A lot of my friends will ask me advice about anything really. They ask me for my opinion on if they should said thing. I've always said well was your immediate reaction yes? And when they're still on the fence... I'm like then this isn't something you want. I love the "If it's not a hell yes, it's a no." (: I will have use that now.
I try to say no so much. I'm afraid that the opinions of others often are more important to me than my opinion of myself :( I'm seeing a professional counselor at school about anxiety, and my being a total introvert.
My problem is that I'm involved in too many clubs. I'm an officer in two of them. They all demand my time, but frankly I don't want to do any of it. They teachers like me, ask me if I want to do MORE WORK in the club, I say yes because I don't want to disappoint. :(
just on "friends" in general, roomed with a fraternity political Enemy (subconsciencely) out of school, Totally different person than me. Learned a lot, learned also I was right. Horrible to come to a realization that someone may not like you, don't they appreciate being a human and other humans ?
Woah, I have to show this video to my sister. She's the kind of people who say YES to anything and sometimes it drives her crazy because she has no time for anything else that could be important for her. Hopefully she'll learn something.
Whoops! but i'll have to translate the video for her. It's gonna be funny... I guess. LOL.
I have no problem saying no the first time. But certain people I know just won't take no for an answer and just keep asking, that it gets aggravating. Or put on a guilt trip. Its mainly family and usually i stand my ground, but i did give in at times, but not as much anymore.
Ive been trying to better me life now and only be around possitive people, and only do stuff for people who would do things for me without feeling like they owe me or I owe them.
I have a little problem with this but also a big problem with not saying yes. Whenever someone asks me to do something with them my very first thought is to say no with some excuse. I know i should say yes but sometimes i don't feel i have the confidence to do the thing or whatever silly reason. Sometimes i'll be like "you know what, just say yes and see what happens" and it ends up being a good choice for me. Sorry i'm jibber jabbing now :)
you don't want peeps to be dependent on you, you want them to create there own castle...but everyone has to be a part of groups, we are social creatures
Saying no is SO important! The wisest person I know was teaching me how to say no recently; I always say yes to things I really don't want to do, but I feel better and less stressed now that I'm not letting other people make me do things haha Great advice!
This reminds me of a speech I heard once. It was called good better best. Often in life we don't choose between good and bad but between doing two good things. so we have to pick something that is the best value to us.
I fell like the guy from the movie "Yes Man" before he started saying yes. SO I have the opposite problem that you had. I just can't agree to commitments if I think there isn't a neat way out. So how about a video on saying "yes"?
I wish I'd watched this about 4 hours ago. It would have been on my mind to tell someone "no, I don't want to..." rather than "maybe, we'll see if...". Great advice that we should all follow more often.
My problem is saying 'no' to people I care about or want to help, even if it isn't super important. In the end, I end up feeling stressed, overwhelmed and worst of all, resentment towards them in doing these favours when my plate is already overflowing. I'm getting better at saying 'no'. Thanks for the extra reminder!
Its awesome that you just made a video on this topic, my cousin who just kinda moved in town and has been bugging me a lot to hang out but I really dont like hanging out with him. He acts like its up to me to show him an awesome time out cuz he's the "guest" i guess. Hes a grown frikkin man and all he seems to care about is "having fun" even though its not genuine fun he wants to drink and talk to loose girls.
I can never say no. I have the hardest time saying no. I don't know what it is. I always have to say yes to everything and then the only time I said no, I got yelled at. What am I doing wrong?
Ha. A month ago, I was asked if I wanted to go to a car show/event thing and I said YES! I know nothing about cars or care about them, but I said yes to be nice. This past weekend they reminded me of it, and of course.... I didn't want to go. I spent the WHOLE weekend worrying about it and thinking of excuses when I should of just said NO in the first place. I didn't end up going and felt bad. Thanks for reminding me to just say NO!!! :)
No is easy, yes is the hard one. The No train can become a very comfortable and safe place for some if they choose to stay to long. Not talking about anyone specific. I say in a room with no mirrors.
Just gently underhand pitching a possible future vid idea out there.
