Sorry I can't agree with what you are saying here. You can't appeal to these people's "better nature" with love because they really don't care. Neither can you "reason" with this generation as they get twisted pleasure from being as vicious as they can. Ignoring them and leaving them to their own pain is really then only way to deal with it I have come to believe. Any change will come from their own being but it isn't our responsibility to bring it about.
I am thankful for your response. Love Yourself First and Best! When you do this, you will stop attracting the negative ones. They simply will not to be around you. They and other "friends" will simply fall by the roadside. Bless them and keep walking.
You know I can connect to you just by seeing your video. Yet you did not choose me as a friend. It is all about energy and soul connection. So do we have a soul connection? When you get to the core there is no boundary. Love You.
"Best way to know others shadows, is to know your own." Jung It's the integration of the shadow that's needed. If u come off w too much "light," well, opposites attract. Universes way of making u confront things. So what's needed is for u to embrace your shadow... n say to hell w you, not in My house ;-7
i really appreciate this video and discussion, this past week i keep getting pushed because i " look fine and stress free" and this is rubbing people the wrong way, even light workers are bullying me
I have this problem, my emotion scared my girlfriend, she broke up with me, I don't know how to bring her back it wasn't me when I was saying this words. I think I am a good person I have done her no harming just my words made her run away from me. sorry if my english is not that good. I hope you you can helpe me with this. I so much love her, I am so ashamed myself in this situation.
@badqual hi badqual. i am a very big fan of your channel and am most impressed with your excellent taste in music. emotions run high when under stress but it is important to know how to channel your fears and not take it out on the ones you love. you should be aware that words can be very upsetting, and should be used with the greatest care.perhaps you have learned from this experience and she will understand your situation. i really hope you work it out because you seem so lovely. x
@123jsbach thanks for your kind comment, all I can do this to wait and not say a word I hope that helps, if we meant to be together we will be, but I dearly lover her and more then anything the respect that I have for her inside me is deep in me. I would do anything to make her to forgive me and come back to me... she is my world, off course lessons learned but she may doesn't see it that way. I made mistake and I know it was wrong, all I can say is sorry I will not repeat it.
Hello Lilou and Light workers, I was watching this video and i just wanted to add that : Remember there are a lot of people at this time who are having it hard to the different energy at this time on the planet. The transition can create a lot of confusion to some. So do not be alarmed by those people and afraid. When you see someone with negative to you , send them love , the love that resonates in your heart. Be polite but firm to let them know where you stand. It works for me. NAMASTE
Oh Lilou, this is such a pertinent topic. So useful. It's something I need to deal with and figure out with some people in my life. It's going to certainly take courage but I intend to speak out now, the way you suggested. I am still at bay about figuring out the psychology and the workings of this as it relates to some people, but hope to gain clarity, as this is so important for the quality of our lives. To love and respect ourselves is indeed the beginning point. Thank u for this Lilou! xo
Great video Lilou! We Do have to Stand Up for Ourselves. Sometimes people aren't aware of how they are coming across, so if we Feel the need to Set our Emotional Boundaries we need to just Speak Up! And what happens then? In my experience, the other person adjusts to our request and they RESPECT YOU! We, ourselves teach others how to treat us! Thanks :)
These experience are for our learning always. Hidden behind the abuse is a frightened person. Its a chance to love' without asking for anything in return. Because we know we have love with us already. To balance love for self with love for the other.
I like to remember Rumi..'say I am you..'knowing this, how can we be afraid of oneanother...unless we are afraid of ourself.
When we awaken we realize all is love.When we allow we discover,even through challenges,Love is all.To own all of the experiences in our lives is to love ourselves completely.BUT, if I am personally confronted in a situation that seems UN-comfortable,I simply RE-mind myself that all is love,And love is all.Which in turn allows me to accept any challenge as simply a new opportunity for yet another Higher vibrational Upgrade +) As we all know, When opportunity knocks OPEN the door.Trust Love +)
You made a good point. From my own experience, when I started to pay attention to self talk, I noticed a lot of self criticism. The people in your life are mirrors...they treat you how you treat yourself. Of course, you should tell them "don't talk to me like that"...but you can also say that to yourself. When you're kind to yourself, others will be kind to you too. At the very least, their unkindness won't effect you. But some people you just have to gentally avoid if possible.
