my sister has a perm and i am a natural , that thing i hate most people are always saying "why dont u have hair like ur sisters'" she has coller bone length , and i have around neck length ....my confidenece dies when people compare me to her ,Its like shes the pretty one and im the 'ugly' one but i love being natural , and i wont stop for anyone. Great vid :) ♥
To ywhite20 the point is your opinions are jaded by what you here growing up.therefore your taste is jaded not authentic from birth. Your dictated to at an early age. We want people to feel like they can have a difference in taste. Why was the little girl shocked that she was receiving a complement ? Because people are brainwashed in America to see one standard of beauty, it's called divide and conquer.
What started me on my natural hair journey was because of both my daughter's hair. One has a cottony texture, and the other biracial hair. I didn't believe one should be on relaxers and the other one enjoying "good hair". I let them both know they BOTH had good hair..just very different textures. Through educating myself more through the natural hair community on YouTube..we learned how to take care of a more cottony hair texture.. Once we learned there was no turning back!
People say me and my bf/fiance (who is half black half mexican but looks completely mexican) children will have 'good hair' and I'm like of course she will, because she will have hair like her mama's (LOL)- natural hair, however it turns out. That's why I'm going natural, so my (future) children won't have that societal pressure on them...
So funny I just commented on this issue in your Relaxed Girls thread. It is very sad. My DD came home from school telling me she had "bad curly hair." I tried not to react to strongly but inside I was fuming!!! But to be honest, we need to have this dialogue openly and honestly because we know what people mean by "good hair." The funny thing is, I've never heard anyone say "bad hair." It's always "you have good hair" or "you don't have good hair."
People are always going to have a visual preference of his or her standard of beauty. That doesn't bother me as much complementing one child while ignoring the other child. Children take so much to heart, especially girls. I hope everyone that watches this video make a point to complement children in general, especially those who do not carry the stereotype of American Beauty.
I sent this vid to my sister because she's got a 2 yr. old foster daughter that she is raising (her two boys are grown now), and my Mom is constantly saying she has a "bad grade" of hair. I've tried and TRIED to explain to my Mom how damaging these words can be, and even though she doesn't say it in front of her, I'm sure she's picked up on the non-verbal cues. It's the same way my sister and I were raised. Now I've been natural for a year and I'm still playing catch-up trying to learn how to c
I so agree, My husband is white and we have seven children and 3 of them are girls. I decided to go natural and a community where there is already a small amount of african americans, but i make a point and telling my girls how I love that my hair is different and I can do all the fun styles. On of my daughters used to feel subconsious of the fact that her hair wasnt as loose curly as her sisters so I knew I needed to do this. I love my hair and she will grow to love her hair.
I know what you mean Chime. My daughter is black and my son is mixed and people do him like that. People will walk up to my kids and I feel because he is a cute mixed boy they act like that. Its funny cause they will say both my kids are beautiful and well behaved, but then turn around and talk to my son more. That I'm goin 2 have 2 watch out for him and the girls. Im thinkin if u knew me Im not goin. lol My son is goin 2 respect woman n not b a player just because he is cute with good hair.smh
Amen, young lady. We sistahs have to take better care of each other. Stop with the envy on any level. We all have something to contribute with what God has given us, including our hair. It's just hair. It's not our soul, nor it our spirit. It is hair, that once it has grown out from the scalp it is dead, be it long, short, thick, thin, straight, white, black or gay...get my meaning? What lives is us, what needs to be nurtured more is the being that wears the hair or even has no hair.
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This video is on point! many ppl dnt realize that you reap what you sow. Alot of ppl who are upset that folk discriminate one of their children over another due to hair texture have done the same thing to other ppl and their children. That's why it pays to give love and do unto others as you would like done to you (and your own children)
People tell me and my husband our children are going to have some "good hair". He has very thick wavy hair and mine is very curly. He gets asked if he's mixed all the time and he's B-L-A-C-K!!! My sister wanted to put a perm in my niece's hair, but when my niece (8) saw my hair, she said "NO!" She loves her hair now because she knows someone with hair like hers. I try to make sure I set good examples concerning hair AND skin color in front of her because she is young and impressionable.
I'd been told by hairstylists all my life that I had curly or "good" hair and that's what made me want to go natural. It was during my transition that I learned how flawed that commentary and me buying into it was. It was also then that I learned how beautiful and versatile so-called bad hair can be. I felt deprived for not knowing that and being unwittingly subject to the good/bad hair mentality for so long. I guess I'm glad that I went natural because of it, but I'm more glad I unlearned it.
I totally agree, people still have that self-hate mantality that loser curl patterns are better. It starts with how our parents teach us and model behavior of acceptance of differences and uniquness. Please follow me on twitter @kinkybeautiful Thanks
Thank you and It so sad that we as a people still can't see that that this is how we are still dividing ours as a people. How better life will be if we can "PASS".
I totally agree. I confronted a gentleman about his comment that my nephew had good hair. He said that I am from the old school but that still does not make it right or acceptable.
I love this! This has trulu been on my mind. I have a sister who is fair skinned while i am slightly darker. She has fine curly baby hair while mine is kinky but one thing i love is that my family always did the best to lest us BOTH know how beautiful we are. In all actuality im more confident than she is! I just know one day when i have children i will tell them how beautiful they are as well as teach her to love her natural hair :)
Hmm...I think we all have different taste and preferences as a person and shouldnt be attacked because we voice them. The higher the self esteem the less we accept other peoples opinions & preferences as an attack on us. We cant get upset & make someone like or do flips over what they dont prefer. We are all attracted to different things--light ,dark, white,short, tall, curly,straight, wavy, kinky,rough, soft, thin, thick,etc.. There is no right or wrong in this, just a personal choice.
I saw the episode and once again i cringed at an ignorant Wendy Williams comment. Good hair is healthy and that's it! I wish the term would go away and that Black people would stop degrading each other.
In the real world most dark blacks get complimented on their looks, lol. I tell people that they are nice looking regardless of color. It isn't just about hair and skin color. It boils down to facial features as well. You know how people say the girls with the thinner nose and lips is prettier than the girl with the fuller ones? The hair thing isn't the most important of all. We just act as if it is. Nice video though.
Yes my older sister has that mentality, and I constantly have to correct her. She keeps saying that, and I keep thinking that by the time I have children, I'm not going to want my kids around her if she continues.
People are going to use the term "good hair". I feel that everything nowadays has to be so politically correct. I'm a fifth grade teacher, and it's amazing to me how every year we have to start using some new term because the old term is now considered offensive. I have four children, all with my same husband. My youngest daugther came out with the curly hair; not kinky at all. I just explain to my other daughter what people really mean when they say her sister has "good hair." She understands.
It's true. People don't realize how statements like "good hair" have negative connotations. It definitely affected my view of hair texture while hearing my mother use terms like this. Thankfully, I came to realize that my hair and texture are things to be cherished, and that if God viewed my hair as bad then He wouldn't have put it on my head! Loving your hair is loving yourself, which is a reason I decided to go natural. Some people don't even realize the negativity they spread.
This guy in the mall just walked up to me in the mall and said "you must have some asian up in you, look at you girl you look good." Because of my hair texture and length he said I had good hair. I've always been disturbed by people saying that. I am that darker skinned little girl all grown up. Its just that I take care of my hair.
hair crush, you r absolutely right. n i cnt say that I hvnt done the same but i now know that its wrong and the damage it can cause psychologically to ppl.... on another note, i was kind of weirded out by the ring on the shower curtain in the background that kept movin on its own lol. random
Some ignorant ppl disliked this video. Your response is very true. If some black ppl focused less on textures of hair and more on their inner ambitions we could achieve a lot more in this life
I totally agree with you on this one. Hearing this story made me want to cry, but I'm glad that you were perceptive, and were able to compliment both girls :-) My daughter is biracial, and black people are always complimenting her hair (naturally straight like her father's). I just nod, and walk away. Physical beauty is embedded in how girls are socialized in most societies, but I would like my daughter to feel that her intelligence is her greatest asset. Anyway, loved the video!
omg I cant stand when people say that it is a ignorant remark I have a son that is half white and I have a son that is not when we are in public all people see is my lighter son not my darker son who is one of the most beautiful kids i have ever laid eyes on when people say that in front of him i see this look on his face that hurts my heart but but his little brother loves him everytime someone says that my son reply is what about my brother. I tell my boys how beautiful they are everyday
I had a friend that had twins, now she was very dark and her husband was very light both African American. However, their twins turned out one dark and one light. Even as babies people would say how pretty the light skinned baby was but in acturality the darker child was more pretty. However, that light skinned "pretty" hair child was the focus of everyone's attention. It made me sad then and it makes me sad now. Keep educating our people Hair crush. Thank you
I'm glad you made this video. I have witnessed incidents of people complementing and praising one child over another because they have "good hair" or they have lighter skin. People don't understand how their comments can be detrimental to the psyche of young minds.
