If it really is abolished, I wonder whether men who don't pay alimony are put in prison for other reasons. It's a hypothesis ofc but i wouldn't be surprised if something about arresting men for not paying is framed as a felony and voila, prison.
I think that its important to note that if rights are not inherant and are in fact granted by governments, then what we are talking about is priveleges, which can be withdrawn or adjusted at the stroke of a pen.
To give this awesome power to a group of usually uneducated self serving and dishonest people seems completely insane to me.
Why cant we all insist that rights are inherant? To do otherwise will just lead to the typical genocides, wars etc.
Norway recently withdrew all the funding to so called "gender studies" in scientific research much due to a documentary "hjernevask" (Brainwash) shown on National Tv NRK. It shines the light on how feminism do not hold up to science when faced with biology and psychology.
sweden still keeps up the gender fascism.
The show has English subtitles and should be seen and spread by anybody antifeminist and interested in the present nordic situation.
Hi thanks for the link, i searched for it on youtube found the norwegian version but couldnt find one with subtitles. i gotta link to vimeo which apparently has subtitled one, but need a password to view it. googled it too but no luck finding english subtitled version. i wonder do you have any ideas or maybe a password for vimeo?
my only addendum here is that we cannot only define rights as those legally determined by society e.g. in cases like slavery where persons are deemed by law to be chattle. simply because the collective agreement is that they are not human, i argue, any living, breathing, humanoid outside of the womb is therefore human & entitled to certain inalienable rights of "humanity." which, again, are determined by society but not necessarily legally enshrined or dispensed consistently & equittably.
We violate the rights of men, by putting them in debtors prison, because it's convenient, we already have everyone deluded of this basic injustice. I've been with you 100% in your arguments, (this is the second part I've watched so far) and this area (rights of the child) has been the one that has always tripped me up.
I wonder if anyone has ever tried to make this into a supreme court case using the argument of sex discrimination in the courts. Because when you think about it this is true. Am Man can not stop a woman from having an abortion. And he cannot stop her from putting the child up for adoption if they aren't married. But if she so chooses to carry the child full term and keep the child he is obligated to pay for that child for 18-21 years.
Hey GWW love your work. Fr Bob here I was wondering if you could send me that sources of the study done concerning children doing better in a 1 parent home when that parent is their father I am really interested in this area.
I am really interested in this area. Again thanks for your work.
@mraNewfoundland Soon as I can get my hands on the stats, I will. Warren Farrell used it (or a combination of several studies) as source material for one of his books, and noted the stats in his video "Why men earn more: the startling truth behind the wage gap".
My plate's really full right now, so I'm having to put off hunting all over for sources I should have held onto in the first place. If I stumble onto it, I'll post the link. If not, it may be a few weeks.
@girlwriteswhat I can totally understand and hey there is not rush I think your work that you have been doing on your own blog, here and at AVFM is wonderful, because you can articulate what I would like to say but find myself getting frustrated on times to get it all out in a logical concise way, so again thank you for your work.
Juggling all this and family life and work at the same time. My hats off to you. Ok ok ok I will try not to swell your head too much lol. Keep up the good work
I've been watching your videos, and can I just say, I'd love to see you argue this stuff in a "women's history" class. The amount of rage you'd cause would put a huge smile on my face. You definitely have done your homework and took time to think about the real effects. It shows.
I like what she said about debtors' prisons. I remember in grade school my history teacher brought up debtors' prisons old England. I remember thinking how human rights must have been really trampled on back then and how wrong it is to treat humans like animals and lock them up in cages on a whim. Little did I know, many years later in my own country...
One pointI really appreciate girlswriteswhat's bringing up is that feminists are largely the complete opposite of what they claim to be. For instance, feminists like shrouding themselves in adjectives like "progressive" and "modern". They insult men who disagree with them with words like "obsolete" or "regressive" or "stuck in the 1950's". Yet, babying women or giving them special rights is as old as humanity itself. It's just now they want it with no gratitude or responsibility in return.
Hey girlwriteswhat, thanks for another brilliant video and your support for the MRM. In your video you mentioned a report on the wellbeing outcomes of children raised by single parents where single fathers did better at 26 measures than single mothers. I've been googling for a reference but no luck, could you help with a citation please?
@zenmetheus I'll have to go digging for it or hit up Warren Farrell. I've got access to some stuff and some people, but it might be a few days before I can put my hands back on the actual document.
@girlwriteswhat I've got Warren Farrell's book on order, it should arrive next week, if it's in there I'll find it. Thanks for such a speedy reply by the way. You vlog about topics so close to home, I really admire that courage. My family can't tolerate discussion of these topics without someone being shouted and bullied in silence. Any plans for a "men can't have a valuable contribution to any feminist conversation unless it's to submit to feminism" videos? :-)
@zenmetheus Frankly, there are about 100 topics I want to address. And yes, that will be one of them. :)
If it's worth anything, I'm pretty sure W.F. Mentioned the 26 markers in his presentation, "Why men earn more: the startling truth behind the pay gap".
The part about the rights of the fetus being asserted by the mother because someone can get in trouble for forcing her to miscarry is such a predictable lying feminist nonsense. A dog has more rights than a fetus. If I kill Sam's dog I can get in legal trouble. If Sam kills Sam's dog he can get in legal trouble. If I kill Susie's fetus I can get in legal trouble. If Susie kills Susie's fetus she gets in no legal trouble.
If empathy for men is good, which you've argued (strongly) for in a previous video, then you therefore think that empathy is good. If you think that empathy is good, then empathy for the unborn is also good - but yet your stance on abortion is not consistent with this principle. A principle is not a principle, but merely an opinion, when it is applied subjectively / in a vacuum. You seem very intelligent, I think you know better. Consistency is virtue - either you follow the principl or u do not
@girlwriteswhat Just to be clear, one can have empathy for the unborn and even believe that they are "people" entitled to rights and still be pro choice.
Woman invites guy to party. Guy gets drunk and becomes beliggerant, he starts to threaten to kill the woman, he starts to maim the woman. Woman kicks man out of her house into a freezing blizzard. Guy dies. It's self defense.
Ok, instead the guy has a dog, and the dog dies. Same thing.
@girlwriteswhat When I have sex with a woman, I'm agreeing to the obligations that may result from my actions. Maybe it's sad that I have no say on her decisions concerning the child, but I'll fully accept my responsibilities. Slaves don't decide to become slaves, they are forced into it. I, on the other hand, freely and consciously chose to have sex with full knowledge of the likely consequences. How can the consequences of my free and responsible actions make a slave out of me?
@regresseur Too many assumptions to be a logical arguement. You assume you know what she thinks based on a few thoughts shared.
Words are a way to transfer thoughts and ideas but they are NOT the thought or the idea. They are words and have meaning but are interpreted diferently by diferent people.
I think you are interpreting a lot of things she said in a negative way intentionaly.
Trying to find a flaw in her statements based on your BELIEF is not logic.
Rights are imaginary."... as determined by society" (paraphrasing the definition you referenced) only serves to substantiate this. When one speaks of rights, and uses them as a defense, they're essentially using something that doesn't even exist, a mere construct of the human mind, and only that, to support their argument. Rights is a convenient way to excuse the tragic reality that is abortion. The fundamental Q should not be one of rights, but one of morality. E.g. Is a D&E abortion moral?
These mistaken ideas you mention are the result of 45 years of "Feminist" Domestic Violence Industry Evil Indoctrination that is now Indoctrinated into Politics, the Government, Courts, Police and General Public, Encouraging an Epidemic of False Accusations of Sexual Harassment, Domestic Violence and Rape, that:
- Women are Good, All Men are Violent and Rapists!
- Women need Protection, Men must be Prosecuted and Jailed!
This woman is such a breath of fresh air. Thank you for pointing out many of these injustices that have been eating away at me. And no one cares to hear a male say it. It is very much appreciated. Thanks!!!
Only one issue with this video (Excellent series by the way), you mention that the childs interests are best served by giving custody to the father, if custody had to be given.
