George Collins on Sexual Addiction - Part 1

[bigfatleech123]

Many people think the human animal is so complex. But in fact, the human animal is so disturbingly simple. The human desire follows a rough pattern of: growing up in a loving condition, finding oneself and gaining competence, finding mate and building pair bond, raising young, and finally finding meaning in life and accepting the fate of death peacefully. That is the algorithm of the bipedal naked ape.

[number1muso]

Wow. Inspiring story there.

Hope my blog might help some people :) It's about my battle with sec addiction. Check it out by first going onto my youtube channel. Click on the link there to my google page which has a link on it to my blog. Hope it helps.

[depri87]

how often is too often? twice everyday?

[StopSexualUrges]

this will become a thing of the PAST : )

[branham408]

It's sounds like Mr. Collins have the ultimate solution for the subject at hand. Unfortunately, the solutions has a price tag. There are millions I'm sure that can benefit off this, but at the same time there are millions out there that wants to purify their mind but cant afford it. In order to save live(s), we must flood the internet with free solutions versus free porn....but until then, lets pray for free solutions.

[compulsionsol]

Thanks for your response. Yes, we DO have solutions here at Compulsion Solutions. And, yes, it DOES cost money. But, what's the true cost of continued sexual addiction? I know. It took me forty two years of my life before I became sober. What a cost to me...in time, lost income, and relationships! I remember paying the guy who helped ME along...money I couldn't afford. it was worth every penny...and I never missed a meal. Watch for my new book...coming out soon. Should be VERY useful. George

[jesuskopp]

There is a free solution!

It is the word of God!

But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints. Let there be no filthiness nor foolish talk nor crude joking, which are out of place, but instead let there be thanksgiving.

[tinman1708]

God doesnt exist

[jesuskopp]

Why do you say that?

[tinman1708]

@jesuskopp Why? thats what i believe. through science were learning more and more about where we came from and it isnt looking good for the religion camp. if he does exist; Prove it. but untill u have a milligram of proof dont offer some false solution to everything. its false hope.

[jesuskopp]

So, wat is it that science has that is making it not look so good for the belief n GOD?

If I told you its just "What I believe" would you consider that a good reason?

Would you consider all the changed lives even a bit of prof?

[ZapBrannigan69]

@tinman1708 ahh be careful with the "prove it!" argument. You can't prove a higher power doesnt exist, and jesuskopp cant prove one does exist. Its a null result.. not proof

[compulsionsol]

Plantapagina, good to hear from you. I'd be happy to do an email assessment of your situation with you. That way I could understand your issues and help you with some positive solutions. Let me know. Best, George Collins, Director

[plantapagina]

Hi George. I'm very interested in leaving this problem and I'd be very happy to do the e-mail assesment. Thank you.

[compulsionsol]

Contact me through the website. George

[plantapagina]

Hi. I'm a sex addict, and I have social phobia. I live in Colombia and I'm ready to do anything to get out of this problem. I'm in a twelve step program.

[Shantiseeker]

This video and person changed my life.

I became addicted to pornography as an adolesant and carried it into adulthood. His story mimicks my own and we are brothers in the pain and confusion it caused.

George is a one of a kind, utterly amazing human. He is quietly helping make the world a more beautiful place.

I am forever grateful for what he has done for me.

[compulsionsol]

Thank you. You're very kind with your praise. Just remember, YOU are the one who TOOK the ideas and direction that were offered here and converted your negative/addictive thoughts, impulses,and actions into the beautiful life you have now. You STOPPED living in reaction to your history. Bravo to YOU! Best, George

[foolsgoldsoma]

great video. you can take this man seriously because he's been there and has struggled with addictions.

[hbashi77]

there is no cure for sex addict for sure man u can do watever u want

but u still will have sex

[djtolman]

there's a difference between being a sex addict and wanting to have sex. being addicted to sex is when you have an obsession and compulsion with sex.

