Arranged Marriages- a documentary analysis

[saikiranoruganti]

what if the sugarcane is rotten in the meaty part, eh? baahahahaa

[kalsakaur]

I totally agree with this guy. When it comes to love marriage, people don't show there real side until they are married because they are too busy just trying to impress each other by not being them-selves. U hear a lot of people who have a love marriage that he/she wasn't like this when were dating. When it comes to arrange marriage u get know the real person right from the beginning. And then u adjust to each other. That is why the divorce rate is so much higher in western countries.

[bluebloodbeast]

okayyy...m convinced arranged it better, well i've always preferred arranged marriages............lov marriage is 99% bullshit

[shaqdaddy11]

Is he really talking about suger canes or a penis? lmao that was very gay the way he explained it.

[sipp91]

UR AN IDIOT!

[chint]

Arranged marriage is like a biz deal, a compromise.

# the girl needs a male and financial security.

# the boy needs a sexual partner.

# the father of boy wants Return on Investments on the money he spend on boy.

# the mother of boy needs a girl from same caste and same culture.

On the parents level its about exchange of money & on personal level its about sex. nothing more than that.

no love, equality, respect, understanding. Just living together as a sexual partners. im indian btw :P

[shaqdaddy11]

@chint YOu are absolutly correct. Its just a financial thing.

[IdoCareForPeople]

i wil put it this way..... your are an ugly fat women or man..tat no one will fall in love with...see how superficial love is which is largely driven by sexuality... in arraiged marriage parent work their ass off to find you a right person irrespective of your shortcomings....

arraigned marriage is a safer bet..just my opinion..

[lotaywala]

love marriage is just like putting a stamp on a relationship....."ok yeh its official now"....kinda dumb and people make mistakes chosing their own partner....parents choose the right 1 for u....they look at the family and everything...arranged marriages are much better b/c its like a surprise....its originally starts off with something official and then u develop an understanding...love sux man...i know from experience

[HPAbby]

I'm indian and I think arranged marriages are stupid

[2009mrdyslexia]

@HPAbby I know Indians posses negative, prejudiced and naive views of disabled people. So what I'm saying is, if I were Indian, no woman would want to marry me, because of my learning disablity and she wouldn't understand or confidently cope with my difficulties and developmental disorder.

[HPAbby]

@2009mrdyslexia I totally agree, I have dyscalculia, and my family has always acted like I'm stupid/ I'm a lazy screw up. My parents dont even believe it's a real disorder, they think I'm just not trying hard enough. Do you have an indian teacher or something?

[2009mrdyslexia]

@HPAbby I don't have an Indian teacher by any means, but I know other people who possess a learning disability similar to mine and their parents and siblings also think they are stupid, lazy and a screw up, but is our fault our brain works differently to other people? The trouble with Indian people as a whole, they have no understanding or any knowledge of learning disabilities and they demonize, ignore and frown upon anyone who possess one.

[HPAbby]

@2009mrdyslexia I agree completely....but what does this have to do with arranged marriage?

[2009mrdyslexia]

@HPAbby Arrange marriages were brought to India by the Moghuls. So it's really not a Hindu-thing, so to speak. The Hindu's adopted it and it's part of the religion.

[saikiranoruganti]

@2009mrdyslexia  yes, its not the part of the hindu culture, it came from the Moghuls!

[2009mrdyslexia]

@HPAbby Arranged marriages were brought to India by the invading and ruling-Moghuls. So it's really not a Hindu-thing, so to speak. The Hindu's adopted it and it's part of the religion. I just added a different comment about India and how I see the truth about her that others fail to see. I don't want Zionism contaminating India, just like British Colonialism and Imperialism and before that, the Moghuls did.

[2009mrdyslexia]

@HPAbby I myself would consider any arranged marriage as inhumane and a contamination of humanity, love and happiness because divorce, disability (mental, learning and physical) and death (families shun widowed wives) are a taboo and social prejudice is rife between castes, religions and classes in India and in Indian communites outside India. I blame the British and the Moghuls who made Indians backward people and India is a terrorist state, because she is in bed with Zionist Israel. BE SINGLE.