I think this is probably due to the nature of custody hearings, overwhelmingly for a father to be given custody not only does the mother have to be a bad parent, he has to be a good one. (Being mediocre wont cut it due to the presumption toward women.)
@officechairpotato When I first heard that statistic (from Warren Farrell), I assumed the same. However, there are areas where fathers simply do better than mothers--enforcing boundaries, upholding standards of behavior, etc. The way he put it was, 'We tend to think empathy creates empathy, but it doesn't. An expectation of considering others, not always getting your own way, and being held to consistent standards of behavior is what creates empathy.'
@girlwriteswhat I believe that its more of a problem with selfishness and pretend empathy (being that the focus is on their own emotions rather than the emotions of others) than empathy itself. I've known cold hearted people who pretend to have emotions and sensitivity when it suits their needs.
Thank you for speaking about all this. Makes me feel like there are truly women who understand that we must fight for equality for all people, rather than focus on one sex or one race.
Regarding the child support dimension, I am among those who consider that a child, even an adopted one, should have the right to know both of his natural parents. There are medical reasons, but there is also a moral dimension: while it may be impossible to enforce a child's RIGHT to support and/or patrimony from both parents, that does not in my mind lessen the moral OBLIGATION of parents to nurture their children, and they need to be confronted with the incarnation of that obligation.
my mom was a lesbian and she used what I call the "single mom/feminist shotgun wedding" tool on my legal father... 2 years before she died she woke up but she didn't h "get it" when she was fascist... I am a masculine gay guy and I like being male and get hate for that... I am not afraid of strong women, my mom's 1st partner could do badass pushups and her closest people knew about her as all of my close friends do and it is know big deal...
I have been thinking these things for so long. I wonder how it is "acceptable" for me (female) to trick a guy into getting me pregnant, then deciding to have the baby and make him pay but it's not okay for him to just say he wants out. I just don't understand it. Thank you so much for these videos, you can word these things so much better than I can.
You're very intelligent and I enjoy these videos. I found you on Reddit so I honestly don't know anything other than your youtube name. Are you at least writing a book?
Women empathetic to men's rights and resentful of misandry touch my heart. Women like girlwriteswhat make me cry tears of hope and heal some of my bitterness. Thank you for what you're doing.
The real problem with this legal issue, as it is, that this society would have very few legal/political problems if it weren't for one group of dishonorable and criminal people. I refer to my namesake, the police. 100%, not hyperbole, of police are career criminals. If they obeyed their oaths this slavery against men would be non existent. Police decide whether to obey orders or the Constitution, and subsequent cases explaining the Constitution. Cops choose to be order followers! (Cont)
@Copsarescum Cont. The anti-peonage act of 1867 "all laws or usages of any state by virtue of which any attempt shall hereafter be made to establish, maintain or enforce, directly or indirectly, the voluntary or involuntary service or labor of any persons as peons, in liquidation of any debt or obligation, or otherwise, are now null and void." prevents debt slavery but try to get lower courts to obey it, good luck. (cont)
@Copsarescum Cont. Try to prevent power hungry cops from enforcing money making statutes for their bosses. The problem is lack of accountability. Police are absolutely not as eager to enforce the "laws" on their buddy cops, judges, politicians, banksters, etc. We all know this. If cops simply observed and enforced then the jails would be full of the people they hang out with the most, cops, judges, prosecutors, court clerks, etc. This violates the equal application clause of the USC. Cont.
@Copsarescum cont. All police are guilty of doing this and simply innumerable other crimes daily/hourly. Article 1 sec 10 of the USC states plainly that no state shall solicit as payment of a debt money not tendered in gold or silver. A cop enforcing any law, court order, etc on someone based on the non payment of a debt in UNLAWFUL money is a criminal. Conspiring with others to do it makes it a R.I.C.O crime, they are mobsters! They swore an oath and they should be held to it!
@jynxonline Wow, I'm flattered. I watched the trailer for GUPI, and what struck me is that there's a disconnect (you see it when it comes to criminal sentencing, false accusations, systemic discrimination, the disintegration of family, all kinds of things) between the race angle and the gender angle. We spend a lot of time talking about black people getting harsher sentences than whites, but little talking about how men get longer sentences than women. (cont)
@girlwriteswhat There was a recent case of a false rape accusation--a lie made up by a woman, who "invented" a black perpetrator. And while there was much made of the fact that she chose her "perp" based on racist views to make her story more believable, and this was a deep wrong against black men, no one really said anything about what it says about men in general.
Black men have this double hammer of racism and misandry to deal with, and no one wants to examine the gender side of it. (cont)
@girlwriteswhat Our views are "woman good, man bad", and "white safe and productive, black dangerous and shiftless". The combined weight of the stereotypes against black men is just staggering, and can't be totally lifted unless we work, as a society, on our views of men as well as black people.
@girlwriteswhat I personally know this double hammer of which you speak! I'm really considering doing some writing about this, myself. I may email you for future comments.
@girlwriteswhat I did a study in college regarding gender disparity in sentencing. According to the NBS women,actually prosecuted for crime and not exclusively used as snitches to prosecute the more acceptable/profitable men, with the same alleged crime and criminal history as a man uniformly received between 1/5 and 1/8 the sentence as a man. But always remember that women have far less prosecutions initiated against them than men. People aren't comfortable throwing them in the slammer. cont.
@Copsarescum cont. The deputy director for the prisons of the state I went to college in came to my sociology class. I asked her why women receive 1/5 to 1/8 the sentence as men apples to apples, cited the stat in entirety, and her reply was simple "Because women tend to be mothers", I replied "well don't men tend to be fathers?". She shrugged her shoulders and remained silent. The feminists in the class scowled at me with usual disdain. The attractive women looked on sympathetically.
@girlwriteswhat In your videos you refer to various studies, for example you talk about how a child raised by a single parent tends to do better when raised by the father. Can you cite some references that support your points?
If a woman murders her newborn children, its called post postpartum depression and she's not accountable and needs treatment. If a man coming back from a long tour in the Middle East murders his newborn children its called straight murder (infanticide) and he is completely accountable.
@girlwriteswhat Your videos/writings are really good. Your appeal to female accountability is great. You have an excellent grasp of a man's current position. Keep up the fight, it's awesome to have women like you on our side. But please, stop saying uh and um!
Gender norms wont go.. because women, especially feminists, don't want them to go. It is like a driver pushing the gas while loudly demanding that the car stop itself. Or an arsonists setting fire and pouring fuel on the fire while loudly demand that someone else put out the flames.
Women as a gender are a part of the system just as men are. Most just want to live normal, happy lives, and think that was the liveral media and politicians tell them are essentially true and fair...because they are our voice and our representatives respectively.
Don't confuse people that just want to live their happy, simple lives with sycophants who want to manipulate the system for personal gain.
Okay, how about I show you one man for ending war, you show me one woman? That they do not care until it hits their self-interest and by "their", I mean "I, me and myself" not even "my brothers, my father or my son". Why should I give women a pass at enjoying their own life when I don't give it to men?
You shouldn't, but you probably want to. It's biological imperative. Because for every 1 man that can produce 100 offspring in some arbitrary period of time, 1 woman can only produce a tiny fraction thereof. Males, and by attrition men, are biologically expendable. Despite the fact that modern society and innovation have rendered these imperatives meaningless, they still form a critical component of our basic biological function.
The good news is the so-called "modern society", especially those that relented to feminists is killing itself by not reproducing enough. Good riddance I say.
This is evidenced in Japan, actually, where a once skyrocketing population has ground to a near standstill (statistically speaking) due to the ever imposing hyper-feminist/ sociofascist political system. Legislative practices have pacified males to the point of an almost crippling fear. And women that desire lasting, healthy relationships feel that men need to "step up". Oh, the irony of it all.
Its not fear. It is calling the bluff on the biological aspect. Women have arrogantly and ignorantly pushed too hard and men are refusing to play along, even if it means no kids and genetic extinction.
@utubehayter I think you are putting some pretty negative accusations on some people who could simply have mad an error.