[ZapBrannigan69]

@djtolman perhaps it isnt an addiction, but rather a compulsive disorder. Lets not throw around the word "addiction" willy nilly

[djtolman]

@ZapBrannigan69 If it was a compulsive disorder then it wouldn't be limited to sex. I wasn't throwing the word "addiction" around. Because what I said is what addiction is. Let me elaborate a little more just a tiny bit. Addiction is a conditioned state that creates an obsession which causes the compulsion to want sexual activity and in turn that feeds the sexual addiction. That is my statement 2 years later.

[clint0nc0llier]

The solution to sexual addiction is the smae as it is for all addictions and all individuals: twelve steps, viz. *** FISTS AND BOOTS ***

[myintellectualjourny]

(2)

In other words, the solution for me has been both Social and Physiological. I suspect these are two aspects anyone dealing with an addiction should consider.

My sense of self / social esteem has seen a great deal of improvement like a cloud that was over my whole estistence has been lifted.

Stick with finding your way through what you're facing until you find a solution. There's a reason you feel as you do about it. You're made for something more.

[myintellectualjourny]

(1)

I'm a 27 year old and recently getting a grip on my s.a. Two things that I've found vital in getting a grip on it has been having a healthy (steady) social life (which for me has meant spending time with friends or family on a daily basis = on weekdays, doing something social every night and weekends something both days.) And doing exercise when alone and the tension / energy becomes hard to ignore as a way of harnessing and expressing it / giving it an outlet.

[jojojames1995]

hey im 22 and im in the same boat. after 9 year of addiction i am letting go. i found out 4 years a go that i was addicted after repeated;y trying to stop but continusly failing to do so. it was driving me crazy. it affected my family, friends, school, gf's and the rest but still couldnt stop.

what help me was meditation. not giving it free liscence nor supressiing it was able to overcome the craving. phew, what a relief!

good luck y'all who are trying to overcome it

[myintellectualjourny]

"not giving it free license nor suppressing it was able to overcome the craving"

I think you hit on something central right there Jojo. It sounds like finding alternative "outlets" to channel the energy/tension through was important for both of us.

I'm excited that it's turned out to really be possible for someone like me to really be this free. I dealt with it for so many years, I was starting to wonder or at least thought I would need a girl friend to get a handle on it.

Not so.

[jojojames1995]

1) yeah man. the buddist use the metaphor of a fire burning. when u give it free license (acting out on you desires)you create more tension by adding fuel to the fire. same thing when u suppress the craving. you push the negativity deeper into you subconscience which will come up at a later date in more and violent ways! when you let the negativity come to the surface and dont react, letting is manifest and let it pass away without reacting you no longer adding fuel to the addiction.

[jojojames1995]

by not reacting and giving it free license you find that the negativities stored at the depth of the mind come to the surface. again by not reacting you let the negativities come to the surface and pass away and you mind becomes free'er from negativities

[myintellectualjourny]

Sounds like a pretty helpful perspective.

Do you think all sexual tension is "negative" though. I tend to look at it as positive and natural, and needing healthy outlet rather than a destructive one.

I don't judge the tension as "negative" in and of itself, but rather see there being healthy and unhealthy ways of expressing / reacting to it.

What do you think?

[jojojames1995]

no, not at all.lol

but by having aversion to the tension could cause trouble because then you either run away from the sensation or give in a negative expression( ie. porn).

i dont know about you, but through my own experience when i express through porn or some random partner it causes great suffering.

[jojojames1995]

not only for the people around me, but i think more importantly for myself ( i have to live with me each moment of everyday).

reacting in a healthy with someone you truely love is a different story. then is is full of joy, love, peace, and harmony and these qualities does not stay limited to you self the people around you get affected aswell. im just happier when im free from the 'drug'

[myintellectualjourny]

Absolutely. Yeah, I see what you're saying now. And that's definately been my experience also.

It's definately been a "weight lifted off my shoulders" "shadow off my back" kind of experience.

[br5439]

great video

[compulsionsol]

Thanks. I had a prepared "talk" to give until I found out that I would be debating nina Hartley, my former drug of choice. thanks for the comment. George

[Shantiseeker]

George's gift is that he is one of us. I owe him my life. He helped point me in the right direction the rest was up to me.

