And the friend found out because we were having lunch and she freaked out... Cuz I forgot they're there; and I love it how this girl who (she doesn't like me) but she hangs around my other friends, she saw them when I relapsed and started cutting again and that's how every one found out, an I love that she told me I had no reason, it makes me feel even more... Messed up in a way, so isk i think society makes it almost expected that we hide and I hate hiding... it makes you feel even more isolat
I forget who, one of them was one of my friends, I have cuts and scars on my left arm, and I didn't think the friend I have who doesn't know I cut would see because she was to my left, but she saw a bunch of fresh wounds and she found out that way, it was terrible. Also I'm always afraid of washing my hands in public because several times people have accidentally seen it and I always have fresh ones so they're noticeable and it's awkward, I try to keep that wrist facing downwards lately though.
i am to scared to show my scars, i might wear a bandage, but there is always this thing. If you are wearing a bandage(and if you don't give any excuse) they might think you're attention seeker, but what are you if you don't cover them. I am extremly scared of what people might think and that they might turn they back to me... Plus I made the descicion to never ever let my family see them, even if they know they're there, they don't need to see it... but that's just for the family. Love your yt<3
I perfer to just show my scars and what people think they think but when people have to go and bother me about it because they saw my scars then I get anoyed I mean to th point that I got in to a fight because a kid wouldnt stop bothering me about it
I think you should always have some people that you're okay to show them around, but if you're around new people or people you don't like then I personally don't. I mean, to me, they're private. My self injury is private, and so my scars are too. :)
@ZoeeSavX i actually prefer to show my scars when i'm around complete strangers, i don't care what they think..whereas when i'm around people who know/dislike/care about me..they're going to be judgmental, if that makes sense?
My scars aren't really noticable, but my fresh cuts are. When I'm around close friends and outside alone I show them, but say at school or around family I hide them. The main reason I hide them is because I don't want my parents to see, and people can judge so much. Like "ew she cuts, shes emo, don't talk to her" or something like that. And words hurt so much. I just hate getting judged. But I'm totally fine around my friends because they know all about why I do it, so they don't judge me.
... (continued again). Overall though, so far I have felt extremely liberated to be able to not hide any more. There is the argument that; would you expect a burns victim or someone with another disfigurement to cover up and be ashamed? No. I have actually found that it was me who was judging others for judging me. Maybe I am lucky, but I was surprised and relieved that people have been so incredibly accepting. If they do stare or question it, as you say, most do so out of curiosity or concern.
... (continued) I worry that if more people showed their scars, there may become competition in some? Not all, obviously, it sounds like this does not play a part with you. This is illogical I know, but I can't seem to help it. It is similar to never feeling ill enough to deserve treatment (which I have struggled to get for a long time). Not that my self harm would be any less without this pressure for it to be bad to be taken seriously, but it doesn't help.
Thankyou for this video. After 5 years of covering up using arm warmers and tubegrip, I now do not cover up at all, the only exception being when I am around young children whose parents I haven't checked with whether it is okay. The only other worry I have is, as you mentioned, triggering other self harmers. I have never come across anyone with worse scars than mine on show, however I think with me there is the element of 'I have not suffered enough' (I also suffer from an eating disorder), so
I personally think that if anyone has a problem with me showing my scars, it's their problem not mine. Some people are judgemental and ignorant- us self harmers can't help that... But yeah if people are gonna be stupid about it sod 'em :) I have them on my thighs so I don't have to worry about people seeing them.
I was going swimming and i thought it'd be fine because i'd just get straight in. I was standing in the shower with my bestfriend afterwards and i had a few fresh cuts on my hips and the rest of my scars on my thighs and a women was pointing to me and showing her daughter, I felt humiliated. People need to learn how to deal with things, its such a trigger when people feel the need to show me off.
i try to cover mine up but ones it was warm like really warm so i had them showing but people would point it out. i didnt really like it so i dont show them anymore.
i have scars on my legs and all over my left arm and i go away on a college trip in like 10 days to tenerife. im kinda scared about how people will react to my scars. you think people would stop asking questions if i just said 'yea, so what? its how i cope. you smoke, i cut. get over it' i have no idea how its going to go i cant wear my normal jumpers for walking around a volcano :/
@93emilywhite with a positive attitude and confidence you'll be fine! :)
i'm pretty sure most people won't even ask about it, and the people who ask either care about you and are only asking because they're concerned..or are just being ignorant! so don't mind those people, you could say that voldemort did it or that you had sex with a hedgehog :')
most people will back off when you say that you'd rather not talk about it, or just be honest and say well yeah..i did it!
@93emilywhite cont. you could always wear a bandage/tubey grip to cover your arm and makeup to hide the ones on your legs! :)
have a lovely time on your trip! don't worry so much, people will be concentrating on what's going on..probably feels like everyone is looking at you but i highly doubt that'll happen! :)
@Downtownpatrol thanks, im gunna try the ridiculos explinations, could have some fun with that. especially since the principle's coming on the trip!! haha. im sure that like you said, noone will really notice and all the panic will be for nothing :) x
Hey Laura...i start PE tomorrow and we HAVE to wear shorts or we lose points and all my scars on on my legs...i dont know what to do im terrified...i told my mum and all she said was to find a pair for shorts!!! i dont know what to do :/
I have my scars really high up on my legs. they're mixed with stretch marks, so its easy to hide. But i still feel really self-concious whenever it's summer, because here it gets up into the 90's during the summer, and its so hard to wear jeans through that. I have to thank you so much for these videos. I've felt so alone for a very long time, and this really helps me alot. I'm on the butterfly project right now, but I might have to stop soon because my mom isnt happy with all the sharpie ink...
Well all I wish is that people would know the story before they see the scars. I hate my scars and often try to hide them because people don't know the story and when they see scars most think its for attention. I throw up every morning and hope no one notices my long pants, bracelets, and long sleeves but I know at least one person does and that just makes me ill. I want to be strong but it's a never ending battle that won't go away and will always be noticeable. Thank you for the tips though.
listen here my 2 cent worth i am 32 i self harmed in a few ways when i was 16 to 21,i have huge long scars that cannot hide even when try,it is a thing that makes u feel bad abt yourself,but now i wear t-shirt and do not hide them,as found have helped others as they seen them and pulled me to aside to tell me why,and some to say it is marks of life battles,life scars,one day u will look bk and it will either make you,or break you,i am most happy with life and am not ashamed of my body,peace all
This girl 2 years ago was in my science class and she took out her compass for math and started scratching her skin and showing everyone. It didn't even break the skin it was just the white you get from scratching. She was telling like everyone in the freaking class and was showing them. I was like in my head: this is how you want to get attention? By fake cutting yourself? Wow. It makes people who actually have a problem llook bad.
its funny I have two self harm scarred places one on my inner left arm near the upper part of my elbow and the other on my pelvis place so my pants and even short shorts hides those, but on my left arm I let those show and tell ppl my dog bit me and they believe it because my scars aren't long and thin they r wide and short, so they kinda look like bite mark. But my right arm has scar of a scratch my dog really did and ppl thought I cut myself there
i hide mine ,but there was one time i was sat in my friend room boling hot she new about my self harm she just said to me to take off my jumper, and she woulnt look at my arms she promssied she woulndt but said that sheel will suport me though everything and she did . , . also i beemn in hospital lot for other health problems so loads of doctors have seen mine too , they were all nice about it the only bad thing one siad to me is whats are all thoughs . but the rest were really nice ,
I have only just started not wearing long sleeves and but at school i wear long sleeves coz i hate ppl staring at them. I get really upset and cry if ppl scar or someone says something about them that is mean like calling me emo :(
I've got scars all on my left arm..and when I first started cutting I never showed anyone...and then I had to go to Spain on holiday with my family, and I hated every second of it. I felt like EVERYONE was watching, and the worst thing was, it was boiling, I couldn't where jumpers (which I tried to do, because they were the only thing I had long-sleeved) which meant my sister and my parents saw all the scars for the first time :(. I rarely show my scars..