For me this has been something I have had to learn to do move over the last couple of years and it does work. Remembering to do it with love is the key and letting go of any attachment to the outcome can help us all have more courage to help ourselves first and then people around us pick up our new vibration.
I, too have struggled with this...I also choose not to hang out with these kind of people, that is, if there's a choice ;) I use an analogy of emotions being horses...if someone is on an angry horse, I realize that I can choose whether or not to hop on that horse with that person. Why ride off into the sunset with an out-of-control angry, jealous, controlling or anxious horse? I'd rather stay on my own relaxed, positive, inspiring horse:) :) Thanks Lilou!! Much much love! :)
thank you love, i agree with you cuz i do have some clashes with my brother who i end up always fighting him cuz for some reason when i'm around him i feel like i want to argue with him which the end of it all i feel guilty, but not anymore cuz it won't effect me at all & more loving respecting myself.
Very nicely said, come from a position of loving yourself enough to say that is enough. I wonder if this is a reminder to light works to love and work on themselves more. Also maybe these people that lightworkers attract are people they can helps.
omg im feelin super sensitive these days,,picking up all sorts of vibes ! reali cant stand it anymore ... steer clear is the only answer for now . love dm from a distance
Without getting into a long diatribe, I recently had the unfortunate experience of walking in on a pedophile, and his contact with a child at a gathering. They were in a dark backyard. I was quite careful about revealing this to the mother, and also one other person who agreed to keep my confidence. That one person told many others, and I was swamped with nasty emails and phone messages...just brutal...and I could not understand why everyone turned on me!!! Thanks, and very timely for me....
@jemarc100 liloumace has a point- you can try to tell the person, "please do not speak to me like that," in a gently assertive way. If the person is truly someone who is interested in your highest good, as well as their own, they will make efforts to be speak less from a place of non-constructive anger.
@MsPsychobanana A lot of people are confused about what true forgiveness means. Many times the myths about forgiveness are perpetuated by the abusers themselves. They say, "Forgive me," and what the abusers really mean is, "allow me to use you as a toxic energy dumpster once again." Forgiveness means letting go; letting go does not have to include hanging around that person.
@brightbite I don't call myself a light-worker, lol...but......this is not what always happens to me, but very often has, life lessons are learned, lol.
I feel I am in the same boat, Lilou. Setting emotional boundaries is challenging yes, but we are all on the right path. Things will get better only, I believe we all need to be patient with each other.
How awesome you are interviewing Don Miguel Ruiz! I am excited about that and can't wait for that interview. "The Four Agreements" is one of my favorite books.
I appreciate your work. Good luck with your new tour! Goodlife, Ono
thank you so much for this and all your other videos, lilou. a lot of us need to hear this. i was also told by some enlightened ones to do belly breathing when this happens, and to do something joyful everyday. it took some time, but i found it helps to surround myself with peace and joy :-)
Own Our Power , Yes Self respect is essential ! Not a Persons job to please other's or take improper behavior ... Self love & knowing One deserves the very BEST is the highest form of Being & Truth ! To lower standards to please another helps neither Self nor the Other !
So true, there are people who deliberately choose to create misery for others, I've experienced these attacks from time to time, no matter how I've asked them to not speak to me in that way, and some just do it to make you lose confidence in yourself. We all recognize this as bullying, so we shouldn't take these personally and we need to avoid those toxic types.
yes i agree when you realize your creating every moment of your life weather its challanged or joy its empowering to know and you can change anything to your hearts desire . love has always being on your side all along and will always be
so beautiful!
Bexdastar 1 week ago
can't wait for next videos ;)
LhoraKraft 2 weeks ago
Sorry I can't agree with what you are saying here. You can't appeal to these people's "better nature" with love because they really don't care. Neither can you "reason" with this generation as they get twisted pleasure from being as vicious as they can. Ignoring them and leaving them to their own pain is really then only way to deal with it I have come to believe. Any change will come from their own being but it isn't our responsibility to bring it about.
