The way I see it honesty and integrity have a price.Most people are happy to be without either, but if you can sleep at night knowing you are true to yourself, isn't that far more important? It's not awlays nice and far easier to be decpetive but that too also unfortunately carries a price.
not everybody can be 100% liked but especially on youtube a fuck you attitude lol is a good one to have :) ...giving up weed is easy but damn do i miss it lol
be your depressed pessimistic self . . . even though you will meet less people that way, the people that you will meet will be more positive and less ignorant than the average . . . .
Just be yourself. Obviously it's easier to get on socially if you are are happy with yourself. People pick up on that. It shuldn't be an effort though. People pick up on that too.
I tend to prefer the truth. I'd like it put forth tactfully if possible. But even an untactful truth is preferable to a white lie (with the caveat that it's a non-obvious truth not being stated for the sole purpose of hurting me).
In fact, one of the things that tipped me off to how few "true" friends I had was becoming aware of how many little things people either ignored or lied to me about (like spinach in my teeth for example).
You are far from being An insignificant person. Your ability to be honest... is a rare gift... And you have had a positive influence on The lives of more people than you realize. The only people who matter... are the people who Like you, and understand you. The rest (for the most Part) are a waste of your valuable time, and energy. Good luck in your efforts to give up cannabis. A Continued reliance upon it... will only serve to feed Your feelings of depression... I assure you.
Ahhh, the good old days of having a house I could smoke in.
I suppose it's better for me I can't...but dammit, these e-cigs just aren't as good sometimes!
It's a balance, interacting with people in a way that is both real and "fake." In other words, you meet someone, you have to be, you know, polite. So to an extent that's "fake." But as the conversation progresses you can, in a polite way, start acting real--and people appreciate that.
They want to be real too, evidently. Most simply fail@it
I don't think the people who fake it end up doing much for society, or even for themselves, anyway. I don't know what the purpose of life is, but it sure isn't looking good doing it.
i think one of the benefits to being real is the type of people you attract. i'd rather surround myself with people i can be real with - it seems that generally, those are the most down to earth people anyway.
The way i see it, it's a matter of degrees. I don't fake it all the way, but I don't pile everything on someone right away. I chat a bit on pointless subjects first, to see if they are someone who is gonna still be interested if I'm honest.
Keep practicing...you're quite believable. The brain is a railyard and we grease the tracks to where we wish to go. Smile and you will be happier...it sounds simple, but also happens to be a scientific conclusion.
It does my head in when people ask me how I am. I usually just ignore them or lie. I'm not honest with many people. It's annoying that it's so socially unacceptable to be unhappy.
When I meet new people I tend to lie to them about how I am until I've got a bit closer to them. Pretty stupid I guess. Maybe I should just be honest from the start like you're saying and if they don't like it they can fuck off.
if you fake it you will still be lonely. even though you may not be physically isolated, you won't feel any sort of connection with them because you will have to wear a mask around them (just as they are wearing their own) in order for them to like you. you can be surrounded by people who "like" you but still feel lonely because none of them really know you, only the mask you're wearing. IMO the best cure for loneliness is to learn to love yourself, b/c there's no guarantee anyone else will
I have manic depressive tendencies. It's off putting to people, i think. I know if i'm around people who are real and authentic, and who don't play games, my depression evens out.
I think you're own worst critic. You're smart, kind, warm, and, i think, elegant looking. ps-i'm taking pharma grade htp-5 for my depression: it;s been a god send. Please try it before you try anything like prozac.
One of the rodent depression studies (they adinistered shocks to a control group of rats) suggested that depression arises out of feeling a lack of control over your environment. When they serotin levels were boosted with htp-5 the rats became creative in the way they dealt the electric shocks, with the unsatifying environment: they started to exert control over the envornment and actually learned ways to avoid the shocks. Sorry if this makes nos sense-lap top is fucked!
I've noticed people who thumb down very rarely say why. I suspect that is less to do with the video maker and more to do with the person doing it. I'd like a discussion with whoever sometimes does it on mine (assuming it's the same person which it may well not be), but it seems a peculiarly cowardly thing. I'm certainly not looking for only pats on the head but good discussions.