@Farrellfortoday you know? you should be so proud of yourself! when i'm on holiday with my family i wear long sleeves and honestly..it's the worst thing ever!
ruins the holiday that i'm so hot! i was in france this summer and wore shorts (that's where my oldest/whitest scars are) but i only lasted one day and the rest of the time wore jeans and long sleeves. good on you! :)
@Downtownpatrol Thanks, but it's hard to feel proud of showing your scars you know? I tried desperately to wear long-sleeved shirts and stuff, but my mum was so suspicious anyway. Plus, the few days before I went to Spain, it was really hot here in England, where I live, and I wondered round with a wet towel on my arm saying that I had it to 'cool me down'. It wasn't very subtle, but you can't help but try. The hardest thing was knowing that my Sister could see them..that was the hardest thing
Maybe the girl didn't care. Maybe she wanted to show people that just because she did that in the past, doesn't mean you should judge her. I used to be a cutter. I stopped after I did the butterfly project, it really helped, and I Don't Do it Anymore. I have respect for that girl.
Why do you discriminate against attention seekers? Since when cutting oneself started being about making name for other cutters. OFC it is realy annoying to be falsely accused of being attention seekers, but I could only imagine how desperate person should be to go through torture of cutting oneself just to get attention.
@54n141n3n the people i am referring to as seeking attention are kids that are in a group of friends who all self harm, who dress emo, who talk about it and compare cuts. as in attention whores.
cutting for attention is serious, i know this all ready.
people who have no other means of communicating and go to such a desperate measure to get some sort or love and attention.
but people who cut to be part of a 'emo' trend and to get some sort of status piss me off.
I get made fun of when people see my scars. They say I do it for attention and call me gay. Thankyew so much for posting your videos on YouTube, they've really helped me with everything. Oh and your hair is awesome:3
My school uniform forces me to wear short sleeved tops so every one can see my scars. I do not know what stupidity coursed me to do it there but I guess I didn't think at the times. I hate how everyone goggles at me and calls me emo all the time because of what I did in the past.
I go out in short sleeves when I want I'm ok in myself to have my scars on show, I used to be really self consious years ago but now I accept having them and don't mind wearing short sleeves if I wish, what I do still struggle with is cuts, while my cuts are healing I keep my arms covered when I'm around others.
@scottisherenow When people question my scars, my usual response is 'What do yu think?' or 'Use your imagination' but I try to say it in a really soft way as to not sound like i'm snapping back at them.
Can I just say, first off, I love your videos, they help so much and I love hearing that you can talk freely about this but I'm kinda like th egirl from your old school, like, I always wear my sleeves rolled up even on cold days and that's not cuz I want to show people my scars but I just find it more comfortable with my sleeves rolled up even on cold days :// but yeah...I feel like i'm an attention seeker now :// I promise I'm not :// <33
People rarely say anything to me when I wear short sleeves. They just look uncomfortable and keep their distance. The worst time was when I was pregnant. I was judged an AWFUL lot more for having scars then. People think that those who self harm are insane and a threat to others. I have never physically harmed another person in my life.
I would wear short sleeves more often... But the first day I tried to, I was sent to guidance. I'm scared to be sent up there again... What should I do?
my urm ex best mate did it to make everyone give her the MOST of there time trying to help her or wutever but she even rolled her skirt up and all that crap and in the end all 20 of us just stopped talking to her coz we just cba with all her crap no more coz her home life was fine i staid there everynight for 2 weeks and she was cutting everynight coz there was always blood and new tissue so yeh :/
I don't want to hide my scars, they're a part of me but as i am still struggling sometimes i don't want people to worry and i don't know what to answer when people ask.. Not a lot of people know I have selfharmed and still do, and I feel a bit uncomfortable to tell people "hi, i say i'm fine but i have injured myself since i was nine". I am afraid of their judgments, seeing them in the eyes of people I love... What to answer when people, friends, family, relatives, school mates, teachers ask?
Personally I dont want my scars gone their a reminder for me that im doing bettter and its getting better. My stepmom told me she was going to buy me something to put on my scars and i told her no. Granted they get questions and looks but its worth it to tell a story to someone who may be struggling as well. Each of my scars tell a story. Yea thats it. Ohh and i love your hair color
I can't even go a day without wearing a sweeter to school anymore. Everyone points and comments and it hurts my feelings. But I care about what people say and feel more then me to I cover them up...
You help me think about all the things that I couldn't ever ask people about. It's extremely brave of you to post a video of your opinions and views on things, especially because no one else has the guts to say what you said. I was always afraid of showing my skin before, and what would make it worse were my friends. Everytime I would show my arms they'd comment on my scars and make me self concious about them, but I'm not afraid, ashamed maybe, but no longer afraid.
hmmm i feel so relieved to know im not the only one... to cover mine up i wear gause (cuz i LUV short sleeves) and people asked me about them and it was terrible... and i am so glad you have the nerve to put these vids out there. :)
I'd only cut in the winter like I'd begin in November and end towars mid Febuary --- do it every year but I keep extending it like I no begin to do it almost whenever. I screwed up this last time because I did it a week early and I had bandages and stuff on it and lemme say --- people noticed and approached me about it. SIGH
i feel like people judge you because of scars, like i've just started a new school and since in sixth form i can wear anything and its quite hot in my school i cant always wear coats.. so i feel so uncomfortable because i feel like everyone is judging and staring.. and when people ask i havnt got a clue what to say to them.. like i cant show my family my scars but my mams seen them and she told me straight what she thoguht of them... i think its wrong that people judge because of your passed!
ur scar video helped me so much realy did all your video's did , but i have a few hardly noticble cuts on my ankle i watched ur video's and though do i really wanna go though this do i want those scars and i realized id rather not have the burden of scars and being self conscience all the time. and for the 3 weeks i did cut i wore high socks all the time i found a better way to deal with my problems and realized i dont want to get more depresed but thank you for helping me and for everything <3
Im 13 and i self harm, i have been clean for 5 months now, people say that im attention seeking but im really not. I have my reason's, I dont give a shit what people say. I show my scars, people give me horrid looks but FUCK THEM... they dont know my past. I have only just started showing them in public like 2 months ago, im still worried about it now, but my confidence is getting better. I was one of the few lucky ones that self harm... i stopped before i got addicted :)
I personally don't think SI scars should be seen the same way as any other scars. I don't think someone should have to hide their scars just because they were caused by SI anymore than someone who had scars from being in a car wreck or something.
It only makes me feel uncomfortable when people ask what happened to my arm xD. Besides that I forget I have them, people are the ones that make you self conscious about it
To be perfectly honest, I started cutting because I wanted the attention. I just wanted people to know that there was something wrong with me. I've never regretted actually cutting/burning, but I hate that I would just 'show them off'. I guess I was only 10/11 at the time but still... Most of my scars are on the underside of my arms or on my legs so I can usually hide them, but I always wear long sleeves if I have new cuts or burns because they're so much more noticable.
i try to hide them normally from people like my mom, dad, and siblings. but around my friends i don't because they know why they are there and they know that i have and do self-harm. mine aren't very noticeable. i have some on my wrists and hands but you have to look close and know what you are looking for to find them. my bad scars are high up on my left thigh like almost my butt, so in shorts they are mainly hidden except when i sit and sometimes my shirts ride up a bit....
