Jesus can sent you free. he is the only hope to man kind, Jesus said come to me and I will give u a new life! ask Jesus to come to your heart,that Jesus died in the cross so everybody that accept him will have peace and eternal life.
@MsKayDanielle You won't be lonely for the rest of your life, because you've already recognized that you have this disorder. Keep practicing with being around other people, just being yourself, and never phony. Don't bother to worry about what anyone else may say or think about any fear or embarrassment that you might be showing. DON"T BE AFRAID TO FEEL THE FEAR. That's the best way to control it, because then the fear will gradually become no big deal. And you will become less self-conscious.
@stillonly35cents WOW MAN,sweet...you should type in " BTBAM best solos" cuz you might be smart enough to understand beautifully composed modern day music by all 5 musicians in this band
@PrettyMaggiee I don't know if it was you, yourself who spammed your post here, but I read it and can relate to it. I kind of cruised through high school without really trying to get better grades, but that still got me a scholarship into a junior college. One day in English class, I was asked to read from a textbook aloud, and my throat just seized up out of fear. That made me quit college. Keep trying with everything, Maggiee. DON"T QUIT ON YOUR EFFORTS. I'm a friend 4U if U want more advice.
@irishgirl993 You seem to realize that it's just you making yourself paranoid in social situations, so you're already not half-bad with this. The trouble is, you're caring TOO MUCH about what other people may or may not be thinking about you. Everyone wants to be liked around other people, and seem cool, but you have plenty of room to care a little less about the opinions of others, and just let yourself be yourself. Keep practicing this by going out in public when you should & when you want to.
@ComicalCorner That used to happen to me too, back in high school days. It got to the point where it was almost a constant thing, and some people would say that I was rosy-cheeked!! But the only way for you to get this under control is to ALLOW yourself to feel embarrassed about it, no matter what ANYONE may say or whether they are noticing it. Let yourself JUST NOT CARE whenever it is happening to you. That way, you'll be less afraid of it, and then it will automatically start to get better 4U.
@Melzack You have a bad attitude, holmes. Stay off of this video site if all you're good for is anime and gaming. There are no games to be played here.
I think he made a mistake saying that this condition affects 20 million Americans. I think he meant anxiety disorders in general affect over 20 million Americans.
There is no cure?? There are many natural and medical treatments that go straight to the point of this disorder and makes it completely gone since many people have had it cured. DISLIKE!!
If you have social anxiety disorder, make an appointment with your family doctor so he can refer you to a psychiatrist.
There is no help and no hope. Abandon all hope ye who have social anxiety!!!! Trust me, your life is destined to be shitty. The best thing that can happen is either A: you kill yourself, or B: you just don't care anymore and quit fighting against it. Either way, you have no place in this world and never will and can never be normal. Even if you could feel "normal" you wouldn't like it, because it wouldn't be normal to you!!! Fucking forget this fucking life!!!
My whole family makes fun of my blushing saying really loud in public that I'm on fire and stuff like that. It really doesn't help that my family don't know how i feel. i tell them please don't make me blush but they still do it kills me inside. I feel so excluded in high school everyone is normal and confident but I'm so nervous and awkward I HATE IT! sometimes SAD can affect your education too I dread school because i know i will blush i even try to skip German classes cause i know i will
I likely have this & it's brought a nice impact through my day to day life... Probably due to various reasons, from genetics to life situations. Now, I think it's getting to me more than ever. I get paranoid a lot, barely social, feeling it's a dread to even go out in public with many people around me, so on & so forth. It truly does suck & I feel like it's just myself causing this. I'm honestly glad I'm not alone seeing some of the comments. My inbox is open if any of you ever need to talk.:)
im 19yrs old, engineering major,i was once a member of the California honor society, but because of my fear of socialization and inadequacy,i ended my membership in something that could have helped me in the future.i once had a great job with medical benefits,payed vacations,& decent pay,but because i fear people,i quit that job.i cry inside for friendship& acceptance but am unable to achieve any of that.i haven't been diagnosed but am quite sure this is my condition.can i have so advise plz?
@Triad3Force have you looked into cognitive behavioral therapy? haven't tried it, but seems to be very effective. im considering it. part of it involves being exposed to the stimuli though which is scary. also recommend this book that talks about it: Feeling Good by David D. Burns (there's some stuff about SSRI drugs which i ignore because i'd never take meds)
I was diagnosed with S.A.D. not too long ago. I believe the cause of my anxiety was genetic. But, i had traumatic events that happened in my childhood that made it worse in social situations. The treatment really does work if you want it.
I was diagnosed with S.A.D. not too long ago. I believe the cause of my anxiety was genetic. But, i had traumatic events that happened in my childhood that made it worse in social situations. The treatment really does work if you want it.
I was diagnosed with S.A.D. not too long ago. I believe the cause of my anxiety was genetic. But, i had traumatic events that happened in my childhood that made it worse in social situations. The treatment really does work if you want it.
I was diagnosed with S.A.D. not too long ago. I believe the cause of my anxiety was genetic. But, i had traumatic events that happened in my childhood that made it worse in social situations. The treatment really does work if you want it.
@eLLriDe420 I've felt that too, especially in stressful and important situations. I do think marijuana creates that way of thinking for some people, and if those persons don't smoke the weed, maybe their parents did.
@eLLriDe420 On the contrary, I know exactly the causes of mine. They all have names, and if I ever lay eyes on any of them ever again, it'll be too soon. Although that's not likely, given that half of them are probably in jail.
I developed social anxiety over time throughout my life. Im 18 right now and its really hard to do anything with anyone. I got social anxiety from being bullied many times over the years. Iv been badly treated and it eventually hit me really hard. Whenever i get into s social situation i get really tense. If i look at people or make eye contact, i get tense in the upper neck and my head shakes like im twitching. Its extemely embarrassing. But today iv finally decided to get help.
I was born with social anxiety disorder and its hard for me.im known as the one who doesnt talk.im afriad to talk to strangers and even relatives. i choke my words out when i talk, and it sounds like somethings wrong with me.befor i say something, i have to think about it, and see if it will embarress me.i have anxiety attacks and hyproventalate.thumbs up if you have the same problems.
i cried a little when u listed all the causes... like childhood humiliation & over-abundance of criticism... because its true!
when im with a large crowd, i get really sweaty & turn red, sometimes running away. so a lot of people think i'm a mute person & that i'm anti-social...
right now, i can only hang out or be with one person at a time. i always think to myself "no one wants to talk/listen to me!"
BUT, i'm working hard on showing my true self. i notice that i'm growing stronger everyday :]
I'd say I have one of the worst combinations: I'm smart, I think about and over analyse everything without trying. I can't stand how the world works, especially where I live (UK) because of how plainly stupid I think the Government is and I can't do anything about it. Because of that I've been depressed since I was 14, now 23, I only go out when required. I hate the public because so many of them are illogical, empathy lacking, assholes. And I'm stubborn to change if I don't think it's needed.
I hate having Anxiety. I have very hard time in making friends. And having a hard time in having a boyfriend also. Because of how I am it's hard to even enjoy life or having someone who can be there for me. I get so depress and alone and sometimes I just wish I was dead. I wish people would understand about SA and not judge others without getting full detail about this person first.
mabye some people are emotionally intelligent which could cause us to feel seperated, fearful....once we understand what people in groups are capable of it's hard to forget.
...I dont go. I can't. I don't like the feeling of being anywhere other than alone in my room. I don't know if i have social anxiety disorder, do i? I really don't know what to do anymore... I used to always go out and play football all day, everyday and hated being at home *sigh*. I can't ask for help from people around me because i get really nervous and sweaty and feel as if they'd hate me if they knew how i really felt. Can anyone help? Please? Do i have this disorder? Thank you for reading.
...and that is a pain because i walk to school and i always get really paronoid that people are watching me and judging me and i tend to sweat a lot too. I dont do anything sociable anymore because i'm afraid. I have friends and with them i pretend to be fine and all confident because i don't want to disappoint them but inside i feel horrible and just want to go back home, to my room because its my comfort zone or even die. I get invited to social things like parties, movies and stuff but..
I was wondering if anyone could help me? I'm a 15 year old girl and i've struggles with depression for years now but no-one knows about it because i always hide my feelings. About a year ago my depression got really bad and i started self harming for a while but then i stopped and started working out for a release instead. However, since then i've had no social life. I dont leave my house unless i have to go to school...