Makes me think of how my mother goes through life. She will say anything to make someone feel better and can never be honest. She will push all reality under the rug as long as no one gets their feelings hurt. And that does no one any good.
You're friends with moonknight and nuke they are two fat assses. How dare you bring up the obeses community in that context!!! But hey Mamita ill bang you out nice and make all you welfare mom dreams come true!!! This ping is for you.
so i wanted to punch a handicapped women in the head today. so faking it has it's benefits. and not that i would ever harm another, but handicapped or not the lady's a cunt..! and widely known at the bus stop for being so, thus i'm the sucker always offering to help -3 steps. a wheeled walking frame with shin aligned stabilizing bar, and of-course her, despising the fact she need me. fucker never says thanks, and i know she can talk. so with big fake smile i bid her a nice day.
Fake it til you make it - thats the gist of my life recently. I just have to force myself through everything like I know what I'm doing. I guess I do know, but I lack the belief that I do. Fucking mental illness is a bitch.
I have like at least 7 auto downraters. Variablast used to encourage people to one star my videos. I don't understand why people would subscribe to my channel or watch my videos, thereby giving some support to my cause by giving it attention if they hate it so much.
I agree putting on a fake smile is so exhausting. But I agree you should do it. I can't stand fake people. But they are successful people. So... sometimes I try very hard to be fake. Or... perhaps not "fake" but more like I'm persuading myself to be kinder and that unleashing my hatred and sorrow is not appropriate. Fitting into society is a game. A game I don't like. But it's neccessary.
All the real people are alienated by the fake fest and push themselves to the outer rim of sociality, being a kind of fringe counter-culture of truthfulness.
Then they move around the proverbial circle of fakery and racing the Joneses and unite and laugh at the sugar filled centre of hollow husks of human beings, self-righteously feeling better than everyone else and laugh at how dumb everyone else is.
Although I imagine those in the circle are unaware of their position and feel the same way.
If you're emotional stressed "faking it" can wear you down mentally, but you're making strides now. If you're confident AND honest with yourself you don't need to fake anything.
@oojamaflipper Lol, apparently I have more now, they're going back over my past videos... that, or the same loser is going on a vengeance mission. I bet it's the same person.
It's a sad situation when someone like me can legitimately tell you to get a life. =)
I'm glad to see you're felling better (assuming your not faking, Ha!)
"Faking It" is not the right words for it, anyway. It is not about faking it, it is about practice, exploring your boundaries and pushing them back where they are too tight.
For me, doing videos is part of that, how about you?
id say congrats on goin clean but i actually consider tobacco to be a greater crime to oneself. i quit cold turkey nearly 2 months ago.. twas horrible for the first couple weeks but after that.. it aint no thang.. the secret? just keepin yourself busy whenever the cravings rear their ugly head..
but i totally intend on goin back to weed at some point, it is SO the best drug.. fuck alcohol right in its stupid face. now the question is, can i still have joints without startin back on the rollies?
@oojamaflipper This has been my problem for ages. If I don't give up weed I'll never quit tobacco, because I don't like smoking blunt (although right now I'd KILL that fucker).
you look like shit i pray for ur husband
imcj95 1 year ago
@imcj95 I pray for your grammar.
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
You innately understand that a wall of happiness or "fakeness" is nor healthy nor natural. Fuck them ;)
AMCabode 1 year ago
I'm always happy to hear someone is quitting pot, that way there's more of the world's supply left for me!
Yony42 1 year ago
Personally I would rather be alone than have a thousand fake friends, that doesn't appeal to me at all.
