A pet is not your very own child, to the kid comparing it to a suffering pet.. I used to think i could terminate if my baby is terminal.. But now that im pregnant, and have seen and heard my baby's heart.. I could never let it go like a pet on its death bed.
If you Google "Trisomy13archive" IMAGES you will find over 1000+ photos of families like the Lauxs who have experienced this life journey of HOPE, Joy and sadly sometimes Sorrow. Each with a heartwarming story of courage and LOVE.
U guys are a very brave couple idk if I cud of did this I cant imagine losing a kid :(...im happy u got time to b wit thomas but im sorry for ur loss...hope all is well with ur new babygirl thomas and your family will b in my prayers
The most moving memorial & beautiful tribute to your son. I am sobbing. Thomas was a handsome little man. Your choice was a courageous one, one I'd hope to have the courage to go through with should I ever experience this. I admire your strength in choosing this path. Thank you for sharing it. I'm going to go and give my son a tight hug in his bed, people don't realize their luck to be blessed with a healthy pregnancy & child. I hope your baby girl lights up your life, but Thomas will always be
Although maybe not something I would likely choose to do, I was beyond amazed by the strength and hope this family has and their wish to give something, everything, and all they have to a being they created together. Gave me a new perspective. Thanks you. And congratulations regarding your daughter. She is fortunate to have such dedicated parents. If only all children could be so lucky!
WOW THATS AN AMAZING STORY AND I WOULD HAVE DONE THE SAME THING I WAS TOLD MY DAUGHTER WAS GOING TO BE BORN WITH A CCAM AND SHE WOULD NOT LIVE HAD I BEEN SELFISH AND TAKEN THE EASY WAY OUT I WOULDNT HAVE MY BABY GIRL TODAY HEALTHY SHES NOW 4 YEARS OLD AND A TROOPER IF I HAD TERMINATED I WOULDNT HAVE HER AND EVEN IF IT WAS EVEN A SECOND THAT SHE WOULD HAVE LIVED THAT WAS A SECOND I COULDNT PASS UP
This was a beautiful video. I am sitting here in tears. I am a mother of 2. I have one girl and one boy and as a parent this was so hard to watch, because I know the love you guys both felt for Thomas.
Thomas is now in a better place and he is beautiful.
Freedom of Speech hasn't gotten American people anywhere. Have you looked outside your windows lately? With occupy protestors, ranting and raving, have they been given a chance to be listened to? No. Has anything changed? No. Unemployment is still high, despite the latest % peek. But you've got college tuition hikes & plenty of proof that the rich doesn't want to get taxed.
And you're here judging what the family decided to do with their son. Grow up. Freedom of Speech is a cruel way of saying
I admire their strength during what was clearly a devastating time. For those of you bashing this poor family for letting the child "suffer," he was sent home on hospice with oxygen and pain management to ensure that he was kept comfortable. With proper pain medication, even the critically ill can be made comfortable. I hope their new baby girl will bring them much joy, and I know Thomas is watching over this family.
Im sobbing. What an amazing tribute and you two are the strongest people I have ever seen. Thank you for sharing your journey and gorgeous boy with the world. God bless you.
@gramattmom of course you dont agree with me. your not understanding that the child DID not have a life. They even said it themselves that all they can do is keep the baby comfortable. What kind of a life is that?? suffering and in pain until it dies slowly. So selfish and irresponsible.
I am pro-choice - a choice to be made by parents! I think this was THE most beautiful video EVER on Youtube- you fell in love with your little boy and wanted to meet him! I am SO sad for your loss, but also congratulations for being such LOVING parents to a lovely little boy who was PERFECT for but a while! The world knows of your lovely little Thomas - glad you made the right Choice for all 3 of you! <3
This is the most moving video I have ever watched on U Tube ,thank you for choosing life for Thomas he was such a beautiful baby boy ,may God bless both of you !
May Thomas Rest In Peace, He was a beautiful child...I dont agree with crystalblues comment, Life is always the answer and you got 5 precious days with your beautiful child...Hope that your daughter is doing good...May God be with you...
@crystalblue346 - the other option was to terminate him, which would have been worse. Respect their decision. You have no idea what it was like to walk in their shoes. Shame on you for criticizing them.
awww thank u for sharing! I lost a son when he was 7, and I totally understood when Mommy said "I dont know how I will let them take you" I felt the same way...bless your hearts and your little guy too...please let us know how your little family is now
How unselfish of you to choose Thomas. His 'issues' were negated by the extreme love in which you constantly showered him. This video is such a strong testament. It was well put when you stated that you didn't give birth hoping for a misdiagnosis or a miraculous healing. I cried when you acknowledged no future for him...no spankings, no heartbreaks. I also cried when you said that everyday with him was a miracle from God. People grieve differently. Some mourn loss but you celebrated his life.
My husband and I went through the same thing last year at this time with our son, Jack Oswald. We found out around 20 weeks that he was sick and we decided that we would let him live in my belly and/or deliver him when it was time. We found out on Sept. 28th and he was born still on Oct. 22. I was 2 days shy of 24 weeks pregnant. You are both amazing people and he was beautiful! We would have done the same thing! Susan Coleman
This was truly a very emotional story! Thankyou for sharing this! I have a friend who i watched miscarry twin girls and it was hard to watch. All i could do was pray for her. My husband and i have not been able to concieve as well but we believe that God is true to his promises! So thank God for you both sharing this story...i know God is able to do exceedingly, abundantly above all we can ever ask or think!!!
i have never cried watching a youtube video before now! im a 27 year old guy and stumbled onto this somehow after watching f-22's take off all crazy. you both are incredable parents and i wish i never have to go through that. GOD BLESS YALL!!! Thomas was a gift and yall accepted him with open arms from the start to the end. he will always be your angle! RIP THOMAS
I cried when i watched this god bless you i had my baby girl at 28 weeks and 6 days i spent 2 and 1/2 months in the hosp with her and i would do it all over again to have what i have now i have lost four and have one !! thank you for making this his life touched me in a way you will never know !! GODBLESS YOU
My daughter sent me pictures of her second ultrasound. As an ultrasound tech, I could see something wasn't right. The radiologist immediately told her that the baby had trisomy 13. He didn't survive to be born. I was there when he was born at 19 weeks. It was so sad.
This almost brought tears to my eyes and sorrow to my heart. Thank you for sharing your personal lives on Youtube. I'm 18 wks pregnant and dont get another ultrasound until Oct and hoping that i continue to have a normal and healthy pregnancy. The dr.s can tell u things that can make u worry. I'm a high risk pregnancy with high blood pressure and diabetes and pray to God that it's born healthy. Thanks again
dear parents, your son was truly a gift and you both are also the best gift your little man could have ever had if ever i had to face this i would do exactly what u both had to do thanks so so much for sharing your story may your son rest in peace u guys are amazing xx
Beautiful story. I am glad that you were able to know your son...he was a very fortunate boy that you loved him so much as to allow God to decide his fate. Thank you for sharing such an amazing testament of love for your baby boy.
I thank u for letting me and everyone else to see ur beautiful baby boy and share ur story...both of u are the most strongest parents that i ever seen...may god continue blessing both of u and ur new baby girl...baby thomas is the luckiest baby boy to have both of u!
What a beautiful way to tell your story. You had 5 days with you son while not long enough, you had the opportunity to be parents to him. Thank you for sharing your story.
well i know much about you guys but from from watching this video i can tell you 2 are very wonderful strong people .. . in a situaion like you 3 went through most people would have lost their calm from the beginning. .. your son was very lucky to have you guys. .. God Bless You 2!
you are such good parents and so brave I couldn't imagine not having my son. Thank you for sharing your story, may the Lord Bless you, and RIP beautiful baby Thomas.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. We had some abnormal blood work come back and we will find out Wednesday if our baby has Trisomy 18. This has been very heartbreaking for me but to see your story give me comfort and strength that we need to get through this. Thank you again for sharing such a personal and amazing story.
