Advice to Girls from Guys: Pre-dating and Courting

[VivaVistaMac1]

you had me subscribed at "double X chromosomes" LOL

[annamiester]

WHY does this guy not have more views?!

[blink13xiii]

I fail epicly. i am a master at mixed messages and not on purpose. my bad.

[summergreenification]

Okay thanks this really helped me out, you're really funny btw too! :)

[Fishcustardis]

Your neck muscles. Are bad ass. 

[Praise13Jebus]

Hey I have a fella friend who I sent smileys to and everything but we have the same friend group so we all always go out at the same time so I dont know what to do...

It'd be obvious if we just hung out so I dont know what else to do

sometimes he acts like he likes me then barely talks to me for a while

Any suggestions???

Nice vidoes btw :) there cool

[BaxterHope]

I think some guys should definatlly listen to this video (: i know lots of guys who gives TONS of mixed signals .

[tazzlez60]

My friend and I have been friends for a few months now and considers me his best friend. He has a girlfriend who he frequently complains about, whereas I tell him everything that's on my mind and he does the same back. He has called me beautiful on many occasions and says I rate 5/5 on his dream girl scale. Which is a major compliment. He says he loves her, but if they do break up, I would love to have a chance with him... But I don't wanna be seen as the 'rebound' So yeah...

[prancer303]

Ok... wow. I think i may be a guy on the inside :P Nah, just kidding. I am however a girl who completely agrees with everything you just said, and have always followed these rules :P Thanks! <3

[JoshH37591]

I've never heard women referred to as XX chromosomes before :)

[morooa909]

So, if a guy says they like yu and they want to make yu their "girl" but yu dnt really talk all the time and he'll be ok with going days without talking. Help! Idk what to think. :/

[sinsaremyspecialty]

@twilightfreak12321 Wow, you talk down to some guy like you're some high and mighty example of maturity. Well, I'm here to tell you, little Missy, to get the fuck back in your loser line. You're the REAL 11-year-old brat who enjoys Twilight and Justin Bieber's "Baby". Hah! So go back to your childish bullshit while you finger those sandy fish-lips, you lovely cream pie. ;)

[twilightfreak12321]

@sinsaremyspecialty You're cool (:

[jojo5640]

Advice about dating from a Pubes17 hahaha no ill just go suck on a railroad spike what would you know about dating let alone dating guys...yes sir you ar a faget Rick Perry Hates you with passion you queera

btw you insulted evry girl out there today. son i am very dissapoint

[twilightfreak12321]

@jojo5640

Dear jojo,

I am a female (you might not be used to talking to females, so just try to understand). I don't think anyone was insulted by this video, being as he was just trying to help us out. But by looking at your spelling and how you type things, I am assuming you are an 11 year old who has never had a girlfriend. So, darling child, try not to hate on "Pubes17" For helping us girls out, and go watch some Spongebob or something. Sorry kid, I was just "very dissapoint".

[xMikomiChanx]

@twilightfreak12321 -high fives- I love you. XD That, my dear, was fantastic.

[twilightfreak12321]

@xMikomiChanx Rofl ;D Love you too <3

[magicoA]

@twilightfreak12321 hey now,spongebob is a classic for all ages, im in college and everyone refrences it allll the time

[MARSA90210]

i love you so so much ... but please... never ... ever .. where a V neck..

[TirlaStar]

exctied for more!

[peculiarpixie]

Wait... do texts with simple smiley emoticons (no less than 3's or smiley winks) REALLY lead guys on?

[storyofsarah]

Okay, so, there's this guy friend (definitely nothing more) that I sometimes help with homework via text. On occasion, he'll send me an smiley face after I, for example, help me figure out how to do a particular math problem. I feel like a Scrooge if I don't smile back at least once. Is that flirty?

[Maylett91]

Oh my gawd! I hate being a girl!!! DDD:

I just now got into some deep thoughts.... I think I'm responsible for doing two of the things you said, but I mean... I don't do them on purpose!

D;

I'm confused ._. I'm going to go live under a rock now...

