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Oh honey..... I want to just hug you right now! I have insomnia as well, anxiety, depression...possibly from a medical cause, but I know how you feel. I've only had these problems at this intensity for 5 months and it's killing me! I feel like people like us need real friends, like a mentor to literally be with us day to day and help us overcome the anxiety. Someone to offer hugs and encouragement, calm us down... help us smile. A hand to hold as we go out into the world... It might help.
Look for a job thats a little more solitary. Being in a fast paced job is ok but I'd look for something that has a little less interaction with other people!
I am the same exact way, I was crying watching it because I hate that other people have to go through the same fear in life. I just want to run away and hide from everybody. Im a caregiver that works with one person at a time and I still get social anxiety.
I also wish people would realize that the nervous other people feel is not the same as the nervous that people with anxiety feel it's on a whole different level.
@assassinc101 totally agree, I've had friends that didn't understand and would tell me about how they felt nervous and were in my shoes. I think they can still feel nervous but they dont loose their ability to think straight like real social anxiety people do.
@OMFGsoBOARD exactly because you can tell when people feel the way you do. most people say there nervous but on the other hand there going to places like walmart without hesitation it's like wow i thought you were nervous lol
@OMFGsoBOARD no lol i was just using that as an example. But I don't really get nervous from walkiing around in wal-mart it's when im forced to confront people like if i have to go up and pay for something or when i make eye contact.
Wow im in the same situation you are in i got hired at the casino and basically im happy and im really disliking it at the sametime i start friday which im really not liking it at all. Don't you love it when you try to tell your family and friends about it and they say crap like get over it, a good example is when i was visiting my brother and i try to talk to him about it and he says you know what life is to short to worry about crap like that, boy that pissed me off so bad
its not your fault its a hormone inbalance i tried everything basically was getting ready to live with it and i discovered omega 3-fish oils and dhea it worked for me it might work for you.
i was in axactly the same situation i qiut starbucks i live on my own no family and their kickig me on the street (because i finished school i cant collect welfare- im screwed
they dont know how to encourage being ontime without throwing out skilled employee's and lowering there production standards. some places do do this and they usually build or make a better product or service. a better more experienced work force is in all of our interest one way or another.. im just ranting but whatever, it's fun to rant so there!
I can tell right away that part of your job issues arise from the fact that most at least American employers completely ignore the expense of losing skilled employee's,and it is a fact that employee retention is expensive but this entire country ignores it. to retrain a current employee would cost them less then hiring new in the long run and we all intend to live a long life i once thought anyways. people make mistakes and mostly when they are new. even out of college.
i am going through the EXACT same thing. i just started my new job today and i want SO BADLY to just enjoy it moment to moment without all the fear and pain that comes with anxiety...i almost started crying at the end of your vid cus i can feel every ounce of your pain and i know how much stress you feel and its not fair. and anyone who says "get over yourself" or "just stop worrying" can go to hell. they have 0% understanding of what a person with anxiety disorder goes through, they're assholes
omg this is exactly my problem now..im 19 and have never had a job in my life! people, especially my bf, don't understand and will call me lazy and dependent on others. They don't get how much i am willing to work and am no way lazy at all.
i stopped "watching" myself and i am now a lot more fluid in conversations and i have little or no stress/anxiety when i go to school. I am not a social butterfly but i can share laughs here and there with people.
i notice that people with social anxiety try to "control' their actions and worry about what everyone will think. i am not an expert but mabey if you can some how Not care what happens in life, there will be no need for anxious feelings. why should you give a shit what others think when it brings you down? it just doestn't matter.
The thought patterns social anxiety create in a person may be very hard to get rid of. The anxiety thoughts comes automatically, and as your adrenaline level rises you also become more paranoid and rational thought gets really difficult. It's not just about thoughts, it's the whole body including your brain preparing for a possible dangerous situation, the sub conscious has somehow learned that an normal social situation is somehow dangerous, and it doesn't care about rationality.
I could try not to care, but deep inside I care more about that than anything else. I know the rationality around it, that I shouldn't think that way, but could I simply stop care, then I and all people with SAD would have stopped caring so damn much about everything a loooooooooong time ago.
wow , i seriously felt like i was the only one. I havnt held a job in almost 2 1/2 years. i cant believe this happens to other people. the fears just take over your life. I feel like such a hermit crab.
I think you're very brave for posting this video about your SAD. The world has definitely become a more unfriendly place for the sensitive amongst us. I was wondering if you've considered cognitive therapy? Also a regular program of exercise can also do wonders for your mental state.
ive had social anxiety my whole life its very hard to deal with. i work in a pub so i have to talk and deal with ppl every day :( i know everyone likes me but my own demons keep telling me otherwise. i am starting with a psychologist on monday to try and overcome my fears and start living!! thanks for the great video
the worst part about this, is that if you are living with someone else who has to support you, or even for people around you, it just looks like you have an attitude problem and don't get along with any of your workmates, ever.
That, or they just say you are lazy. I am a super materialistic person, I love buying new shit and feeling productive, but I really feel terrible and stressed when in a workplace. It's fucking terrible.
I wish we lived closer. It's so rare I hear somebody put that the way you did. I desperatly want a job and a girlfriend but the irrational fear always wins. Makes me cry just thinking about it....
Oh my god. That is exactally how I feel , it makes me feel like such a heel. my boyfriend supports me and we live with my family. everyone at my jobs thought i had a terrible attitude. certin members of my family think im lazy. and always ask if im "lookin for work yet?" your so right its terrible.
yeah i understand this too. im wonderful when im being interviewed too but on the actual job i have to fight my anxiety, and then you have ppl talking shit to you b/c your not as out going as they want you to be, and its like damn!, you dont understand that its a miracle for me to just be here! for me to even get the nerve to come in here and jut fill out the appliation is a miracle!
Finding this video made me feel better because I have felt so alone with this same EXACT problem. I am a Registered Veterinary Nurse and have a hi stressed career and I cannot keep a job the past 3+ years or so after working for 8 years.Its just has continuously worse and is crippling me.Hearing you speak about panic,anxiety,insomnia and how you feel at work or before..is the exat same way.thx for sharing.gonna sub to your channel
get mad, people respect it. tell them what dicks they are. tell them when you don't approve. keep being yourself and standing up for what is right. fuck them, they are already dead. find shit that makes you happy and if that is giving a shit so be it. a world full of them and we would have to call them zombies
this is great. i completely can relate to the crippling effects the work world can have on cetain ppl. I have told my parents but they have no idea what changes take place once i start clock in evrday. I can't control it; its like i should be painting or doing what i was meant for; molding into corp. world just kills my soul; I feel unprofessional and incompetent half the time; feel so awkward when having to make eye contact, and just want to die having a line of eyes on me. i wont live verylng
Actually I have to start a new work the next monday...already now I feel like shit..like paralized, my stomach crawls, don't wanna talk, I look at the clock every 5 minutes hoping that monday will not come soon...and I will have to face it again alone...as it was in the past 20 years...this is my karma..
oh yes...i can relate to all this..since over 20 years I have the same problems regarding social anxiety in jobs...I'm not going to tell you, how many times i changed the work..and every time i found a new one, it's the same drama over and over again...The beginning is so hard...especially the morning before the first work day...I feel miserable...
I feel for you. I have the same thing. Once I was about to get into my car for my first day at Arby's and I burst into tears and couldn't even make it to the building.
:( How can one hope to be happy with that kind of anxiety?
you like ready read a lil bit that helps a lot. And make sure you socialize with friends and family thats real helpful. Take care be safe and Good Luck.
Don't drink Alcohol to get away from your problems, that's not cool. And Sleep Hallucinations is actually a type of anxiety. You have to be strong at night and realize that you have a problem and try to sleep with the Hallucinations. I know me personally sometimes I wake so lost in the mornings from night Hallucinations. Another thing when your at home try to be as calm as possible con watch to much tv or be on the pc to much that actually can cause anxiety,
you seem a very kind person. we all get anxiety once and awhile, sometimes its hard for me to. i have used pot and alcohol at times to releive this and its. I understand why some people can come off like "bitch" because of anxiety or problems in their life that others do not understand. hang in their honey, your beautifull, try your best hunny. hopefully this new one works out, keep fighting it, if in very limited moderation pot may do the trick, i enjoy some once and a while.
I Can't work with the public anymore because I feel they are looking at me weird and thinking bad of me when probably there not it's just in my mind,I really dont know if i have asd,when i walk down the street I feel people are looking at me from windows i hate it!
YEAA! same thing happens to me!!! wtf is that? I hate that god damn irrational fear. Is it from our primitive past in our evolution? To CONSTATNLY wonder what others are doing. I fucking HATE IIIIIITTTTTTT. I wanna put a shotgun bullet straight through my amygdala
Oh that fear of the windows, I know that one. We have lots of old people in my town, so you'd always find one in a window staring at you if you cared to look. ;P Hated that shit. But my SAD isn't that bad anymore. Suddenly the overwhelming fear I used to feel just didn't feel so overwhelming anymore, and now it's just about gone. I did nothing to get out of it. But the thought patterns I've developed after 10 years of SAD won't lose the grip yet, I just don't feel that afraid anymore.