As selfish and unethical as some people may find her CHOICE to give birth to a suffering and dying baby, the important thing is she still had a CHOICE. Isn't CHOICE wonderful?
This is one of the saddest things I have ever seen in my life. You both are so brave to have done what you did. I could hear the love you have for him & he has for you. You 2 are wonderful parents & I'm so sorry for your loss. R.I.P thomas
I cried, you guys are my hero! It took strength to do what you did. Thomas is with the Lord now, never in pain again. He was able too meet his loving parents and awaits the reunion someday. :)
such a sad story, I agree with them, if only for a short while they got to hold that precious life, it was still five days, and I can't imagine the pain they went through, I know that if the decision ever faced me I would do the same, to be able to hang on to those sweet few days. And now Thomas is in a better place, better than any of us could imagine.
i admire how instead of grieving about their son having trisomy 13, they make how ever long he has on this earth being in the arms of people that love him
All I can say after watching this is I believe that precious innocent baby was truly an angel sent from Heaven. I agree, terminating the pregnancy would have been wrong!! He was born a rose on earth to bloom in Heaven.
All I can say after watching this is I believe that precious innocent baby was truly an angel sent from Heaven. I agree, terminating the pregnancy would have been wrong!! He was born a rose on earth to bloom in Heaven.
My heart breaks watching this. I have a 7 month old who's my world...I'm so very sorry for your loss. He had a short little life but enough love for an eternity.
It takes such strength to let us join in such a personal, intimate time in your lives. My heart goes out to you and your family. Thomas only knew love. What more can a mother and father give? He is watching over you, just like you did him.
You both are wonderful people , you gave him a chance at life even tho it wasnt for as long as you wish it would of been he still lived that experience , Thomas is in a better place now watching over you , both of you are truly brave , god is good you'll see .
Your bravery astounds me. I have never seen such love and devotion in my life. Thank you for allowing Thomas to live his life as God planned, and not terminating him just because of his ilnesses. You went through so much, but dealt with it with grace and honesty and dignity. You are by far my heroes and I hope when you see Thomas again that you will be given the answers you have been looking for. Meanwhile, please know that you are doing good just by telling your story.
You are the most Amazing Parents. Why nobody can ever, ever, ever understand what you're going through and the decisions you had to made but I would rather feel, touch, and smell the skin of my baby at his/hers last moments...just as you have done. I prayed everyday how lucky my son was born to me, God Bless you both and Thomas.
Words fail me. I work hospice. But before that, when my Mother and my Sister were dying, I was with them as they slipped away. I have been in this place many times and I have down whatever it has taken to make the passings as easy as possible. But THIS.......THIS....... I would NEVER EVER compare myself to the courage and compassion and STRENGTH you two have. God Bless you for giving this little bundle from Heaven the chance to feel your love. Hands on approach and you will be with him again.
Thomas is such handsome little boy. You gave he nothing but love and care the few days you had with him . Just remember he up above watching over mommy and daddy. God Bless You Both!!!
This broke my heart into pieces. I'm the mother of a healthy two month old baby boy. I hug him and think of all the things that could have happened. I think about this couple often and hope they are okay as much as it is possible when I hug my son. Thomas was a very loved little boy who was blessed with wonderful parents.
Would a termination have prevented this heartache? I will not say yes and I will not say no... but I will say that you where both very brave, I don't know if I would have been able to do it. The pro-life and pro-choice movements have to understand that these situations are not black and white, and that only the people involved can make such decisions, no one else, especially the government.
Dear t,k, and deidrea, How very brave you was in giving thomas the chance to feel such love, you stand for what parents should be, im proud of you for not giving up. Brave thomas ,he gave such a fight to stay with you for just a short while,may he rest peacefully in the arms of angels now, God will watch over him forever.hell never be forgotten im sure of that ,hugs xxxxx
That is so sad....I cannot imagine losing a child like that- knowing that he would die soon and having to know that, knowing you only had a few days with him. I'm so amazed and proud that you kept him and let him have life so he could know his loving parents before he went to heaven.
May God bless you although i'm olny 18 and I am not a parent you've ventured on a journey that many people wouldnt even considered thank you for being brave and sharing your story
heart wrenching you were so strong to allow your beautiful boy to experience the greates gift of all.....love. Love is what makes life worth living even if it is just for such a short period of time.
I work as a support worker for families with children who have life limiting conditions and I think you story is inspirational. I would love to be able to share your story if you would grant be permission (alison.rushton@gmail.com)
now, THIS is true love on so many many levels <3 <3 <3 thank you so very much for sharing the love you have for your little boy. i feel extremely honored to have seen your little Thomas too :)
he was so precious, u guys are awesome parents for giving him the gift of life, even if it was a few days. i have never cried so much than i did watching this, thomas was a true blessing. may he forever rest in peace.
To Thomas' parents: Never listen to idiots who do not know your pain! No one can fully understand how you feel..and no one has the right to even try. Thomas was sent here to you by the Lord Himself! You are his legacy and testimony! What a huge blessing little Thomas was for you! He was the angel God decided you needed and the world needed to learn from. Although the tremendous pain will never go away, the memories and love Thomas brought will never leave either. God bless you and Thomas!
My heart aches for these two extremely brave parents. I am sorry for their loss and so astonished by their courage! This little boy was given a chance to live and taken such good care of in his short time on this earth. Rest In Peace baby Thomas <3
Truly amazing family!i cried my eyes out in pure joy and also sadness.Thomas witnessed the absolute purest form of them from you two beautiful individuals.That is something i know he is cherishing up in heaven!Thomas was so very blessed to be given two of the most beautiful people on this earth as his parents!Mommy and Daddy, stay strong,i pray that you have strength and stay in peace with this choice you made. you will see that gorgeous baby boy again!so much love and respect,T'shya
I'm french, so I dont' speak english very well. It's the first video which make me cry. Your son was very cute. We feel all his parent's love and he could died in peace. It's very strong. You give all that a baby need : presence and love You're wonderfull parents. ALICE
God bless you all. I'm still bawling my eyes out 10 minutes later. You are strong people and your son was beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing his story.
My name is Melanie and I saw your story recently and my heart went out to you...Thomas touched me in such a way, that I decided to make a tiny baby sculpt. However, my little Thomas does not have the facial features of your lil Thomas, I wanted your permission to tell baby Thomas' story when I list my lil one on ebay. I would very much like to send you a pix of the baby I created in honor of your little boy...email me at lonestaramazed2@gmail.com Thank you,T.K and Deidrea...hugs Mel
there was a woman who wrote for a loacal mag about her experience. she found out mid preganacy that her son had a kidney abnormality which would make him unviable outside the womb. she carried him to term knowing he's be stillborn. she inspires me.
Thank you for sharing this video and letting us see those precious moments with your beautiful boy. I sit here in tears, so sad to know he is in heaven but so grateful to have shared an insight into his life. So sorry for your loss - God bless xXx
God bless you. I cried my eyes out during the entire video. I am so sorry for your loss. He will be with you forever. You should be very proud of yourselves. He is now your gardian angel.
Although I cried through this video, 'your special journey with Baby Thomas'. I can only say how deeply sorry I feel for your loss. You are wonderful loving and sefless people who got to meet and spend 5 loving ,wonderful and blessed days with him that will stay in your hearts forever. Love and light always......
Thanks for sharing your story i cried from the start to the end i sorry for your loss you did the right thing to let your baby live because only God has the decision of when to take our live from this earth now your baby is an angel and is watching over you you guys are so brave wish you and your family the best and again thanks for giving me the priviledge to meet this wonderful lil angel that was such a fighter <3
i cried soo hard! im so proud of your little boy, and you as parent's, for going through what has to be the hardest thing in the world! your little boy was so beautiful, you were touched by a miraacle, if only for the shortest time, you son will always be in my heart now! as will you two! Hug's and lots of love!
i was watching the baby Brianna's brutal death from her own family..then this one...you know i was wishing that baby Brianna had a loving parents like you..maybe she is healthy and alive now...
