me that she would rather see me dead than be gay. Talking about hurt, that hurts!!!!! To this day, we have limited conversation and move on!
Hi ! Anthony , first off let me start by saying , good ,bad , or indifferent , a mother will always love her child. It may not be when you need , or want them to , but they wil l . In there own time love will prevail . I want to ask you some important questions . Number one how old are you ? Two how did your mom find out that you were gay ? Have you ever been molested ? It sounds like your mom is in a state of denile of the fact that her ( only ) son if you are is gay please respond to me
Anthony. There is NOTHING wrong with you. You shouldn't have to live with other peoples issues, not even your parents. Through the pain, through the disappointment, you have to LIVE your life. You continue to love your mother as only a child can, but do not carry her issues on your shoulders.
Maybe she is sad for you and feels that one day you will be truly alone without any children or grands to care for and about you. Maybe, she feels that she failed you as a man. YOUR MOTHER IN HER HEART OF HEARTS, LOVES YOU MORE THAN ANY OF YOUR SIBLINGS. A mother's love is enduring, It is SO STRONG that even JEHOVAH GOD compared his LOVE FOR US to that of a mother's love for her child. NOW THAT IS SOME SUPER STRONG LOVE, BRO.
I do not know your mother and it is hard for a stranger to judge her, I actually thought until I heard you say; "I am gay" that maybe your mother wanted to be a father and mother to you and treated you with guarded distance so that you wouldn't turn out a "mommy's boy", I am not homophobic, but, you do know that back in da' day folks thought that a woman raising a boy child spelled gay/sissy (I hate the word "sissy"), maybe, that is why she disconnected early on.
R u the middle child? Regardless there's nothing wrong with you. Parents have different types of bonds with each child they have. If you want a stronger bond with her maybe you should take the initiative to. You go to visit her and talk to her maybe she feels the same about you.
there is nothing wrong with you like you said you didn't grow up with your father so at the end of the day your mom is most likely exhausted from work or something and scene you not a girl she figure that you will understand if she didnt show up somewhere because i have a brother he isn't gay and she never go to none of his stuff, and i have 2 sisters and she goes to everything, just think of it as their mother-daughter bond.
OMG!! I Love you so much you had me in tears you are so genuine I have had something similar in my relationship with my mom and I will send u a message about it. I am my moms only girl and she has never stuck behind me at least not like my brothers. I have cried to her on so many occasions to come here and spend sometime with me cause friends are great but it is nothing like having your mom there. Remember friends are family that you CHOSE.
You know I have the same exact situation. But its with my whole family. I did basketball, lacrosse, I've had dance performances. None of my family goes to any of them. But when my brothers were playin football, my family always went. I learned to get over it because I had to not care anymore, maybe its to keep me from feeling hurt, but I honestly don't care if they came. My family also doesn't know Im gay so idk what that means. For you, you just gotta talk to her about it.Dont dwell Good luck.
I suffered this same behavior from my mother, however, there were five of us. The details in my mother's are too detailed to discuss here, however, she was a school teacher, married several times (8). my mom died 6 years ago, and i still feel neglected by her actions before she died. I attempted to socialize with her, she wanted nothing to do with me. I forgive her, but it still hurts. Not saying these details are yours, but the support after adulthood was not there. At all.
She may not have said it but she has a problem with you being gay she feels like its something she did or did not do when you were growing up I went threw the same thing but I just flat out asked my mom what was wrong
u just need to have a long serious talk with your mom and really tell her how u have been feeling. She is your mother she loves you and there is nothing wrong with you. if sitting down talking to your mother is hard i suggest that you write your mother a letter and really express yourself in the letter make it hartfelt so she feels exactly what your feeling and understands where your coming from.
The mabey she will be able to say to you what you wanna her from her.
In some situations, the boys remind mothers so much of the absent fathers that they subconciously push them away. I guarantee the reason has nothing to do with something you've done wrong or even the fact that your gay; you said she's been this way since you were little so that disqualifies being gay. Just have a honest talk with her and explain how you feel, even if she doesn't have an answer for you it may open her eyes to the problem and force her to look within herself. Good luck, sweetie
ANT i dont think theres something wrong with you to me your perfect, your a good looking gay black male who's fun has a job takes care of his self freindly and looks happy, but its this 1 thing i dont understand.....if you can accept yourself whats stoping your mom, she just needs some time to accept and pray about it-
Have you tried to sit her down and talk to her? I know that i am able to express my feeling really well on paper. You can even try writing her a letter..if you are able to express yourself better that way. But you should definetly let her know how you feel. Do you and your mom talk often? Please let her know how you feel and maybe post an update video of the results. Pray for wisdom & understanding. Pray for your mom.
