Why and How Single Christian Women Should Start Pursuing Men!

[godislove633]

You explain very well what you are NOT saying lol , God bless you.

[9nytuber]

BTW, just to say I'm a black woman -from Africa for that matter lol. So yes, not all black women blv that prov18:22 means women can't pursue or propose to men (Godlily). Matter of fact I find it's usually the black and/or African men that think it's wrong and look down on Godly woman as cheap for pursuing or proposing to them. So d issue isn't simply female's reluctance to pursue/propose but male arrogance when we do. Nice to see a black brother talking about and agreeing that it's not wrong tho

[9nytuber]

(4) serve God through being a man's helper, then it shouldn't hurt my pride if a guy turns me down since it's ultimately about God & not me, so after much prayer, consideration & 'sweat', I decided to ask. Hmm! Let's just say d dreaded happened. I was hurt but not cos he turned me down but bcos he did it in a VERY unkind manner 4 a xtian. Lesson learnt -it's no sin for females to pursue males (in a Godly manner) but not all xtian men have d Godly humility required to handle female interest.

[9nytuber]

(3) in decades, he'd never expressed a definite/serious interest in me & d only two things standing in my way of finding out if I stood a chance with him was my female pride -i wasn't sure if d guy was spiritually mature enough to handle female interest/proposal in a respectful, Godly way even if his response had to be a 'no' or if he'd simply make a mockery & mess of the whole thing & be proud of the female attention. Anyway, I decided that since d point of marriage is to glorify God i.e. to

[9nytuber]

(2) God & not just a marriage for d sake of having sex, kids & marital status. So, very recently after about 2 decades, I finally meet a xtian guy who is theologically sound & who I'm roughly on d same Bibllical wavelength with. We just 'saw eachother around' in Church for about 2yrs bf I left d Church, no romantic interest expressed either way. What stuck in my mind about this guy from d first day and even after I'd left was that he was the only biblically sound, single xtian man I'd known....

[9nytuber]

I totally share d same views on Prov18:22 and this video. I once pursued a guy cos of d circumstances sorrounding my decision to pursue which I'll explain. Personally as a xtian woman, d toughest challenge in meeting a mate isn't that there's a shortage of xtain men or a total lack of proposals/interest, but that there is just an immensely huge shortage of THEOLOGICALLY SOUND xtian men -which is my no 1 criteria for a marriage which would be a ministry to (contd)

[NuCreature8]

2 me.. The last time I told him I was goin out on a date, he came at me real sideways. Made me feel like God is supposed 2 ordain marriages and he shows the man who his wife is 1st, then he shows the woman.. Hmm yeah just a whole bunch a mess, I just told him 2 leave me alone finally !

[NuCreature8]

Haaaa omgoodness ! Tell me y this brother stayed hittin me with that cause I would tell him when I was goin out on date sometimes. Now this was a brother in Christ that I trusted & cared for, SOLELY as my brother in Christ. But he went and started lookin at me in another manner, he's like (21) years my senior btw. N he kept tryin 2 make me believe it was God tellin him we were meant 2 b together, it was God and y was I denyin God's will 4 my life, etc. But yeah he would always say that verse

[LesterBarrie]

It was only AFTER RUTH suggested “Spread therefore thy skirt.” that Boaz did all that was needed to redeemed the inheritance in chapter 4:1-10. DON’T TAKE ANYONE’S WORD FOR IT, INCLUDING MINE. READ THE BOOK OF RUTH FOR YOUR SELF. Ruth pursued Boaz to find grace, was able to find favor with him, and later with Naomi’s help devised a plan to get Boaz to do all that Ruth required. And God Blessed her.

[LesterBarrie]

RUTH “went after” BOAZ in Chapter 2:2, before he even knew who she was in Chapter 2:5. Boaz insisted that Ruth glean only in his field in chapter 2:8 only AFTER she went to his field to glean… after him to find grace.” in Chapter 2:2. It was AFTER Ruth went after Boaz in Chapter 2:2 and AFTER the premeditated plan of Naomi to Ruth in Chapter 3:1-4 that She climbed in his bed uninvited in chapter 3:8.

[cleansugar]

Are you single Lester? It could be just me but you seem like a wonderful man of God! :)

[franciscodudeful]

All I can say is that the number of single christian men, (like myself), is increasing because of many factors. Wether its controlling parents, or superficiality being induced, or conflicting cultures, or even sexism believe it or not. All these things are examples of what true christians are NOT supposed to be. Our culture is one and our nationality is one. It is GOD and it is HEAVEN on earth. And when these christians get confronted with this they either leave the church or "its complicated".

[ratio1bikes]

faith without works is dead' stop sitting in the house waiting on a man to show up. the only man coming to your house is the mail man, and he may be married. so get up out of the house,fix yourself up because he will find u.