[HPAbby]

@2009mrdyslexia Actually there is terrirism because of the muslim people who inhabit the country

[sovietmarxist]

I'm a white canadian. I would like an arranged marriage but thats not part of my culture :(

[agentzero1]

i would not understand a single word without the subtitles

[fgth1984]

Nor could I. Stupid analogy as well. I know someone at the moment, but we both have chemistry and an emotional connection with each other, but we are not serious or married. That takes time and patience to develope. Let things happen gradually, but not this stone-age arranged marriage system doesn't work. It's pathetic. Why should two people be together if they have nothing in common or love each other?

[IndiaCobra]

Its a shame on British Govt to shelters and finance the immigrant women from the third world, on the pretence of marriage to British man and then having the intention of betraying the man so that they can settle on her own in England and live on the taxpayers expense.

[fgth1984]

I can count myself extremely fortunate, not to have an arranged (loveless) marriage.

[jasonsandy1]

WHat do you know about marriage you have never been married you are a guy man talking about a subject you know nothing about ...

[fgth1984]

I can't get married and nor I because families frown upon disabilities, which I have (learning) - diagnosed a year ago. This also means I may have Aspergers, meaning I have impaired communication, social, interaction and social skills as a result of it. It's not my fault that women see me as a leper, which they have for the last 30+ years. I know arranged marriages are unsuitable for me, and I've seen the bad side of it at close hand. Don't you ever manipulate me into having one.

[Fender1976uk]

Arranged marriages is BULLSHIT most of the time! there is many asian women out there that are unhappy!! but keep quiet about it! they do what they feel is right for the familys! finding someone you truely love is important! and not being pushed into a lifetime of something that may never bring true happiness

[queenbmalia]

Ok divorcing someone is heart breaking but sometimes it's for the best

What's the point of reconciliation when you definitely know you want to file a divorce?

And anyways, you should marry because you truly love someone! NOT to please your parents by marrying the so-called -'IDEAL' man/woman of 'their' choice, oherwise how are you suppose to be happy?

[Clevermess]

I like this analogy!

[prettyillya]

Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being with the right one. how do we knw if he/she's the right person?

..by studying the background!

arranged marriage is an option. if you want it, proceed. if you dont, then say no! in Islam, both man&woman have to agree with 'being arranged' b4 getting into the next stage. this is not a forced-to-do thing.

venu has his point.

dont just refute blindlessly!

omg..

[act251]

what is your problem, why are you promoting arranged marriages! You need to wake up and get a life. Please watch my video on why I am against arranged marriages!

[Dan4157]

Wtf, I didn't subscribe to this and it appeared in my subscribed video's box.

[DIS1ILL777]

Divorcing is painful but it is usually for the better. And If the problems were that little people wouldn't resort to divorce to solve them. It is better to live happy with one you love after divorcing another than be with someone you can't stand and stay with them just because you don't want to go through divorce.

[makokun9]

What a stupid analogy! So human behaviour and feelings can now be compared to the way how you eat sugar cane!? When was this filmed? 200 years ago!?

[DIS1ILL777]

in my opinion statistics dnt mean much. Many ppl that have arranged marriages stay together because they usually are prohibited from divorcing (unless the reason is grave) and are brought up with the teachings that arranged marriages are the right thing to do (according to their culture and religion). Normal marriages have mor freedom and couples end up screwin up and divorcing because they have that freedom. I personally believe you sould marry because u love someone not because of your parents

[eurasianchica]

tbat's true, but isn't it worse to go through the pain of divorce just because you and your spouse argue about a little thing?

[nunsluvbettyboop]

that makes sense however what if your love is not like sugar cane but an ocean; vast and growing more and more everyday(due to global warming)also it's not fair to use america's divorce rate to prove points some marriages are made for money, status or because of children, not love.not to mention that divorce is not frowned upon in america while in india people are encouraged to try and make it work(a good idea actually).One is not better than the other, just a different experience.

