I feel that the video is useful But i dont think the fact that the video is " dressed up" Abuse is not a pretty topic i feel that the designs and music is far to over dressed for the topic. AL THOUGH THE INFO IS GOOD.... still to pretty
OK... Love the videos on how to spot a manipulator but people who are writing this and PROOFING it PLEASE... PUHLEEAASSEE SPELL CHECK yourselves! If you can't use correct english then get someone who can and have THEM proof it !
Over 4 months ago I left my controlling husband, didn't know I was being Emotionally Abused till I asked for help. He controlled everything from money to keeping me from visiting my own sisters home. I was threatened and to scared to leave, till one day I couldn't take it no more, I thought about suicide more than once. Seeing my kids smile and laugh made me change my mind. Now he is doing the same to the 2 older ones that still live with him, how can he live with himself?
I just got out of an abusive relationship. I had ended up ithe emergency room because I wanted to break up with him. I was tired of the controlling and insecure ways. Im happy its over. He is in jail, were he belongs. The reason for all his insecurity and picking fights.....he was married and had several women on his wife. So Im free to live. I was not going to be subject to his bullshit. So he can rot in hell. I thank my friends who are supporting me though this emotional time. Thanks guys.
I loved this. great advice good support. Im not religious but I feel like saying God bless you for your work here. When the abuse come from a parent and a sibling it can take most of your life to break the cycle and realise you need to reset your boundaries , inform them and if they cross it, follow through with your systematic withdrawal. There are so many, youre not alone, but the change begins with a change in yourself. Step up your game, insist on cordiality and civility but stop arguing
thank you this is a very nice video....i tried them all. trying to forget my past n focus on the future is the only way out. but i keep treating people around me the way i was treated.ive been trying to speak positive, trying to treat the people i want to to be treated. but when i get angry or frustrated the evil side of me always shows up. that really scares me.i wish it could be this easy...
@KR1SP135 I appreciate the parts about realizing the abuse is not your fault, but cliches like "Stop assuming the victim role" and "Get over it, it's in the past" only trivializes and minimizes what people are going through.
I wish people would do their research before they say stupid things like this.....
So, lets see---- I should NEVER allow myself to be a victim again, forgive myself because nothing was my fault, stand up and restore my sense of self worth & confidence? None of that had ever occurred to me. Thank you!
I just threw away all my meds, fired our family crisis counselor, hugged the kids and simply told my wife to 'knock it off '. It worked- just like magic!
I'd love to write more, but my wife & kids are sitting on the floor singing Kumbaya.
It made me sad when you mentioned about the friends. Growing up my sister and I were not allowed to get with others, but when we would he would control it.
@Sinfestgirl People don't always know what to say that's comforting. You don't exactly "get over" abuse, you learn to cope with your feelings about what happened.
The after-affects of abuse can bring about disorders like ptsd, depression, etc., but I guess most people don't understand that.
I've got a question. How do you avoid falling back into the victim role? I was in a loving relationship that unexpectedly, almost overnight, turned verbally and emotionally abusive. And I never would have seen it coming; I was friends with the guy for years before I became his girlfriend and then out of the blue, after over 2 years together, he suddenly started mistreating me. I've never dated since. I thought only dating someone I knew well would prevent abuse. So, what is your advice?
This is all well and good, but I call BS! I am a nice man who loves my GF with all of my heart because she is nice, like myself. Her EX husband is a MASTER manipulator, they have a son together with special needs, and he wants to kill me! He asks her on dates every day, and still calls her his wife! I want no violence, so there is not a video yet with a person saying what to do in my situation. It is just sad. When I learn what to do, I will have to make a REAL video about it! Help? Please?
@unclearless obviousely you need to have a lawyer, this man threatend to kill you and he keeps forsing ur gf to go out with him. I think this guy is saying BS to make her lonely and helpless so that he has her back. but all I'm saying is that if someone threatens to kill you, you have a lawyer involved asap. keep me posted.
@unclearless I think the best you can do in this situation, is to support your partner... dont grief her for the troubles her ex causes... keep confidience in your abilities and stay true to your love for her. People like him who are very manipulative are troublesome. If you need to, try and find a way to fight for the childs custody. I know it sucks to split a child away from family but sometimes its necessary... talk to your partner and see what she feels is necessary....
Can an abuser ever change? I mean I use to get emotionally abused by my ex girlfriend and one time she called me on the phone crying and asking for forgiveness.I didn't know what to say.