TheAmethystScorpion 3 weeks ago
did you see the way ppl attacked Lana Del ray after her snl appearance? ppl have become so mean and cold and its very sad
FletcherHabit 1 month ago
Thank u ! Very inspirin ;)
charmanenbz 1 month ago
Thank You Lilou, I appreciate this video and all of your may efforts!
astralnaut78 1 month ago
Thank you for sharing! We are the ones that we have been waiting for.
PabloChristiansen 1 month ago
I am thankful for your response. Love Yourself First and Best! When you do this, you will stop attracting the negative ones. They simply will not to be around you. They and other "friends" will simply fall by the roadside. Bless them and keep walking.
richardschickel2 1 month ago
Thankyou, sometimes we do need to standup for ourselfs even if others think its mean:
Divinabella2010 1 month ago
You know I can connect to you just by seeing your video. Yet you did not choose me as a friend. It is all about energy and soul connection. So do we have a soul connection? When you get to the core there is no boundary. Love You.
108Marycelestial 1 month ago
Thanks so much for your input on this subject, Much LOVE to you:)
jo49forever1 1 month ago
Most people do not listen actively:
Are you a good Listener?
Are you open to what other people say to you, or do you make up your mind about things before you hear other people's view?
Do you become bored when other people speak?
Do you interrupt people when they are speaking?
Are you hesitant to ask clarifying questions?
Instead of asking if a person understands a message, it is much better to request that the receiver explain what he or she has heard.
seekperfection 1 month ago
what if that person is in your workplace and is very stoned on drugs
monkeyshell1 1 month ago
"Best way to know others shadows, is to know your own." Jung It's the integration of the shadow that's needed. If u come off w too much "light," well, opposites attract. Universes way of making u confront things. So what's needed is for u to embrace your shadow... n say to hell w you, not in My house ;-7
BlumoonNow 1 month ago
i really appreciate this video and discussion, this past week i keep getting pushed because i " look fine and stress free" and this is rubbing people the wrong way, even light workers are bullying me
PjPoison 1 month ago
It's so sweet of you to reply this follower of your work! Thanks! Quite instructive!
TheAadara 1 month ago
I have this problem, my emotion scared my girlfriend, she broke up with me, I don't know how to bring her back it wasn't me when I was saying this words. I think I am a good person I have done her no harming just my words made her run away from me. sorry if my english is not that good. I hope you you can helpe me with this. I so much love her, I am so ashamed myself in this situation.
badqual 1 month ago
@badqual hi badqual. i am a very big fan of your channel and am most impressed with your excellent taste in music. emotions run high when under stress but it is important to know how to channel your fears and not take it out on the ones you love. you should be aware that words can be very upsetting, and should be used with the greatest care.perhaps you have learned from this experience and she will understand your situation. i really hope you work it out because you seem so lovely. x
123jsbach 1 month ago
@123jsbach thanks for your kind comment, all I can do this to wait and not say a word I hope that helps, if we meant to be together we will be, but I dearly lover her and more then anything the respect that I have for her inside me is deep in me. I would do anything to make her to forgive me and come back to me... she is my world, off course lessons learned but she may doesn't see it that way. I made mistake and I know it was wrong, all I can say is sorry I will not repeat it.
badqual 1 month ago
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123jsbach 1 month ago
Hello Lilou and Light workers, I was watching this video and i just wanted to add that : Remember there are a lot of people at this time who are having it hard to the different energy at this time on the planet. The transition can create a lot of confusion to some. So do not be alarmed by those people and afraid. When you see someone with negative to you , send them love , the love that resonates in your heart. Be polite but firm to let them know where you stand. It works for me. NAMASTE
PRINCELYOII 1 month ago
i am really sure that this kind of situations can be resolved just by living in your heart
skario8 1 month ago
Oh Lilou, this is such a pertinent topic. So useful. It's something I need to deal with and figure out with some people in my life. It's going to certainly take courage but I intend to speak out now, the way you suggested. I am still at bay about figuring out the psychology and the workings of this as it relates to some people, but hope to gain clarity, as this is so important for the quality of our lives. To love and respect ourselves is indeed the beginning point. Thank u for this Lilou! xo
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Great video Lilou! We Do have to Stand Up for Ourselves. Sometimes people aren't aware of how they are coming across, so if we Feel the need to Set our Emotional Boundaries we need to just Speak Up! And what happens then? In my experience, the other person adjusts to our request and they RESPECT YOU! We, ourselves teach others how to treat us! Thanks :)
daraccent 1 month ago
These experience are for our learning always. Hidden behind the abuse is a frightened person. Its a chance to love' without asking for anything in return. Because we know we have love with us already. To balance love for self with love for the other.
