Thank you for this video. I had something similar happen to me when I took my 12mth old to the emerg here in Ontario. If I didn`t think the way I do about breastfeeding I would have been second guessing myself after the dr comment. I also get alot of comments from family (you`re still bf? she`s one! etc). Thank for letting me know I am not alone.
I've breastfeed all 3 of mine and was really luck as well never had any infections. I did experience the sore nipples with my last but overall very lucky with everything else that could have gone wrong.
Can I just add, people can be very ignorant, yes even doctors! You are 100% right in all you have to say here. If people don't stand up for what's right we we all be dis empowered. I really disagree with the first post too. My son has had a series of colds and an ear infection and he refused all foods and even water, if he was not breastfeeding he would have suffered from dehydration I am sure. Especially when your child gets sick you really see how extended bfeeding helps protect and nurture.
Wow how uncalled for, good for you for standing up for your rights. I find those comments really disrespectful and cold. As you say he should have the child's best interest at heart. Very arrogant of him to feel he can make comments on your own personal parenting decisions. And breastfeeding for longer is a good thing as we ALL know for the child's health and well being, I am bfeeding my toddler who is older than yours and I tell you if a Dr said that to me, wow, he would have got an earful.
cont...rest of the world thinks its awkward. I just don't understand exactly what it is that bothers people about it. If they think it is weird than THEY are the ones who are weirdos and have problems to work out not you. Why can't the world let anything be innocent anymore? I have been so ready to fly off the handle at people here lately lol Thank you for showing that you can make your point in a civilized way, because I would have been stomping back in there and giving him a piece of my mind:)
THANK YOU!! Thank you for making this video and sharing your experience (and even submitting yourself to the negativity that you tube has to offer as well) I don't understand why people say you are over reacting. That doctor was way out of line! My son is 7 months old, and already I have received SO many negative comments. I just can't fathom why someone would want me to wean my son and give him formula. Formula was made as a substitute when the mother COULDN'T breastfeed. Not just because the..
Good for you for standing up for yourself! I breastfed my oldest until she was 2 and my youngest is 17 months and still going. I experienced a lot of crap from your average Joe for nursing that long but never had a healthcare professional speak to me that way. If he has his own reservations about breast-feeding that's his business, but as a doctor he is expected to adhere with the guidelines of bigger health organizations who do not view breastfeeding for 13 months as abnormal in the least. His
I am an RN, IBCLC (registered lactation consultant), and breastfeeding mom. I am shocked and appalled by this. People put SO MUCH value into the opinion health care professionals (esp. doctors) have on matters such as this. Drs not only should be current on the recommendations of breastfeeding, but also need to know how the hell to speak to a patient. As you said, this is a discriminatory comment, and if it was towards your race or sexual orientation, he'd be slapped SO HARD by a lawsuit.
When I mentioned to my pediatrician that I was still breastfeeding my then 2 year old son. She never made me feel bad or that I was doing something wrong. She simply looked at him and said "He doesn't need it, you can stop." I'm not going to lie, I was disappointed. I was expecting support and encouragement. But I wasn't offended by how she said it. My son is big for his age (38 lbs/wearing 4 and 5T). And I am pretty small so I think she was just looking out for me (she was also MY pedi) :)
Pardon my immaturity, but that doctor is a total douche. I don't understand why people feel the need to be all squishy about breastfeeding. Breasts are not just "funbags" for men (or women, hey, I'm not here to judge) to play with. They're for feeding babies, as long as the mother jolly well feels is the appropriate length of time to do so.
Good for you Erin for standing up for your rights and for Willow's rights to be breastfed. You are a wonderful mother and she is a very lucky little girl.
I think it was very unprofessional for him to say that. She is only 13 months old! The WHO recommends nursing for a MINIMUM of two years. My son is 11 months and is still nursed on demand. I have no intentions of weaning him - he will decide when he is ready to wean. I'm sorry you got treated like a "freak" by that idiot doctor. Find a La Leche meeting - they are free, great and supportive.
You shouldn't have to explain yourself to people, Its your life and your choices ANY doctor should back you up on any HEALTHY choice you make for your child. There are many parents that would LOVE to breastfeed for that long! Good for you! He had no right to say anything to you.
Thank you for sharing your story. I am also confident in my parenting abilities, but have been taken back by comments I've heard from other people. The bottom line is that pediatricians should be encouraging and nurturing especially to those who are less confident in their abilities. Pediatricians should take their role as a trusted advisor so much more seriously and should be more considerate of the impact of their words. This is not something to take lightly.
Way to go Erin. I had a similiar thing happen with my then 23month old daughter and I wish I had said something to my doctor at the time. But I'm proud you're doing something about it.Good for you!!
Erin, i'm so sorry you had this bad experience but, i'm proud of you for speaking up and being a strong woman and mother!
You should file a complaint against this doctor. Ignore all the other people trying to belittle the situation and make you feel like you're overreacting, you can only feel how you feel and if it was me, then i'm sure i would feel exactly the same.
Thank you for sharing your experience. You're an inspiration!
Go Erin, go! You are such an inspiration to this community and I hope that doctor sees this video. Way to be your own advocate! This video was awesome. <3
I'm a Canadian and am so shocked myself to hear of a canadian pediatrician says these mocking words, I find it quite disgusting. Most nations respect a woman who chooses to breastfeed.
This is coming as a shock to me, because generally it's not the breastfeeding mothers who are "attacked". It's usually the formula feeding mothers because they aren't doing what's the very best for them. More than often I hear people talking about formula as if it's poison, even though you would pretty much never be able to figure out what people were breastfed, and which ones were formula fed.
This comment the doctor made was definitely inappropriate though, it's just such a rare scenario.
Crazy. You shouldn't been judged on your decision. With my first son I felt that I was being judged (for stopping early) when I said he weened himself at 13 months. As he made a comment "did he stop himself"?
Hi Erin... this is a great video!!! Thank you so much for sharing! I'm going to share with you my friend's journey: littletinylove.blogspot.com/2012/01/our-breast-feeding-journey-thus-far.html
she has just celebrated 13 months of breastfeeding.
Long story short after meeting with specialist after specialist and going to support groups she could not get him to latch, and we had to stop attempting to breast feed. Since then we have experienced very negative comments etc, from many people when they see one of us feeding him with a bottle. So our experience is that if you are not breastfeeding then you are labeled as a bad parent...I feel that people should not judge as they do not know the situation for each person.
Admist all of this she was still pumping and I was feeding our son as she was not allowed leaving her bed. The look and comments from the nurses I received were less than supportive and later she received the same reception once she was able to go and feed him.
I am surprised regarding your comment that today's society is not as open to breast feeding as it should be. My wife and I have had the opposite experience. During pregnancy she took breastfeeding courses, went to support groups etc. Once our son was born, he had to go into special care and was not able to be in the same room as my wife and I. On top of that she has some other issues and her health was a concern.
Good on you for writing that Erin!! My doctor made a completely rude comment that I had "gained WAY too much weight for this pregnancy and probably have diabetes." I had gained 30 pounds at 9 months pregnant which is healthy, had never met her, and she had ZERO reason to suspect I had diabetes. She also made many more rude comments and called her co-worker stupid behind her back. Sadly, being military there isn't much I can do about this....