My self, an libertarian would think a socialist (we're talking about this in a political philosophy context) or a late-Marxist to be mistaken and its ideas to be toxic to society, but I would hardly accuse them to have questionable motives
I didn't claim I knew their motives. I am only commenting on the pattern of what they are doing..i.e. actions.
Also, a mistaken person learns from history, learns from observed effects of certain measures and changes accordingly.
A person whose motives match the results achieved, he/she presses on. Thus sustained effort is not a perfect indicator but a good indication of motives.
@RedLanternXY It's in the best interest of any child to be born to two parents who want it and are committed to working as a team to give it the best life and future possible. A woman taking an accident that derives from irresponsibility or deceit, then turning it into a sequence of decisions that place her own interests above those of both her child and the biological father, is not acting in anyone's interests but her own.
Because mothers, sisters and daughters will throw sons, brothers and fathers under the bus at a moment's notice. (Not all.. but pretty much all).
This is amply demonstrated - MANY women (on both sides) consider abortion, a make or break issue even they may never use it (i.e. nice to have even if just for OTHER women). BUT almost none consider stopping wars (where men are dying) as such...never have. If there are any..please respond and make yourself heard.
Women take a higher risk in sexual reproduction. As with all other matters they should be held to a higher accountability. Though, it is true that there are many factors that contribute to pregnancy, some of which are of accidents, I believe that the social construct is not equipped, with its current standards, to ensure that the ultimate choice is one that promotes accountability for the mother...especially to promote the welfare of the child.
@RedLanternXY The gender norms cant go because they are insperatable from our biology just as our ekeletons are from our physical anatomy. What society can do however is create a society that embraces these differences and allow for success based off personal preference. True equality is in allowing all people have control over their own lives.
@RedLanternXY I suppose one has to look at the part a man plays when having children is not a mutual decision. When a couple goes to buy a car together, they both get a say wrt what to buy. Both their names go on the registration and insurance, and the loan. They both contribute to the maintenance of the car, keeping it full of gas, and to the insurance and car payments. TBC
@girlwriteswhat If they are not buying the car together? If, say, he gives her a ride to the car lot, or gives her advice on what to buy? If he, say, lends her the money for the down payment? It's her car. She made the decision, she bought it, and it's not his car to drive. How responsible is he, then, for maintaining, insuring, and making payments on a car she bought, or keeping it full of gas, even if he played a part in her getting that car?
@RedLanternXY History remembers the brave, while cowards become slaves. I've already seen youngsters and others who can't hack it delude themselves into justifying their reasons to give up. Maybe this will re-energise you:
@RedLanternXY men have 0 legal rights to children until the mother gives up her control and the man becomes the primary caregiver (rare if ever) men cannot opt out of parenthood like a woman can at any time its her choice to abort/adopt the child not his, and if she keeps the child he is forced to pay regardless if he wanted the child or not. btw have you never heard of the draft? only men have to sign up for the draft and they get blackballed if they dont...
@RedLanternXY the truth is in front of you if you dont want to see it or just want to worry about yourself thats your call not mine just remember who dies in wars to make all these "rights" for women possible....
@fixt100 thats definately the sign of oppression right there the opressor class dieing to protect the oppressed and make sure women keep the rights they have "fought for" what a laugh...
@RedLanternXY are women drafted? do women have to sign up for the draft to vote? what about affirimative action? funding for mens health? short list for hiring women? reduced standards for women in the military/police/fire brigade?
I don't think RedLantern is a sane person. Trying to argue with him does not seem to be bearing any fruit..rather, he seems to become more confused and upset.
Excellent video. I wish I could articulate this position as well as you do. I just noticed that you film your videos in the kitchen. Kind of humorous.
Responsibility and rights. Women have all the rights in this situation and no responsibility. That is exactly why in a very true sense men and women are not legally "equal". The "somebody" that has to pay for the children irresponsibly brought into the world is more often than not a male. This why I have a hard time seeing females as equals. Not to mention- disproportionate penalties for the same crimes, women choosing less risky and less paying jobs and screaming pay inequality etc etc
@TMac473 Well, as a single mom, I'm not going to say women have no responsibilities in this situation. Or rather, no burdens, since they CAN walk away from responsibility if they choose. In the case of women who force men into fatherhood, those women are taking on responsibilities.
They do, however, have a choice about it. They have rights and choices to go with the burdens. And they should really not be allowed to force responsibility on others for the choices only they are allowed to make.
@girlwriteswhat as far as i know any woman can drop their child off at social services at any age up to adulthood and not have to worry about being responsible anymore so i dont think they have any responsibility other than what they choose to have for the child at any point in their upbringing.
Another excellent video. There is such an element of legal fiction that goes into rights. Unalienable "natural" rights are really all we have. Learning to voluntarily co-exist and mutually benefit from interaction is about the best we can hope for in a realistic sense. When it comes to the rights of the fetus in the mother's womb I agree that the mother should have the say on its birth. But after the first trimester, when it feels, it should also have a basic right to exist. (cont)
@RockingMrE I do however believe that a man should have a choice to opt in or out of the responsibility of a baby. I have set out my views in this regard on my video "What Should MRA's Fight For?" Feel free to check it out if you are interested.
Great video - I'm really enjoying your logic and style of presentation.
My thoughts are that it is far better for a child to be raised by one or more people who are interested in raising that child, they get nothing or actively lose when one or more feels forced, mother or father. Any person who thinks it is not their choice to raise a child will do the absolute minimum and possibly express resentment toward the child, in my experience. Ideally each child would be a chosen experience by both parents, but realistically that is not always the case.
@DeckardShotFirst I think it's also important to note that, in a pro-choice society, the child is essentially chosen by one parent--the mother. Of course, SHE still gets to change her mind and walk away, if she wants to, once the child is born.
Ideally, each child is wanted by two people before it is even conceived. We have every power to do this today--yet (IIRC) 60% of pregnancies these days are unplanned and 40% of babies born out of wedlock. Fodder for another video...
@j24601valjean Of course I agree with this, but I do believe children have a basic right to life, just like anyone else. Imposing responsibilities on babies is unworkable, obviously. Children have no right to self-determination or the same level of personal autonomy adults should have, but I believe we should all have basic human rights. I really do feel that because babies have no freedom or choice, society does owe them a living once they are born. Adults, not so much.
@j24601valjean We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness. — That to secure these rights, Governments are instituted among Men, deriving their just powers from the consent of the governed, —
@thekingoffunnyfaces You site fine words which are an excellent basis for a constitution. In order to subscribe to their sentiment you need to accord with their christian heritage. Otherwise they are just mere words.
financial autonomy? Wouldn't That level the playing field for some poor sap who's suckered into paying child support? oh noooo, we can't have that. Your making too much sense.lol.
I really appreciate your offerings, however, on this issue you seem to me to be confused. With rights come responsibilities: no responsibilities no rights! Ergo, a child however defined – adolescent, toddler, infant, baby, fetus, or clump of cells – has no rights. In a healthy society adults take responsibility for their actions and are held accountable for them. Rights are conveyed through the rules of society, howsoever determined. Rights are not inalienable, quite the contrary.
This video is a stunning display of practical reasoning and common sense. Untainted by emotional reasoning it is a purely logical well thought out argument. Bravo! Personal favourites include 11:06, 12:14 and 14:02.
@FrankJeeves The place I remember hearing it last was a talk on the "Startling Truth Behind the Wage Gap" by Warren Farrell.
Empathy does not create empathy in children. Boundary enforcement, discipline, and the expectation of considering the feelings of others do. Over-empathizing with a child (or anyone) actually creates narcissism, not more empathy.
@girlwriteswhat, you have some good points, but I somewhat disagree with your assessment of child-rearing. I think it's a little extreme and too simplistic.
Children certainly need to be held accountable for their behavior and need to face consequences when they do wrong things. But they also need love and empathy, but not the kind of empathy that gets in the way of the transmission of values. A blend of love and firmness is ideal, I think.
@KhagarBalugrak Of course. But honestly, we spend too much time tiptoeing around children's feelings, desperately doing anything (even not keeping score at soccer games) to spare their feelings and not damage their self esteem.