@madamoisellegris i meant to say shorts not shirts. but also when i'm wearing a bathing suit they are noticeable and i only dislike them when i'm with my family.
uhm... telling people, some times i want to just like tell everyone i cut, so they know, not because i want them to baby me, or sympathize , or to get attention but because i want to show how anyone can cut, even me ( not to make me sound all high and might, like godly or anything, but people don't see me to be that "type" of person. )
I tried to hide them once but everyone knew something was up because i didnt have anything but some band aids and people didnt notice them untill i tried covering them up, but I decided to tell them that they were from my neighbors dog and the seemed to beleive it. I dont really like lying, but i dont want them to know. Everyone at my school is very wealthy, with perfect families, friends, and bright futures. I feel so alone, and at times ive had to skip classes to hide somewhere.
@Downtownpatrol Oh are you from New Castle? I'm American but my husband is from New Castle England and he talks a lot like you do. He's a geordie, I think they are called.
I still self harm and it seems as if every time I do it it gets deeper and deeper and my skin is starting to split apart like I need stitches. And I hide some of them with braceletts and the rest I don't really care about. I let ppl see it if it's just like random ppl I see at the store. I don't really care but I'm not seeking attention. I live in az and it's extremely hot here and I will not wear long sleeves lol. But I am afraid of going to my new school in less then a week.
My cuts are my story, making me cover them up is like telling a mother not to wear a bikini because she has stretchmarks or telling an old person to cover up their wrinkles. At the end of the day, every marking and every part of our bodies is our story and our lives. Its who we are. If people dont like my skin then they arent gunna like my past. ♥
@AwayWithTheFairies95 firstly i by accidentally voted your comment down when i was trying to vote it up, but i really like your comment. i think it's very logical and beautiful the way you put it, i wish more people could see it that way.
i still get ashamed of them, from time to time, but i've told my parents, and it's a lot easier now. it's still sort of awkward, with my dad, and brother in law. but im making it through. its nice to know i'm not alone. im in no way saying its good to cut, or anything, i'm just glad i'm not alone in this struggle. <3
jumping around outside with a t-shirt on and not caring at all, while ppl are around, is the best feeling in the world to me. Always get scared ofc and it's not easy. But me accepting myself is more important to me, than the judging from others. But gotta say, it's a lot easier when it's ppl I don't know... - thanks for sharing though :))
@LightIsABiatch i feel the same, it's a lot easier around strangers! i don't show my scars anymore though but i totally get where you're coming from :)
I haven't seen your other video yet but even so, shocking and disturbing....how could they judge like that? I am glad they have retracted their decision and perhaps...i wonder if even you tube moderators have learnt from this too?
I completely agree with being yourself, doing what you like, when you like, without being restricted with scars.
I have hundreds, i don't cover them up.
I shouldn't be ashamed, and neither should anyone else with SI scars either :)
A few years ago I used to wear t-shirts in public occasionally, then one day (three years ago actually) I was at a train station (wearing a shirt) with my boyfriend and a woman in her forties pointed at me, nudged the guy she was with and said something and laughed, pointing at my arm. She saw me looking and raised her eyebrows in disgust. Three years later and I haven't worn a t-shirt since. I wish she could know how much effect her judgemental actions have had on my confidence, and my life.
@xILoveTheQuinTwinsx aww no :( i still don't understand why people are bitchy like that, you would've thought that a woman of that age would be more mature and not so pathetic. i'm sorry that happened to you, you were really brave to wear short sleeves in the first place! and i hope that if that's what you want then you'll be able to find the courage again, you don't deserve to have your confidence knocked by some random stuck up snobby lady!!!! x
@Bloodygeek11 yes, because the only way they are going to start understanding is if youtalk to them about it and explain :) i think you should if you feel ready...inbox me? xx
I also had a similar experience to you. On a school trip to Canada I had to wear short sleeves. I still had very red scars and I was utterly humiliated. People commented and were rude but I coped. I won't show anything that's red or new but old ones I'm ok with. And I noticed on another post that you said you lived in Newcastle I'm currently up here studying for a masters.
Wow, this video is really moving. I've SI'd for a long time (since I was 6 years old) and whilst I'm still embarrassed by my scars I am used to them. They've faded enough to not be noticeable. I will now wear short sleeves. It's been 5 years since I did anything on my arms so I am now comfortable with them. Most people don't notice. However I won't wear short sleeves to interviews or infront of my supervisor (who is a psychiatrist)
...hide the scars. I have had to speak to my MD and assistant MD, as I do not feel that I can go on stage with them on show. The assistant MD suggested that I wear like 3 pairs of skin colour tights on top of each other, but the MD just talked about how they show that I'm strong. That's all very well but the audience might not think that!
Last summer was hell because I spent the entire time in hoodies to hide mine. I'm pale skinned so mine take ages to fade, and stay red-scars rather than white-scars for the longest time. The ones on my legs take the longest, but my arms are kind of ok now and I try not to show them at work, but am more relaxed about them the rest of the time now. I'm meant to be singing in a concert on saturday, and I just found out that the dress code is bare legs or skin colour tights, neither of which...
This was very brave of you. I just recently stopped, and told my mom about it. I'm rather lucky, and odd at the same time. I scarred up my foot, not my arms, not my legs, my foot. It's embarrassing to walk anywhere barefoot, but I'm getting better. I think you're getting better, because it you weren't, you wouldn't be able to post a video about it. By the way, you're gorgeous. Great video.
hiya i kinda had the same experience as you with the airport. i was going to Iganga to do charity work for 10 days with one of my teachers and her sister who is a nurse and we got to the beepy macheines and i had to take of my jacket and i only had short sleeves on so they took me to the side and my teacher still had to go through and see could see all of the scars on my arm and so did the nurse. it was so embarrasing as i see the teacher everyday and the nurse often deals with SH.thats my story
I'd love just to be able to show my scars, since it's gettng hotter and everything but i'm too scared haha most of my friends dont know so its even harder, im ok with showing my best friend the scars, but not my other friend that knows or my boyfriend :L
@GraeyRibbon13CKS only have my mam, and yeah she knows :) i had therapy for a while so after school told her, once i needed stitches so i'm kind of greatful she didn't find out that time:P xx
That's good...if my mom knew she would...lol I don't even want to imagine but my dads completely oblivious though...I think my mom does know something but she just isn't going to do anything about it until...I guess she's sure that I'm a bona fide weirdo......-.-
heyy well i just wanted to say that your videos are really helpful :) i started self harming last year but stopped early with just a few scars but sadly i started again last week nd now i have over 30 :| oh nd how should we tell our parents if we chose to ?
I have been cutting on and off for 5 years because of very painful family issues in the past. I'm embarrassed of my scars and all of them are on my legs. When people notice and ask me what they are from i usually turn red and try to come up with an excuse but no one believes it was the cat or a thorn bush. I wish people weren't so judgmental or freaked out about it. Thank you for posting these videos <3 As i got older i found better ways to cope now, but it's still a struggle.
yeah i hide my scars and what ever but you no what im bloody well sick of it, im sick of all of it, why do we have to go to extreme measures to get fricken help, cause if i never started cuttin and all tht crap id be probs be worse, and id never get help, i still dont even no if i can be fucking helped.. like really i seriously am so fed up, no 1 has ever saw, its too hard, its shameful.. i really wish i never started what was i thinking ): please people never start ok its terrible and scary :/
I've been working for a few years now and have had a pretty easy time with it. I think the older you get, the less chance you'll have that people will wonder if your scars are intentional. Granted, I work with people mostly older than me and there may be some generational ignorance on S. I., but for all people know I'm just clumsy and used the wrong end of a rake :) If people look funny at you, just smile back and make them wonder what you're up to :)
I personaly am kind of scared to show my scars. They´re not big scars, but they´re many white/pink lines across my harms and I wouldn´t know how to explain them....
i thinks its up to us if we show our scars or not ? i personally choose not to show mine simply because i know people will stare at them. but i think its our own choice if we show them.