@mmtna to be honest I cant answer ur question because I dont know if they can change or not. if I was in ur place I wouldnt go back cz its not worth the risk. in case u deside to go back u have to make sure that u make it clear that ur not taking any abusive attitude and that ur not gonna change so eather be fare with u or forget about being together. but its up to you and you have to be responsible for your decision cz ur gonna live with it. I dont recommend going back, cz I wouldnt do it.
@TheEmotionalAbuse How does an abuser become like that? Is it something that happens in their childhood or is it because they were emotionally abused?
@mmtna No. They won't. Trust me, my boyfriend was a part of the nasty cycle of abuse. They abuse you, feel guilt, and MAYBE act on it, (example - to call and say sorry), although they do this rarely. One day, he called me and started getting angry and swearing at me, and broke it off. He started dating another girl and got bored of her too. Then he tried to come back and say he was sorry, but I did not have the heart to take him and his abuse back. Leave, and don't ever come back. Trust me.
@mmtna look at my other videos. if ur lacking all of that !! the last thing you need is an abuser. why do you have to go back??? the world is full of people that are willing to treat you the way you deserve. you are too good for an abuser so Im telling you there's no happiness with an abuser.
@QueenRiddler oh my god :(((( so sorry. But always remeber, it is HER that has problem. You deserve to be treated respectfuly. please move out as soon a you can. find a good relative whom you can stay with. Find a good Husband/ boyfriend. :(
@mmtna a person who does not feel good about themseleves, who hates themseleves and feel totally weak, abuse other people. Instead people who love themseleves and have self confident, love other people too.
i can only say helped me find myself and made me a stronger person and i just want to say it is scary to be alone but after going through something this traumatic it actually helped me. p.s. i currently have a caring g/f and an infant son and my life couldnt be better but it is only better because i learned to love myself again and i wont let anyone take that away again. peace and remember your not truly alone in this :)
i liked this list but it is easier to say then do.i was abused to the point where i thought i was nothing i think my ego couldnt take anymore and i escaped with nothing but the cloths on my back and my last paycheck in my wallet .it took everything i had not to crawl back but after i had a new place to live i worked to get myself back on track.i followed many of these things but i think what helped the most is i didnt put myself back out there right away .It took 5 long lonely years that
Thank you for the healing music-it's got class, strength, and confidence and so representative of the abused. Those who are abused have "class." See yourself, feel yourself moving to the music. Very interesting how music can change one's perspective. Surround yourself and do things that feel good. Your video made me "feel" good with great directions. Thank you, again. Dare2BUcounselingcom
@Dare2BUCounsel thank you for your comments you are far too kind. I have to disagree with you :) I think class has nothing to do with one being abused, and I apologize for the spelling errors my language isn't English.
@Dare2BUCounsel Thank you for your response. I, by all means, did NOT mean to be abused takes class or that being abused has anything to do with "class." I was coming from the perspective of that after the abuse..when one is on the way to being healed..when one realizes they have value..it was meant to encourage the abused to see themselves as having value, to have style..your music shows style and once the abused gets back to themselves, in wholeness, they will see this type of specialness.
Thinking back to those hurtful uncomfortable feelings, most emotional abuses are from Jealous relatives who enjoy to hurt. Now that I've learnt to love myself, I can see through all those causes and consequence, and they have no effect on me anymore. I feel pity and sorry for those abusers and haters. They must have a sad life.
I'm being emotionally abused by my wife. I have severe anxiety and depression provoked by a series of work related issues. A trust was broken when my credibility was marginalised by foregoing any group norms as how to operate certain aspects in the place of work. Discrediting someone at the level I've been discredited is gossip doing what it's meant to do: emotional damage. In this case it's a man taking the abuse.
@ronaldreika get out while you can, noone has the right to treat you that way! women that abuse men breaks my heart, seek help and leave her!
im female myself! i had an abuser who was female, she convinced ppl it was me who was the abuser, dont let it get to that, please, you are more of a man if you leave a bitch like that than if you stay, despite what she says to you!
a friend on my friends list has this video posted on her profile. ok so abuse of any kind is worng, right? right! i was amazed @ this. 1st yes get out of the abuse, but the 1 thing this video fails to mention is to LOOK @ your self. there's just as much wrong with self as the abuser, something in draws us to abusive people and until that is cleared guess what kiddies no amount of positive affirmations will produce freedom. and yes ladies men, loving and tenderhearted men are abused too.
Very good video. It's so important to focus on oneself and the positive things we can do in life, rather than focusing on an abuser and what she or he wants or needs.