I'll always go to the mat for my kids, consider their feelings, let them be who they are, and love them, but I'm not afraid of calling them on bullshit (especially selfishness), or stepping on them hard when it's absolutely necessary.
@girlwriteswhat, I agree with you in terms of "liberal" parents. Parents on the American Left are way too delicate with their children, and end up teaching them nothing resembling values of any kind. Both indulgent and evasive, these parents end up creating monumentally selfish and self-absorbed children.
You sound like a good parents who has a nice balance, that understands the necessity of both love and discipline.
@girlwriteswhat, I myself am neither on the Left or the Right. I'm vehemently anti-war, vehemently anti-capitalism, but also extremely anti-feminism. I see the American Left and the American Right as very very similar. And indeed they are; on all the important issues, both the Democrats and the Republicans pass bills by an overwhelming (sometimes unanimous) majority. We need to think outside the political spectrum, like the Occupy Wall Street people, if we are to save our country.
@girlwriteswhat, if you'll notice, most of the Wall Street protesters are hardcore Christians, but not the kind that believe they have the right to kill whoever they want because they are "born again". Rather, they uphold all life as sacred. I do, in the end, think even feminists have value as people, but they are doing something demonic and destructive to men, and for that reason, I speak out against them. But in the end, I think everyone and everything is sacred.
@girlwriteswhat, sorry for babbling, but I want to say just one more thing: the Right and the Left are divided by what has been called "Wedge Issues": gay marriage, abortion, sex education, etc. These issues have almost no effect on society no matter what is decided (though abortion has more than the others), and yet the politicians have used these largely fake issues to keep Americans from realizing that our government is enslaving us.
@KhagarBalugrak I'm right and left--socially liberal and fiscally conservative. That is, I believe people should be free to live as they wish, but that they should also be expected to finance and be responsible for their own choices. I'm pro-capitalism, but anti-materialism. Financial security and independence is the impetus behind innovation, technological progress, pretty much everything. I really don't mind the idea of rewarding that with money, or with market forces deciding value. TBC
@girlwriteswhat At the same time, I understand we evolved in feast/famine times, where you glutted yourself in times of abundance to prepare for the next lean season. People didn't used to succumb to those instincts, because money was expensive. Now we have easy credit, and subsidized everything, and no one really has any idea what, say, their education cost everyone else, and they all have cards with free money on them, woot!
@girlwriteswhat By the time the famine arrives, people are so far in debt they have no hope of digging their way out, and thousands in student loans the government will pay for when they default, and a subsidized education that got them a job at McDonalds. Honestly, money is too damn cheap these days, no one understands what it's really worth. But they sure have a lot of cool stuff!
Interestingly enough my ex gf who was a very liberal women studies gradituate never saw the faults and dangerous behind student loans or this"easy come casin flow"society. She would constantly boast to me about her education since in her mind attending univsersity is the appex of intellecutal superiority and all the while I constantly reminded her"your on borrowed time and for all things women studies1" but she didnt care,being able to say"Im in university"is all she cared about.
@girlwriteswhat, I think different children have different needs to a certain degree as well. I was always someone who was sensitive and hard on myself, so my parents (perhaps coincidentally) gave me more love than discipline, and it worked. I take other people into consideration just about always (none of us is absolutely perfect).
But most parents these days are either all empathy or just cold and harsh - and both end up creating narcissism or psychopathy. A balance is needed.
@girlwriteswhat, I suppose it might be simpler to put it this way: all empathy and no discipline creates a childish, narcissistic type of personality devoid of ethical values and self-control, whereas all (harsh) discipline and no empathy creates a sadistic, calculating, sociopathic type of personality. In actual fact, both these personality types are very similar, despite their apparently widely differing attributes.
Children are wholly owned property of mothers. That's not formalized in statute, but it's the practical interpretation of the courts. Also "in the best interest of the child" is code for 'whatever the mother, or the court decides - subject to revision by the mother or the court at any time with no structured process.
re: debtor's prison
If it really is abolished, I wonder whether men who don't pay alimony are put in prison for other reasons. It's a hypothesis ofc but i wouldn't be surprised if something about arresting men for not paying is framed as a felony and voila, prison.
piecharthosen 2 weeks ago
@phellinisinistra IF YOU ANNIALATE THE MAN, YOU KILL THOUSANDS. WOULD YOU LIKE IT IF MALES ANNIALATED FEMALES? FUCK NO!
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I love you!!!!
cobbij86 3 weeks ago
Ah the thorney old "rights" issue.
I think that its important to note that if rights are not inherant and are in fact granted by governments, then what we are talking about is priveleges, which can be withdrawn or adjusted at the stroke of a pen.
To give this awesome power to a group of usually uneducated self serving and dishonest people seems completely insane to me.
Why cant we all insist that rights are inherant? To do otherwise will just lead to the typical genocides, wars etc.
sidvidkid 1 month ago
Norway recently withdrew all the funding to so called "gender studies" in scientific research much due to a documentary "hjernevask" (Brainwash) shown on National Tv NRK. It shines the light on how feminism do not hold up to science when faced with biology and psychology.
sweden still keeps up the gender fascism.
The show has English subtitles and should be seen and spread by anybody antifeminist and interested in the present nordic situation.
Just search " hjernevask english " on youtube.
crangdaniel 1 month ago 2
@crangdaniel
Hi thanks for the link, i searched for it on youtube found the norwegian version but couldnt find one with subtitles. i gotta link to vimeo which apparently has subtitled one, but need a password to view it. googled it too but no luck finding english subtitled version. i wonder do you have any ideas or maybe a password for vimeo?
thanks again
sidvidkid 1 month ago
@sidvidkid the password is in the description of the youtube version of the documentary.
OperatorOscillation 2 weeks ago
@crangdaniel very good series.
NEOBAK 1 week ago
@NEOBAK Glad you guys enjoy it, spread the word!
crangdaniel 1 week ago
my only addendum here is that we cannot only define rights as those legally determined by society e.g. in cases like slavery where persons are deemed by law to be chattle. simply because the collective agreement is that they are not human, i argue, any living, breathing, humanoid outside of the womb is therefore human & entitled to certain inalienable rights of "humanity." which, again, are determined by society but not necessarily legally enshrined or dispensed consistently & equittably.
TheEllemnop 1 month ago
We violate the rights of men, by putting them in debtors prison, because it's convenient, we already have everyone deluded of this basic injustice. I've been with you 100% in your arguments, (this is the second part I've watched so far) and this area (rights of the child) has been the one that has always tripped me up.
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I wonder if anyone has ever tried to make this into a supreme court case using the argument of sex discrimination in the courts. Because when you think about it this is true. Am Man can not stop a woman from having an abortion. And he cannot stop her from putting the child up for adoption if they aren't married. But if she so chooses to carry the child full term and keep the child he is obligated to pay for that child for 18-21 years.
JRMCNEA 1 month ago 2
@JRMCNEA Just search " sexism busters " on youtube and watch the video. All the best.
crangdaniel 1 week ago
@crangdaniel oh and dont forget to donate!
crangdaniel 1 week ago
Hey GWW love your work. Fr Bob here I was wondering if you could send me that sources of the study done concerning children doing better in a 1 parent home when that parent is their father I am really interested in this area.
I am really interested in this area. Again thanks for your work.
mraNewfoundland 1 month ago
@mraNewfoundland Soon as I can get my hands on the stats, I will. Warren Farrell used it (or a combination of several studies) as source material for one of his books, and noted the stats in his video "Why men earn more: the startling truth behind the wage gap".
My plate's really full right now, so I'm having to put off hunting all over for sources I should have held onto in the first place. If I stumble onto it, I'll post the link. If not, it may be a few weeks.
girlwriteswhat 1 month ago
@girlwriteswhat I can totally understand and hey there is not rush I think your work that you have been doing on your own blog, here and at AVFM is wonderful, because you can articulate what I would like to say but find myself getting frustrated on times to get it all out in a logical concise way, so again thank you for your work.