I'm black and I could relate to this. I don't know too many other black people who experience this. Many seem outspoken and don't have a care in the world what anyone thinks
i have severe social phobia.i was severely bullied when i was younger.i had to take time out of school and colllege alot because i have had ongoing surjury and inbetween times i had to be off because of the pain and i couldnt do things because of it.one of the reasons i got bullied at school is because i had to wear thumb splints on both my hands and i couldnt write. i had an encounter with a pedofile. i am desperatly lonely and have no friends.
I cannot handle sudden interruptions like the phone ringing, or someone calling my name expecting me to respond, or people waiting for me, or at work I fear when the door opens and customers come in, also I have to lie in the back office floor because my neck and back hurts and while I lay down I can't do anything during this time I can't have any interruptions or else I will feel like I"m injuring my body. it's so painful doing this everyday! Am I suffering from Anxiety Disorder?
@EasternMerchant Also I get very nervous around people, but I try to overcompensate my feelings and act ultra nice and friendly and extroverted because I don't want them to know that I am uncomfortable around them.
My fucking racist 2nd & 3rd grade teachers gave me this disorder. It wouldn't have been so bad if it just happened in one grade, but the first teacher filled the second with so many negative preconceptions about me.
Never, been the same since. Went from being extroverted to introverted, but deep down i want to be outgoing again.
I come from the typical father has run away home. Also was surrounded by relatives who due to their own upbringing were made anxious and untrusting towards people. I took the route of computer games in my bedroom through my teenage years. Never socialised with anyone. This is a very crippling condition as I a 20 year old man can say. I think mine is learned and I have actually made it worse. Situations like gathering are on edge for me but the nerves calm as time goes on.
I come from the typical father has run away home. Also was surrounded by relatives who due to their own upbringing were made anxious and untrusting towards people. I took the route of computer games in my bedroom through my teenage years. Never socialised with anyone. This is a very crippling condition as I a 20 year old man can say. I think mine is learned and I have actually made it worse. Situations like gathering are on edge for me but the nerves calm as time goes on.
I come from the typical father has run away home. Also was surrounded by relatives who due to their own upbringing were made anxious and untrusting towards people. I took the route of computer games in my bedroom through my teenage years. Never socialised with anyone. This is a very crippling condition as I a 20 year old man can say. I think mine is learned and I have actually made it worse. Situations like gathering are on edge for me but the nerves calm as time goes on.
@Lemure333 I had it really bad when I was younger. I am sort of overcoming it now, but I still have a very hard time speaking in front of the class and things like that. I am good at poetry and I also blog for multiple gaming sites.
So what? You will look stupid only for one Moment After doing what i told you, and who cares? You live in america? Who will remember the guy that screamed fuuuuuuck in some random toilet anyway! Once you brought your senses Keep living your life without shyness or at least the next 24 hours or whatever Barman..
Bornnn with a Heeart Of Steeeel! Who Jumps Anxiety Disorder? Propably Satan , He Must have her ass a bitch and Fucks her till He Gums , well Good news for You. You don;t need to look stupid all the day just because youre shy.
Heres a tip to bring you senses back
Go Find a Toilet and get it and of course for guys, not the ladies room , you don't want her to scream but you will scream.
So Go Find a Toilet (Remember to take some breaths before going into the toilet) and Scream FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCK!
that sound like more anxiety and denial? you probably do need to scream though, to be heard. to let other know what is going on. Sometimes one is drowning in their sorrow because they think they are the only ones. i dont know about the usage of words i think it would do better just to let out what you feel out in the air let the wind cary it to the person who made you feel this way they most likely need it
sound like more anxiety and denial? you probably do need to scream though, to be heard. to let other know what is going on. Sometimes one is drowning in their sorrow because they think they are the only ones. i dont know about the usage of words i think it would do better just to let out what you feel out in the air let the wind cary it to the person who made you feel this way they most likely need it
sound like more anxiety and denial? you probably do need to scream though, to be heard. to let other know what is going on. Sometimes one is drowning in their sorrow because they think they are the only ones. i dont know about the usage of words i think it would do better just to let out what you feel out in the air let the wind cary it to the person who made you feel this way they most likely need it
a man who calls a woman a bitch does not deserve one
@philosophyheal Seriously, Anthonny Robins Is Da man for this, Type Anthony Madaness Training and go get his free training to see what's really all about, i quarantee it works!
the cure is mental you can only cure it by changing your thoughts face your fears and accept your feelings if you want to change you have to think differently
@pinkorangesoda It is a mental disorder that consumes your thoughts and rationability,but every day is a struggle. Im 17 and i cant go to my prom. Ive never had a boyfriend, and instead of football games im having movie night with my mother. I dont pity myself at all, i am thankful there is help out there and my situation is not worse. Im not attacking you, I just want you to know i would give anything to be myself again,the fearless kid i once was. thinking differently is not the solution.
@cheercrazed94 Yes but the only way to stop it is to accept your fears and feelings and improve your way of thinking so you aren't as fearful there is therapy for it
I have social anxiety disorder but no one understands it. They think that there is something wrong with me. And my family is always like " There is no need to be shy my dear" or " speak up" but it is not that easy for me. I try my hardest. But i must say i have gotten a bit better with it over the years but i am still suffering from it. Life is boring and difficult.
Omg I'm so scared I'm 11 yr old girl and I wa abused by my own babysitter wen I was younger and my parents didn't believe me till they saw my brides and I don't like going in public bathrooms or eating infront of any 1 and especially hate answering questions in class and its wrong and every 1 dares and I'm super shy and I'm really sensitive pls help me
I try not to read the comments. They break my heart and I , as a non-professional can do so little to help, but there are some things that I do know. First is that you are not alone. There are so many people who hurt in silence, never knowing that so many other quiet people share their suffering. Another thing I know is that this will pass, provided you address the issue with a professional. Talk to your parents. Talk to your school guidance counselor. Seek a professional .Pls
@SophiaKayla1723 Get help while you are still young. I am 26 now and my social anxiety began when I was about your age. Believe me, if I could go back and get help at that young age I would, maybe then I wouldn't be the way I am now. But my parents didn't understand that I needed help so I never got it. If they know you have been abused they should be ok with letting you see a counselor or someone. I was abused too, and so have millions of others. You're not alone, I promise.
i am sure i have this......my friend is making me go to a doctor becuase i wont go outside my eyes water with shortness of breath when a car drives past, i cant use public rest rooms, i cant order my own food, i cant eat in public becuase i think people are watching me and im scared to seek help incase they just sit there and judge me silently for 20 minutes and then secretly think what an idiot there is nothing wrong with him.....my friend is making me go to the doctor this week to sort things.
I think I might have this but like he said some can go on with there life with some discomfort I like being by my self I'm happy that way I like being with or around people but I do feel the discomfort when I am but I can go on happily
the cure is within urself...if u r determined to change,,, u will do it... i was once a loner but now i already have frnds... i also love to befriend the ppl w/ social anxieties coz i can relate and i want 2 help them.. coz i know how it feels when no one understands u
the cure is within urself...if u r determined to change,,, u will do it... i was once a loner but now i already have frnds... i also love to befriend the ppl w/ social anxieties coz i can relate and i want 2 help them.. coz i know what it feels when no one understands u
He is right when he says it is living in hell. This disease truly cripples you from living life. I've been suffering with this disorder for years, and at times it feels that I've overcome it, but when you least expect it, it comes back to torture you. Sometimes it's not as bad, but when it hits hard, it feels like the walls crumbling. And, yes like many I try to hide it, but sometimes it feels like everybody knows that something is wrong with me. I just gotta keep trying.
@osvie01 Dont let anxiety take over your life. Learn to accept it and let it be apart of who you are and keep in mind, if you keep trying to battle it, it will continue to win.
@imaniboo1000 Thank you for your message, any advice helps. The best thing that I can do is admit to myself that I have social phobia and I am going to feel anxiety everyday, but I am doing several things to help myself because it is truly hell to feel like this.
@imaniboo1000 How do you do that? I always try to remind myself that the difference between me and the average jock is that I make a big deal out of people. Sometimes works sometimes it doesn't. But if there is a better way, hey!