[keeporjot]

This also applies to Guys from Guys.

[MusicAddict2213]

thank you so much for this! i'm always sending my guy friends smiley faces, so now i understand why they think i'm flirty! but is it bad or flirty to hug them a lot?

[theseeingeyedogs]

thank you!

[theatrebug7]

THESE TAGS ARE NOW DIAMONDS! I love you.

[alexQuantizes]

Okay, right off the bat, that kinda upset me. I'm a gay man, and when people forget (perhaps not the right word, but close enough) that gay men exist, it really pisses me off. There's a huge culture of compulsory heterosexuality in western culture which is incredibly problematic. Tiny things like saying "guys" instead of "guys seeking girls" don't help. It's hard to explain, but the video implies that all girls are after guys and vice versa. I know it wasn't intentional, but it's a problem.

[theatrebug7]

The only video that doesn't start with, "YouTube, what's going on?"

[EmBeeBe]

Right now I'm in a situation where the GUY is doing all these things you say not to do. So this really could be generic advice, not just to girls.

What should I do with a guy who I think was TOTALLY flirting. I asked him to hang out. He said "You don't want me, I'm horrible and boring." I took that as a no. But yet he still IMs or talks to me EVERY DAY. We weren't friends before this, and I don't have any other friends that I talk to as much as him. It just seems like mixed messaging.

[Caedin8]

@EmBeeBe follow his advice. Just be like, " your right, I don't want any sort of relationship with you." If he is fishing for compliments or begging for reaffirmations that he is funny, cute, or w/e you can't be the one to give them to him. Simply because you know he wants you, and that would be leading him on. Also don't initiate conversation with him, i don't want to say don't be friends, but if you have to be a little cold for a week or two to drive the point home it benefit you both.

[Caedin8]

@Caedin8 by *his* advice, i ment schubes17's advice of being straight up.

[rosexofxalabaster]

But... my smilies... how will I effectively convey my totally platonic amusement?

[Enarab1]

Does this apply to girls who have more male friends then female friends?

[NickDanger14]

Well, Deb watched this clip and she reacted much like a wet barn cat with a mouth full of red peppers. I agree with your observations/recommendations. I suspect this may be a quiet Christmas and that's ok! Keep doing your stuff, it's good! Merry Christmas.

[Anteaterdance]

Great advice Mike!! I definitely send too many smileys!

[sevilayaydogan]

I feel bad for every smiley face i've ever sent a guy now lol I had a situation recently where i went on a few dates with a guy i wasn't interested in because i didn't want to hurt his feelings and thought i'll give him a chance what harm could it do..... the "i don't fancy you and this isn't going anywhere" conversation was the most awkward and most stressful thing i've ever done!

[TutorialAdvice]

I missed all of that... i was just staring into your eyes.... THOSE EYES!

[OhHayMike]

Heeey, thumbs up for Watsky.

[joceery]

I had no idea the word wishy-washy is in english too. cute.

[Anteaterdance]

@joceery What other language has 'wishy-washy?' :D That's awesome!!

[joceery]

@Anteaterdance well, the German language! there it's wischiwaschi, so you see that's almost the same. :)

[Anteaterdance]

@joceery Ahh!! :D That is so cool XD!!

[MissKriekentaart]

Also, I don't believe in the smiley-face rule, or else everyone I know is flirting with everyone I know... Or I just live in a community of sluts -_-'

[MissKriekentaart]

Problem is I tend to treat my guy-friends like my girl-friends, which usually turns out okay, but every now and then leads to a 'eeww that's not how I meant it D:' situation.

[PurityRayne]

I get tired of waiting for guys, so I'm usually the one to come straight out first and ask him out lol

[ageeksrevenge]

This was very informative. I'm not good at this stuff. Think A Very Potter Sequel: "Boys are stupid. Throw rocks at them." Soo if you (or anyone in the comments) want to give advice: Uh, so I was dancing in a group at homecoming, and this guy (we're better friends now) slow danced with me. I did not jump to conclusions because guys HATE that. But he didn't slow dance with anyone else. Also I'm told I tend to be oblivious to flirting. I have no idea if that meant he liked me. Hey, word limit! :/

[Schubes17]

@ageeksrevenge dancing with you at the slow dance is for sure a good sign, but it isn't a dead giveaway

[ageeksrevenge]

@Schubes17 ah thank you. I think that made me pay more attention haha.