StanMarsh1 1 year ago
The way I see it honesty and integrity have a price.Most people are happy to be without either, but if you can sleep at night knowing you are true to yourself, isn't that far more important? It's not awlays nice and far easier to be decpetive but that too also unfortunately carries a price.
prettyriot 1 year ago
not everybody can be 100% liked but especially on youtube a fuck you attitude lol is a good one to have :) ...giving up weed is easy but damn do i miss it lol
FuckingMudaFucker 1 year ago
be your depressed pessimistic self . . . even though you will meet less people that way, the people that you will meet will be more positive and less ignorant than the average . . . .
th3inquisitiv31 1 year ago
Just be yourself. Obviously it's easier to get on socially if you are are happy with yourself. People pick up on that. It shuldn't be an effort though. People pick up on that too.
yeahwotevaman 1 year ago
I tend to prefer the truth. I'd like it put forth tactfully if possible. But even an untactful truth is preferable to a white lie (with the caveat that it's a non-obvious truth not being stated for the sole purpose of hurting me).
In fact, one of the things that tipped me off to how few "true" friends I had was becoming aware of how many little things people either ignored or lied to me about (like spinach in my teeth for example).
Maxdwolf 1 year ago
1925phantom 1 year ago
Ahhh, the good old days of having a house I could smoke in.
I suppose it's better for me I can't...but dammit, these e-cigs just aren't as good sometimes!
It's a balance, interacting with people in a way that is both real and "fake." In other words, you meet someone, you have to be, you know, polite. So to an extent that's "fake." But as the conversation progresses you can, in a polite way, start acting real--and people appreciate that.
They want to be real too, evidently. Most simply fail@it
fulishproductions 1 year ago
cool Sweater! :D
oldhacks 1 year ago
I don't think the people who fake it end up doing much for society, or even for themselves, anyway. I don't know what the purpose of life is, but it sure isn't looking good doing it.
AntiLoquaxx 1 year ago
This made me giggle! I love your struggle...And you have gorgeous eyes!
CaptRedeye 1 year ago
Hi Jess!
SaelPalani 1 year ago
@SaelPalani Hi lovely =P
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
I love your honesty and cynicism. It reminds me of me (minus the depression. I'm just a naturally deep and cynical person). Keep it up!
bookcreator 1 year ago
what uni do you go to?
7WebState 1 year ago
@7WebState No comment.
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
@BoundlessEyes My bad - that is an inappropriate question. I thought we might be in the same uni.
7WebState 1 year ago
@7WebState That would be nice. Knowing someone at uni, lol.
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
i think one of the benefits to being real is the type of people you attract. i'd rather surround myself with people i can be real with - it seems that generally, those are the most down to earth people anyway.
heatherlynblue 1 year ago
A day without weed is like a day without sunshine.
Then again, you're in Britain. I doubt you know what sunshine looks like.
Andrewticus04 1 year ago
@Andrewticus04 Lol, or weed, if the Oregon stuff was anything to go by.
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
@BoundlessEyes
I lived in Europe. You lucky bastards can go to Holland and get hash in a couple hours. Don't pretend to be so naive.
Andrewticus04 1 year ago
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Andrewticus04 1 year ago
Wow.... Smoking indoors, almost a taboo practice now in Canada, they are even passing laws here now prohibiting smoking in your own car.
MrVisions 1 year ago
The way i see it, it's a matter of degrees. I don't fake it all the way, but I don't pile everything on someone right away. I chat a bit on pointless subjects first, to see if they are someone who is gonna still be interested if I'm honest.
GriffinPilgrim 1 year ago
In future, can you amplify the sound a bit?
xy11xy 1 year ago
Keep practicing...you're quite believable. The brain is a railyard and we grease the tracks to where we wish to go. Smile and you will be happier...it sounds simple, but also happens to be a scientific conclusion.
FromUnderTheRock 1 year ago
Maybe that one person is just really unlucky and keeps missing the right thumb.
Teslacow 1 year ago
It does my head in when people ask me how I am. I usually just ignore them or lie. I'm not honest with many people. It's annoying that it's so socially unacceptable to be unhappy.
When I meet new people I tend to lie to them about how I am until I've got a bit closer to them. Pretty stupid I guess. Maybe I should just be honest from the start like you're saying and if they don't like it they can fuck off.