@Dansthoughts to tell the truth you just have to give it time and I know that thats easier said then done i totally understand but you have to be strong and think about why your having the attacks and go from there. It all just takes time and patience
@MrTaillac Dont make it your goal to live a dream because a dream is and always will be a dream its not realistic. You have to also remember the same goes for a nightmare. Being strong and hopeful will be your first step to recovery but you have to try to wake up from your nightmare and give your self reasons to want to wake up. Try working out and connecting to god thats whats helping me get through my "nightmare". And NEVER give up. <3
@mindtoonz262 Actually drugs and alcohol including weed is a possible cause for anxiety and panic attacks and can heighten your attack and depression maybe if your drunk or high it CAN help for that few hours but in the long run its really bad for your anxiety but i defiantly agree with the practice of spirituality that truly does help.
I went to a therapist for this and it really helped. I was almost put on medication but I was doing good without it. There IS a way to beat SAD. It's not as untreatable as people think. Just keep trying. That's what I did. I'm not fully over it yet , not even close , but I am getting better (:
i think it's physically unfair, we have to be this way...some took medication and turned out completely normal, but many others say it doesn't work it just gets rid of the shakes and fast heart rate, but not the mental thinking...its unfair we have to live through this having to fake our emotion and attitudes just to make it, they say enjoy life and be happy, well i'm not enjoying life and i'm NOT happy because of this..
find a cure please, this is worse than people think.
@bigb771 the cure is accepting it. Whether you want to admit it or not, anxiety wont go away (well most of the time) and if it does it will return. If you learn to accept anxiety and let it be apart of who you are it wont be so serious. Also fight your fears, even if its hard try your best because you have nothing to lose. Keep your head up and like I always say dont let it take over your life, even if its in it.
I don't have a person to turn to for this disorder... My parents tell me that I am weird and something is wrong with me. I wish someone could understand.
At first I my mom took me to a therapist(professional) but then I had to stop going because she couldn't afford it anymore. Now a few months later, It seems like my mom forgets about the whole thing and now she calls me crazy, and she told me my family thinks im crazy too. So as in now I have no one that will help me, some how I have to work really hard to raise enough money to get the help I need and im still in highschool. I just want you to know that your not alone
I don't know if I have this disorder or not but either way, it sucks. I only have like 2 friends because of it. I don't understand how people can be so loud and outgoing. How they love the attention and CRAVE it. I shake and start sweating when someone tries to talk to me. I dread the moment when its my turn to read in front of the class. It sucks.
@JakesWifeFoo changing the way you think is vital...knowing who you are and why you are here is also huge. i used to get my identity from what other people said and from untrue thought abouts myself "i'm a loner, i'm stupid, i'm weird, there's something wrong with me, i'm never going to get married etc." now i'm ok with being alone and not having much friends, ever since i've come to know Jesus, i have peace of mind, hope, and am not afraid of lonliness. i like being alone with God's word.
ahaaaaaaa i knew it 1:47 (conditioning) I been like that since i was a kid, raised by a old woman who didnt allow me to go outside as much, I was around a crazy insane dude who was angry and bitter, and made me feel like everything i did was wrong and critized me with anger (as a kid, like around the age of 6-9. I didnt get no encouragement, never understood love, i only understood anger, pain and hate because that was what seemed natural, due to that was my living situation.
"Phuynh23" following your comment on here previously i also use "self talk" ( talking silently to myself) in social situations. I say over and over in my head " there is no danger there is no threat" and " who cares, no big deal!" That is the cognitive part . Then the behavioural part ( not avoiding the social situation) that idea of there being no threat you start to prove and it gets imprinted in part of your brain ( amygdala), that indeed there is no threat. Withstand and dont avoid.
I just started reading up about social anxiety yesterday, and now I know that this is what I truly have. Thankfully, the degree is not as intense as others - but my social anxiety nevertheless interferes with my life. If I did not have social anxiety I would: have a lot more friends, be a happier person, and not avoid certain social situations because of my social anxiety.
I also don't want to tell my parents, as they are the opposite of me - outgoing, and comfortable in any social situation.
Please read the book: The highly sensitive person and The introvert advantage. There is nothing wrong with you. You live in a society that suppress your personality. A society where people put a smile on and act nice, but the truth is different, and the vibes they send out, you feel. So in reality you are an Empat. Psychiatrist and the extrovert society do not feel this way, and make you feel wrong instead of researching what it’s really about. You FEEL others feelings.
being unable to trust anyone is where alot of my problems have came from..even as a child i didnt trust my parents for several differnt reasons, i guess i was like "if i cant trust them then who could i possibly trust" and so my life has been this way. it causes problems in all my relationships because i dont want to have sex. i cant feel close enough to some one to feel comfortable enough for intimacy..i always just want people to leave me alone
@knowledgeisthepower1 yes it can, because bullies may spread rumors, talk about you in a negative way, to make people NOT like you. but you should fight that anxiety, believe that you are better than the person who is bullying you. you are better than they are. bullies just want to bully others to make themself feel better, but if they continue to do so... they will get nowhere in life.
i am a 16 yyear old boy with this, i started learning about this this year. it was very hard to deal with. but i have mastered the secret to lessen the feeings of social anxiety. but really it depends if u are willing to get over this, it is all on you!. my reality has changed it is still very strange, life is still challenging. but everytime i notcie i am starting to feel anxiety, i telll myself Dont give a fuck about what people think, i just say dgaf in my head,and be myself! it works.
i had this....i got over this about a month ago...i have a girl and even friends........
The Real secret is honestly to not think about it.... all this chemical stuff is just to get you to buy meds...it is not real...think about it..social anxiety is THOUGHTS of being alone or watched or judged...not REALITY.. dont try to change social anxiety..understand that this is a thought and it is not real...social anxiety is just another way of overthinking.
If you have hearing loss can it also create social anxiety? I'm hearing impaired and I get nervous around people, even when I'm around a few friends. People have told me that I'm very quiet and I don't even like being quiet. When I get put in a group of people for an assignment, there are days where I have tears because they think I don't want to contribute or share ideas. I pretend that I can hear what they say but I can only hear half the time and over time I get this bad anxiety.
@LyricallyJustified1 Are you scared to talk to people on the telephone? Thinking of what to say to your friend next to you that wont make you look stupid? Worried that you always being judged by people? Scared of an upcoming social situation (such as a party)? Planning out what you will say and the movements you will make in an upcoming social situation? Do you stutter when talking to people you dont know?
Their just some of the symptoms of social anxiety.
There's a small and excellent online depression support group called Depression Hangout that is always open to anyone who is struggling with mental health problems (not just depression). It's run in its own chaotic way by its members who meet regularly in the chat room and it's a great place to seek and provide help and support, make new friends and even just have a laugh. (We all need that too!) To join just go to depressionhangout-dot-blogspot-dot-com.
I'm 2 chicken to tell some one like the school councilor or something. Like i'd ever be the one to tell my mom. i can't even cry in front of her w/ out getting scolded.
my sister asked why she doesn't hug her & stuff n mom said "Hell! No one baby-ed me & told me they loved me when i was little. That's something you should be able tell urself! I did." My sister always asks if i love her or if she's fat & she's only 10.
i can never tell anybody i love them without it sounding weird to my own ears
@cookieluvsyah Thats a horrible thing for a Mum to say! Telling people that they MATTER, that you LOVE them that they are SPECIAL. IS very important!
Good relationships need both partners/family members to say this from time to time. If you find it difficult to say then it gets better and easier each time you say it.
I think you mothers cold upbringing is being reflected on you two and that's not healthy nor right. Sad really. Humans need contact and love to flourish. I
@mzcyberbat HOLY FUDGE!! went to church Sunday(haven't been in a while so i wasn't all to thrilled about going)& on Monday my mom said 2 my sister "Have a blessed day. I love you." *insert jaw drop here*
I have this friend & every time he says or does something that gets on my nerves(which is everyday. we have a weird love-hate relationship) he says he loves me & keeps asking if i love him back until i respond. usually i just say yeah, but then i though of u & said, yea love u 2 & he hugged me:)
@cookieluvsyah Yeah, when its done like that it IS annoying. Sorry for being so harsh (it was very rude of me to say disparaging thing about your mum and all). It just seemed sad to me that you mum wasn't very affectionate. BUT I agree it comes off as really....creepy when people go all 'carebear' on you as well. Balance and all that :)
idk if i was humiliated during childhood. i HATED school & had panic attacks & stuff. they thought it was becuz of my parents divorce.WRONG! my mom did all that stuff
~psychologically abused me w/ discipline when i was smaller.