Anthony some times sons remind moms of their fathers. You may need to explore that relationship. It's not your fault, just human nature. It's not always because of your sexuality. Your mom may need to know that you are not the same person.
Anthony, there's nothing wrong with you man. Your mom doesn't understand how to accept you for being yourself. It's gonna hurt her from not being there for you. I think you should just continue to work hard like you do. You will always have a friend in me, even if your mad with me right now.
first off theres nothing wrong w/ you man from what you display here on youtube your a very strong smart black man you can make excuses for your mom overlooking you all these years which i have with my father or take a stand right now and let her know how you feel as her son even though it might hurt her its something that obviously weighs heavy on your spirit which needs to be address good luck w/ this man
I can see this is really bothering you. First off, STOP BLAMING YOURSELF! Secondly, please talk to your mother. Find a way to bring it up because clearly this conversation needs to happen! All cards need to be placed on the table. Lastly, be prepared to hear something you dont like, but still continue to work at you guys relationship because you only have one mother man.
Anthony, you already know the answer dude!!! Pray for your mother because there is clearly something not registering in her mind when it comes to you!!!
Personally, i don't think that there is anything wrong with you, and, i don't know if there is anything else that you can do that you haven't already done. Perhaps your mom is dealing with some things that she has never disclosed to you. Continue to let her know how much you love her and appreciate her....continue extending the opportunity to her, and leave the ball in her court. However, do not think its your fault or there is something wrong with you.
That's an easy question to answer Anthony...There is NOTHING wrong with you at all. Sometimes parents want there children to be a certain way and when there not that way they change thier way of acting towards thier children. It can be even sometimes parents want to live thier lives through thier children which of course is not fair to the child. Your mom will hopefully come around soon when she ses you doing positive things for your self and the community and not becoming another statistic.
I don't think there is anything wrong with you at all. There is a fine line between your mom's acceptance and her understanding. She may be at a point where she understands you but she may not be at the point where she accepts you for being who you are. I'm having the same issues right now, both my parents but one is more accepting (dad) and hasn't shown up the way I wish he would. Mom understands but doesn't accept, so it's a catch 22. But there's nothing wrong with you, it's her, talk and see.
there is nothing wrong with you. parents can envision all they want but they will never get exactly what they want out of you its not realistic for them to even ask for that much. the only thing a parent should want for you is happiness. i hope it has nothing to do with your sexual orientation because its not worth losing a child and if only people would come to their senses there wouldnt be so much neglect
if you want the answer you have to ask the question be straight forward and ask her what you want to know. say exactly what you feel and then wait for the answer.
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You ruined your Mothers vision for you. She carried you for 9 months planning your life the entire time. She expected you to marry a beautiful woman, have beautiful kids, etc.
But instead you want to bend over for another man. How do you think she feels knowing that everything she visioned for you will never happen? So yes something is wrong with you. Your life provider does not deserve this.
I definitely can relate, mothers sometime have dreams for their sons and when u tell them ur gay it may crush those dreams such as ur wedding day, grandkids and family. But I think she needs to come see you. It will get better it just takes time.
What she thinks she has done wrong, I don't know. You must talk with her and don't hold back. If this does not help, You might have to let it GO and thank GOD for the small things that you have with her that are going well. So many of us can only wish for as much as you have with your mother.
I know you don't like to hear from me (eyes rolling)...But real talk it's not you dude. Your mom COULD be thinking that your sexuality is a direct result of her parenting SKILLS. She does LOVE you but she can only see failure on her part when she attempts to be part of your life. She does not realize that sexuality can not be taught because ( sexuality is pre installed for a lack of a better term). She will always think it's something she did wrong.
i love your pillows babe. there is nothing wrong with you. you are so beautiful inside and out. it is not your fault anthony that she treated you the way she did. and i am sorry and i know xactly how you feel.okay, well i wonder if she really ascepts it. or mi thinking that maybe there is something that is going on within her mind. and i would try to bring it up because it seems as if she's pushing you away...talk too her babe. it needs to be brought up. love you, n u can always hit me up-muah-
If I were in your situation I would have to sit down with my mom and just let her know how I felt. She probably doesn't know how you feel just like you don't really know what/how she feels about you. Tell her just what you are telling us. I don't know you personally but from what you let us in on you seem like a great person. Stop being so hard on yourself and just try to open up the lines of communication with her.