There's a girl that I know that takes it to EXTREMES. If I say no to something and be polite about it, she bitches about me behind my back and spreads rumours!:(
I'm really dizzy now. :) How cool would life be if everyone who did something was in love with what they were doing--it would totally rub off--domino effect.
this is something I really struggle with. I always find myself doing stuff I don't want to be doing, because other people want me to, and it really pisses me off!
When I try to say no though, people usually go mad at me, so I find it easier to just say yes.
@FartWithHeadphonesOn that is very true! I suppose it's an age thing too, being 16/17, I guess as we get older, we get more understanding (hopefully!) thanks Michelle, you really are amazing!x
(continuation): I told her I would love to help but under these circumstances I can't, she should ask our other flatmate who has a car and no exam and could easily help her. She never replied and hasn't spoken to me since. It was alright to say no in this case, right?
@TigerLilymitFietse It's always ok to say no if you CAN'T do it. Always. Especially because if you did do it, you'd resent her for it or claim that she "made" you do it... which isn't the case. You made a choice. We always have a choice, most of us just don't make them. We let other people affect us instead of taking responsibility. You did the right thing :) And if she's your friend, she'll come around.
@FartWithHeadphonesOn That's what I think.. I got on the 'no train' not too long ago and usually it works out fine for me but when someone reacts like that I do wonder whether I have been to harsh. I'm not too fussed about it really, since she knows that I have to set my priorities but it's nice to know that others agree.. Thanks for inspiring me in so many ways, Michelle. Keep up the amazing work!
Gaah, just the topic that has bothered me today. Last night, my flatmate texted me at 3AM (my room's right next to hers) asking if I could help her pick up a bookshelf that she wants to get for her room. The catch to it is that we would have to carry it home by foot in the snow since we don't have a car. Furthermore, I have an important exam tomorrow that I still had to study for today. (to be continued)
This video is so true. I'm always the guy who says "yes" to whatever anyone asks me to do and, the other day, my friend wanted me to see Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close with her when I was not in the mood for a sad movie at all. So I was trying to decide between sucking it up and seeing the movie, or making up an excuse to get out of it. Instead, I went for the third option. I was just honest with her about it. And even though it was such a small victory, it still felt really awesome.
A lot of my friends will ask me advice about anything really. They ask me for my opinion on if they should said thing. I've always said well was your immediate reaction yes? And when they're still on the fence... I'm like then this isn't something you want. I love the "If it's not a hell yes, it's a no." (: I will have use that now.
hiiiilindsay 4 weeks ago
I try to say no so much. I'm afraid that the opinions of others often are more important to me than my opinion of myself :( I'm seeing a professional counselor at school about anxiety, and my being a total introvert.
My problem is that I'm involved in too many clubs. I'm an officer in two of them. They all demand my time, but frankly I don't want to do any of it. They teachers like me, ask me if I want to do MORE WORK in the club, I say yes because I don't want to disappoint. :(
thatUkrainianguy 1 month ago
@thatUkrainianguy I just uploaded a video response to this :D
FartWithHeadphonesOn 4 weeks ago
This has nothing to do with video but I watched your singing videos and your voice is amazing :D
Joshua94ism 1 month ago
Today I decided that I can do anything.
Brulluhman 1 month ago
I know this is has nothing to do with the video, but is that unicorn farting @2:28??
AnnaLanay 1 month ago
just on "friends" in general, roomed with a fraternity political Enemy (subconsciencely) out of school, Totally different person than me. Learned a lot, learned also I was right. Horrible to come to a realization that someone may not like you, don't they appreciate being a human and other humans ?
theflorgeormix 1 month ago
Woah, I have to show this video to my sister. She's the kind of people who say YES to anything and sometimes it drives her crazy because she has no time for anything else that could be important for her. Hopefully she'll learn something.
Whoops! but i'll have to translate the video for her. It's gonna be funny... I guess. LOL.
Thanks Michelle!
maruizrico 1 month ago
The video won't play for me = (. The spinny thing keeps spinning ha. It did it last night and today. It's only your video too!! ahhhh.
MultiSweetness25 1 month ago
is there anyway u look not sweet? its hardcore!
oXbOxr00X 1 month ago
I have no problem saying no the first time. But certain people I know just won't take no for an answer and just keep asking, that it gets aggravating. Or put on a guilt trip. Its mainly family and usually i stand my ground, but i did give in at times, but not as much anymore.