~Sheltering
~idr praise except from teachers
~ traumatized. standing over me and w/ a belt and yelling until i got the answer right(on HW or when telling a lie) or hitting me when i got it wrong
~she does criticize me A LOT! but brags about all the stuff i do 2 other ppl
Hmm i never been diagnosed with this disorder; I believe i have this disorder because I always feel everyone is staring at me and talking bad about how i look.
I do not have any friends except for one but we only hang out once every three or more months.
I am mostly alone everytime i go out for a walk to get some exercise. I feel when cars go by, while on my walk; they all just stare at me and i am always looking down at the ground when this happens.
Forget the labels; the bottom line is: if it's interfering with your life, talk to someone who can help make it better. You don't have to be unhappy. You don't have to be uncomfortable. BTW, people probably are looking at you, and they're looking at trees and other houses and other people. You don't matter to them, really, nor should they matter to you. That said, I too avoid eye contact in similar situations. Seems a practical solution sometimes. It's OK, as long as it doesn't limit.
@IakFox i would say me and you are twins...so yeah....however im losing my mind,
Ever have hard time looking other people in the eyes, because you somehow think they can read your mind or think you have violent intent,or somehow lusting after them? or whatever... thus you start thinking exactly what you think they are ?
I feel at my best when nobody is around, i even take night jobs to stop interacting with people, or i stay up at night and sleep during the day where other people are awake
@IakFox wow u sound exactly like me, ive been diagnosed with social anxiety disorder & its affected my whole life, i havent got any friends in real life, to me its impossible to have friends cuz i cant face them or talk to them, everyday i feel that everyones staring at me and judging me, the only time i ever go outside is for rare evening walks by myself and when cars go by i always feel that ppl are looking at me & it makes me start worrying about the way i walk, the way i look, your not alone
@IakFox im sure you realize that people arent actualy staring at you, (and that its all in your head) but you feel anxious none the less. Everyone feels uncomfortable in social situations but people with social anxiety disorder think that everyone is paying attention to them when in reality everyone is thinking about themselves and not about you. just remember this "NO ONE THINKS MORE ABOUT YOU THAN YOU DO"
GO TALK TO SOMEONE, IT WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE WITH TIME.
@IakFox That is exactly how I feel. Even driving in my car, I feel like everyone is looking at me, so I prefer to drive around at night. I wish I could figure this thing out.
@KaKaGaNu Yes they helped me heaps! But it depends on the individual.
And NO you don't need to take them all your life. I'm off them now (for at least 7 months) but it will take time! I was on them for 8 years before I found a lifemate to substitute them. And even now I still get depressed.
Just remember (if you're female) to make sure the meds won't effect an unborn baby! There are different ones out there. I was unlucky and had to give them up for the sake of my future babies.
i was top dog in my town. then i started smokinh weed. it gave me panic attacks. leading to social anxiety
iKILLIANO 6 hours ago
fuck.
alexandrataylor21 21 hours ago
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filipemirandamartins 22 hours ago
Ok I have social anxiety disorder and I never was abused or had any of those causes. People just have it because they do.
YourBetrayalx3 1 day ago
This video makes me tear every time I watch it!
77ayoubi 1 day ago
Can't wait to start my treatment program! :D
77ayoubi 1 day ago
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blago777 1 week ago
@MsKayDanielle You won't be lonely for the rest of your life, because you've already recognized that you have this disorder. Keep practicing with being around other people, just being yourself, and never phony. Don't bother to worry about what anyone else may say or think about any fear or embarrassment that you might be showing. DON"T BE AFRAID TO FEEL THE FEAR. That's the best way to control it, because then the fear will gradually become no big deal. And you will become less self-conscious.
stillonly35cents 1 week ago
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HiPPoKryPtiC 3 days ago
@PrettyMaggiee I don't know if it was you, yourself who spammed your post here, but I read it and can relate to it. I kind of cruised through high school without really trying to get better grades, but that still got me a scholarship into a junior college. One day in English class, I was asked to read from a textbook aloud, and my throat just seized up out of fear. That made me quit college. Keep trying with everything, Maggiee. DON"T QUIT ON YOUR EFFORTS. I'm a friend 4U if U want more advice.
stillonly35cents 1 week ago
@irishgirl993 You seem to realize that it's just you making yourself paranoid in social situations, so you're already not half-bad with this. The trouble is, you're caring TOO MUCH about what other people may or may not be thinking about you. Everyone wants to be liked around other people, and seem cool, but you have plenty of room to care a little less about the opinions of others, and just let yourself be yourself. Keep practicing this by going out in public when you should & when you want to.
stillonly35cents 1 week ago
@ComicalCorner That used to happen to me too, back in high school days. It got to the point where it was almost a constant thing, and some people would say that I was rosy-cheeked!! But the only way for you to get this under control is to ALLOW yourself to feel embarrassed about it, no matter what ANYONE may say or whether they are noticing it. Let yourself JUST NOT CARE whenever it is happening to you. That way, you'll be less afraid of it, and then it will automatically start to get better 4U.
stillonly35cents 1 week ago
@Melzack You have a bad attitude, holmes. Stay off of this video site if all you're good for is anime and gaming. There are no games to be played here.
stillonly35cents 1 week ago
I think he made a mistake saying that this condition affects 20 million Americans. I think he meant anxiety disorders in general affect over 20 million Americans.
77ayoubi 1 week ago
There is no cure?? There are many natural and medical treatments that go straight to the point of this disorder and makes it completely gone since many people have had it cured. DISLIKE!!
If you have social anxiety disorder, make an appointment with your family doctor so he can refer you to a psychiatrist.
77ayoubi 1 week ago
it is caused by being bullied/teased in school and left to feel isolated and worthless. i am 100% sure of it.
AKBeazBoi 1 week ago 3
There is no help and no hope. Abandon all hope ye who have social anxiety!!!! Trust me, your life is destined to be shitty. The best thing that can happen is either A: you kill yourself, or B: you just don't care anymore and quit fighting against it. Either way, you have no place in this world and never will and can never be normal. Even if you could feel "normal" you wouldn't like it, because it wouldn't be normal to you!!! Fucking forget this fucking life!!!
Melzack 2 weeks ago
Funny to me, when thumbs up sentences that sense no make totally!!!
mcnowski 2 weeks ago
My whole family makes fun of my blushing saying really loud in public that I'm on fire and stuff like that. It really doesn't help that my family don't know how i feel. i tell them please don't make me blush but they still do it kills me inside. I feel so excluded in high school everyone is normal and confident but I'm so nervous and awkward I HATE IT! sometimes SAD can affect your education too I dread school because i know i will blush i even try to skip German classes cause i know i will
ComicalCorner 2 weeks ago
I likely have this & it's brought a nice impact through my day to day life... Probably due to various reasons, from genetics to life situations. Now, I think it's getting to me more than ever. I get paranoid a lot, barely social, feeling it's a dread to even go out in public with many people around me, so on & so forth. It truly does suck & I feel like it's just myself causing this. I'm honestly glad I'm not alone seeing some of the comments. My inbox is open if any of you ever need to talk.:)
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im 19yrs old, engineering major,i was once a member of the California honor society, but because of my fear of socialization and inadequacy,i ended my membership in something that could have helped me in the future.i once had a great job with medical benefits,payed vacations,& decent pay,but because i fear people,i quit that job.i cry inside for friendship& acceptance but am unable to achieve any of that.i haven't been diagnosed but am quite sure this is my condition.can i have so advise plz?
PrettyMaggiee 3 weeks ago
i don't think any "treatment program" exists that can help it. I've tried lots of things and still every day I have constant dread and anxiety.
Triad3Force 4 weeks ago
@Triad3Force have you looked into cognitive behavioral therapy? haven't tried it, but seems to be very effective. im considering it. part of it involves being exposed to the stimuli though which is scary. also recommend this book that talks about it: Feeling Good by David D. Burns (there's some stuff about SSRI drugs which i ignore because i'd never take meds)
RMT87 3 weeks ago
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overzichtje 4 weeks ago
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I was diagnosed with S.A.D. not too long ago. I believe the cause of my anxiety was genetic. But, i had traumatic events that happened in my childhood that made it worse in social situations. The treatment really does work if you want it.