My daugher whois almost 2 is on a toddler formula as it has extra nutrients than just normal milk and i am sure people may think that that is strange but i have done it with all my 3 children.
Here in Australia i have found it to be the opposite with breast feeding, there is so much encouragment to breast feed " breast is best" is the saying you always hear at the midwife appointments, i am quite suprised to hear that any doctors would make such a stupid comment, if every thing is still going ok 6 months is way to early to cut out breast feeding i would maybe think 2 years of age to maybe think about stopping.
I really don't think the highschool comment is such a big deal. It just seems like he simply doesn't meet that many women wh plan on breastfeeding indefinitely and he tried to bring up the topic for discussion in a clumsy way.
I actually feel that you were too prepared to feel attacked, even when it wasn't intended. Feeling the victim doesn't help breastfeeding.
What was wrong is the further comment about it being illegal, but by then he would have been feeling your hostility towards him.
@LouiseAndBaba - I really think that you would have had to be there in order to understand why I'm upset. I've been questioned about breastfeeding (and every other parenting choice) to no end and I've brushed them all off without much thought. If you look through my videos here on YT, you will see a definitive lack of me feeling hurt or complaining. If I do take the time to complain, it's warranted. I'm an intelligent person (as is my husband) and we know this was wrong.
@LouiseAndBaba as a professional,he should have been more careful.he obviously didn't do much to make it a"funny matter".Every mother is protective.
He probably felt guilty(or meant it- and walked out)Neverless,this doesn't give him the right to say such a strange thing to a mother who chooses what she feels is best for her child.There are simply things ONE professionaly does NOT say.It is HIS job to be careful- and if he was "careless"(as you write he might have been), then resolve it. :)
Good for you Erin ! That is appalling behaviour to come from a ob! You should send the letter in to the office, he shouldn't get away with saying that . He was more then likely one of the ob's who said to breast feed for one month! X
Well stated, Erin! I don't think your over-reacting at all. Ethan is 18 mths old and still nursing. I struggle with the idea of weaning all the time. I get a lot of negativity about nursing still. I don't think Ethan's dr is on board with it but luckily she doesn't say anything. Great video! I hope he gets a chance to watch it and to read all these comments!
That was very unethical and I don't think you are over-reacting. I did not breastfeed as long as you because it didn't work out. However, I commend you for sticking with it. That doctor should apologize to you. It was inappropriate. It is so good for your daughters immune system.
Thank you for posting this, however it is sad that the doc said what he said, but I really don't think he even remember saying that to you. Doc don't understand that there words hurt. You should send him this letter, but he needs to reed it.
Erin, thank you for making this video. I never had negativity about breast feeding from a doctor, but being a new mother, societies views of breast feeding in public played a big role in me stopping after just two short months. Your videos and positive breast feeding experiences have encouraged me and given me more confidence in breast feeding when we decide to have our second child. I am so sorry this event happened to you, but I know that this video will help mothers, like me, who aren't as
I just want to thank you for standing up for yourself and for all us breastfeeding mommas, especially thoes BF after a year! It is just mind- boggleing why breastfeeding- something that is OPTIMAL for developing brains and bodys, the ONLY means of infant survival in the human species before formula was invented, and something so NATURAL, gets looked down upon!
Nope you are not alone. I have also read in studies that breastfed children tend to be more advanced then non-breast fed babies, but in reality they are what should be considered "average", and non-breast fed babies are below average. Because we were made to breast feed so that is normal!!!
@davrobj honestly are you kidding me. I just can not answer this as Im to pissed off. Please out of my three children come and tell me which ones I breastfeed and which I did not. Ill give you mile stones, reports from school etc.
I'm so sorry you were put on the spot like that. It honestly blows my mind that not all drs are having the info they need esp when dealing with babies all day. He should know how good BF is. I dont even BF & this pissed me off. I wanted to BF but couldnt make enough milk. Maybe if my dr helped in someway I would have been able too. I hope you get your shot at telling him how you feel or I hope he actually gets to see this video. (How awesome would that be) Just know u are a awesome mama. l<3 u!
Wow you are a much more composed person than I. I would not have made it out of that office before I would have lost it. I'm glad you made this video; mothers are put down everyday for breastfeeding. Something needs to change.
I had a really horrible pediatrician tell me I was breastfeeding too often and that my son was overweight. This was not my normal pediatrician at the time and I did tell her that she was wrong and that I did not appreciate her comments and that I attended La Leche League and have read many current books on breastfeeding and that breastfed babies can not be fed too often. She then told me that she had been a doctor for 20 years so she knew better than me. I regret not making a formal complaint.
You are definitely going about this the right way....just follow through with a formal complaint and DEMAND an apology! Get the news involved if need be. No other mother should be hurt or denied rights in this fashion. What else is this doctor doing to his patience health and mental wellbeing? Good Luck and can't wait to see what comes of this.
I had a similar experience when my daughter was only 6 months old! I was sick and had to go on antibiotics. I told my doctor that I was breastfeeding so had to have a "breast-feeding friendly" medicine. He just looked at me and said "Don't you think its about time you gave it away? No one thinks you're a hero."
I was shocked and never went back to him. I was very young and not confident so never did anything about it but kudos to you for standing up for your rights.
Thank you for doing this!! I too get tongue-tied when taken off guard by something like that and can't respond the way I'd like to in the moment. Your letter helps me be prepared if I'm in a similar situation with my daughter. It's not fair for a doctor's personal opinion to trump all the science behind breastfeeding! I've had a problem with our ped's office assuming we are formula feeding, which also puts me on the defensive, and my baby is only 6 months! Thanks again. :)
You go girl! willow & my son are born two days apart & I still breast feed him. I breastfed my older sons until they were 2 ( who are now 17 & 12 yrs old) & I don't remember anyone except my in laws giving me crap about breastfeeding. I told them straight up your not the parent so what u think don't matter to me & that was the end of it. Maybe since kids won't be as sick the dr's think they won't have any business in the years to come
what a great video! My daughter just turned 6 months last week and im so proud of myself that im still breastfeeding! I cant believe a doctor would say that to you! so crazy! I cant believe people are so weird about breastfeeding! Its what your suppose to do! Why are people so against it i truly don't understand! My mother-in-law is always asking me when im gonna stop breastfeeding and making negative comments about it. Like, " wait until those teeth start coming in then I bet you'll stop"
It says a lot about you that you were able to write such a cogent letter in response to such a callous and inapporopriate personal attack. The pediatrician's office should be a safe environment for open discussion. This... individual's... snide comment is a breech of professionalism and a serious lapse in judgment, both of which will work against him in his career. Ass. (Ps. It's so awesome that you are breastfeeding Willow into her 2nd year! You obviously care a lot about her health and :)
he probably was just joking.. he seemed to treat willow very nicely and was a competent doctor.. --- doctors sometimes have a bad sense of humor-- it wasnt like he caused harm to your child.. i think you are over reacting a little bit... people go through much worse with errors made that are more than a comment and lives can be at risk
@MaRiSa22Bunny - I appreciate you commenting but no, this doctor was not joking. Otherwise, I would not have spent my time and effort to put together this video. You don't know me very well if you think I would overreact to a statement said to me. I waited five days before writing my letter and before posting this video and I feel as strongly about it today as I did when I left his office. It may not seem like a big deal to you but it is to me and it's a denial of my civil rights.