He works from the heart, no tricks here.

[Hopefl1]

I heard of SLAA but don't remember what its letter stand for. Good luck in your helping others. There are many in need.

[compulsionsol]

Sex and Love addicts Anonymous (SLAA)

[Hopefl1]

Are you familiar with Roy K? HE started Sexaholics Anonymous years ago. I met him at a seminar when I was 19/20 years old and I identified with out a doubt.

[Hopefl1]

The images still come to my head but I am able to watch them and let them go. Some a little harder to let go then others. Some do though come out of nowhere. I would call these perhaps the temptation type. I have been home sick now for 5 days and this would have been an opportunity to really let it take over but the opposite has happened.

[Hopefl1]

Yes it is. Understanding now that the stress in my life created by me have not helped at all to my recovery. Bills, credit cards, unbilled clients from up to 2 years ago and not having much money to live on. I am now looking at living a simple life with only things that I need and not things that I want.

[compulsionsol]

Great news! congratulations on your recovery! I haven't had the pleasure of meeting Roy K. I came up through SLAA. Good to hear from you. Best, George

[Hopefl1]

Hello. I am finally getting a grip on this addiction after 20 years. I went to my first SA meeting when I was 19/20 years old. I had problems with masturbation in my early teens. Thank God I had another program that I have 10 years of success with now. I have learned so much about myself and the addiction that I am looking to pursue this as a career to help others that struggle. I am currently writing a format for a workshop but I will be looking for help as soon as the format is finished.

[SiHuntBr]

I too am addicted to pornography. The worst part about it, unlike alcohol or smoking, is that objectification is ubiquitous in our society. Sexual maturity is stagnated because of addictions like this. I also think that one of these addictions, i.e the aforementioned ones, open a door to more addictions. Porn is a very destructive tool for life or for wellbeing. I was no abused, not that i remember anyways, so I want to break free from this hellish addiction. I hate it and want to be free

[compulsionsol]

Hi, Good to hear from you. I'd be happy to do a (free) telephone assessment of your situation with you. That way I could understand your issues and, most likely, come up with some positive solutions. Let me know through the email website address. George

[Hopefl1]

Abuse does not have to be physical abuse. Emotional abuse is extremely damaging also. A parent who is never around while your growing up or one that may makes you feel less then will create a need in you for an outlet.

[myintellectualjourny]

Mmm... this was a part of my experience. After my parents got divorced, my dad slowly drifted out of our life to the point where by the time I was a teen (and sexually "awakened"), I didn't have a father figure for a few of the most important years. Luckily I had a big brother and mentor figure who came into it.

Still my addiction to masturbation (something that I began exploring around age 5), I've recently gotten a grip on (that's 20 years, by some measure.)

[andrjsh]

You're right, but one field of addiction "science," for want of a better word, sees the same biochemical reaction taking place when one "uses" a substance or a repetitive action, specifically, a release of dopamine, which the body then gets used to. There is, however, a definite physical withdrawl from, say, heroin and booze, but the "jonesing" or craving you get from giving up any "crutch," whether it's a substance or act, as I am seeing it, is the body saying, "Where's my dopamine?"

[hofftwat]

Well said. I suppose if I had to choose an addiction it would be sex any day.

[andrjsh]

The problem with sexual addiction is not merely liking sex--since we are sexual beings--but using sex, porn, prostitutes, &c., as a crutch, to handle stress and find value in yourself and affirmation from others, in the way that alcoholics drink, junkies shoot up, gamblers can't escape the video poker machine, and plenty of people curl up with a tub of ice cream at bedtime.

[lannytyus]

I know what you are going through. i fought sex addictions for about 16 years and im only 26. i was molested as a child and since then have been in somemany destuctive sexual cycles. I am starting to beat my addiction with knowlege of what it is. or you in any support groups trust me they help

[Shantiseeker]

This video changed my life. After I watched I was never the same. Thanks George.