MakenzeeRox123 1 month ago
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I was diagnosed with S.A.D. not too long ago. I believe the cause of my anxiety was genetic. But, i had traumatic events that happened in my childhood that made it worse in social situations. The treatment really does work if you want it.
MakenzeeRox123 1 month ago
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I was diagnosed with S.A.D. not too long ago. I believe the cause of my anxiety was genetic. But, i had traumatic events that happened in my childhood that made it worse in social situations. The treatment really does work if you want it.
MakenzeeRox123 1 month ago
I was diagnosed with S.A.D. not too long ago. I believe the cause of my anxiety was genetic. But, i had traumatic events that happened in my childhood that made it worse in social situations. The treatment really does work if you want it.
MakenzeeRox123 1 month ago
Nothing causes it, I feel that we have been cursed. Something didnt want use to have a normal life
eLLriDe420 1 month ago 15
@eLLriDe420 i know exactly what u meen
dylandove1992 1 month ago
@eLLriDe420 I've felt that too, especially in stressful and important situations. I do think marijuana creates that way of thinking for some people, and if those persons don't smoke the weed, maybe their parents did.
FyllePaal 3 weeks ago
@eLLriDe420 On the contrary, I know exactly the causes of mine. They all have names, and if I ever lay eyes on any of them ever again, it'll be too soon. Although that's not likely, given that half of them are probably in jail.
paceetrate 2 weeks ago
i have it and my life is a hell cozof it ..
zaytzev45 1 month ago
it CAN be overcome i promise...i always find my anxeity gets worse when my self esteem falls or im stressed and dont believe in myself
lub783 1 month ago
I developed social anxiety over time throughout my life. Im 18 right now and its really hard to do anything with anyone. I got social anxiety from being bullied many times over the years. Iv been badly treated and it eventually hit me really hard. Whenever i get into s social situation i get really tense. If i look at people or make eye contact, i get tense in the upper neck and my head shakes like im twitching. Its extemely embarrassing. But today iv finally decided to get help.
TylerThrashPeace 1 month ago
I was born with social anxiety disorder and its hard for me.im known as the one who doesnt talk.im afriad to talk to strangers and even relatives. i choke my words out when i talk, and it sounds like somethings wrong with me.befor i say something, i have to think about it, and see if it will embarress me.i have anxiety attacks and hyproventalate.thumbs up if you have the same problems.
twilovermaddie 1 month ago 3
i cried a little when u listed all the causes... like childhood humiliation & over-abundance of criticism... because its true!
when im with a large crowd, i get really sweaty & turn red, sometimes running away. so a lot of people think i'm a mute person & that i'm anti-social...
right now, i can only hang out or be with one person at a time. i always think to myself "no one wants to talk/listen to me!"
BUT, i'm working hard on showing my true self. i notice that i'm growing stronger everyday :]
iluvtkandbk 1 month ago
Because of this disorder I'm probably gonna be lonely for the rest of my life fml
MsKayDanielle 1 month ago
You guys should come and talk to us other social anxiety fellows on MapOfMates . com!
illflywithyounow 1 month ago
there are natural cures and i gotta tell ya my SAD is not nearly as bad as it used to be when i was a kid
KaraLindaLee 2 months ago
i have anxiety disorder, and im 11,
MadeBySahan 2 months ago
Hello people,, there are some yoga exercises here on youtube that might help to ease out anxiety and eventually give better results..
Peace
ajazaad 2 months ago
This disorder is no fun....though it causes me to dive deeper into creative outlets, it totally destroys my life.
mellowtonen 2 months ago
@mellowtonen I agree.
cnleiva 1 month ago
20 million Americans sounds like a Big-Pharma soft sell to me.
BoyMonarch 2 months ago
I'd say I have one of the worst combinations: I'm smart, I think about and over analyse everything without trying. I can't stand how the world works, especially where I live (UK) because of how plainly stupid I think the Government is and I can't do anything about it. Because of that I've been depressed since I was 14, now 23, I only go out when required. I hate the public because so many of them are illogical, empathy lacking, assholes. And I'm stubborn to change if I don't think it's needed.
Lolp821 2 months ago
@Lolp821 Same here...
madrebellion18 1 month ago
I hate having Anxiety. I have very hard time in making friends. And having a hard time in having a boyfriend also. Because of how I am it's hard to even enjoy life or having someone who can be there for me. I get so depress and alone and sometimes I just wish I was dead. I wish people would understand about SA and not judge others without getting full detail about this person first.
SocialAnxiety911 2 months ago
mabye some people are emotionally intelligent which could cause us to feel seperated, fearful....once we understand what people in groups are capable of it's hard to forget.
movadoband 2 months ago
@DirtyNinja69 tottally agreed
AsocaDiez 2 months ago
they left out the disorders of the pineal gland,and the thyroid gland
tryby12 2 months ago
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miissmiaa 2 months ago
Serotonin why do u make my brain no working normally?
suzsiz 2 months ago
is there any girl here that has this disease or disorder from ireland that i can get to know and we can get tru it together :)
scanlon69r 2 months ago
Yes, try to read more psychological books to help ourselves, which I think is quite helpful! ^^
imCurlyHair 2 months ago
...I dont go. I can't. I don't like the feeling of being anywhere other than alone in my room. I don't know if i have social anxiety disorder, do i? I really don't know what to do anymore... I used to always go out and play football all day, everyday and hated being at home *sigh*. I can't ask for help from people around me because i get really nervous and sweaty and feel as if they'd hate me if they knew how i really felt. Can anyone help? Please? Do i have this disorder? Thank you for reading.
TheGirlWhoCriedOMG 3 months ago
...and that is a pain because i walk to school and i always get really paronoid that people are watching me and judging me and i tend to sweat a lot too. I dont do anything sociable anymore because i'm afraid. I have friends and with them i pretend to be fine and all confident because i don't want to disappoint them but inside i feel horrible and just want to go back home, to my room because its my comfort zone or even die. I get invited to social things like parties, movies and stuff but..
TheGirlWhoCriedOMG 3 months ago
@DaMostEnigmatic I'm black too and i know what you mean.
I was wondering if anyone could help me? I'm a 15 year old girl and i've struggles with depression for years now but no-one knows about it because i always hide my feelings. About a year ago my depression got really bad and i started self harming for a while but then i stopped and started working out for a release instead. However, since then i've had no social life. I dont leave my house unless i have to go to school...
TheGirlWhoCriedOMG 3 months ago
I'm black and I could relate to this. I don't know too many other black people who experience this. Many seem outspoken and don't have a care in the world what anyone thinks
DaMostEnigmatic 3 months ago 2
This sounds like an Ad. for Pharmaceutical drugs, such as Prozac, Ritalin etc...
Watch the documentary Generation Rx.
ssjcomix 3 months ago
childhood humiliation.... an overabundance of criticism
nenecupcake 3 months ago 16
i have severe social phobia.i was severely bullied when i was younger.i had to take time out of school and colllege alot because i have had ongoing surjury and inbetween times i had to be off because of the pain and i couldnt do things because of it.one of the reasons i got bullied at school is because i had to wear thumb splints on both my hands and i couldnt write. i had an encounter with a pedofile. i am desperatly lonely and have no friends.
squirrelkidvids 3 months ago
Ughh I wanna Murder this disorder!!!!
mina8XO 3 months ago
I cannot handle sudden interruptions like the phone ringing, or someone calling my name expecting me to respond, or people waiting for me, or at work I fear when the door opens and customers come in, also I have to lie in the back office floor because my neck and back hurts and while I lay down I can't do anything during this time I can't have any interruptions or else I will feel like I"m injuring my body. it's so painful doing this everyday! Am I suffering from Anxiety Disorder?
EasternMerchant 3 months ago
@EasternMerchant Also I get very nervous around people, but I try to overcompensate my feelings and act ultra nice and friendly and extroverted because I don't want them to know that I am uncomfortable around them.