Juggling all this and family life and work at the same time. My hats off to you. Ok ok ok I will try not to swell your head too much lol. Keep up the good work
mraNewfoundland 1 month ago
I've been watching your videos, and can I just say, I'd love to see you argue this stuff in a "women's history" class. The amount of rage you'd cause would put a huge smile on my face. You definitely have done your homework and took time to think about the real effects. It shows.
FallenAquila 1 month ago
I like what she said about debtors' prisons. I remember in grade school my history teacher brought up debtors' prisons old England. I remember thinking how human rights must have been really trampled on back then and how wrong it is to treat humans like animals and lock them up in cages on a whim. Little did I know, many years later in my own country...
ActaNonVerba71 1 month ago
@RedLanternXY "hush little baby don't say a word.....daddy's gonna catch buy you a mockingbird"
ActaNonVerba71 1 month ago
One pointI really appreciate girlswriteswhat's bringing up is that feminists are largely the complete opposite of what they claim to be. For instance, feminists like shrouding themselves in adjectives like "progressive" and "modern". They insult men who disagree with them with words like "obsolete" or "regressive" or "stuck in the 1950's". Yet, babying women or giving them special rights is as old as humanity itself. It's just now they want it with no gratitude or responsibility in return.
ActaNonVerba71 1 month ago
Hey girlwriteswhat, thanks for another brilliant video and your support for the MRM. In your video you mentioned a report on the wellbeing outcomes of children raised by single parents where single fathers did better at 26 measures than single mothers. I've been googling for a reference but no luck, could you help with a citation please?
zenmetheus 1 month ago
@zenmetheus I'll have to go digging for it or hit up Warren Farrell. I've got access to some stuff and some people, but it might be a few days before I can put my hands back on the actual document.
I really should get more organized, oy.
girlwriteswhat 1 month ago
@girlwriteswhat I've got Warren Farrell's book on order, it should arrive next week, if it's in there I'll find it. Thanks for such a speedy reply by the way. You vlog about topics so close to home, I really admire that courage. My family can't tolerate discussion of these topics without someone being shouted and bullied in silence. Any plans for a "men can't have a valuable contribution to any feminist conversation unless it's to submit to feminism" videos? :-)
zenmetheus 1 month ago
@zenmetheus Frankly, there are about 100 topics I want to address. And yes, that will be one of them. :)
If it's worth anything, I'm pretty sure W.F. Mentioned the 26 markers in his presentation, "Why men earn more: the startling truth behind the pay gap".
girlwriteswhat 1 month ago
The part about the rights of the fetus being asserted by the mother because someone can get in trouble for forcing her to miscarry is such a predictable lying feminist nonsense. A dog has more rights than a fetus. If I kill Sam's dog I can get in legal trouble. If Sam kills Sam's dog he can get in legal trouble. If I kill Susie's fetus I can get in legal trouble. If Susie kills Susie's fetus she gets in no legal trouble.
ActaNonVerba71 1 month ago
If empathy for men is good, which you've argued (strongly) for in a previous video, then you therefore think that empathy is good. If you think that empathy is good, then empathy for the unborn is also good - but yet your stance on abortion is not consistent with this principle. A principle is not a principle, but merely an opinion, when it is applied subjectively / in a vacuum. You seem very intelligent, I think you know better. Consistency is virtue - either you follow the principl or u do not
regresseur 1 month ago
@regresseur What makes you think that I have no empathy for the unborn?
girlwriteswhat 1 month ago 3
@girlwriteswhat Just to be clear, one can have empathy for the unborn and even believe that they are "people" entitled to rights and still be pro choice.
Woman invites guy to party. Guy gets drunk and becomes beliggerant, he starts to threaten to kill the woman, he starts to maim the woman. Woman kicks man out of her house into a freezing blizzard. Guy dies. It's self defense.
Ok, instead the guy has a dog, and the dog dies. Same thing.
Love your work.
NativeNewMexican 1 month ago
@girlwriteswhat When I have sex with a woman, I'm agreeing to the obligations that may result from my actions. Maybe it's sad that I have no say on her decisions concerning the child, but I'll fully accept my responsibilities. Slaves don't decide to become slaves, they are forced into it. I, on the other hand, freely and consciously chose to have sex with full knowledge of the likely consequences. How can the consequences of my free and responsible actions make a slave out of me?
javoshio 2 weeks ago
@regresseur Too many assumptions to be a logical arguement. You assume you know what she thinks based on a few thoughts shared.
Words are a way to transfer thoughts and ideas but they are NOT the thought or the idea. They are words and have meaning but are interpreted diferently by diferent people.
I think you are interpreting a lot of things she said in a negative way intentionaly.
Trying to find a flaw in her statements based on your BELIEF is not logic.
monster8090 1 month ago
Rights are imaginary."... as determined by society" (paraphrasing the definition you referenced) only serves to substantiate this. When one speaks of rights, and uses them as a defense, they're essentially using something that doesn't even exist, a mere construct of the human mind, and only that, to support their argument. Rights is a convenient way to excuse the tragic reality that is abortion. The fundamental Q should not be one of rights, but one of morality. E.g. Is a D&E abortion moral?
regresseur 1 month ago
sorry to break up the informend discussion, where is part 3? was it removed, because I can't find it in the suggestions section?
SomeoneBeginingWithI 1 month ago
@girlwriteswhat :
Your discussions are absolutely Great ! Thanks !
These mistaken ideas you mention are the result of 45 years of "Feminist" Domestic Violence Industry Evil Indoctrination that is now Indoctrinated into Politics, the Government, Courts, Police and General Public, Encouraging an Epidemic of False Accusations of Sexual Harassment, Domestic Violence and Rape, that:
- Women are Good, All Men are Violent and Rapists!
- Women need Protection, Men must be Prosecuted and Jailed!
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This woman is such a breath of fresh air. Thank you for pointing out many of these injustices that have been eating away at me. And no one cares to hear a male say it. It is very much appreciated. Thanks!!!
SwuaveWEB 1 month ago
Only one issue with this video (Excellent series by the way), you mention that the childs interests are best served by giving custody to the father, if custody had to be given.
I think this is probably due to the nature of custody hearings, overwhelmingly for a father to be given custody not only does the mother have to be a bad parent, he has to be a good one. (Being mediocre wont cut it due to the presumption toward women.)
officechairpotato 1 month ago
@officechairpotato When I first heard that statistic (from Warren Farrell), I assumed the same. However, there are areas where fathers simply do better than mothers--enforcing boundaries, upholding standards of behavior, etc. The way he put it was, 'We tend to think empathy creates empathy, but it doesn't. An expectation of considering others, not always getting your own way, and being held to consistent standards of behavior is what creates empathy.'
Kids need leaders as well as nurturers.
girlwriteswhat 1 month ago 4
@girlwriteswhat I believe that its more of a problem with selfishness and pretend empathy (being that the focus is on their own emotions rather than the emotions of others) than empathy itself. I've known cold hearted people who pretend to have emotions and sensitivity when it suits their needs.
Thank you for speaking about all this. Makes me feel like there are truly women who understand that we must fight for equality for all people, rather than focus on one sex or one race.
Pax00Imperium 1 month ago
Regarding the child support dimension, I am among those who consider that a child, even an adopted one, should have the right to know both of his natural parents. There are medical reasons, but there is also a moral dimension: while it may be impossible to enforce a child's RIGHT to support and/or patrimony from both parents, that does not in my mind lessen the moral OBLIGATION of parents to nurture their children, and they need to be confronted with the incarnation of that obligation.
rustypolymath 1 month ago
my mom was a lesbian and she used what I call the "single mom/feminist shotgun wedding" tool on my legal father... 2 years before she died she woke up but she didn't h "get it" when she was fascist... I am a masculine gay guy and I like being male and get hate for that... I am not afraid of strong women, my mom's 1st partner could do badass pushups and her closest people knew about her as all of my close friends do and it is know big deal...