That was so touching yet so heartbreaking . thank you for shearing such a heartbreaking loss i myself have lost a baby in death and I look forward to the day when I will see her once again as the bible tells us our GOD promises at Isaiah 26:19 when it says the dead will rise once again .. your family is in my prayers always .
I am deeply sorry for your loss and pain and you are such a beautiful couple and did your boy proud. However I do not feel that others who choose to abort in these tragic situation are forgetting about their loss or taking an easy way out. I respect both decisions because nobody should have to make either. I hope your little princess brings you joy which you both deserve. God bless.
My partner & I are expecting our son in late april 2011. The doctors have told us a mth ago that he has Trisomy 9 mosanic & for his quality of life we should abort?
Me being a proud father of 2 girls & 3 step children I told them he is my quality of life. No matter what he has & if he lives I intend to be his life. Life is too short to be selfish with your own needs. I can't wait to welcome him into our family. God Bless all who have gone through this.
This is beautiful. Thank you so much for being such an example and inspiration. You embraced Thomas' little life in all of it's pain and beauty, because that's what life is...so fragile, so strong, so messy, so beautiful.
Alright, I agree with all these comments about the bravery and inspiration of these parents choosing to have their son, if even just for a short time. But all this talk about thanking God just pulls my strings... if your "God" was at all merciful, why did he give Thomas this disease? Why didn't he let him have a normal, healthy, long life? And why is it that people are saying that God "blessed" them w. the baby girl, did Thomas deserve less of a chance at life than she does? Screw God
@shmexxyfooker Well, shmexxy, we can judge God based on our circumstances or we can judge our circumstances based on what we hold to be true about God. Suffering doesn't mean God doesn't love.
You can choose to shake your fist and be bitter for the rest of your life, or you can choose to embrace things in all of their pain and learn from them. It's only without God that suffering becomes truly pointless, because then there is nothing beyond our own, very limited, minds and bodies.
What an inspiration. Thank you for sharing. You two have true grasp on what love is and are sharing this with the world, even though you had to make yourselves so vunerable. I have some real hardships I'm going through as well and this is truely a a story I will hold close to my heart. Thank you.
I just wanted to say that I have never cried so hard in my life after watching your video. What you both did was the most amazing thing I have ever witnessed in my life. I really mean that. Choosing life for your little thomas was the greatest gift of all. I have lost 2 babies myself and never had the chance to hold them, but if I had the chance I would do it in a heartbeat. I wish you both the best and I wanted you to know that your video forver touched my heart and life in a way unlike anythng
omg....that's horrible but amazing at the same time. His parents are unbelieveably strong, i couldn't be that strong and i have no kids yet! what an angel!
There is no way I could go and buy a coffin for either of my kids. Nor could I hold a strong front if they passed. I have many wishes of good luck for them and they had a beautiful son.
Thank you for sharing your story. My cousin just lost her baby girl Grace Marie to trisomy 13 two days ago. baby Grace lived for 33 min and was surrounded my family and love. She was born into this world with only knowing love and left this world with love.
We are all very sad but trying to stay strong. Thank you for your story and video.
Thank you so much for sharing Thomas' life with us. The three of you are beautiful, and this film is an amazing tribute to an amazing child and his parents. God bless you!
OMG! you two are the strongest people i have ever come across. you two are amazing for letting that little boy breathe and eat and cry and be loved. my heart hurts for you and goes out to you two! i hope the best for your family! thank you for letting the little man live! beautiful little man!
Thank you for this moving video. I lost my triplet daughter to Anencephaly. Today is Isabella's one year anniversary. Today I found this video. Happy Birthday Isabella!
This is most heart wrenching memorial to that precious little guy. How hard it must have been to go thru this; makes me so thankful for the healthy children and grandchildren in my life. My heart aches for you both. God in heaven has another angel. Be Blessed
instead of aborting your baby, you were there for him when he needed you the most, what an amazing and selfless act , you are both so brave, he is so gorgeous..
instead of aborting your baby, you were there for him when he needed you the most, what an amazing and selfless act , you are both so brave, he is so gorgeous..
Thank you so very much for sharing your beautiful Thomas with us. My heart grieves for you so. Thank you for trusting God by allowing Thomas to live the life that He placed in your loving hands.
We were told we should end the pregnancy with our daughter when we found out she had heart, kidney and brain issues at 5 months along. I could not end it, I wanted God to decide when it was time to go, not me. Because of my beliefs my daughter is still here and is about to turn 6, yes she has her issues but I am blessed to have her. This story touched my heart and congrats to them on their little girl!!
"I could not end it, I wanted God to decide when it was time to go, not me." <--Hear hear! If my little one was to be born with a terrible disease, I would want the chance to hold and admire him. I wouldn't want to be the one responsible for his death. Why hasten it when I can bring myself some closure?
Stories like this are so wonderful. And kudos to you, Mom, for raising your little girl.
I don't understand how anyone could think this sweet boy suffered. He was held in the arms of the people who nurtured him for 9 months - nothing intrusive or painful was done to him. His needs were met fully. He knew nothing but love, and then slipped into the arms of Our Father.
i'm so sorry for your lost..i was cried when i see this video (and still cry when i write the comment)..i cry louder when i see the his breath start going wrong..
i'm sorry if my grammar isn't right,i still learn english..
i heart your baby,may he be the cutest angel in heaven..
@sausage2987 No if you listen in the video, the father says that the cleft palate/other physical deformities could have been fixed, but his brain, heart, and kidney issues could not be.
What they did was truly admirable. Some would have just taken the easy and murderous way out and terminated the pregnancy. If Thomas had been my child, I would have done the same thing. I woul drather have a little time than no time at all. As the saying goes, better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all. I broke down when he started breathing erratically. RIP wee one. He's now watching over his baby sister.
God bless you. My daughter had an omphalocele and I was told that she would most likely have trisomy 13 or 18 and they pushed for me to terminate my pregnancy. I chose, just as you did, to let God determine when it was her time to go. She was still born at 23 weeks. I thank God for the time I had with her, if even just in the womb.
I am so touched and moved by this video... thank you so much for sharing this with the world and letting us see your personal moments... know that Thomas is up there in heaven thanking you for getting the chance to be sooo loved by you and your husband. And many blessings on the newest member of your family... I pray for her good health!!!
thank you so much for allowing us in to your most personal of moments. You are such an inspiration to me, and a wonderful example of trust in God. Thomas's life mattered and has even touched those he will never know. That was the most moving video I have ever seen. I know I will never forget it. I pray many blessings for you.
I watched this 5 months ago and it made me cry then and I just watched it again and it still makes me cry so hard. I cryed again when Daddy said that he died on my Chest baby! R.I.P sweet Thomas cant wait to meet you in Heaven when I get their!
oh goodness im cryin so uncontrolably right now, my heart goes out to u and ur husband. but all the loving and precious moments that u had with him. the chance to hold him, and cuddle him, and smell his skin, has to be with every moment that u had with him. much love and many many blessing sent ur way.
I dont comment often on videos, but how could I not to this? You have shown compassion and bravery where alot simply could not. I hope so much that you are blessed with peace and memories of comfort. Thankyou for sharing.
Thank you both so much for this video.Thomas was a beautiful baby. My husband and I went through almost the exact same thing. My daughter was born with Trisomy13 also. She lived for 35 days. I found this video and watched it every day for like 3 weeks after Dakota passed. It made me feel closer to Dakota. It also helped me realize that there really is someone out there who understands my pain. Congratulations on baby Isabella.