This video was spot on! I also saw this same episode of WW and felt some kind of way about the statement right after she made it. I dnt like the good hair/bad hair comments nor light skin/ dark skin comments...in this day and age its just ridiculous....Its nice to see someone speak on the subject. Thank you.
Im a quarter white and whenever I flat iron my hair I get asked if I a relaxer and when I say no some people either believe me or think Im lying, also I am light skinned and my black friends always say I am mixed and I don't feel mixed so its weird, but whenever I say it doesn't matter or Im black they say no, and its just weird I know they mean no harm but still why would I lie about these things...
Maybe Brandy said 'yes' just to keep the conversation going. She seemed to want to talk more about the film and she's probably very conscious about her image. Can you imagine if she was like 'actually anyone with healthy hair has good har.' That would seem like an attempt to make Wendy look bad and then in turn that would make Brandy look bad herself as she would have lowered the light-hearted tone of the conversation. I don't think she was there to start an argument about hair.
Thanks for this. I'm the dark sister.. my sister is very light. Went through the same nonsense growing up & wanted to be like her. Now I LOVE my brown skin & raise my kids to love it too! Let's say it and keep on saying it. We are ALL beautiful just the way we are!!!
I am biracial. When I flatironed my hair I would get stares from the black girls and some young ones would feel so compelled to come over and say "what's your heritage?" and I'll tell them and they would say "oh, I knew you couldn't be full black to have such good hair". I just looked at them and said "oh". What I should've said was "why do you feel the need to come over to me and congratulate me in order to depreciate yourself?" why isn't your hair good? it's ridiculous.
i correct pp wen they say i have good hair 2..smh my hair was a HOT MESS (split ends and breakage) 2 years ago so i dont c how tht was good jus beacuse of my texturelolz
U´re a grownup so u´re probably tough n wont let people get u down, but u´re so right, nobody should just compliment 1 kid n leave the other out, good thing u did telling the other the same thing, let´s just hope that kid remembers to take really good care of their hair,everybody should learn to Love their hair ...gotta LOVE hair
Eventhough, Wendy Williams in her mind didnt mean any harm by the "good hair" comment it still stems from slavery, & was originally a negative statement..we think oh well she just used it in a positive term that wasnt of any offense, but its still self depleting to alot of us..something so little can be VERY big, as it is in the black community. We have to be careful at the manner of how we use SLAVE terms such as "good hair vs nappy hair" as we may not see it as nothing but deep down it is...
I have a set of fraternal twin nieces with different hair textures, complexions, talents, etc. They're both beautiful little girls but since their birth I've always gravitated to the darker niece. I was so angry when my sister relaxed her hair at age 3 that I couldn't talk to her.
First Brandy is known 4wearing weave, she also lent her brand 2dt industry. So I see no reason 2b shocked by her "good hair" reaction. Secondly why do people even watch WendyWilliams? If u like un-researched gossip buy a$2 mag ugh.She brings down da image of black ppl in da worst way. Working feverishly 2uphold negative stereotypes of us. Bet her show never gets cancelled because everyone loves 2see 'black' people act like fools and turn to each other & say "yip told u so! there just like that"
I completely agree!! It saddens me that many black women haven't been taught that their hair is beautiful or how to properly care for it. It's so disappointing how only straight & long, or curly hair is beautiful. Good news is I'm seeing more and more naturals each day and I'm so proud. I think the world is starting to come around :)
I really can relate to this video because I was told that I have "slave hair". Its a struggle trying to remain positive when people have so many negative things to say. Thank you for posting this video.
completely agree with you girl. I have a question though. I've just done my big chop and a lot of people say that I can do it because I have "good hair" and I never know how to respond. At times I feel it is not the right time or place to correct/educate people on their terminology but at the same time I feel like I might be missing an opportunity to let people know my hair is only "good" because it is now healthy. What should I do?
what? They can't say that the dude has good hair. I mean they didn't say oh I hate my hair and wish it was different they just saying that the dude had nice hair I mean we can't give compliments to other peoples hair in order to feel good about ourselves I mean it doesn't hurt to anckowledge someone els's looks and that story made me want to cry you're really sweet for giving her a little light in her eyes
In my opinion we all should just love who we are. I hear my Caucasian coworkers compliment another coworker who is also caucasian on her hair and the say " she has good hair" and I laugh... Because we all have our hang ups and because I always thought that the good hair bad hair thing was a " black thing"
Oh yeah... The " good hair" co worker's hair is thick and very curly... Go figure...
It really is a shame that people still have this mindset. Like how rude was it in general to give one child a compliment and not the other? I swear some ppl just dont think before they act. I personally have always been told that i had "good" hair. And i have always despised the statement because i never understood what was supposed to be wrong with ever other black persons hair that didnt look like mine
We need to stop worshiping only some features and stop complimenting our young girls only on how pretty they are. Wish we were more focused on empowering our young girls confidence and intelligence over their psychical features... lack of this is why we hear conversation between two women who clearly have hair issues over and over.
i dont think it was really all that serious of a comment! Everybody finds something to be offended by or just stunned by. i think it was just a silly litlle comment! no harm or foul meant by it all.
Its funny because sometimes I think we are so beyond the "Good Hair' talk, but then I snap back to reality. I cringed when I saw that episode and I thought about her daughter too. I just think we have to be so careful of what we say to children It really has to be an at home thing. We have to make our kids feel good about their looks because as soon as the leave our house 100 people tell them they aren't good enough.
My daughter is by-racial, with loose curly hair, she is also very light. I am black with kinky hair that I wear natural. People will actually say to her "you must look like your daddy" when in reality she looks like me just lighter with curly hair. Its hurt her identity in a way because she thinks I am beautiful and wishes her hair looked like mine. Its another flip of the coin. In this world people want you to hate yourself no matter what you are we have to teach our kids to love themselves!
Thank you for telling the other child she was beautiful as well:)
My sister and I have different fathers and she is a quarter white. People would always comment on how beautiful she was in front of me, while ignoring me. My mom would have to get their attention and tell them that BOTH of her daughters were beautiful, and I thank my Momma for that:)
Spot on, Chyme. I'm 16 and I was told I had good hair for my whole childhood; because the curls are loose and, and I never really understood the social implications for a long time.
Now, at times I wish I could get an afro, I tried so hard xD
yeah i think it is bad. there is really no such thing as good hair. hell white women and men have kinky hair as well when they stop putting chemicals in their hair. their hair actually draw up as well....so there is no such thing as good hair.
When me and my sister were little, she would get all the compliments and I wouldnt get a damn thing lol...She was/is waaay lighter and her hair was more smoother & had a looser curl.. I never felt any way about it. I guess I just accepted that she got compliments and I didnt :( My mother and father definitely noticed ..But They didnt say anything about up until a few years ago..
I personally had this term given to me most my life but behind closed doors I struggle bc my hair was thicke and it took a lot of work to make it look like "good hair" or to train it. Now being natural I see my grandmother is the one who planted thought by her words and comments toward my more natural hair. And I'm reversing / erasing that thought in my family where my younger cousins are choosing not to relax there hair when they get older and who love their coils and hair texture as is.