MrSpemat 1 month ago
I have been thinking these things for so long. I wonder how it is "acceptable" for me (female) to trick a guy into getting me pregnant, then deciding to have the baby and make him pay but it's not okay for him to just say he wants out. I just don't understand it. Thank you so much for these videos, you can word these things so much better than I can.
Greetings from Germany!
CemeteryVlogs 2 months ago 2
You're very intelligent and I enjoy these videos. I found you on Reddit so I honestly don't know anything other than your youtube name. Are you at least writing a book?
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Women empathetic to men's rights and resentful of misandry touch my heart. Women like girlwriteswhat make me cry tears of hope and heal some of my bitterness. Thank you for what you're doing.
FinnzyWinzy 2 months ago
The real problem with this legal issue, as it is, that this society would have very few legal/political problems if it weren't for one group of dishonorable and criminal people. I refer to my namesake, the police. 100%, not hyperbole, of police are career criminals. If they obeyed their oaths this slavery against men would be non existent. Police decide whether to obey orders or the Constitution, and subsequent cases explaining the Constitution. Cops choose to be order followers! (Cont)
Copsarescum 2 months ago
@Copsarescum Cont. The anti-peonage act of 1867 "all laws or usages of any state by virtue of which any attempt shall hereafter be made to establish, maintain or enforce, directly or indirectly, the voluntary or involuntary service or labor of any persons as peons, in liquidation of any debt or obligation, or otherwise, are now null and void." prevents debt slavery but try to get lower courts to obey it, good luck. (cont)
Copsarescum 2 months ago
@Copsarescum Cont. Try to prevent power hungry cops from enforcing money making statutes for their bosses. The problem is lack of accountability. Police are absolutely not as eager to enforce the "laws" on their buddy cops, judges, politicians, banksters, etc. We all know this. If cops simply observed and enforced then the jails would be full of the people they hang out with the most, cops, judges, prosecutors, court clerks, etc. This violates the equal application clause of the USC. Cont.
Copsarescum 2 months ago
@Copsarescum cont. All police are guilty of doing this and simply innumerable other crimes daily/hourly. Article 1 sec 10 of the USC states plainly that no state shall solicit as payment of a debt money not tendered in gold or silver. A cop enforcing any law, court order, etc on someone based on the non payment of a debt in UNLAWFUL money is a criminal. Conspiring with others to do it makes it a R.I.C.O crime, they are mobsters! They swore an oath and they should be held to it!
Copsarescum 2 months ago
your mind is amazing, I wish I knew of you when I filmed GUPI (Guilty Until Proven Innocent),,,we would have spent an entire segment on you!
jynxonline 2 months ago
@jynxonline Wow, I'm flattered. I watched the trailer for GUPI, and what struck me is that there's a disconnect (you see it when it comes to criminal sentencing, false accusations, systemic discrimination, the disintegration of family, all kinds of things) between the race angle and the gender angle. We spend a lot of time talking about black people getting harsher sentences than whites, but little talking about how men get longer sentences than women. (cont)
girlwriteswhat 2 months ago
@girlwriteswhat There was a recent case of a false rape accusation--a lie made up by a woman, who "invented" a black perpetrator. And while there was much made of the fact that she chose her "perp" based on racist views to make her story more believable, and this was a deep wrong against black men, no one really said anything about what it says about men in general.
Black men have this double hammer of racism and misandry to deal with, and no one wants to examine the gender side of it. (cont)
girlwriteswhat 2 months ago 2
@girlwriteswhat Our views are "woman good, man bad", and "white safe and productive, black dangerous and shiftless". The combined weight of the stereotypes against black men is just staggering, and can't be totally lifted unless we work, as a society, on our views of men as well as black people.
girlwriteswhat 2 months ago 2
@girlwriteswhat I personally know this double hammer of which you speak! I'm really considering doing some writing about this, myself. I may email you for future comments.
MyOttoLink 1 month ago
@girlwriteswhat I did a study in college regarding gender disparity in sentencing. According to the NBS women,actually prosecuted for crime and not exclusively used as snitches to prosecute the more acceptable/profitable men, with the same alleged crime and criminal history as a man uniformly received between 1/5 and 1/8 the sentence as a man. But always remember that women have far less prosecutions initiated against them than men. People aren't comfortable throwing them in the slammer. cont.
Copsarescum 2 months ago
@Copsarescum cont. The deputy director for the prisons of the state I went to college in came to my sociology class. I asked her why women receive 1/5 to 1/8 the sentence as men apples to apples, cited the stat in entirety, and her reply was simple "Because women tend to be mothers", I replied "well don't men tend to be fathers?". She shrugged her shoulders and remained silent. The feminists in the class scowled at me with usual disdain. The attractive women looked on sympathetically.
Copsarescum 2 months ago
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jynxonline 2 months ago
I like you, I like you a lot. but you are going to catch a lot of hate mail. Don't let it get you down.
Hobgoblin1975 2 months ago 37
@Hobgoblin1975 One troll, no hatemail yet. Not that I think it won't happen, though. :)
girlwriteswhat 2 months ago 4
@girlwriteswhat In your videos you refer to various studies, for example you talk about how a child raised by a single parent tends to do better when raised by the father. Can you cite some references that support your points?
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If a woman murders her newborn children, its called post postpartum depression and she's not accountable and needs treatment. If a man coming back from a long tour in the Middle East murders his newborn children its called straight murder (infanticide) and he is completely accountable.
blackburn9 2 months ago 3
@girlwriteswhat Your videos/writings are really good. Your appeal to female accountability is great. You have an excellent grasp of a man's current position. Keep up the fight, it's awesome to have women like you on our side. But please, stop saying uh and um!
LJ271828 2 months ago
@LJ271828 I'm working on it. :P
girlwriteswhat 2 months ago
@RedLanternXY
Gender norms wont go.. because women, especially feminists, don't want them to go. It is like a driver pushing the gas while loudly demanding that the car stop itself. Or an arsonists setting fire and pouring fuel on the fire while loudly demand that someone else put out the flames.
utubehayter 2 months ago 18
@utubehayter
Women as a gender are a part of the system just as men are. Most just want to live normal, happy lives, and think that was the liveral media and politicians tell them are essentially true and fair...because they are our voice and our representatives respectively.
Don't confuse people that just want to live their happy, simple lives with sycophants who want to manipulate the system for personal gain.
Mathman1ac 2 months ago
@Mathman1ac
Okay, how about I show you one man for ending war, you show me one woman? That they do not care until it hits their self-interest and by "their", I mean "I, me and myself" not even "my brothers, my father or my son". Why should I give women a pass at enjoying their own life when I don't give it to men?
utubehayter 2 months ago
@utubehayter
You shouldn't, but you probably want to. It's biological imperative. Because for every 1 man that can produce 100 offspring in some arbitrary period of time, 1 woman can only produce a tiny fraction thereof. Males, and by attrition men, are biologically expendable. Despite the fact that modern society and innovation have rendered these imperatives meaningless, they still form a critical component of our basic biological function.
Mathman1ac 2 months ago
@Mathman1ac
The good news is the so-called "modern society", especially those that relented to feminists is killing itself by not reproducing enough. Good riddance I say.
utubehayter 2 months ago
@utubehayter
This is evidenced in Japan, actually, where a once skyrocketing population has ground to a near standstill (statistically speaking) due to the ever imposing hyper-feminist/ sociofascist political system. Legislative practices have pacified males to the point of an almost crippling fear. And women that desire lasting, healthy relationships feel that men need to "step up". Oh, the irony of it all.
Mathman1ac 2 months ago
@Mathman1ac
Its not fear. It is calling the bluff on the biological aspect. Women have arrogantly and ignorantly pushed too hard and men are refusing to play along, even if it means no kids and genetic extinction.
I don't blame men at all.
utubehayter 2 months ago 2
@utubehayter I think you are putting some pretty negative accusations on some people who could simply have mad an error.
My self, an libertarian would think a socialist (we're talking about this in a political philosophy context) or a late-Marxist to be mistaken and its ideas to be toxic to society, but I would hardly accuse them to have questionable motives
Popsumpot 2 months ago
@Popsumpot
I didn't claim I knew their motives. I am only commenting on the pattern of what they are doing..i.e. actions.
