I'm of the "belief" that each sexuality is as abundant as one another. It's not too far a stretch of the imagination to think that perhaps A LOT of "straight" people are faking it. I know so many guys who pretend to be the straightest guys in the world, but when you're not straight. You tend to notice closet cases a lot more easily.
its all nature. i've known i was 'different' since i was about 6, i didn't sexualise it then obviously but being gay is what i summed up as 'different' ... nurture may play a part for some people but i know that we are born with a certain predisposition. nurture simply determines how freely you come to accept it and develop. Its like being born with brown hair or blonde... you might choose to dye it but you're still naturally one or the other.
I think a lot of the confusion comes from people mistaking "nurture" for "choice," which isn't accurate. To say that nurture plays a part is not to say that anyone chose anything. One of the leading hypotheses is that prenatal hormone levels play a big role, which is clearly environmental and not genetic.
I really don't like the emphasis on "it's not a choice;" if you're desperate to prove you didn't choose being gay, it must mean that you are ashamed and think it's wrong. Nonsense.
I've liked boys my whole life, and I didn't think it wasn't normal for me to when I was in grade two running around kissing other boys, in fact I didn't even know what being gay was or meant. I think puberty would be the realizing stage. But no, I don't believe we're asexual.
Rarely in life is anything merely a step by step but instead a combination of factors. The majority of the community would like you to believe it's merely biological but there could also be sociological components as well. Men and women could be born with the right combination of genes to develop homosexuality but not necessarily be born gay. Sexuality is such a fluid concept that it's ridiculous to think it's a simply black or white.
oh my god, seriously? why does everyone feel like he is allowed to have an opinion about this? it's an issue for science (which has been answered). i don't feel like going into the many components that make up one's sexuality but i'm sure theyre on wikipedia.
@avafrav Well you've obviously done your research! Silly of all these people forgetting that wikipedia is a reliable source with answers too all of life's mysteries! Hoobastank!
I was watching this and when brandons hads were moving up & down at 0:05 and there was a warcraft (or watevr that stuff is) ad beside the video with this alein thingy and it was dancing with brandon in like perfect sync!! okay thats all Bey>> (Bey-ey=B B+e+y=Bye[math just in case u were lost]{those were brackets just for people who arent familiar with a keyboard or characters or symbols and the next punctuation u will see is called a thingy>>})>> BYE!
It's very unlikely that your upbringing has anything to do with your sexuality. Genetics and hormonal issues in the womb are more likely causes. I've been having crushes on the same sex as early as ~7 yrs old. I didn't realize that "noticing" someone is actually called a crush so I didn't know that I was gay until I was ~10....I know that's pretty weird. Nothing particularly special happened to me as a child, I just happen to be a gay guy who thought all along that I was straight, lol.
@MissLaVesta I'm glad you see that gay guys aren't just overly feminme guys that want to be girls. There are alot of extremely normal, nice looking gay guys out there :)
I have never decided that I wanted to be gay. To this day, I wish I were straight (would make life much easier). To me, if you choose to be gay, it's because you're bisexual and therefore are able to make that choice. Sorry, but I disagree that being gay is a choice (to any degree) for non-bisexuals.
@Alex7STV I firmly disagree with you about gay being a choice for bisexuals. I have been bisexual all my life, predominantly attracted to females. But in a period of 1.5 years, my sexual orientation swung over to gay. My orientation has a mind of its own and I do not have the capability to manipulate it at my own will. That is not to say that I am ashamed of being gay, however. I didn't choose to be bisexual. I didn't choose to be gay. The only thing I did choose was to accept it.
@McGarvinStudios Sorry about my choice on words. After re-reading my comment, I see why you responded the way you did. Everyone has to discover what they are - straight, bi or gay. No one can choose it. What I meant by my previous comment is that bi-sexuals can choose to engage with someone with either the same or opposite sex. If you are bi and choose to engage with someone of the same sex, you’re still bi, not gay (or engage with opposite sex, you’re still bi, not straight).
@McGarvinStudios Sorry about my choice on words. After re-reading my comment, I see why you responded the way you did. Everyone has to discover what they are - straight, bi or gay. No one can choose it. What I meant by my previous comment is that bi-sexuals can choose to engage with someone with either the same or opposite sex. If you are bi and choose to engage with someone of the same sex, you’re still bi, not gay (or engage with opposite sex, you’re still bi, not straight).
@hilaryandkristy its alryt,u dnt hve 2 undastand i do,bt i gues i ws a bit confusin so if u must knw,i meant dat im nt sure whetha i ws born gay,bt based on da way i grew up im nt as flamboyant as most gays,bt im mre on da side of it nt bein a choice,bt im nt sure whetha i ws born gay,do u get me?i hope i ddnt confuse agen
I'm on the fence of whetha ppl r born gay or nt,i do believe its based on ur enviroment,coz im gay bt im nt flamboyant as most gays,i enjoy sports,i fix cars,i dink to sum degree it is a choice,im nt sayn dat i jus woke up sum day nd jus sed i lyk guys,i jus ws attractd 2 guys nd i decided i ws gay,i cnt say i lykd boys since i ws a kid coz bk dan i also lykd eatin mud,its a decision i made as i grew olda,so da whole theory of bein born gay is a very contraversial topic,dats jus my view...
I think you're right. To say it's all nature may seem like a good way of opposing religious condemnations of homosexuality, but it leaves us at the mercy of gene scientists. We should demand the right to be respected even if our sexuality is 100% "choice".
Good point about experiences at a subconcious level, I just think everyone has some hard wiring. No matter how you grow up, you still follow some blueprints. Subconciously you pick up what pleases you emotionally and asthetically due to the environmet you're used to. In Brandons case, he could have been strait and loved sports, but he is gay, loves sports and is atracted to the people playing. His circumstance was "strait," the only difference being sexual. How was he "changed?"I don't get it
I definitely agree with your point of view. Some people are born with a genetic predisposition for obesity, but that doesn't necessarily mean they're going to be obese. There are other factors that lead to it too. So maybe there's just a predisposition for it?
