Listening to your story really gave me flashbacks to when I went through that. I went through all that back in the late 80's and people were a lot less accepting back then. Back then if it was found out at school, you just plain got beat up. Alot of the jocks could tell I was and I got picked on so I swore i would never be a victim again. All I did was work out every day after school and take karate. Once I was strong enough, I simply smashed thier faces into the wall if they made a comment.
WHAT'S the point in coming out.....I mean all parents and family REALLY want to know is whether or not you take it up the ass or you give it. I'm GAY, but seriously....there's no reason to come out....do it with your friends, but keep it on the lowdown when at home. You would anyways....and who wants to be judged while at home...people judge you in all ways, and I agree with what you are saying, the perception isn't about being an entertainer...but ideally....people judge.../
This is what I feel like! Even though my parents know I'm gay, for some reason I still have trouble talking to them about relationships. It probably stems from this.
I'm the same age as you exactly and i have the same relationship with my parents. I love them dearly but I don't wanna turn their world upside down, and the subsequent dilemma is highly dissonant. PLUS i live in Egypt... :-(
I agree with the person below. I am used to being in the closet. It's the only life I've ever known. My personality is almost non-existent. Like in one of your previous videos, it is all fake made up bullshit so people won't think I am gay. I don't even know if I know myself anymore... I can't remember the last time I haven't had to think about something I am going to say, while just having a general chat to somebody. I avoid my family, use any excuse to get out of a situation where the family
For me I've gotten used to not coming out to my family but at the same time it's annoying to hear my mom ask if i have a girl friend or if i like any girls at school.
While I was listening to you I pass throught my experience, think about how difficult is to come out, event to one persone, and also how really it can release the tension you talked about! I have to make another step forward and come out to my parents... I want to do it, soon or later.
That cold gut feeling I would get every time someone asked me "still no gf?" Main reason I don't call my family members that live far away, they all ask about me and I say hell no cause the 1st things that comes up is "How are the women?" also doesn't help that in my culture men as expected to have multiple girls at once... I also remember the dreaded match making my sister tried to do for me, asking me if this or that girl was cute so we could hook up...Hell. It's hard but I think we all
have to do this at one point or another to keep our shit together like you said, now that they know I'm gay it's good to not have to worry about new excuses or lies, or hating my birthday and all other holidays where family gets together.
@SharinByakuGan I always HATED answering that question about my relationship status. And it was always one of the first things asked. It's like, why is that such a big deal?
Another great vid I can totally relate to :). It's a dark place here in the closet, I recently noticed just how distant I have become from everyone. It's not nice knowing that you don't have anyone close to you. I don't really trust anyone 100% anymore, and haven't had anyone to properly talk to for years. I hate it here and just wanna get on to the next step of my life. But going through stuff like this makes you stronger, and I hold onto the hope of better things to come.
I can absolutely relate. Such a terrible period in my life, and I'm so glad it's over. Like you I spent so much time cloistered in my room, avoiding my family because I knew they would not like to find out who I really was.
Being a young man and going through the changes that come with it is difficult enough without having to isolate yourself from your own family. It is wonderful that you are lending support to those going through it.
I was glad that u brought up this topic. I'm closeted, still live with parents and it feels like I'm separating from them more & more everyday. We don't talk to each other about what's going on in my life & their lives anymore. My parents now become complete strangers to me. It's even worse when the holiday comes. Everybody in my entire family is talking to each other and having fun while I just sit in the corner trying to dodge those "who you're dating?" or "why don't u have a gf?" questions.
@huannguyen1991 I got so sick of answering those questions. I went through the exact same thing you're going through right now. Stay strong, my friend! You know where to find me if you need me! :-)
Valentine, Thanksgiving, Christmas my Birthday, these became the worst days for me cause those questions were the order of the day. Now that my close family knows and we got passed that, feels better.
@SharinByakuGan i know what u mean, i have the same problem... The uncles and aunts and cousins all asking everytime about girls and girlfriends and stuff make holidays a hard time.. But I can't come out yet, until i get a job because I'm pretty sure my dad will kick me out of the house, so i'm screwed for a while.. but i have a good group of friends that know and support me and these guys here at youtube which is awesome :)
@BlendAlias Yeah it's always GREAT to have someone to talk to, I mean there's so much one can keep to oneself, feels so good to let it out to someone you can trust =D
@SharinByakuGan indeed! I felt so good when I told someone for the first time, and I've been lucky so far I only got good reactions :) so it cheered me up alot and I'm much more confident and hopeful lately =)
I know what you mean about repressing it. After I came out it was so liberating that a few months after I forgot what it was like to be hiding it.