@MaRiSa22Bunny I don't think it is fair for you to say she is overreacting. You weren't there to witness the mood or tone in which this statement was said. Furthermore, it doesn't matter if he meant it in a jovial way or not, bottom line is it SHOULD NOT have been said. It was in poor taste and professionalism! As Erin said it comes down to a civil human rights things. Those that choose to breastfeed face more then enough negativity in public they shouldn't get it from the health pros!
Not too mention if something isn't said and/or done then when will things change? A blind eye should not be turned. Would you have said the same if it was something even more serious? This also, as Erin said, could have had a more negative detrimental impact to another more in the same position, especially if she had PPD. We go to doctors with trust and confidence and he has definitely broken that! Sure there may be worse things out there BUT this is serious enough.
@MaRiSa22Bunny Joke or not, it's still not funny and it's insensitive. It's not like he is someone they personally know. When people say things like that, it sounds unsupportive and rude. Breastfeeding, especially after a certain age is a touchy subject so it's one that should be approached for carefully. I don't know Erin or her family but she doesn't strike me as someone who can't take a joke and overreact to it. We weren't there to really know the exact tone which which he said it. She was.
I think your awesome for breastfeeding your baby after one year and I'm planning to do the same with my 7 months old. Here in the Netherlands there are the same ideas about breastfeeding for longer than a year and I also hope that wil change here to! So sorry this happend to you and so happy you responded this way!
I'm so proud of you for advocating this issue!!!!! I breastfed my child until she was 5 years old and expected a different attitude for this from the general public...NEVER a health professional!!!! Ignorance. maddening.
BAH! I can't believe he said that to you! You have GOT to file a complaint. I'd go in there with my research in hand and state my case. I'm sure you're not the only person he has done this to and maybe you can save another mother from such discouragement. It's awesome that you've done your research and you're so confident in your choices. I hope for their sake, other mothers he has perhaps belittled in the same way, are just as confident and don't allow his words to break them.
i would of been so upset and yeah it would question my resolve to bf passed the 1 year what a dinky doctor its really horrble the way thay treat moms who bf its our right its what our boobs where made for not for your viewing pleasure =) yay for bf passed 1 year =) keep at it
I think you have the right to breastfeed as long as you want and as long as it is not bad for your daughter. I mean I have seen your videos and so I have seen that Willow eats solids and so, I think there is no problem. As long as you feel good and Willow feels good by doing it, you should go on. You are right, your child will give you a sign if she does not want to breastfeed anymore!
Stay strong in your mind. You are great and I think Willow is a really smart little girl.
Good for you... Doctors shouldn't do what he did. I'm in my last semester of medical school and during my semesters of pediatrics and ob/gyn they gave us ALL this information and SHOVED it down our throats over & over. He wasn't taught that breastfeeding past a year is bad. He, unfortunately, doesn't know how to separate his personal opinion from the science he was taught in school. People like him shouldn't have the privilege of being called doctor. I hope you don't go through this again...
For me, breastfeeding was something so foreign to me but I nervously did it anyway and I continued until my girl self weaned, Some comments that I received had a HUGE impact on my postpartum mood and self confidence, and significantly increased my anxiety. It really infuriates me that anyone should be made to feel ashamed of nursing their child.
Good for you. My son is 2 1/2 and I am still breastfeeding him. Same as you I plan on continuing until he or I are ready to stop. We mostly nurse when he is ready for bed but on occasion he will nurse during the day.
...the bottom line is that it should be mother's and mother's ONLY decision if she wants to breastfeed or not...and NO ONE should ever critisize her on the decision let allone ridicule her in the fashion that this doctor did. Big thumbs up for this video Erin!!!!
I had an opposite issue when my daughter was about a month old. She was a preeme and was not able to feed off the breast so i pumped and gave it in a bottle. They told me i was harming her by giving her a bottle when she was still getting breastmilk. They told me she needed it off the breast or i shouldnt be giving it to her. I actually walked out of the office after they told me i should just pop a boob out right there and give it to her instead or they would kick me out of the program.
As a fellow Canadian I really hope you do file a complaint because that is a really ignorant view coming from medical establishment. We are in such a vulnerable position when we go to the doctor and that "opinion" was completely unethical and inappropriate. If there is a medical review board I would file a complaint because he emotionally hurt you which is as serious as if he had physically hurt you - which goes against their "doctorly" oath of "do no harm".
Also, I filed a complaint about my son's pediatrician and it only made things worse in my case. They stuck up for the doctor saying he is pro breastfeeding when in fact, he is not. You can not be pro breastfeeding if you are misinformed and do not support a mothers choice! He was labeled failure to thrive when he is far from it. Luckily CPS is on my side and they are getting him to lift the FTT diagnoses. I agree they need to have LCs in the pediatricians office. They are so vital to have.
thanks for the video! my son is only 8 months his pedi. is very supportive with breastfeeding. but my Mother in law has mentioned many times if i stoped breastfeeding (my son doesnt not take a bottle)she will finally be able to watch my son. I havent left my son with anyone besides my husband i just never needed to leave him with a sitter. but my MIL complains all the time that if i stopped BFshe would be able to see him more and take him places. people can be so rude! ill keep doing whats best!
Amazing video! Really, I am so glad you made this. I had a HORRIBLE experience with a pediatrician about breastfeeding and it does have a major impact. I felt so many emotions afterwards. Not only was he misinformed but he was unsupportive and his nurse was rude to me as well. My son has always been small but healthy. He told me that my milk wasn't sufficient enough anymore. This was at 9 mo. Said that there are no benefits after 6 mo and he will wean at a year. Even called CPS over his weight!
I can't believe this has to be an issue. I nursed my children for 2 years with great pressure from family & friends. I held strong, trusted my instincts and felt sorry for the people who didn't get it and felt it necessary to make me feel like what I was doing was "abnormal". It is 2012 you would think by now people would be past the stigma we are carrying over from a Vctorian era. We will just have to keep nursing and raise smarter children (nursing raises IQ).
:(Oh, Erin. It sucks so much that medical "professionals" are allowed to be a huge decision maker (directly or undirectly) in so many peoples lives. I'm so glad you are able to take a bad situation and turn it into a teaching experience. I myself have often tried to come up with a good response for the inevitable doubters I will someday encounter. This video has helped me back up my beliefs with hard facts! Thank you! Hang in there, when Willow looks back at this someday she will appreciate it!
My jaw dropped when you told us what he had said. Like you I would of been caught off guard and would be in such shock I would of done the same. I am glad you made this video and I am sure it will helps loads of other Mother's that may have gone through the same thing or something similar. How about writing a letter to him?