By far one of the most touching, heartbreaking and beautiful videos I have EVER SEEN!!!! R.I.P Thomas.... You were such a brave little fighter. Your parents are two of the strongest and beautiful people I have ever seen. xxxxxxx
I am crying so hard right now. I remember when my son Jorel Christopher was born. My husband and I are exactly like this. It's hard when you know that your only child will die soon and watching him dying but we are fortunate to see them and spend time with them even for a short period of time. My son passed away after 7 days and he is sooo beautiful he is the most beautiful child I have ever seen.. May our angels rest in peace.
I am crying so hard right now. I remember when my son Jorel Christopher was born. My husband and I are exactly like this. It's hard when you know that your only child will die soon and watching him dying but we are fortunate to see them and spend time with them even for a short period of time. My son passed away after 7 days and he is sooo beautiful he is the most beautiful child I have ever seen.. May our angels rest in peace.
I have never seen anything quite so touching as this video. Thank you for posting it to better inform and enlighten everyone who has children with or without this disease. What a beautiful testimony to your beautiful son. You did the right thing. What brave and loving parents you are. Best of luck in the future and God bless!
Thank you..... Thank you for sharing your wonderful love for a special little boy. I wish that no parent should ever suffer a loss like yours but there is so much to learn about love from people like you and Thomas....
I will never forget any of you...this video will be one I return to to pay tribute to the miracles in this world that are something right in front of us. We should all open our eyes to see them.
im so srry i lost my son topotters syndrome which means he had no kidneys nd wouldnt survive through birth.i terminated due to the health risks i could have .i wishi could have felt my son breathe nd heard him cry but i didnt i admire wat you did .
oh my gosh, what a beautiful little boy you have! I cannot imagine the heartbreak you have experienced, and what a gift he was to you, and you were to him! He was such a fighter - and he was truly a miracle. God bless you sweet family!
Thank you so much for this, for proving that all life is a miracle. that each moment should be cherished and every breath is a blessing. I feel so lucky to have known Thomas through this video. What an amazing gift, proof that love, and life are measured in heartbeats. My heart goes out to you, for your bravery, and your willingness to share your son with the world.
I have cried with you today, Deirdra, TK -- Your little angel looks so much like my Bryan, also Patau's -- who was born 3/17/81, passed 3/21/81 in my arms too. 4 days. What an experience to share. i now have Ryan, 27 years of age. Bryan opened my heart to be a far better mother for when Ryan would come. God bless you both & your baby girl. Much love to you all. <3
Thank you for sharing your beautiful son. He was precious and perfect.
Calleiah 1 day ago
A pet is not your very own child, to the kid comparing it to a suffering pet.. I used to think i could terminate if my baby is terminal.. But now that im pregnant, and have seen and heard my baby's heart.. I could never let it go like a pet on its death bed.
sikkmage81 1 week ago 2
If you Google "Trisomy13archive" IMAGES you will find over 1000+ photos of families like the Lauxs who have experienced this life journey of HOPE, Joy and sadly sometimes Sorrow. Each with a heartwarming story of courage and LOVE.
ThereseAnnM 2 weeks ago 3
U guys are a very brave couple idk if I cud of did this I cant imagine losing a kid :(...im happy u got time to b wit thomas but im sorry for ur loss...hope all is well with ur new babygirl thomas and your family will b in my prayers
ToPCiTyzFiNeSt86 2 weeks ago
Brave...Beautiful and Amazing!
LuvsMyDoxies 2 weeks ago
This memorial to your son was undoubtedly one of the most difficult, yet beautiful things I have ever witnessed. Rest in Peace Baby Thomas.
nikisupernurse 3 weeks ago
The most moving memorial & beautiful tribute to your son. I am sobbing. Thomas was a handsome little man. Your choice was a courageous one, one I'd hope to have the courage to go through with should I ever experience this. I admire your strength in choosing this path. Thank you for sharing it. I'm going to go and give my son a tight hug in his bed, people don't realize their luck to be blessed with a healthy pregnancy & child. I hope your baby girl lights up your life, but Thomas will always be
jnk254 3 weeks ago
Although maybe not something I would likely choose to do, I was beyond amazed by the strength and hope this family has and their wish to give something, everything, and all they have to a being they created together. Gave me a new perspective. Thanks you. And congratulations regarding your daughter. She is fortunate to have such dedicated parents. If only all children could be so lucky!
sunychica 1 month ago
Thank you for sharing this video and these precious days with Thomas.
bones206 1 month ago
WOW THATS AN AMAZING STORY AND I WOULD HAVE DONE THE SAME THING I WAS TOLD MY DAUGHTER WAS GOING TO BE BORN WITH A CCAM AND SHE WOULD NOT LIVE HAD I BEEN SELFISH AND TAKEN THE EASY WAY OUT I WOULDNT HAVE MY BABY GIRL TODAY HEALTHY SHES NOW 4 YEARS OLD AND A TROOPER IF I HAD TERMINATED I WOULDNT HAVE HER AND EVEN IF IT WAS EVEN A SECOND THAT SHE WOULD HAVE LIVED THAT WAS A SECOND I COULDNT PASS UP
fontes0 1 month ago
This was a beautiful video. I am sitting here in tears. I am a mother of 2. I have one girl and one boy and as a parent this was so hard to watch, because I know the love you guys both felt for Thomas.
Thomas is now in a better place and he is beautiful.
KIMBURLEExMAHREE 1 month ago
Freedom of Speech hasn't gotten American people anywhere. Have you looked outside your windows lately? With occupy protestors, ranting and raving, have they been given a chance to be listened to? No. Has anything changed? No. Unemployment is still high, despite the latest % peek. But you've got college tuition hikes & plenty of proof that the rich doesn't want to get taxed.
And you're here judging what the family decided to do with their son. Grow up. Freedom of Speech is a cruel way of saying
asnwings 1 month ago
how selfish.
dirtybirdy 1 month ago
I admire their strength during what was clearly a devastating time. For those of you bashing this poor family for letting the child "suffer," he was sent home on hospice with oxygen and pain management to ensure that he was kept comfortable. With proper pain medication, even the critically ill can be made comfortable. I hope their new baby girl will bring them much joy, and I know Thomas is watching over this family.
christina2walsh 1 month ago
@clairereynolds if you had a pet that was suffering...would you choose to terminate it's life or let it suffer in pain? Exactly...so stfu
crystalblue346 1 month ago
@clairereynolds it's called freedom of speech. And I have EVERY idea what they went through....so you shouldn't be assuming you know me.
crystalblue346 1 month ago
Im sobbing. What an amazing tribute and you two are the strongest people I have ever seen. Thank you for sharing your journey and gorgeous boy with the world. God bless you.
clairereynolds 1 month ago
@gramattmom of course you dont agree with me. your not understanding that the child DID not have a life. They even said it themselves that all they can do is keep the baby comfortable. What kind of a life is that?? suffering and in pain until it dies slowly. So selfish and irresponsible.
crystalblue346 2 months ago
I am pro-choice - a choice to be made by parents! I think this was THE most beautiful video EVER on Youtube- you fell in love with your little boy and wanted to meet him! I am SO sad for your loss, but also congratulations for being such LOVING parents to a lovely little boy who was PERFECT for but a while! The world knows of your lovely little Thomas - glad you made the right Choice for all 3 of you! <3
bambis46 2 months ago
This is the most moving video I have ever watched on U Tube ,thank you for choosing life for Thomas he was such a beautiful baby boy ,may God bless both of you !
tinatavarez 2 months ago
May Thomas Rest In Peace, He was a beautiful child...I dont agree with crystalblues comment, Life is always the answer and you got 5 precious days with your beautiful child...Hope that your daughter is doing good...May God be with you...
gramattmom 2 months ago
This is horrible. Making this child suffer and die.
crystalblue346 2 months ago
@crystalblue346 - the other option was to terminate him, which would have been worse. Respect their decision. You have no idea what it was like to walk in their shoes. Shame on you for criticizing them.
clairereynolds 1 month ago
awww thank u for sharing! I lost a son when he was 7, and I totally understood when Mommy said "I dont know how I will let them take you" I felt the same way...bless your hearts and your little guy too...please let us know how your little family is now
luvsmonks4902 2 months ago
The tears... they won't stop. T_T
BeautifulCh40s 2 months ago
How unselfish of you to choose Thomas. His 'issues' were negated by the extreme love in which you constantly showered him. This video is such a strong testament. It was well put when you stated that you didn't give birth hoping for a misdiagnosis or a miraculous healing. I cried when you acknowledged no future for him...no spankings, no heartbreaks. I also cried when you said that everyday with him was a miracle from God. People grieve differently. Some mourn loss but you celebrated his life.