I like to remember Rumi..'say I am you..'knowing this, how can we be afraid of oneanother...unless we are afraid of ourself.
You are very awesome Lilou :)
sweeetly 1 month ago
WOW WHAT A TOPIC. GREAT ADVICE
bigmuscleify 1 month ago
When we awaken we realize all is love.When we allow we discover,even through challenges,Love is all.To own all of the experiences in our lives is to love ourselves completely.BUT, if I am personally confronted in a situation that seems UN-comfortable,I simply RE-mind myself that all is love,And love is all.Which in turn allows me to accept any challenge as simply a new opportunity for yet another Higher vibrational Upgrade +) As we all know, When opportunity knocks OPEN the door.Trust Love +)
arosso7 1 month ago
Thanks Lilou! You are so pure! I love you very much! Johanne
irishdivano1 1 month ago
You made a good point. From my own experience, when I started to pay attention to self talk, I noticed a lot of self criticism. The people in your life are mirrors...they treat you how you treat yourself. Of course, you should tell them "don't talk to me like that"...but you can also say that to yourself. When you're kind to yourself, others will be kind to you too. At the very least, their unkindness won't effect you. But some people you just have to gentally avoid if possible.
suz1055 1 month ago
Is the only one that will give us our day in court going to lose?
fortheday123 1 month ago
Thanks lady great stuff...
MrRichSpray 1 month ago
... toujours belle source d'inspiration ma Lilou, oui oui oui.... bise à toi
Estherkwes 1 month ago
Amazing as always Lilou. Keep sharing your love and light!
metaphysicalsource 1 month ago
For me this has been something I have had to learn to do move over the last couple of years and it does work. Remembering to do it with love is the key and letting go of any attachment to the outcome can help us all have more courage to help ourselves first and then people around us pick up our new vibration.
CentralPurpose 1 month ago
lots of people are having emotional ups and downs with the new energetic waves spreading across this world in 2012.
jeigo 1 month ago
I've missed your videos! I look forward to hearing you and don Miguel Ruiz and others!
Blessings to you Lilou <3
zenwaveofbliss 1 month ago
I, too have struggled with this...I also choose not to hang out with these kind of people, that is, if there's a choice ;) I use an analogy of emotions being horses...if someone is on an angry horse, I realize that I can choose whether or not to hop on that horse with that person. Why ride off into the sunset with an out-of-control angry, jealous, controlling or anxious horse? I'd rather stay on my own relaxed, positive, inspiring horse:) :) Thanks Lilou!! Much much love! :)
OCEANCORA 1 month ago
thank you love, i agree with you cuz i do have some clashes with my brother who i end up always fighting him cuz for some reason when i'm around him i feel like i want to argue with him which the end of it all i feel guilty, but not anymore cuz it won't effect me at all & more loving respecting myself.
thank you again ;)
bluepegasus55 1 month ago
Very nicely said, come from a position of loving yourself enough to say that is enough. I wonder if this is a reminder to light works to love and work on themselves more. Also maybe these people that lightworkers attract are people they can helps.
