once again, you are absolutely on point. It makes me uncomfortable to see myself now-dating to find the husband, but subconsciously, I drop friends or people who are not on the same page as I. I am not into clubs, never getting out-I like going to lectures, educational forums, and jazz spots. I'm not skipping over, but I need to change my mindset that it isnt coming easy. I now need more friends that are not resistant to bm, aspire to be good wives/moms like me, and share the same interests.
Good point pink. The problem is that when so called good girls are in college, they surround themselves with bum niggas. When they leave college they start crying about finding men on their level. Well damn, you had an opportunity to find a guy on your level in college. You wasted those years on trifling men. Who fault is that?
I cant knock you, you are right. the first part of growth is to be real with yourself. But some of us made mistakes- im not bitter but I will be 26, graduating from law school in may, and want to get it right. Dont give up on us-we were immature and blind. But I wont turn an eye to a player or one w/
"swag". I am highly intellectual, interested in someone on this level, dont care about clothes, material things, but character. Now I have payback-bad guys hiding in nice clothes. weeing them out.
Well...Eight mos. of dating has gone by & I'm struggling to find common ground or compatibility with my man. Now I'm having a hard time finding the exit door.... Its frustrating bc he seems to expect that I'll be around for infinity-and for me, the chemistry is there, but I should have checked for compatibility first & foremost.
thats what i have been saying, that it seems best for me end up with somone who have activities with me where we not only have similar interests, but we have built a relationship that probably gets strong with time.
thank you. it only makes sense. i cant imagine meeting someone outta the blue and we are talking about marriage. black women have a bad habit of not interacting with black men before the whole idea of marriage even comes up for them and the first serious man they meet (when they hit 28 or so) they know want to consider marriage with. i dont care how old she is, if we meet outta the blue it will take at least 3 years before i even consider marriage.
Compatability is tougher in general, but most women have a large set of expectations. More to the point, these expectations are quite maliable, meaning they change with external factors like friends situations, the economic enviroment. Chemistry is important, but women have to get over their entitlments and fears and men have to get over their sex drives and actually pay attention to the woman.
A problem is that we don't communicate anymore. So many women are afraid and run away without giving the guy a chance. Most of the things that scare off women are things that we could talk about and fix.
Agreed. Women are socially sensitive beings, meening they are more likely to worry about their surroundings than men. This is especially true for black women as, from all the video responses, they feel that their differences from other non-black women are negatives JUST BECAUSE they are differences.
Men and women love excitement. But when a man wants excitement he plays video games, sports, martial arts. Risking your uterus on "excitement" is just as irresponsible as drugs.
I agree, another Great Video once again!! I think people rush into love, marriage, and even relationships too fast. It's about getting to know people, and building a strong sense of friendship first.
So many BW think they can play around in there late teens and early 20's, then focus on there education, then focus on there career, (cutting men totally out of the picture)
Then when they hit 30, Ok NOW im ready to get married and think men are supposed to start appearing ready to settle down.
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darseeify 1 year ago
Good on you Pink Elephant! Keep up the good work
Lancia444 2 years ago
once again, you are absolutely on point. It makes me uncomfortable to see myself now-dating to find the husband, but subconsciously, I drop friends or people who are not on the same page as I. I am not into clubs, never getting out-I like going to lectures, educational forums, and jazz spots. I'm not skipping over, but I need to change my mindset that it isnt coming easy. I now need more friends that are not resistant to bm, aspire to be good wives/moms like me, and share the same interests.
staylo37 2 years ago
Good point pink. The problem is that when so called good girls are in college, they surround themselves with bum niggas. When they leave college they start crying about finding men on their level. Well damn, you had an opportunity to find a guy on your level in college. You wasted those years on trifling men. Who fault is that?
reignsupreme 2 years ago 10
I cant knock you, you are right. the first part of growth is to be real with yourself. But some of us made mistakes- im not bitter but I will be 26, graduating from law school in may, and want to get it right. Dont give up on us-we were immature and blind. But I wont turn an eye to a player or one w/
"swag". I am highly intellectual, interested in someone on this level, dont care about clothes, material things, but character. Now I have payback-bad guys hiding in nice clothes. weeing them out.
staylo37 2 years ago
i'M BECOMING A DRUG DEALER, THAT'S THE ONLY WAY I'LL GET LAID. FUCK THAT BE YOUSELF, WAIT AROUND SHIT .
mfreeman7821 2 years ago
Well...Eight mos. of dating has gone by & I'm struggling to find common ground or compatibility with my man. Now I'm having a hard time finding the exit door.... Its frustrating bc he seems to expect that I'll be around for infinity-and for me, the chemistry is there, but I should have checked for compatibility first & foremost.
etemuru 2 years ago
that probably the best way to do it.
pinkkelephant 2 years ago
thats what i have been saying, that it seems best for me end up with somone who have activities with me where we not only have similar interests, but we have built a relationship that probably gets strong with time.
stashpot80 2 years ago
thank you. it only makes sense. i cant imagine meeting someone outta the blue and we are talking about marriage. black women have a bad habit of not interacting with black men before the whole idea of marriage even comes up for them and the first serious man they meet (when they hit 28 or so) they know want to consider marriage with. i dont care how old she is, if we meet outta the blue it will take at least 3 years before i even consider marriage.
pinkkelephant 2 years ago
Compatability is tougher in general, but most women have a large set of expectations. More to the point, these expectations are quite maliable, meaning they change with external factors like friends situations, the economic enviroment. Chemistry is important, but women have to get over their entitlments and fears and men have to get over their sex drives and actually pay attention to the woman.
c00lwatter 2 years ago
A problem is that we don't communicate anymore. So many women are afraid and run away without giving the guy a chance. Most of the things that scare off women are things that we could talk about and fix.
TSmitty3000 2 years ago
Agreed. Women are socially sensitive beings, meening they are more likely to worry about their surroundings than men. This is especially true for black women as, from all the video responses, they feel that their differences from other non-black women are negatives JUST BECAUSE they are differences.
Men and women love excitement. But when a man wants excitement he plays video games, sports, martial arts. Risking your uterus on "excitement" is just as irresponsible as drugs.
c00lwatter 2 years ago
what do u mean risking your uterus ?
rickey2b4 2 years ago
Having sex with dirty men cause these men excite them the most.
c00lwatter 2 years ago
huh ?
rickey2b4 2 years ago
Um...lettin' no good, thug ass niggas hit is raw.
Please don't ask me to dumb it down.
c00lwatter 2 years ago
yeah right..uterus risking? maybe he means having babies with them. Isn't that a risk on both sides though?
mpenny226 2 years ago
When a man wants excitement sex is not in the equation? really?
mpenny226 2 years ago
You are attempting to patronize me. Cute.
c00lwatter 2 years ago
Excellent video.
IconListening 2 years ago
I agree, another Great Video once again!! I think people rush into love, marriage, and even relationships too fast. It's about getting to know people, and building a strong sense of friendship first.
Tayquis 2 years ago
ROMANTICISM is killing reality
blkskin1 2 years ago
Good video. Chemistry is very important, but so is compatibility. I think in order to find a good marriage partner, you need a little bit of both.
KomicGenius 2 years ago 4
Good vid!!
So many BW think they can play around in there late teens and early 20's, then focus on there education, then focus on there career, (cutting men totally out of the picture)
Then when they hit 30, Ok NOW im ready to get married and think men are supposed to start appearing ready to settle down.
Its just not reality!!!!
cnell25 2 years ago 10
i agree but when I was fresh out of college, I was not ready to be a mother and I was about 28 when I felt like the timing was better.
mpenny226 2 years ago