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LindsC27 3 months ago
Sobbing. Precious. Thank-you.
mpknlb 3 months ago
All i can say is that he is with god with no more pain..
R.I.P Thomas ♥ :(
ItsurGurlAshalay2008 3 months ago
My husband and I went through the same thing last year at this time with our son, Jack Oswald. We found out around 20 weeks that he was sick and we decided that we would let him live in my belly and/or deliver him when it was time. We found out on Sept. 28th and he was born still on Oct. 22. I was 2 days shy of 24 weeks pregnant. You are both amazing people and he was beautiful! We would have done the same thing! Susan Coleman
finjudeavahjack 3 months ago
покойся с миром малыш...
sweetmbaby17 3 months ago
This was truly a very emotional story! Thankyou for sharing this! I have a friend who i watched miscarry twin girls and it was hard to watch. All i could do was pray for her. My husband and i have not been able to concieve as well but we believe that God is true to his promises! So thank God for you both sharing this story...i know God is able to do exceedingly, abundantly above all we can ever ask or think!!!
dionn83 3 months ago
i have never cried watching a youtube video before now! im a 27 year old guy and stumbled onto this somehow after watching f-22's take off all crazy. you both are incredable parents and i wish i never have to go through that. GOD BLESS YALL!!! Thomas was a gift and yall accepted him with open arms from the start to the end. he will always be your angle! RIP THOMAS
mt12684 4 months ago 6
I cried when i watched this god bless you i had my baby girl at 28 weeks and 6 days i spent 2 and 1/2 months in the hosp with her and i would do it all over again to have what i have now i have lost four and have one !! thank you for making this his life touched me in a way you will never know !! GODBLESS YOU
smallfry6499 4 months ago
My daughter sent me pictures of her second ultrasound. As an ultrasound tech, I could see something wasn't right. The radiologist immediately told her that the baby had trisomy 13. He didn't survive to be born. I was there when he was born at 19 weeks. It was so sad.
ShaylaMafia 4 months ago
My heart breakes for you...
romoraes2006 4 months ago
This almost brought tears to my eyes and sorrow to my heart. Thank you for sharing your personal lives on Youtube. I'm 18 wks pregnant and dont get another ultrasound until Oct and hoping that i continue to have a normal and healthy pregnancy. The dr.s can tell u things that can make u worry. I'm a high risk pregnancy with high blood pressure and diabetes and pray to God that it's born healthy. Thanks again
abwgem27 4 months ago
very sad glad u chose to let him live!!! beautiful little boy
stilettobaby86 4 months ago
dear parents, your son was truly a gift and you both are also the best gift your little man could have ever had if ever i had to face this i would do exactly what u both had to do thanks so so much for sharing your story may your son rest in peace u guys are amazing xx
1982kristylee 4 months ago
perfect love
crustyboils 5 months ago
Beautiful story. I am glad that you were able to know your son...he was a very fortunate boy that you loved him so much as to allow God to decide his fate. Thank you for sharing such an amazing testament of love for your baby boy.
mrschknfricasee 5 months ago
I thank u for letting me and everyone else to see ur beautiful baby boy and share ur story...both of u are the most strongest parents that i ever seen...may god continue blessing both of u and ur new baby girl...baby thomas is the luckiest baby boy to have both of u!
msdodger09 5 months ago
What a beautiful way to tell your story. You had 5 days with you son while not long enough, you had the opportunity to be parents to him. Thank you for sharing your story.
shouldbemarried1 5 months ago
well i know much about you guys but from from watching this video i can tell you 2 are very wonderful strong people .. . in a situaion like you 3 went through most people would have lost their calm from the beginning. .. your son was very lucky to have you guys. .. God Bless You 2!
brather08 5 months ago
you are such good parents and so brave I couldn't imagine not having my son. Thank you for sharing your story, may the Lord Bless you, and RIP beautiful baby Thomas.
2ravenf0x2 5 months ago
Thank you so much for sharing your story. We had some abnormal blood work come back and we will find out Wednesday if our baby has Trisomy 18. This has been very heartbreaking for me but to see your story give me comfort and strength that we need to get through this. Thank you again for sharing such a personal and amazing story.
God Bless,
Kristina
Prophet4301 6 months ago
As selfish and unethical as some people may find her CHOICE to give birth to a suffering and dying baby, the important thing is she still had a CHOICE. Isn't CHOICE wonderful?
gingerbreadcorpses 6 months ago
This is one of the saddest things I have ever seen in my life. You both are so brave to have done what you did. I could hear the love you have for him & he has for you. You 2 are wonderful parents & I'm so sorry for your loss. R.I.P thomas
BlazinBri187 6 months ago
I cried, you guys are my hero! It took strength to do what you did. Thomas is with the Lord now, never in pain again. He was able too meet his loving parents and awaits the reunion someday. :)
hollipopx3 6 months ago
you are so strong.
XxGrellxUndertakerxX 6 months ago
i couldnt stop crying. so very sorry for your loss.
artyfeelhoneyme 6 months ago
Oh God, this video trully touched my heart and I really cudn't stop crying. I'm very very sad. Rest in peace Thomas.
lilpancake 6 months ago
such a sad story, I agree with them, if only for a short while they got to hold that precious life, it was still five days, and I can't imagine the pain they went through, I know that if the decision ever faced me I would do the same, to be able to hang on to those sweet few days. And now Thomas is in a better place, better than any of us could imagine.
googoodollsjohnny 6 months ago 13
my heart broke when I saw such a little angel. I salute to your braveness. May you rest in peace Thomas.
amolsw 6 months ago
your beautiful little boy, is an angel.......you did the right thing, such love. so pure, you will surely be blessed someday.XXXXX
indatefred 6 months ago
i admire how instead of grieving about their son having trisomy 13, they make how ever long he has on this earth being in the arms of people that love him
ItsJonahh 6 months ago
Thank you so much for sharing. May you rest in peace Thomas.
Jen2848 6 months ago
All I can say after watching this is I believe that precious innocent baby was truly an angel sent from Heaven. I agree, terminating the pregnancy would have been wrong!! He was born a rose on earth to bloom in Heaven.
russell1008 6 months ago
All I can say after watching this is I believe that precious innocent baby was truly an angel sent from Heaven. I agree, terminating the pregnancy would have been wrong!! He was born a rose on earth to bloom in Heaven.
russell1008 6 months ago
My heart breaks watching this. I have a 7 month old who's my world...I'm so very sorry for your loss. He had a short little life but enough love for an eternity.
tkt182000 7 months ago
I cried.
randomkristen97 7 months ago
It takes such strength to let us join in such a personal, intimate time in your lives. My heart goes out to you and your family. Thomas only knew love. What more can a mother and father give? He is watching over you, just like you did him.
