Intimacy, Beyond Sex & Sexual Intimacy, Improve Romance

[youguys1968]

About a Committed Relationship . . .

[IbnNero]

lol

[thethirdq]

Well done videos! I really appreciate the extra effort to creat quality instructional videos!

[marsbarz]

Nope. I am not safe by any measure. I don't want to be "intimate" and lovey-dovey with people, I want to be energized and charged for fucking first; but the most important thing for me is flow, which is a kind of state of being where you feel like you've melded into the environment and linked to the multiverse and everything makes sense and feels incredibly good... in other words, being really, really high.

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[marsbarz]

@marsbarz

So anything that is a buzz-kill, or kills my high is like the opposite of a peak experience.

But don't get me wrong, I don't want to be insensitive and neglect people. I want to do everything clean, obviously, so I don't have to worry about being in the way of other people and can cut the anxiety out of my life and be myself.

[harsikasewwandi]

She is my sister and become naughty benaughtyman.info

[deborahlau18]

thank you so much for this video!

i tried dating my best friend whom is very judgmental. it didnt work out because i was living in fear of messing up the relationship. ive always thought i wanted an intimate relationship with him and now that i finally had it, i was so terrified of messing it up. now understand why i lived in fear. it was because i was constantly looking over my shoulder for approval to live up to his standards. i wasnt able to communicate with him without feeling judged.

[AutumnSkyie]

I'm very lucky to have found a person in whom I can trust with anything. Even when she "raises an eyebrow" sometimes, I know that she's just trying to make me laugh and give a bit of her perspective and yet she never judges you. I really appreciate and love her for it. She's definitely a part of my chosen family in a way that most people will never attain. I can honestly say that I trust her completely. :) I hope that everyone will be so blessed.

[BlinkinFirefly]

this definately opened my eyes to how i could possibly be viewed by others! i think i am a pretty "safe" person to communicate with, but theres so much more i can do to make people open up to me =)

[TrialOfFreedom]

for some reason, you are absolutely annoying to watch..

[wamuiruh]

I totally get what you're saying, and you explain things in a way so perfect I understand it at once and I almost know exactly what you're going to say next:D It's really helping me develop as a person to watch these videos aswell, it reminds me of things that I might have forgotten.

[breambeem]

You gave me a very great lesson.

[knollotottbamse]

Thanks, you gave me a new component of me :)

I think i have been looking for that safety and acceptance all my life and fairly often found things i have liked in people.

I think your words will improve some of my way of thinking.

Thanks again :)

[sbach56]

These words are helping me heal, but more importantly, are showing me that perhaps I am not as "safe" a person as I would like to be. I am safe untlil someone hurts me. Then I can't help myself, I lash out and use that confidential info to hurt back. I am working on changing all that, and to make sure that I don't get involved with any more unsafe people.

[jennnyxoxox]

Thank you so much...you're truly an inspiration and I felt very connected to your words. Finally, someone understands and I'm not crazy!

I wish you would make more videos

[dezguitarstar]

my god! such wise words...thank you:)

[jwasko777]

So true -every word. Start with honesty and that honesty and trust will be taught to your partner -lead by example......

[llsektorll]

very insightful... as with the other video.... this is very good video.... one of my favorites...

[Steedrider]

Thinking about it - I cannot remember any safe person...

[STREAKER123]

I truly hope you find that person.

[bilgerburg]

Very deep and insightful. Excellent.

[saRo1337]

love your neighbour as yourself

thats not so hard is it.

happiness is only true when shared

[waynedyerfan]

I wish they would make more videos with Caroline.

[psychetruth]

She is a long vacation of sorts and has been out of town for months, She will eventually be back though but I'm not sure when.

[xJaysrox]

I've been wondering why... Well I really wish for her to make more videos, she's truly one of my favorite teachers, and that only via YouTube!

Thank you Caroline!

And the whole PsycheTruth team who have contributed to my knowledge and understanding of a lot of things. We appreciate your hard work !

[PeachyRamune]

Please do more soft spoken videos! I love this!