It is the most awkward feeling and almost inexplicable too. Anyway, my point is so many people argue and hate the use of term "good hair" but in my experience I am treated like I have "good hair". Like I cannot possibly identify with them. So I do not exaclty understand the dislike of the term when this is my experience ALL THE TIME. Does this makes sense- hope so! Tell me your thoughts!
good message, BUT. My hair is about your length and quote on quote "good hair" and natural. My friend's hair is quote on quote "nappy" and natural. When we are out and about, other black women with her kind of hair hair come along, comment about hair, the natural process etc, exchange questions and I am LITERALLY ignored and given a side eye.
good message, BUT. My hair is about your length and quote on quote "good hair" and natural. My friend's hair is quote on quote "nappy" and natural. When we are out and about, other black women with her kind of hair hair come along, comment about hair, the natural process etc, exchange questions and I am LITERALLY ignored and given a side eye.
I have very kinky/thick/coarse hair that I absolutely love. I started getting perms at a very young age. I look back at all the comments people have made about other children having "good hair" and how it really did make me feel like my hair was bad.This mentality disgusts me. I have natural hair now and I'm finally able to enjoy my hair when before it was nothing but a source of stress. I was always worrying whether it was straight enough. I think more people are opening their minds today but
Your words were so awesome sis! Im appalled that Brandy agreed with Wendy....I can see Wendy saying that tho. And so sad to hear about your experience with the little girls! Kudos for you telling them both that they were Beautiful:-) Your Beautiful!!! I have two girls and we all have different hair textures, however we all are beautiful:-) And I let them know that!!! Thanx for sharing love!:-)
I totally agree with you Chime! I have made it a point to encourage little girls and when I have daughters I will let them know how beautiful and amazing their hair is.
Even if Brandi didn't agree with Wendy the fact that she ALWAYS wears fake hair that is usually silky straight, says something about what she thinks about her own hair.
you are so right about that, i believe in telling all young girls to love them self in to love the hair and skin GOD give you , this world in the people in it have to make a stand in a change for the better , no matter how we look or what we have , just to be them self, even when people of the world cant see beauty , for all things GOD has made beautiful :D GOD bless you hun , great video , young girls need to hear this , is well is some older women
I did see the show when it aired. Sad but true our people still use this term. I have worked so hard in building my daughter's self esteem especially around her hair. I loved the way it coiled when she was younger so much that I began my natural hair journey (11 yrs). She gets upset if her hair is not done like mine. Thanks for the topic.
Am not surprised Wendy has issues with her hair she always says it on the show that she hates her natural hair and can,t leave without the weaves.Pathetic!
Great video! I asked my mom a few weeks ago why she relaxed my sisters hair when she was a kid and she said the because she had nappy hair and I said we all do. She said, yes, but that while my hair was nappy, it was manageable and that my sisters was nappy and unmanageable. I told her it was only unmanageable because she didn't know how to take care of it. We got into a little debate that truly pissed me off. How could someone hate their own hair texture and carry it their kids? It's sad.
such a great topic!!! I wish I would have went natural earlier, actually i wish my mother would have never let me get my first perm and I would have embraced the hair that God gave me from the beginning!! But its never too late to start:) and I'm on my way to au natural
I don't care what nobody says Wendy Williams is a man!! Male patrern baldness is why she always wearing those hideous wigs! I don't wear weave but I have seen a ton of cute weaves on average everyday people Wendy Williams is a millionaire there is NO excuse for her to be walking around and all on tv with her hair looking like that!
GREAT MESSAGE! Our young black women need their self-esteems built. This has been going on for way too long. Although we cannot change the actions of others, we can make a difference ourselves. Chime was an example in the scenario she gave. Side note, Chime, have you every tried flat twist outs?? I figured with your hair length, it would be difficult, but it could still take less time than single twists...
@vanillcherrypixiepie Wendy might not have meant anything bad, but it was an ignorant self hate comment, insuiating that brandy's hair is not good because its kinky or nappy but when she has a baby with her guy who has wavy hair then their kids will have good hair, and that is a bad message for young black women and girls.
Thank you for this video bc my whole childhood and adult life I was teased about my hair and people mainly family and friends saying u have bad hair. So I secretly wanted "good hair" but then I realized my hair is fun and versatile. This message needs to reach more ppl. Thanks girl btw more videos please! Peace and nappyness
really really good video..Since I have been natural, it never had cross my mind, that we didn't appreciate our hair and we do say nappy with definitely not an intent of a good thing, like its bad, I have to constantly remind my mom, no my daughter do not need her hair pressed, her natural curls are just fine..its so sad that we have been brainwashed to think we have bad hair, even i was guilty of it..but now I embrace my tresses and I'm trying to get my daughter to do the same...
really really good video..Since I have been natural, it never had cross my mind, that we didn't appreciate our hair and we do say nappy with definitely not an intent of a good thing, like its bad, I have to constantly remind my mom, no my daughter do not need her hair pressed, her natural girls are just fine..its so sad that we have been brainwashed to think we have bad hair, even i was guilty of it..but now I embrace my tresses and I'm trying to get my daughter to do the same...
These people are grown, they must be able to see that the little black girl is feeling ignored, but its just accepted behaviour nowadays- they may have had this happen to them and they just repeat the destructive cycle.
I dont see this cycle ending any time soon, but I dont think that should stop us whp can see the damage it causes from doing our bit :) great vid x
And I dont watch the Wendy Williams show because of this very reason - she comes out with a lot of BS
Being a Mom to a black little girl I try to empmhasize how important it is to be smart and kind... Of course coplimenting her on her natural beauty is cool but its more important to just be a nice person... So instead of your hair is pretty its your so smart your so kind your the best baby in the world....
That's when the hurt and damage is done; when they are still kids and then we wonder how come the men choose to marry outside of the race when they become succesful. As kids they saw how we defined beauty.
Great Video..since i started my hair journey 2 years ago, I have made it a point to tell my girls how beautiful their hair is! I grew up so confused and frustrated with my hair and I don't want my girls to feel they way I did as a child regarding my hair.
thank you so much for touching on this subject. i try to educate my friends on using the term "good hair". saying that just adds another category for people to be placed in to feel like they dont add up to certain standards or excluded from what people see as "good" or "accepting"
i recently went natural and i LOVE it. however i dont have what people would condsider "good hair" and i've noticed that 99% of the compliments about my hair are from other natural women. i just think that its interesting.
True that! I cringe when I hear "good hair" but always add it's not good or bad hair but doing what keeps it healthy and you happy! We just need to know what our individual hair likes and responds well to. Thanks for this!
my daughters are totally opposite...my oldest is chocolate with fine curly hair and my youngest is vanilla with thick coarse hair but i have always let them know that they are both beautiful in their uniqueness....thanks for speaking on the subject because we get this a lot in Louisiana!!!
Great video! I think it is so important to be aware of our comments, I feel saddened by the incident you shared and I pray that the mother makes sure to give love and praise equally.
You are so on point. I try to stay conscious because it is so important. I know how this can affect young girls. Their poor self-esteem just plummets and its so sad. I didn't watch the Wendy William's show, but it's just ignorance. Wendy is wearing a wig for whatever reasons, probably because in her industry her crowning glory isn't good enough, same with Brandy, and there they sit talking about good hair.
I wish we'd stop making excuse for folks who continue to perpetuate this "self" hate message. It's said that when you know better you do better. I feel like we don't believe we are enough. It's so sad. Then, we'll say "I don't get this generation and their actions." See, it's because they are getting the message that who they are they way they are isn't enough. Also, why do we have to include other races all of the time. It waters down the real issues we must confront. Nice vid. No shade to you.
Good video...I hate that term "good hair". I have people tell me "I would go natural but my hair is nappy and not curly like yours." Or they say...I can't go natural because I don't have good hair..I always say good hair is healthy hair. :-)
The whole story about the 2 little girls I can relate.. Some ppl on here don't get the thought process of blk girl.. Different scenario but same thing.. Easter when I was like 4 all my cousins were at church ppl kept coming up and telling my cousins how pretty they were and no one said anything to me.. I started crying because I didn't feel pretty and the biggest thing that popped out to me was I was the darkest.. Then started my color complex.. I grew out of it but still that's how it starts..