UtohSnap 7 months ago
How totally precious he was, and you both gave him such a gift--your love. I am crying for you...
chrismv87 7 months ago
You guys are so strong I admire u for that such a lively video of his life with u I am deeply sorry for your loss
cassyandjason03 7 months ago
My Blessings go out to you this story really touched my heart .
kATTdaddyyy 7 months ago
You both are wonderful people , you gave him a chance at life even tho it wasnt for as long as you wish it would of been he still lived that experience , Thomas is in a better place now watching over you , both of you are truly brave , god is good you'll see .
kATTdaddyyy 7 months ago
Dear T.K. and Deidrea~~
Your bravery astounds me. I have never seen such love and devotion in my life. Thank you for allowing Thomas to live his life as God planned, and not terminating him just because of his ilnesses. You went through so much, but dealt with it with grace and honesty and dignity. You are by far my heroes and I hope when you see Thomas again that you will be given the answers you have been looking for. Meanwhile, please know that you are doing good just by telling your story.
Susanlucena 7 months ago
You are the most Amazing Parents. Why nobody can ever, ever, ever understand what you're going through and the decisions you had to made but I would rather feel, touch, and smell the skin of my baby at his/hers last moments...just as you have done. I prayed everyday how lucky my son was born to me, God Bless you both and Thomas.
bedatcheeky80 8 months ago
He was so beautiful and thankyou for sharing him with us.He is in my heart now and i will not forget.
tekel8 8 months ago
Thank you, he is beautiful
kenjahsmom 8 months ago
Words fail me. I work hospice. But before that, when my Mother and my Sister were dying, I was with them as they slipped away. I have been in this place many times and I have down whatever it has taken to make the passings as easy as possible. But THIS.......THIS....... I would NEVER EVER compare myself to the courage and compassion and STRENGTH you two have. God Bless you for giving this little bundle from Heaven the chance to feel your love. Hands on approach and you will be with him again.
Tommit9 8 months ago
Thomas is such handsome little boy. You gave he nothing but love and care the few days you had with him . Just remember he up above watching over mommy and daddy. God Bless You Both!!!
traceyterrydeloney18 8 months ago
This broke my heart into pieces. I'm the mother of a healthy two month old baby boy. I hug him and think of all the things that could have happened. I think about this couple often and hope they are okay as much as it is possible when I hug my son. Thomas was a very loved little boy who was blessed with wonderful parents.
lolanik 8 months ago
Would a termination have prevented this heartache? I will not say yes and I will not say no... but I will say that you where both very brave, I don't know if I would have been able to do it. The pro-life and pro-choice movements have to understand that these situations are not black and white, and that only the people involved can make such decisions, no one else, especially the government.
chibicat13 8 months ago 2
Dear t,k, and deidrea, How very brave you was in giving thomas the chance to feel such love, you stand for what parents should be, im proud of you for not giving up. Brave thomas ,he gave such a fight to stay with you for just a short while,may he rest peacefully in the arms of angels now, God will watch over him forever.hell never be forgotten im sure of that ,hugs xxxxx
tracyg42 8 months ago
That is so sad....I cannot imagine losing a child like that- knowing that he would die soon and having to know that, knowing you only had a few days with him. I'm so amazed and proud that you kept him and let him have life so he could know his loving parents before he went to heaven.
eurasianchica 8 months ago
May God bless you although i'm olny 18 and I am not a parent you've ventured on a journey that many people wouldnt even considered thank you for being brave and sharing your story
ksherman2014 8 months ago
heart wrenching you were so strong to allow your beautiful boy to experience the greates gift of all.....love. Love is what makes life worth living even if it is just for such a short period of time.
I work as a support worker for families with children who have life limiting conditions and I think you story is inspirational. I would love to be able to share your story if you would grant be permission (alison.rushton@gmail.com)
My heart and throught are with you x x
RushtonAli 8 months ago
now, THIS is true love on so many many levels <3 <3 <3 thank you so very much for sharing the love you have for your little boy. i feel extremely honored to have seen your little Thomas too :)
hunnibud 9 months ago
he was so precious, u guys are awesome parents for giving him the gift of life, even if it was a few days. i have never cried so much than i did watching this, thomas was a true blessing. may he forever rest in peace.
SuperShortee28 9 months ago
You are both so brave. God bless you and your gorgeous little boy.
tennis90125 9 months ago
To Thomas' parents: Never listen to idiots who do not know your pain! No one can fully understand how you feel..and no one has the right to even try. Thomas was sent here to you by the Lord Himself! You are his legacy and testimony! What a huge blessing little Thomas was for you! He was the angel God decided you needed and the world needed to learn from. Although the tremendous pain will never go away, the memories and love Thomas brought will never leave either. God bless you and Thomas!
Niket7 9 months ago
I have so much respect for you . You did such an amazing thing for your little boy. I know he is waiting in heaven for you. God bless you.
muttmotorcycles 9 months ago
My heart aches for these two extremely brave parents. I am sorry for their loss and so astonished by their courage! This little boy was given a chance to live and taken such good care of in his short time on this earth. Rest In Peace baby Thomas <3
Shayles89 9 months ago
Truly amazing family!i cried my eyes out in pure joy and also sadness.Thomas witnessed the absolute purest form of them from you two beautiful individuals.That is something i know he is cherishing up in heaven!Thomas was so very blessed to be given two of the most beautiful people on this earth as his parents!Mommy and Daddy, stay strong,i pray that you have strength and stay in peace with this choice you made. you will see that gorgeous baby boy again!so much love and respect,T'shya
missyT002 9 months ago
tats sad
teddybearlover321 9 months ago
I'm french, so I dont' speak english very well. It's the first video which make me cry. Your son was very cute. We feel all his parent's love and he could died in peace. It's very strong. You give all that a baby need : presence and love You're wonderfull parents. ALICE
missalice16111978 9 months ago
God bless you all. I'm still bawling my eyes out 10 minutes later. You are strong people and your son was beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing his story.
Recalbenzio 9 months ago
Hi,
My name is Melanie and I saw your story recently and my heart went out to you...Thomas touched me in such a way, that I decided to make a tiny baby sculpt. However, my little Thomas does not have the facial features of your lil Thomas, I wanted your permission to tell baby Thomas' story when I list my lil one on ebay. I would very much like to send you a pix of the baby I created in honor of your little boy...email me at lonestaramazed2@gmail.com Thank you,T.K and Deidrea...hugs Mel
jakeandalexasmomma 9 months ago
I lost it at 5:58 when the father started crying. Very emotional. I am very sorry for your loss,
VegetarianGirl10 9 months ago
I bawled my eyes out when I saw this video.
BeautifulCh40s 9 months ago
<3 :( God bless you... I dont know what to say <3
MarissasAngels 9 months ago
It killed me to see you looking for a casket/funeral type things touching your belly. I am so sorry for your loss, xoxo
MarissasAngels 9 months ago
must have been so hard watching him stuggle for air like that. poor baby
wadyano 9 months ago
there was a woman who wrote for a loacal mag about her experience. she found out mid preganacy that her son had a kidney abnormality which would make him unviable outside the womb. she carried him to term knowing he's be stillborn. she inspires me.
wadyano 9 months ago
im sorry for ur loss he was truely a strong and beautiful baby boy
mcrsan125 10 months ago
Thank you for sharing this video and letting us see those precious moments with your beautiful boy. I sit here in tears, so sad to know he is in heaven but so grateful to have shared an insight into his life. So sorry for your loss - God bless xXx
LADYALEXANDRE666 10 months ago
God bless you. I cried my eyes out during the entire video. I am so sorry for your loss. He will be with you forever. You should be very proud of yourselves. He is now your gardian angel.