Recently someone asked me about my coming out story and it was hard for me to remember everything and when I did it brought back some anger because I remembered things I had repressed and forgotten from before.
I don't know what I would have done if I didn't tell a friend online first. She helped me so much.
Another great video. It was hard dealing with conservative parents and being in the closet. My family is very religious, as was I, so that complicated things a lot. However, my parents found out about me when I was 17, and I was so not ready at that time. I was sent to ex-gay therapy and a Christian counselor, which was very difficult to deal with. You're definitely right when you say "come out to someone you trust first."
I have a topic idea: Would you take a straight pill? Why/why not?
@th3g00dstuff88 That would have been awful x.x My dad kind of found out before I was ready to tell them, but he never talked to me about it and he tried to forget about it (thankfully). But he did think I needed counseling, but we didn't end up doing it.
@th3g00dstuff88 I'm so sorry you had to go through all that, especially at such a young age. I love the topic idea! I'll give a shout-out to you in the video. :-)
I am happy that you managed it to do another video before christmas :-)
Thank you
And such a good one... I thinking about sending you an email about that theme, had to deal with it ... my whole life... especially a few month ago - until today ^^...
Listening to your story really gave me flashbacks to when I went through that. I went through all that back in the late 80's and people were a lot less accepting back then. Back then if it was found out at school, you just plain got beat up. Alot of the jocks could tell I was and I got picked on so I swore i would never be a victim again. All I did was work out every day after school and take karate. Once I was strong enough, I simply smashed thier faces into the wall if they made a comment.
Xcorgi 1 week ago
WHAT'S the point in coming out.....I mean all parents and family REALLY want to know is whether or not you take it up the ass or you give it. I'm GAY, but seriously....there's no reason to come out....do it with your friends, but keep it on the lowdown when at home. You would anyways....and who wants to be judged while at home...people judge you in all ways, and I agree with what you are saying, the perception isn't about being an entertainer...but ideally....people judge.../
ConditioningOperant 2 weeks ago
This is what I feel like! Even though my parents know I'm gay, for some reason I still have trouble talking to them about relationships. It probably stems from this.
PolyesterSweater 2 months ago
my insides are eating me up now.. :(
wojtasinskiii 4 months ago
Thanks for every single word...
themonochromeman 6 months ago
I'm the same age as you exactly and i have the same relationship with my parents. I love them dearly but I don't wanna turn their world upside down, and the subsequent dilemma is highly dissonant. PLUS i live in Egypt... :-(
leptismagna10 9 months ago
I agree with the person below. I am used to being in the closet. It's the only life I've ever known. My personality is almost non-existent. Like in one of your previous videos, it is all fake made up bullshit so people won't think I am gay. I don't even know if I know myself anymore... I can't remember the last time I haven't had to think about something I am going to say, while just having a general chat to somebody. I avoid my family, use any excuse to get out of a situation where the family
hondafan71 10 months ago
For me I've gotten used to not coming out to my family but at the same time it's annoying to hear my mom ask if i have a girl friend or if i like any girls at school.
nyncblue 1 year ago
This video is amazing, and your channel too!
While I was listening to you I pass throught my experience, think about how difficult is to come out, event to one persone, and also how really it can release the tension you talked about! I have to make another step forward and come out to my parents... I want to do it, soon or later.
amphionmusic 1 year ago
That cold gut feeling I would get every time someone asked me "still no gf?" Main reason I don't call my family members that live far away, they all ask about me and I say hell no cause the 1st things that comes up is "How are the women?" also doesn't help that in my culture men as expected to have multiple girls at once... I also remember the dreaded match making my sister tried to do for me, asking me if this or that girl was cute so we could hook up...Hell. It's hard but I think we all
SharinByakuGan 1 year ago
have to do this at one point or another to keep our shit together like you said, now that they know I'm gay it's good to not have to worry about new excuses or lies, or hating my birthday and all other holidays where family gets together.
SharinByakuGan 1 year ago
@SharinByakuGan I always HATED answering that question about my relationship status. And it was always one of the first things asked. It's like, why is that such a big deal?