Ive been trying to better me life now and only be around possitive people, and only do stuff for people who would do things for me without feeling like they owe me or I owe them.
scootsie119 1 month ago
I feel like I just got a very nice tour of your apartment. And some good advice, that was nice too.
Merkstar56 1 month ago
I have a little problem with this but also a big problem with not saying yes. Whenever someone asks me to do something with them my very first thought is to say no with some excuse. I know i should say yes but sometimes i don't feel i have the confidence to do the thing or whatever silly reason. Sometimes i'll be like "you know what, just say yes and see what happens" and it ends up being a good choice for me. Sorry i'm jibber jabbing now :)
xOxCrapWeaselxOx 1 month ago
MARRY ME
thejessta 1 month ago
you don't want peeps to be dependent on you, you want them to create there own castle...but everyone has to be a part of groups, we are social creatures
theflorgeormix 1 month ago
Saying no is SO important! The wisest person I know was teaching me how to say no recently; I always say yes to things I really don't want to do, but I feel better and less stressed now that I'm not letting other people make me do things haha Great advice!
samtvmusic 1 month ago
What if you say no and that person keeps begging and saying please? That happens to me a lot and I eventually give in to their begging.
jlovesc21 1 month ago
@jlovesc21 start begging them to stop begging you lol. "please please PLEASE stop begging me... PLEEEEASE!"
xOxCrapWeaselxOx 1 month ago
@xOxCrapWeaselxOx I've actually never thought of that. I think I will beg them to stop begging me. :-)
jlovesc21 1 month ago
You look awesome in glasses. Even if they were fake
akamailliw 1 month ago
good shit
cinormak 1 month ago
I hope you're feeling better.
lordcoyote2000 1 month ago
Is the No train anything like the M train where, I don't know where it goes but it always seems to be at every single station I stop at?
Xsuit 1 month ago
This reminds me of a speech I heard once. It was called good better best. Often in life we don't choose between good and bad but between doing two good things. so we have to pick something that is the best value to us.
brentkillian 1 month ago
I love the pictures in your house!
MuzicIsMyLife124 1 month ago
I love your videos. You're great.
Kaizen800 1 month ago
Is that a unicorn pooping a rainbow? Haha
SJDanielakTV 1 month ago
2:15 when that magical rainbow farting unicorn came into view I completely stopped listening.
I. want. that.
LetMeTryMyFace 1 month ago
I fell like the guy from the movie "Yes Man" before he started saying yes. SO I have the opposite problem that you had. I just can't agree to commitments if I think there isn't a neat way out. So how about a video on saying "yes"?
nomygawd 1 month ago
Great vid, great advice.
poisonedrice 1 month ago
So guilty if constantly being on the "yes train" .... It's definitely time to hop on over to the "no train." Thanks for the video
JulRvs2 1 month ago
I wish I'd watched this about 4 hours ago. It would have been on my mind to tell someone "no, I don't want to..." rather than "maybe, we'll see if...". Great advice that we should all follow more often.
RedSoxFanatic4Life 1 month ago
The shadows from your glasses are fantastic! :D
RubiksKoobs 1 month ago
The NO train is actually the train that goes to the NO aka FresNO.
g0dhims3lf 1 month ago
My problem is saying 'no' to people I care about or want to help, even if it isn't super important. In the end, I end up feeling stressed, overwhelmed and worst of all, resentment towards them in doing these favours when my plate is already overflowing. I'm getting better at saying 'no'. Thanks for the extra reminder!
pemacgregor 1 month ago
Its awesome that you just made a video on this topic, my cousin who just kinda moved in town and has been bugging me a lot to hang out but I really dont like hanging out with him. He acts like its up to me to show him an awesome time out cuz he's the "guest" i guess. Hes a grown frikkin man and all he seems to care about is "having fun" even though its not genuine fun he wants to drink and talk to loose girls.
JosephCee 1 month ago
I can never say no. I have the hardest time saying no. I don't know what it is. I always have to say yes to everything and then the only time I said no, I got yelled at. What am I doing wrong?