Also, a mistaken person learns from history, learns from observed effects of certain measures and changes accordingly.
A person whose motives match the results achieved, he/she presses on. Thus sustained effort is not a perfect indicator but a good indication of motives.
utubehayter 2 months ago
@RedLanternXY It's in the best interest of any child to be born to two parents who want it and are committed to working as a team to give it the best life and future possible. A woman taking an accident that derives from irresponsibility or deceit, then turning it into a sequence of decisions that place her own interests above those of both her child and the biological father, is not acting in anyone's interests but her own.
Why is this permissible?
girlwriteswhat 2 months ago 2
@girlwriteswhat
Because mothers, sisters and daughters will throw sons, brothers and fathers under the bus at a moment's notice. (Not all.. but pretty much all).
This is amply demonstrated - MANY women (on both sides) consider abortion, a make or break issue even they may never use it (i.e. nice to have even if just for OTHER women). BUT almost none consider stopping wars (where men are dying) as such...never have. If there are any..please respond and make yourself heard.
utubehayter 2 months ago
@girlwriteswhat
Women take a higher risk in sexual reproduction. As with all other matters they should be held to a higher accountability. Though, it is true that there are many factors that contribute to pregnancy, some of which are of accidents, I believe that the social construct is not equipped, with its current standards, to ensure that the ultimate choice is one that promotes accountability for the mother...especially to promote the welfare of the child.
Mathman1ac 2 months ago
@RedLanternXY The gender norms cant go because they are insperatable from our biology just as our ekeletons are from our physical anatomy. What society can do however is create a society that embraces these differences and allow for success based off personal preference. True equality is in allowing all people have control over their own lives.
Dobogio 2 months ago
@RedLanternXY I suppose one has to look at the part a man plays when having children is not a mutual decision. When a couple goes to buy a car together, they both get a say wrt what to buy. Both their names go on the registration and insurance, and the loan. They both contribute to the maintenance of the car, keeping it full of gas, and to the insurance and car payments. TBC
girlwriteswhat 2 months ago
@girlwriteswhat If they are not buying the car together? If, say, he gives her a ride to the car lot, or gives her advice on what to buy? If he, say, lends her the money for the down payment? It's her car. She made the decision, she bought it, and it's not his car to drive. How responsible is he, then, for maintaining, insuring, and making payments on a car she bought, or keeping it full of gas, even if he played a part in her getting that car?
girlwriteswhat 2 months ago
@RedLanternXY Just paste the link into the address bar after youtube.com. The vid is called "The Reason For Veteran Suicides".
RockingMrE 2 months ago
@RedLanternXY History remembers the brave, while cowards become slaves. I've already seen youngsters and others who can't hack it delude themselves into justifying their reasons to give up. Maybe this will re-energise you:
/watch?v=AVUHalR8P0I&feature=BFa&list=WLA8FC71863A72861B&lf=plpp_video
If it doesn't then nothing will.
RockingMrE 2 months ago
@RedLanternXY men have 0 legal rights to children until the mother gives up her control and the man becomes the primary caregiver (rare if ever) men cannot opt out of parenthood like a woman can at any time its her choice to abort/adopt the child not his, and if she keeps the child he is forced to pay regardless if he wanted the child or not. btw have you never heard of the draft? only men have to sign up for the draft and they get blackballed if they dont...
fixt100 2 months ago
@RedLanternXY I thought you were a fat angry feminist.
182511419139208 2 months ago
@182511419139208 Now now, feminists can certainly be angry without being fat.
girlwriteswhat 2 months ago
@RedLanternXY if you cant dispute them then educate yourself till you can if you decide not to dispute them nobody can give you a reason.
fixt100 2 months ago
@RedLanternXY just wondering why you are angry.
182511419139208 2 months ago
@RedLanternXY the truth is in front of you if you dont want to see it or just want to worry about yourself thats your call not mine just remember who dies in wars to make all these "rights" for women possible....
fixt100 2 months ago
@fixt100 thats definately the sign of oppression right there the opressor class dieing to protect the oppressed and make sure women keep the rights they have "fought for" what a laugh...
fixt100 2 months ago
@RedLanternXY how much do you weigh?
182511419139208 2 months ago
@RedLanternXY are women drafted? do women have to sign up for the draft to vote? what about affirimative action? funding for mens health? short list for hiring women? reduced standards for women in the military/police/fire brigade?
fixt100 2 months ago
@fixt100
I don't think RedLantern is a sane person. Trying to argue with him does not seem to be bearing any fruit..rather, he seems to become more confused and upset.
Mathman1ac 2 months ago
@RedLanternXY Um...wat?
girlwriteswhat 2 months ago
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RockingMrE 2 months ago
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@girlwriteswhat He's lost it. I've seen this happen to MRA's in the past. The pressure gets to them and then they turn on their own.
RockingMrE 2 months ago
Excellent video. I wish I could articulate this position as well as you do. I just noticed that you film your videos in the kitchen. Kind of humorous.
TheOb1iterator 2 months ago 4
Responsibility and rights. Women have all the rights in this situation and no responsibility. That is exactly why in a very true sense men and women are not legally "equal". The "somebody" that has to pay for the children irresponsibly brought into the world is more often than not a male. This why I have a hard time seeing females as equals. Not to mention- disproportionate penalties for the same crimes, women choosing less risky and less paying jobs and screaming pay inequality etc etc
TMac473 2 months ago
@TMac473 Well, as a single mom, I'm not going to say women have no responsibilities in this situation. Or rather, no burdens, since they CAN walk away from responsibility if they choose. In the case of women who force men into fatherhood, those women are taking on responsibilities.
They do, however, have a choice about it. They have rights and choices to go with the burdens. And they should really not be allowed to force responsibility on others for the choices only they are allowed to make.
girlwriteswhat 2 months ago
@girlwriteswhat as far as i know any woman can drop their child off at social services at any age up to adulthood and not have to worry about being responsible anymore so i dont think they have any responsibility other than what they choose to have for the child at any point in their upbringing.
fixt100 2 months ago
Another excellent video. There is such an element of legal fiction that goes into rights. Unalienable "natural" rights are really all we have. Learning to voluntarily co-exist and mutually benefit from interaction is about the best we can hope for in a realistic sense. When it comes to the rights of the fetus in the mother's womb I agree that the mother should have the say on its birth. But after the first trimester, when it feels, it should also have a basic right to exist. (cont)
RockingMrE 2 months ago
@RockingMrE I do however believe that a man should have a choice to opt in or out of the responsibility of a baby. I have set out my views in this regard on my video "What Should MRA's Fight For?" Feel free to check it out if you are interested.
Great video - I'm really enjoying your logic and style of presentation.
RockingMrE 2 months ago
My thoughts are that it is far better for a child to be raised by one or more people who are interested in raising that child, they get nothing or actively lose when one or more feels forced, mother or father. Any person who thinks it is not their choice to raise a child will do the absolute minimum and possibly express resentment toward the child, in my experience. Ideally each child would be a chosen experience by both parents, but realistically that is not always the case.
DeckardShotFirst 2 months ago
@DeckardShotFirst I think it's also important to note that, in a pro-choice society, the child is essentially chosen by one parent--the mother. Of course, SHE still gets to change her mind and walk away, if she wants to, once the child is born.
Ideally, each child is wanted by two people before it is even conceived. We have every power to do this today--yet (IIRC) 60% of pregnancies these days are unplanned and 40% of babies born out of wedlock. Fodder for another video...
girlwriteswhat 2 months ago
With rights come responsibilities: no responsibilities no rights! gww see comment below; what, no comment?
j24601valjean 2 months ago
@j24601valjean Of course I agree with this, but I do believe children have a basic right to life, just like anyone else. Imposing responsibilities on babies is unworkable, obviously. Children have no right to self-determination or the same level of personal autonomy adults should have, but I believe we should all have basic human rights. I really do feel that because babies have no freedom or choice, society does owe them a living once they are born. Adults, not so much.
girlwriteswhat 2 months ago
I'll say it again!