With my job, I've had to learn how to not outwardly show my symptoms of anxiety, at the same time I feel like a whiner because I can control my anxiety to some point. I also get really overwhelmed really easily which makes it easier for me to mess up when I'm dealing with a customer which just makes the entire situation worse. I'm lucky that my boss has kind of figured out my anxiety issues but he is very nice about it. he tries to help me any way he can but he doesn't "make fun of me".
one of the best things to do is learning deep relaxation before forth coming events and the best relaxation technique is Yoga Nidra, it helps with all sorts of nervousness, fear and stress related problems by way of balancing both brain hemispheres. Its always available on ebay, look for the title
OMG! I know exactly how you feel! I hate going to work aswell and I just hate it cause I don't talk to much people and they probably think I'm weird and/or stuck up but it really has to do with my own problem of social anxiety. I recently graduated from university and I need to go out and get a job, but that fuckin scares me and it's cause of the social aspect of having a job-the small talk with co-workers, greeting clients etc...agghhh..
I'm 53 and suffer from this as well. You have to accept the anxiety and not fight it. If you fight it, it escalates. You are a charming young woman. Be yourself.
lol well i can't even handle anymore than 3 people..i finaly gave up and got on ss thow i have bipolar and many other mental problems and lil bite of a learning problem i tried and tried...got burnt out and ....broke down. and that was it.
Read Explaining colours to a blind man. Not only will it enlighten many as to what living with a mental illness is like, it also gives comfort to those sufferers who think there is no hope and that they are alone. It is very informative, sometimes shocking but also very funny in parts. All in all, a good read and highly recommended.
Wow! Ditto on everything you just said. I feel the same way day to day. While I'm not on my own, I am financially dependent, but I say I'm in school as an excuse. And I absolutely LOATHE it when people say, "Just get over it!" So, thanks for being so candid.
Well I can seriously see the reality of living on your own in this video while going through social anxiety disorder. All I can say is that I work at a local retail store and I started off on night shift, recovered from my anxiety somewhat then moved to days and ill never go back to nights, I do simular work, deal with some customers but I enjoy it greatly overall. Try your best, dont give up, find a perfect job thats somewhat social/anti social, and you'll do fine
now you say the manager at your job was unhappy with you...well if somthing happends and you end up leaving fine go ahead....but i know this might sound silly but you should try working at mcdonalds...just for a year, because it will expose you to all kinds of people all the time and its one of the most busiest resturants....they might put you in the window, frong counter or back drive...or run (they expose you to people directly) through all the embarssement/panic you will overcome i promise.
I did work at Starbucks, which is probably as busy as McDonald's. but the crowd is different. Yeah, the anxiety was there but I got through it at the time. The reason I can't do such a public setting at the present time is because of the PHYSICAL symptoms of anxiety, it's not just mental like before. I have the same symptoms of a heart attack when I get panic attacks, it's beyond my control, so that's the only reason I haven't. But in time I will give it a shot :)
if you were to go to a specialist to help you he/she would basically tell you that you have to expose yourself to your fear. just like a fear of spiders when someone is constantly exposed the fear may be still there but is much lesser.... i have social anxiety too and i work at mc donalds LOL let me tell you i had problems and was on the virge of quiting because its a people place (a people friendly place)
i know how you feel i get anxiety really bad when im hanging out with people i havent known for a LONG time u know? i've been with my boyfriend for 5 years so im very comfortable with him but it took a WHILE. when i go to hag out with his friends its hard for me to make them my friends too. its so hard cuz my b/f will try and tell me its ok theres nothing to be nervous about, and i know this but my body doesnt want to belive it. my hearts races i feel like i want to go home. we just cant help it
I'm still having difficulties. Better than I was. Used to be unable to leave house w/o panicking, couldn't answer phone/make calls,etc. 1 thing I found made the most impact was cognitive behavioral therapy. It's really made things less severe. Had it in a group setting w/other SAD sufferers. Don't know what your health insurance situation is, but if you can get the means CBT is something to look into. Sorry for typos I'm doing this 1 handed while breastfeeding my daughter.
hats off to u lady!! i can see an enormous volcano of energy in you. you are(were) in a very difficult financial and mental situation but still u managed to put such a good and composed video. i thought that u were telling my story. As i am still struggling big time with my SAD, so i am not in a position to give u any advice. all i want to say that u must hang on in there. there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I wish u lived in England and we could be friends. may God bless us.
i was working cleaning and there was 6 people and it was really bad and i end up quiting and i live at home it trying to own my own store online and im hoping it go's throw and i thank you for all your videos
I know how u feel and it feels like an endless cycle, but ur lucky u at least have a fast paced job...i dont have a job bc im so panicy when it comes to interviews so i hope that everything goes well for you.
Please try and find the right meds for your anxiety. Combine that with a social network who specialise in social phobia and anxiety would be a huge step forward. You have friends who love you and wish you the best in life. Please try this!
i agree, i use to have schitzophrenia and i was thinking of commiting suicide about everyday for months and slowly(in my drawing class)i started to listen to the new testament on my zune and a radio christian station and started praying to god(i gave up believing in him before this) and slowly the voices went away(i also stopped smoking marijuanna (what made me get it) and now its gone(i still have anxiety(mostly from the schitzophrenia)
i know it's difficult, but it would be good to find a job where you enjoy what you're doing where you're working with people who are understanding and not judgmental.
you seem to be a pretty intelligent person, i'm sure if you look hard enough you can find something. develop your writing skills :) they can take you to cool places. and of course never give up looking for your niche!
no it's not something you can just get over it takes time with the right therapy and help. Medication only masks the problem, therapy gets to the root causes of the disorder and that's when you truly heal and see the results.
I hear ya :) I got so tired of this shit that I started to really dig deep and looked at all sorts, eastern philosophy etc, I think "mindfulness" ie bhudists approach observing your thoughts etc is something that's kinda embraced by western psychotherapy these days, but I have found more control over these mind games by really starting to observe myself in these situations, everyones go their own way I guess, give me a shout if ya wanna talk or anything and I hope your internet still works :) G
´hi, I work as a waitress on weekends and it's a work in progress as far as my anxiety goes, I've learned soo much it'd be great to share experiencies, send me a message, take care!
How do I control my anxiety at work? It's my 3rd restaurant, I work as a waitress on weekend and go to uni, and I've learned that there are cool places, cool people and bad places with mean people so you just gotta choose whats best for you and grow, anxiety or not, that's how it is for everyone, learn from mistakes and really focus on things that make you happy and project that in your work
Anyway hope that previous job you had call you back, seems like you found a niche, I had a job like that but they promoted me becasue they thought I might be getting bored, stupildy I agreed, left that job not long after.
Unfortunately the present job I have taken is in an office, which I hate. I am actually an IT manager, god knows how I even got the job!
I started off ok but slowly I have become more introverted, a pattern for me, so now I just feel like shit at work.
I was interested in your commment that they loved you at the interview, I have the same problem, interviews I seem to be able to come across as outgoing, gregarious, but I can't keep it up when I get the job.
I don't have any suggestions unfortunately but just wanted to relate to what you are going through.
I've had 10 jobs in the last 15 years, been at my present one for 6 months, which is turing to shit as i can't seem to handle the people interaction and it is very stressful, well for me it is!
Most jobs I have left becuase of social anxiety, the jobs I have stayed longest at have been ones where people interaction was at a minimum, or it's in short bursts.
girl, i plan on being fucking fake when i get a job (pretty soon) because i sure as hell won't make it long at that job w/ my social anxiety fucking self! ughhhhhhh! and fuck anyone who says to just get over it! (my parents) ugh im really pissed right now
Man...I know, I have been really fake in a lot of jobs I have had. It's just hard to keep it up for so long. But good luck to you, and i'm sorry your parents don't understand. It sucks!
Hey ur not alone! I quit my job bcuz I felt so depressed working ther nd felt like i didnt fit in , i walked in and said i quit and burst out crying haha. xxx
Its a real nasty disorder it just makes u wanna puke up. Youre mind gets filled with fear thoughts. I recon mine stems from childhood experiences and living with a alcoholic father
I spent 10 F**KING years in my basement, I f**k up 10 years of my life, I lost a lot of money, time, energy, friends, gf, school degree, work, and WORST of all, my health. AFter losing all those beautiful things and years of my youth and life, I just woke up and still have social anxiety AND now my health and my skin is so messed up, I hate myself 10 more times than I did 10 years ago.You know what I wish?Save someone's life and die trying,so that at least God's forgive me my sins...
I think we should have some sort of support group? What do u think of that? I also do not have a lot of friends because of all my "issues" I have lost a lot of them. They get tired of hearing the same shit all the time.
Support groups are good, especially since there arent many good local ones. I am working on something, a website that will offer a lot of that. I will keep you posted. I have lost a LOT of friends too, I am sorry youve had to go through it :/ Take care.
BUT u have to know that it made me feel 110 percent better knowing that you go through this.. and I am not "crazy" or alone in the world with this issue. I have e kids and they are seeing mommy quits all her jobs. Not a good example.
That part SUCKS... they don't want to be related to me.. (ie. last name) and they don't get it... I hear yah when u say people tell u just get over it. YAH NOT as easy as that sounds. In fact, I don't know how I will overcome it.