[MsMoonHere]

Wow! 18 minutes o..o that's a long time. You must've talked about a ton of stuff since, you know, you talk pretty fast anyway :D

S'kinda sad.. I don't even see guys as datable any more, because I don't believe that any of them will ever want to date me anyway -..- As a result of assuming no one wants me, I found out a friend of mine was crushing on me, and I totally, obliviously friend zoned him. I suppose I wasn't unclear. It just didn't turn out how he wanted :| *shuffles back to cubby hole*

[Schubes17]

@MsMoonHere Yeah I mentioned quite a bit in the 18 min of footage. You shouldn't think that guys will never date you, there's no need to put yourself down like that.

[MsMoonHere]

@Schubes17 It's part of an on-going self esteem problem really. I try to keep myself aware of it and encourage myself, but in the end it's just... well. A mentality that I live with. Luckily, I'm the kind of person who enjoys their single lifestyle and having freedom and individuality :) Besides, I'd rather be single and work on my own issues than be in a relationship with someone I have lukewarm or no feelings for. It just wouldn't be fair.

I look forward to the next video in the series!

[crailberry]

@MsMoonHere So now you guys are permanently "just friends"? Now that you know, change things up, start flirting, or being more "aggressive" towards him. Not aggressive, but start texting him more, hanging out more, ect. This whole "just friends" thing can be reversed, ya know.

[MsMoonHere]

@crailberry Oh, now hang on just a second <..< being single or not single or flirting or not flirting isn't really the issue here. The issue is having such poor self image/self esteem that you imagine 'no one will ever want me so why bother?' Whether you flirt or don't, whether you date or don't, that's not exactly ensuring that you achieve happiness. For that matter, his feelings shouldn't be what dictate the relationship. I'd rather be single and wait for someone I really care for :)

[iwtfcp]

Your videos are great! You definitely should have more views. Keep on doin' your thing!

[TheTunaNet]

That was awesome. Totally with ya on all those. hahaha great vid bro.

[Schubes17]

@TheTunaNet gracias

[billnyethe1742]

advice for the guys?

[Schubes17]

@billnyethe1742 possibly in the future, yes

[auburngeekgirl]

When you are editing your video it looks less like you are feeling really warm and more like you have developed a huge rash on your chest that you are trying really hard not to scratch. (It's really funny!) Good to know about the emoticons, I normally use a ;) to denote that I'm joking or being sarcastic. I should probably figure out some other way to indicate sarcasm.

[Schubes17]

@auburngeekgirl yeah I find that to get across sarcasm i just put haha at the end

[XbellzS]

what hints of interest are you talking about if you actually do want a relationship with the person? cuz you mainly talked about wat not to do if you dont want a relationship with the person. also just a random question, do guys talk with their guy friends about girls they like? thanks! love you!

[Schubes17]

@XbellzS if you DO want a relationship, do what I said: text them frequently, flirt a bit, and invite them to hang out with you a lot. More than you would with just a friend.

[MikesMultiVideos]

You make great videos!! I'm reviewing different YouTubers and you're one I'm interested in emulating or probably just learn from you

[Schubes17]

@MikesMultiVideos aww thanks!

[AmandaRose731]

Three things I need to say/ask:

1. The Watsky reference makes you more awesome than you already were

2. I use smilies ALL the time like a lot of the others and had no idea. I'll try to stop.

3. Is it ok to hug guys who are just friends or is that as dangerous as a smiley?

[Schubes17]

@AmandaRose731 1. SO GLAD YOU KNEW IT WAS WATSKY.

2. it's okay, if you use them all the time people just expect it. so youre okay.