i kno how u feel just today i was talkin to my mother and i asked her if i was to get married would she come to my wedding and she was like was like wat u think im lookin at her like ugh that was the reason for me askin i wanted to ask her was she ashamed of havin a gay child like me. idk it may be something goin on within them it may not even be us but i just want a normal relationship with my mother as well
I dont think its about something being wrong with u, these things tend to happen in large families with the middle child not gettin attention, if u are the middle child or closest to it, that could be the issue. or your mom could feel you are constantly tryna impress her, but thats a good thing. peace my brother
aint nothing wrong with you Ant. I commend you for being a good man and a good son and wanting so bad for your relationship with mom to work out and everything.
Everything is gonna work out and i'll keep u in my prayers.
Thanks for sharing Anthony. There is nothing wrong with you. You are perfectly imperfect. Just like everybody else. Including your Mom. It sounds like there is something wrong with the relationship. All you can do is be real. And tell her how you feel without getting defensive or accusatory. Don't let it slide.
girls and boys are always treated different people always think girls need more nurturing and that boys will just man up. Most time this is just unintentional its just the way of our society and I think its a problem that should change.
NOTHING IS WRONG Wit you...... May be she sees ya father in u and it blocks her from loving u the way she is suppose to... What might be wrong is the fact that she cant let go of the pain wit ya father.... BE Know regardless there are ppl out here that love and appreciate u for who you are... so i hope u cheer up... i love watchin u and the rest of the RDA crew... and i wish i could be there to help out but just know ... we appreciate and care about u out here...
Nothing is wrong with you... .maybe you remind her of you father... i've known situations where mother treats the child bad because he doesn't like his father or because of the the father has done, and the child's face is a constant reminder
my friends feel the same way.i talked to my mom about it.she was a middle child she felt the same.
but maybe she feels that she doesn't have to be there because your a boy as much as she does for the girls. but hey you are great. she loves you she just doesnt know how to show it!
nothing is wrong with you anthony,if you feel that your mom shows more attention to your sisters,than just tell your mother how you feel.let her know that you are feeling like an outkast.let her know that you want to gain a closer relationship with her.let her know that you want her to be a round you more.communication is everything.~MUAH~
First, wonderful video as always, second, I think that it is remarkable that you even want to have a relationship with your mom, because so many people would have given up on them, third, you and your mom should have a deep conversation about her life because you might remind her of a past that has come true in you and she resents you for it, so keep trying and always have faith in her
ANTHONY!! NOTHING IS WRONG WITH YOU!! Im not sure why your mom is doing the things she do. Maybe she is dealing with something internally & she don know how to express it.. I dont know.. But there is nothing wrong with you. You do GREAT AT EVERYTHING YOU DO!! Stop being so hard on yourself. She will come around one day.. You just put a time schedule on it. R&D is your family as well. & we support all you do. She will come around in Due time...
I really do feel like issues like this and a lack of communication could be potential causes of suicide in so many young adults. Damn shame....
Suspense000 16 hours ago
I think it would be a good idea to have one of your siblings show your mother this video so that she get's an uninterrupted view of how her actions have made you feel. This video was very disheartening to me and almost brought me to tears because of the detriment it has caused in your relationship with her. I will keep you in my prayers. However, I do feel at some point that you two need to talk, but first she needs to listen and be receptive to what you have to say.
Suspense000 16 hours ago
Im Gay. My mom deep down isnt accepting of who I am. We had issues before my coming out. This just added fuel to an already huge fire. Now that Im much older, I realize that some parents have their own vision of who their kids should be. A fantasy of how they see their kids future. When you take that away from them, some parents cant deal with it. They think of the grandkids they will never have or the Sunday dinners that will never be. They don't realize that being gay is no different.
theslabbxxx 5 days ago
IM SURE SHE LOVES YOU. JUST ASK HER JUST THAT, SAY EXACTLY HOW U FEEL, AND WHEN I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO, I JUST PRAY! JESUS HEARS YOU
shondiholiness 1 week ago
Where can I find niggas like you man? Come to Hawaii!! There is nothing wrong with you man. Sometimes life isn't fair. It could be that your mom doesn't know how to handle herself around you. Even if she does know your gay, that doesn't mean she's 100% "on board".
This is the reason why teenagers dont come out until after they move out of the house. Because they're afraid they would be disowned by their families.