In phse we watched this stupid rap that gothic girls were doing and it gave the wrong impression. They looked like vampires and were cutting themselves and everyone was laughing at it even the teacher I was soo annoyed and upset by it!! I've been cutting for 4 years and I dont feel scared to show scars due to a girl that I thought u could trust told everyone! :(
this is what my what my stupid twatty teacher said todayin pshe! hada lesson on it today hated it! he says what do u think peopl eowuld say if i had cuts on my arm? they say attention seeking n hes agrees n all i so wanted to scream at him! IDIOT!
No we shouldn't fuckin cover up when people ask me (not many) I just telling them that they are old ones and if they think I am looking to get attention then they are just untrusting pricks. (this vidio pissed me off) :/
I sort of had the same problem at my school here in the states that you had in the airport. The security guards scanned us in the classrooms with the metal detector 'wands' and i had new cuts and scars all over my arms and wrists. I was forced to remove my jacket (which had no metal on it) and humiliate myself and draw unwanted attention and digusted looks and ridicule. I asked to be scanned privately or with my jacket on and even tried to cover my arm with my other hand but theywere complete j
I agree with you about the fact that people should be able to show their scars. But you are also right that we all just need to make sure that we are doing it for the right reasons!
A lot of people who self harm, think too much about other people and not enough about them self. If ur ready for it, stop covering ur scars, let others adapt to you, instead of the other way around. If they dont want/cant adapt its their problem.
i know that i cannot live the rest of my life always hiding my scars and i dont want to. i would never want to make someone else uncomfortable by showing them, that would not be my intention. if they are scars then that means that they happened in the past and that it could be time to move on. if its hot outside then im going to wear shorts and a t shirt. it makes me a little uncomfortable at first to have them showing but someday i know that i will be comfortable with it.
Oh btw! On the subject of the video, some people would say self harm is selfish, so to the ones that do, isn't showing them in public the same? Some people may feel very awkward or uncomfortable sitting next to someone on a train or bus if they have scars all over there arms, also if someone is eating in public it may put them off there food :P
Where are your videos before 'too pretty to cut'? your the only person helping me at the moment and i have seen all you videos up to that?
SouthUKTWFanmily 5 days ago
@SouthUKTWFanmily there are no more videos before that, sorry x
Downtownpatrol 5 days ago
sometimes i think why should i cover them? it's part of me and they should not care and judge them
but in other hand, i end up covering up them...
canalcandee 5 days ago
i think u should because it is u i show mine bc it is me tht is how i am
brezzybitch109 6 days ago
i used to, but get too many ? and judgments...plus i work in healthcare field...always have to hide them there.
goldengodess2249 6 days ago
And the friend found out because we were having lunch and she freaked out... Cuz I forgot they're there; and I love it how this girl who (she doesn't like me) but she hangs around my other friends, she saw them when I relapsed and started cutting again and that's how every one found out, an I love that she told me I had no reason, it makes me feel even more... Messed up in a way, so isk i think society makes it almost expected that we hide and I hate hiding... it makes you feel even more isolat
skittlezgorawrxx4 1 week ago
I forget who, one of them was one of my friends, I have cuts and scars on my left arm, and I didn't think the friend I have who doesn't know I cut would see because she was to my left, but she saw a bunch of fresh wounds and she found out that way, it was terrible. Also I'm always afraid of washing my hands in public because several times people have accidentally seen it and I always have fresh ones so they're noticeable and it's awkward, I try to keep that wrist facing downwards lately though.
skittlezgorawrxx4 1 week ago
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LillianeRose132 1 week ago in playlist Uploaded videos
i am to scared to show my scars, i might wear a bandage, but there is always this thing. If you are wearing a bandage(and if you don't give any excuse) they might think you're attention seeker, but what are you if you don't cover them. I am extremly scared of what people might think and that they might turn they back to me... Plus I made the descicion to never ever let my family see them, even if they know they're there, they don't need to see it... but that's just for the family. Love your yt<3
LillianeRose132 1 week ago in playlist Uploaded videos
I perfer to just show my scars and what people think they think but when people have to go and bother me about it because they saw my scars then I get anoyed I mean to th point that I got in to a fight because a kid wouldnt stop bothering me about it
beastyboy706 1 week ago
I think you should always have some people that you're okay to show them around, but if you're around new people or people you don't like then I personally don't. I mean, to me, they're private. My self injury is private, and so my scars are too. :)
ZoeeSavX 2 weeks ago
@ZoeeSavX i actually prefer to show my scars when i'm around complete strangers, i don't care what they think..whereas when i'm around people who know/dislike/care about me..they're going to be judgmental, if that makes sense?
Downtownpatrol 2 weeks ago
Great Video <3 and i agree with what you are saying
DottedShoe 3 weeks ago
i love your videos, and our hair is the same color (:
lisamichelle12345 3 weeks ago
@lisamichelle12345 thanks :) and woo :D you do know my hair isn't like this anymore though?
Downtownpatrol 3 weeks ago
@Downtownpatrol aweh ): lols. i jus dyed my hair this color like 3 weeks ago .
lisamichelle12345 2 weeks ago
read that down there
efegotothell 3 weeks ago
inoveryourhead.ne t/the-complete-guide-to-not-giving-a-fuck/
efegotothell 3 weeks ago
My scars aren't really noticable, but my fresh cuts are. When I'm around close friends and outside alone I show them, but say at school or around family I hide them. The main reason I hide them is because I don't want my parents to see, and people can judge so much. Like "ew she cuts, shes emo, don't talk to her" or something like that. And words hurt so much. I just hate getting judged. But I'm totally fine around my friends because they know all about why I do it, so they don't judge me.
DragonsGoRawr2 3 weeks ago
... (continued again). Overall though, so far I have felt extremely liberated to be able to not hide any more. There is the argument that; would you expect a burns victim or someone with another disfigurement to cover up and be ashamed? No. I have actually found that it was me who was judging others for judging me. Maybe I am lucky, but I was surprised and relieved that people have been so incredibly accepting. If they do stare or question it, as you say, most do so out of curiosity or concern.
oceanicbream 3 weeks ago in playlist More videos from Downtownpatrol
... (continued) I worry that if more people showed their scars, there may become competition in some? Not all, obviously, it sounds like this does not play a part with you. This is illogical I know, but I can't seem to help it. It is similar to never feeling ill enough to deserve treatment (which I have struggled to get for a long time). Not that my self harm would be any less without this pressure for it to be bad to be taken seriously, but it doesn't help.
oceanicbream 3 weeks ago in playlist More videos from Downtownpatrol
Thankyou for this video. After 5 years of covering up using arm warmers and tubegrip, I now do not cover up at all, the only exception being when I am around young children whose parents I haven't checked with whether it is okay. The only other worry I have is, as you mentioned, triggering other self harmers. I have never come across anyone with worse scars than mine on show, however I think with me there is the element of 'I have not suffered enough' (I also suffer from an eating disorder), so
oceanicbream 3 weeks ago in playlist More videos from Downtownpatrol
Hey. It's so brave of you to make these videos. :) They are so helpful. You actually inspired me to make a youtube video too.
Thanx
creativewriter1000 1 month ago
I personally think that if anyone has a problem with me showing my scars, it's their problem not mine. Some people are judgemental and ignorant- us self harmers can't help that... But yeah if people are gonna be stupid about it sod 'em :) I have them on my thighs so I don't have to worry about people seeing them.
poemninethousand 1 month ago
I was going swimming and i thought it'd be fine because i'd just get straight in. I was standing in the shower with my bestfriend afterwards and i had a few fresh cuts on my hips and the rest of my scars on my thighs and a women was pointing to me and showing her daughter, I felt humiliated. People need to learn how to deal with things, its such a trigger when people feel the need to show me off.
deadturtle200 1 month ago
i try to cover mine up but ones it was warm like really warm so i had them showing but people would point it out. i didnt really like it so i dont show them anymore.