I have 3 nieces who range in all shades, I try my best to build their self esteem so they know that light, brown, dark brown, they're all beautiful. Funny story, I've been perm free since Dec. '09, made the decision to flat iron my hair for this past Christmas, My nieces who are 7,3, and 2 told me they love my curly hair. This made me light up inside, I really can't express.
When I watched the video it seemed like Wendy was serious and Brandy was just rolling with the punches.. The reason I say this is because Brandy's daughter has long natural hair and if Brandy had a problem with her hair she would have relaxed it by now(she's 10?).. But I do agree what you said kids do look at what adults think is beautiful and strive to be that.. Ppl forget you learn what beauty is even if it's shallow thinking at a young age by adults.. So you need to watch what you say..
If you've never heard "this crap" before in your life then you probably shouldn't comment because you have no experience with the subject. It's like somebody saying I don't think teenage pregnancy is as big of a deal as people make it because I've never met a teenage mother before in my life. Meanwhile there are a bunch of teenage girls with babies on their hips. So just because you're ignorant to the subject doesn't mean it doesn't exist. Educate yourself.
Chime, I Love your attention and passion on this issue, sorry to say it is not gonna change anytime soon due to the mind set of people ESPECIALLY in America and in the southern states it is out of control with the "good hair" thing. It was simply a divisionary tatic invented by our slave masters to keep us in line that continues to this very day as you can see.
People do that! My son has my hair texture and my daughter doesn't. My daughter is only two but she's already seeing the attention her older brother gets because of his hair it pisses me off how people can be so ignorant. I make sure my daughter knows that her hair is just as beautiful no matter the texture.
I think the "good hair" term injects low self esteem into our young girls. We have to do better as a race. I still feel bad for the little girl, she needs to be uplifted as well.
@HairCrush i dnt think wendy ment anything bad when she used the term gd hair. u no she crazy lol. but i do believe we as black ppl need to reeducate ourselves and learn to love who we r as ppl nt as colour ( am British by the way thats how we spell colour)
:-/ Yeah. I get this, too, about my daughter. My husband is white, and black people comment ALOT about her hair. Her hair is long (to her bottom) and thin with curls. My son is 2 1/2 years older hair, and he has super thick coils and kinks. Two kids with the same parents, with two totally different textures of hair. She hears all the time how, "pretty" her hair is, and she can't stand it. Luckily, my son is not as effected since it's about hair and he doesn't really care about that, but still.
This whole "good hair/bad hair" issue is getting old. Just because you are mixed does NOT mean you will have a certain type of hair texture. A friend of mine is African-American & Chinese. Her hair is like Kimora Lee's daughter's in length, but alot kinkier and curlier. This and other topics like it need to die and so do the ignorance. It's dead skin cells people
my sister has a perm and i am a natural , that thing i hate most people are always saying "why dont u have hair like ur sisters'" she has coller bone length , and i have around neck length ....my confidenece dies when people compare me to her ,Its like shes the pretty one and im the 'ugly' one but i love being natural , and i wont stop for anyone. Great vid :) ♥
AllBoutNaturalBeauty 1 month ago 42
To ywhite20 the point is your opinions are jaded by what you here growing up.therefore your taste is jaded not authentic from birth. Your dictated to at an early age. We want people to feel like they can have a difference in taste. Why was the little girl shocked that she was receiving a complement ? Because people are brainwashed in America to see one standard of beauty, it's called divide and conquer.
sophia2845 1 month ago
You said a mouth full, GOOD HAIR IS HEALTHY HAIR! ppl nd stop this madness & get educated, learn how to nourish all textures
CatwalkBarbie 1 month ago 7
What started me on my natural hair journey was because of both my daughter's hair. One has a cottony texture, and the other biracial hair. I didn't believe one should be on relaxers and the other one enjoying "good hair". I let them both know they BOTH had good hair..just very different textures. Through educating myself more through the natural hair community on YouTube..we learned how to take care of a more cottony hair texture.. Once we learned there was no turning back!
TheVictory44 1 month ago in playlist More videos from HairCrush
People say me and my bf/fiance (who is half black half mexican but looks completely mexican) children will have 'good hair' and I'm like of course she will, because she will have hair like her mama's (LOL)- natural hair, however it turns out. That's why I'm going natural, so my (future) children won't have that societal pressure on them...
WeirdGirlParadigm 1 month ago
So funny I just commented on this issue in your Relaxed Girls thread. It is very sad. My DD came home from school telling me she had "bad curly hair." I tried not to react to strongly but inside I was fuming!!! But to be honest, we need to have this dialogue openly and honestly because we know what people mean by "good hair." The funny thing is, I've never heard anyone say "bad hair." It's always "you have good hair" or "you don't have good hair."
Curly4a4life 1 month ago
People are always going to have a visual preference of his or her standard of beauty. That doesn't bother me as much complementing one child while ignoring the other child. Children take so much to heart, especially girls. I hope everyone that watches this video make a point to complement children in general, especially those who do not carry the stereotype of American Beauty.
scookculture 1 month ago
People do my girls like that. My oldest has curly hair and the my youngest hair has a cottony texture. It pisses me off.
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You are so correct. You hear this alot. Good Hair is heathy hair.
Familywife 1 month ago
good hair is healthy hair.. and you can tell. ive seen people with straight hair where people would call "good" and her hair was fried!!
dianniscool 1 month ago 6
I sent this vid to my sister because she's got a 2 yr. old foster daughter that she is raising (her two boys are grown now), and my Mom is constantly saying she has a "bad grade" of hair. I've tried and TRIED to explain to my Mom how damaging these words can be, and even though she doesn't say it in front of her, I'm sure she's picked up on the non-verbal cues. It's the same way my sister and I were raised. Now I've been natural for a year and I'm still playing catch-up trying to learn how to c
Curlyapplegirl 1 month ago
PREACH!!
thelovelyone2008 1 month ago
I so agree, My husband is white and we have seven children and 3 of them are girls. I decided to go natural and a community where there is already a small amount of african americans, but i make a point and telling my girls how I love that my hair is different and I can do all the fun styles. On of my daughters used to feel subconsious of the fact that her hair wasnt as loose curly as her sisters so I knew I needed to do this. I love my hair and she will grow to love her hair.
FreeAnBeingME 1 month ago
I know what you mean Chime. My daughter is black and my son is mixed and people do him like that. People will walk up to my kids and I feel because he is a cute mixed boy they act like that. Its funny cause they will say both my kids are beautiful and well behaved, but then turn around and talk to my son more. That I'm goin 2 have 2 watch out for him and the girls. Im thinkin if u knew me Im not goin. lol My son is goin 2 respect woman n not b a player just because he is cute with good hair.smh
MrsJohnYoung 1 month ago
Amen, young lady. We sistahs have to take better care of each other. Stop with the envy on any level. We all have something to contribute with what God has given us, including our hair. It's just hair. It's not our soul, nor it our spirit. It is hair, that once it has grown out from the scalp it is dead, be it long, short, thick, thin, straight, white, black or gay...get my meaning? What lives is us, what needs to be nurtured more is the being that wears the hair or even has no hair.
MsAdriannes 1 month ago in playlist More videos from HairCrush
Amen! So glad complimented the little black girl!
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Thelordismysheperd92 1 month ago
This video is on point! many ppl dnt realize that you reap what you sow. Alot of ppl who are upset that folk discriminate one of their children over another due to hair texture have done the same thing to other ppl and their children. That's why it pays to give love and do unto others as you would like done to you (and your own children)
TheKeepsitreal 1 month ago
Awesome video!!