I want you to know that I just googled searched for anxiety in the workplace and found your you tube.... I was sooo happy and completely understand what you are going through. I have exactly a lot of the same issues as you have. I am 37 and have been to over 12 jobs in 4 years.. It sucks. My family takes bets on how long I will last at each job.
Ohh, and when you work and you get self contious its difficult, I know. All you have to say to yourself is I'm beutiful witch you are, I'm here I don't care what people think I'm being me and if people dont like that well then thats ther problem. Your great keep it up and anotehr thing looking in the mirror in the moening could help you too, say to yourself I'm beautiful, people like me, they hired me for this job, I'm gret artistic..I can be me,try do things that get your mind thinking about it
Hey I feel your pain. I know what its like to feel the way you do, its hard real hard. One way to get over it is to see a professional, I know you've taking medication, I haven't been that bad yet to have to go to a dictor, but I do get anxiety reguarly..I hate it, I was able to get over most of it while working in a former job..becaus of the confadence I got working there..it helps to talk to people..I've told my parents and they said theres nothing wrong with me I agree but I still get anxiety
i totally feel where you're coming from. i'm so sorry you have SA. i have agoraphobia, it's a struggle just to turn the doorknob to get to the outside world. i've had so many jobs that didn't last very long... unfortunately i don't have any tips for you, but i do know what you're dealing with. one step at a time. =)
U should try mona vie's acai berry juice blend. It helped me a lot with my depression and insomnia and complete lack of energy. I drink a cup every morning, and love the change it's made for me in my life!
I haven't ever had a friend with the same issues in real life, but generally online it seems that they "get" things better and I am generally drawn towards those people. :) Hope that answers your question.
i have had my job 3 years and im still scared just to drive into the parking lot. ppl think im a snob and an asshole because i act like a robot because im stressed to the max every waking second.
I have worked at my current job for two years. My coworkers get their feelings hurt sometimes because they think I don't like them, when really I just have a hard time being around tehm because of social anxiety/social phobia and experience a lot of stress from it. I dread going to work.
I have Tourettes and i think the same as you too. it is so hard to find a job! I wanna start for myself but it is hard, I can't (because of my sensitivity) deal with people around me, the freak me out, and everything you say I recognise. You are an angellll.. i love your so cute :)) ps i can't pay my bill too :((
Hi! I can really relate to you. This problem didn't start for me until about 4 months ago and it came out of no where, but I have a really hard time coping at work now too!
hi i totally understand how u feel. I feel exactly the same it's like listening to myself! I also had to quit a retail job coz i couldn't cope with all the people, i now work in a coffee shop and am starting to struggle again. Today i made a decision to call the doctor and sort it out so i really hope it works!! Stay strong ur not on ur own =)
i totally know what you mean. i'm always quitting jobs because i get in these ruts where i feel like i just can't deal with people. it also doesn't help when you have to get up and go to work after sleeping just 3 hours the night before.
First off, I have SA too. I got intensive cognitive/behavioral therapy 10 years ago and things got at least 70% better. Read up on it if you don't know about it. Second of all, anyone with SA can relate to the struggles you describe in the workplace. I'm a seasonal worker too -- 6 months on and 6 months off. Lastly, you have such a wonderful personality and you're funny as hell without trying to be. But ironically, people with SA tend to have much personality and intelligence intelligence.
I have had social anxiety since I was a kid, but it got worse after High school. I too couldn't get a job because of it. Everyone thought I was lazy, and a loser. Finally, I was able to see prof. help, & put me on meds. I wish I would have done it way sooner. I am 32, go to univ, and I work. I have good days, and bad.Everyone, please talk to someone about this, & get help. If u work hard, you CAN manage it! Xsull. You are gorgeous, smart, & artistic. You ARE OK, and still YOUNG. Never give up!!
i had the same problem when i worked in this really cool bakery cafe. it was a tiny place and really busy all the time and always really crowded with people. i always felt overwhelmed and i couldnt handle it. i had to go the bathroom and cry alot, then the migraines and panic attacks started while i was there. the owners also told me i wasnt acting right and i finally quit. now im in school to be a facialist which is a very laid back job, you should look into it! going to class is hard though!
i loved your video. i can relate SO MUCH i don't know what else to say. i used to work at a coffee place too, like starbucks...i only worked there for a month. i just quit a similar job because of anxiety-related issues. I HATE this stupid disorder!
i got social anxiety. depression. compulsive disorders. and health care problems. so its been hard keeping a job for me too. i dream to live in my own apartment. but social anxiety has kept me from moving foreword. i hope this year brings a new. but i can relate. so thanks for making me feel not alone. because i did before your videos. i might watch them all for that. thanks.
I really thought I was the only one in this situation, a social freak, a parasite, or alien.
I'm 18 and I've worked two jobs, one at Sonic, which lasted three days, and one at a hotel which lasted one week.
I just started working at Subway, yesterday I watched the videos and today I'm going in for my first day. I've been throwing up for days, I can't sleep, my skin burns and tingles... I have racing thoughts.I can sleep, I can't eat, I cannot function. I truly do feel your pain.
i no where you are coming,i live nottingham england i suffer from the same thing find exerciseing helps you takecare their is to many narrow minded people in the world1
it is sometimes hard with anxiety and being in the workforce, I personally have the same prob, I work in an office and have anxiety disorder, I nearly lost my job and some of my workmates got redundancy's. lucky I kept my job going and was safe.
you sound really nice
thanks for the vid you have helped me a lot
if I was a manager I would give you a job but I live in Australia,lol
I am sorry you have to deal with the pain of having anxiety and being in the workplace. It is hard, and it has cost me several jobs. However, I am glad you are sticking it out!
Thanks for the consideration, I wish I lived in Australia :P Even if you aren't a manager, it's still sweet of you to say. Take care!
I totally understand everything you talk about. That is what people don't understand, they say 'get over it' or 'snap out of it' yet, you mentally cannot do that and they just don't understand that. I love your videos, keep posting them.
Hey. I know where your coming from.. Stay strong - I'm sure that you will get the support that you need to get where you want to be. I have the same problem with the workplace & even shopping, I was working for o2 (Telefonica)call center, I didnt last 1 month due to anxiety. at this moment I am getting allot of help with the doctors as they are taking me out & ect, im also on vallium to go out, Amitriptyline and Mirtazapine to sleep. & to top it all off, not long back I was sexually assulted.
Thanks so much for that video girl!!!! I feel sooo related to you, every single word that you said is mu life right now. I'm deseperate you're really helping me. I have the same story with jobs, I feel i wanna quit, it almost funny the same happen to my at a dental assistant job he call me and said you need to be cheerful, at the interview you were diferent, I felt exactly the same
I suffered from a lot of anxiety when I was at a job that turned out to be the wrong fit for me. I suggest that work with other cultures besides the American culture where you don't have to deal with office politics and the pressure to be perfect and use a cookie cutter mentality. Volunteer and help other less fortunate which is a good thing to do and wil boost your self steem also.
Why don't you message me about it, and I will take you through the process. I would go into it here, but it's way too long for a comment. I would love to help you in any way I can. In your message answer me this: Did you ever have a psychological exam, or did you not get that far?
That's probably a good idea, I agree with you. However, my anxiety stems from being in public at all, even if I dont have to interact. But I never thought about working the actual floor without being a cashier. Thanks again for the tip.
get unemployment. For anxiety just accept all the things that comes with anxiety. It is hard at first, but just for an hour everday get yourself in you anxiety mood and accept whatever comes and give it space until it unveils what's underneath. Good luck
I am not eligible for unemployment, however i did get disability... Wow, I have never gotten advice such as yours about anxiety. I would be interested in trying what you suggested, however my anxiety comes at odd times unannounced, and I feel I have no control over it. Any tips on how to get into the "frame of mind"?
God I feel EXACTLY the same. That's why I'm trying to get a medical transcription job and work from home. Have you thought about seeing a counselor/therapist, or reading books about social anxiety? I'm trying to do the same. Best of luck to you!
Listening to u is listening to myself. It gets better. PROMISE! U can do it . Go out, smile + say hi to the 1st person u see. It seems unnatural cause u're not use to it yet.Talk to a neighbor.Wait in line in a store + talk to somebody. Ask to bud in. In the bus, yell out the name of the streets. Uncomfortable, but u'll realise it isnt dangerous. Sooner or later u don't have to fake it anymore. Th're self help grps for people w/ soc. anx. U 'll meet people who've triumped + u'll Get ispired. AC
i can definatly relate,for about 10 years now ive been in and out of so many different jobs. still searching for a solution to what seems to me to be a never ending problem.i thought i had found something with this job i have now but its rapidly turning into a frustrating situation and im at the point of walking out again.wish i could find a permanent awnser with a job that lets me work without my issues popping up :(
i know how frustrating it is and sometimes its nice to know other ppl are dealing with the same problem. I dont think it is possible to just make urself "get over it". And because u do not have control over it u should not beat urself up for it. Its a long and hard battle ur going to be misunderstood a lot. I wish i could talk to u more about it.
It is frustrating... thank you for commenting, and for the advice... no, it isnt something you can just get over, as some people think. I will try harder not to let it upset me... If you do want to chat, you can message me here privately, and i'll give you my messenger addresses. :) Take care
By the way, for me, it is really easy to express myself when im talking about social anxiety. But it is really hard when i am in the moment. many times i think of it as an inability to express myself and never knowing what to say fast enough. Also, it seems like many times i think that i am extra sensitive to stimulus and i immediately go into a state of shock or fight-or-flight state which kind of stops the ability to express myself.