ForeverAlone369 1 month ago
i made a youtube video because of you (: thank you so much :D
DottedShoe 1 month ago
your amazing, i wish i met somone like you..
xXMYC00LXx 1 month ago
@xXMYC00LXx aw, thankyou :')
Downtownpatrol 1 month ago
i have scars on my legs and all over my left arm and i go away on a college trip in like 10 days to tenerife. im kinda scared about how people will react to my scars. you think people would stop asking questions if i just said 'yea, so what? its how i cope. you smoke, i cut. get over it' i have no idea how its going to go i cant wear my normal jumpers for walking around a volcano :/
93emilywhite 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos
@93emilywhite with a positive attitude and confidence you'll be fine! :)
i'm pretty sure most people won't even ask about it, and the people who ask either care about you and are only asking because they're concerned..or are just being ignorant! so don't mind those people, you could say that voldemort did it or that you had sex with a hedgehog :')
most people will back off when you say that you'd rather not talk about it, or just be honest and say well yeah..i did it!
Downtownpatrol 1 month ago
@93emilywhite cont. you could always wear a bandage/tubey grip to cover your arm and makeup to hide the ones on your legs! :)
have a lovely time on your trip! don't worry so much, people will be concentrating on what's going on..probably feels like everyone is looking at you but i highly doubt that'll happen! :)
Downtownpatrol 1 month ago
@Downtownpatrol thanks, im gunna try the ridiculos explinations, could have some fun with that. especially since the principle's coming on the trip!! haha. im sure that like you said, noone will really notice and all the panic will be for nothing :) x
93emilywhite 1 month ago
Hey Laura...i start PE tomorrow and we HAVE to wear shorts or we lose points and all my scars on on my legs...i dont know what to do im terrified...i told my mum and all she said was to find a pair for shorts!!! i dont know what to do :/
morganjamison1 1 month ago
@morganjamison1 either show your scars and don't care or lose points..which is more important to you?
Downtownpatrol 1 month ago
I have my scars really high up on my legs. they're mixed with stretch marks, so its easy to hide. But i still feel really self-concious whenever it's summer, because here it gets up into the 90's during the summer, and its so hard to wear jeans through that. I have to thank you so much for these videos. I've felt so alone for a very long time, and this really helps me alot. I'm on the butterfly project right now, but I might have to stop soon because my mom isnt happy with all the sharpie ink...
BarebackPixi 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos
i have a scar on my penis
lPurpleBMX 1 month ago
Well all I wish is that people would know the story before they see the scars. I hate my scars and often try to hide them because people don't know the story and when they see scars most think its for attention. I throw up every morning and hope no one notices my long pants, bracelets, and long sleeves but I know at least one person does and that just makes me ill. I want to be strong but it's a never ending battle that won't go away and will always be noticeable. Thank you for the tips though.
SuperDaisy121 1 month ago
listen here my 2 cent worth i am 32 i self harmed in a few ways when i was 16 to 21,i have huge long scars that cannot hide even when try,it is a thing that makes u feel bad abt yourself,but now i wear t-shirt and do not hide them,as found have helped others as they seen them and pulled me to aside to tell me why,and some to say it is marks of life battles,life scars,one day u will look bk and it will either make you,or break you,i am most happy with life and am not ashamed of my body,peace all
manxdude1 1 month ago
This girl 2 years ago was in my science class and she took out her compass for math and started scratching her skin and showing everyone. It didn't even break the skin it was just the white you get from scratching. She was telling like everyone in the freaking class and was showing them. I was like in my head: this is how you want to get attention? By fake cutting yourself? Wow. It makes people who actually have a problem llook bad.
XpikachuGirl 1 month ago
its funny I have two self harm scarred places one on my inner left arm near the upper part of my elbow and the other on my pelvis place so my pants and even short shorts hides those, but on my left arm I let those show and tell ppl my dog bit me and they believe it because my scars aren't long and thin they r wide and short, so they kinda look like bite mark. But my right arm has scar of a scratch my dog really did and ppl thought I cut myself there
Crazypencilkiller 1 month ago
@000steffen000 i'm not at all proud of my scars, i'm very ashamed and ALWAYS cover them up.
wow, i don't know where you got that from but you were very quick to judge.
and so what if i did want to show my scars?
why should i have to cover up for the sake of people like you?
Downtownpatrol 1 month ago 18
your brave for showing your scars :) love to laura <3
supersoccerstar08 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos
i hide mine ,but there was one time i was sat in my friend room boling hot she new about my self harm she just said to me to take off my jumper, and she woulnt look at my arms she promssied she woulndt but said that sheel will suport me though everything and she did . , . also i beemn in hospital lot for other health problems so loads of doctors have seen mine too , they were all nice about it the only bad thing one siad to me is whats are all thoughs . but the rest were really nice ,
kirstyrand1 1 month ago
I have only just started not wearing long sleeves and but at school i wear long sleeves coz i hate ppl staring at them. I get really upset and cry if ppl scar or someone says something about them that is mean like calling me emo :(
tammyselfharmer 2 months ago
I wore short sleves to school once and now I have 1 friend It sucks
thk52 2 months ago
I've got scars all on my left arm..and when I first started cutting I never showed anyone...and then I had to go to Spain on holiday with my family, and I hated every second of it. I felt like EVERYONE was watching, and the worst thing was, it was boiling, I couldn't where jumpers (which I tried to do, because they were the only thing I had long-sleeved) which meant my sister and my parents saw all the scars for the first time :(. I rarely show my scars..
Farrellfortoday 2 months ago
@Farrellfortoday you know? you should be so proud of yourself! when i'm on holiday with my family i wear long sleeves and honestly..it's the worst thing ever!
ruins the holiday that i'm so hot! i was in france this summer and wore shorts (that's where my oldest/whitest scars are) but i only lasted one day and the rest of the time wore jeans and long sleeves. good on you! :)
Downtownpatrol 2 months ago
@Downtownpatrol Thanks, but it's hard to feel proud of showing your scars you know? I tried desperately to wear long-sleeved shirts and stuff, but my mum was so suspicious anyway. Plus, the few days before I went to Spain, it was really hot here in England, where I live, and I wondered round with a wet towel on my arm saying that I had it to 'cool me down'. It wasn't very subtle, but you can't help but try. The hardest thing was knowing that my Sister could see them..that was the hardest thing
Farrellfortoday 2 months ago
@Downtownpatrol Proud of having scars and showing them? I don´t want to live on this planet anymore..
000steffen000 1 month ago
Maybe the girl didn't care. Maybe she wanted to show people that just because she did that in the past, doesn't mean you should judge her. I used to be a cutter. I stopped after I did the butterfly project, it really helped, and I Don't Do it Anymore. I have respect for that girl.
FalcoFrenzy 2 months ago
@FalcoFrenzy it's weird reading comments on my youtube about 'her' o.o
but merry christmas! i take it i'm not the only one on youtube on christmas day? :')
merry christmas!!
Downtownpatrol 2 months ago
@earthlingmeow Yeah i am, and Newcastle is all one word! :)
Downtownpatrol 2 months ago
Why do you discriminate against attention seekers? Since when cutting oneself started being about making name for other cutters. OFC it is realy annoying to be falsely accused of being attention seekers, but I could only imagine how desperate person should be to go through torture of cutting oneself just to get attention.
54n141n3n 2 months ago
@54n141n3n the people i am referring to as seeking attention are kids that are in a group of friends who all self harm, who dress emo, who talk about it and compare cuts. as in attention whores.
cutting for attention is serious, i know this all ready.
people who have no other means of communicating and go to such a desperate measure to get some sort or love and attention.
but people who cut to be part of a 'emo' trend and to get some sort of status piss me off.
Downtownpatrol 2 months ago
@Downtownpatrol Thank you for clarifying your point.