We talked about this is my psychology class today! According to major research, professionals are saying that sexual orientation is heavily biological rather than environmental. Things like parts of the brain structure, left or right handedness, and even thought process are shown to be generally different between gay and straight people of both genders. Of course this isn't 100% true since nature has variations of all sorts. :)
i kind of agree with ur statement. defo agree with how awkard making vids is lol. i wanted to record myself saying my monolgue for college to get used to being in front of a camera and i spent like two minutes giggling before i composed myself lol. so i now have a vid of me giggling for two minutes then just randomly doing my speech lol. sorry for all that but yeah, i guess it could be a combination of the two x
i think until puberty, your pretty much asexual, you only have 'crushes' on the opposite sex when you are little because that's what everyone around you is doing/saying, and then when you DO go through puberty, that's when all the sexual feelings and thoughts start molding, you might come out straight or gay, its a natural processes and both sexual orientations are equal and they both have the potential of being a beautiful thing. That's just what i think :P
@jackskellingtonsora i didn't say sexual development was a product of how you were nurtured, if that were the case, then why are their gay kids being born into bigoted conservative families? you can't choose which sexuality you have, its random.
You can't choose your sexuality. "Nurture" means that it is a product of the way you are raised or the way you interact with peers. Gay people exist. There are a hell of a lot less gay people than straight people. Thus it can't an equal distribution between gays and straights otherwise there would be more gay people than there are. An equal distribution would be like the difference between male and female.
I once read an article work from a sexologist who represented human sexuality in numbers ranging from 1 to 7. The extremes being those exclusively attracted to one sex, while the middle would be those who would hardly differ from both sexes.
That being true most people could hide their 'homosexual' desires and not fulfill them. Or at least not publicly. Some living insatisfied lives.. *continues*
@jackskellingtonsora *continuing*..Some living equality satisfying lives with either of the sexes. The social pressure is undeniably grand. Enough to push many people into keeping their 'undesirable' side out of the public census.
I do believe 'nurturing' takes a part in who we are, as in our behaviour. Take feminine and masculine gays as a possible example(althought I don't believe nurturing alone is responsible for that either).
i kind of agree with you, because before puberty i was extremely attracted to girls. but as soon as i was 13 3/4 i began to be attracted to my teacher, my male teacher...who was 41 lol and manly. but yeah im not realli sure....
i think its different for certain people i was born for sure something went wrong in the womb and i formed a dick im not transgender cause i love my dick but if i had been born a girl i wouldnt have complained
I don't understand how has Brandon has gotten so much hotter after he moved....I'm just pissed that no-one realised he was this hot and it was that bloody blue wall sucking all the hotness out of his face sooner....MAN I'M PISSED
Some "born this gays" aren't actually born that way but simply hipsters that chose to do such for attention. It is insulting to the actual homosexual population. People feel that pride means thinking that your population is better than another or that they must fulfill their category to the fullest. So a total Elton John, Britney spears, Gaga rampage when in reality they are only doing so because they are out. I know this is all over the place but this is just my standing as a leader of SAGA (
For me, it's a mute point. It doesn't matter whether it's nature or nuture or some combination thereof. What I know is that I do not and did not choose to be sexually attracted to other men. It's just what I feel and the way I am. And everybody else can just Deal with it. Peace :-)
Ok first... I've been around a lot of crackhoes... STOP ITCHING ON CAMERA. :)
I get you - I understand what you're saying... And yes you are totally hot... I'd even love to debate you in person... *STOP ITCHING ON CAM* I KNOW they can hear you through the walls hon... it's called Schizophrenia, baby... I don't care about the Phillies or anything else.
It terms of the issue at hand I can't same whether I was born gay or not, it was never anything I thought about. Its possible I purposely blocked out thinking about it because I was already getting bullied and went to an all boys school. I think my psyche was protecting me from more bullying.
Okay, naturally all of us are bisexual, and we actually swing one way or the other more based on our environment and how our brains mature. There is a scientific study on that.
P.S. Your attitude can change and how you act around others can change due to your surroundings, but your personality and sexuality can't. If it could I doubt you would be gay Brandon. Tell us, if circumsances can change you, what were your circumstances that led you to being gay?
@criticlyminded Well, I can only speak for myself, but I felt that it was homophobic to not at least be open to understanding the attractiveness of my own sex. The more I became open to that, over time, I became bisexual. Obviously the potential for me to be bisexual always existed, but it very easily could have gone unnoticed my whole life. I never felt any sexual attraction to other guys until I decided to open myself up to those feelings, so they were fairly easily repressed.
@criticlyminded That said, I think there are other people who just don't have that kind of "sexual fluidity." No matter how open you become to being attracted to the same or the opposite sex, you simply won't feel anything. And of course, some people's orientation is only that elastic for brief periods of their lives (hence, the bisexual phase a lot of people go through). But when it comes to changing from hetero to homo, or vice versa, that's a whole different matter.
There are plenty of people who were raised in the most conservative, anti-tolerant, "strait" upbringings possible, but turn out gay. They aren't rebelling from their family like some people think. Some of them wish they were strait, so they kill themselves. I kind of agree with you but on the other hand I really think you have to be born with it in some way. Exposure to gay culture is cirtainly not going to turn you. Attraction to others is part of your personality, you cant really change that.
Your thumbnail makes you look like Rudolph~me derping.
But I am in the same position you are in this matter. I think there is something that is innate, or something we are born with, that can predispose us somewhat, but then again, a baby's brain, or a fetus's brain for that matter has not been wired for love or sexual desire yet. Later in puberty, that side develops and we can name some sexuality or another or not be sexual at all. It is all hazy journey.
If people are born gay there should be a gen that tells your brain to be gay or staight and since we do not know the excistence of that gen I like to beleave that we become/accept-to-be gay by countless influences like parents, friends, "expiriments", wanting to be "normal" or different, media, general acceptance, religion etc... etc...
I personally believe love and attraction are instinctual in animals, which includes humans :3 When people see something that they like or want they're just like "Omg, that's awesome", but when it comes to love or attraction it's more like a "feeling" than a thought. Plus I personally have been raised to be heterosexual and like girls, but I always liked guys way before I even knew what gay was. This is just my opinion on this topic, not trying to argue or anything :3
I'm very sure I was born gay. I just remembered today as a kid when I saw the movie Drop Dead Fred, there's a scene in it where he takes a grape off a guy in a toga who's wearing nothing underneath so it falls off, nothing frontal is seen but everything else is. As a child I'd replay that bit over and over again, weird as it sounds I was really very young. I also had everyone raising me to be heterosexual so I disagree with the nurture theory. But that's just me I can't speak for everyone.