I was amazingly lucky that in 14 months of breastfeeding I never experienced thrush or a closed minded idiot in the area of breastfeeding. I can't believe that you experienced both in one day!
I hope this video is able to help someone else stand up for themselves, I hope Dr. Engels sees this video and realizes the harm that these comments can inflict, and I'm so sorry that you were treated that way by a medical professional. Shame Shame.
I breastfed until my four year old was 18 months old. I had to wean her to take medicine. I have a new baby and I plan to breastfeed until she wants to stop. My best friend breastfed her son until he was about 4 years old. I think breastfeeding is wonderful and I would be pretty upset too if a dr. said that to me. Don't drs know breast is best when a woman can breastfeed I mean.
@LovingLosing - I have not yet filed a complaint. I am not really sure what my definitive next steps are other than to share my experience and help other mothers who may experience something similar.
@babyvlog Darling. I have struggled with my journey with breastfeeding but after almost 8 months in now I am still managing it. I am also struggling with severe PPD. If I was in your shoes and this happened to me I would no doubt be in tears over it after I left the office. I encourage you, for the sake of all us other mothers out there, that you file that complaint. How many other mothers will be hurt in this fashion unless it is brought to the attention of the "powers that be"?
I did what was best for my son and he is a happy and very healthy and advanced 8 month old. I guess my point is society and other mothers will always judge no one has rights any more ( i am from CANADA as well) and we ar losing our choice to parent our children the way we want and that is very disgusting to me. Thanks for the awesome video :)
This was a fantastic video. I think it is wonderful that you and many other mothers have the strength to breastfeed despite the lack of suport from society. However comming from my own personal experince as a mother who did not breatsfeed due to many medical issues of my own which i was on medication for post partum and i receive harsh comments and rude remarks from both mothers and society for my choice not to.
@itsmeeALLI - I plan on breastfeeding until Willow wants to stop or until I want to stop. I always said that it has to be a mutually rewarding experience so we'll continue until it isn't.
Built up so much confidence in breastfeeding that I would never be influenced to stop breastfeeding because of others reactions to it. You did a beautiful job on putting all the information together and I know it will definitely help other mothers and hopefully pediatricians that don't fully support breastfeeding after the 6th month will be more professional when it comes to breastfeeding and not make smart comments about it.
Please (if you haven't already) share this experience with your own pediatrician, so that he or she is aware that the on-call doctor is behaving this way. If you don't, more referrals will be made and the result could be what you described in your video - mothers giving up something they thought was good for them and their baby. Good job keeping calm during that video - events such as this get my blood boiling!
I'm glad you posted this. I'm pregnant with my first child. I know I'm going to be one of those moms who isn't that confident and hearing a doctor chastise my choice for breastfeeding beyond 1 year would probably have me thinking. But on the other hand, I am well educated on the benefits of breastfeeding and know that it is the best for my growing baby. My plan is to breastfeed for as long as baby and I are both comfortable with it. Seeing other women like you stand up like this is inspiring!
I breastfed my youngest daughter until she was 34 months old. She weaned herself. There should be encouragement from doctors for the mothers of their patients to continue breastfeeding not to make the mother feel like their is something wrong with continuing past 6 months.I am happy to say that breastfeeding is becoming more popular and researched more by pregnant women and new mothers here in the U.S. I am so glad that I had such a great support system when I had my first child. I have built
I breastfeed my oldest until 16 months got pressured by doctors and family to quit. In the end it was baby led. Now I'm at almost 6 months with my youngest and will allow it to be baby led weaning again. We are both sick now so I'm thankful for the antibodies.
I love this video! Thanks for putting all of this out there. I am still breastfeeding my twins at 21 months. It hasn't been easy but it is so worth it!
Wow this video was so beautifully put together! I do hope he sees this. let us know if you get into contact with him. your video is seriously top of the scale. You stayed calm, rational, and factual. Good work!
It makes me so sad that a pediatrician, who you expect to have your child's best interests in mind, would leave you feeling that way. It is really disgusting. I hope that not only that pediatrician sees this, but also all the other pediatricians that do not follow the guidelines and promote breast feeding enthusiastically. We have been breast feeding for 6 months and I expect that at 13 months I would be excited and proud too! I'm going to tell you what that pediatrician should have, Great Job!
Thank you for this video. I had something similar happen to me when I took my 12mth old to the emerg here in Ontario. If I didn`t think the way I do about breastfeeding I would have been second guessing myself after the dr comment. I also get alot of comments from family (you`re still bf? she`s one! etc). Thank for letting me know I am not alone.
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I've breastfeed all 3 of mine and was really luck as well never had any infections. I did experience the sore nipples with my last but overall very lucky with everything else that could have gone wrong.
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Can I just add, people can be very ignorant, yes even doctors! You are 100% right in all you have to say here. If people don't stand up for what's right we we all be dis empowered. I really disagree with the first post too. My son has had a series of colds and an ear infection and he refused all foods and even water, if he was not breastfeeding he would have suffered from dehydration I am sure. Especially when your child gets sick you really see how extended bfeeding helps protect and nurture.
Suzis99 1 month ago
Wow how uncalled for, good for you for standing up for your rights. I find those comments really disrespectful and cold. As you say he should have the child's best interest at heart. Very arrogant of him to feel he can make comments on your own personal parenting decisions. And breastfeeding for longer is a good thing as we ALL know for the child's health and well being, I am bfeeding my toddler who is older than yours and I tell you if a Dr said that to me, wow, he would have got an earful.
Suzis99 1 month ago
cont...rest of the world thinks its awkward. I just don't understand exactly what it is that bothers people about it. If they think it is weird than THEY are the ones who are weirdos and have problems to work out not you. Why can't the world let anything be innocent anymore? I have been so ready to fly off the handle at people here lately lol Thank you for showing that you can make your point in a civilized way, because I would have been stomping back in there and giving him a piece of my mind:)
pinkcinderella07 1 month ago
THANK YOU!! Thank you for making this video and sharing your experience (and even submitting yourself to the negativity that you tube has to offer as well) I don't understand why people say you are over reacting. That doctor was way out of line! My son is 7 months old, and already I have received SO many negative comments. I just can't fathom why someone would want me to wean my son and give him formula. Formula was made as a substitute when the mother COULDN'T breastfeed. Not just because the..
pinkcinderella07 1 month ago
Good for you for standing up for yourself! I breastfed my oldest until she was 2 and my youngest is 17 months and still going. I experienced a lot of crap from your average Joe for nursing that long but never had a healthcare professional speak to me that way. If he has his own reservations about breast-feeding that's his business, but as a doctor he is expected to adhere with the guidelines of bigger health organizations who do not view breastfeeding for 13 months as abnormal in the least. His
JourneyToBabyNumber2 1 month ago
I am an RN, IBCLC (registered lactation consultant), and breastfeeding mom. I am shocked and appalled by this. People put SO MUCH value into the opinion health care professionals (esp. doctors) have on matters such as this. Drs not only should be current on the recommendations of breastfeeding, but also need to know how the hell to speak to a patient. As you said, this is a discriminatory comment, and if it was towards your race or sexual orientation, he'd be slapped SO HARD by a lawsuit.
eriem1 1 month ago
When I mentioned to my pediatrician that I was still breastfeeding my then 2 year old son. She never made me feel bad or that I was doing something wrong. She simply looked at him and said "He doesn't need it, you can stop." I'm not going to lie, I was disappointed. I was expecting support and encouragement. But I wasn't offended by how she said it. My son is big for his age (38 lbs/wearing 4 and 5T). And I am pretty small so I think she was just looking out for me (she was also MY pedi) :)
TiggerTube09 1 month ago
Pardon my immaturity, but that doctor is a total douche. I don't understand why people feel the need to be all squishy about breastfeeding. Breasts are not just "funbags" for men (or women, hey, I'm not here to judge) to play with. They're for feeding babies, as long as the mother jolly well feels is the appropriate length of time to do so.