It is true, it's easier to talk about it, but not easy when you are IN the situation. I act and feel differently here on youtube than in real life. This is exactly how I feel-- a lot of people have a hard time understanding it.
I can definately relate. I know how hard it is when u have social anxiety-especially at work. I work at a juvenille detetion facility and i have to deal with ppl a lot. I have been dealing with this problem my whole life. I have tried everything: antidepressants, counseling, cognitive behavioral therapy, deep breathing, and it is definately hard. I dont know what im going to do either... good luck.
wow it seems you have a lot on your mind. sorry about your situation and all i'm kind of in the same boat, but other than financial and work problems i think taking a little time for yourself to relax everyday might help with the insomnia issue. its helped out a lot for me not just with sleeping but with mood swings too. best of luck with your new or future job, hang in there your not alone. :)
I don't understand how you have Social Anxiety. You certainly don't show it on video. You can speak really well. And your interview went well? You were outgoing at your interview? How is that possible with Social Anxiety? I have Social Anxiety and I would never be able to speak as well as you speak. Even in a room by myself. Just the thought of someone seeing my video would freak me out.
I don't know how I do it... I fake it really well. Being on camera here doesn't bother me, I am alone anyway, and it doesn't affect me in that way. As far as when i'm in public, like at an interview-- I have to talk myself up for a few hours (if i can even get myself to GO), and then when I am there I have to pretend I am someone else. Idk if that makes sense, but it works sometimes. :/
hi tomorrow i will try hypnotherapy for Social Anxiety i hope i will good for me i will coming back to give you my impression;) i know how u can feel,every problem have a solution
Please DO let me know how that goes, I am very interested in it :) You can message me here, and then if you would like to talk more, i can give you my email or messenger address. Take care and good luck!
Hey girl, hang in there I know what you mean about not being able to sleep lately. I switched medicine and I cant sleep either. I will send you a message.
Pills wont cure u. But u should try first 2 put urself into a completely relaxed state by means of a relaxation technique and while ur in that relaxed state and breathing very slowly and deeply, u should tell urself in ur mind every time u slowly breathe out that ur very confident with people and positive things about urself. Do it as often as u can. It WILL help.
I notice my own attitude between when I sleep well, and when I don't. I know others do too. I am open about my sleep issues at work, and people are understanding.
I hope you're able to find what you are looking for.. Remember, if you stay home, things will be worse. Force yourself to go out when you're feeling down. If you want to IM me on aol, my screen name is pauliewoo
Thanks for your comments. I understand what you mean about "Faking it" at work. I recognize that sleep affects me in a very big way, and I went for a sleep study. My doctor will follow up with me next month, in the meantime, I will have to suck it up. My depression is primarily caused by sleep-deprivation.
I worked at arbey once. There telling me put this and that on this burger, and don't do it any other way. Cook this stuff at this temperature only, bla bla. ect. They got my nerves bad, they called me old in my 30's. Then fired me. I know its hard to work.
Hang in there Christie!! Thinking of you! I've had insomnia issues when I've been under stress (like now!). When you're under so much stress sometimes it doesn't matter what you do - sleep doesn't always come.
Don't listen to those people btw. You are very charismatic!
Someday you will look back on this and see how far you have gone away from these difficult times. Trust me on that!
Damn girl, you are hot!! I know u probably don't want or need to hear that right now, but I just had to say it hehe ;) Try this, everyday write down one thing that you are greatful for and focus on your interest of being a writer. Also, go out each day a little bit at a time, e.g. to the park, local store, etc., until you get used to being out in public...baby steps perhaps. But anyway, i'd date you in a heartbeat if we were in the same city :)
I'm kind of where you're at as far as anxiety... you are strong...you are lovely. Hang in there, we'll get through this together... I am a helpdesk service agent still in training for a week now and I am right there with you there...emotionally and physically phatigued...contact me if you wish I am momatrix1 on the yahoo chat. Only if you want to talk, we may have a lot to talk about. see ya
I wish you were here. We could relate so much. I hope you have the support you need.
desertflower20 1 year ago
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fathersonnholyspirit 1 year ago
hey fasting is awesome, and totally effective for losing weight. I used to be a fatass 230lb kid but then i just stopped eating for like a month and dropped down to 175lb... girls started flirting with me more, and all those girls who used to be "just friends" were suddenly all over me. It was pretty tight. And yeah, don't believe people when they say "looks don't matter" because, well, looks matter lol... People are shallow fucking assholes and none of us want to admit it
SpunkySkunk347 1 year ago
Oh honey..... I want to just hug you right now! I have insomnia as well, anxiety, depression...possibly from a medical cause, but I know how you feel. I've only had these problems at this intensity for 5 months and it's killing me! I feel like people like us need real friends, like a mentor to literally be with us day to day and help us overcome the anxiety. Someone to offer hugs and encouragement, calm us down... help us smile. A hand to hold as we go out into the world... It might help.
EuroInvicta 1 year ago
Look for a job thats a little more solitary. Being in a fast paced job is ok but I'd look for something that has a little less interaction with other people!
CardBoardBrains 1 year ago
I am the same exact way, I was crying watching it because I hate that other people have to go through the same fear in life. I just want to run away and hide from everybody. Im a caregiver that works with one person at a time and I still get social anxiety.
BluvsJ225 1 year ago
I can work. I work wirh a few awesome people. It's when I'm not at work is when I flake out.
jon2xu 1 year ago
I also wish people would realize that the nervous other people feel is not the same as the nervous that people with anxiety feel it's on a whole different level.
AssassinC101 2 years ago 2
@assassinc101 totally agree, I've had friends that didn't understand and would tell me about how they felt nervous and were in my shoes. I think they can still feel nervous but they dont loose their ability to think straight like real social anxiety people do.
OMFGsoBOARD 1 year ago
@OMFGsoBOARD exactly because you can tell when people feel the way you do. most people say there nervous but on the other hand there going to places like walmart without hesitation it's like wow i thought you were nervous lol
AssassinC101 1 year ago
@AssassinC101 Wow u get nervous right when you enter walmart? I dont get it until someone talks to me LMAO!
OMFGsoBOARD 1 year ago
@OMFGsoBOARD no lol i was just using that as an example. But I don't really get nervous from walkiing around in wal-mart it's when im forced to confront people like if i have to go up and pay for something or when i make eye contact.
AssassinC101 1 year ago
Wow im in the same situation you are in i got hired at the casino and basically im happy and im really disliking it at the sametime i start friday which im really not liking it at all. Don't you love it when you try to tell your family and friends about it and they say crap like get over it, a good example is when i was visiting my brother and i try to talk to him about it and he says you know what life is to short to worry about crap like that, boy that pissed me off so bad
AssassinC101 2 years ago 2
its not your fault its a hormone inbalance i tried everything basically was getting ready to live with it and i discovered omega 3-fish oils and dhea it worked for me it might work for you.
zanes81 2 years ago
i was in axactly the same situation i qiut starbucks i live on my own no family and their kickig me on the street (because i finished school i cant collect welfare- im screwed
oh2b16again 2 years ago
they dont know how to encourage being ontime without throwing out skilled employee's and lowering there production standards. some places do do this and they usually build or make a better product or service. a better more experienced work force is in all of our interest one way or another.. im just ranting but whatever, it's fun to rant so there!
gr8indasack69 2 years ago
I can tell right away that part of your job issues arise from the fact that most at least American employers completely ignore the expense of losing skilled employee's,and it is a fact that employee retention is expensive but this entire country ignores it. to retrain a current employee would cost them less then hiring new in the long run and we all intend to live a long life i once thought anyways. people make mistakes and mostly when they are new. even out of college.
gr8indasack69 2 years ago
i am going through the EXACT same thing. i just started my new job today and i want SO BADLY to just enjoy it moment to moment without all the fear and pain that comes with anxiety...i almost started crying at the end of your vid cus i can feel every ounce of your pain and i know how much stress you feel and its not fair. and anyone who says "get over yourself" or "just stop worrying" can go to hell. they have 0% understanding of what a person with anxiety disorder goes through, they're assholes
BlinkinFirefly 2 years ago
omg this is exactly my problem now..im 19 and have never had a job in my life! people, especially my bf, don't understand and will call me lazy and dependent on others. They don't get how much i am willing to work and am no way lazy at all.
cutekitty88 2 years ago
halucination????It is called delirium tremens :P
tomaszlatawiec 2 years ago
at anxietyace . com it shows how to stop anxiety
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TomArnoldRectum 2 years ago
read more... and become interested in the hardships of others, and stop dwelling on your own problems.
or maybe you should travel somewhere save up some $ and go
hope all goes well (ps. i like to write as well)
gavanduffy123 2 years ago
i stopped "watching" myself and i am now a lot more fluid in conversations and i have little or no stress/anxiety when i go to school. I am not a social butterfly but i can share laughs here and there with people.
whatever5004 2 years ago
i notice that people with social anxiety try to "control' their actions and worry about what everyone will think. i am not an expert but mabey if you can some how Not care what happens in life, there will be no need for anxious feelings. why should you give a shit what others think when it brings you down? it just doestn't matter.
whatever5004 2 years ago
@whatever5004
The thought patterns social anxiety create in a person may be very hard to get rid of. The anxiety thoughts comes automatically, and as your adrenaline level rises you also become more paranoid and rational thought gets really difficult. It's not just about thoughts, it's the whole body including your brain preparing for a possible dangerous situation, the sub conscious has somehow learned that an normal social situation is somehow dangerous, and it doesn't care about rationality.
fuunguus 1 year ago
@whatever5004
I could try not to care, but deep inside I care more about that than anything else. I know the rationality around it, that I shouldn't think that way, but could I simply stop care, then I and all people with SAD would have stopped caring so damn much about everything a loooooooooong time ago.
fuunguus 1 year ago
wow , i seriously felt like i was the only one. I havnt held a job in almost 2 1/2 years. i cant believe this happens to other people. the fears just take over your life. I feel like such a hermit crab.