JustJenell 1 month ago
Ha. A month ago, I was asked if I wanted to go to a car show/event thing and I said YES! I know nothing about cars or care about them, but I said yes to be nice. This past weekend they reminded me of it, and of course.... I didn't want to go. I spent the WHOLE weekend worrying about it and thinking of excuses when I should of just said NO in the first place. I didn't end up going and felt bad. Thanks for reminding me to just say NO!!! :)
andy8b 1 month ago
No bathroom? I was beginning to think that you guys were evicted from the rest of the apartment.
BrowncoatByNight 1 month ago
No is easy, yes is the hard one. The No train can become a very comfortable and safe place for some if they choose to stay to long. Not talking about anyone specific. I say in a room with no mirrors.
Just gently underhand pitching a possible future vid idea out there.
GeoffM30 1 month ago
There's a girl that I know that takes it to EXTREMES. If I say no to something and be polite about it, she bitches about me behind my back and spreads rumours!:(
GirlWithRubySlippers 1 month ago
@GirlWithRubySlippers Sounds like someone I'd avoid altogether if I were you! :-/
FartWithHeadphonesOn 1 month ago
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I'm really dizzy now. :) How cool would life be if everyone who did something was in love with what they were doing--it would totally rub off--domino effect.
krispysky 1 month ago
I have a problem saying no:/ some people take it in a bad way x
GirlWithRubySlippers 1 month ago
ooh what's cookin good lookin 3:58 shawty in the back in the blazer ima holla
imwatchingyousleep 1 month ago 7
@imwatchingyousleep Todd is flattered.
FartWithHeadphonesOn 1 month ago 4
WOW... You just showed me the light!! :)
janssencox93 1 month ago
this is something I really struggle with. I always find myself doing stuff I don't want to be doing, because other people want me to, and it really pisses me off!
When I try to say no though, people usually go mad at me, so I find it easier to just say yes.
UltimateSaturdaysFan 1 month ago
@UltimateSaturdaysFan People shouldn't get mad at you for being honest. and if they do, that's their immaturity and their own problem, not yours.
FartWithHeadphonesOn 1 month ago 5
@FartWithHeadphonesOn that is very true! I suppose it's an age thing too, being 16/17, I guess as we get older, we get more understanding (hopefully!) thanks Michelle, you really are amazing!x
UltimateSaturdaysFan 1 month ago
(continuation): I told her I would love to help but under these circumstances I can't, she should ask our other flatmate who has a car and no exam and could easily help her. She never replied and hasn't spoken to me since. It was alright to say no in this case, right?
TigerLilymitFietse 1 month ago
@TigerLilymitFietse It's always ok to say no if you CAN'T do it. Always. Especially because if you did do it, you'd resent her for it or claim that she "made" you do it... which isn't the case. You made a choice. We always have a choice, most of us just don't make them. We let other people affect us instead of taking responsibility. You did the right thing :) And if she's your friend, she'll come around.
FartWithHeadphonesOn 1 month ago
@FartWithHeadphonesOn That's what I think.. I got on the 'no train' not too long ago and usually it works out fine for me but when someone reacts like that I do wonder whether I have been to harsh. I'm not too fussed about it really, since she knows that I have to set my priorities but it's nice to know that others agree.. Thanks for inspiring me in so many ways, Michelle. Keep up the amazing work!
TigerLilymitFietse 1 month ago
Gaah, just the topic that has bothered me today. Last night, my flatmate texted me at 3AM (my room's right next to hers) asking if I could help her pick up a bookshelf that she wants to get for her room. The catch to it is that we would have to carry it home by foot in the snow since we don't have a car. Furthermore, I have an important exam tomorrow that I still had to study for today. (to be continued)
TigerLilymitFietse 1 month ago
Omg the Unicorn ha 2:17
NikitaPurii 1 month ago
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This video is so true. I'm always the guy who says "yes" to whatever anyone asks me to do and, the other day, my friend wanted me to see Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close with her when I was not in the mood for a sad movie at all. So I was trying to decide between sucking it up and seeing the movie, or making up an excuse to get out of it. Instead, I went for the third option. I was just honest with her about it. And even though it was such a small victory, it still felt really awesome.
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RCRobVlogs 1 month ago
rawrrr
DiannaIsabel 1 month ago
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Nice video..
KyleRichardsonsVlogs 1 month ago
inspiration=you
MaddieCollins11 1 month ago
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SterlingElegance 1 month ago