Good for you Erin for standing up for your rights and for Willow's rights to be breastfed. You are a wonderful mother and she is a very lucky little girl.
lilblondehooker 1 month ago
I think it was very unprofessional for him to say that. She is only 13 months old! The WHO recommends nursing for a MINIMUM of two years. My son is 11 months and is still nursed on demand. I have no intentions of weaning him - he will decide when he is ready to wean. I'm sorry you got treated like a "freak" by that idiot doctor. Find a La Leche meeting - they are free, great and supportive.
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i think u are over reacting... to be honest
vovo2088 1 month ago
Wait, so was it on your graph that you plan on doing that until high school? Or did he just say that out of nowhere?
ForTheLoveOfBooksx00 1 month ago
You shouldn't have to explain yourself to people, Its your life and your choices ANY doctor should back you up on any HEALTHY choice you make for your child. There are many parents that would LOVE to breastfeed for that long! Good for you! He had no right to say anything to you.
stienburg 1 month ago
Thank you for sharing your story. I am also confident in my parenting abilities, but have been taken back by comments I've heard from other people. The bottom line is that pediatricians should be encouraging and nurturing especially to those who are less confident in their abilities. Pediatricians should take their role as a trusted advisor so much more seriously and should be more considerate of the impact of their words. This is not something to take lightly.
MrsMommy11 1 month ago
If you are confident and happy with your choice, I am not sure why this comment bothered you. Let it roll off your back, who cares!
mydaughtermyworld 1 month ago
Way to go Erin. I had a similiar thing happen with my then 23month old daughter and I wish I had said something to my doctor at the time. But I'm proud you're doing something about it.Good for you!!
jenEEnor 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos
Erin, i'm so sorry you had this bad experience but, i'm proud of you for speaking up and being a strong woman and mother!
You should file a complaint against this doctor. Ignore all the other people trying to belittle the situation and make you feel like you're overreacting, you can only feel how you feel and if it was me, then i'm sure i would feel exactly the same.
Thank you for sharing your experience. You're an inspiration!
xx
ItsKellyWinter 1 month ago
Go Erin, go! You are such an inspiration to this community and I hope that doctor sees this video. Way to be your own advocate! This video was awesome. <3
kyleandjessP 1 month ago
I'm a Canadian and am so shocked myself to hear of a canadian pediatrician says these mocking words, I find it quite disgusting. Most nations respect a woman who chooses to breastfeed.
rawan912 1 month ago 2
Great job Erin!
sindysb2003 1 month ago
This is coming as a shock to me, because generally it's not the breastfeeding mothers who are "attacked". It's usually the formula feeding mothers because they aren't doing what's the very best for them. More than often I hear people talking about formula as if it's poison, even though you would pretty much never be able to figure out what people were breastfed, and which ones were formula fed.
This comment the doctor made was definitely inappropriate though, it's just such a rare scenario.
LovelyLady1090 1 month ago
Crazy. You shouldn't been judged on your decision. With my first son I felt that I was being judged (for stopping early) when I said he weened himself at 13 months. As he made a comment "did he stop himself"?
mkx2r 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos
Erin, please file a complain against him.
purpledawn22 1 month ago
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purpledawn22 1 month ago
Hi Erin... this is a great video!!! Thank you so much for sharing! I'm going to share with you my friend's journey: littletinylove.blogspot.com/2012/01/our-breast-feeding-journey-thus-far.html
she has just celebrated 13 months of breastfeeding.
HopefulLadie 1 month ago
Long story short after meeting with specialist after specialist and going to support groups she could not get him to latch, and we had to stop attempting to breast feed. Since then we have experienced very negative comments etc, from many people when they see one of us feeding him with a bottle. So our experience is that if you are not breastfeeding then you are labeled as a bad parent...I feel that people should not judge as they do not know the situation for each person.
67hunter1 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos
Admist all of this she was still pumping and I was feeding our son as she was not allowed leaving her bed. The look and comments from the nurses I received were less than supportive and later she received the same reception once she was able to go and feed him.
67hunter1 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos
I am surprised regarding your comment that today's society is not as open to breast feeding as it should be. My wife and I have had the opposite experience. During pregnancy she took breastfeeding courses, went to support groups etc. Once our son was born, he had to go into special care and was not able to be in the same room as my wife and I. On top of that she has some other issues and her health was a concern.
67hunter1 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos
Good on you for writing that Erin!! My doctor made a completely rude comment that I had "gained WAY too much weight for this pregnancy and probably have diabetes." I had gained 30 pounds at 9 months pregnant which is healthy, had never met her, and she had ZERO reason to suspect I had diabetes. She also made many more rude comments and called her co-worker stupid behind her back. Sadly, being military there isn't much I can do about this....
LizzyAndOmar 1 month ago
My daugher whois almost 2 is on a toddler formula as it has extra nutrients than just normal milk and i am sure people may think that that is strange but i have done it with all my 3 children.
MrsDaniellePlamer 1 month ago
Here in Australia i have found it to be the opposite with breast feeding, there is so much encouragment to breast feed " breast is best" is the saying you always hear at the midwife appointments, i am quite suprised to hear that any doctors would make such a stupid comment, if every thing is still going ok 6 months is way to early to cut out breast feeding i would maybe think 2 years of age to maybe think about stopping.
MrsDaniellePlamer 1 month ago
I really don't think the highschool comment is such a big deal. It just seems like he simply doesn't meet that many women wh plan on breastfeeding indefinitely and he tried to bring up the topic for discussion in a clumsy way.
I actually feel that you were too prepared to feel attacked, even when it wasn't intended. Feeling the victim doesn't help breastfeeding.
What was wrong is the further comment about it being illegal, but by then he would have been feeling your hostility towards him.
LouiseAndBaba 1 month ago 4
@LouiseAndBaba - I really think that you would have had to be there in order to understand why I'm upset. I've been questioned about breastfeeding (and every other parenting choice) to no end and I've brushed them all off without much thought. If you look through my videos here on YT, you will see a definitive lack of me feeling hurt or complaining. If I do take the time to complain, it's warranted. I'm an intelligent person (as is my husband) and we know this was wrong.
babyvlog 1 month ago 11
@babyvlog i agree with you :) I support you.
chabella123 1 month ago
@LouiseAndBaba as a professional,he should have been more careful.he obviously didn't do much to make it a"funny matter".Every mother is protective.