PumpkinXxXQueen 2 years ago
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pratinus 2 years ago
I think you're very brave for posting this video about your SAD. The world has definitely become a more unfriendly place for the sensitive amongst us. I was wondering if you've considered cognitive therapy? Also a regular program of exercise can also do wonders for your mental state.
knobfieldfox 2 years ago
u sure talk a lot for sombody with sad
ilovesilvia69 2 years ago
Jesus the only hope to you guys
i had it SAD now i get out easy.
trust me receive Jesus as your only saviour. in your house. tell him what you feel and trust in him.only hope we have ;D
heisthetruth1 2 years ago
ive had social anxiety my whole life its very hard to deal with. i work in a pub so i have to talk and deal with ppl every day :( i know everyone likes me but my own demons keep telling me otherwise. i am starting with a psychologist on monday to try and overcome my fears and start living!! thanks for the great video
Rgardiner85 2 years ago 3
the worst part about this, is that if you are living with someone else who has to support you, or even for people around you, it just looks like you have an attitude problem and don't get along with any of your workmates, ever.
That, or they just say you are lazy. I am a super materialistic person, I love buying new shit and feeling productive, but I really feel terrible and stressed when in a workplace. It's fucking terrible.
tammytrauma 2 years ago 4
I wish we lived closer. It's so rare I hear somebody put that the way you did. I desperatly want a job and a girlfriend but the irrational fear always wins. Makes me cry just thinking about it....
enors412 2 years ago 3
Oh my god. That is exactally how I feel , it makes me feel like such a heel. my boyfriend supports me and we live with my family. everyone at my jobs thought i had a terrible attitude. certin members of my family think im lazy. and always ask if im "lookin for work yet?" your so right its terrible.
PumpkinXxXQueen 2 years ago
yeah i understand this too. im wonderful when im being interviewed too but on the actual job i have to fight my anxiety, and then you have ppl talking shit to you b/c your not as out going as they want you to be, and its like damn!, you dont understand that its a miracle for me to just be here! for me to even get the nerve to come in here and jut fill out the appliation is a miracle!
peachtree05 2 years ago
Finding this video made me feel better because I have felt so alone with this same EXACT problem. I am a Registered Veterinary Nurse and have a hi stressed career and I cannot keep a job the past 3+ years or so after working for 8 years.Its just has continuously worse and is crippling me.Hearing you speak about panic,anxiety,insomnia and how you feel at work or before..is the exat same way.thx for sharing.gonna sub to your channel
tauzer 2 years ago
first thing you have to learn to say is "fuck it"
get mad, people respect it. tell them what dicks they are. tell them when you don't approve. keep being yourself and standing up for what is right. fuck them, they are already dead. find shit that makes you happy and if that is giving a shit so be it. a world full of them and we would have to call them zombies
Dehlila07 2 years ago 3
this is great. i completely can relate to the crippling effects the work world can have on cetain ppl. I have told my parents but they have no idea what changes take place once i start clock in evrday. I can't control it; its like i should be painting or doing what i was meant for; molding into corp. world just kills my soul; I feel unprofessional and incompetent half the time; feel so awkward when having to make eye contact, and just want to die having a line of eyes on me. i wont live verylng
ktbaby077 2 years ago 2
Actually I have to start a new work the next monday...already now I feel like shit..like paralized, my stomach crawls, don't wanna talk, I look at the clock every 5 minutes hoping that monday will not come soon...and I will have to face it again alone...as it was in the past 20 years...this is my karma..
Rock0and0Roll0nigga 2 years ago
oh yes...i can relate to all this..since over 20 years I have the same problems regarding social anxiety in jobs...I'm not going to tell you, how many times i changed the work..and every time i found a new one, it's the same drama over and over again...The beginning is so hard...especially the morning before the first work day...I feel miserable...
Rock0and0Roll0nigga 2 years ago 6
I feel for you. I have the same thing. Once I was about to get into my car for my first day at Arby's and I burst into tears and couldn't even make it to the building.
:( How can one hope to be happy with that kind of anxiety?
enors412 2 years ago
you like ready read a lil bit that helps a lot. And make sure you socialize with friends and family thats real helpful. Take care be safe and Good Luck.
aricuzzi 2 years ago
Don't drink Alcohol to get away from your problems, that's not cool. And Sleep Hallucinations is actually a type of anxiety. You have to be strong at night and realize that you have a problem and try to sleep with the Hallucinations. I know me personally sometimes I wake so lost in the mornings from night Hallucinations. Another thing when your at home try to be as calm as possible con watch to much tv or be on the pc to much that actually can cause anxiety,
aricuzzi 2 years ago
A GREAT JOB for people WITH SOCIAL ANXIETY'S or Phobias is the movies ... SERIIOUSLY!!!! It's a great comfort zone! Good for you and your new job!!!
SeliendaSmiles 2 years ago 2
Not when you have SAD so bad you cant even go to the movies! lol
WhiteMamba8to24 2 years ago
you seem a very kind person. we all get anxiety once and awhile, sometimes its hard for me to. i have used pot and alcohol at times to releive this and its. I understand why some people can come off like "bitch" because of anxiety or problems in their life that others do not understand. hang in their honey, your beautifull, try your best hunny. hopefully this new one works out, keep fighting it, if in very limited moderation pot may do the trick, i enjoy some once and a while.
bfavreforprez 2 years ago
Just get over it? Ha ha if it was that simple we would of done it by now. Maby you should join a suupport group.
Tampa0123456789 2 years ago 2
you sound like quite alot of ppl in this world, including me. you dont seem different than any average person.
starrgiiirl 2 years ago 4
What are you talking about she had to leae a job because of social interaction thats not a average person
greaperk 2 years ago 4
I am exactly where u were right now. I definitely related. Check out my page. My main video is about "faking".
phoenixxxreborn 2 years ago
I Can't work with the public anymore because I feel they are looking at me weird and thinking bad of me when probably there not it's just in my mind,I really dont know if i have asd,when i walk down the street I feel people are looking at me from windows i hate it!
spencer11790 2 years ago
YEAA! same thing happens to me!!! wtf is that? I hate that god damn irrational fear. Is it from our primitive past in our evolution? To CONSTATNLY wonder what others are doing. I fucking HATE IIIIIITTTTTTT. I wanna put a shotgun bullet straight through my amygdala
enors412 2 years ago
@spencer
Oh that fear of the windows, I know that one. We have lots of old people in my town, so you'd always find one in a window staring at you if you cared to look. ;P Hated that shit. But my SAD isn't that bad anymore. Suddenly the overwhelming fear I used to feel just didn't feel so overwhelming anymore, and now it's just about gone. I did nothing to get out of it. But the thought patterns I've developed after 10 years of SAD won't lose the grip yet, I just don't feel that afraid anymore.
fuunguus 1 year ago
With my job, I've had to learn how to not outwardly show my symptoms of anxiety, at the same time I feel like a whiner because I can control my anxiety to some point. I also get really overwhelmed really easily which makes it easier for me to mess up when I'm dealing with a customer which just makes the entire situation worse. I'm lucky that my boss has kind of figured out my anxiety issues but he is very nice about it. he tries to help me any way he can but he doesn't "make fun of me".
thenambsaidxx 2 years ago
visit selftherapy. org really helped me deal with my anxiety issues
1l2g3d 2 years ago
one of the best things to do is learning deep relaxation before forth coming events and the best relaxation technique is Yoga Nidra, it helps with all sorts of nervousness, fear and stress related problems by way of balancing both brain hemispheres. Its always available on ebay, look for the title
"Yoga Nidra total relaxation no more tension"
devarsi 2 years ago
OMG! I know exactly how you feel! I hate going to work aswell and I just hate it cause I don't talk to much people and they probably think I'm weird and/or stuck up but it really has to do with my own problem of social anxiety. I recently graduated from university and I need to go out and get a job, but that fuckin scares me and it's cause of the social aspect of having a job-the small talk with co-workers, greeting clients etc...agghhh..
rubbyyee 2 years ago
I'm 53 and suffer from this as well. You have to accept the anxiety and not fight it. If you fight it, it escalates. You are a charming young woman. Be yourself.
elnathan8 2 years ago
lol well i can't even handle anymore than 3 people..i finaly gave up and got on ss thow i have bipolar and many other mental problems and lil bite of a learning problem i tried and tried...got burnt out and ....broke down. and that was it.
heavenlycharm86 2 years ago
did you say "Faxing" or "Fasting"?