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hothappens01 6 hours ago
Words made me really peace(^_^)
ThanX a lot!!!
lonesomeboytokyo 6 days ago
nice words but the music sounds like a porn soundtrack!
Spencerxo 6 days ago
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hothappens01 2 weeks ago
the musics a very nice touch
my4thone 2 weeks ago
Haha lol they said" get busy with ur friends" :)😂
legomurderer12 4 weeks ago
I feel that the video is useful But i dont think the fact that the video is " dressed up" Abuse is not a pretty topic i feel that the designs and music is far to over dressed for the topic. AL THOUGH THE INFO IS GOOD.... still to pretty
hotmamma7fly 1 month ago
OK... Love the videos on how to spot a manipulator but people who are writing this and PROOFING it PLEASE... PUHLEEAASSEE SPELL CHECK yourselves! If you can't use correct english then get someone who can and have THEM proof it !
EFLRR96 1 month ago
Over 4 months ago I left my controlling husband, didn't know I was being Emotionally Abused till I asked for help. He controlled everything from money to keeping me from visiting my own sisters home. I was threatened and to scared to leave, till one day I couldn't take it no more, I thought about suicide more than once. Seeing my kids smile and laugh made me change my mind. Now he is doing the same to the 2 older ones that still live with him, how can he live with himself?
bettycroker101 1 month ago
I just got out of an abusive relationship. I had ended up ithe emergency room because I wanted to break up with him. I was tired of the controlling and insecure ways. Im happy its over. He is in jail, were he belongs. The reason for all his insecurity and picking fights.....he was married and had several women on his wife. So Im free to live. I was not going to be subject to his bullshit. So he can rot in hell. I thank my friends who are supporting me though this emotional time. Thanks guys.
TheMsmith77 2 months ago
time to stand up and say NO to abusers.. their role is to make u stronger.. !
so DO it NOW...!
SovereignBeing 3 months ago
After this video I realized where I was wrong and now I'm ready to get into a relationship with Sade.
OctoBox 3 months ago
I loved this. great advice good support. Im not religious but I feel like saying God bless you for your work here. When the abuse come from a parent and a sibling it can take most of your life to break the cycle and realise you need to reset your boundaries , inform them and if they cross it, follow through with your systematic withdrawal. There are so many, youre not alone, but the change begins with a change in yourself. Step up your game, insist on cordiality and civility but stop arguing
Raybanmonster 3 months ago
how do i get away from someone if they are my family? :(
MultiHappyBubbles 3 months ago
@MultiHappyBubbles Know exactly how you feel buddy
zafartareen 2 months ago
Music courtesy of the Smooth Jazz 90.7 channel.
angrybear86 4 months ago
thank you this is a very nice video....i tried them all. trying to forget my past n focus on the future is the only way out. but i keep treating people around me the way i was treated.ive been trying to speak positive, trying to treat the people i want to to be treated. but when i get angry or frustrated the evil side of me always shows up. that really scares me.i wish it could be this easy...
ihungchen 4 months ago
Yeah easier said then done. ..
KR1SP135 5 months ago
@KR1SP135 I appreciate the parts about realizing the abuse is not your fault, but cliches like "Stop assuming the victim role" and "Get over it, it's in the past" only trivializes and minimizes what people are going through.
I wish people would do their research before they say stupid things like this.....
sunkistCAgirl 5 months ago
So, lets see---- I should NEVER allow myself to be a victim again, forgive myself because nothing was my fault, stand up and restore my sense of self worth & confidence? None of that had ever occurred to me. Thank you!
I just threw away all my meds, fired our family crisis counselor, hugged the kids and simply told my wife to 'knock it off '. It worked- just like magic!
I'd love to write more, but my wife & kids are sitting on the floor singing Kumbaya.
njnuvyctxuiuhiughuft 5 months ago
It made me sad when you mentioned about the friends. Growing up my sister and I were not allowed to get with others, but when we would he would control it.
swearveit 6 months ago
*sigh*... great vid.. but easier said then done.. =(
Sinfestgirl 7 months ago
@Sinfestgirl People don't always know what to say that's comforting. You don't exactly "get over" abuse, you learn to cope with your feelings about what happened.