Maya66411 10 months ago
so brave, so wonderful, so special, xxxx
jocijo 10 months ago
Although I cried through this video, 'your special journey with Baby Thomas'. I can only say how deeply sorry I feel for your loss. You are wonderful loving and sefless people who got to meet and spend 5 loving ,wonderful and blessed days with him that will stay in your hearts forever. Love and light always......
joannibeckett 10 months ago
i am sou proud of u guys u have been very strOng...wonderful baby =) //at least hes a little angel nOw
bubu0686 10 months ago
Thanks for sharing your story i cried from the start to the end i sorry for your loss you did the right thing to let your baby live because only God has the decision of when to take our live from this earth now your baby is an angel and is watching over you you guys are so brave wish you and your family the best and again thanks for giving me the priviledge to meet this wonderful lil angel that was such a fighter <3
janiereyes10 10 months ago
what did me in was when the dad started crying. and man that little boy was fighting tooth and nail for his life!
DreamsofCentaurs 10 months ago
i cried soo hard! im so proud of your little boy, and you as parent's, for going through what has to be the hardest thing in the world! your little boy was so beautiful, you were touched by a miraacle, if only for the shortest time, you son will always be in my heart now! as will you two! Hug's and lots of love!
danascully1988 10 months ago
what wonderfull parents, i cant imagine what u went through.
may he rest in peace. x♥
xxmuchx 10 months ago
i was watching the baby Brianna's brutal death from her own family..then this one...you know i was wishing that baby Brianna had a loving parents like you..maybe she is healthy and alive now...
imyourgirl70 10 months ago
That was so touching yet so heartbreaking . thank you for shearing such a heartbreaking loss i myself have lost a baby in death and I look forward to the day when I will see her once again as the bible tells us our GOD promises at Isaiah 26:19 when it says the dead will rise once again .. your family is in my prayers always .
tsisquoga 10 months ago
It was a wonderful thing for you guys to let him live, even if it was for a few day. i cried during it but I am so proud of tyou guys. God Bless.
briproudmother 10 months ago
He was a gift and he was perfect I am so sorry for your loss
WasOneOnce 10 months ago
Beautiful baby inside and out. Thanks for sharing your journey with us.
raerae1985 10 months ago
Thanking you both so much for sharing this with us..he was/is a beautiful little boy.. i feel honured to watch this..xx
lisabirchmore 10 months ago
Just wanted to say thank you for having such courage to share your story and expressing what true love entails!!
saintbane66 10 months ago
I am deeply sorry for your loss and pain and you are such a beautiful couple and did your boy proud. However I do not feel that others who choose to abort in these tragic situation are forgetting about their loss or taking an easy way out. I respect both decisions because nobody should have to make either. I hope your little princess brings you joy which you both deserve. God bless.
Kate201024 10 months ago
My partner & I are expecting our son in late april 2011. The doctors have told us a mth ago that he has Trisomy 9 mosanic & for his quality of life we should abort?
Me being a proud father of 2 girls & 3 step children I told them he is my quality of life. No matter what he has & if he lives I intend to be his life. Life is too short to be selfish with your own needs. I can't wait to welcome him into our family. God Bless all who have gone through this.
jordon1954 10 months ago
This was beautiful yet so sad, I am sorry for your loss but I am guessing those few days with him were the best 5 days of your life.
with tears and pain love Abby
padackles16 10 months ago
This is beautiful. Thank you so much for being such an example and inspiration. You embraced Thomas' little life in all of it's pain and beauty, because that's what life is...so fragile, so strong, so messy, so beautiful.
Thank you so much.
mapsandviolins1 11 months ago
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Alright, I agree with all these comments about the bravery and inspiration of these parents choosing to have their son, if even just for a short time. But all this talk about thanking God just pulls my strings... if your "God" was at all merciful, why did he give Thomas this disease? Why didn't he let him have a normal, healthy, long life? And why is it that people are saying that God "blessed" them w. the baby girl, did Thomas deserve less of a chance at life than she does? Screw God
shmexxyfooker 11 months ago
@shmexxyfooker Well, shmexxy, we can judge God based on our circumstances or we can judge our circumstances based on what we hold to be true about God. Suffering doesn't mean God doesn't love.
You can choose to shake your fist and be bitter for the rest of your life, or you can choose to embrace things in all of their pain and learn from them. It's only without God that suffering becomes truly pointless, because then there is nothing beyond our own, very limited, minds and bodies.
mapsandviolins1 9 months ago
Thank you.
maddy6able 11 months ago
What an inspiration. Thank you for sharing. You two have true grasp on what love is and are sharing this with the world, even though you had to make yourselves so vunerable. I have some real hardships I'm going through as well and this is truely a a story I will hold close to my heart. Thank you.
gracetrussell 11 months ago
You are both so strong! I am so sorry so very sorry he was precious and your time with him... what a gift
djdancer00 11 months ago
I just wanted to say that I have never cried so hard in my life after watching your video. What you both did was the most amazing thing I have ever witnessed in my life. I really mean that. Choosing life for your little thomas was the greatest gift of all. I have lost 2 babies myself and never had the chance to hold them, but if I had the chance I would do it in a heartbeat. I wish you both the best and I wanted you to know that your video forver touched my heart and life in a way unlike anythng
jessstuard 11 months ago
omg....that's horrible but amazing at the same time. His parents are unbelieveably strong, i couldn't be that strong and i have no kids yet! what an angel!
29Lauzza 11 months ago
You three are amazing I loved what you did sooo much I wish you guys the best XOXO
anarocksthis 11 months ago
There is no way I could go and buy a coffin for either of my kids. Nor could I hold a strong front if they passed. I have many wishes of good luck for them and they had a beautiful son.
Ash2Dust87 11 months ago
Thank you for sharing your story. My cousin just lost her baby girl Grace Marie to trisomy 13 two days ago. baby Grace lived for 33 min and was surrounded my family and love. She was born into this world with only knowing love and left this world with love.
We are all very sad but trying to stay strong. Thank you for your story and video.
hodgesfamily4 11 months ago
to anyone who says that they did anything during the pregnancy, your wrong trisomy 13 is an extra chromosome on #13 its uncontrollable..
hischick4lifey 11 months ago
Thank you so much for sharing Thomas' life with us. The three of you are beautiful, and this film is an amazing tribute to an amazing child and his parents. God bless you!
JMcLC 1 year ago
you were so brave...god bless.
MrSouzy 1 year ago
dear parents,,
i cannot imagine how freaking breave you are...
i´m soo proud of you for not being selfish and loving your son.
you have got a really pretty son and you did a good job letting him know what love is like.
don´t you ever feel like you did anything wrong.
you did what every parent should do...
love your child
love and hugs
kleinewarrebol 1 year ago 32
Simply beautiful...
tammywunderlich 1 year ago
OMG! you two are the strongest people i have ever come across. you two are amazing for letting that little boy breathe and eat and cry and be loved. my heart hurts for you and goes out to you two! i hope the best for your family! thank you for letting the little man live! beautiful little man!
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gehanmaclim12 1 year ago
Thank you for this moving video. I lost my triplet daughter to Anencephaly. Today is Isabella's one year anniversary. Today I found this video. Happy Birthday Isabella!
TheOriginalJena 1 year ago
God bless them both. I don't think I've ever been more touched by two parents' love than I am right now.
GrimIZ987 1 year ago
This is most heart wrenching memorial to that precious little guy. How hard it must have been to go thru this; makes me so thankful for the healthy children and grandchildren in my life. My heart aches for you both. God in heaven has another angel. Be Blessed
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instead of aborting your baby, you were there for him when he needed you the most, what an amazing and selfless act , you are both so brave, he is so gorgeous..
aymee83 1 year ago
instead of aborting your baby, you were there for him when he needed you the most, what an amazing and selfless act , you are both so brave, he is so gorgeous..
aymee83 1 year ago
Thank you so very much for sharing your beautiful Thomas with us. My heart grieves for you so. Thank you for trusting God by allowing Thomas to live the life that He placed in your loving hands.
aqua4678 1 year ago
Wow, you are 2 of the bravest people in the world. Your story is so sad yet so beautiful. God bless you. X
leeleepops32 1 year ago
Amazing insight into your life with your son, he was beautiful. Best of luck with your baby girl x x x
darkinsanefairy 1 year ago
Thank u for introducing ur beautiful son to us. He truly was a gods gift. May his soul rest in peace.
sarahangelanand 1 year ago
We were told we should end the pregnancy with our daughter when we found out she had heart, kidney and brain issues at 5 months along. I could not end it, I wanted God to decide when it was time to go, not me. Because of my beliefs my daughter is still here and is about to turn 6, yes she has her issues but I am blessed to have her. This story touched my heart and congrats to them on their little girl!!
crystalm1476 1 year ago 2
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"I could not end it, I wanted God to decide when it was time to go, not me." <--Hear hear! If my little one was to be born with a terrible disease, I would want the chance to hold and admire him. I wouldn't want to be the one responsible for his death. Why hasten it when I can bring myself some closure?