GDelva2003 2 years ago
this was a while ago and I didn't re-watch but I assume I said "Fasting".
xsullengirlx 2 years ago
Vilift is the best, i am now happy about my life, i never felt so relax and calm.
happilylil 2 years ago
"Just get over it" means "I just don't get it and can't be bothered to get it"
EndingSA 2 years ago
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Read Explaining colours to a blind man. Not only will it enlighten many as to what living with a mental illness is like, it also gives comfort to those sufferers who think there is no hope and that they are alone. It is very informative, sometimes shocking but also very funny in parts. All in all, a good read and highly recommended.
hsttraindriver 2 years ago
Wow! Ditto on everything you just said. I feel the same way day to day. While I'm not on my own, I am financially dependent, but I say I'm in school as an excuse. And I absolutely LOATHE it when people say, "Just get over it!" So, thanks for being so candid.
jumplittlelisa 2 years ago 5
Well I can seriously see the reality of living on your own in this video while going through social anxiety disorder. All I can say is that I work at a local retail store and I started off on night shift, recovered from my anxiety somewhat then moved to days and ill never go back to nights, I do simular work, deal with some customers but I enjoy it greatly overall. Try your best, dont give up, find a perfect job thats somewhat social/anti social, and you'll do fine
seekdestroy16 2 years ago
now you say the manager at your job was unhappy with you...well if somthing happends and you end up leaving fine go ahead....but i know this might sound silly but you should try working at mcdonalds...just for a year, because it will expose you to all kinds of people all the time and its one of the most busiest resturants....they might put you in the window, frong counter or back drive...or run (they expose you to people directly) through all the embarssement/panic you will overcome i promise.
AfroDiggiAct 2 years ago
I did work at Starbucks, which is probably as busy as McDonald's. but the crowd is different. Yeah, the anxiety was there but I got through it at the time. The reason I can't do such a public setting at the present time is because of the PHYSICAL symptoms of anxiety, it's not just mental like before. I have the same symptoms of a heart attack when I get panic attacks, it's beyond my control, so that's the only reason I haven't. But in time I will give it a shot :)
xsullengirlx 2 years ago
if you were to go to a specialist to help you he/she would basically tell you that you have to expose yourself to your fear. just like a fear of spiders when someone is constantly exposed the fear may be still there but is much lesser.... i have social anxiety too and i work at mc donalds LOL let me tell you i had problems and was on the virge of quiting because its a people place (a people friendly place)
AfroDiggiAct 2 years ago
i know how you feel i get anxiety really bad when im hanging out with people i havent known for a LONG time u know? i've been with my boyfriend for 5 years so im very comfortable with him but it took a WHILE. when i go to hag out with his friends its hard for me to make them my friends too. its so hard cuz my b/f will try and tell me its ok theres nothing to be nervous about, and i know this but my body doesnt want to belive it. my hearts races i feel like i want to go home. we just cant help it
eyesofatragedyke 2 years ago
I'm still having difficulties. Better than I was. Used to be unable to leave house w/o panicking, couldn't answer phone/make calls,etc. 1 thing I found made the most impact was cognitive behavioral therapy. It's really made things less severe. Had it in a group setting w/other SAD sufferers. Don't know what your health insurance situation is, but if you can get the means CBT is something to look into. Sorry for typos I'm doing this 1 handed while breastfeeding my daughter.
trollbabytroll 2 years ago
hats off to u lady!! i can see an enormous volcano of energy in you. you are(were) in a very difficult financial and mental situation but still u managed to put such a good and composed video. i thought that u were telling my story. As i am still struggling big time with my SAD, so i am not in a position to give u any advice. all i want to say that u must hang on in there. there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I wish u lived in England and we could be friends. may God bless us.
shoutforit 2 years ago 4
i was working cleaning and there was 6 people and it was really bad and i end up quiting and i live at home it trying to own my own store online and im hoping it go's throw and i thank you for all your videos
EmilysBloodycorps 2 years ago
I know how u feel and it feels like an endless cycle, but ur lucky u at least have a fast paced job...i dont have a job bc im so panicy when it comes to interviews so i hope that everything goes well for you.
08blanca 2 years ago
Please try and find the right meds for your anxiety. Combine that with a social network who specialise in social phobia and anxiety would be a huge step forward. You have friends who love you and wish you the best in life. Please try this!
leesosad 3 years ago
Im sorry the last comment ive written was wrong hehehe its should have been like this:
I could tell you all that I am not free from any social anxieties, depression and self pitty.
Chriozian 3 years ago
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Social anxiety is just FEAR overpowering a person.
I could tell you all that I am not free from any social anxieties, depression and self pitty.
You wanna know why im free?
God Saved me...
You also have to believe that you have A WORTH and what other people have you also have and what others feel you feel too...
Dont believe in your heart!
Look around and youll see that people are the same! their just like you! the only difference is that your FEAR WORSEN TOO MUCH..
Find God!
Chriozian 3 years ago
i agree, i use to have schitzophrenia and i was thinking of commiting suicide about everyday for months and slowly(in my drawing class)i started to listen to the new testament on my zune and a radio christian station and started praying to god(i gave up believing in him before this) and slowly the voices went away(i also stopped smoking marijuanna (what made me get it) and now its gone(i still have anxiety(mostly from the schitzophrenia)
rubiksking12345 3 years ago
i know it's difficult, but it would be good to find a job where you enjoy what you're doing where you're working with people who are understanding and not judgmental.
you seem to be a pretty intelligent person, i'm sure if you look hard enough you can find something. develop your writing skills :) they can take you to cool places. and of course never give up looking for your niche!
dmkismz 3 years ago
no it's not something you can just get over it takes time with the right therapy and help. Medication only masks the problem, therapy gets to the root causes of the disorder and that's when you truly heal and see the results.
medicinemanbatt 3 years ago
I hear ya :) I got so tired of this shit that I started to really dig deep and looked at all sorts, eastern philosophy etc, I think "mindfulness" ie bhudists approach observing your thoughts etc is something that's kinda embraced by western psychotherapy these days, but I have found more control over these mind games by really starting to observe myself in these situations, everyones go their own way I guess, give me a shout if ya wanna talk or anything and I hope your internet still works :) G
thetubemeister 3 years ago
That's exactly where I am with school! Favorited!
emilia84emilia 3 years ago
I went through it with school too unfortunately. It sucks! I'm sorry you have gone through that. Thanks for watching. Take care :D
xsullengirlx 3 years ago
´hi, I work as a waitress on weekends and it's a work in progress as far as my anxiety goes, I've learned soo much it'd be great to share experiencies, send me a message, take care!
natystube 3 years ago
What do you do to get through it
motts1212 3 years ago
How do I control my anxiety at work? It's my 3rd restaurant, I work as a waitress on weekend and go to uni, and I've learned that there are cool places, cool people and bad places with mean people so you just gotta choose whats best for you and grow, anxiety or not, that's how it is for everyone, learn from mistakes and really focus on things that make you happy and project that in your work
natystube 3 years ago
Anyway hope that previous job you had call you back, seems like you found a niche, I had a job like that but they promoted me becasue they thought I might be getting bored, stupildy I agreed, left that job not long after.
LFCNZ 3 years ago
Unfortunately the present job I have taken is in an office, which I hate. I am actually an IT manager, god knows how I even got the job!
I started off ok but slowly I have become more introverted, a pattern for me, so now I just feel like shit at work.
I was interested in your commment that they loved you at the interview, I have the same problem, interviews I seem to be able to come across as outgoing, gregarious, but I can't keep it up when I get the job.
LFCNZ 3 years ago 2
I don't have any suggestions unfortunately but just wanted to relate to what you are going through.
I've had 10 jobs in the last 15 years, been at my present one for 6 months, which is turing to shit as i can't seem to handle the people interaction and it is very stressful, well for me it is!
Most jobs I have left becuase of social anxiety, the jobs I have stayed longest at have been ones where people interaction was at a minimum, or it's in short bursts.
LFCNZ 3 years ago
girl, i plan on being fucking fake when i get a job (pretty soon) because i sure as hell won't make it long at that job w/ my social anxiety fucking self! ughhhhhhh! and fuck anyone who says to just get over it! (my parents) ugh im really pissed right now
Yawrrr 3 years ago
Man...I know, I have been really fake in a lot of jobs I have had. It's just hard to keep it up for so long. But good luck to you, and i'm sorry your parents don't understand. It sucks!
xsullengirlx 3 years ago
Hey ur not alone! I quit my job bcuz I felt so depressed working ther nd felt like i didnt fit in , i walked in and said i quit and burst out crying haha. xxx
porcelainzombie89 3 years ago
Its a real nasty disorder it just makes u wanna puke up. Youre mind gets filled with fear thoughts. I recon mine stems from childhood experiences and living with a alcoholic father
bob1sohot 3 years ago
Oh and the "Get over it" advice that
people tell you is about as useless
as someone telling another person not
to be scared because THE RESPONSE
to external stimuli that causes the
anxiety is involuntary -but you'd be
surprised how most people are far too
little patience to hear that "technicality"
-The only real evil in this world is ignorance.
jupitercrash2003 3 years ago
Rampant thoughts are causing the insomnia.