He probably felt guilty(or meant it- and walked out)Neverless,this doesn't give him the right to say such a strange thing to a mother who chooses what she feels is best for her child.There are simply things ONE professionaly does NOT say.It is HIS job to be careful- and if he was "careless"(as you write he might have been), then resolve it. :)
chabella123 1 month ago
Good for you Erin ! That is appalling behaviour to come from a ob! You should send the letter in to the office, he shouldn't get away with saying that . He was more then likely one of the ob's who said to breast feed for one month! X
nuttytazzy 1 month ago
Well stated, Erin! I don't think your over-reacting at all. Ethan is 18 mths old and still nursing. I struggle with the idea of weaning all the time. I get a lot of negativity about nursing still. I don't think Ethan's dr is on board with it but luckily she doesn't say anything. Great video! I hope he gets a chance to watch it and to read all these comments!
jollyjess6 1 month ago
That was very unethical and I don't think you are over-reacting. I did not breastfeed as long as you because it didn't work out. However, I commend you for sticking with it. That doctor should apologize to you. It was inappropriate. It is so good for your daughters immune system.
artistginger9 1 month ago
Thank you for posting this, however it is sad that the doc said what he said, but I really don't think he even remember saying that to you. Doc don't understand that there words hurt. You should send him this letter, but he needs to reed it.
hartrose33 1 month ago
His comment was not just extremely unproffessional, but ridiculous too! What makes him think that was 'OK' to say?!!?!
Anyway, absolutely awesome video! Thank you so much for posting!!!
xx1onthewayxx 1 month ago
Erin, thank you for making this video. I never had negativity about breast feeding from a doctor, but being a new mother, societies views of breast feeding in public played a big role in me stopping after just two short months. Your videos and positive breast feeding experiences have encouraged me and given me more confidence in breast feeding when we decide to have our second child. I am so sorry this event happened to you, but I know that this video will help mothers, like me, who aren't as
growingupgilbert 1 month ago
I just want to thank you for standing up for yourself and for all us breastfeeding mommas, especially thoes BF after a year! It is just mind- boggleing why breastfeeding- something that is OPTIMAL for developing brains and bodys, the ONLY means of infant survival in the human species before formula was invented, and something so NATURAL, gets looked down upon!
Babybee86 1 month ago
GO MAMA! That is ridiculous and unprofessional. Lets encourage and support nursing moms!
frowniebrown86 1 month ago
Nope you are not alone. I have also read in studies that breastfed children tend to be more advanced then non-breast fed babies, but in reality they are what should be considered "average", and non-breast fed babies are below average. Because we were made to breast feed so that is normal!!!
davrobj 1 month ago
@davrobj honestly are you kidding me. I just can not answer this as Im to pissed off. Please out of my three children come and tell me which ones I breastfeed and which I did not. Ill give you mile stones, reports from school etc.
elesha76 1 month ago
I'm so sorry you were put on the spot like that. It honestly blows my mind that not all drs are having the info they need esp when dealing with babies all day. He should know how good BF is. I dont even BF & this pissed me off. I wanted to BF but couldnt make enough milk. Maybe if my dr helped in someway I would have been able too. I hope you get your shot at telling him how you feel or I hope he actually gets to see this video. (How awesome would that be) Just know u are a awesome mama. l<3 u!
Sexyhexymama 1 month ago
Wow you are a much more composed person than I. I would not have made it out of that office before I would have lost it. I'm glad you made this video; mothers are put down everyday for breastfeeding. Something needs to change.
GenAndBradPlusOne 1 month ago
The 5 people that disliked this are probably pediatricians.
TaylorSwiftfan1iever 1 month ago
@TaylorSwiftfan1iever or people who sell formula ;-)
riccio167 1 month ago
I had a really horrible pediatrician tell me I was breastfeeding too often and that my son was overweight. This was not my normal pediatrician at the time and I did tell her that she was wrong and that I did not appreciate her comments and that I attended La Leche League and have read many current books on breastfeeding and that breastfed babies can not be fed too often. She then told me that she had been a doctor for 20 years so she knew better than me. I regret not making a formal complaint.
alandamandamama 1 month ago
no matter what his opinion is his 'off hand' comment was completely UNPROFESSIONAL!
good on you for doing something about it hun!
lucytune80 1 month ago
You are definitely going about this the right way....just follow through with a formal complaint and DEMAND an apology! Get the news involved if need be. No other mother should be hurt or denied rights in this fashion. What else is this doctor doing to his patience health and mental wellbeing? Good Luck and can't wait to see what comes of this.
pregovlog 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos
I had a similar experience when my daughter was only 6 months old! I was sick and had to go on antibiotics. I told my doctor that I was breastfeeding so had to have a "breast-feeding friendly" medicine. He just looked at me and said "Don't you think its about time you gave it away? No one thinks you're a hero."
I was shocked and never went back to him. I was very young and not confident so never did anything about it but kudos to you for standing up for your rights.
melkingcat 1 month ago
Thank you for doing this!! I too get tongue-tied when taken off guard by something like that and can't respond the way I'd like to in the moment. Your letter helps me be prepared if I'm in a similar situation with my daughter. It's not fair for a doctor's personal opinion to trump all the science behind breastfeeding! I've had a problem with our ped's office assuming we are formula feeding, which also puts me on the defensive, and my baby is only 6 months! Thanks again. :)
katulka2 1 month ago
How hurtful. I hope he does watch the video.
4411baby 1 month ago
You go girl! willow & my son are born two days apart & I still breast feed him. I breastfed my older sons until they were 2 ( who are now 17 & 12 yrs old) & I don't remember anyone except my in laws giving me crap about breastfeeding. I told them straight up your not the parent so what u think don't matter to me & that was the end of it. Maybe since kids won't be as sick the dr's think they won't have any business in the years to come
simbarae 1 month ago
what a great video! My daughter just turned 6 months last week and im so proud of myself that im still breastfeeding! I cant believe a doctor would say that to you! so crazy! I cant believe people are so weird about breastfeeding! Its what your suppose to do! Why are people so against it i truly don't understand! My mother-in-law is always asking me when im gonna stop breastfeeding and making negative comments about it. Like, " wait until those teeth start coming in then I bet you'll stop"
ranchd44 1 month ago
It says a lot about you that you were able to write such a cogent letter in response to such a callous and inapporopriate personal attack. The pediatrician's office should be a safe environment for open discussion. This... individual's... snide comment is a breech of professionalism and a serious lapse in judgment, both of which will work against him in his career. Ass. (Ps. It's so awesome that you are breastfeeding Willow into her 2nd year! You obviously care a lot about her health and :)
Angelalalynn 1 month ago
he probably was just joking.. he seemed to treat willow very nicely and was a competent doctor.. --- doctors sometimes have a bad sense of humor-- it wasnt like he caused harm to your child.. i think you are over reacting a little bit... people go through much worse with errors made that are more than a comment and lives can be at risk
MaRiSa22Bunny 1 month ago 7
@MaRiSa22Bunny - I appreciate you commenting but no, this doctor was not joking. Otherwise, I would not have spent my time and effort to put together this video. You don't know me very well if you think I would overreact to a statement said to me. I waited five days before writing my letter and before posting this video and I feel as strongly about it today as I did when I left his office. It may not seem like a big deal to you but it is to me and it's a denial of my civil rights.
babyvlog 1 month ago 19
@babyvlog , good voor you !! I nursed voor 50 months ! and was flabbergasted from the comments i have got !
I was abusing my child :-S , i did it for my own pleasures blablabladieblabla
So @MaRiSa22Bunny ......... she is NOT overreacting ! thats reality because people and sociaty seems to see that the botlefeeding is normal.
But in fact the botle is not normal ...
MoMofLisA 1 month ago
@MaRiSa22Bunny I don't think it is fair for you to say she is overreacting. You weren't there to witness the mood or tone in which this statement was said. Furthermore, it doesn't matter if he meant it in a jovial way or not, bottom line is it SHOULD NOT have been said. It was in poor taste and professionalism! As Erin said it comes down to a civil human rights things. Those that choose to breastfeed face more then enough negativity in public they shouldn't get it from the health pros!
pregovlog 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos
@MaRiSa22Bunny
Not too mention if something isn't said and/or done then when will things change? A blind eye should not be turned. Would you have said the same if it was something even more serious? This also, as Erin said, could have had a more negative detrimental impact to another more in the same position, especially if she had PPD. We go to doctors with trust and confidence and he has definitely broken that! Sure there may be worse things out there BUT this is serious enough.
pregovlog 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos
@MaRiSa22Bunny Joke or not, it's still not funny and it's insensitive. It's not like he is someone they personally know. When people say things like that, it sounds unsupportive and rude. Breastfeeding, especially after a certain age is a touchy subject so it's one that should be approached for carefully. I don't know Erin or her family but she doesn't strike me as someone who can't take a joke and overreact to it. We weren't there to really know the exact tone which which he said it. She was.
StarlaMom 1 month ago
*should be approached with care...
StarlaMom 1 month ago
I think your awesome for breastfeeding your baby after one year and I'm planning to do the same with my 7 months old. Here in the Netherlands there are the same ideas about breastfeeding for longer than a year and I also hope that wil change here to! So sorry this happend to you and so happy you responded this way!
lovinxgx 1 month ago
I'm so proud of you for advocating this issue!!!!! I breastfed my child until she was 5 years old and expected a different attitude for this from the general public...NEVER a health professional!!!! Ignorance. maddening.
diggs1976 1 month ago
BAH! I can't believe he said that to you! You have GOT to file a complaint. I'd go in there with my research in hand and state my case. I'm sure you're not the only person he has done this to and maybe you can save another mother from such discouragement. It's awesome that you've done your research and you're so confident in your choices. I hope for their sake, other mothers he has perhaps belittled in the same way, are just as confident and don't allow his words to break them.
RedUmbrellaMama 1 month ago
i would of been so upset and yeah it would question my resolve to bf passed the 1 year what a dinky doctor its really horrble the way thay treat moms who bf its our right its what our boobs where made for not for your viewing pleasure =) yay for bf passed 1 year =) keep at it
nextinlineforsuicide 1 month ago
I think you have the right to breastfeed as long as you want and as long as it is not bad for your daughter. I mean I have seen your videos and so I have seen that Willow eats solids and so, I think there is no problem. As long as you feel good and Willow feels good by doing it, you should go on. You are right, your child will give you a sign if she does not want to breastfeed anymore!
Stay strong in your mind. You are great and I think Willow is a really smart little girl.
LauraBader91 1 month ago
Good for you, great job Erin How dare DR judge you
tvqueen1905 1 month ago
i think you should do a complaint! ... the doctor was not right to say that... im sorry for the discomfort you experienced at the doctors office...
Naooxoo 1 month ago
Good for you... Doctors shouldn't do what he did. I'm in my last semester of medical school and during my semesters of pediatrics and ob/gyn they gave us ALL this information and SHOVED it down our throats over & over. He wasn't taught that breastfeeding past a year is bad. He, unfortunately, doesn't know how to separate his personal opinion from the science he was taught in school. People like him shouldn't have the privilege of being called doctor. I hope you don't go through this again...
omiganlode 1 month ago
For me, breastfeeding was something so foreign to me but I nervously did it anyway and I continued until my girl self weaned, Some comments that I received had a HUGE impact on my postpartum mood and self confidence, and significantly increased my anxiety. It really infuriates me that anyone should be made to feel ashamed of nursing their child.
SunnyZoey11 1 month ago
Good for you. My son is 2 1/2 and I am still breastfeeding him. Same as you I plan on continuing until he or I are ready to stop. We mostly nurse when he is ready for bed but on occasion he will nurse during the day.
Cjjnett 1 month ago
...the bottom line is that it should be mother's and mother's ONLY decision if she wants to breastfeed or not...and NO ONE should ever critisize her on the decision let allone ridicule her in the fashion that this doctor did. Big thumbs up for this video Erin!!!!
1a2c4f 1 month ago
My grandma told me she breastfed until her kids were 5
lulu2lalas 1 month ago
Great job Erin!
hcbabyjourney 1 month ago
I had an opposite issue when my daughter was about a month old. She was a preeme and was not able to feed off the breast so i pumped and gave it in a bottle. They told me i was harming her by giving her a bottle when she was still getting breastmilk. They told me she needed it off the breast or i shouldnt be giving it to her. I actually walked out of the office after they told me i should just pop a boob out right there and give it to her instead or they would kick me out of the program.
xoRamzadictox 1 month ago
As a fellow Canadian I really hope you do file a complaint because that is a really ignorant view coming from medical establishment. We are in such a vulnerable position when we go to the doctor and that "opinion" was completely unethical and inappropriate. If there is a medical review board I would file a complaint because he emotionally hurt you which is as serious as if he had physically hurt you - which goes against their "doctorly" oath of "do no harm".
wrenslifejourney 1 month ago
Also, I filed a complaint about my son's pediatrician and it only made things worse in my case. They stuck up for the doctor saying he is pro breastfeeding when in fact, he is not. You can not be pro breastfeeding if you are misinformed and do not support a mothers choice! He was labeled failure to thrive when he is far from it. Luckily CPS is on my side and they are getting him to lift the FTT diagnoses. I agree they need to have LCs in the pediatricians office. They are so vital to have.
StarlaMom 1 month ago
Excellent video and well said! You will help SO MANY women! Dr. Andre Engels, you have a lot to learn!
dreamflight6000 1 month ago
thanks for the video! my son is only 8 months his pedi. is very supportive with breastfeeding. but my Mother in law has mentioned many times if i stoped breastfeeding (my son doesnt not take a bottle)she will finally be able to watch my son. I havent left my son with anyone besides my husband i just never needed to leave him with a sitter. but my MIL complains all the time that if i stopped BFshe would be able to see him more and take him places. people can be so rude! ill keep doing whats best!
amandakerns426 1 month ago
Amazing video! Really, I am so glad you made this. I had a HORRIBLE experience with a pediatrician about breastfeeding and it does have a major impact. I felt so many emotions afterwards. Not only was he misinformed but he was unsupportive and his nurse was rude to me as well. My son has always been small but healthy. He told me that my milk wasn't sufficient enough anymore. This was at 9 mo. Said that there are no benefits after 6 mo and he will wean at a year. Even called CPS over his weight!