A suggestion for a topic for the channel. Gay aversion therapy! This bull,,,, still goes on our country as well as others. ( I have heard that there is a religious camp in West Va. that "converts gays to proper moral values") If you can, get the guys to do a little research on the topic then comment. Would love to hear you young guys opinions!
It's just interesting, because some animals are homosexual... the enviroment maybe, the divorce, being abused by other animals... MAYBE?
People say that it doesn't matter if we're born this way or it's something that we learn In this case if we learn that, we can learn how to not feel this way (It would be psychologic, I guess) and that would be as finding a way to correct this FEELING
explain to us why you are so upset about making vids when people can hear you? This is going on the youtube for all to see. This does not bother us unless it distracts you from your mission of entertaining us. When did you know you were attracted to the same sex?
No one has anything to back up what they think about this question, so why would I bombard you in the comments.
I've come to the realization that even though this is fascinating, it is also completely irrelavant. I mean who cares if your born gay, or you become it through environment, does any of this really mattar, I don't think so.
A very explaining cartoon on this subject: youtube.com/watch?v=gWT-sC2PyZ8
It's 90% genetics and the last 10% depends on the fact if you have older brothers. The more brothers you have, the greater the chance is that you are gay. But watch the cartoon, it explains everything. :)
I think I'm a lesbian because a 13 year old girl molested me when I was 8 years old, I think I am because I felt attraction when saw two girls together sexually after that experience.
Not born gay or born gay doesnt matter, It's just who you are, what are you made of. Some people confuse about this because of the song "Born this way" by Lady Gaga, but what the word "born this way" means in her song is the emphasis of who you are
I think you are born gay or straight or bi, BUT, the environment is what allows some to act on it, or allow themselves to accept who they really are. Most gay people from many years ago had to hide it and were horrible spouses and ended up having children etc because it is what was expected of them.
THe physical act is not the issue, because if need be I could fuck a woman, I just don;t feel the same way when I do.
Well, the sexual drive doesn't come until later in life - when you become a teenager - so you can't really know. I mean, I don't know. But I recall having a crush on a boy when I was in kindergarten, so I suppose I've always been at least a little gay.
Isn't it weird that a lot of us think he's gotten hotter? Does the color blue unattract or what? It's so strange because he has gotten hotter. We need somebody to tell us why lol. Anyways, concerning the video, I believe that everybody has their own way of how they turned out to be gay. Some are born gay, others "become" (for lack of a better word) gay, and others, like you said, it's a combination. From my experience, I was bi first and as soon as I hit puberty, it was all about the guys.
@TheThunderDragoon i dont think you used to be bi, i think you just were unsure about your sexuality at such a young age (like most lgbt people including myself) and you came to terms that you only liked guys... that is just my opinion
@Hector947 Yeah, I was bi. I liked both girls and boys. That was a fact. I wasn't confused or unsure. Just because somebody is a child doesn't mean they don't know how they feel. So many people underestimate children. We might not know what the words gay, bi, and straight mean at that age, but we know what the feelings are.
I agree with you, because it's not just either or, I think it's more like how you were born and what you choose to do with it plus kind of how you were raised. Nice words. :] btw you got hotter :p
This whole debate is stupid (not to be disrespectful to either side) but it really shouldn't matter why we are the way we are. Why should anyone have to justify who they are by science or psychology or anything. In the end, the people worth having around you are the ones who don't ask/need you to justify yourself anyway.
So you're blaming your homosexuality on "experiences" and "situations"..?? Lol. Come on out that glass closet already.we are all waiting on you with open arms and rainbow flags awaiting!! :)
Here is you being berated: There is a plethora of scientific evidence that suggests sexual orientation is inherent at birth. I think what you meant to say was personality is molded by someone's environment. So a homosexual who hangs around with flamboyant people, for example, might act more feminine. Sexual orientation itself has nothing to do with your environment.
It may be a little bit of both, but I believe it's primarily caused biologically. There is evidence that the supracharismatic nucleus and the anterior commissure of the brain is larger in gay males and heterosexual females compared to a heterosexual males' brain. Also the 3rd interstitial nucleus of the anterior hypothalamus is smaller in gays, but not in heteros. And then finally, it's been seen that gay males are receptive to male pheromones which is something one doesn't develop a taste for.
Brandon has gotten hotter! =) Anyways aside from your very attractive looks, I think we are who we are no matter if we decide it or live it. There is no actual scientific evidence to prove homosexuality is a gene, however, being gay shouldn't be questioned but embraced. =) p.S: would love to freakin' meet you Brandon lol
Dude - the Phillies - ohhhhh nooooooo! I wanted them to meet my Tabbies in the WS. To tell you the truth, I really don't gaf about the Cards or the Bucks. And I'm a bit afraid of the Rangers.
Should check out the documentary "Dr. Money and The Boy with No Penis", dealing with nature v. nurture in terms of gender binary. Identical twin males were born and the parents were convinced to change the sex of one them by a psychiatrist who thought he could successfully raise the child to be female. The experiment failed and child developed gender dysphoria and ultimately ended up killing himself. Gender differs from sexuality of course but it says something of the nurture argument regardless
I agree as well. I'm completing a degree in neuroscience, and from what I've read and learned in my classes, I think sexuality is determined by the interaction between genes and the environment. (Yay, epigenetics!) And I like to think of it being similar to handedness, like whether someone is left handed, right handed, or ambidextrous. Yes, genetic factors are involved, but the expression of genes is affected by the environment, and that is what ultimately determines these sorts of things.
i would say that that being gay isn't purly scientific things like emotions and feelings come into the equation as well which to me makes it a spiritual thing not god and jesus or whatever religion but something involving some kind of spiritual force that gives the ability to rationalize and love
PS: this is my opinion no matter how much science you throw at me this wont change I think making it scientific is kind of like makin it a disease or saying its curable it is just dispicable.
Very fine replies. I scrolled through all of them. Whether they act on it or not, whether conscious, or unconsciously driven action like body contact, the capacity for attraction at some level to other males is almost universal. 2500 years ago this was expected. How did any culture get away with suppressing it?