KindaGayBlog 1 year ago
Another great vid I can totally relate to :). It's a dark place here in the closet, I recently noticed just how distant I have become from everyone. It's not nice knowing that you don't have anyone close to you. I don't really trust anyone 100% anymore, and haven't had anyone to properly talk to for years. I hate it here and just wanna get on to the next step of my life. But going through stuff like this makes you stronger, and I hold onto the hope of better things to come.
Fr4yTheStrings 1 year ago
thanks 4 maken the video.....ur really awesome 4 doing so. :)
rayray2009able 1 year ago
I can absolutely relate. Such a terrible period in my life, and I'm so glad it's over. Like you I spent so much time cloistered in my room, avoiding my family because I knew they would not like to find out who I really was.
Being a young man and going through the changes that come with it is difficult enough without having to isolate yourself from your own family. It is wonderful that you are lending support to those going through it.
Jimplicit 1 year ago
I was glad that u brought up this topic. I'm closeted, still live with parents and it feels like I'm separating from them more & more everyday. We don't talk to each other about what's going on in my life & their lives anymore. My parents now become complete strangers to me. It's even worse when the holiday comes. Everybody in my entire family is talking to each other and having fun while I just sit in the corner trying to dodge those "who you're dating?" or "why don't u have a gf?" questions.
huannguyen1991 1 year ago
@huannguyen1991 I got so sick of answering those questions. I went through the exact same thing you're going through right now. Stay strong, my friend! You know where to find me if you need me! :-)
KindaGayBlog 1 year ago
Valentine, Thanksgiving, Christmas my Birthday, these became the worst days for me cause those questions were the order of the day. Now that my close family knows and we got passed that, feels better.
SharinByakuGan 1 year ago
@SharinByakuGan i know what u mean, i have the same problem... The uncles and aunts and cousins all asking everytime about girls and girlfriends and stuff make holidays a hard time.. But I can't come out yet, until i get a job because I'm pretty sure my dad will kick me out of the house, so i'm screwed for a while.. but i have a good group of friends that know and support me and these guys here at youtube which is awesome :)
BlendAlias 1 year ago
@BlendAlias Yeah it's always GREAT to have someone to talk to, I mean there's so much one can keep to oneself, feels so good to let it out to someone you can trust =D
SharinByakuGan 1 year ago
@SharinByakuGan indeed! I felt so good when I told someone for the first time, and I've been lucky so far I only got good reactions :) so it cheered me up alot and I'm much more confident and hopeful lately =)
BlendAlias 1 year ago
Happy Xmas...............
roblou62 1 year ago
We struggle together...........
NomadicJAG 1 year ago
@NomadicJAG We certainly do. Thank you for watching. :-)
KindaGayBlog 1 year ago
Awww, great video topic :)
I know what you mean about repressing it. After I came out it was so liberating that a few months after I forgot what it was like to be hiding it.
Recently someone asked me about my coming out story and it was hard for me to remember everything and when I did it brought back some anger because I remembered things I had repressed and forgotten from before.
I don't know what I would have done if I didn't tell a friend online first. She helped me so much.
Valcuric 1 year ago
@Valcuric Online friends are a great resource for closeted people.
I don't like remembering my closeted days, though I learned a lot about myself now that I think about it. Glad you made it through, too!
KindaGayBlog 1 year ago
Another great video. It was hard dealing with conservative parents and being in the closet. My family is very religious, as was I, so that complicated things a lot. However, my parents found out about me when I was 17, and I was so not ready at that time. I was sent to ex-gay therapy and a Christian counselor, which was very difficult to deal with. You're definitely right when you say "come out to someone you trust first."
I have a topic idea: Would you take a straight pill? Why/why not?
th3g00dstuff88 1 year ago
@th3g00dstuff88 That would have been awful x.x My dad kind of found out before I was ready to tell them, but he never talked to me about it and he tried to forget about it (thankfully). But he did think I needed counseling, but we didn't end up doing it.
That's a great topic! I would have to say NEVER!
I really love who I am and I would never change.
Valcuric 1 year ago
@th3g00dstuff88 I'm so sorry you had to go through all that, especially at such a young age. I love the topic idea! I'll give a shout-out to you in the video. :-)
KindaGayBlog 1 year ago
@th3g00dstuff88 Great topic idea ^^
DemiSecco 1 year ago
you've got mail
DemiSecco 1 year ago
I am happy that you managed it to do another video before christmas :-)
Thank you
And such a good one... I thinking about sending you an email about that theme, had to deal with it ... my whole life... especially a few month ago - until today ^^...
best regards from austria - merry christmas
DemiSecco 1 year ago