Its hard man, but you need to tell her that. Ask her how it makes her feel?
Ganajah 3 weeks ago
CONT...if it's anything like mine. It's probably her problem and not yours. It's hard for our parents to find out new things about us that is different from the norm. She probably doesn't know how to act or present herself towards you because your different. You just got to do it man. Go visit her when you know she aint busy and then take her out to lunch or dinner and just have a one-on-one time with her. Just be honest about it. Ask her how you can have a closer relationship with her.
Ganajah 3 weeks ago
Try going to church, and searching for the LORD and Pray!!!
spindoctorone1 3 weeks ago
Doll, don't sweat it. It's just something that people have to get used to. My mom was the same way; at times she still is. It will get better, just talk about it, dont make it dramatic. Just ask. Much luv.....Siren
SirenSwallows93 1 month ago
it might just take some time for her to come around my mom took time but still she somtimes feel awkward , so i say it takes time
auquaboi 1 month ago
(2) Your mom has some stuff she's dealing with that really has little to do with you, if you follow me. But thats mom's stuff, not yours. Thats not to be selfish or careless but to say she is an individual who has some things and so are you. And it's not fare that you get the brunt of it but that what happens when we live and love. Your mom may come around and get through this thing or maybe not, but she needs your help; don't give up man, and don't loose the faith. Peace.
scorpiouknow 2 months ago
i am soooooooo loving your comfort set!!! its gorgeous!!!!!
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(1) Our parents especially our moms, have great expectations of us, along with other people as well. What we have to come to is, and this is a philosophy of a friend of mine, "You can't judge yourself by someone else's measuring stick". So in other words, You are your unique self and not a mistake by any means, and I do mean any means whatsoever. 99% of what people seem to have problems about in other individuals is 100% their opinion and has nothing to do with you.
scorpiouknow 2 months ago
Just confront her, dont start a fight but bring it up and express urself!
t6f 2 months ago
Bro...believe it or not...many people share the same feelings that you express in this video. You're not the only one going thru this situation. Know this and keep ya' head up! You're a wonderful person that should be loved regardless! Love you bro! God bless!!
ROMANTICLOVE09 7 months ago
anthonay ther is nunthin wrong wit you
u r cool mabye yo mom not use to you bein gay or doesnt feel confatable around u yet ever since u told her u were gay
sherailbaby 7 months ago
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hey i love the when you talk i was listing and i dont know you but i feel i do know you lol... you seem like real cool plps and there is plp that love you but me on the other hand theres something wrong with me...
Kadeemm89 7 months ago
hey i love the when you talk i was listing and i dont know you but i feel i do know you lol... you seem like real cool plps and there is plp that love you but me on the other hand theres something wrong with me...
Kadeemm89 7 months ago
HEY BROTHER, YOU ARE NOT ALONE, I AM MY MOTHER'S OLDEST OLDEST SON AND WAS IN THE GAY LIFESTYLE, IT'S NOT THAT SHE DOESN'T LOVE YOU OR WANT TO COME AROUND YOU. i THINK THAT SHE MAY FEEL WHAT MY MOM FELT ABOUT ME RAISING US BOYS WITHOUT OUR FATHER AND MY SISTER WAS THE OLDEST, I HEARD HER SAID YEARS AGO THAT SHE AND MY SISTER HAD MADE GIRLS OUT US; SHE MAY FEELS THAT SHE HAVE FAILED YOU IN THAT AREA AND MAY HAVE CONTRIBUTED TO YOUR LIFE STYLE. SHOW HER MORE LOVE...
jbjesus123 8 months ago
U R not ALONE. U R going2 hav 2 live UR life & find a support system so whn these moments comes U can hold strong. I have ben at my mom frm birth about da same issue & i realized it didn't help me & mom & dad went about there merry way. EVEN whn I died in the Hospital this Year! They still havn't caught on! I will Grad frm College N she Dont evn Know! cuz she isn't involved in my lif. UR Handsome, smart, hav UR own etc. Mr. You got it going on, now brush da dirt off, hold UR head up & smile!
chickwheat 9 months ago
Bro, i understand...u must talk 2 her......
jamesbukner 9 months ago
i see
MrCutieboy500 10 months ago
This is not to suggest you shouldn't love your family but to suggest that you just be the best son, brother, uncle or whatever that you can be and leave it at that. From some, you'll get that love back, from others, you won't. But if you're fully loving yourself, hopefully it won't hurt so much. Good luck to you, bro.