Wow so many arguements =o...yes we each have our own experiences with our sexualities and there's no reason to argue people =) let's bring peace like we all have been trying to do with all of our equal rights issues! let's not critique and criticize each other let's make make LGBT love and show people we are above fighting people but fighting for equality! =D
I'm of the "belief" that each sexuality is as abundant as one another. It's not too far a stretch of the imagination to think that perhaps A LOT of "straight" people are faking it. I know so many guys who pretend to be the straightest guys in the world, but when you're not straight. You tend to notice closet cases a lot more easily.
GenerationBright 2 days ago
its all nature. i've known i was 'different' since i was about 6, i didn't sexualise it then obviously but being gay is what i summed up as 'different' ... nurture may play a part for some people but i know that we are born with a certain predisposition. nurture simply determines how freely you come to accept it and develop. Its like being born with brown hair or blonde... you might choose to dye it but you're still naturally one or the other.
robww89 1 week ago
I agree with you some born that way and others not that way
Nathernell 1 week ago
I think a lot of the confusion comes from people mistaking "nurture" for "choice," which isn't accurate. To say that nurture plays a part is not to say that anyone chose anything. One of the leading hypotheses is that prenatal hormone levels play a big role, which is clearly environmental and not genetic.
I really don't like the emphasis on "it's not a choice;" if you're desperate to prove you didn't choose being gay, it must mean that you are ashamed and think it's wrong. Nonsense.
Zingerific 2 weeks ago in playlist Fridays on AGayADay
I've liked boys my whole life, and I didn't think it wasn't normal for me to when I was in grade two running around kissing other boys, in fact I didn't even know what being gay was or meant. I think puberty would be the realizing stage. But no, I don't believe we're asexual.
GOLDRUSHESKIMO 2 weeks ago
Rarely in life is anything merely a step by step but instead a combination of factors. The majority of the community would like you to believe it's merely biological but there could also be sociological components as well. Men and women could be born with the right combination of genes to develop homosexuality but not necessarily be born gay. Sexuality is such a fluid concept that it's ridiculous to think it's a simply black or white.
jryanroberts 1 month ago
Perth? like the small down in Ontario Canada?
123arimarie 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos
oh my god, seriously? why does everyone feel like he is allowed to have an opinion about this? it's an issue for science (which has been answered). i don't feel like going into the many components that make up one's sexuality but i'm sure theyre on wikipedia.
avafrav 1 month ago
@avafrav Well you've obviously done your research! Silly of all these people forgetting that wikipedia is a reliable source with answers too all of life's mysteries! Hoobastank!
enjoi946 2 weeks ago
@enjoi946 i mean i learned about this in a textbook in a class i took, but i'm sure wikipedia has a more than sufficient summary.
avafrav 2 weeks ago
you (this guy) look like my friend Josh. i watched 12 youtube vids with u (this guy) till i figured out who looked similar. is that weird???
elmowithyaagain 1 month ago
I was watching this and when brandons hads were moving up & down at 0:05 and there was a warcraft (or watevr that stuff is) ad beside the video with this alein thingy and it was dancing with brandon in like perfect sync!! okay thats all Bey>> (Bey-ey=B B+e+y=Bye[math just in case u were lost]{those were brackets just for people who arent familiar with a keyboard or characters or symbols and the next punctuation u will see is called a thingy>>})>> BYE!
yoshiluvr9 1 month ago
You are completely wrong imo, I firmly believe you are born with your sexuality. Whether that be gay, straigh, bi.
justme6263 1 month ago
WHY AE YOUR VIDEOS ALWAYS THIS SHORT?
akatsukigoku1010 1 month ago
It's very unlikely that your upbringing has anything to do with your sexuality. Genetics and hormonal issues in the womb are more likely causes. I've been having crushes on the same sex as early as ~7 yrs old. I didn't realize that "noticing" someone is actually called a crush so I didn't know that I was gay until I was ~10....I know that's pretty weird. Nothing particularly special happened to me as a child, I just happen to be a gay guy who thought all along that I was straight, lol.
TheYipedo 2 months ago
Why do you have to be gay?... You are fit, but gay... Unfair...
MissLaVesta 2 months ago
@MissLaVesta I'm glad you see that gay guys aren't just overly feminme guys that want to be girls. There are alot of extremely normal, nice looking gay guys out there :)
Humanityispossible 2 months ago in playlist More videos from AGayADay
I have never decided that I wanted to be gay. To this day, I wish I were straight (would make life much easier). To me, if you choose to be gay, it's because you're bisexual and therefore are able to make that choice. Sorry, but I disagree that being gay is a choice (to any degree) for non-bisexuals.
Alex7STV 2 months ago 2
@Alex7STV I firmly disagree with you about gay being a choice for bisexuals. I have been bisexual all my life, predominantly attracted to females. But in a period of 1.5 years, my sexual orientation swung over to gay. My orientation has a mind of its own and I do not have the capability to manipulate it at my own will. That is not to say that I am ashamed of being gay, however. I didn't choose to be bisexual. I didn't choose to be gay. The only thing I did choose was to accept it.
McGarvinStudios 1 week ago
@McGarvinStudios Sorry about my choice on words. After re-reading my comment, I see why you responded the way you did. Everyone has to discover what they are - straight, bi or gay. No one can choose it. What I meant by my previous comment is that bi-sexuals can choose to engage with someone with either the same or opposite sex. If you are bi and choose to engage with someone of the same sex, you’re still bi, not gay (or engage with opposite sex, you’re still bi, not straight).
Alex6STV 1 week ago
@McGarvinStudios Sorry about my choice on words. After re-reading my comment, I see why you responded the way you did. Everyone has to discover what they are - straight, bi or gay. No one can choose it. What I meant by my previous comment is that bi-sexuals can choose to engage with someone with either the same or opposite sex. If you are bi and choose to engage with someone of the same sex, you’re still bi, not gay (or engage with opposite sex, you’re still bi, not straight).
Alex7STV 1 week ago
@hilaryandkristy its alryt,u dnt hve 2 undastand i do,bt i gues i ws a bit confusin so if u must knw,i meant dat im nt sure whetha i ws born gay,bt based on da way i grew up im nt as flamboyant as most gays,bt im mre on da side of it nt bein a choice,bt im nt sure whetha i ws born gay,do u get me?i hope i ddnt confuse agen
Tonystark590 3 months ago
I'm on the fence of whetha ppl r born gay or nt,i do believe its based on ur enviroment,coz im gay bt im nt flamboyant as most gays,i enjoy sports,i fix cars,i dink to sum degree it is a choice,im nt sayn dat i jus woke up sum day nd jus sed i lyk guys,i jus ws attractd 2 guys nd i decided i ws gay,i cnt say i lykd boys since i ws a kid coz bk dan i also lykd eatin mud,its a decision i made as i grew olda,so da whole theory of bein born gay is a very contraversial topic,dats jus my view...