ImSuchAVirgo 1 month ago
People tell me and my husband our children are going to have some "good hair". He has very thick wavy hair and mine is very curly. He gets asked if he's mixed all the time and he's B-L-A-C-K!!! My sister wanted to put a perm in my niece's hair, but when my niece (8) saw my hair, she said "NO!" She loves her hair now because she knows someone with hair like hers. I try to make sure I set good examples concerning hair AND skin color in front of her because she is young and impressionable.
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I'd been told by hairstylists all my life that I had curly or "good" hair and that's what made me want to go natural. It was during my transition that I learned how flawed that commentary and me buying into it was. It was also then that I learned how beautiful and versatile so-called bad hair can be. I felt deprived for not knowing that and being unwittingly subject to the good/bad hair mentality for so long. I guess I'm glad that I went natural because of it, but I'm more glad I unlearned it.
thisismysea 1 month ago
Amen!!!! Good lookin out!
FeeFeesPlace 1 month ago
I totally agree, people still have that self-hate mantality that loser curl patterns are better. It starts with how our parents teach us and model behavior of acceptance of differences and uniquness. Please follow me on twitter @kinkybeautiful Thanks
KinkyBeautiful 1 month ago
Thank you and It so sad that we as a people still can't see that that this is how we are still dividing ours as a people. How better life will be if we can "PASS".
StarSpell5 1 month ago
I totally agree. I confronted a gentleman about his comment that my nephew had good hair. He said that I am from the old school but that still does not make it right or acceptable.
vonnejp 1 month ago
I love this! This has trulu been on my mind. I have a sister who is fair skinned while i am slightly darker. She has fine curly baby hair while mine is kinky but one thing i love is that my family always did the best to lest us BOTH know how beautiful we are. In all actuality im more confident than she is! I just know one day when i have children i will tell them how beautiful they are as well as teach her to love her natural hair :)
lovelynaturale 1 month ago
Hmm...I think we all have different taste and preferences as a person and shouldnt be attacked because we voice them. The higher the self esteem the less we accept other peoples opinions & preferences as an attack on us. We cant get upset & make someone like or do flips over what they dont prefer. We are all attracted to different things--light ,dark, white,short, tall, curly,straight, wavy, kinky,rough, soft, thin, thick,etc.. There is no right or wrong in this, just a personal choice.
ywhite20 1 month ago
I saw the episode and once again i cringed at an ignorant Wendy Williams comment. Good hair is healthy and that's it! I wish the term would go away and that Black people would stop degrading each other.
lashon009 1 month ago
Great advice!
LadyKay78 1 month ago
In the real world most dark blacks get complimented on their looks, lol. I tell people that they are nice looking regardless of color. It isn't just about hair and skin color. It boils down to facial features as well. You know how people say the girls with the thinner nose and lips is prettier than the girl with the fuller ones? The hair thing isn't the most important of all. We just act as if it is. Nice video though.
gmcmim1 1 month ago
Yes my older sister has that mentality, and I constantly have to correct her. She keeps saying that, and I keep thinking that by the time I have children, I'm not going to want my kids around her if she continues.
SunshineIzDivine 1 month ago 3
People are going to use the term "good hair". I feel that everything nowadays has to be so politically correct. I'm a fifth grade teacher, and it's amazing to me how every year we have to start using some new term because the old term is now considered offensive. I have four children, all with my same husband. My youngest daugther came out with the curly hair; not kinky at all. I just explain to my other daughter what people really mean when they say her sister has "good hair." She understands.
candygirl2319 1 month ago
super important points!
inapod 1 month ago
amen girl
ticprentice 1 month ago
It's true. People don't realize how statements like "good hair" have negative connotations. It definitely affected my view of hair texture while hearing my mother use terms like this. Thankfully, I came to realize that my hair and texture are things to be cherished, and that if God viewed my hair as bad then He wouldn't have put it on my head! Loving your hair is loving yourself, which is a reason I decided to go natural. Some people don't even realize the negativity they spread.
43Dulce 1 month ago
This guy in the mall just walked up to me in the mall and said "you must have some asian up in you, look at you girl you look good." Because of my hair texture and length he said I had good hair. I've always been disturbed by people saying that. I am that darker skinned little girl all grown up. Its just that I take care of my hair.
emeraldenjoli 1 month ago
hair crush, you r absolutely right. n i cnt say that I hvnt done the same but i now know that its wrong and the damage it can cause psychologically to ppl.... on another note, i was kind of weirded out by the ring on the shower curtain in the background that kept movin on its own lol. random
bsydzdapoint 1 month ago
yea there's a blue light
ilovepancakes397 1 month ago
That's why girls today would rather be a celebrity (a false character) than themselves.
SunniLightfoot859 1 month ago
Some ignorant ppl disliked this video. Your response is very true. If some black ppl focused less on textures of hair and more on their inner ambitions we could achieve a lot more in this life
mesince1988 1 month ago 81
I totally agree with you on this one. Hearing this story made me want to cry, but I'm glad that you were perceptive, and were able to compliment both girls :-) My daughter is biracial, and black people are always complimenting her hair (naturally straight like her father's). I just nod, and walk away. Physical beauty is embedded in how girls are socialized in most societies, but I would like my daughter to feel that her intelligence is her greatest asset. Anyway, loved the video!
jrgoddess 1 month ago 3
omg I cant stand when people say that it is a ignorant remark I have a son that is half white and I have a son that is not when we are in public all people see is my lighter son not my darker son who is one of the most beautiful kids i have ever laid eyes on when people say that in front of him i see this look on his face that hurts my heart but but his little brother loves him everytime someone says that my son reply is what about my brother. I tell my boys how beautiful they are everyday
FabolousChrisshonda 1 month ago 11
@FabolousChrisshonda when people respond that way "light vs dark" it starts to make me feel like we're stuck in the middle ages
denisprowl 1 month ago
I had a friend that had twins, now she was very dark and her husband was very light both African American. However, their twins turned out one dark and one light. Even as babies people would say how pretty the light skinned baby was but in acturality the darker child was more pretty. However, that light skinned "pretty" hair child was the focus of everyone's attention. It made me sad then and it makes me sad now. Keep educating our people Hair crush. Thank you
niecybaby1960 1 month ago 6
All I have to say is yesssssss Xoxo
FanBanks 1 month ago
I'm glad you made this video. I have witnessed incidents of people complementing and praising one child over another because they have "good hair" or they have lighter skin. People don't understand how their comments can be detrimental to the psyche of young minds.
YaNVme 1 month ago 7
My Samsung camera has that same blue line.... I even took it apart to try & fix it. No luck ...still blue.
SheFixesComputers 1 month ago
great video
MessiahChild88 1 month ago
This video was spot on! I also saw this same episode of WW and felt some kind of way about the statement right after she made it. I dnt like the good hair/bad hair comments nor light skin/ dark skin comments...in this day and age its just ridiculous....Its nice to see someone speak on the subject. Thank you.
jaiofspades 1 month ago
Good hair is healthy...doesn't matter what texture as long as you take care of it then it's good(;
Ballerina2527 1 month ago
I love me some Wendy.. but I did cringe when she made that remark :-/
KristenSumiko 1 month ago
Im a quarter white and whenever I flat iron my hair I get asked if I a relaxer and when I say no some people either believe me or think Im lying, also I am light skinned and my black friends always say I am mixed and I don't feel mixed so its weird, but whenever I say it doesn't matter or Im black they say no, and its just weird I know they mean no harm but still why would I lie about these things...
Jazzerbazz 1 month ago
Maybe Brandy said 'yes' just to keep the conversation going. She seemed to want to talk more about the film and she's probably very conscious about her image. Can you imagine if she was like 'actually anyone with healthy hair has good har.' That would seem like an attempt to make Wendy look bad and then in turn that would make Brandy look bad herself as she would have lowered the light-hearted tone of the conversation. I don't think she was there to start an argument about hair.