The after-affects of abuse can bring about disorders like ptsd, depression, etc., but I guess most people don't understand that.
sunkistCAgirl 5 months ago
Abused people NEED this kind of encouragement, so THANKS A LOT!!!!
thelksis 7 months ago 10
@thelksis My pleasure
TheEmotionalAbuse 7 months ago
HOBBY LOBBY MUSIC!
poopypooppoop1000 8 months ago
its so hard to do these things when you hate yourself
assassinXXnissassa 9 months ago
nice
jayjayalwaysify 9 months ago
@tornera2105 Weed.
letmelivemylife2008 10 months ago
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cindernation12 10 months ago
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cindernation12 10 months ago
@tornera2105 I know this is going to sound weird but..try a little ganja and see if that changes your perception and helps you out.
letmelivemylife2008 10 months ago
I've got a question. How do you avoid falling back into the victim role? I was in a loving relationship that unexpectedly, almost overnight, turned verbally and emotionally abusive. And I never would have seen it coming; I was friends with the guy for years before I became his girlfriend and then out of the blue, after over 2 years together, he suddenly started mistreating me. I've never dated since. I thought only dating someone I knew well would prevent abuse. So, what is your advice?
idioticlisa 10 months ago
@tornera2105 Very sad to hear that.. you seem... so ahead of them ;D
You're almost 18, you're life is going to be a charm because you are a beautiful person
(I read that comment on other video you wrote! Very deep and wise for a young man like you!)
Take good care!
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singingmaya 11 months ago
This is all well and good, but I call BS! I am a nice man who loves my GF with all of my heart because she is nice, like myself. Her EX husband is a MASTER manipulator, they have a son together with special needs, and he wants to kill me! He asks her on dates every day, and still calls her his wife! I want no violence, so there is not a video yet with a person saying what to do in my situation. It is just sad. When I learn what to do, I will have to make a REAL video about it! Help? Please?
unclearless 11 months ago
@unclearless obviousely you need to have a lawyer, this man threatend to kill you and he keeps forsing ur gf to go out with him. I think this guy is saying BS to make her lonely and helpless so that he has her back. but all I'm saying is that if someone threatens to kill you, you have a lawyer involved asap. keep me posted.
TheEmotionalAbuse 11 months ago
@unclearless I think the best you can do in this situation, is to support your partner... dont grief her for the troubles her ex causes... keep confidience in your abilities and stay true to your love for her. People like him who are very manipulative are troublesome. If you need to, try and find a way to fight for the childs custody. I know it sucks to split a child away from family but sometimes its necessary... talk to your partner and see what she feels is necessary....
Blimpop 11 months ago
@unclearless
Tell your GF to tell him to FUCK OFF.. If she isn't able to do that; you will stay in the same position
bboybram 3 days ago
Can an abuser ever change? I mean I use to get emotionally abused by my ex girlfriend and one time she called me on the phone crying and asking for forgiveness.I didn't know what to say.
mmtna 1 year ago
@mmtna to be honest I cant answer ur question because I dont know if they can change or not. if I was in ur place I wouldnt go back cz its not worth the risk. in case u deside to go back u have to make sure that u make it clear that ur not taking any abusive attitude and that ur not gonna change so eather be fare with u or forget about being together. but its up to you and you have to be responsible for your decision cz ur gonna live with it. I dont recommend going back, cz I wouldnt do it.
TheEmotionalAbuse 1 year ago
@TheEmotionalAbuse How does an abuser become like that? Is it something that happens in their childhood or is it because they were emotionally abused?
mmtna 1 year ago
@mmtna as i sayed you can look at my other videos it has all my knowledge about this topic,or u can google ur question.
TheEmotionalAbuse 1 year ago
@mmtna No. They won't. Trust me, my boyfriend was a part of the nasty cycle of abuse. They abuse you, feel guilt, and MAYBE act on it, (example - to call and say sorry), although they do this rarely. One day, he called me and started getting angry and swearing at me, and broke it off. He started dating another girl and got bored of her too. Then he tried to come back and say he was sorry, but I did not have the heart to take him and his abuse back. Leave, and don't ever come back. Trust me.
Angeliaire 3 weeks ago
I'm really lacking in the self love self respect self confidence department. How does some one become an emotional abuser??
mmtna 1 year ago
@mmtna look at my other videos. if ur lacking all of that !! the last thing you need is an abuser. why do you have to go back??? the world is full of people that are willing to treat you the way you deserve. you are too good for an abuser so Im telling you there's no happiness with an abuser.
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QueenRiddler 10 months ago
@QueenRiddler oh my god :(((( so sorry. But always remeber, it is HER that has problem. You deserve to be treated respectfuly. please move out as soon a you can. find a good relative whom you can stay with. Find a good Husband/ boyfriend. :(
Seaflowerr 9 months ago
@mmtna a person who does not feel good about themseleves, who hates themseleves and feel totally weak, abuse other people. Instead people who love themseleves and have self confident, love other people too.