JamConcerned 1 month ago
Nicely said thank you !
watterfalls2 1 month ago
omg im feelin super sensitive these days,,picking up all sorts of vibes ! reali cant stand it anymore ... steer clear is the only answer for now . love dm from a distance
TheBeelife 1 month ago
Without getting into a long diatribe, I recently had the unfortunate experience of walking in on a pedophile, and his contact with a child at a gathering. They were in a dark backyard. I was quite careful about revealing this to the mother, and also one other person who agreed to keep my confidence. That one person told many others, and I was swamped with nasty emails and phone messages...just brutal...and I could not understand why everyone turned on me!!! Thanks, and very timely for me....
peggygenoway 1 month ago
A lot of Lightworkers attract abusers. Loving these people from a distance is important, because being their victim does not teach them anything.
brightbite 1 month ago 24
@brightbite that is so very true, I experience it every time i go to one of my jobs
jemarc100 1 month ago
@jemarc100 liloumace has a point- you can try to tell the person, "please do not speak to me like that," in a gently assertive way. If the person is truly someone who is interested in your highest good, as well as their own, they will make efforts to be speak less from a place of non-constructive anger.
brightbite 1 month ago
@brightbite Brilliant way of putting it :)
MsPsychobanana 1 month ago
@MsPsychobanana A lot of people are confused about what true forgiveness means. Many times the myths about forgiveness are perpetuated by the abusers themselves. They say, "Forgive me," and what the abusers really mean is, "allow me to use you as a toxic energy dumpster once again." Forgiveness means letting go; letting go does not have to include hanging around that person.
brightbite 1 month ago
@brightbite Agreed.
MsPsychobanana 1 month ago
@brightbite I don't call myself a light-worker, lol...but......this is not what always happens to me, but very often has, life lessons are learned, lol.
Jimitrius1 1 week ago
Thank you Lilou :D
layanahs 1 month ago
Very helpful, I would love to see more of this type by yourself and thankyou lilou :)
MsSweetps 1 month ago 2
Love you :)
TheEdagars 1 month ago
merci, peace..
RENEDU2 1 month ago
I feel I am in the same boat, Lilou. Setting emotional boundaries is challenging yes, but we are all on the right path. Things will get better only, I believe we all need to be patient with each other.
How awesome you are interviewing Don Miguel Ruiz! I am excited about that and can't wait for that interview. "The Four Agreements" is one of my favorite books.
I appreciate your work. Good luck with your new tour! Goodlife, Ono
Art528Mystic 1 month ago 9
thank you so much for this and all your other videos, lilou. a lot of us need to hear this. i was also told by some enlightened ones to do belly breathing when this happens, and to do something joyful everyday. it took some time, but i found it helps to surround myself with peace and joy :-)
ickybrokenpaper 1 month ago
Own Our Power , Yes Self respect is essential ! Not a Persons job to please other's or take improper behavior ... Self love & knowing One deserves the very BEST is the highest form of Being & Truth ! To lower standards to please another helps neither Self nor the Other !
Maiyaee 1 month ago
You are such an inspiration! Thanx, for being your juicy self! :) <3
arcencielstylin 1 month ago
Excellent advice Lilou. You are a great teacher!
ExoticCalli 1 month ago
So true, there are people who deliberately choose to create misery for others, I've experienced these attacks from time to time, no matter how I've asked them to not speak to me in that way, and some just do it to make you lose confidence in yourself. We all recognize this as bullying, so we shouldn't take these personally and we need to avoid those toxic types.
christinehaigh 1 month ago
Yes, you're right Lilou. We have to take care of our selves, thank you!
infogranny 1 month ago
In this situation I always say..."I think too much of myself to be treated like this from ANYBODY."
You go girl!
tallestbeauty 1 month ago
yes i agree when you realize your creating every moment of your life weather its challanged or joy its empowering to know and you can change anything to your hearts desire . love has always being on your side all along and will always be
thebluebunny1 1 month ago
it's hard to get to this point... overcoming the fear, being in peace with yourself .... love watching you...
°Sara°
NerdishByNature 1 month ago
Seal the confidence Lilou. Your voice sounded a little shaky.
RainbowLogic 1 month ago
Lilou, also I need to say ... You shine more every day, from inside out!
ASCENSIONPIONEERS 1 month ago
THANK You for speaking about this ... many people need to hear this! So much Love <3
ASCENSIONPIONEERS 1 month ago
Hi Lilou, you look beautiful. Thanks for unleashing your warrior goddess.
nubiaisutton1 1 month ago