EasternMerchant 3 months ago
I think I might have this :/ I have almost all the sympthoms and I am shy and all that :/ it is a living hell
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RosalieStreet 4 months ago
why white people are more sensitive then black,latino,asians i am not being rasist,seems to me its dna based disorder.
soska247 4 months ago
@soska247 im an indian and I have this disorder myself -_-
djay00009 3 months ago
@soska247 im mixed and i have it severly
CHiZZlExfoSHiZZlE 3 months ago
My fucking racist 2nd & 3rd grade teachers gave me this disorder. It wouldn't have been so bad if it just happened in one grade, but the first teacher filled the second with so many negative preconceptions about me.
Never, been the same since. Went from being extroverted to introverted, but deep down i want to be outgoing again.
Anyway, i guess everything happens for a reason.
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philosophyheal 4 months ago
the cause should be as important as the cure... since that is the key to getting better if it never happened then there is no need for a cure
philosophyheal 4 months ago
I come from the typical father has run away home. Also was surrounded by relatives who due to their own upbringing were made anxious and untrusting towards people. I took the route of computer games in my bedroom through my teenage years. Never socialised with anyone. This is a very crippling condition as I a 20 year old man can say. I think mine is learned and I have actually made it worse. Situations like gathering are on edge for me but the nerves calm as time goes on.
Bassyswing1 4 months ago
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I come from the typical father has run away home. Also was surrounded by relatives who due to their own upbringing were made anxious and untrusting towards people. I took the route of computer games in my bedroom through my teenage years. Never socialised with anyone. This is a very crippling condition as I a 20 year old man can say. I think mine is learned and I have actually made it worse. Situations like gathering are on edge for me but the nerves calm as time goes on.
Bassyswing1 4 months ago
I come from the typical father has run away home. Also was surrounded by relatives who due to their own upbringing were made anxious and untrusting towards people. I took the route of computer games in my bedroom through my teenage years. Never socialised with anyone. This is a very crippling condition as I a 20 year old man can say. I think mine is learned and I have actually made it worse. Situations like gathering are on edge for me but the nerves calm as time goes on.
Bassyswing1 4 months ago
I feel like every move I make is being watched. Everything I do doesn't feel normal. I have things I want to say but I can't. I hate it.
TheSimpleCamp 4 months ago 53
@TheSimpleCamp Do you write or journal? Maybe getting out all of the "frozen" stuff... just something that worked for many...best
Lemure333 3 months ago
@Lemure333 I had it really bad when I was younger. I am sort of overcoming it now, but I still have a very hard time speaking in front of the class and things like that. I am good at poetry and I also blog for multiple gaming sites.
TheSimpleCamp 3 months ago
@TheSimpleCamp I'm with you mann shit fucking sucks, i feel like i'm the only one where i live who has this.
TheMidwestsk8ter 2 months ago
@TheSimpleCamp Amen
karp821 1 month ago
So what? You will look stupid only for one Moment After doing what i told you, and who cares? You live in america? Who will remember the guy that screamed fuuuuuuck in some random toilet anyway! Once you brought your senses Keep living your life without shyness or at least the next 24 hours or whatever Barman..
Jechtvssephiroth 4 months ago
Bornnn with a Heeart Of Steeeel! Who Jumps Anxiety Disorder? Propably Satan , He Must have her ass a bitch and Fucks her till He Gums , well Good news for You. You don;t need to look stupid all the day just because youre shy.
Heres a tip to bring you senses back
Go Find a Toilet and get it and of course for guys, not the ladies room , you don't want her to scream but you will scream.
So Go Find a Toilet (Remember to take some breaths before going into the toilet) and Scream FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCK!
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@Jechtvssephiroth
that sound like more anxiety and denial? you probably do need to scream though, to be heard. to let other know what is going on. Sometimes one is drowning in their sorrow because they think they are the only ones. i dont know about the usage of words i think it would do better just to let out what you feel out in the air let the wind cary it to the person who made you feel this way they most likely need it
philosophyheal 4 months ago
@Jechtvssephiroth
sound like more anxiety and denial? you probably do need to scream though, to be heard. to let other know what is going on. Sometimes one is drowning in their sorrow because they think they are the only ones. i dont know about the usage of words i think it would do better just to let out what you feel out in the air let the wind cary it to the person who made you feel this way they most likely need it
philosophyheal 4 months ago
@Jechtvssephiroth
sound like more anxiety and denial? you probably do need to scream though, to be heard. to let other know what is going on. Sometimes one is drowning in their sorrow because they think they are the only ones. i dont know about the usage of words i think it would do better just to let out what you feel out in the air let the wind cary it to the person who made you feel this way they most likely need it
a man who calls a woman a bitch does not deserve one
philosophyheal 4 months ago
@Jechtvssephiroth
also sounds like religious sexual suppression
it is all part of the entanglement when others are made to confess for the ones that are to scared to.
philosophyheal 4 months ago
@philosophyheal Seriously, Anthonny Robins Is Da man for this, Type Anthony Madaness Training and go get his free training to see what's really all about, i quarantee it works!
Jechtvssephiroth 4 months ago
People think I'm crazy
Chamath5 4 months ago
the cure is mental you can only cure it by changing your thoughts face your fears and accept your feelings if you want to change you have to think differently
pinkorangesoda 5 months ago
@pinkorangesoda It is a mental disorder that consumes your thoughts and rationability,but every day is a struggle. Im 17 and i cant go to my prom. Ive never had a boyfriend, and instead of football games im having movie night with my mother. I dont pity myself at all, i am thankful there is help out there and my situation is not worse. Im not attacking you, I just want you to know i would give anything to be myself again,the fearless kid i once was. thinking differently is not the solution.
cheercrazed94 5 months ago
@cheercrazed94 Yes but the only way to stop it is to accept your fears and feelings and improve your way of thinking so you aren't as fearful there is therapy for it
pinkorangesoda 5 months ago
I have social anxiety disorder but no one understands it. They think that there is something wrong with me. And my family is always like " There is no need to be shy my dear" or " speak up" but it is not that easy for me. I try my hardest. But i must say i have gotten a bit better with it over the years but i am still suffering from it. Life is boring and difficult.
ASHKtv 5 months ago
Omg I'm so scared I'm 11 yr old girl and I wa abused by my own babysitter wen I was younger and my parents didn't believe me till they saw my brides and I don't like going in public bathrooms or eating infront of any 1 and especially hate answering questions in class and its wrong and every 1 dares and I'm super shy and I'm really sensitive pls help me
SophiaKayla1723 5 months ago 9
@SophiaKayla1723
I try not to read the comments. They break my heart and I , as a non-professional can do so little to help, but there are some things that I do know. First is that you are not alone. There are so many people who hurt in silence, never knowing that so many other quiet people share their suffering. Another thing I know is that this will pass, provided you address the issue with a professional. Talk to your parents. Talk to your school guidance counselor. Seek a professional .Pls
ModernCave 5 months ago 10
@ModernCave thats a problem for alot of kids especially if u care about your reputation and thats a big thing nowadays
Jerseyboi98 1 month ago
@SophiaKayla1723 Get help while you are still young. I am 26 now and my social anxiety began when I was about your age. Believe me, if I could go back and get help at that young age I would, maybe then I wouldn't be the way I am now. But my parents didn't understand that I needed help so I never got it. If they know you have been abused they should be ok with letting you see a counselor or someone. I was abused too, and so have millions of others. You're not alone, I promise.
acidstars9 4 months ago
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Hi sweetie,
I coach people with anxiety and depression...................you can email me at acb@eastlink.ca if you like, maybe I can help.
acb6446 2 months ago
please pm me
1owlcity 5 months ago
someone please pm me when you have the time please
1owlcity 5 months ago
i am sure i have this......my friend is making me go to a doctor becuase i wont go outside my eyes water with shortness of breath when a car drives past, i cant use public rest rooms, i cant order my own food, i cant eat in public becuase i think people are watching me and im scared to seek help incase they just sit there and judge me silently for 20 minutes and then secretly think what an idiot there is nothing wrong with him.....my friend is making me go to the doctor this week to sort things.