africanscribe 10 months ago
I feel your pain, bro, I really do. This situation has probably - or hopefully - resolved itself by now but you know there's nothing wrong with you. We all want to be loved by our parents and most of us have a pretty good idea of how we want that love to be shown to us but sometimes, things just don't work. Difficult as it may sound, at a certain point in our lives we may just have to come to terms with the fact that loving ourselves is probably our best bet.
africanscribe 10 months ago
MY MOTHER THE SAME WAY SHE ACTS LIKE SHE LOVES ME BUT SHE DNT SHE TOLD ME MORE THAN ONCE SHE WISH SHE NEVER HAD ME BUT I FEEL AS THOUGH I SHOULDN'T HAVE TO KISS HER ASS EITHER TO GET HER AFFECTION
trustewiefan87 11 months ago
...NOTHING IS WRONG WITH YOU SON. WE ARE JUST BEING MOTHERS the best way we know how...which is not an excuse but we deal with issues wrong....or not at all....be incouraged, GOD LOVES YOU SO MUCH, and mom does to....... be blessed today.....
pralinedreams18 11 months ago
i did as well..but as mothers im sure youve heard of this saying "momma knows" right.. well some times we know so much that we dont have to see it or know whats going on and we get afraid b/c we dont know how to handle things as well...your a wonderful man, YOU ARE HURTING THOUGH ANTHONY i will be praying for you..the life style you live is Dangerous so instead of getting close.. mothers move away or distance themselves
pralinedreams18 11 months ago
Anthony is not that your mom does not love you.. please understand Son..It does get hard when we as parents have poured so much in to our children and their lives turn out totally different....AT one time i felt i was adopted..favortism hurts..rejection hurts, and I hear you love your mom so much that your proving yourself to your mom.. but Anthony you must keep living and moving forward...you long for your moms exceptance..
pralinedreams18 11 months ago
this is the type of mom I have, I was talkin to my mom,and I said what if I lost my job,"she said,well you will be a bum in the street end qoute"so what does that say?
ambakisyeAndengwisye 1 year ago
Hey whats up I feel the same way in a sents,I love my mom but at the same time my mom is a professional t you pe woman and work was always first with her.And she never spent time,and my dad wasnt there,and when she got married she still gave more attention to her husband then me and my older brother.So I feel that it might be something thats on your mothers mind not you.
ambakisyeAndengwisye 1 year ago
Hi Anthony and how are you doing man? I felt all of what you have said and i must say that i thought i wasthe onlyone going through simular situation like yours. I know it hurts but i think you should n ot let that get you down man. You seems a nice guy and carrying this burden inside only eats you up not solve anything. Pay her a visit and just tell her how you feel. You have one mind,one body,one soul,one life and one mom. Its now or never. Good luck! My number jm1jd1ttg1(phone keypad)
Tropicalblueful 1 year ago
Anthony, I'm gonna tell you some real shit. Your mother may not say it, but no matter how much you try to include her in your life, she wants no part in it. It's a mother's thing. All mothers dream of their kids growing up becoming parents of their own and when one professes to be gay, the dream is OVER. I'm gay and I remember when my mother told me that she would rather see me dead than be gay. Talking about hurt, that hurts!!!!! To this day, we have limited conversation and move on!
2710Pocahontas 1 year ago
Hi ! Anthony , first off let me start by saying , good ,bad , or indifferent , a mother will always love her child. It may not be when you need , or want them to , but they wil l . In there own time love will prevail . I want to ask you some important questions . Number one how old are you ? Two how did your mom find out that you were gay ? Have you ever been molested ? It sounds like your mom is in a state of denile of the fact that her ( only ) son if you are is gay please respond to me
drkutitup 1 year ago
Anthony. There is NOTHING wrong with you. You shouldn't have to live with other peoples issues, not even your parents. Through the pain, through the disappointment, you have to LIVE your life. You continue to love your mother as only a child can, but do not carry her issues on your shoulders.
PatreqHolmz 1 year ago
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SomeonesBeautifulSon 1 year ago
Maybe she is sad for you and feels that one day you will be truly alone without any children or grands to care for and about you. Maybe, she feels that she failed you as a man. YOUR MOTHER IN HER HEART OF HEARTS, LOVES YOU MORE THAN ANY OF YOUR SIBLINGS. A mother's love is enduring, It is SO STRONG that even JEHOVAH GOD compared his LOVE FOR US to that of a mother's love for her child. NOW THAT IS SOME SUPER STRONG LOVE, BRO.