Morrighanangel84 1 month ago
I completely agree with you in this video!
momobyon 1 month ago
Thanks for this. I'm the dark sister.. my sister is very light. Went through the same nonsense growing up & wanted to be like her. Now I LOVE my brown skin & raise my kids to love it too! Let's say it and keep on saying it. We are ALL beautiful just the way we are!!!
cjlm125 1 month ago 7
I am biracial. When I flatironed my hair I would get stares from the black girls and some young ones would feel so compelled to come over and say "what's your heritage?" and I'll tell them and they would say "oh, I knew you couldn't be full black to have such good hair". I just looked at them and said "oh". What I should've said was "why do you feel the need to come over to me and congratulate me in order to depreciate yourself?" why isn't your hair good? it's ridiculous.
moonnx2 1 month ago 77
i correct pp wen they say i have good hair 2..smh my hair was a HOT MESS (split ends and breakage) 2 years ago so i dont c how tht was good jus beacuse of my texturelolz
Karam3lQT18 1 month ago
U´re a grownup so u´re probably tough n wont let people get u down, but u´re so right, nobody should just compliment 1 kid n leave the other out, good thing u did telling the other the same thing, let´s just hope that kid remembers to take really good care of their hair,everybody should learn to Love their hair ...gotta LOVE hair
MrZapparin 1 month ago
Eventhough, Wendy Williams in her mind didnt mean any harm by the "good hair" comment it still stems from slavery, & was originally a negative statement..we think oh well she just used it in a positive term that wasnt of any offense, but its still self depleting to alot of us..something so little can be VERY big, as it is in the black community. We have to be careful at the manner of how we use SLAVE terms such as "good hair vs nappy hair" as we may not see it as nothing but deep down it is...
spiritualitis 1 month ago
The other twin has damaged hair...so the moral of the story is that genetically speaking, 50:50 chance of having a girl, without proper training its a
toss up with having the skills to manage a healthy head of hair.
mskayshante81 1 month ago
I have a set of fraternal twin nieces with different hair textures, complexions, talents, etc. They're both beautiful little girls but since their birth I've always gravitated to the darker niece. I was so angry when my sister relaxed her hair at age 3 that I couldn't talk to her.
mskayshante81 1 month ago
@mskayshante81 dang 3 years old??? that is way too young! >:(
Smiilez03 1 month ago
First Brandy is known 4wearing weave, she also lent her brand 2dt industry. So I see no reason 2b shocked by her "good hair" reaction. Secondly why do people even watch WendyWilliams? If u like un-researched gossip buy a$2 mag ugh.She brings down da image of black ppl in da worst way. Working feverishly 2uphold negative stereotypes of us. Bet her show never gets cancelled because everyone loves 2see 'black' people act like fools and turn to each other & say "yip told u so! there just like that"
melitimo 1 month ago
I completely agree!! It saddens me that many black women haven't been taught that their hair is beautiful or how to properly care for it. It's so disappointing how only straight & long, or curly hair is beautiful. Good news is I'm seeing more and more naturals each day and I'm so proud. I think the world is starting to come around :)
upcomingdiva 1 month ago
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blackbarbie0427 1 month ago
wow I just wonder y ppl would dislike this video, the message is very true.
labellecongolaise 1 month ago
I really can relate to this video because I was told that I have "slave hair". Its a struggle trying to remain positive when people have so many negative things to say. Thank you for posting this video.
blackbarbie0427 1 month ago
completely agree with you girl. I have a question though. I've just done my big chop and a lot of people say that I can do it because I have "good hair" and I never know how to respond. At times I feel it is not the right time or place to correct/educate people on their terminology but at the same time I feel like I might be missing an opportunity to let people know my hair is only "good" because it is now healthy. What should I do?
thesonganalyst 1 month ago
what? They can't say that the dude has good hair. I mean they didn't say oh I hate my hair and wish it was different they just saying that the dude had nice hair I mean we can't give compliments to other peoples hair in order to feel good about ourselves I mean it doesn't hurt to anckowledge someone els's looks and that story made me want to cry you're really sweet for giving her a little light in her eyes
sweetlitlangel 1 month ago
In my opinion we all should just love who we are. I hear my Caucasian coworkers compliment another coworker who is also caucasian on her hair and the say " she has good hair" and I laugh... Because we all have our hang ups and because I always thought that the good hair bad hair thing was a " black thing"
Oh yeah... The " good hair" co worker's hair is thick and very curly... Go figure...
anmayberry1 1 month ago
Posted to Facebook!
aja4079 1 month ago
Well stated.
luvmyhair2 1 month ago
It really is a shame that people still have this mindset. Like how rude was it in general to give one child a compliment and not the other? I swear some ppl just dont think before they act. I personally have always been told that i had "good" hair. And i have always despised the statement because i never understood what was supposed to be wrong with ever other black persons hair that didnt look like mine
NaturallyMe18 1 month ago
We need to stop worshiping only some features and stop complimenting our young girls only on how pretty they are. Wish we were more focused on empowering our young girls confidence and intelligence over their psychical features... lack of this is why we hear conversation between two women who clearly have hair issues over and over.
Ellexis88 1 month ago 8
i dont think it was really all that serious of a comment! Everybody finds something to be offended by or just stunned by. i think it was just a silly litlle comment! no harm or foul meant by it all.
ktb727 1 month ago
@ktb727 i agreed,people need to to being so sensitive about the good hair bad hair jokes....its draining.
hotties3v3n 1 month ago
I feel like that when im around my bi racial friend. completely ignored smh. i feel for that little girl
dshae2293 1 month ago
the affects of slavery!!!! still hurting, still hating, and still passing this on from one generation to the next. Lord have mercy.
frediakisart 1 month ago
Its funny because sometimes I think we are so beyond the "Good Hair' talk, but then I snap back to reality. I cringed when I saw that episode and I thought about her daughter too. I just think we have to be so careful of what we say to children It really has to be an at home thing. We have to make our kids feel good about their looks because as soon as the leave our house 100 people tell them they aren't good enough.
bajestar24 1 month ago
Thank you for your thoughts... this is such a common story...when will it end?
crownofHisglory 1 month ago
Both stories made me feel really sad. Sometimes I feel like that kind of thinking will never end because its so embeded in our mind.
glassgloss 1 month ago
Is it just a coincidence that both women have incredibly thin hair and/or receding hairlines?
blaquelove 1 month ago
My daughter is by-racial, with loose curly hair, she is also very light. I am black with kinky hair that I wear natural. People will actually say to her "you must look like your daddy" when in reality she looks like me just lighter with curly hair. Its hurt her identity in a way because she thinks I am beautiful and wishes her hair looked like mine. Its another flip of the coin. In this world people want you to hate yourself no matter what you are we have to teach our kids to love themselves!
CamilleAngelou 1 month ago 3
Thank you for telling the other child she was beautiful as well:)
My sister and I have different fathers and she is a quarter white. People would always comment on how beautiful she was in front of me, while ignoring me. My mom would have to get their attention and tell them that BOTH of her daughters were beautiful, and I thank my Momma for that:)
missamericanpie1 1 month ago 85
@missamericanpie1 amen
dshae2293 1 month ago
@missamericanpie1 thats good your mother recognized that. good mom.
MsAfricanIndian 1 month ago
Spot on, Chyme. I'm 16 and I was told I had good hair for my whole childhood; because the curls are loose and, and I never really understood the social implications for a long time.
Now, at times I wish I could get an afro, I tried so hard xD
Let's all be happy with what God gave us.
sensiquest 1 month ago
yeah i think it is bad. there is really no such thing as good hair. hell white women and men have kinky hair as well when they stop putting chemicals in their hair. their hair actually draw up as well....so there is no such thing as good hair.
MegaNetta20 1 month ago
When me and my sister were little, she would get all the compliments and I wouldnt get a damn thing lol...She was/is waaay lighter and her hair was more smoother & had a looser curl.. I never felt any way about it. I guess I just accepted that she got compliments and I didnt :( My mother and father definitely noticed ..But They didnt say anything about up until a few years ago..
KellyGreene08 1 month ago
u r so right. im glad u took a moment to share that
VeraJ100 1 month ago
I personally had this term given to me most my life but behind closed doors I struggle bc my hair was thicke and it took a lot of work to make it look like "good hair" or to train it. Now being natural I see my grandmother is the one who planted thought by her words and comments toward my more natural hair. And I'm reversing / erasing that thought in my family where my younger cousins are choosing not to relax there hair when they get older and who love their coils and hair texture as is.
candiholic18 1 month ago
This is very true...healthy hair is better hair!
candiholic18 1 month ago
It is the most awkward feeling and almost inexplicable too. Anyway, my point is so many people argue and hate the use of term "good hair" but in my experience I am treated like I have "good hair". Like I cannot possibly identify with them. So I do not exaclty understand the dislike of the term when this is my experience ALL THE TIME. Does this makes sense- hope so! Tell me your thoughts!
cindasoot 1 month ago
good message, BUT. My hair is about your length and quote on quote "good hair" and natural. My friend's hair is quote on quote "nappy" and natural. When we are out and about, other black women with her kind of hair hair come along, comment about hair, the natural process etc, exchange questions and I am LITERALLY ignored and given a side eye.
cindasoot 1 month ago
good message, BUT. My hair is about your length and quote on quote "good hair" and natural. My friend's hair is quote on quote "nappy" and natural. When we are out and about, other black women with her kind of hair hair come along, comment about hair, the natural process etc, exchange questions and I am LITERALLY ignored and given a side eye.
cindasoot 1 month ago
Loved this vid! The courthouse story gave me the sads.... I hate the concept of good and bad hair. It doesnt help anyone.
Sharipoo 1 month ago
it's a shame that some people still think this way and can't appreciate the beauty of kinky/nappy/coarse hair.
hwiley09 1 month ago
I have very kinky/thick/coarse hair that I absolutely love. I started getting perms at a very young age. I look back at all the comments people have made about other children having "good hair" and how it really did make me feel like my hair was bad.This mentality disgusts me. I have natural hair now and I'm finally able to enjoy my hair when before it was nothing but a source of stress. I was always worrying whether it was straight enough. I think more people are opening their minds today but
hwiley09 1 month ago
I agree completely. Well said!
spoonks1 1 month ago
Your words were so awesome sis! Im appalled that Brandy agreed with Wendy....I can see Wendy saying that tho. And so sad to hear about your experience with the little girls! Kudos for you telling them both that they were Beautiful:-) Your Beautiful!!! I have two girls and we all have different hair textures, however we all are beautiful:-) And I let them know that!!! Thanx for sharing love!:-)
BeauGorgeousNatural 1 month ago
So true! Thanks for bringing this up.
honeybdream 1 month ago
I totally agree with you Chime! I have made it a point to encourage little girls and when I have daughters I will let them know how beautiful and amazing their hair is.
brittloveslife86 1 month ago
who's idea was it to randomly ASSUME kinky hair is "bad"....as if its harmful or threatening?? ITS HAIR!!
ZaydelZemirah 1 month ago
you are my hair inspiration. I dont like the term "good hair" it just makes me cringe inside when anyone says that term
Brenalava09 1 month ago
Even if Brandi didn't agree with Wendy the fact that she ALWAYS wears fake hair that is usually silky straight, says something about what she thinks about her own hair.
blackrraine 1 month ago
you are so right about that, i believe in telling all young girls to love them self in to love the hair and skin GOD give you , this world in the people in it have to make a stand in a change for the better , no matter how we look or what we have , just to be them self, even when people of the world cant see beauty , for all things GOD has made beautiful :D GOD bless you hun , great video , young girls need to hear this , is well is some older women
IndianNaturalCurly 1 month ago
I did see the show when it aired. Sad but true our people still use this term. I have worked so hard in building my daughter's self esteem especially around her hair. I loved the way it coiled when she was younger so much that I began my natural hair journey (11 yrs). She gets upset if her hair is not done like mine. Thanks for the topic.
TheTwistedCurl 1 month ago
I saw the show and I was shock to hear Wendy Williams say that and Brandy agreed, I wonder how Brandy's daughter felt about that.
TheUniqueGemini 1 month ago
Am not surprised Wendy has issues with her hair she always says it on the show that she hates her natural hair and can,t leave without the weaves.Pathetic!
MultiNaturals 1 month ago
Spot on.
supertoshaful 1 month ago
amen
alishasguide 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos
Healthy hair is the winner no good or bad hair
londonpie72 1 month ago 33
Great video! I asked my mom a few weeks ago why she relaxed my sisters hair when she was a kid and she said the because she had nappy hair and I said we all do. She said, yes, but that while my hair was nappy, it was manageable and that my sisters was nappy and unmanageable. I told her it was only unmanageable because she didn't know how to take care of it. We got into a little debate that truly pissed me off. How could someone hate their own hair texture and carry it their kids? It's sad.
Noviiay 1 month ago
such a great topic!!! I wish I would have went natural earlier, actually i wish my mother would have never let me get my first perm and I would have embraced the hair that God gave me from the beginning!! But its never too late to start:) and I'm on my way to au natural
chantelsdiamond101 1 month ago
When it comes to "good hair" everyone has their own preferences...and unfortunately Wendy and Brandy have distorted ones...
ArtIsMyTrueLove 1 month ago
finally a video! Please dont make me wait this long again chime! lol
jujulesxo 1 month ago
I don't care what nobody says Wendy Williams is a man!! Male patrern baldness is why she always wearing those hideous wigs! I don't wear weave but I have seen a ton of cute weaves on average everyday people Wendy Williams is a millionaire there is NO excuse for her to be walking around and all on tv with her hair looking like that!
UTubeuzername84 1 month ago
GREAT MESSAGE! Our young black women need their self-esteems built. This has been going on for way too long. Although we cannot change the actions of others, we can make a difference ourselves. Chime was an example in the scenario she gave. Side note, Chime, have you every tried flat twist outs?? I figured with your hair length, it would be difficult, but it could still take less time than single twists...
MissKay77 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos
@vanillcherrypixiepie Wendy might not have meant anything bad, but it was an ignorant self hate comment, insuiating that brandy's hair is not good because its kinky or nappy but when she has a baby with her guy who has wavy hair then their kids will have good hair, and that is a bad message for young black women and girls.
Yakiniful 1 month ago
Thank you for this video bc my whole childhood and adult life I was teased about my hair and people mainly family and friends saying u have bad hair. So I secretly wanted "good hair" but then I realized my hair is fun and versatile. This message needs to reach more ppl. Thanks girl btw more videos please! Peace and nappyness
naturalLady28 1 month ago
really really good video..Since I have been natural, it never had cross my mind, that we didn't appreciate our hair and we do say nappy with definitely not an intent of a good thing, like its bad, I have to constantly remind my mom, no my daughter do not need her hair pressed, her natural curls are just fine..its so sad that we have been brainwashed to think we have bad hair, even i was guilty of it..but now I embrace my tresses and I'm trying to get my daughter to do the same...
calculatefees 1 month ago
really really good video..Since I have been natural, it never had cross my mind, that we didn't appreciate our hair and we do say nappy with definitely not an intent of a good thing, like its bad, I have to constantly remind my mom, no my daughter do not need her hair pressed, her natural girls are just fine..its so sad that we have been brainwashed to think we have bad hair, even i was guilty of it..but now I embrace my tresses and I'm trying to get my daughter to do the same...
calculatefees 1 month ago
These people are grown, they must be able to see that the little black girl is feeling ignored, but its just accepted behaviour nowadays- they may have had this happen to them and they just repeat the destructive cycle.
I dont see this cycle ending any time soon, but I dont think that should stop us whp can see the damage it causes from doing our bit :) great vid x
And I dont watch the Wendy Williams show because of this very reason - she comes out with a lot of BS
QueenChezabelle 1 month ago
Ur so right and I agree with another post saying brandy and Wendy have issues with their hair, it's 2012 we got to do better!
chikwitambition87 1 month ago
Not surprised that Wendy Williams made that comment and u r totally right. I'm done with the whole good hair bad hair comparison.
chikwitambition87 1 month ago
Being a Mom to a black little girl I try to empmhasize how important it is to be smart and kind... Of course coplimenting her on her natural beauty is cool but its more important to just be a nice person... So instead of your hair is pretty its your so smart your so kind your the best baby in the world....
simplifyingme 1 month ago
GURL....I felt the same way when she said that! I really given that comment the side eye too!