TableChip94 5 months ago
I think I might have this but like he said some can go on with there life with some discomfort I like being by my self I'm happy that way I like being with or around people but I do feel the discomfort when I am but I can go on happily
juanonesimo 5 months ago
@adawiya66 I can relate to you cause I was like you and I agree with you
juanonesimo 5 months ago
the cure is within urself...if u r determined to change,,, u will do it... i was once a loner but now i already have frnds... i also love to befriend the ppl w/ social anxieties coz i can relate and i want 2 help them.. coz i know how it feels when no one understands u
adawiya66 5 months ago
the cure is within urself...if u r determined to change,,, u will do it... i was once a loner but now i already have frnds... i also love to befriend the ppl w/ social anxieties coz i can relate and i want 2 help them.. coz i know what it feels when no one understands u
adawiya66 5 months ago
He is right when he says it is living in hell. This disease truly cripples you from living life. I've been suffering with this disorder for years, and at times it feels that I've overcome it, but when you least expect it, it comes back to torture you. Sometimes it's not as bad, but when it hits hard, it feels like the walls crumbling. And, yes like many I try to hide it, but sometimes it feels like everybody knows that something is wrong with me. I just gotta keep trying.
osvie01 6 months ago 4
@osvie01 Dont let anxiety take over your life. Learn to accept it and let it be apart of who you are and keep in mind, if you keep trying to battle it, it will continue to win.
imaniboo1000 5 months ago
@imaniboo1000 Thank you for your message, any advice helps. The best thing that I can do is admit to myself that I have social phobia and I am going to feel anxiety everyday, but I am doing several things to help myself because it is truly hell to feel like this.
osvie01 5 months ago
@imaniboo1000 How do you do that? I always try to remind myself that the difference between me and the average jock is that I make a big deal out of people. Sometimes works sometimes it doesn't. But if there is a better way, hey!
Dansthoughts 5 months ago
@Dansthoughts to tell the truth you just have to give it time and I know that thats easier said then done i totally understand but you have to be strong and think about why your having the attacks and go from there. It all just takes time and patience
imaniboo1000 5 months ago
i think i have this too.
TheKillerxGirl 6 months ago
How can I live a dream, when I'm living a nightmare........
MrTaillac 6 months ago
@MrTaillac Dont make it your goal to live a dream because a dream is and always will be a dream its not realistic. You have to also remember the same goes for a nightmare. Being strong and hopeful will be your first step to recovery but you have to try to wake up from your nightmare and give your self reasons to want to wake up. Try working out and connecting to god thats whats helping me get through my "nightmare". And NEVER give up. <3
imaniboo1000 5 months ago
smoke weed , or/and practice spirituality it will create lots of anandamide in your brain and you'll just feel love and joy with people
mindtoonz262 6 months ago
@mindtoonz262 Actually drugs and alcohol including weed is a possible cause for anxiety and panic attacks and can heighten your attack and depression maybe if your drunk or high it CAN help for that few hours but in the long run its really bad for your anxiety but i defiantly agree with the practice of spirituality that truly does help.
imaniboo1000 5 months ago
@imaniboo1000 yeah your right , probly weed is a bad idea...but spirituality yeah
mindtoonz262 5 months ago
smoke weed
mindtoonz262 6 months ago
I went to a therapist for this and it really helped. I was almost put on medication but I was doing good without it. There IS a way to beat SAD. It's not as untreatable as people think. Just keep trying. That's what I did. I'm not fully over it yet , not even close , but I am getting better (:
20sk8tergirl 6 months ago
i think it's physically unfair, we have to be this way...some took medication and turned out completely normal, but many others say it doesn't work it just gets rid of the shakes and fast heart rate, but not the mental thinking...its unfair we have to live through this having to fake our emotion and attitudes just to make it, they say enjoy life and be happy, well i'm not enjoying life and i'm NOT happy because of this..
find a cure please, this is worse than people think.
bigb771 6 months ago
@bigb771 the cure is accepting it. Whether you want to admit it or not, anxiety wont go away (well most of the time) and if it does it will return. If you learn to accept anxiety and let it be apart of who you are it wont be so serious. Also fight your fears, even if its hard try your best because you have nothing to lose. Keep your head up and like I always say dont let it take over your life, even if its in it.
imaniboo1000 5 months ago
I don't have a person to turn to for this disorder... My parents tell me that I am weird and something is wrong with me. I wish someone could understand.
TheDangel006 6 months ago
@TheDangel006 if your parents are telling you your weird then tell them to fuck off.
your not weird, ALOT of people feel this way...including myself
go talk to a psychotherapist and tell them how you feel. they wont think your weird.
it helps ALOT trust me :)
Mrcherokee19 6 months ago
@TheDangel006
At first I my mom took me to a therapist(professional) but then I had to stop going because she couldn't afford it anymore. Now a few months later, It seems like my mom forgets about the whole thing and now she calls me crazy, and she told me my family thinks im crazy too. So as in now I have no one that will help me, some how I have to work really hard to raise enough money to get the help I need and im still in highschool. I just want you to know that your not alone
sourcreamandchips 6 months ago
They're controlling people by saying there is no cue. There is a cure for everything. Face the fears. That's the cure.
Pilgrim1411 6 months ago
They're controlling people by saying there is no cure. There is a cure for everything. Face the fears. That's the cure.
Pilgrim1411 6 months ago
I don't know if I have this disorder or not but either way, it sucks. I only have like 2 friends because of it. I don't understand how people can be so loud and outgoing. How they love the attention and CRAVE it. I shake and start sweating when someone tries to talk to me. I dread the moment when its my turn to read in front of the class. It sucks.
heretobelieve 7 months ago 3
Fuck this stupid disorder.
lgr1991 7 months ago 64
@lgr1991 If only it were that easy
Adamthebarsteward 5 months ago
@lgr1991 THIS IS VERY REAL SO FUCK YOU
drmphoto1 4 months ago
i always thought i was a weirdo and the only one who felt like this
noodlez4me 7 months ago
This disorder is ruining my life..But I'm too scared to get help
JakesWifeFoo 7 months ago
@JakesWifeFoo changing the way you think is vital...knowing who you are and why you are here is also huge. i used to get my identity from what other people said and from untrue thought abouts myself "i'm a loner, i'm stupid, i'm weird, there's something wrong with me, i'm never going to get married etc." now i'm ok with being alone and not having much friends, ever since i've come to know Jesus, i have peace of mind, hope, and am not afraid of lonliness. i like being alone with God's word.
lightbrownpoop 7 months ago
ahaaaaaaa i knew it 1:47 (conditioning) I been like that since i was a kid, raised by a old woman who didnt allow me to go outside as much, I was around a crazy insane dude who was angry and bitter, and made me feel like everything i did was wrong and critized me with anger (as a kid, like around the age of 6-9. I didnt get no encouragement, never understood love, i only understood anger, pain and hate because that was what seemed natural, due to that was my living situation.
michealjohnedmondson 8 months ago
today i made an effort to go out look for are job , and i was pretty exited i went out there .. that was one of my goals..
NZtenga 8 months ago
"Phuynh23" following your comment on here previously i also use "self talk" ( talking silently to myself) in social situations. I say over and over in my head " there is no danger there is no threat" and " who cares, no big deal!" That is the cognitive part . Then the behavioural part ( not avoiding the social situation) that idea of there being no threat you start to prove and it gets imprinted in part of your brain ( amygdala), that indeed there is no threat. Withstand and dont avoid.
raccuia1 8 months ago
I just started reading up about social anxiety yesterday, and now I know that this is what I truly have. Thankfully, the degree is not as intense as others - but my social anxiety nevertheless interferes with my life. If I did not have social anxiety I would: have a lot more friends, be a happier person, and not avoid certain social situations because of my social anxiety.
I also don't want to tell my parents, as they are the opposite of me - outgoing, and comfortable in any social situation.
2k8bomb 8 months ago
Please read the book: The highly sensitive person and The introvert advantage. There is nothing wrong with you. You live in a society that suppress your personality. A society where people put a smile on and act nice, but the truth is different, and the vibes they send out, you feel. So in reality you are an Empat. Psychiatrist and the extrovert society do not feel this way, and make you feel wrong instead of researching what it’s really about. You FEEL others feelings.
ReverendMotherISIS 8 months ago
being unable to trust anyone is where alot of my problems have came from..even as a child i didnt trust my parents for several differnt reasons, i guess i was like "if i cant trust them then who could i possibly trust" and so my life has been this way. it causes problems in all my relationships because i dont want to have sex. i cant feel close enough to some one to feel comfortable enough for intimacy..i always just want people to leave me alone
im so glad i can finally say its not just me.