With rights come responsibilities: no responsibilities no rights!
See earlier comment.
girlwriteswhat; no comment?
j24601valjean 2 months ago
@j24601valjean We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness. — That to secure these rights, Governments are instituted among Men, deriving their just powers from the consent of the governed, —
thekingoffunnyfaces 2 months ago
@thekingoffunnyfaces You site fine words which are an excellent basis for a constitution. In order to subscribe to their sentiment you need to accord with their christian heritage. Otherwise they are just mere words.
j24601valjean 2 months ago
@j24601valjean Why?
thekingoffunnyfaces 2 months ago
Great vid, gww.
bweazel 2 months ago
Thanks for your efforts, I have hope again in the fairer sex.
fourltrfred 2 months ago
financial autonomy? Wouldn't That level the playing field for some poor sap who's suckered into paying child support? oh noooo, we can't have that. Your making too much sense.lol.
gmann1695 2 months ago
I have always brought out this arguement... to see the double standards and know one has yet to come back with any logical reponse.
"Except well women carry the baby for 9 months so hell yeah they should have more say if not all about what happens to the baby".
Blackthought 2 months ago
you are quickly becoming my favorite human being in the history of this world.
anime1973 2 months ago 2
I really appreciate your offerings, however, on this issue you seem to me to be confused. With rights come responsibilities: no responsibilities no rights! Ergo, a child however defined – adolescent, toddler, infant, baby, fetus, or clump of cells – has no rights. In a healthy society adults take responsibility for their actions and are held accountable for them. Rights are conveyed through the rules of society, howsoever determined. Rights are not inalienable, quite the contrary.
j24601valjean 2 months ago
Note: This is a big deal.
FingSpaghettiMonster 2 months ago
Holy fuck. She said it. ...
FingSpaghettiMonster 2 months ago
did you change the title of your last video?
182511419139208 2 months ago
@182511419139208 I added the "LPS Part 1", which should have been there in the first place, really.
girlwriteswhat 2 months ago
This video is a stunning display of practical reasoning and common sense. Untainted by emotional reasoning it is a purely logical well thought out argument. Bravo! Personal favourites include 11:06, 12:14 and 14:02.
TMac473 2 months ago
thank you for posting a new video, it made my night
greycloud24 2 months ago
Where did you get the information about fathers and empathy?
FrankJeeves 2 months ago
@FrankJeeves The place I remember hearing it last was a talk on the "Startling Truth Behind the Wage Gap" by Warren Farrell.
Empathy does not create empathy in children. Boundary enforcement, discipline, and the expectation of considering the feelings of others do. Over-empathizing with a child (or anyone) actually creates narcissism, not more empathy.
girlwriteswhat 2 months ago
@girlwriteswhat, you have some good points, but I somewhat disagree with your assessment of child-rearing. I think it's a little extreme and too simplistic.
Children certainly need to be held accountable for their behavior and need to face consequences when they do wrong things. But they also need love and empathy, but not the kind of empathy that gets in the way of the transmission of values. A blend of love and firmness is ideal, I think.
KhagarBalugrak 2 months ago
@KhagarBalugrak Of course. But honestly, we spend too much time tiptoeing around children's feelings, desperately doing anything (even not keeping score at soccer games) to spare their feelings and not damage their self esteem.
I'll always go to the mat for my kids, consider their feelings, let them be who they are, and love them, but I'm not afraid of calling them on bullshit (especially selfishness), or stepping on them hard when it's absolutely necessary.
Kids really do need both.
girlwriteswhat 2 months ago
@girlwriteswhat, I agree with you in terms of "liberal" parents. Parents on the American Left are way too delicate with their children, and end up teaching them nothing resembling values of any kind. Both indulgent and evasive, these parents end up creating monumentally selfish and self-absorbed children.
You sound like a good parents who has a nice balance, that understands the necessity of both love and discipline.
KhagarBalugrak 2 months ago
@girlwriteswhat, I myself am neither on the Left or the Right. I'm vehemently anti-war, vehemently anti-capitalism, but also extremely anti-feminism. I see the American Left and the American Right as very very similar. And indeed they are; on all the important issues, both the Democrats and the Republicans pass bills by an overwhelming (sometimes unanimous) majority. We need to think outside the political spectrum, like the Occupy Wall Street people, if we are to save our country.
KhagarBalugrak 2 months ago
@girlwriteswhat, if you'll notice, most of the Wall Street protesters are hardcore Christians, but not the kind that believe they have the right to kill whoever they want because they are "born again". Rather, they uphold all life as sacred. I do, in the end, think even feminists have value as people, but they are doing something demonic and destructive to men, and for that reason, I speak out against them. But in the end, I think everyone and everything is sacred.
KhagarBalugrak 2 months ago
@girlwriteswhat, sorry for babbling, but I want to say just one more thing: the Right and the Left are divided by what has been called "Wedge Issues": gay marriage, abortion, sex education, etc. These issues have almost no effect on society no matter what is decided (though abortion has more than the others), and yet the politicians have used these largely fake issues to keep Americans from realizing that our government is enslaving us.
KhagarBalugrak 2 months ago
@KhagarBalugrak I'm right and left--socially liberal and fiscally conservative. That is, I believe people should be free to live as they wish, but that they should also be expected to finance and be responsible for their own choices. I'm pro-capitalism, but anti-materialism. Financial security and independence is the impetus behind innovation, technological progress, pretty much everything. I really don't mind the idea of rewarding that with money, or with market forces deciding value. TBC
girlwriteswhat 2 months ago
@girlwriteswhat At the same time, I understand we evolved in feast/famine times, where you glutted yourself in times of abundance to prepare for the next lean season. People didn't used to succumb to those instincts, because money was expensive. Now we have easy credit, and subsidized everything, and no one really has any idea what, say, their education cost everyone else, and they all have cards with free money on them, woot!
girlwriteswhat 2 months ago
@girlwriteswhat By the time the famine arrives, people are so far in debt they have no hope of digging their way out, and thousands in student loans the government will pay for when they default, and a subsidized education that got them a job at McDonalds. Honestly, money is too damn cheap these days, no one understands what it's really worth. But they sure have a lot of cool stuff!
girlwriteswhat 2 months ago
Interestingly enough my ex gf who was a very liberal women studies gradituate never saw the faults and dangerous behind student loans or this"easy come casin flow"society. She would constantly boast to me about her education since in her mind attending univsersity is the appex of intellecutal superiority and all the while I constantly reminded her"your on borrowed time and for all things women studies1" but she didnt care,being able to say"Im in university"is all she cared about.
Dobogio 2 months ago
@girlwriteswhat, I think different children have different needs to a certain degree as well. I was always someone who was sensitive and hard on myself, so my parents (perhaps coincidentally) gave me more love than discipline, and it worked. I take other people into consideration just about always (none of us is absolutely perfect).
But most parents these days are either all empathy or just cold and harsh - and both end up creating narcissism or psychopathy. A balance is needed.
KhagarBalugrak 2 months ago
@girlwriteswhat, I suppose it might be simpler to put it this way: all empathy and no discipline creates a childish, narcissistic type of personality devoid of ethical values and self-control, whereas all (harsh) discipline and no empathy creates a sadistic, calculating, sociopathic type of personality. In actual fact, both these personality types are very similar, despite their apparently widely differing attributes.
KhagarBalugrak 2 months ago
@girlwriteswhat Very true.
FrankJeeves 2 months ago
Children are wholly owned property of mothers. That's not formalized in statute, but it's the practical interpretation of the courts. Also "in the best interest of the child" is code for 'whatever the mother, or the court decides - subject to revision by the mother or the court at any time with no structured process.
johntheother 2 months ago
@johntheother - damn, should have watched all the way through before commenting - minute 11 states exactly what I did
johntheother 2 months ago
@johntheother Kind of humbling isn't it? But in such a wonderfull way. I am reall looking froward to much more!
Yakenjokin 2 months ago