ShakeySurgeon 1 year ago
8:40 is made of win.
johntheother 1 year ago
You seem to a little edgy Jess.
Your talking with a low voice.
Nuron666 1 year ago
@Nuron666 Yeah, I haven't even known my housemates for 24 hours yet, so I thought I'd keep mental health problems and youtubing quiet for now.
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
@BoundlessEyes can you hear your next door neighbour?
Do you ever evesdrop?
Nuron666 1 year ago
@Nuron666 I don't know yet, she's like the quietest woman ever...
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
@BoundlessEyes she sounds like ideal friend material. You should introduce yourself to her. Might help your nerves.
Just a thought. I dont want to tell you what to do. Its up to you.
Nuron666 1 year ago
if you fake it you will still be lonely. even though you may not be physically isolated, you won't feel any sort of connection with them because you will have to wear a mask around them (just as they are wearing their own) in order for them to like you. you can be surrounded by people who "like" you but still feel lonely because none of them really know you, only the mask you're wearing. IMO the best cure for loneliness is to learn to love yourself, b/c there's no guarantee anyone else will
Cuddlebunzzz 1 year ago
@Cuddlebunzzz Absolutely.
I'm going to spend the evening writing performance poetry and memorising it.
Might not want to know me, but you're going to fucking hear about me one way or another, lol.
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
@moegreen2 E-numbers, perhaps.
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
I have manic depressive tendencies. It's off putting to people, i think. I know if i'm around people who are real and authentic, and who don't play games, my depression evens out.
I think you're own worst critic. You're smart, kind, warm, and, i think, elegant looking. ps-i'm taking pharma grade htp-5 for my depression: it;s been a god send. Please try it before you try anything like prozac.
thes0rleymussed 1 year ago
@thes0rleymussed
One of the rodent depression studies (they adinistered shocks to a control group of rats) suggested that depression arises out of feeling a lack of control over your environment. When they serotin levels were boosted with htp-5 the rats became creative in the way they dealt the electric shocks, with the unsatifying environment: they started to exert control over the envornment and actually learned ways to avoid the shocks. Sorry if this makes nos sense-lap top is fucked!
thes0rleymussed 1 year ago
How many years do you have left at uni?
baller1069 1 year ago
I've noticed people who thumb down very rarely say why. I suspect that is less to do with the video maker and more to do with the person doing it. I'd like a discussion with whoever sometimes does it on mine (assuming it's the same person which it may well not be), but it seems a peculiarly cowardly thing. I'm certainly not looking for only pats on the head but good discussions.
Loreleila 1 year ago
Makes me think of how my mother goes through life. She will say anything to make someone feel better and can never be honest. She will push all reality under the rug as long as no one gets their feelings hurt. And that does no one any good.
mcgaugh57 1 year ago
We've been naughty... haha. And yes, you really do have a lot of good things going for you :] It's so good to hear you say that.
Bippledot 1 year ago
You're friends with moonknight and nuke they are two fat assses. How dare you bring up the obeses community in that context!!! But hey Mamita ill bang you out nice and make all you welfare mom dreams come true!!! This ping is for you.
ElShortyPing 1 year ago
@ElShortyPing Sorry was that in English?
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
so i wanted to punch a handicapped women in the head today. so faking it has it's benefits. and not that i would ever harm another, but handicapped or not the lady's a cunt..! and widely known at the bus stop for being so, thus i'm the sucker always offering to help -3 steps. a wheeled walking frame with shin aligned stabilizing bar, and of-course her, despising the fact she need me. fucker never says thanks, and i know she can talk. so with big fake smile i bid her a nice day.
forkqall 1 year ago
I've never had access to my pot and I'm still always "God, I'm so lonely, please help me" anyway.
Anyway, I'm so fucking lonely, please help me...
TookiGuy 1 year ago
@TookiGuy I wish I could man. I don't have any answers.
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
@BoundlessEyes
I think the ones who do killed themselves.