SomeonesBeautifulSon 1 year ago
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I do not know your mother and it is hard for a stranger to judge her, I actually thought until I heard you say; "I am gay" that maybe your mother wanted to be a father and mother to you and treated you with guarded distance so that you wouldn't turn out a "mommy's boy", I am not homophobic, but, you do know that back in da' day folks thought that a woman raising a boy child spelled gay/sissy (I hate the word "sissy"), maybe, that is why she disconnected early on.
SomeonesBeautifulSon 1 year ago
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SomeonesBeautifulSon 1 year ago
R u the middle child? Regardless there's nothing wrong with you. Parents have different types of bonds with each child they have. If you want a stronger bond with her maybe you should take the initiative to. You go to visit her and talk to her maybe she feels the same about you.
Director012221989 1 year ago
plus she is just doing her part, like if your father was there he go to all your stuff and your mom go to all your sisters.
scotty10211 1 year ago
there is nothing wrong with you like you said you didn't grow up with your father so at the end of the day your mom is most likely exhausted from work or something and scene you not a girl she figure that you will understand if she didnt show up somewhere because i have a brother he isn't gay and she never go to none of his stuff, and i have 2 sisters and she goes to everything, just think of it as their mother-daughter bond.
scotty10211 1 year ago
Hello Anthony!
dl7nicks1 1 year ago
OMG!! I Love you so much you had me in tears you are so genuine I have had something similar in my relationship with my mom and I will send u a message about it. I am my moms only girl and she has never stuck behind me at least not like my brothers. I have cried to her on so many occasions to come here and spend sometime with me cause friends are great but it is nothing like having your mom there. Remember friends are family that you CHOSE.
ohhithinkdeylikme 2 years ago
You know I have the same exact situation. But its with my whole family. I did basketball, lacrosse, I've had dance performances. None of my family goes to any of them. But when my brothers were playin football, my family always went. I learned to get over it because I had to not care anymore, maybe its to keep me from feeling hurt, but I honestly don't care if they came. My family also doesn't know Im gay so idk what that means. For you, you just gotta talk to her about it.Dont dwell Good luck.
beefyz11111 2 years ago
I suffered this same behavior from my mother, however, there were five of us. The details in my mother's are too detailed to discuss here, however, she was a school teacher, married several times (8). my mom died 6 years ago, and i still feel neglected by her actions before she died. I attempted to socialize with her, she wanted nothing to do with me. I forgive her, but it still hurts. Not saying these details are yours, but the support after adulthood was not there. At all.
determination9995757 2 years ago
maybe you remind her of your father...that is often the case with black women who take the issue out on the son. Trust God your already accepted
JourneyChronicles 2 years ago
She may not have said it but she has a problem with you being gay she feels like its something she did or did not do when you were growing up I went threw the same thing but I just flat out asked my mom what was wrong
attcenter 2 years ago 2
u just need to have a long serious talk with your mom and really tell her how u have been feeling. She is your mother she loves you and there is nothing wrong with you. if sitting down talking to your mother is hard i suggest that you write your mother a letter and really express yourself in the letter make it hartfelt so she feels exactly what your feeling and understands where your coming from.
The mabey she will be able to say to you what you wanna her from her.
seem303 2 years ago
In some situations, the boys remind mothers so much of the absent fathers that they subconciously push them away. I guarantee the reason has nothing to do with something you've done wrong or even the fact that your gay; you said she's been this way since you were little so that disqualifies being gay. Just have a honest talk with her and explain how you feel, even if she doesn't have an answer for you it may open her eyes to the problem and force her to look within herself. Good luck, sweetie
MissLeLe25 2 years ago 10
ANT i dont think theres something wrong with you to me your perfect, your a good looking gay black male who's fun has a job takes care of his self freindly and looks happy, but its this 1 thing i dont understand.....if you can accept yourself whats stoping your mom, she just needs some time to accept and pray about it-
~LET GO AND LET GOD~
-Greg
mybro727 2 years ago
Have you tried to sit her down and talk to her? I know that i am able to express my feeling really well on paper. You can even try writing her a letter..if you are able to express yourself better that way. But you should definetly let her know how you feel. Do you and your mom talk often? Please let her know how you feel and maybe post an update video of the results. Pray for wisdom & understanding. Pray for your mom.
Mrs2jazzy74 2 years ago
Anthony some times sons remind moms of their fathers. You may need to explore that relationship. It's not your fault, just human nature. It's not always because of your sexuality. Your mom may need to know that you are not the same person.