Tonystark590 4 months ago
@Tonystark590 I can't understand a damn word you tried to type.
HilaryandKristi 3 months ago
Your red T-shirt reminds me of Alec. Isn't he going to Chicago?
tenddyson 4 months ago
that picture is fucking sexy as hell. for real.
ghubba0339 4 months ago
To be honest, you look like you are on drugs.
itsCharlieeTV 4 months ago
I think you're right. To say it's all nature may seem like a good way of opposing religious condemnations of homosexuality, but it leaves us at the mercy of gene scientists. We should demand the right to be respected even if our sexuality is 100% "choice".
raggedclown 4 months ago
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I believe it is just nature. I believe you are born gay.
BobbyBrady2000 4 months ago
Good point about experiences at a subconcious level, I just think everyone has some hard wiring. No matter how you grow up, you still follow some blueprints. Subconciously you pick up what pleases you emotionally and asthetically due to the environmet you're used to. In Brandons case, he could have been strait and loved sports, but he is gay, loves sports and is atracted to the people playing. His circumstance was "strait," the only difference being sexual. How was he "changed?"I don't get it
criticlyminded 4 months ago
I definitely agree with your point of view. Some people are born with a genetic predisposition for obesity, but that doesn't necessarily mean they're going to be obese. There are other factors that lead to it too. So maybe there's just a predisposition for it?
iTumbleToo 4 months ago
I think i love you
anniebella10 4 months ago
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i believe- if you have a gay experience and like it you were if not born gay, then you just are gay lol
SaphiraBrisingr 4 months ago in playlist More videos from AGayADay
omfg.. lol i love you.
XOAileen20 4 months ago
We talked about this is my psychology class today! According to major research, professionals are saying that sexual orientation is heavily biological rather than environmental. Things like parts of the brain structure, left or right handedness, and even thought process are shown to be generally different between gay and straight people of both genders. Of course this isn't 100% true since nature has variations of all sorts. :)
tylertastic 4 months ago
you hair is great in this. What did you do different? Hair cut?
Nemesis123 4 months ago
i kind of agree with ur statement. defo agree with how awkard making vids is lol. i wanted to record myself saying my monolgue for college to get used to being in front of a camera and i spent like two minutes giggling before i composed myself lol. so i now have a vid of me giggling for two minutes then just randomly doing my speech lol. sorry for all that but yeah, i guess it could be a combination of the two x
KatMEW15 4 months ago
please can you do a blogtv with Alec when he comes to Chicago! :)
iamkol123456 4 months ago 19
i think until puberty, your pretty much asexual, you only have 'crushes' on the opposite sex when you are little because that's what everyone around you is doing/saying, and then when you DO go through puberty, that's when all the sexual feelings and thoughts start molding, you might come out straight or gay, its a natural processes and both sexual orientations are equal and they both have the potential of being a beautiful thing. That's just what i think :P
Aranel1200 4 months ago 45
@Aranel1200 I had 'crushes' on the same sex when I was little and had no such interest in girls. =P
ItovaSythr 3 months ago
@Aranel1200
If that were the case, there would be a whole lot more gay people than there are, if the sexual feelings are a product of nurture.
jackskellingtonsora 1 month ago in playlist More videos from AGayADay
@jackskellingtonsora i didn't say sexual development was a product of how you were nurtured, if that were the case, then why are their gay kids being born into bigoted conservative families? you can't choose which sexuality you have, its random.
Aranel1200 1 month ago
@Aranel1200
You can't choose your sexuality. "Nurture" means that it is a product of the way you are raised or the way you interact with peers. Gay people exist. There are a hell of a lot less gay people than straight people. Thus it can't an equal distribution between gays and straights otherwise there would be more gay people than there are. An equal distribution would be like the difference between male and female.
jackskellingtonsora 1 month ago
@jackskellingtonsora There indeed are a lot more gay people than you think.
I once read an article work from a sexologist who represented human sexuality in numbers ranging from 1 to 7. The extremes being those exclusively attracted to one sex, while the middle would be those who would hardly differ from both sexes.
That being true most people could hide their 'homosexual' desires and not fulfill them. Or at least not publicly. Some living insatisfied lives.. *continues*
blaiblou 2 weeks ago
@jackskellingtonsora *continuing*..Some living equality satisfying lives with either of the sexes. The social pressure is undeniably grand. Enough to push many people into keeping their 'undesirable' side out of the public census.
I do believe 'nurturing' takes a part in who we are, as in our behaviour. Take feminine and masculine gays as a possible example(althought I don't believe nurturing alone is responsible for that either).
And those are part of my thoughts.
blaiblou 2 weeks ago
I know this girl who was gang raped by a butt ton of dudes, and now she goes for girls.
So. There's that.
9499295 4 months ago
@9499295 straight up. I know that sort of thing definitely contributed to my gay-ness.
SunnyAlexandra 4 months ago
Personality change.
quantumbits 4 months ago
awww
you look all hot...
college looks good on you!
still a mailbox though. so
frankieinlights 4 months ago
Are you sure that you are gay? You totally look straight!....lol jk i know im being an ignorant jack ass :)
RapidCycling07 4 months ago
i kind of agree with you, because before puberty i was extremely attracted to girls. but as soon as i was 13 3/4 i began to be attracted to my teacher, my male teacher...who was 41 lol and manly. but yeah im not realli sure....
aznboionfya 4 months ago
You are totally being super cute on purpose!