TookiGuy 1 year ago
Fake it til you make it - thats the gist of my life recently. I just have to force myself through everything like I know what I'm doing. I guess I do know, but I lack the belief that I do. Fucking mental illness is a bitch.
I have like at least 7 auto downraters. Variablast used to encourage people to one star my videos. I don't understand why people would subscribe to my channel or watch my videos, thereby giving some support to my cause by giving it attention if they hate it so much.
iremythpurr 1 year ago
@iremythpurr because youre wack. JUSTICE FOR BIN!!!! FUCK ALL THE FEMINAZIS AND THEIR BABBLING IGNORANT VIDEOS!!!!
ElShortyPing 1 year ago
@ElShortyPing Oops, you're abusing my commenters. Don't fuck with my friends.
Blocked.
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
(L)
TehShadower 1 year ago
I agree putting on a fake smile is so exhausting. But I agree you should do it. I can't stand fake people. But they are successful people. So... sometimes I try very hard to be fake. Or... perhaps not "fake" but more like I'm persuading myself to be kinder and that unleashing my hatred and sorrow is not appropriate. Fitting into society is a game. A game I don't like. But it's neccessary.
princessannikki 1 year ago
+ I'm glad to hear you're aiming for a First! (so am I *giggle*)
If anyone is culturally and intellectually on top of the game, it is sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo ye ^_^ xxxxx
MannyFandango 1 year ago
All the real people are alienated by the fake fest and push themselves to the outer rim of sociality, being a kind of fringe counter-culture of truthfulness.
Then they move around the proverbial circle of fakery and racing the Joneses and unite and laugh at the sugar filled centre of hollow husks of human beings, self-righteously feeling better than everyone else and laugh at how dumb everyone else is.
Although I imagine those in the circle are unaware of their position and feel the same way.
MannyFandango 1 year ago
@MannyFandango Comment of the Day. =)
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
7:32
My favorite part!
If you're emotional stressed "faking it" can wear you down mentally, but you're making strides now. If you're confident AND honest with yourself you don't need to fake anything.
and yeah, fuck 'em!
matman125 1 year ago
I love your videos where you just ramble on, I just wish the video was better.
I know ultimitley how you feel about yourself or just feel even had only some baring on how you look but I always liked your looks.
and yeah I know I always say it, but it dosen't make it less true...
Curas1 1 year ago
wait.. you only have ONE auto-downrater? god you suck! i have at least 4! lol! ; )
oojamaflipper 1 year ago
@oojamaflipper Lol, apparently I have more now, they're going back over my past videos... that, or the same loser is going on a vengeance mission. I bet it's the same person.
It's a sad situation when someone like me can legitimately tell you to get a life. =)
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
I'm glad to see you're felling better (assuming your not faking, Ha!)
"Faking It" is not the right words for it, anyway. It is not about faking it, it is about practice, exploring your boundaries and pushing them back where they are too tight.
For me, doing videos is part of that, how about you?
CanadienAtheist 1 year ago
id say congrats on goin clean but i actually consider tobacco to be a greater crime to oneself. i quit cold turkey nearly 2 months ago.. twas horrible for the first couple weeks but after that.. it aint no thang.. the secret? just keepin yourself busy whenever the cravings rear their ugly head..
but i totally intend on goin back to weed at some point, it is SO the best drug.. fuck alcohol right in its stupid face. now the question is, can i still have joints without startin back on the rollies?
oojamaflipper 1 year ago
@oojamaflipper This has been my problem for ages. If I don't give up weed I'll never quit tobacco, because I don't like smoking blunt (although right now I'd KILL that fucker).
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
Be careful it's wasn't the lecturer who wrote the synopsis in the first place. lol!
GO TO CLASS GIRL!!!
ReverendSCAReY 1 year ago
hope it goes well, i think you'd be much happier if you didn't smoke Golden Virginia; that stuff is poison...
dyansisterprime 1 year ago
You must be brave to be so honest! Not everybody can do that.
dewinthemorning 1 year ago
@dewinthemorning People always say that but I don't think it's so much bravery as a lack of respect for social conventions.
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago