my son stole my credit card and i had to put him out

[dopey7100]

put em out!!!

[mrsslop922]

i agree with everything you said....him stealing cc n buying things is not a drug problem....he is a thief and a liar....he has no respect for his mom or her home....she needs to give him to God and leave him there....

[Seancui283]

man ur so open lol i live in Virginia call me 425-232-1424 Sean and i agreee with everythin u said babe

[Seancui283]

man ur so open lol i live in Virginia call me 425-232-1424 Sean

[Seancui283]

man ur so open lol

[DannerManG19]

OMG are family went through the same thing! Good luck!!

[xxDawlinSingerxx]

he need sttrict parents .. he needs to get beatings , not spanks !! beatings !!

[i420Marijuana]

@xxDawlinSingerxx see beatings dont always work, i can certainly tell u if any man or women (dont care if its my dad ) puts hands on me first their getting it right back

[TheCesar541]

it sounds like you need to run him over!

[reiljohn1]

If you beat his ass, he will learn a lesson!!!!!! see how easy!!!

[reiljohn1]

Simple answer: beat his ass

[TheChrisSchmitty]

get a life. focus on the good!!!! @@ do not make videos about the bad @@ make one about something good :)

[joshuawatson1998]

if he was my bro i would let him take what he needs cause he is family

[pugggs]

stole... not stoled.

[mannytakenbyspinner]

THAT BOY NEEDS HIS ASS BEAT 

[js6335]

ya my cousin stole my mom's wedding ring after we took him in. he kept denying that he took it, but then he was thrown in jail for attempted residential robbery so we knew it was him for sure. i've completely cut him off, my parents are keeping it neutral. if it was my wedding ring, i personally would have gone to jail and beat the fuck out of that twerp. we did so much shit for him to even be in america, and he turns around and does this shit. i will never forgive him. i don;t consider him fam.

[cyphi1]

He should only be allowed back if he starts attending some sort of support group for addiction and gets cleaned up. Jail / prison doesn't remedy addiction, he needs to be around positive people who understand and accept him...the people in jail don't give a fuck. The courts don't care either...all they want is money. I've been through it. I know how it is.

[mssquirrely]

16-24 is too long, one word for your friend.....ENABLER......get me once shame on you, get me twice shame on me, won't be a third time, PERIOD! at 24 he's no longer a CHILD. Drug abusers have no ALLIANCE!

[besamemucho5]

@mssquirrely (part #1) she is an enabler no question about it, but it is of no good to her to know that, she needs a real solution, kicking him out of the house for stealing is not the right thing .....to the son there is no distinction of who he is stealing from....his mom, his best friend, his grandma, it doesn't matter, he is in need to feed that habit, as i see it, there seems to be a problem in the family ...maybe absent father? or mother working alot to make ends meet?( see part #2)

[erickkkkification]

i would let him stay on one condition:they help you pay the bill

[ScarlettOBeara]

Heartbreaking.....But having someone that desperate in your house, can put your life in danger. He can bring something or someone (he"s stealing from her, what is he doin' out in the street?) to her door; looking for him over nonsense and she or her husband end up dead!

[mauimom67]

NEVER, EVER put your kids in jail. DO NOT EVER call the cops on your kids. You can deal with it in many ways but getting your kids caught up in the "system" is not the answer. It could be the beginning of the end of their future. Jail will not cure their issues.

[blackartinmotion]

Sometimes love is more needed than valuables. Many won't agree but things can be replaced, people can not. Do what you said- pray over it. Drugs take control as you said which makes it hard to trust. The problem here is that sometimes people are comfortable and choose not to "at least try" to get help in being sober. Sometimes the drugs are so in control that the people can not see how they actually look and/or are behaving.

My advice... BOLT EVERYTHING DOWN and LOVE YOUR CHILDREN. lol.

[evg129]

she did the right thing, but she needs to be prepared to hear that he is in jail or dead and accept that as his own choice and not her fault.

[juchjaju1965]

Jail woudl have been better at least she would know where he is and he would be safe there is nothing they can do for him I am in the same situation and let me tell you it will break a Family apart I will keep her in my prayers NOW my question to you is did she give you pernission to speak about this on youtube I hope she wont be hurt if she sees this at this time she really needs a Friend by her side.

[blasian67]

@juchjaju1965 she's ok with me making the video and to be honest i did not ask for permission i had a convo with a friend and made a video and she was thankful for the comments that was left. so no she did not give me permission.. and she is not hurt and i am one of her Best friends.. thank u for ur comment and for caring about how she might feel. xoxo liz

[ColoradoKing26]

@blasian67 I'm a dad and recently took in my younger cousin after my uncle asked me to. No I wont put him out despite all the things he done. That will make it worst and he clearly needs some help just like your friend son. My cousin was heading down the path to either being dead or in prison. I had a tough love talk with him. I gave him the opportunity to speak his mind. No she not doing the right thing as odd it may sounds, but that's IMO. I got my cousin in school and he got a curfew.

[ColoradoKing26]

@blasian67 and he helps out around the house. I am not saying my way will work, but it comes down to being blunt, honest, and giving the troubled person a chance to talk. What he did was wrong no doubt, but hes on drugs and we all know what that could lead up to. Jail is never the answer in trying to straighten someone out who is on drugs. Love and communication, along with letting him being open helps, along with some family counseling.

[amillililwayne1]

@juchjaju1965 she told her friend she was going to do a vid

[SARRONDA]

Jail wouldve been better 2 send em on the street... It couldve been the rehab he dodging

[Ladytee741]

~I luv your hair straight it's soo pretty~

[HourGlassbyLove]

Girl, your hair is gorgeous!! But to the story, sometimes tough love with a whole lotta of realness and love are the best thing. I wish them the best and will keep their family in prayer, that's got to be rough.

[Dancergirl448]

I agree with her decision. You are so right, Liz. People on drugs will do irrational things like stealing from their family and pawning things that aren't theirs in order to support their habit. I can't imagine how hard it would be to put a child out, but if he wasn't trying to turn his life around by getting a job or going to rehab or helping out in some other way, he needs to be put out. Mooching and stealing are two of my big pet peeves so I definitely would put him out for stealing.

[unavien]

It can't be an easy thing to shut the door on your own child. Its unnatural because our natural instinct would be to protect, or to shield - among other things. But, this situation is out of her hands. Her son is in trouble and there is nothing else that she can do except pray and protect her household. She can't be God - not even to her own flesh & blood. So, she's gonna hurt but she can no longer be accountable for his actions.

I pray you God's strength. Be well...

[MsEEvaM]

I have been in the same situation but with someone i was seeing. I know its hard and it may hurt but she did the right thing. He has some dealings that he has to deal with, theres not alot that she can do and having him live there is enabling him.

[CYNSTER1]

I can only imagine. Yes, you did the right thing. Turn him over to the Lord and leave him there with him and don't take him back!. You as a loving mother have done all that is in you to do. And when you've reached that point there is nothing left for you to do but to throw your hands up and let GOD take it. That' to me, is what you needed to do. Stand firm with your decision and be at peace with it..

Much Love my Sistah.

[sistamoon2k2]

I think she did what she had to. He needed a dose of reality. I wouldnt want my kid running over me & stealin my things. I would probably do the same after I beated his ass... He gotta learn the hard way.

[wmseduction]

She did the right thing, sometimes they need to hit rock bottom before they realize the need to correct this behavior. My prayers go out to you as you deal with these issues. God Bless!

[Missmandy29]

But i think she did the right thing and she needs to stick with it.....unlike my aunt lol.

[Missmandy29]

My aunt has been battling with this same situation with my cousin for years. He lives with her and and has been a drug addict and alcoholic since he was a teenager and has been in and out of jail and hospitals. My aunt has kicked him out but since he has no where to go she lets him back. He is doing better now but he still doesnt treat her the way he should and he doesnt work and doesnt help her with anything, he lives with her still and has kicked him out twice in the past year.

[iloveTokyoJapan]

I agree with you Liz. She did the right thing by putting him out. She took care of him for this long. It was a privilege for him to be there with free food, shelter, no rent, free entertainment and love. He threw that all away when he stole from her, it was like he was saying he doesn't care for the things she has done for him. She had to put him out even though it was tough, but if she hadn't of done it who knows what would have been next.

[siemprebae]

I would have kept him in jail the first time. If he hasn't made it to rehab, or successfully completed rehab...it's almost certain that they will get back with the same group of people that he grew up around gett'n envolved in with. The type of drug also effects diff. If he was on heroine..I would have forced him into rehab or on the streets long ago. Jail can offer rehab and also counselors for him, and hopefully help detox his body. It's hard to help som1 who won't help themselves.

[MiSSAjam02]

tough love maybe difficult to do on ur own kids, but somethng needs to be done, or matters will jus get only worse. u can only do so much to help a person out, an then to be betrayed like that is the biggest stab in the back. it wouldnt b a bad thng for him to be in jail, actually he needs it, cus he seems to be gettin away from all his wrong doings. punishment an reinforcements r needed, hes 23 an needs to b responsbile ! an like u said we work to hard for thngs jus to have it tooken away.

[RebelMakeUp]

Aw goodness it's such a hard situation! He certainly sounds like a messed up individual! I really feel for your girlfriend it's such a hard situation! And i indentify with the whipping the ass for stealing i took 20p from my dad when i was 8 and he whopped my ass too! LOL It worked!!! xxx

[Barginjunkie69]

it's a different ball park when it's your own, but drugs are a serious thing and they will make still from your mother etc.. tuff luv !! yeah it hurts but sometime you gotta do it , so i agree with your friend 100%, because if she continued to let him stay it will only end up Far worse..