Seaflowerr 9 months ago
@mmtna It happens to me too. I underestand you. when someone harrases you, it takes time to take back your self love and self confident.
Seaflowerr 9 months ago
i can only say helped me find myself and made me a stronger person and i just want to say it is scary to be alone but after going through something this traumatic it actually helped me. p.s. i currently have a caring g/f and an infant son and my life couldnt be better but it is only better because i learned to love myself again and i wont let anyone take that away again. peace and remember your not truly alone in this :)
merlburtx 1 year ago
i liked this list but it is easier to say then do.i was abused to the point where i thought i was nothing i think my ego couldnt take anymore and i escaped with nothing but the cloths on my back and my last paycheck in my wallet .it took everything i had not to crawl back but after i had a new place to live i worked to get myself back on track.i followed many of these things but i think what helped the most is i didnt put myself back out there right away .It took 5 long lonely years that
merlburtx 1 year ago
Thank you for the healing music-it's got class, strength, and confidence and so representative of the abused. Those who are abused have "class." See yourself, feel yourself moving to the music. Very interesting how music can change one's perspective. Surround yourself and do things that feel good. Your video made me "feel" good with great directions. Thank you, again. Dare2BUcounselingcom
Dare2BUCounsel 1 year ago
@Dare2BUCounsel thank you for your comments you are far too kind. I have to disagree with you :) I think class has nothing to do with one being abused, and I apologize for the spelling errors my language isn't English.
hope to talk to you soon ;)
ur funny ;p
TheEmotionalAbuse 1 year ago
@Dare2BUCounsel Thank you for your response. I, by all means, did NOT mean to be abused takes class or that being abused has anything to do with "class." I was coming from the perspective of that after the abuse..when one is on the way to being healed..when one realizes they have value..it was meant to encourage the abused to see themselves as having value, to have style..your music shows style and once the abused gets back to themselves, in wholeness, they will see this type of specialness.
Dare2BUCounsel 1 year ago
Thinking back to those hurtful uncomfortable feelings, most emotional abuses are from Jealous relatives who enjoy to hurt. Now that I've learnt to love myself, I can see through all those causes and consequence, and they have no effect on me anymore. I feel pity and sorry for those abusers and haters. They must have a sad life.
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bnvzxczxvczxds 1 year ago
going back to the victim...It could be the worst!
midz500 1 year ago
dont go back to the victim...its worst!
midz500 1 year ago
@midz500 can u explain?
TheEmotionalAbuse 1 year ago
@TheEmotionalAbuse
going back to the victim.... .it could be the worst!
midz500 1 year ago
I'm being emotionally abused by my wife. I have severe anxiety and depression provoked by a series of work related issues. A trust was broken when my credibility was marginalised by foregoing any group norms as how to operate certain aspects in the place of work. Discrediting someone at the level I've been discredited is gossip doing what it's meant to do: emotional damage. In this case it's a man taking the abuse.
ronaldreika 1 year ago
@ronaldreika please see my other videos and talk to my friend alkistisTV she is a life couch she can help u thats for sure.
TheEmotionalAbuse 1 year ago
@ronaldreika get out while you can, noone has the right to treat you that way! women that abuse men breaks my heart, seek help and leave her!
im female myself! i had an abuser who was female, she convinced ppl it was me who was the abuser, dont let it get to that, please, you are more of a man if you leave a bitch like that than if you stay, despite what she says to you!
get out now! you can do it!
NoosesGive 1 year ago
@ronaldreika I love ur comment, thanx for saying that . .
TheEmotionalAbuse 1 year ago
a friend on my friends list has this video posted on her profile. ok so abuse of any kind is worng, right? right! i was amazed @ this. 1st yes get out of the abuse, but the 1 thing this video fails to mention is to LOOK @ your self. there's just as much wrong with self as the abuser, something in draws us to abusive people and until that is cleared guess what kiddies no amount of positive affirmations will produce freedom. and yes ladies men, loving and tenderhearted men are abused too.
Shalom
thomasborboa 2 years ago
I love that music!
uberwench7 2 years ago
@uberwench7 thanx sweety ;)
TheEmotionalAbuse 2 years ago
Thanks for the pick me up video. I am grateful for all you have shared so far.
Chrissygirl67 2 years ago
Very good video. It's so important to focus on oneself and the positive things we can do in life, rather than focusing on an abuser and what she or he wants or needs.
mariana2062 2 years ago 11