3. nah, hugs are fine as long as they aren't long and drawn out.

[Etrelia]

Haha. :D

<3



[JesusFreak777727]

Double x chromosomes haha <3

[Ilov2shop321]

That's confusing does it mean I can't hang out with guys because that is giving them the hint that i'm interested when I only want to be friends?

[Schubes17]

@Ilov2shop321 no, you can hang out with them. Just don't try to send messages while you hang out

[ThePotatomilkshake]

I never knew that by sending :) that I was being flirty... I send those..to like EVERYONE

[Schubes17]

@ThePotatomilkshake haha if you send them to EVERYONE than they'll expect it and you don't have to worry about it

[Kb1hockeychick]

The emoticons makes so much more sense now!! My friend sent me one in FB chat and so I replied with one and then the next time he saw me in person he asked me out and Im totally not interested. We still have stayed friends because I told him Im into older guys (which is true- I just wish the older guys I like like me back and not the creepy ones).

Can't wait to see the next videos in this series!!!

[Schubes17]

@Kb1hockeychick haha glad I could help you have a revelation

[okletsjam1]

I send emoticons to everyone.... What have I done?

[Schubes17]

@okletsjam1 nothing, they probably expect it so you aren't giving off bad vibes

[zottepark]

Like, omigawg, Mikey ur so friggen kewt! Maybe we can go 2, like, the mall, and meet my bffz...

[Schubes17]

@zottepark ;)

[11jess1122]

I just said no to a guy last night, And I felt really bad about it but I guess it's life, but, just a question

I don't really want to be friends with him, but I don't know how to make him stop texting/facebooking me.

He is basically stalking my life, and I do not admire it, but I don't want to be mean to him. D:

[lennygel666]

@11jess1122 then you've flirted too much with him and he's not obsessing over you

block him everywhere and avoid him IRL, or just straight tell him that you don't like him and that you'd like it if he'd stop contacting you

[Schubes17]

@11jess1122 just be straight up with him. If he persists, tell him to stop. If he won't, block the crap out of him.

[z0mbiearms]

"You send us a happy face, you wanna MARRY US." My only thing about that would be that I sometimes throw emoticons into my texts (to everyone, male and female) so that my intentions are clear and sarcasm isn't taken seriously or anything. But this was thoroughly enjoyable (and somewhat educational) and I'm looking forward to the next two =] (don't read anything into that smiley)

[Schubes17]

@z0mbiearms if you use them all the time, you don't give off the wrong impression so you're good.

[TheNomadknight]

You're right about being mean to a guy if not interested. Tried being nice about saying no, but that doesn't work :P. The one exception to this would be when a friend of mine asked me out and I told him that I just want to stay friends, he suddenly became pretty creepy and wouldn't leave me alone.

[Schubes17]

@TheNomadknight probably just needed to make it more clear that there was nothing there for the future

[SmithVlogs]

Girls will be more flirty with guys though, because they like the attention the guy gives them. That's something I've noticed!

[Schubes17]

@SmithVlogs so true man.

[MsPipedream]

Heh, press 8.

[Schubes17]

@MsPipedream lawl.

[InLoveWithTheStars]

what if the guy is just an acquaintance?

[Schubes17]

@InLoveWithTheStars treat him like a friend if you want him to be, treat him like more if you want him to be more

[coolLaney]

omg thank u so much, a lot of things make more sense now...

[Schubes17]

@coolLaney glald I could help!

[morooa909]

Bed head so cute

lol n true

i cnt wait til yur

next videos

[Schubes17]

@morooa909 i'm glad!

[LaLaLaughs206]

haha you wore your V neck that u promised! btw a bit creepy with the scary heavy breathing.... but your still awsome! :) .... and yes i ment to smile at u :)

[Schubes17]

@LaLaLaughs206 haha thank you

[TheSweetestVegan]

Thanks for the tips

[Schubes17]

@TheSweetestVegan no problem!

[hpobsessed21]

Maybe I just have a "guy" mentality, but I am a girl and I agree with all of these.