[xstacy2]

That is a sad situation. I love your hair like this . It makes you look even more youthful. and that is a compliment.

[DrugstoreDiva]

The fact is he is an adult and he knows right from wrong, whether he is addicted or not. I've told my kids if you choose to do drugs and get addicted, I will not take care of you. You shouldn't have to, you've done your job.

[mllee2008]

I went through this with my brother....it was so hard to do, but I finally had NO CHOICE but to boot him out of my house. I bawled my eyes out over it...he was on drugs, getting violent, and stealing from me. I was devastated because this was my big brother who had always been there for me (until he got hooked on crack) and suddenly he was like a stranger.

I had to have some peace in my house, so he had to go...one of the hardest things I ever had to do and I do not wish that on anyone!

[Jacklynuh]

It's like that one show called Intervention on A&E. You have to kick them out if they're on drugs and they don't wanna go to rehab. That show is awesome. Your friend should see an episode so she can get a feel for what to do. They do a lot of tuff loving on there. It hurts but it's good for them at the end of the day. Hope it gets better.

[SadiaChowdhury]

I am very sorry for whatever she is going through.

I dont think rehab will work out for him. His entire family..including grandparents,cousins and everyone else should come and talk to him. Is there anyone he is close to? Ask him to make him understand the gravity of the situation. If he agrees, then try putting him into rehab. He might run away from the rehab a few times before he actually realizes that its for his own good..If he doesnt, then put him into jail.

I wish her all the best.

[gia7890]

He's old enough to make his own choices, and he's made them. He just needs to make a decision to quit drugs and get on the right path. Let him know that you will be there for him and support him no matter what but that he is not bringing that under your roof. If he is old enough to make mistakes, he can fix them himself. He doesn't need to bring his family down. I believe there is a point where you can no longer be responsible for your children's actions. He is 23 years old for godsake....

[gia7890]

I mean how long does she have to put up with her son before he kills himself due to drugs? I know it's hard because it's her son, but he has to be willing to help himself and if he doesn't want to then, what else if there to do? He's family, fine, but something needs to be done.

[gia7890]

I think that she did the right thing. You say your friend has been dealing with this since her son was sixteen? I mean if he hasn't gotten right by now, then he does need some tough love. I think that something needs to change with her son, and he's not going to be able to change unless something drastic happens.

[akcowgurl21]

I think your friend did the right thing by kicking him out. If she doesn't make a stand when he does something like that he'll just continue to do it. I'm sure it's breaking her heart to have to kick him out, but sometimes tuff love is needed in order for people to wake up. Hopefully he can get into rehab and get clean.

[Beautyforhire]

he needs an intervention .

[purplekisses7528]

She should not feel bad, my grandmother has been dealing with this same situation for the last 15 years with my uncle. My uncle unscrewed the hinge off of my grandparents bedroom door to steal the Church money because my grandpa was the Church Trustee, my grandparents live on a fixed income. Thay had to replace that money with their retirement and ssi checks, so kick him out or she will continue to be this way. She's got to let it go because as long as he's on drugs, she will continue to get it.

[daisylocust]

also im very sorry shes going through this i cannot imagine, so know that my hubby and i will be praying for strength and wisdom for her to make the right decision on what to do, and taht God will protect him and lead him to a better life and good decision making on his end especially. *tears* that is so hard!! and i know it must be rough for you to watch her go through so we are praying for you as well!! and praying In Jesus name!! <3 Lindsay and Marshall

[daisylocust]

my parents always told me if i ever stole from them they would have me arrested! straight up and i dont know if its right and it would not be easy but at least he would be safe in jail and off the streets! im not a parent yet but i feel lines need to be drawn and my kids will know the deal hes an adult and knows right from wrong, so its very tough but maybe that is an option? have her call the police, he will prolly be raw 4 a while but he will thank her later on

[jaided79]

I would say kick him out, pray for him, and never give up on your REAL son coming back.

[SummerOreosGirl]

Its a very hard decision to make, but in that circumstance, I would say put him out., have them put in a program somewhere, they will be better off for it. or jail. I've got teenagers, and as much as I love them, I would have to make them take the hard route.. YOU ARE DOING THE RIGHT THINGS. Sending you and your family love and prayers. Its a hard road. I've watched my sister go thru it with her 4 boys.. I wouldn't wish it on anyone.. pray, and keep your chin up.

[cookiefrezh]

im only 16 so i cant give feedback :( lol...but i love ur hair Liz love watching your videos u keep it 100! :)

[thfromthabay]

Ur hair is so shiny liz. Anyway my mother in law had a friend have this just happen 2 her & he went to town! I say the only thing that can help a serious addict is hitting rock bottom and going 2 long term rehab, maybe a few times. I would have done the same as ur friend because how would she know he would go that low. I say she should keep some leftovers in the fridge & a clean change of clothes by the door, don't let him in again but have the bare necessities he needs so he knows he is loved.