317anastar 9 months ago
Can bullying cause social anxiety?
knowledgeisthepower1 9 months ago
@knowledgeisthepower1 yes it can, because bullies may spread rumors, talk about you in a negative way, to make people NOT like you. but you should fight that anxiety, believe that you are better than the person who is bullying you. you are better than they are. bullies just want to bully others to make themself feel better, but if they continue to do so... they will get nowhere in life.
skye071314 8 months ago
@knowledgeisthepower1 I think it can. I've been bullied and I feel anxious around people sometimes.
suicunewolf 7 months ago
@knowledgeisthepower1
yes!
sourcreamandchips 6 months ago
I've been like this ever since my Dad died..I don't understand :(
iwannarocklikefefe 9 months ago
i am a 16 yyear old boy with this, i started learning about this this year. it was very hard to deal with. but i have mastered the secret to lessen the feeings of social anxiety. but really it depends if u are willing to get over this, it is all on you!. my reality has changed it is still very strange, life is still challenging. but everytime i notcie i am starting to feel anxiety, i telll myself Dont give a fuck about what people think, i just say dgaf in my head,and be myself! it works.
Phuynh23 9 months ago
Check my channel for a documentary on S.A.D. called "Afraid of People: A Social Anxiety Disorder Documentary"
socialanxietydisable 11 months ago
i had this....i got over this about a month ago...i have a girl and even friends........
The Real secret is honestly to not think about it.... all this chemical stuff is just to get you to buy meds...it is not real...think about it..social anxiety is THOUGHTS of being alone or watched or judged...not REALITY.. dont try to change social anxiety..understand that this is a thought and it is not real...social anxiety is just another way of overthinking.
overthinking is the problem..dont think..live!
FLATFEET3 11 months ago
If you have hearing loss can it also create social anxiety? I'm hearing impaired and I get nervous around people, even when I'm around a few friends. People have told me that I'm very quiet and I don't even like being quiet. When I get put in a group of people for an assignment, there are days where I have tears because they think I don't want to contribute or share ideas. I pretend that I can hear what they say but I can only hear half the time and over time I get this bad anxiety.
LyricallyJustified1 11 months ago
@LyricallyJustified1 Are you scared to talk to people on the telephone? Thinking of what to say to your friend next to you that wont make you look stupid? Worried that you always being judged by people? Scared of an upcoming social situation (such as a party)? Planning out what you will say and the movements you will make in an upcoming social situation? Do you stutter when talking to people you dont know?
Their just some of the symptoms of social anxiety.
MrFaulconbridge 11 months ago
is there a disorder for thinking that people dislike you
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MrSolmon123 1 year ago
I'm 2 chicken to tell some one like the school councilor or something. Like i'd ever be the one to tell my mom. i can't even cry in front of her w/ out getting scolded.
my sister asked why she doesn't hug her & stuff n mom said "Hell! No one baby-ed me & told me they loved me when i was little. That's something you should be able tell urself! I did." My sister always asks if i love her or if she's fat & she's only 10.
i can never tell anybody i love them without it sounding weird to my own ears
cookieluvsyah 1 year ago
@cookieluvsyah Thats a horrible thing for a Mum to say! Telling people that they MATTER, that you LOVE them that they are SPECIAL. IS very important!
Good relationships need both partners/family members to say this from time to time. If you find it difficult to say then it gets better and easier each time you say it.
I think you mothers cold upbringing is being reflected on you two and that's not healthy nor right. Sad really. Humans need contact and love to flourish. I
mzcyberbat 1 year ago
@mzcyberbat HOLY FUDGE!! went to church Sunday(haven't been in a while so i wasn't all to thrilled about going)& on Monday my mom said 2 my sister "Have a blessed day. I love you." *insert jaw drop here*
I have this friend & every time he says or does something that gets on my nerves(which is everyday. we have a weird love-hate relationship) he says he loves me & keeps asking if i love him back until i respond. usually i just say yeah, but then i though of u & said, yea love u 2 & he hugged me:)
cookieluvsyah 11 months ago
@cookieluvsyah Yeah, when its done like that it IS annoying. Sorry for being so harsh (it was very rude of me to say disparaging thing about your mum and all). It just seemed sad to me that you mum wasn't very affectionate. BUT I agree it comes off as really....creepy when people go all 'carebear' on you as well. Balance and all that :)
mzcyberbat 11 months ago
@mzcyberbat carebear lol:) it's an on and off thing. so weird!
cookieluvsyah 10 months ago
idk if i was humiliated during childhood. i HATED school & had panic attacks & stuff. they thought it was becuz of my parents divorce.WRONG! my mom did all that stuff
~psychologically abused me w/ discipline when i was smaller.
~Sheltering
~idr praise except from teachers
~ traumatized. standing over me and w/ a belt and yelling until i got the answer right(on HW or when telling a lie) or hitting me when i got it wrong
~she does criticize me A LOT! but brags about all the stuff i do 2 other ppl
cookieluvsyah 1 year ago
there is a cure, it's in your brain....
Izakokomarixyz 1 year ago
Hmm i never been diagnosed with this disorder; I believe i have this disorder because I always feel everyone is staring at me and talking bad about how i look.
I do not have any friends except for one but we only hang out once every three or more months.
I am mostly alone everytime i go out for a walk to get some exercise. I feel when cars go by, while on my walk; they all just stare at me and i am always looking down at the ground when this happens.
do i have this disorder?
IakFox 1 year ago 21
@IakFox
Forget the labels; the bottom line is: if it's interfering with your life, talk to someone who can help make it better. You don't have to be unhappy. You don't have to be uncomfortable. BTW, people probably are looking at you, and they're looking at trees and other houses and other people. You don't matter to them, really, nor should they matter to you. That said, I too avoid eye contact in similar situations. Seems a practical solution sometimes. It's OK, as long as it doesn't limit.
ModernCave 1 year ago 3
@IakFox drink camomile tea
lovfaihop 1 year ago
@IakFox i would say me and you are twins...so yeah....however im losing my mind,
Ever have hard time looking other people in the eyes, because you somehow think they can read your mind or think you have violent intent,or somehow lusting after them? or whatever... thus you start thinking exactly what you think they are ?
I feel at my best when nobody is around, i even take night jobs to stop interacting with people, or i stay up at night and sleep during the day where other people are awake
MadMAn12gauge 10 months ago
@MadMAn12gauge Boy I know what you mean.
MrTaillac 5 months ago
@IakFox yes you do..cause ive had it since i was 12 and thats one of they symoptoms
Kamikazekris100 10 months ago
@IakFox wow u sound exactly like me, ive been diagnosed with social anxiety disorder & its affected my whole life, i havent got any friends in real life, to me its impossible to have friends cuz i cant face them or talk to them, everyday i feel that everyones staring at me and judging me, the only time i ever go outside is for rare evening walks by myself and when cars go by i always feel that ppl are looking at me & it makes me start worrying about the way i walk, the way i look, your not alone
emoisbackxxzz 9 months ago
@IakFox im sure you realize that people arent actualy staring at you, (and that its all in your head) but you feel anxious none the less. Everyone feels uncomfortable in social situations but people with social anxiety disorder think that everyone is paying attention to them when in reality everyone is thinking about themselves and not about you. just remember this "NO ONE THINKS MORE ABOUT YOU THAN YOU DO"
GO TALK TO SOMEONE, IT WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE WITH TIME.
Mrcherokee19 6 months ago
@IakFox i have the same thing ur not alone
etkevin 5 months ago
@IakFox That is exactly how I feel. Even driving in my car, I feel like everyone is looking at me, so I prefer to drive around at night. I wish I could figure this thing out.
TheRachelgomez 5 months ago
can drugs cure this?
KaKaGaNu 1 year ago
@KaKaGaNu they can defeat the suffering, but you have to take them your whole lifetime.
SuperPresidentDead 1 year ago
@KaKaGaNu Yes they helped me heaps! But it depends on the individual.
And NO you don't need to take them all your life. I'm off them now (for at least 7 months) but it will take time! I was on them for 8 years before I found a lifemate to substitute them. And even now I still get depressed.
Just remember (if you're female) to make sure the meds won't effect an unborn baby! There are different ones out there. I was unlucky and had to give them up for the sake of my future babies.
mzcyberbat 1 year ago