54n141n3n 2 months ago
i had my couneral tell me im a freak and i said yes i am thanks and we talked and she was so understanding<3
LoySisRoo 2 months ago
I get made fun of when people see my scars. They say I do it for attention and call me gay. Thankyew so much for posting your videos on YouTube, they've really helped me with everything. Oh and your hair is awesome:3
locooljbrett 2 months ago
My school uniform forces me to wear short sleeved tops so every one can see my scars. I do not know what stupidity coursed me to do it there but I guess I didn't think at the times. I hate how everyone goggles at me and calls me emo all the time because of what I did in the past.
MrAngus6767 2 months ago
I go out in short sleeves when I want I'm ok in myself to have my scars on show, I used to be really self consious years ago but now I accept having them and don't mind wearing short sleeves if I wish, what I do still struggle with is cuts, while my cuts are healing I keep my arms covered when I'm around others.
scottisherenow 2 months ago
@scottisherenow When people question my scars, my usual response is 'What do yu think?' or 'Use your imagination' but I try to say it in a really soft way as to not sound like i'm snapping back at them.
scottisherenow 2 months ago
Can I just say, first off, I love your videos, they help so much and I love hearing that you can talk freely about this but I'm kinda like th egirl from your old school, like, I always wear my sleeves rolled up even on cold days and that's not cuz I want to show people my scars but I just find it more comfortable with my sleeves rolled up even on cold days :// but yeah...I feel like i'm an attention seeker now :// I promise I'm not :// <33
TwilightIsSoCoolxx 3 months ago
People rarely say anything to me when I wear short sleeves. They just look uncomfortable and keep their distance. The worst time was when I was pregnant. I was judged an AWFUL lot more for having scars then. People think that those who self harm are insane and a threat to others. I have never physically harmed another person in my life.
RainyDayGirlx 3 months ago
I would wear short sleeves more often... But the first day I tried to, I was sent to guidance. I'm scared to be sent up there again... What should I do?
KaylinLovesU 3 months ago
my urm ex best mate did it to make everyone give her the MOST of there time trying to help her or wutever but she even rolled her skirt up and all that crap and in the end all 20 of us just stopped talking to her coz we just cba with all her crap no more coz her home life was fine i staid there everynight for 2 weeks and she was cutting everynight coz there was always blood and new tissue so yeh :/
BAGELFISHYY 3 months ago in playlist More videos from Downtownpatrol
I love downtownpatrol!!! I could spend hors watching this. You should do a video about the butterfly on wrist project.
Makethemoon 3 months ago
@Makethemoon i all ready have!! :)
Downtownpatrol 3 months ago
I don't want to hide my scars, they're a part of me but as i am still struggling sometimes i don't want people to worry and i don't know what to answer when people ask.. Not a lot of people know I have selfharmed and still do, and I feel a bit uncomfortable to tell people "hi, i say i'm fine but i have injured myself since i was nine". I am afraid of their judgments, seeing them in the eyes of people I love... What to answer when people, friends, family, relatives, school mates, teachers ask?
MsMojski 3 months ago
@MsMojski sarcasm does the trick with that,say a tiger did it, that you were attacked by a vampire :')
or simply say that you don't want to talk about it. or that it's a log story or it's personal, people are most likely to back off and leave you alone
Downtownpatrol 3 months ago
Personally I dont want my scars gone their a reminder for me that im doing bettter and its getting better. My stepmom told me she was going to buy me something to put on my scars and i told her no. Granted they get questions and looks but its worth it to tell a story to someone who may be struggling as well. Each of my scars tell a story. Yea thats it. Ohh and i love your hair color
Lyssiegohsrawrrrr 3 months ago
@robofreak21 keep your mouth shut unless you have something nice to say.
Downtownpatrol 3 months ago
@Downtownpatrol wtf like what do u mean i love ur vidz did i say something wrong i just came here bcuz eh i have issues
robofreak21 3 months ago
@robofreak21 you asked me why my video has no dislikes..
Downtownpatrol 3 months ago
This has been flagged as spam show
@Downtownpatrol wtf like what do u mean i love ur vidz did i say something wrong i just came here bcuz eh i have issues
robofreak21 3 months ago
I can't even go a day without wearing a sweeter to school anymore. Everyone points and comments and it hurts my feelings. But I care about what people say and feel more then me to I cover them up...
MyWashcloth 3 months ago
are you schizophrenic? becase you keep saying "we" and "us"...
XxzoezebraxX 3 months ago
@XxzoezebraxX and of course i am referring to "we"...should WE hide our scars. we = self harmers.
and i say 'iz' not 'us' if you listen. as in 'me'...
Downtownpatrol 3 months ago
@Downtownpatrol ooooohhhh... sorry fer the assumption then!:3 "iz" didnt mean to offend you or anything(;
XxzoezebraxX 2 months ago
omg!! i soooo agree wiff you.
emoteddy3090 3 months ago
You help me think about all the things that I couldn't ever ask people about. It's extremely brave of you to post a video of your opinions and views on things, especially because no one else has the guts to say what you said. I was always afraid of showing my skin before, and what would make it worse were my friends. Everytime I would show my arms they'd comment on my scars and make me self concious about them, but I'm not afraid, ashamed maybe, but no longer afraid.
13sandmaster 3 months ago
you remind nme of my best friend <3
RandomCatLover100 3 months ago
okay but if you did pm me okay:) and its okay no one should be upset!!Xx
batwings112009 3 months ago
how have you been doing recently??xx
batwings112009 3 months ago
@batwings112009 okay self harm wise thanks
Downtownpatrol 3 months ago
hmmm i feel so relieved to know im not the only one... to cover mine up i wear gause (cuz i LUV short sleeves) and people asked me about them and it was terrible... and i am so glad you have the nerve to put these vids out there. :)
XDkameoDX 3 months ago
i'm the 69 th person to like :P
2011DanPrice 3 months ago
@2011DanPrice ooft ;)
Downtownpatrol 3 months ago
@Downtownpatrol ;)
2011DanPrice 3 months ago
I'd only cut in the winter like I'd begin in November and end towars mid Febuary --- do it every year but I keep extending it like I no begin to do it almost whenever. I screwed up this last time because I did it a week early and I had bandages and stuff on it and lemme say --- people noticed and approached me about it. SIGH
LoveIsMyWeapon1234 3 months ago
Oh my goodness you're so beautiful.
I appreciate that you put these videos up, because certain things need to be said.
Maxinfinity16 4 months ago 15
@Maxinfinity16 thanks (:
Downtownpatrol 4 months ago
i feel like people judge you because of scars, like i've just started a new school and since in sixth form i can wear anything and its quite hot in my school i cant always wear coats.. so i feel so uncomfortable because i feel like everyone is judging and staring.. and when people ask i havnt got a clue what to say to them.. like i cant show my family my scars but my mams seen them and she told me straight what she thoguht of them... i think its wrong that people judge because of your passed!
jenny94brown1 4 months ago
do you have twitter ?
killfairies1 4 months ago
@killfairies1 no
Downtownpatrol 4 months ago
u go girl
IsaacBarrios12345 4 months ago
@IsaacBarrios12345 thanks?.
Downtownpatrol 4 months ago
ur scar video helped me so much realy did all your video's did , but i have a few hardly noticble cuts on my ankle i watched ur video's and though do i really wanna go though this do i want those scars and i realized id rather not have the burden of scars and being self conscience all the time. and for the 3 weeks i did cut i wore high socks all the time i found a better way to deal with my problems and realized i dont want to get more depresed but thank you for helping me and for everything <3
kayli1999 4 months ago
Im 13 and i self harm, i have been clean for 5 months now, people say that im attention seeking but im really not. I have my reason's, I dont give a shit what people say. I show my scars, people give me horrid looks but FUCK THEM... they dont know my past. I have only just started showing them in public like 2 months ago, im still worried about it now, but my confidence is getting better. I was one of the few lucky ones that self harm... i stopped before i got addicted :)
I will not do it agen
SuperXlucyx 4 months ago 2
I personally don't think SI scars should be seen the same way as any other scars. I don't think someone should have to hide their scars just because they were caused by SI anymore than someone who had scars from being in a car wreck or something.