[Schubes17]

@hpobsessed21 haha awesome

[fire344100]

funny

[Schubes17]

@fire344100 thanks!

[patzipat7]

But...I send smileys to EVERYONE. Not specifically to anyone. Just everyone in general.

Does that still count as flirting?

[JunoKuno]

Yeah I hate when girls r super flirty with everyone and end up hurting ppl who get the wrong idea or the guy i like starts liking them :/ Great advice, I'm lookin forward to parts 2 and 3!!! :) ---yes I wanna be more than friends ;) Lol jkkk

[iLeaveYouWithHugs]

-Not gunna lie, I'm excited about this :}

-"Do not use smile faces...

...BOOM it's done. You send us a happy face, you wanna marry us!" HAHAHAA.... oh crap

xD

-I do smiles all. the. time. xD

-I always feel so horrible when I'm really straight up... of course it probably makes it worse when I prefer his bestfriend... yeaaa...

-HOLY CRAP.

-Yay! I'm excited for the rest :D

*hugs*

[DavidWoodFX]

:)

[Schubes17]

@DavidWoodFX :D

[awreslr2]

Nice videos, (as your videos always are!) Remember to tell the women NOT to agree to go out on a date with a guy, or to ask a guy out on a date just to say to the guy that you don't wanna go out anymore after this date!

[Schubes17]

@awreslr2 yesss

[nourmij]

THANKS FOR THE ADVICE SCHUBES! You're the greatest!

[Schubes17]

@nourmij aww thanks!

[NickDanger14]

Gee I hope Deb views this clip.

[Schubes17]

@NickDanger14 Deb?

[WithASideOfFries]

Wow...that was great advice...and I'm a guy.

[Schubes17]

@WithASideOfFries haha awesome

[maybelineexo]

do a video on what guys mean when they do certain stuff, not just what girls can do :)

[Schubes17]

@maybelineexo good call, good call

[xxStephyStellar]

Is this for real? I smiley face everyone.

I feel like a whore. :'(

[Schubes17]

@xxStephyStellar no no no no. If you use them a lot, people will expect it. People probably just expect you to add them so you're good. You're not a whore

[sunheart123]

WHAT. 0_____0

I use smileys ALL THE TIME...TO EVERYONE...omg...am I unknowingly flirting with everyone? OMG! Am I giving people the wrong idea? :O Do people just think I'm a huge whore? omg.

[Schubes17]

@sunheart123 haha not at all. If you do it alllllll the time, people will expect it. But if you do it enough from time to time that'd give it off. So people probably just expect you to add them so you're good

[xXJoshuaDXx]

me and 11 ppl approve this. :D

[Schubes17]

@xXJoshuaDXx yay!

[AmyBinnz]

I believe what you've said is correct, but not just for women... Men should take on some of that advice too. I don't know how many times a guy had hinted and flirted then has turned around and is suddenly not interested in me in that way.

[Schubes17]

@AmyBinnz this is quite true

[lyfeportrait]

This is amazing ahaha, great job, about time someone put this out there :p

[Schubes17]

@lyfeportrait haha thank you!

[tiger3lily3]

that was actually helpful. looking forward to parts 2 and 3!

[Schubes17]

@tiger3lily3 huzzah!

[YoungJeezyCOD]

How has no one said this before? Great job man :D

[Schubes17]

@YoungJeezyCOD thanks man!

[YoungJeezyCOD]

@Schubes17 No problem, you're videos are probably one of my favorites, I wish there were videos uploaded much sooner than they are, but quality over quantity. Keep up the great work, always excited for a new schubes video.

[Manatee4me]

Oh, Schubes...

I put emoticons in most of my comments on your videos. I feel like I've been molesting you with emoticons, I'm sorry! I'm just a smiley person, I swear!

[Schubes17]

@Manatee4me haha I understand completely

[RowlfWannabe]

v-neck editing sweaty shubes needs to be a gif 3:15

[Schubes17]

@RowlfWannabe YES.

[lizadventures]

zero views... how?

[Schubes17]

@lizadventures magic.