MichelleOriana 1 month ago
Good vid. I feel like Wendy knew exactly what she was saying. Controversial comments = more publicity.
Funny enough I've never (and don't think I'll ever) watch a full episode of that show
dreamsatsea 1 month ago
That's when the hurt and damage is done; when they are still kids and then we wonder how come the men choose to marry outside of the race when they become succesful. As kids they saw how we defined beauty.
adesania 1 month ago
Great Video..since i started my hair journey 2 years ago, I have made it a point to tell my girls how beautiful their hair is! I grew up so confused and frustrated with my hair and I don't want my girls to feel they way I did as a child regarding my hair.
shanira31 1 month ago
thank you so much for touching on this subject. i try to educate my friends on using the term "good hair". saying that just adds another category for people to be placed in to feel like they dont add up to certain standards or excluded from what people see as "good" or "accepting"
2010rbt 1 month ago
oh so true
giggles771984 1 month ago
My hair is thick, shiny, strong, full as hell and HEALTHY. THAT is good hair
olan88 1 month ago
i recently went natural and i LOVE it. however i dont have what people would condsider "good hair" and i've noticed that 99% of the compliments about my hair are from other natural women. i just think that its interesting.
briidukes 1 month ago
great points!
napzfaya 1 month ago
Great vid. Unfortunaltey many in our community still have those "good hair\bad hair" beliefs.
whitneysolier1 1 month ago
True that! I cringe when I hear "good hair" but always add it's not good or bad hair but doing what keeps it healthy and you happy! We just need to know what our individual hair likes and responds well to. Thanks for this!
regmcole 1 month ago
you are so right
js2g4e 1 month ago
i agree with you hun
js2g4e 1 month ago
my daughters are totally opposite...my oldest is chocolate with fine curly hair and my youngest is vanilla with thick coarse hair but i have always let them know that they are both beautiful in their uniqueness....thanks for speaking on the subject because we get this a lot in Louisiana!!!
the1stsweetp 1 month ago
I agree with you 100%...it really needs to stop!!!
Calouhe 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos
Great video! I think it is so important to be aware of our comments, I feel saddened by the incident you shared and I pray that the mother makes sure to give love and praise equally.
CurlyCeeCee 1 month ago
You are so on point. I try to stay conscious because it is so important. I know how this can affect young girls. Their poor self-esteem just plummets and its so sad. I didn't watch the Wendy William's show, but it's just ignorance. Wendy is wearing a wig for whatever reasons, probably because in her industry her crowning glory isn't good enough, same with Brandy, and there they sit talking about good hair.
TheKellistarr 1 month ago
Thank you!!!!!
Kiyomidoll1 1 month ago
I wish we'd stop making excuse for folks who continue to perpetuate this "self" hate message. It's said that when you know better you do better. I feel like we don't believe we are enough. It's so sad. Then, we'll say "I don't get this generation and their actions." See, it's because they are getting the message that who they are they way they are isn't enough. Also, why do we have to include other races all of the time. It waters down the real issues we must confront. Nice vid. No shade to you.
zheahra 1 month ago
Good video...I hate that term "good hair". I have people tell me "I would go natural but my hair is nappy and not curly like yours." Or they say...I can't go natural because I don't have good hair..I always say good hair is healthy hair. :-)
caribb6877 1 month ago
The whole story about the 2 little girls I can relate.. Some ppl on here don't get the thought process of blk girl.. Different scenario but same thing.. Easter when I was like 4 all my cousins were at church ppl kept coming up and telling my cousins how pretty they were and no one said anything to me.. I started crying because I didn't feel pretty and the biggest thing that popped out to me was I was the darkest.. Then started my color complex.. I grew out of it but still that's how it starts..
BluBerriBabiKisses90 1 month ago
I have 3 nieces who range in all shades, I try my best to build their self esteem so they know that light, brown, dark brown, they're all beautiful. Funny story, I've been perm free since Dec. '09, made the decision to flat iron my hair for this past Christmas, My nieces who are 7,3, and 2 told me they love my curly hair. This made me light up inside, I really can't express.
TiffNotANY 1 month ago
When I watched the video it seemed like Wendy was serious and Brandy was just rolling with the punches.. The reason I say this is because Brandy's daughter has long natural hair and if Brandy had a problem with her hair she would have relaxed it by now(she's 10?).. But I do agree what you said kids do look at what adults think is beautiful and strive to be that.. Ppl forget you learn what beauty is even if it's shallow thinking at a young age by adults.. So you need to watch what you say..
BluBerriBabiKisses90 1 month ago
@CrownJewel32
If you've never heard "this crap" before in your life then you probably shouldn't comment because you have no experience with the subject. It's like somebody saying I don't think teenage pregnancy is as big of a deal as people make it because I've never met a teenage mother before in my life. Meanwhile there are a bunch of teenage girls with babies on their hips. So just because you're ignorant to the subject doesn't mean it doesn't exist. Educate yourself.
MsNatster93 1 month ago
I love you ^^
rick92rr 1 month ago
My sister had her baby two weeks ago and the first thing people say is how "dark" she'll be "BUT she's cute and has good hair". It's sickening.
TXejas19 1 month ago
you are so right. Thank you for making this video!
Mrschinasa 1 month ago
Excellent message!! Wendy and Brandy seem to have issues with their hair, both of them. But that's just a feeling I have.
Laurnea 1 month ago 28
Chime, I Love your attention and passion on this issue, sorry to say it is not gonna change anytime soon due to the mind set of people ESPECIALLY in America and in the southern states it is out of control with the "good hair" thing. It was simply a divisionary tatic invented by our slave masters to keep us in line that continues to this very day as you can see.
tjbmom123 1 month ago
People do that! My son has my hair texture and my daughter doesn't. My daughter is only two but she's already seeing the attention her older brother gets because of his hair it pisses me off how people can be so ignorant. I make sure my daughter knows that her hair is just as beautiful no matter the texture.
puffgrl 1 month ago 7
Preach! Very good video. I commend you!
Stayls 1 month ago
i know what you mean i seen it. it made me feel sad cuz they don't know there hair is pretty to.... i wish she could see us natural .
cahal333 1 month ago
Excellent message!! :)
NaturalMystic71 1 month ago
Co-sign 100%
I think the "good hair" term injects low self esteem into our young girls. We have to do better as a race. I still feel bad for the little girl, she needs to be uplifted as well.
asianeyedbeauty 1 month ago 4
I've said it once and I'll say it again: "good hair" is hair that is free from lice and alopecia.
tigereyes5 1 month ago 39
@HairCrush i dnt think wendy ment anything bad when she used the term gd hair. u no she crazy lol. but i do believe we as black ppl need to reeducate ourselves and learn to love who we r as ppl nt as colour ( am British by the way thats how we spell colour)
vanillcherrypixiepie 1 month ago
:-/ Yeah. I get this, too, about my daughter. My husband is white, and black people comment ALOT about her hair. Her hair is long (to her bottom) and thin with curls. My son is 2 1/2 years older hair, and he has super thick coils and kinks. Two kids with the same parents, with two totally different textures of hair. She hears all the time how, "pretty" her hair is, and she can't stand it. Luckily, my son is not as effected since it's about hair and he doesn't really care about that, but still.
lanicert 1 month ago
Love the message, Your hair is gorgeous.
Thanks for sharing
prettycarmencurls 1 month ago
This whole "good hair/bad hair" issue is getting old. Just because you are mixed does NOT mean you will have a certain type of hair texture. A friend of mine is African-American & Chinese. Her hair is like Kimora Lee's daughter's in length, but alot kinkier and curlier. This and other topics like it need to die and so do the ignorance. It's dead skin cells people
MsArdenDante 1 month ago
@MsArdenDante, hair is not dead skin cells.
cumensu 1 month ago