kaiphillipslustick 4 months ago
i think its different for certain people i was born for sure something went wrong in the womb and i formed a dick im not transgender cause i love my dick but if i had been born a girl i wouldnt have complained
fandude15 4 months ago
I think it's a combo of both, I wrote like a thesis paper about it. (I know I'm shnazzy) lmfao
Brotherx33 4 months ago
I don't understand how has Brandon has gotten so much hotter after he moved....I'm just pissed that no-one realised he was this hot and it was that bloody blue wall sucking all the hotness out of his face sooner....MAN I'M PISSED
HappyMishner2 4 months ago
Some "born this gays" aren't actually born that way but simply hipsters that chose to do such for attention. It is insulting to the actual homosexual population. People feel that pride means thinking that your population is better than another or that they must fulfill their category to the fullest. So a total Elton John, Britney spears, Gaga rampage when in reality they are only doing so because they are out. I know this is all over the place but this is just my standing as a leader of SAGA (
MrBoudreaux65 4 months ago
For me, it's a mute point. It doesn't matter whether it's nature or nuture or some combination thereof. What I know is that I do not and did not choose to be sexually attracted to other men. It's just what I feel and the way I am. And everybody else can just Deal with it. Peace :-)
rippinsteo 4 months ago
Ok first... I've been around a lot of crackhoes... STOP ITCHING ON CAMERA. :)
I get you - I understand what you're saying... And yes you are totally hot... I'd even love to debate you in person... *STOP ITCHING ON CAM* I KNOW they can hear you through the walls hon... it's called Schizophrenia, baby... I don't care about the Phillies or anything else.
*Takes a drag on my joint*
Peace, Love, & Homotude!
chaoticboi2004 4 months ago
GODDAMMIT you're adorable!
MarleyVK 4 months ago
I chose to berate you in the comments. ... Jerk.
FreakExceptionale 4 months ago
You look so exhausted! But it's ok, you're still cute. (Sorry, just had to say it. :-/)
abadabadingdong 4 months ago
your hair is perfect
babylove605 4 months ago
I agree with you
ArkTwitterDictionary 4 months ago
@JustAnotherGay96 he most TURN a lot of them gay :P
ikindahateu 4 months ago
Just muted the video and starred at him!!! Lom
kaleyshow 4 months ago
It terms of the issue at hand I can't same whether I was born gay or not, it was never anything I thought about. Its possible I purposely blocked out thinking about it because I was already getting bullied and went to an all boys school. I think my psyche was protecting me from more bullying.
redsmas 4 months ago
just checking
maluk2211 4 months ago
i want you inside me
HappiCamper67 4 months ago
Nature versus Nurture?
TheMikkifish 4 months ago
old creepy men beat off to my channel all the time *drumroll* ok maybe not :p
AlbeeWanKenobi 4 months ago
Oh deng I remember when you first started making vids, I never subscribed and I'm too lazy to look at them but your face looks older. In a good way.
PersonaBreak 4 months ago
you aren't hot or funny ...?
gvo76 4 months ago in playlist Videos from AGayADay
I want to hug you. <3
TheJilliscious 4 months ago
Dear old creepy men u are being very horny old menn stop
gordonw16 4 months ago
I'm from St Louis and a huge Cardinals fan, so I can't appologize for beating the Phillies, but I can congratulate you all on a great 5 game series.
TDubMuskateer 4 months ago
Okay, naturally all of us are bisexual, and we actually swing one way or the other more based on our environment and how our brains mature. There is a scientific study on that.
iBelongToNo1 4 months ago
you sir are gorgeous.
thisphotoisproof 4 months ago
Hormone receptors, which are influenced by genetic factors and not environment factors are what results in who you're attracted to.
StevenMProduction 4 months ago
P.S. Your attitude can change and how you act around others can change due to your surroundings, but your personality and sexuality can't. If it could I doubt you would be gay Brandon. Tell us, if circumsances can change you, what were your circumstances that led you to being gay?
criticlyminded 4 months ago
@criticlyminded Well, I can only speak for myself, but I felt that it was homophobic to not at least be open to understanding the attractiveness of my own sex. The more I became open to that, over time, I became bisexual. Obviously the potential for me to be bisexual always existed, but it very easily could have gone unnoticed my whole life. I never felt any sexual attraction to other guys until I decided to open myself up to those feelings, so they were fairly easily repressed.
insteally 4 months ago
@criticlyminded That said, I think there are other people who just don't have that kind of "sexual fluidity." No matter how open you become to being attracted to the same or the opposite sex, you simply won't feel anything. And of course, some people's orientation is only that elastic for brief periods of their lives (hence, the bisexual phase a lot of people go through). But when it comes to changing from hetero to homo, or vice versa, that's a whole different matter.
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criticlyminded 4 months ago
There are plenty of people who were raised in the most conservative, anti-tolerant, "strait" upbringings possible, but turn out gay. They aren't rebelling from their family like some people think. Some of them wish they were strait, so they kill themselves. I kind of agree with you but on the other hand I really think you have to be born with it in some way. Exposure to gay culture is cirtainly not going to turn you. Attraction to others is part of your personality, you cant really change that.
criticlyminded 4 months ago
Heyyy
au17100 4 months ago
have you dyed your hair, it seems darker
trekie210 4 months ago
00:42-00:45 looked like he was jacking off .
Brackinn619 4 months ago
@MyNoteToSelf thank you haha
lactosedept1 4 months ago
I want to have his adopted babies!!!
julesbobules 4 months ago
Your thumbnail makes you look like Rudolph~me derping.
But I am in the same position you are in this matter. I think there is something that is innate, or something we are born with, that can predispose us somewhat, but then again, a baby's brain, or a fetus's brain for that matter has not been wired for love or sexual desire yet. Later in puberty, that side develops and we can name some sexuality or another or not be sexual at all. It is all hazy journey.
nobodysdc7 4 months ago
WOW!!! You look really different.. still cute tho(: u look somewhat like my bf xD
PridePhx 4 months ago
If people are born gay there should be a gen that tells your brain to be gay or staight and since we do not know the excistence of that gen I like to beleave that we become/accept-to-be gay by countless influences like parents, friends, "expiriments", wanting to be "normal" or different, media, general acceptance, religion etc... etc...
xetrius 4 months ago
the ist comment has 222 likes and the second has 111, i feel that this needed to be pointed out
killjoyinthemaking 4 months ago
I personally believe love and attraction are instinctual in animals, which includes humans :3 When people see something that they like or want they're just like "Omg, that's awesome", but when it comes to love or attraction it's more like a "feeling" than a thought. Plus I personally have been raised to be heterosexual and like girls, but I always liked guys way before I even knew what gay was. This is just my opinion on this topic, not trying to argue or anything :3
xchamorrobrox 4 months ago
you look straight
theblondesillygirl2 4 months ago
You need to sound less monotonous Brandon :P
EarlyBirdie82 4 months ago
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too bad you're gay.. you're quite adorable.