HarrietBeaumont 5 months ago
It only makes me feel uncomfortable when people ask what happened to my arm xD. Besides that I forget I have them, people are the ones that make you self conscious about it
EllionVcall 5 months ago
To be perfectly honest, I started cutting because I wanted the attention. I just wanted people to know that there was something wrong with me. I've never regretted actually cutting/burning, but I hate that I would just 'show them off'. I guess I was only 10/11 at the time but still... Most of my scars are on the underside of my arms or on my legs so I can usually hide them, but I always wear long sleeves if I have new cuts or burns because they're so much more noticable.
NothingChild 5 months ago
i try to hide them normally from people like my mom, dad, and siblings. but around my friends i don't because they know why they are there and they know that i have and do self-harm. mine aren't very noticeable. i have some on my wrists and hands but you have to look close and know what you are looking for to find them. my bad scars are high up on my left thigh like almost my butt, so in shorts they are mainly hidden except when i sit and sometimes my shirts ride up a bit....
madamoisellegris 6 months ago
@madamoisellegris i meant to say shorts not shirts. but also when i'm wearing a bathing suit they are noticeable and i only dislike them when i'm with my family.
uhm... telling people, some times i want to just like tell everyone i cut, so they know, not because i want them to baby me, or sympathize , or to get attention but because i want to show how anyone can cut, even me ( not to make me sound all high and might, like godly or anything, but people don't see me to be that "type" of person. )
madamoisellegris 6 months ago
i lost my best friend for showing her once so now im to scared to show them so i hise and cry in a corner
TheSophieellison 6 months ago
:) the finger u had eyeliner on was ur middle finger lol
AnimalSaviour101 6 months ago
I tried to hide them once but everyone knew something was up because i didnt have anything but some band aids and people didnt notice them untill i tried covering them up, but I decided to tell them that they were from my neighbors dog and the seemed to beleive it. I dont really like lying, but i dont want them to know. Everyone at my school is very wealthy, with perfect families, friends, and bright futures. I feel so alone, and at times ive had to skip classes to hide somewhere.
010pikka010 6 months ago
No offence are u irish :)
TheMadison011 7 months ago
@TheMadison011 i am deeply offended by your comment! it hurt my feelings so much :(
but nooo, i'm not irish. im from the north east of england
Downtownpatrol 7 months ago 7
@Downtownpatrol Oh are you from New Castle? I'm American but my husband is from New Castle England and he talks a lot like you do. He's a geordie, I think they are called.
earthlingmeow 2 months ago
@Downtownpatrol Are you from New Castle? I am American, but my husband is from New Castle England and he talks just like you.
earthlingmeow 2 months ago
@TheMadison011 She's a geordie :P
HarrietBeaumont 5 months ago
@TheMadison011 she's Gordie ^^ (I think thats how you spell it)
EIOL342 5 months ago
@EIOL342 geordie* @harrietbeaumont was spelt it right! :)
Downtownpatrol 5 months ago
@Downtownpatrol Now I feel somewhat racist haha! Somehow.. :P
Geordies are amazing!! I hate my Cumbrian accent... it sucks balls XD
EIOL342 5 months ago
I still self harm and it seems as if every time I do it it gets deeper and deeper and my skin is starting to split apart like I need stitches. And I hide some of them with braceletts and the rest I don't really care about. I let ppl see it if it's just like random ppl I see at the store. I don't really care but I'm not seeking attention. I live in az and it's extremely hot here and I will not wear long sleeves lol. But I am afraid of going to my new school in less then a week.
AlessaAlexandra3968 7 months ago
My cuts are my story, making me cover them up is like telling a mother not to wear a bikini because she has stretchmarks or telling an old person to cover up their wrinkles. At the end of the day, every marking and every part of our bodies is our story and our lives. Its who we are. If people dont like my skin then they arent gunna like my past. ♥
AwayWithTheFairies95 7 months ago 3
@AwayWithTheFairies95 firstly i by accidentally voted your comment down when i was trying to vote it up, but i really like your comment. i think it's very logical and beautiful the way you put it, i wish more people could see it that way.
madamoisellegris 6 months ago
my parents know i self harm. i think more people should know about it.
lacey29691 7 months ago
@lacey29691 why do you want more people to know about it? :S
Downtownpatrol 7 months ago 2
i still get ashamed of them, from time to time, but i've told my parents, and it's a lot easier now. it's still sort of awkward, with my dad, and brother in law. but im making it through. its nice to know i'm not alone. im in no way saying its good to cut, or anything, i'm just glad i'm not alone in this struggle. <3
LewyGabbs 7 months ago
jumping around outside with a t-shirt on and not caring at all, while ppl are around, is the best feeling in the world to me. Always get scared ofc and it's not easy. But me accepting myself is more important to me, than the judging from others. But gotta say, it's a lot easier when it's ppl I don't know... - thanks for sharing though :))
LightIsABiatch 8 months ago
@LightIsABiatch i feel the same, it's a lot easier around strangers! i don't show my scars anymore though but i totally get where you're coming from :)
Downtownpatrol 8 months ago
I also believe that it is an important part of the healing process to be able to walk anywhere, and not feel you have to cover your scars, ever.
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muse2011fan 9 months ago
I haven't seen your other video yet but even so, shocking and disturbing....how could they judge like that? I am glad they have retracted their decision and perhaps...i wonder if even you tube moderators have learnt from this too?
I completely agree with being yourself, doing what you like, when you like, without being restricted with scars.
I have hundreds, i don't cover them up.
I shouldn't be ashamed, and neither should anyone else with SI scars either :)
muse2011fan 9 months ago 2
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muse2011fan 9 months ago
A few years ago I used to wear t-shirts in public occasionally, then one day (three years ago actually) I was at a train station (wearing a shirt) with my boyfriend and a woman in her forties pointed at me, nudged the guy she was with and said something and laughed, pointing at my arm. She saw me looking and raised her eyebrows in disgust. Three years later and I haven't worn a t-shirt since. I wish she could know how much effect her judgemental actions have had on my confidence, and my life.
xILoveTheQuinTwinsx 9 months ago
@xILoveTheQuinTwinsx aww no :( i still don't understand why people are bitchy like that, you would've thought that a woman of that age would be more mature and not so pathetic. i'm sorry that happened to you, you were really brave to wear short sleeves in the first place! and i hope that if that's what you want then you'll be able to find the courage again, you don't deserve to have your confidence knocked by some random stuck up snobby lady!!!! x
Downtownpatrol 9 months ago 2
@Downtownpatrol
If my parents dont understand my self-harm should i still talk to them about it.........
you see as im only 15 i need them to get help. I need lifts to places where i can ger help and stuff
what do you think i should do??
i need your help
Bloodygeek11 9 months ago
@Bloodygeek11 yes, because the only way they are going to start understanding is if youtalk to them about it and explain :) i think you should if you feel ready...inbox me? xx
Downtownpatrol 9 months ago
@Downtownpatrol
thanks man
Bloodygeek11 9 months ago
@Downtownpatrol
thanks
I have emailed me plaeae get back to me soon
i need help, i feel soooooooooooo alone
Bloodygeek11 9 months ago
sorry didn't mean to post twice....