If you try Vipassana meditation, after 10 or
15 minutes when your thoughts slow down a bit,
you reconnect more with how your body is feeling
and you'll be out like a rock. I speak directly
from my own experiences. Good luck.
jupitercrash2003 3 years ago
i love u xxx
patrickchanning 3 years ago
U are hot hehe xxx
patrickchanning 3 years ago
I spent 10 F**KING years in my basement, I f**k up 10 years of my life, I lost a lot of money, time, energy, friends, gf, school degree, work, and WORST of all, my health. AFter losing all those beautiful things and years of my youth and life, I just woke up and still have social anxiety AND now my health and my skin is so messed up, I hate myself 10 more times than I did 10 years ago.You know what I wish?Save someone's life and die trying,so that at least God's forgive me my sins...
socialoutcast1980 3 years ago
blogging will not offer you anything near what CBT sessions will
richards1986 3 years ago
i am exactly the same way and im 32.. suggestion is srew them do what you want its the way you are , if you do your job you hsoudl be fine
movingzachb 3 years ago
I think we should have some sort of support group? What do u think of that? I also do not have a lot of friends because of all my "issues" I have lost a lot of them. They get tired of hearing the same shit all the time.
justachick37 3 years ago
Support groups are good, especially since there arent many good local ones. I am working on something, a website that will offer a lot of that. I will keep you posted. I have lost a LOT of friends too, I am sorry youve had to go through it :/ Take care.
xsullengirlx 3 years ago
BUT u have to know that it made me feel 110 percent better knowing that you go through this.. and I am not "crazy" or alone in the world with this issue. I have e kids and they are seeing mommy quits all her jobs. Not a good example.
justachick37 3 years ago 2
That part SUCKS... they don't want to be related to me.. (ie. last name) and they don't get it... I hear yah when u say people tell u just get over it. YAH NOT as easy as that sounds. In fact, I don't know how I will overcome it.
justachick37 3 years ago
I want you to know that I just googled searched for anxiety in the workplace and found your you tube.... I was sooo happy and completely understand what you are going through. I have exactly a lot of the same issues as you have. I am 37 and have been to over 12 jobs in 4 years.. It sucks. My family takes bets on how long I will last at each job.
justachick37 3 years ago
Ohh, and when you work and you get self contious its difficult, I know. All you have to say to yourself is I'm beutiful witch you are, I'm here I don't care what people think I'm being me and if people dont like that well then thats ther problem. Your great keep it up and anotehr thing looking in the mirror in the moening could help you too, say to yourself I'm beautiful, people like me, they hired me for this job, I'm gret artistic..I can be me,try do things that get your mind thinking about it
stevenb19871 3 years ago
Hey I feel your pain. I know what its like to feel the way you do, its hard real hard. One way to get over it is to see a professional, I know you've taking medication, I haven't been that bad yet to have to go to a dictor, but I do get anxiety reguarly..I hate it, I was able to get over most of it while working in a former job..becaus of the confadence I got working there..it helps to talk to people..I've told my parents and they said theres nothing wrong with me I agree but I still get anxiety
stevenb19871 3 years ago
i totally feel where you're coming from. i'm so sorry you have SA. i have agoraphobia, it's a struggle just to turn the doorknob to get to the outside world. i've had so many jobs that didn't last very long... unfortunately i don't have any tips for you, but i do know what you're dealing with. one step at a time. =)
S0BeeU 3 years ago
U should try mona vie's acai berry juice blend. It helped me a lot with my depression and insomnia and complete lack of energy. I drink a cup every morning, and love the change it's made for me in my life!
razerback121 3 years ago
sullengirl, do you find it easier to get along with other people who have social phobia/social anxiety disorder?
Christopher711 3 years ago
I haven't ever had a friend with the same issues in real life, but generally online it seems that they "get" things better and I am generally drawn towards those people. :) Hope that answers your question.
xsullengirlx 3 years ago
i have had my job 3 years and im still scared just to drive into the parking lot. ppl think im a snob and an asshole because i act like a robot because im stressed to the max every waking second.
hjbit 3 years ago
I have worked at my current job for two years. My coworkers get their feelings hurt sometimes because they think I don't like them, when really I just have a hard time being around tehm because of social anxiety/social phobia and experience a lot of stress from it. I dread going to work.
Christopher711 3 years ago 2
I have Tourettes and i think the same as you too. it is so hard to find a job! I wanna start for myself but it is hard, I can't (because of my sensitivity) deal with people around me, the freak me out, and everything you say I recognise. You are an angellll.. i love your so cute :)) ps i can't pay my bill too :((
LaBellaa1984 3 years ago
hey i understand you, xxx labellaa Hope you will do fine one day
LaBellaa1984 3 years ago
Hi! I can really relate to you. This problem didn't start for me until about 4 months ago and it came out of no where, but I have a really hard time coping at work now too!
mcklynna 3 years ago
hi i totally understand how u feel. I feel exactly the same it's like listening to myself! I also had to quit a retail job coz i couldn't cope with all the people, i now work in a coffee shop and am starting to struggle again. Today i made a decision to call the doctor and sort it out so i really hope it works!! Stay strong ur not on ur own =)
creesh123 3 years ago
I was fired from a coffee shop for being too quiet and shy when I was 18. It was traumatic.
tevian3 3 years ago
i totally know what you mean. i'm always quitting jobs because i get in these ruts where i feel like i just can't deal with people. it also doesn't help when you have to get up and go to work after sleeping just 3 hours the night before.
devlin15 3 years ago
im having bad social anxiety right now. but its worse b\c i dont have a job. i hate it. im about to get a office job. lol no idiots!!
ThaFiyaStarta 3 years ago
First off, I have SA too. I got intensive cognitive/behavioral therapy 10 years ago and things got at least 70% better. Read up on it if you don't know about it. Second of all, anyone with SA can relate to the struggles you describe in the workplace. I'm a seasonal worker too -- 6 months on and 6 months off. Lastly, you have such a wonderful personality and you're funny as hell without trying to be. But ironically, people with SA tend to have much personality and intelligence intelligence.
jooker28 3 years ago
I have had social anxiety since I was a kid, but it got worse after High school. I too couldn't get a job because of it. Everyone thought I was lazy, and a loser. Finally, I was able to see prof. help, & put me on meds. I wish I would have done it way sooner. I am 32, go to univ, and I work. I have good days, and bad.Everyone, please talk to someone about this, & get help. If u work hard, you CAN manage it! Xsull. You are gorgeous, smart, & artistic. You ARE OK, and still YOUNG. Never give up!!
adglen41112 3 years ago
i had the same problem when i worked in this really cool bakery cafe. it was a tiny place and really busy all the time and always really crowded with people. i always felt overwhelmed and i couldnt handle it. i had to go the bathroom and cry alot, then the migraines and panic attacks started while i was there. the owners also told me i wasnt acting right and i finally quit. now im in school to be a facialist which is a very laid back job, you should look into it! going to class is hard though!
lilmommax 3 years ago
i loved your video. i can relate SO MUCH i don't know what else to say. i used to work at a coffee place too, like starbucks...i only worked there for a month. i just quit a similar job because of anxiety-related issues. I HATE this stupid disorder!
onacruise 3 years ago 2
i got social anxiety. depression. compulsive disorders. and health care problems. so its been hard keeping a job for me too. i dream to live in my own apartment. but social anxiety has kept me from moving foreword. i hope this year brings a new. but i can relate. so thanks for making me feel not alone. because i did before your videos. i might watch them all for that. thanks.
MariIynMonroe 3 years ago
I really thought I was the only one in this situation, a social freak, a parasite, or alien.
I'm 18 and I've worked two jobs, one at Sonic, which lasted three days, and one at a hotel which lasted one week.
I just started working at Subway, yesterday I watched the videos and today I'm going in for my first day. I've been throwing up for days, I can't sleep, my skin burns and tingles... I have racing thoughts.I can sleep, I can't eat, I cannot function. I truly do feel your pain.
blumoon0937 3 years ago
i no where you are coming,i live nottingham england i suffer from the same thing find exerciseing helps you takecare their is to many narrow minded people in the world1
ameythest 3 years ago
it is sometimes hard with anxiety and being in the workforce, I personally have the same prob, I work in an office and have anxiety disorder, I nearly lost my job and some of my workmates got redundancy's. lucky I kept my job going and was safe.
you sound really nice
thanks for the vid you have helped me a lot
if I was a manager I would give you a job but I live in Australia,lol
Good luck :)
86jammer86 3 years ago
I am sorry you have to deal with the pain of having anxiety and being in the workplace. It is hard, and it has cost me several jobs. However, I am glad you are sticking it out!
Thanks for the consideration, I wish I lived in Australia :P Even if you aren't a manager, it's still sweet of you to say. Take care!
xsullengirlx 3 years ago
I totally understand everything you talk about. That is what people don't understand, they say 'get over it' or 'snap out of it' yet, you mentally cannot do that and they just don't understand that. I love your videos, keep posting them.
sflouden 4 years ago 3
Hey. I know where your coming from.. Stay strong - I'm sure that you will get the support that you need to get where you want to be. I have the same problem with the workplace & even shopping, I was working for o2 (Telefonica)call center, I didnt last 1 month due to anxiety. at this moment I am getting allot of help with the doctors as they are taking me out & ect, im also on vallium to go out, Amitriptyline and Mirtazapine to sleep. & to top it all off, not long back I was sexually assulted.