[nalange]

I think feeling safe with someone can happen without bringing up secrets, but just by being with the other person fully in the present moment. If a secret, no matter what it is, is not given so much importance because you realize it happened in the past, it doesn't define who you are, and if you feel that the present moment right now is more important, more meaningful, then you don't need to tell many secrets, and secrets don't become a huge factor in relating with someone who is close to you.

[hosieryadvocate]

I like your voice, also. Thank you for sharing.

[Fatheadious]

i find your voice very soothing. thank you.

[Gu3rr1lla]

I'm a political activist (even though I hate politics) and I try my best to act like a Gandhi when I'm campaigning. It's very easy to connect with people when you're nice and calm. I use to be, im ashamed to admit, a racist, selfish, an asshole basically untill I saw the corruption going on in the world. When I woke up to the truth about 911 it completely changed me. 911 truthers arent as bad as the media makes us out to be! We're truthseekers and peacemakers.

[artax2004]

about critisism that depend on ho you say things, for instane let' s take a woman who try a new dress andse ask opinion boyfriend this one rather saying " your dress is awfull" could say " your great in it but I think with the red one you will look like princess"

[Hoabart]

What extraordinary things you say and ask.

Every time I've fallen out of love (i.e. stopped the fall into love) it's where we came to an issue we could not discuss. Some permanent stop to communication.  When I accepted there was a topic we'd never try to understand, from then on, no new intimacy was possible. The intimacy we had amassed, no matter how much or how long, it began to evaporate.

[siriundreamer]

You are an enlightend soul. This makes me recall two things that I say often....Mine is not to judge you, onlt myself.......&...You've got to give love to get love (it's recipical). Great work. Peace be with you, & yours.

much luv

[p0rt1a55]

very inspiring....i think love got to do with respect ....it's all about respect ....you can juge a person ...but you can aproch it with respect ...you most know if the person want to hear about your critisism.....well....i think respect goes hand to hand with your statment are you save to love ..

[vilsefint]

:-)

Well,

:-)

You know, there's that critisism and there's constructive critisism. ... The truoble is often when some one who cares about you (very often family; a wife, a husband, a parent - even a kid) critisises, believing it's only constructive, you finding it to be otherwise. It's kinda not safe - I think - until they *can* critisise but that they are more constructive than destructive with it!

:-

Right?

[jgelhaar]

I really like listening to you talk about this stuff. It makes me question my own ability at intimacy. I never had a problem with those close to me, but I think I'd like to be a bit more 'open' with acquaintances... Not in a bad way, just in a way that makes the world more amazing and enjoyable... Many of us have our guard up all the time. I don't want to live that way. Thank you for your video's. They are great

[VictorMalvado]

Excellent. Im sending this to everyone I know

[standeman]

thank you for this, it gave this old weary heart pose

[fireinu]

I love your voice.

[TronZaphod]

Pornography some how removes the ability to experience intimacy for men, all men. One because it is demeaning, dehumanizing, and the purpose for men to watch it is selfish. I mourn for the woman or man who think any degree of pornography is safe.

Must read is this book off topic of my post but it's has a principle that your video reminded me of : Crucial Conversations Tools for Talking When Stakes are High

[brandonkirk]

Wrong. Pornography doesn't "remove" the ability to experience intimacy. Men resort to pornography because they don't have or have little ability for intimacy through mental disease, etc.

[MrAmidave]

@brandonkirk Pornography is not about intimacy. Intimacy is spiritual. Pornography is about something physical and psychological. Learn the difference and you might not judge so harshly.

[hectoratl]

who is playing the piano in the background? It's beautiful.

[psychetruth]

Song was downloaded off the internet archives public domain music files. I don't recall the name of the song. Search of "internet archives" to find the site.

[kiya3]

Very consoling. I wish I could meet a person lik that again...

[blaynestaley]

Thank you

[TJay9000]

5*! :-)

[planetfrog]

Everyone is capable of intimacy and everyone has the potential to be loved. It is a part of our nature. When we are dead, we will be eternally grateful for the experience we've had together, even with those we call our deepest enemies. Peace.

[sapipendek]

Thank you caroline =)