Ontrek9 2 years ago
Anthony, there's nothing wrong with you man. Your mom doesn't understand how to accept you for being yourself. It's gonna hurt her from not being there for you. I think you should just continue to work hard like you do. You will always have a friend in me, even if your mad with me right now.
akcork 2 years ago
you almost made me cry!!
rbnco07 2 years ago
Let your mom see this video. If she doesnt make it her Bizness to get to you after seeing it then there is definatly something wrong with HER.
forbilive 2 years ago
first off theres nothing wrong w/ you man from what you display here on youtube your a very strong smart black man you can make excuses for your mom overlooking you all these years which i have with my father or take a stand right now and let her know how you feel as her son even though it might hurt her its something that obviously weighs heavy on your spirit which needs to be address good luck w/ this man
chicrealness 2 years ago
I can see this is really bothering you. First off, STOP BLAMING YOURSELF! Secondly, please talk to your mother. Find a way to bring it up because clearly this conversation needs to happen! All cards need to be placed on the table. Lastly, be prepared to hear something you dont like, but still continue to work at you guys relationship because you only have one mother man.
JSpearman4 2 years ago
Anthony, you already know the answer dude!!! Pray for your mother because there is clearly something not registering in her mind when it comes to you!!!
thruthealcove 2 years ago
Personally, i don't think that there is anything wrong with you, and, i don't know if there is anything else that you can do that you haven't already done. Perhaps your mom is dealing with some things that she has never disclosed to you. Continue to let her know how much you love her and appreciate her....continue extending the opportunity to her, and leave the ball in her court. However, do not think its your fault or there is something wrong with you.
carlp718 2 years ago
That's an easy question to answer Anthony...There is NOTHING wrong with you at all. Sometimes parents want there children to be a certain way and when there not that way they change thier way of acting towards thier children. It can be even sometimes parents want to live thier lives through thier children which of course is not fair to the child. Your mom will hopefully come around soon when she ses you doing positive things for your self and the community and not becoming another statistic.
parrishrturner 2 years ago
I don't think there is anything wrong with you at all. There is a fine line between your mom's acceptance and her understanding. She may be at a point where she understands you but she may not be at the point where she accepts you for being who you are. I'm having the same issues right now, both my parents but one is more accepting (dad) and hasn't shown up the way I wish he would. Mom understands but doesn't accept, so it's a catch 22. But there's nothing wrong with you, it's her, talk and see.
jonicoco 2 years ago
there is nothing wrong with you. parents can envision all they want but they will never get exactly what they want out of you its not realistic for them to even ask for that much. the only thing a parent should want for you is happiness. i hope it has nothing to do with your sexual orientation because its not worth losing a child and if only people would come to their senses there wouldnt be so much neglect
88jl 2 years ago
if you want the answer you have to ask the question be straight forward and ask her what you want to know. say exactly what you feel and then wait for the answer.
88jl 2 years ago
i feel you but if she will visit you go and visit her as often as you can and try to involed her in your life as much she allows
10blackman 2 years ago
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You ruined your Mothers vision for you. She carried you for 9 months planning your life the entire time. She expected you to marry a beautiful woman, have beautiful kids, etc.
But instead you want to bend over for another man. How do you think she feels knowing that everything she visioned for you will never happen? So yes something is wrong with you. Your life provider does not deserve this.
tlarenzo 2 years ago
tlarenzo, Shut the hell up! Sounds like you have an issues with yourself. Mad you cant' be happy in life.
toohot4utube 2 years ago
I definitely can relate, mothers sometime have dreams for their sons and when u tell them ur gay it may crush those dreams such as ur wedding day, grandkids and family. But I think she needs to come see you. It will get better it just takes time.
Love you!
~FF~
FASHIONSFLYEST 2 years ago
What she thinks she has done wrong, I don't know. You must talk with her and don't hold back. If this does not help, You might have to let it GO and thank GOD for the small things that you have with her that are going well. So many of us can only wish for as much as you have with your mother.