BostonBakedBeans100 4 months ago
or @1:04 whatever, still love you
carrier5555 4 months ago
you look shit tired, and you're eye sort of twitches @1:05
carrier5555 4 months ago
I was def born this gay! Glad to see your videos again, I missed you! :)
andrewrey2006 4 months ago
0:41 - What are you doing?
O.e...
DennyAgassi 4 months ago in playlist More videos from AGayADay
" if the Phillies don't win tonight, We gonna' have problems" did anyone else hear Luans black woman voice come out?
ashleylikeshollister 4 months ago
GOOOO BREWERS!!!
dotkham 4 months ago
I think we are born gay. But I also think how were raised plays an important part on how we portray our sexuality.
lactosedept1 4 months ago
@lactosedept1 I completely agree with you. :)
MyNoteToSelf 4 months ago
I think that you are right being gay sometimes also sows your experiences in life.
alexte007 4 months ago
I'm very sure I was born gay. I just remembered today as a kid when I saw the movie Drop Dead Fred, there's a scene in it where he takes a grape off a guy in a toga who's wearing nothing underneath so it falls off, nothing frontal is seen but everything else is. As a child I'd replay that bit over and over again, weird as it sounds I was really very young. I also had everyone raising me to be heterosexual so I disagree with the nurture theory. But that's just me I can't speak for everyone.
MrTwentington 4 months ago
A suggestion for a topic for the channel. Gay aversion therapy! This bull,,,, still goes on our country as well as others. ( I have heard that there is a religious camp in West Va. that "converts gays to proper moral values") If you can, get the guys to do a little research on the topic then comment. Would love to hear you young guys opinions!
gtfotw 4 months ago
It's just interesting, because some animals are homosexual... the enviroment maybe, the divorce, being abused by other animals... MAYBE?
People say that it doesn't matter if we're born this way or it's something that we learn In this case if we learn that, we can learn how to not feel this way (It would be psychologic, I guess) and that would be as finding a way to correct this FEELING
And I don't agree, about correcting love.
unchico555 4 months ago
explain to us why you are so upset about making vids when people can hear you? This is going on the youtube for all to see. This does not bother us unless it distracts you from your mission of entertaining us. When did you know you were attracted to the same sex?
b4804514 4 months ago
sleep more!
thatguyrobby 4 months ago
No one has anything to back up what they think about this question, so why would I bombard you in the comments.
I've come to the realization that even though this is fascinating, it is also completely irrelavant. I mean who cares if your born gay, or you become it through environment, does any of this really mattar, I don't think so.
kassemir 4 months ago
A very explaining cartoon on this subject: youtube.com/watch?v=gWT-sC2PyZ8
It's 90% genetics and the last 10% depends on the fact if you have older brothers. The more brothers you have, the greater the chance is that you are gay. But watch the cartoon, it explains everything. :)
TheWorstNL 4 months ago
You don't know you're beautiful, that's what makes you beautiful! <3
HatebeingBORNthisWAY 4 months ago
You grow into who you are. So you are born to be it, but you also discover it in life. I see it as both now
LegendEntertainment1 4 months ago 36
@LegendEntertainment1 I love that and I'm stealing it and posting on my facebook. I'll give you credit of course ;)
mannyrubero 4 months ago
@mannyrubero You can do whatever you want to it! :D
LegendEntertainment1 4 months ago
How about those Tigers lol
MusicallyKayla 4 months ago
Looks like Brandon is missing all that home cooking; Either you lost weight or your head got taller! Look after yourself buddy.
outwrite11 4 months ago
I think I'm a lesbian because a 13 year old girl molested me when I was 8 years old, I think I am because I felt attraction when saw two girls together sexually after that experience.
insanityrules32 4 months ago
Not born gay or born gay doesnt matter, It's just who you are, what are you made of. Some people confuse about this because of the song "Born this way" by Lady Gaga, but what the word "born this way" means in her song is the emphasis of who you are
evilboy2404 4 months ago
BTW, sorry about your Phillies. Don't jump, it gets better (especially since my Tigers beat the Yankees)
johnnya2 4 months ago 2
I think you are born gay or straight or bi, BUT, the environment is what allows some to act on it, or allow themselves to accept who they really are. Most gay people from many years ago had to hide it and were horrible spouses and ended up having children etc because it is what was expected of them.
THe physical act is not the issue, because if need be I could fuck a woman, I just don;t feel the same way when I do.
johnnya2 4 months ago
You're getting hotter and you're from Philly?! Can I please make you un-gay!!?? lmao jk <3
laparis214 4 months ago
disagree... born this way!
dlyc4714 4 months ago
I think its a lot more complicated than we think.
SunnyOldSpice 4 months ago
Phillies lost but Brewers won... (Brewers my #1 Phillies my #2) so I am happy that my Brew Crew has homefield advantage
incrediblemachine10 4 months ago
Well, the sexual drive doesn't come until later in life - when you become a teenager - so you can't really know. I mean, I don't know. But I recall having a crush on a boy when I was in kindergarten, so I suppose I've always been at least a little gay.
MsShalalala 4 months ago
If the Philly's don't win, will there be riots? Just a thought
sevenout 4 months ago
Isn't it weird that a lot of us think he's gotten hotter? Does the color blue unattract or what? It's so strange because he has gotten hotter. We need somebody to tell us why lol. Anyways, concerning the video, I believe that everybody has their own way of how they turned out to be gay. Some are born gay, others "become" (for lack of a better word) gay, and others, like you said, it's a combination. From my experience, I was bi first and as soon as I hit puberty, it was all about the guys.
TheThunderDragoon 4 months ago 42
@TheThunderDragoon I don't think he's gotten hotter I just think he looks really tired.
redsmas 4 months ago
@TheThunderDragoon i dont think you used to be bi, i think you just were unsure about your sexuality at such a young age (like most lgbt people including myself) and you came to terms that you only liked guys... that is just my opinion
Hector947 4 months ago
@Hector947 Yeah, I was bi. I liked both girls and boys. That was a fact. I wasn't confused or unsure. Just because somebody is a child doesn't mean they don't know how they feel. So many people underestimate children. We might not know what the words gay, bi, and straight mean at that age, but we know what the feelings are.