StarlaMom 1 month ago
I can't believe this has to be an issue. I nursed my children for 2 years with great pressure from family & friends. I held strong, trusted my instincts and felt sorry for the people who didn't get it and felt it necessary to make me feel like what I was doing was "abnormal". It is 2012 you would think by now people would be past the stigma we are carrying over from a Vctorian era. We will just have to keep nursing and raise smarter children (nursing raises IQ).
gabriellsbaby 1 month ago
This I am sure will spark answers. Sorry you went through that. Ugh!
FaithBabyVlogs 1 month ago
:(Oh, Erin. It sucks so much that medical "professionals" are allowed to be a huge decision maker (directly or undirectly) in so many peoples lives. I'm so glad you are able to take a bad situation and turn it into a teaching experience. I myself have often tried to come up with a good response for the inevitable doubters I will someday encounter. This video has helped me back up my beliefs with hard facts! Thank you! Hang in there, when Willow looks back at this someday she will appreciate it!
amygirl1983 1 month ago
My jaw dropped when you told us what he had said. Like you I would of been caught off guard and would be in such shock I would of done the same. I am glad you made this video and I am sure it will helps loads of other Mother's that may have gone through the same thing or something similar. How about writing a letter to him?
nannerskins 1 month ago
I was amazingly lucky that in 14 months of breastfeeding I never experienced thrush or a closed minded idiot in the area of breastfeeding. I can't believe that you experienced both in one day!
I hope this video is able to help someone else stand up for themselves, I hope Dr. Engels sees this video and realizes the harm that these comments can inflict, and I'm so sorry that you were treated that way by a medical professional. Shame Shame.
thebubblelush 1 month ago
I breastfed until my four year old was 18 months old. I had to wean her to take medicine. I have a new baby and I plan to breastfeed until she wants to stop. My best friend breastfed her son until he was about 4 years old. I think breastfeeding is wonderful and I would be pretty upset too if a dr. said that to me. Don't drs know breast is best when a woman can breastfeed I mean.
candi0826 1 month ago
@LovingLosing - I have not yet filed a complaint. I am not really sure what my definitive next steps are other than to share my experience and help other mothers who may experience something similar.
babyvlog 1 month ago
@babyvlog Darling. I have struggled with my journey with breastfeeding but after almost 8 months in now I am still managing it. I am also struggling with severe PPD. If I was in your shoes and this happened to me I would no doubt be in tears over it after I left the office. I encourage you, for the sake of all us other mothers out there, that you file that complaint. How many other mothers will be hurt in this fashion unless it is brought to the attention of the "powers that be"?
pregovlog 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos
I did what was best for my son and he is a happy and very healthy and advanced 8 month old. I guess my point is society and other mothers will always judge no one has rights any more ( i am from CANADA as well) and we ar losing our choice to parent our children the way we want and that is very disgusting to me. Thanks for the awesome video :)
CandiceWhitman89 1 month ago
This was a fantastic video. I think it is wonderful that you and many other mothers have the strength to breastfeed despite the lack of suport from society. However comming from my own personal experince as a mother who did not breatsfeed due to many medical issues of my own which i was on medication for post partum and i receive harsh comments and rude remarks from both mothers and society for my choice not to.
CandiceWhitman89 1 month ago
@CandiceWhitman89 - Thanks Candice! I absolutely know that both sides face a struggle and it's very unfortunate that it happens.
babyvlog 1 month ago
how long do you plan on breastfeeding?
itsmeeALLI 1 month ago
@itsmeeALLI - I plan on breastfeeding until Willow wants to stop or until I want to stop. I always said that it has to be a mutually rewarding experience so we'll continue until it isn't.
babyvlog 1 month ago 2
Thank you & very well said
Hopefultime 1 month ago
Built up so much confidence in breastfeeding that I would never be influenced to stop breastfeeding because of others reactions to it. You did a beautiful job on putting all the information together and I know it will definitely help other mothers and hopefully pediatricians that don't fully support breastfeeding after the 6th month will be more professional when it comes to breastfeeding and not make smart comments about it.
mommiesblessing5 1 month ago
Please (if you haven't already) share this experience with your own pediatrician, so that he or she is aware that the on-call doctor is behaving this way. If you don't, more referrals will be made and the result could be what you described in your video - mothers giving up something they thought was good for them and their baby. Good job keeping calm during that video - events such as this get my blood boiling!
kellskitchen1 1 month ago 2
Very well said!
allharr 1 month ago
I'm glad you posted this. I'm pregnant with my first child. I know I'm going to be one of those moms who isn't that confident and hearing a doctor chastise my choice for breastfeeding beyond 1 year would probably have me thinking. But on the other hand, I am well educated on the benefits of breastfeeding and know that it is the best for my growing baby. My plan is to breastfeed for as long as baby and I are both comfortable with it. Seeing other women like you stand up like this is inspiring!
rydiaemerald 1 month ago
I breastfed my youngest daughter until she was 34 months old. She weaned herself. There should be encouragement from doctors for the mothers of their patients to continue breastfeeding not to make the mother feel like their is something wrong with continuing past 6 months.I am happy to say that breastfeeding is becoming more popular and researched more by pregnant women and new mothers here in the U.S. I am so glad that I had such a great support system when I had my first child. I have built
mommiesblessing5 1 month ago
I breastfeed my oldest until 16 months got pressured by doctors and family to quit. In the end it was baby led. Now I'm at almost 6 months with my youngest and will allow it to be baby led weaning again. We are both sick now so I'm thankful for the antibodies.
Notthecoolmom 1 month ago
That pediatrcian is really sad:( do whays best for willow...!! :)
snowwhitevlog 1 month ago
AWESOME video!!! Thank you for sharing!!! You are an amazing mother and person!
kleinesuessmausie 1 month ago
I love this video! Thanks for putting all of this out there. I am still breastfeeding my twins at 21 months. It hasn't been easy but it is so worth it!
skbaxley 1 month ago
Wow this video was so beautifully put together! I do hope he sees this. let us know if you get into contact with him. your video is seriously top of the scale. You stayed calm, rational, and factual. Good work!
DanielleBabyBliss 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos
It makes me so sad that a pediatrician, who you expect to have your child's best interests in mind, would leave you feeling that way. It is really disgusting. I hope that not only that pediatrician sees this, but also all the other pediatricians that do not follow the guidelines and promote breast feeding enthusiastically. We have been breast feeding for 6 months and I expect that at 13 months I would be excited and proud too! I'm going to tell you what that pediatrician should have, Great Job!
kristelandnick 1 month ago
I love you! I wish you lived near me, I would love to have playdates for our baby girls. I love your point of view on this
priscillajuarez 1 month ago
Thank you for sharing this, there are many mothers, I imagine who really need this.
priscillajuarez 1 month ago