Lama Ole Nydahl - Love & Realtionships

[dradoczy]

Lama Ole, please do not laugh at me, I just wanna turn to you for help. I'm a European girl, who wanted to know more about human spirit. I'm so suffering for dead fear. My life makes me doin' boring, frightenning things all day, I have to live with ill people together and it makes me miserable. Please, sent a message I don't mind with whom and I'll feel GRATITUDE FOREVER. THANK YOU VERY MUCH INDEED. Your's Sincerely: Waterlilly

[ikhamo]

I think its good that we have Inji (Westerner) lamas teaching the Buddha dharma. You put things into perspective and more enjoyable to listen and easier to learn.

[vthoe]

I must say I disagree with the Lama on this topic. I think these preconcieved principles about what is male and female, is a very anachronistic way of thinking which will only constrain our lives.

[freeflymike]

how nice that for once someone disagrees politely.

[lightconstruct]

@vthoe:Well, vthoe first i'd like to hear from you, what do you consider being modern. Because as i see and almost everybody can see not the economic is on crysis, but the man-women relationship as well. Humanity nowadays in trouble defining what does really mean being male or female. Yes, the world has changed a lot and most of the principle motivations/energies what Ole talks about can be found more and more in both gender. Woman have more male attributes and vica-verse.

[lightconstruct]

@vthoe, part2 :) Until man cannot give birth i think it is better to "stick" to the basic principles. Because those will help you to live a more balanced life as woman or man. Hm?

[EgoTailTRAILCIRCLE]

Man dreams himself as METROSEXUAL soft types now days, Woman dream themselfes as MASCULAN take care of themselfes now days, dont agree?

men put hair gel on to look pretty, woman practice karate LOL its a mixed up world.

[AnandaShake]

yes i dont know why

[shefali13]

Are there white people who are Buddhists by religion? When i say white, i mean European or European-descended. Are there regular white people who are Buddhists by religion, either monks or lay Buddhists

[EgoTailTRAILCIRCLE]

I follow buddhism, when i really take a look at myself i see pink skin? =/

[boodleboy]

Many western europeans follow watered down, westernized schools of buddhism like Shambala or the "diamond way". However, they don't really follow the original teachings of the buddha.

[Aschenmonster]

I'm not certain that you know what you are talking about, boodleboy. I've studied under a number of traditions, and I can assure you that the Diamond Way is as legitimate as any. I will grant you that the Diamond Way is westernized, it is the western face of the Karma Kagyu tradition. Lama Ole was asked by HH the XVI Karmapa to bring the teachings to the west, and explain them in a way we can relate to. He is very careful to separate Tibetan cultural trappings from the essence of the Dharma.

[boodleboy]

I had a personal experience with a follower and supposedly close friend of Lama Ole who supported meat eating and abortion, claiming "the bad karma is only with the butcher/doctor". He also had several other habits he defended strongly that went in clear opposition to the essence of the 4 noble truths. I have to admint though, i didn't study the teachings of the diamond way very thoroughly, i consider myself a "free buddhist" who studied "only" the original teachings of the buddha.

[Aschenmonster]

The Karma Kagyu tradition focuses on the view and nature of mind. Therefore, many 'popular' notions of buddhism don't line up. I have a hunch that you consider the Buddha's "true" teachings to be those within the Hinayana canon. Vajrayana is quite a bit different. Only the southern schools of Buddhism consider vegetarianism a requirement (impossible in Tibet, although I am one). Lama Ole speaks on abortion in the above video on Karma. His thoughts obviously don't line up with your friend's

[jcandell]

@shefali13 more than you think

[daveyork0]

Analysis and expression of his views about what is essentially male and what is essentially female at the inner and emotional levels & what is gained to the male by receptiveness a female counterpart and vice versa.

At certain points the audience laughs knowingly.

He's highly aware. Awakened. He relates 3 or 4or 5 aspects of each concept explained.

Leave a relationship when the basic physical attraction is gone, always leaving as friends and being mindful afterwards not to

[daveyork0]

poison the minds of children re their perception of the other parent.

[ntamarr]

Thank you lama

[wuhwuh]

Thank you very much.I practice NgalSo Self healing in Tibetan Buddhism for years.This explanation was very good

[Phnukster]

Thank you Ole !

[1FreeJoker]

Idea IS to work with a totality, "not just bits of it".

[timeblind]

buddha said that in every country the dharma would have to be stylised and adapted to make it effective. this was true when it spread to china, tibet and sri lanka. and its true now for europe, the US, s.america, africa too. I like the ole.

[BarbarraBay]

Third, from a Theravedan perspective, to develop oneself is paramount. In Theravedan scripture, Buddha taught qualities of successful relationship are: honesty, self development, patience and sacrifice/generosity. Also taught success if two people have the same faith, same virtue, same generosity and same wisdom. Homosexual relationships can apply these Dhammas.

[BarbarraBay]

Second, the dynamics you are discussing appears to come from Tibetan Buddhism given they are not found in the Theraveda. I found it all very interesting.

[BarbarraBay]

Firstly, I wish to offer my respects. Your talks are very accessable. I read today you have been teaching since 1972. Your life has been most beneficial.