TheThunderDragoon 4 months ago
I agree with you, because it's not just either or, I think it's more like how you were born and what you choose to do with it plus kind of how you were raised. Nice words. :] btw you got hotter :p
SupernaturallyEmily 4 months ago
This whole debate is stupid (not to be disrespectful to either side) but it really shouldn't matter why we are the way we are. Why should anyone have to justify who they are by science or psychology or anything. In the end, the people worth having around you are the ones who don't ask/need you to justify yourself anyway.
xandyn3190 4 months ago
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So you're blaming your homosexuality on "experiences" and "situations"..?? Lol. Come on out that glass closet already.we are all waiting on you with open arms and rainbow flags awaiting!! :)
TIPFAN4Lyfe 4 months ago
Here is you being berated: There is a plethora of scientific evidence that suggests sexual orientation is inherent at birth. I think what you meant to say was personality is molded by someone's environment. So a homosexual who hangs around with flamboyant people, for example, might act more feminine. Sexual orientation itself has nothing to do with your environment.
MikeAnthonyTV 4 months ago
I know people who are born into the most masculine heterosexual families who have become the most flamboyant homosexuals out.
In the same way, I know heterosexuals who have grown up in an artistic, open environment surrounded by open homosexuality.
So the nurture theory is a load of crap.
meh800 4 months ago
It may be a little bit of both, but I believe it's primarily caused biologically. There is evidence that the supracharismatic nucleus and the anterior commissure of the brain is larger in gay males and heterosexual females compared to a heterosexual males' brain. Also the 3rd interstitial nucleus of the anterior hypothalamus is smaller in gays, but not in heteros. And then finally, it's been seen that gay males are receptive to male pheromones which is something one doesn't develop a taste for.
eaglsfnnick 4 months ago 2
I completely agree with you. I has to do with your surroundings too. There are a lot of contributing factors.
cccharlie20 4 months ago
I'm still put off by the lack of a blue wall.
itzSOOPERlouie 4 months ago
was this sped up? :P i also agree with you about the gay thing. like psychology has taught me..... it's usually a mix of EVERYTHING lol
norlack89 4 months ago
Brandon has gotten hotter! =) Anyways aside from your very attractive looks, I think we are who we are no matter if we decide it or live it. There is no actual scientific evidence to prove homosexuality is a gene, however, being gay shouldn't be questioned but embraced. =) p.S: would love to freakin' meet you Brandon lol
dean4013 4 months ago
regardless of whether or not we were born this way, we're here to stay. People can deal with it
unophishal 4 months ago
I completely agree with you about this.
Spiffet 4 months ago
u look so much hotter. and thinner.
carumai 4 months ago
This is the first time I have EVER heard a gay man say he's not sure if he was born gay...
ver077 4 months ago
i think we all just want to know every detail about brandon's college life in these videos. Brandon, get to it.
FlappieLapras 4 months ago
what you say about Phillies and Born this way, both wrong, at least the second for me
wadaroq 4 months ago
Dude - the Phillies - ohhhhh nooooooo! I wanted them to meet my Tabbies in the WS. To tell you the truth, I really don't gaf about the Cards or the Bucks. And I'm a bit afraid of the Rangers.
trisshandy 4 months ago
I can't emphasize how hot Brandon is looking these days!!!!!!!!
chocothundaaa 4 months ago
Should check out the documentary "Dr. Money and The Boy with No Penis", dealing with nature v. nurture in terms of gender binary. Identical twin males were born and the parents were convinced to change the sex of one them by a psychiatrist who thought he could successfully raise the child to be female. The experiment failed and child developed gender dysphoria and ultimately ended up killing himself. Gender differs from sexuality of course but it says something of the nurture argument regardless
antaitch1990 4 months ago
Nooooo Brandon is not SINGLE!!!!! AND NOW HE IS SO HOT
jatntonioom 4 months ago
Holy fuck Brandon, when did you get hot?
OokamiNoYuki 4 months ago
Sorry you're Phillies lost :(
Whiteboymdew 4 months ago
I agree as well. I'm completing a degree in neuroscience, and from what I've read and learned in my classes, I think sexuality is determined by the interaction between genes and the environment. (Yay, epigenetics!) And I like to think of it being similar to handedness, like whether someone is left handed, right handed, or ambidextrous. Yes, genetic factors are involved, but the expression of genes is affected by the environment, and that is what ultimately determines these sorts of things.
morbidsmileyface 4 months ago
Phillies<3
Annnnnnd, you're awesome.
thekingsarms72 4 months ago
i would say that that being gay isn't purly scientific things like emotions and feelings come into the equation as well which to me makes it a spiritual thing not god and jesus or whatever religion but something involving some kind of spiritual force that gives the ability to rationalize and love
PS: this is my opinion no matter how much science you throw at me this wont change I think making it scientific is kind of like makin it a disease or saying its curable it is just dispicable.
paganism2009 4 months ago
Very fine replies. I scrolled through all of them. Whether they act on it or not, whether conscious, or unconsciously driven action like body contact, the capacity for attraction at some level to other males is almost universal. 2500 years ago this was expected. How did any culture get away with suppressing it?
doug24444 4 months ago
Why are all the cute guys gay...?!
22foo 4 months ago
Wow so many arguements =o...yes we each have our own experiences with our sexualities and there's no reason to argue people =) let's bring peace like we all have been trying to do with all of our equal rights issues! let's not critique and criticize each other let's make make LGBT love and show people we are above fighting people but fighting for equality! =D
colbycabada 4 months ago
I live in Milwaukee and the Brewers just won something important! What it is I have no idea but people are really happy.
vocalyzer 4 months ago
Yeah Brandon is going hotter!!!!! so but te big Q is... Brandon, are you SINGLE????
jatntonioom 4 months ago
Go Brewers!
EyeSurvived 4 months ago
i knew ever since i was onE!!!
cruzXcoreofficial 4 months ago
@cruzXcoreofficial or five :/
cruzXcoreofficial 4 months ago
You make a good point sir. Well played, Brandon. Well played.
MrThatOneGuy97 4 months ago
your wrong we are born this way i knew when i was like 6 that i liked guys and its not nature.
masterbearar 4 months ago
FILM WITH YOUR ROOMMATE, I WANT TO MEET HIM.
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