Stories like this are so wonderful. And kudos to you, Mom, for raising your little girl.
mapsandviolins1 11 months ago
I don't understand how anyone could think this sweet boy suffered. He was held in the arms of the people who nurtured him for 9 months - nothing intrusive or painful was done to him. His needs were met fully. He knew nothing but love, and then slipped into the arms of Our Father.
mgrunk1 1 year ago 48
@mgrunk1 AMEN!
Tori2120 6 months ago
oh my god..
i'm so sorry for your lost..i was cried when i see this video (and still cry when i write the comment)..i cry louder when i see the his breath start going wrong..
i'm sorry if my grammar isn't right,i still learn english..
i heart your baby,may he be the cutest angel in heaven..
catfishlele 1 year ago
Why did the baby die? Is it because of the cleft lip and palate issues?
sausage2987 1 year ago
@sausage2987 No if you listen in the video, the father says that the cleft palate/other physical deformities could have been fixed, but his brain, heart, and kidney issues could not be.
shmexxyfooker 11 months ago
what a beautiful love these parents had for their son...blesses
Glassgothgirl 1 year ago
What they did was truly admirable. Some would have just taken the easy and murderous way out and terminated the pregnancy. If Thomas had been my child, I would have done the same thing. I woul drather have a little time than no time at all. As the saying goes, better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all. I broke down when he started breathing erratically. RIP wee one. He's now watching over his baby sister.
pooh42682 1 year ago 2
God bless you. My daughter had an omphalocele and I was told that she would most likely have trisomy 13 or 18 and they pushed for me to terminate my pregnancy. I chose, just as you did, to let God determine when it was her time to go. She was still born at 23 weeks. I thank God for the time I had with her, if even just in the womb.
God bless you and your family.
ExtraOrdinaryUs 1 year ago
I am so touched and moved by this video... thank you so much for sharing this with the world and letting us see your personal moments... know that Thomas is up there in heaven thanking you for getting the chance to be sooo loved by you and your husband. And many blessings on the newest member of your family... I pray for her good health!!!
SinfulSweet 1 year ago
Thank you for letting us celebrate with you and cry with you for Thomas. A very special baby boy.
jhartist123 1 year ago
thank you so much for allowing us in to your most personal of moments. You are such an inspiration to me, and a wonderful example of trust in God. Thomas's life mattered and has even touched those he will never know. That was the most moving video I have ever seen. I know I will never forget it. I pray many blessings for you.
mollystroud 1 year ago
I watched this 5 months ago and it made me cry then and I just watched it again and it still makes me cry so hard. I cryed again when Daddy said that he died on my Chest baby! R.I.P sweet Thomas cant wait to meet you in Heaven when I get their!
jsrcamp 1 year ago
What a truly beautiful and amazing story of love and selflessness. By the way, congratulations on your baby girl : )
MaverixHapa 1 year ago
Crying my eyes out.
So sad to watch but with so mutch care made.
He was so beautiful that it was hard to imaging that he would pass away.
RIP little boy
Rudewomantt 1 year ago
oh goodness im cryin so uncontrolably right now, my heart goes out to u and ur husband. but all the loving and precious moments that u had with him. the chance to hold him, and cuddle him, and smell his skin, has to be with every moment that u had with him. much love and many many blessing sent ur way.
jjac31456287 1 year ago
wow...just wow
SonOfGod3000 1 year ago
I dont comment often on videos, but how could I not to this? You have shown compassion and bravery where alot simply could not. I hope so much that you are blessed with peace and memories of comfort. Thankyou for sharing.
samjs86 1 year ago
What an amazing yet heartbreaking video. He was such a beautiful baby boy.
nikkigee08 1 year ago
Thank you both so much for this video.Thomas was a beautiful baby. My husband and I went through almost the exact same thing. My daughter was born with Trisomy13 also. She lived for 35 days. I found this video and watched it every day for like 3 weeks after Dakota passed. It made me feel closer to Dakota. It also helped me realize that there really is someone out there who understands my pain. Congratulations on baby Isabella.
jesicamae3006 1 year ago
This was beautiful. He was a strong little boy. A little fighter.
SnoopyLove21 1 year ago
What an extraordinary gift all three of you are.. God Bless You.
dianeperigo 1 year ago
By far one of the most touching, heartbreaking and beautiful videos I have EVER SEEN!!!! R.I.P Thomas.... You were such a brave little fighter. Your parents are two of the strongest and beautiful people I have ever seen. xxxxxxx
CassandraBoyle 1 year ago
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I am crying so hard right now. I remember when my son Jorel Christopher was born. My husband and I are exactly like this. It's hard when you know that your only child will die soon and watching him dying but we are fortunate to see them and spend time with them even for a short period of time. My son passed away after 7 days and he is sooo beautiful he is the most beautiful child I have ever seen.. May our angels rest in peace.
rct1431 1 year ago
I am crying so hard right now. I remember when my son Jorel Christopher was born. My husband and I are exactly like this. It's hard when you know that your only child will die soon and watching him dying but we are fortunate to see them and spend time with them even for a short period of time. My son passed away after 7 days and he is sooo beautiful he is the most beautiful child I have ever seen.. May our angels rest in peace.
rct1431 1 year ago
I have never seen anything quite so touching as this video. Thank you for posting it to better inform and enlighten everyone who has children with or without this disease. What a beautiful testimony to your beautiful son. You did the right thing. What brave and loving parents you are. Best of luck in the future and God bless!
momcubed76 1 year ago
Thank you..... Thank you for sharing your wonderful love for a special little boy. I wish that no parent should ever suffer a loss like yours but there is so much to learn about love from people like you and Thomas....
I will never forget any of you...this video will be one I return to to pay tribute to the miracles in this world that are something right in front of us. We should all open our eyes to see them.
sgtdemanda 1 year ago
im so srry i lost my son topotters syndrome which means he had no kidneys nd wouldnt survive through birth.i terminated due to the health risks i could have .i wishi could have felt my son breathe nd heard him cry but i didnt i admire wat you did .
leslie1344 1 year ago
oh my gosh, what a beautiful little boy you have! I cannot imagine the heartbreak you have experienced, and what a gift he was to you, and you were to him! He was such a fighter - and he was truly a miracle. God bless you sweet family!
smootches2uall 1 year ago
Thank you so much for this, for proving that all life is a miracle. that each moment should be cherished and every breath is a blessing. I feel so lucky to have known Thomas through this video. What an amazing gift, proof that love, and life are measured in heartbeats. My heart goes out to you, for your bravery, and your willingness to share your son with the world.
Dixiesweetiemomma 1 year ago
what a beautiful little strong boy! you did him proud as parents!god bless u all.xxxxxxx
leannejones20092009 1 year ago
I have cried with you today, Deirdra, TK -- Your little angel looks so much like my Bryan, also Patau's -- who was born 3/17/81, passed 3/21/81 in my arms too. 4 days. What an experience to share. i now have Ryan, 27 years of age. Bryan opened my heart to be a far better mother for when Ryan would come. God bless you both & your baby girl. Much love to you all. <3
scruffylittlecat 1 year ago