[Godissogood2011]

Forming friendships with christian men is great, but I agree with allthingshair46. The CIRCUMSTANCES surrounding Ruth "asking" Boaz to marry her are important. According to the Old Law, marrying Ruth, the widow of his deceased brother was the nearest kin's duty (whom Ruth thought was Boaz) (Deut 25:5-10). Boaz still protected, provided for, pursued and in the end took Ruth as his wife (Ruth 4:13). Christian women today are not bound to that Old Law thanks to Christ (Gal 2:21)!!

[savedsinglegirlsguid]

Enjoyed watching your video...I'm actually exploring the concept of pursuing man I'm interested...so far so good! Stay Blessed...Dee.

[allthingshair46]

Ladies you may be tired of waiting on your Boaz, I know I get tired too. So when someone comes along with a message like this, its easy for you to jump on it. But please study the book or Ruth (don't just read it)and you will ll see that Ruth did not pursue Boaz. Find out why Ruth did what she did and why Naomi instructed her to do so. God bless you.

[allthingshair46]

lester, She didn’t pursue Boaz. Boaz pursued her.He noticed her, like what he saw and ordered his servants not 2 mess with her in any way.Boaz went out of his way 2 welcome her & make her comfortable but because he was 1.a much older man, & he assumed she would want a younger man & 2. there was a closer kinsman who had the right 2 marry her instead of him. So Naomi being the wish older woman (like most old women) told Ruth basically 2 let him know ur interested in marriage.that is not pursuing!

[nyenty87]

I like your idea of pursuing a friendship with a SPIRIT FILLED man not just any man, and you the woman have to be SPIRIT FILLED TOO. i like that cuz thats the kind of man i need, a radical christian crazy about God. Thanks soo much, God bless you Pastor Barrie.

[tan4christ]

I believe that a man that finds a wife is a good thing but a woman needs to be ready, prepared and honestly go for what she wants. While I do not chase a man I have set my sights on someone and I did everything in my godly power to entice the attention or affection of that man and I was married to him for 14 years before he passed away and I was His good thang.

[MrGIMMEMOOR]

I THINKK I SAW THIS DUDE ONA TV SHOW BEFORE

[VirtuousKween]

I think you're on point. That proverbs scripture is more about the importance of marriage not whether you should be the first one to say hi to a guy or flirt to show interest. That's why there are so many single, lonely women in the church. They just wait around and do nothing. Faith without works is dead... With all the single ladies in the church, how in the world is the guy supposed to know that you have an interest in him? Say hi...introduce yourself...things will flow from there!

[luequayantae]

To God be the glory!!!! My answer has arrived at my doorsteps!!! I've been waiting on my Boaz & my Boaz is actually awaiting me!!!! Tip-toeing on anticipation... :)

[BeautifulBlknLoc]

Wow that is good I'm always saying I'm waiting on my Boaz to find me so maybe this may help me friend a good friend...... Thanks!!!!

[LesterBarrie]

@ lasean223 Hit me on facebook. We can have a better discussion. Lester Barrie :-)

[franciscodudeful]

@LesterBarrie You know what Lester? Youre right on the spot. Ive tried some christian dating at church and with that a lot of barriers have risen up. Well if she doesnt like me then she doesnt like me and theres nothin I can do about it and my initial reaction when taht happens is to say ok and bye. But then theres also the girl who is in her 20s and she likes me and ehr parents get in the way and tell me politely to shove off. Continue.

[franciscodudeful]

@LesterBarrie Then theres the christian girl who acts all holy in front of me while shes just as superficially as any other girl and is. Then theres the new born christian girl who thinks Im too holy for her or also not good looking enough, (as it normally really comes down to) and just rejects me straight away. Now all these women are in their 20s and today Im a 28 year old male who never had a christian romantic relationship. What am I to do? Sometimes I think its about time women should look.

[lasean223]

This is funny I have been waiting and waiting for a good CHRISTIAN boyfriend or whatever and this waiting is not working for me so my question is how do you approach a guy? I'm not good in this department

[LesterBarrie]

@ lasean223 Hit me on facebook. We can have a better discussion. Lester Barrie :-)

[LesterBarrie]

@dede. As long as that is working for you. :-)

[dede1920able]

All I hav to say lester is the Bible says HE who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord... Last time I checked im a "her" not a "he" and Im not goin to set out to find a man HE will find me now thats the bible thats the book..

[anointed2wait]

@dede1920able This video makes many good points godly friendships aren't a bad idea but I must say I concur with your opinion you made me laugh when you said HE will find me now thats the bible thats the book reminds me of Jackie in Madea Family Reunion the play hahahhaha....yeah I havent had an issue with guys approaching me just someone who loves God is already a rarity so its like a matter of getting out more and going to places where godly men are! :)

[Deanoodle]

Women in Los Angeles in general should start pursing men. I am an L.A. native and love my city, but I only like non-LA women. When I go to Chicago or New Orleans, women walk right up to me with open body posture, head tilted and a smile that lasts a second longer to let you know that they like men because women naturally like men.

[KealaJacobs]

"with the evidence of self control" I like that...