I also had a similar experience to you. On a school trip to Canada I had to wear short sleeves. I still had very red scars and I was utterly humiliated. People commented and were rude but I coped. I won't show anything that's red or new but old ones I'm ok with. And I noticed on another post that you said you lived in Newcastle I'm currently up here studying for a masters.
insanity26 9 months ago
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Wow, this video is really moving. I've SI'd for a long time (since I was 6 years old) and whilst I'm still embarrassed by my scars I am used to them. They've faded enough to not be noticeable. I will now wear short sleeves. It's been 5 years since I did anything on my arms so I am now comfortable with them. Most people don't notice. However I won't wear short sleeves to interviews or infront of my supervisor (who is a psychiatrist)
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insanity26 9 months ago
...hide the scars. I have had to speak to my MD and assistant MD, as I do not feel that I can go on stage with them on show. The assistant MD suggested that I wear like 3 pairs of skin colour tights on top of each other, but the MD just talked about how they show that I'm strong. That's all very well but the audience might not think that!
debzer1 9 months ago
Last summer was hell because I spent the entire time in hoodies to hide mine. I'm pale skinned so mine take ages to fade, and stay red-scars rather than white-scars for the longest time. The ones on my legs take the longest, but my arms are kind of ok now and I try not to show them at work, but am more relaxed about them the rest of the time now. I'm meant to be singing in a concert on saturday, and I just found out that the dress code is bare legs or skin colour tights, neither of which...
debzer1 9 months ago
This was very brave of you. I just recently stopped, and told my mom about it. I'm rather lucky, and odd at the same time. I scarred up my foot, not my arms, not my legs, my foot. It's embarrassing to walk anywhere barefoot, but I'm getting better. I think you're getting better, because it you weren't, you wouldn't be able to post a video about it. By the way, you're gorgeous. Great video.
MiaRelevio 10 months ago
hiya i kinda had the same experience as you with the airport. i was going to Iganga to do charity work for 10 days with one of my teachers and her sister who is a nurse and we got to the beepy macheines and i had to take of my jacket and i only had short sleeves on so they took me to the side and my teacher still had to go through and see could see all of the scars on my arm and so did the nurse. it was so embarrasing as i see the teacher everyday and the nurse often deals with SH.thats my story
60reeve 10 months ago
You're so insightful.
iYuuchanFTW 10 months ago
I'd love just to be able to show my scars, since it's gettng hotter and everything but i'm too scared haha most of my friends dont know so its even harder, im ok with showing my best friend the scars, but not my other friend that knows or my boyfriend :L
FramingKelly 10 months ago
do your parents know?
GraeyRibbon13CKS 11 months ago
@GraeyRibbon13CKS only have my mam, and yeah she knows :) i had therapy for a while so after school told her, once i needed stitches so i'm kind of greatful she didn't find out that time:P xx
Downtownpatrol 11 months ago
@GraeyRibbon13CKS
That's good...if my mom knew she would...lol I don't even want to imagine but my dads completely oblivious though...I think my mom does know something but she just isn't going to do anything about it until...I guess she's sure that I'm a bona fide weirdo......-.-
GraeyRibbon13CKS 11 months ago
you're so prettyyy.
xxoogossipgirl 11 months ago 29
@xxoogossipgirl haha, i'm not! but thanks :)
Downtownpatrol 10 months ago
@Downtownpatrol haha, YOU ARE! and you're welcome (:
xxoogossipgirl 10 months ago
heyy well i just wanted to say that your videos are really helpful :) i started self harming last year but stopped early with just a few scars but sadly i started again last week nd now i have over 30 :| oh nd how should we tell our parents if we chose to ?
14idrk14 11 months ago
@08RyanC thankyou very much :)
Downtownpatrol 11 months ago
I have been cutting on and off for 5 years because of very painful family issues in the past. I'm embarrassed of my scars and all of them are on my legs. When people notice and ask me what they are from i usually turn red and try to come up with an excuse but no one believes it was the cat or a thorn bush. I wish people weren't so judgmental or freaked out about it. Thank you for posting these videos <3 As i got older i found better ways to cope now, but it's still a struggle.
sw33tsugarflame 11 months ago
yeah i hide my scars and what ever but you no what im bloody well sick of it, im sick of all of it, why do we have to go to extreme measures to get fricken help, cause if i never started cuttin and all tht crap id be probs be worse, and id never get help, i still dont even no if i can be fucking helped.. like really i seriously am so fed up, no 1 has ever saw, its too hard, its shameful.. i really wish i never started what was i thinking ): please people never start ok its terrible and scary :/
mustang99190 11 months ago
I've been working for a few years now and have had a pretty easy time with it. I think the older you get, the less chance you'll have that people will wonder if your scars are intentional. Granted, I work with people mostly older than me and there may be some generational ignorance on S. I., but for all people know I'm just clumsy and used the wrong end of a rake :) If people look funny at you, just smile back and make them wonder what you're up to :)
cbrepp 11 months ago
I personaly am kind of scared to show my scars. They´re not big scars, but they´re many white/pink lines across my harms and I wouldn´t know how to explain them....
doodleorme 1 year ago
i thinks its up to us if we show our scars or not ? i personally choose not to show mine simply because i know people will stare at them. but i think its our own choice if we show them.
biggoblyds 1 year ago
In phse we watched this stupid rap that gothic girls were doing and it gave the wrong impression. They looked like vampires and were cutting themselves and everyone was laughing at it even the teacher I was soo annoyed and upset by it!! I've been cutting for 4 years and I dont feel scared to show scars due to a girl that I thought u could trust told everyone! :(
CatherineScally17 1 year ago
this is what my what my stupid twatty teacher said todayin pshe! hada lesson on it today hated it! he says what do u think peopl eowuld say if i had cuts on my arm? they say attention seeking n hes agrees n all i so wanted to scream at him! IDIOT!
xmcflyxxx 1 year ago
I cover up at work, but I don't care so much about going to school in short sleeves.
TheSawyerpot1 1 year ago
No we shouldn't fuckin cover up when people ask me (not many) I just telling them that they are old ones and if they think I am looking to get attention then they are just untrusting pricks. (this vidio pissed me off) :/
Mrdazbog 1 year ago
@Mrdazbog this video pissed you off? you gotta be kidding me! it's two sided, it's a question for Christ's sake! there's no need to be pissed off...
Downtownpatrol 1 year ago 3
One of my friends saw my arm, it was covered in cuts. He told everyone. and now everyone at my school thinks im an attention seeker.
TheEmzXD 1 year ago
I sort of had the same problem at my school here in the states that you had in the airport. The security guards scanned us in the classrooms with the metal detector 'wands' and i had new cuts and scars all over my arms and wrists. I was forced to remove my jacket (which had no metal on it) and humiliate myself and draw unwanted attention and digusted looks and ridicule. I asked to be scanned privately or with my jacket on and even tried to cover my arm with my other hand but theywere complete j
void2102 1 year ago
i'm glad I'm not the only one with red hair (really fur in my case)
ChannelingusIV 1 year ago
I agree with you about the fact that people should be able to show their scars. But you are also right that we all just need to make sure that we are doing it for the right reasons!
Thanks for another great video!
TheEmmyR 1 year ago
A lot of people who self harm, think too much about other people and not enough about them self. If ur ready for it, stop covering ur scars, let others adapt to you, instead of the other way around. If they dont want/cant adapt its their problem.
vervreemding 1 year ago
i know that i cannot live the rest of my life always hiding my scars and i dont want to. i would never want to make someone else uncomfortable by showing them, that would not be my intention. if they are scars then that means that they happened in the past and that it could be time to move on. if its hot outside then im going to wear shorts and a t shirt. it makes me a little uncomfortable at first to have them showing but someday i know that i will be comfortable with it.
copperalyssa 1 year ago 2
I can't help but show mine seeing as most are on my face :/ everyone says I did it on my face for attention but it wasn't. X
holdmyturtle 1 year ago
Oh btw! On the subject of the video, some people would say self harm is selfish, so to the ones that do, isn't showing them in public the same? Some people may feel very awkward or uncomfortable sitting next to someone on a train or bus if they have scars all over there arms, also if someone is eating in public it may put them off there food :P
TheToxicNinjas 1 year ago