It's all LOVE DUDE !
iwant2cthatass 2 years ago
I know you don't like to hear from me (eyes rolling)...But real talk it's not you dude. Your mom COULD be thinking that your sexuality is a direct result of her parenting SKILLS. She does LOVE you but she can only see failure on her part when she attempts to be part of your life. She does not realize that sexuality can not be taught because ( sexuality is pre installed for a lack of a better term). She will always think it's something she did wrong.
iwant2cthatass 2 years ago
i love your pillows babe. there is nothing wrong with you. you are so beautiful inside and out. it is not your fault anthony that she treated you the way she did. and i am sorry and i know xactly how you feel.okay, well i wonder if she really ascepts it. or mi thinking that maybe there is something that is going on within her mind. and i would try to bring it up because it seems as if she's pushing you away...talk too her babe. it needs to be brought up. love you, n u can always hit me up-muah-
Seduction702 2 years ago
Ummm tell her how you feel......
sexymodelboy 2 years ago
how in the hell can he tell her? their relationship is not even on that level.
toohot4utube 2 years ago
If I were in your situation I would have to sit down with my mom and just let her know how I felt. She probably doesn't know how you feel just like you don't really know what/how she feels about you. Tell her just what you are telling us. I don't know you personally but from what you let us in on you seem like a great person. Stop being so hard on yourself and just try to open up the lines of communication with her.
bllblst1981 2 years ago
i kno how u feel just today i was talkin to my mother and i asked her if i was to get married would she come to my wedding and she was like was like wat u think im lookin at her like ugh that was the reason for me askin i wanted to ask her was she ashamed of havin a gay child like me. idk it may be something goin on within them it may not even be us but i just want a normal relationship with my mother as well
asewdrrfgf 2 years ago
I dont think its about something being wrong with u, these things tend to happen in large families with the middle child not gettin attention, if u are the middle child or closest to it, that could be the issue. or your mom could feel you are constantly tryna impress her, but thats a good thing. peace my brother
teological1 2 years ago
aint nothing wrong with you Ant. I commend you for being a good man and a good son and wanting so bad for your relationship with mom to work out and everything.
Everything is gonna work out and i'll keep u in my prayers.
antyfreeman2008 2 years ago
Thanks for sharing Anthony. There is nothing wrong with you. You are perfectly imperfect. Just like everybody else. Including your Mom. It sounds like there is something wrong with the relationship. All you can do is be real. And tell her how you feel without getting defensive or accusatory. Don't let it slide.
~Calvin~
sfcalvinaz 2 years ago
girls and boys are always treated different people always think girls need more nurturing and that boys will just man up. Most time this is just unintentional its just the way of our society and I think its a problem that should change.
tssexychanel 2 years ago
NOTHING IS WRONG Wit you...... May be she sees ya father in u and it blocks her from loving u the way she is suppose to... What might be wrong is the fact that she cant let go of the pain wit ya father.... BE Know regardless there are ppl out here that love and appreciate u for who you are... so i hope u cheer up... i love watchin u and the rest of the RDA crew... and i wish i could be there to help out but just know ... we appreciate and care about u out here...
ya fan
NYGnDaNYC
nygndanyc 2 years ago
Nothing is wrong with you... .maybe you remind her of you father... i've known situations where mother treats the child bad because he doesn't like his father or because of the the father has done, and the child's face is a constant reminder
ropeburne99 2 years ago
I feel the same way about my mother
dgrav008 2 years ago
of course there is NOTHING wrong with you!
as a middle child i know how you feel
my friends feel the same way.i talked to my mom about it.she was a middle child she felt the same.
but maybe she feels that she doesn't have to be there because your a boy as much as she does for the girls. but hey you are great. she loves you she just doesnt know how to show it!
jayrawkstar 2 years ago
nothing is wrong with you anthony,if you feel that your mom shows more attention to your sisters,than just tell your mother how you feel.let her know that you are feeling like an outkast.let her know that you want to gain a closer relationship with her.let her know that you want her to be a round you more.communication is everything.~MUAH~
TheOneofakind17 2 years ago
First, wonderful video as always, second, I think that it is remarkable that you even want to have a relationship with your mom, because so many people would have given up on them, third, you and your mom should have a deep conversation about her life because you might remind her of a past that has come true in you and she resents you for it, so keep trying and always have faith in her
leaningfreak 2 years ago
give it time lil buddy.....
lilsexiboy 2 years ago
CORRECTION:: You just cant put a time schedule on it
cybic2k 2 years ago
ANTHONY!! NOTHING IS WRONG WITH YOU!! Im not sure why your mom is doing the things she do. Maybe she is dealing with something internally & she don know how to express it.. I dont know.. But there is nothing wrong with you. You do GREAT AT EVERYTHING YOU DO!! Stop being so hard on yourself. She will come around one day.. You just put a time schedule on it. R&D is your family as well. & we support all you do. She will come around in Due time...
-D
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