DSJK3 4 years ago
Thanks so much for that video girl!!!! I feel sooo related to you, every single word that you said is mu life right now. I'm deseperate you're really helping me. I have the same story with jobs, I feel i wanna quit, it almost funny the same happen to my at a dental assistant job he call me and said you need to be cheerful, at the interview you were diferent, I felt exactly the same
antigona61 4 years ago
I suffered from a lot of anxiety when I was at a job that turned out to be the wrong fit for me. I suggest that work with other cultures besides the American culture where you don't have to deal with office politics and the pressure to be perfect and use a cookie cutter mentality. Volunteer and help other less fortunate which is a good thing to do and wil boost your self steem also.
nicoya72 4 years ago
xsullengirlx, i suffer from social anxiety and i tried to get disability, but was not eligible; what did you do to be eligible? any advice?
dewayne408 4 years ago
Why don't you message me about it, and I will take you through the process. I would go into it here, but it's way too long for a comment. I would love to help you in any way I can. In your message answer me this: Did you ever have a psychological exam, or did you not get that far?
Take care.
xsullengirlx 4 years ago
job wise work on the floor in wal mart or retail, so you would be away from customers.
ymido55 4 years ago
That's probably a good idea, I agree with you. However, my anxiety stems from being in public at all, even if I dont have to interact. But I never thought about working the actual floor without being a cashier. Thanks again for the tip.
xsullengirlx 4 years ago
get unemployment. For anxiety just accept all the things that comes with anxiety. It is hard at first, but just for an hour everday get yourself in you anxiety mood and accept whatever comes and give it space until it unveils what's underneath. Good luck
ymido55 4 years ago
I am not eligible for unemployment, however i did get disability... Wow, I have never gotten advice such as yours about anxiety. I would be interested in trying what you suggested, however my anxiety comes at odd times unannounced, and I feel I have no control over it. Any tips on how to get into the "frame of mind"?
xsullengirlx 4 years ago
pretty girl :-)
hijodeargentina 4 years ago
thank you :)
xsullengirlx 4 years ago
fuck. them. out on a face to make the money.. but keep true to yourself u musttttt
ssips720 4 years ago
I feel your pain!
shyman357 4 years ago
God I feel EXACTLY the same. That's why I'm trying to get a medical transcription job and work from home. Have you thought about seeing a counselor/therapist, or reading books about social anxiety? I'm trying to do the same. Best of luck to you!
Floofytail 4 years ago
Listening to u is listening to myself. It gets better. PROMISE! U can do it . Go out, smile + say hi to the 1st person u see. It seems unnatural cause u're not use to it yet.Talk to a neighbor.Wait in line in a store + talk to somebody. Ask to bud in. In the bus, yell out the name of the streets. Uncomfortable, but u'll realise it isnt dangerous. Sooner or later u don't have to fake it anymore. Th're self help grps for people w/ soc. anx. U 'll meet people who've triumped + u'll Get ispired. AC
tito3chiu 4 years ago
Wow, it sounds like your employers are total douches. Who the hell says - You need to be happier to work here or else!! >:(
ThreeChe 4 years ago
i can definatly relate,for about 10 years now ive been in and out of so many different jobs. still searching for a solution to what seems to me to be a never ending problem.i thought i had found something with this job i have now but its rapidly turning into a frustrating situation and im at the point of walking out again.wish i could find a permanent awnser with a job that lets me work without my issues popping up :(
intavent 4 years ago
i know how frustrating it is and sometimes its nice to know other ppl are dealing with the same problem. I dont think it is possible to just make urself "get over it". And because u do not have control over it u should not beat urself up for it. Its a long and hard battle ur going to be misunderstood a lot. I wish i could talk to u more about it.
gbad40 4 years ago
It is frustrating... thank you for commenting, and for the advice... no, it isnt something you can just get over, as some people think. I will try harder not to let it upset me... If you do want to chat, you can message me here privately, and i'll give you my messenger addresses. :) Take care
xsullengirlx 4 years ago
By the way, for me, it is really easy to express myself when im talking about social anxiety. But it is really hard when i am in the moment. many times i think of it as an inability to express myself and never knowing what to say fast enough. Also, it seems like many times i think that i am extra sensitive to stimulus and i immediately go into a state of shock or fight-or-flight state which kind of stops the ability to express myself.
gbad40 4 years ago
It is true, it's easier to talk about it, but not easy when you are IN the situation. I act and feel differently here on youtube than in real life. This is exactly how I feel-- a lot of people have a hard time understanding it.
xsullengirlx 4 years ago
I can definately relate. I know how hard it is when u have social anxiety-especially at work. I work at a juvenille detetion facility and i have to deal with ppl a lot. I have been dealing with this problem my whole life. I have tried everything: antidepressants, counseling, cognitive behavioral therapy, deep breathing, and it is definately hard. I dont know what im going to do either... good luck.
gbad40 4 years ago
wow it seems you have a lot on your mind. sorry about your situation and all i'm kind of in the same boat, but other than financial and work problems i think taking a little time for yourself to relax everyday might help with the insomnia issue. its helped out a lot for me not just with sleeping but with mood swings too. best of luck with your new or future job, hang in there your not alone. :)
sooperman77 4 years ago
I don't understand how you have Social Anxiety. You certainly don't show it on video. You can speak really well. And your interview went well? You were outgoing at your interview? How is that possible with Social Anxiety? I have Social Anxiety and I would never be able to speak as well as you speak. Even in a room by myself. Just the thought of someone seeing my video would freak me out.
teloiv73 4 years ago
I don't know how I do it... I fake it really well. Being on camera here doesn't bother me, I am alone anyway, and it doesn't affect me in that way. As far as when i'm in public, like at an interview-- I have to talk myself up for a few hours (if i can even get myself to GO), and then when I am there I have to pretend I am someone else. Idk if that makes sense, but it works sometimes. :/
xsullengirlx 4 years ago
i feel your pain...
slapingtheone 4 years ago
hi tomorrow i will try hypnotherapy for Social Anxiety i hope i will good for me i will coming back to give you my impression;) i know how u can feel,every problem have a solution
stephane197769 4 years ago
Please DO let me know how that goes, I am very interested in it :) You can message me here, and then if you would like to talk more, i can give you my email or messenger address. Take care and good luck!
xsullengirlx 4 years ago
Have you considered going on disability? Anxiety and depression are considered disabilities. Your mental heath must come before work.
AhYaOk 4 years ago
Good god! I completly relate to what you've said. I've been though the same stuff. It sucks
AhYaOk 4 years ago
Hey girl, hang in there I know what you mean about not being able to sleep lately. I switched medicine and I cant sleep either. I will send you a message.
Hugs,
Talea
r2beararms19 4 years ago
Pills wont cure u. But u should try first 2 put urself into a completely relaxed state by means of a relaxation technique and while ur in that relaxed state and breathing very slowly and deeply, u should tell urself in ur mind every time u slowly breathe out that ur very confident with people and positive things about urself. Do it as often as u can. It WILL help.
GeneNowok 4 years ago
I notice my own attitude between when I sleep well, and when I don't. I know others do too. I am open about my sleep issues at work, and people are understanding.
I hope you're able to find what you are looking for.. Remember, if you stay home, things will be worse. Force yourself to go out when you're feeling down. If you want to IM me on aol, my screen name is pauliewoo
781pac 4 years ago
Thanks for your comments. I understand what you mean about "Faking it" at work. I recognize that sleep affects me in a very big way, and I went for a sleep study. My doctor will follow up with me next month, in the meantime, I will have to suck it up. My depression is primarily caused by sleep-deprivation.
781pac 4 years ago
I worked at arbey once. There telling me put this and that on this burger, and don't do it any other way. Cook this stuff at this temperature only, bla bla. ect. They got my nerves bad, they called me old in my 30's. Then fired me. I know its hard to work.
Starlababy 4 years ago
Hang in there Christie!! Thinking of you! I've had insomnia issues when I've been under stress (like now!). When you're under so much stress sometimes it doesn't matter what you do - sleep doesn't always come.
Don't listen to those people btw. You are very charismatic!
Someday you will look back on this and see how far you have gone away from these difficult times. Trust me on that!
You are a strong, inspirational person!
jenjdickinson 4 years ago
Damn girl, you are hot!! I know u probably don't want or need to hear that right now, but I just had to say it hehe ;) Try this, everyday write down one thing that you are greatful for and focus on your interest of being a writer. Also, go out each day a little bit at a time, e.g. to the park, local store, etc., until you get used to being out in public...baby steps perhaps. But anyway, i'd date you in a heartbeat if we were in the same city :)
jlange73 4 years ago
Glad you went back to a barrista type job because I remember you saying you used to enjoy that type of work a while ago!
sorbet87 4 years ago
I don't think many people enjoy working.
bezelthai 4 years ago
I'm kind of where you're at as far as anxiety... you are strong...you are lovely. Hang in there, we'll get through this together... I am a helpdesk service agent still in training for a week now and I am right there with you there...emotionally and physically phatigued...contact me if you wish I am momatrix1 on the yahoo chat. Only if you want to talk, we may have a lot to talk about. see ya