[JohnR22926]

The sugar can analogy is interesting. I've read the divorce rate for Indian arranged marriages is 2%. The divorce rate in the US is about 50%. Hard to argue with those stats.

[urm20814]

there is nothing mental about marriage . Its sxual and financial . If there is no sx or money it will show its true self !! I have been married 19 years and I have done my part !!! Indian marriages are a big farce!!1 hahah

[Garsh87]

love sx and money yes yes yes. no money no food no sx no love. money=time for sx =love!

[urm20814]

arrangemnt is between families , they are not necessarly concerned about the couple . Marriages are not made in heaven . They are made on earth for material reasons !!! Get rid of religion and arranged marriages ..The world will be a better place to live in

[urm20814]

My marriage was arranged .I married a liar and a cheat . Arrangment works for people who have no game and cant find themself a partener .

[fgth1984]

Your stupid for having an arranged (loveless) marriage. I can't blame your ex-husband for marrying you in the first place. You probably wasn't his choice of bride and I can't blame him. Maybe he was bullied into marrying you by his mother. Do yourself a favour and marry someone YOU want.

[cuteladycute]

lolz. i dont believe in arranged marriage. how can u have sex with a person u dont even know. CiaoZzZ :))

[qizardofoz]

Arranged marriage works. If you live in the 18th century.

[vladbran]

Get a haircut....

[cristicc1]

I am white and my husband is Hindu. He got a lot of stick from lots of people for marrying me. Aunt, Uncles, Family friends,HOWEVER, we are still happily married after 14 years! His brothers and sisters who all had arranged marriages are ALL DIVORCED!!!And so are most of the Sons and daughters of those who criticized him!!!

[kabali5000]

I had an arranged marriage, we have no chemistry, no love for each other because she was in love with somebody and her parents forced her into marrying me. As soon as i found out that she was living with me thinking it her fate, we decided to get a divorce. In India everybody(Parents,Relatives) manipulate you into marrying someone that you don't love and you have to remain married for the society. That sucks !! I recommend love marriage for better or worse !

[4ray]

I think the fact is that anyone entering marriage must be honest, loyal and willing. It's true for arranged or love marriage. Bad luck for you that your wife was entering a false commitment. There are people who are too weak and dishonest and who give marriage a bad name. My arranged marriage has turned into a love marriage.

[shagerd2]

i agree all it takes is willing and commitment.got engaged after 4 monthes got married and living happy for about 14 years now

i mean really happy!!!!!

[Nerudah]

my girlfriends parents are pushing her towards an arranged marriage too.. i really don't want to lose her. i love her so much.

anyway, i hope her future husband will be as openminded as you but her family would outcast her i think afterwards..no?

[fgth1984]

Anyone who has an arranged marriage is totally stupid. I'm 37 and I never married. Kabali, all you had to say was a little word - NO. I wouldn't have an arranged married, if I had everything paid for me - house, car, job etc. It's a business contract between two conservative-fascist families.

[mrr7685]

evn if u fall in love with someone, u hav to get to kno tht person for at least a year or two years before u get married. in arranged marriages, u dont even get to know the person b4 u get married. according to venu, u try to get to know the person while your married. what if you then dont like the person who your parents set you up with?

[Shineskera]

It isn't true for everybody. Those that want an arranged marriage...then the marriage will work better for them. But those that do not want one, I really don't think it will work out that well since the person is forced to do something based on parental pressures. Comparing divorce rates between India and America isn't going to work either. In India, divorce is frowned upon and thus there are fewer divorces there.

[fgth1984]

If there is no love in a marriage, there will not be any love and happiness in your life. Why can't anyone who has an arranged marriage ever realise that? I consider any arranged marriage totally embarrasing to peers.

[jasonsandy1]

sees like you are a guy man thats why at 37 u are still nver married . You talk about womens orgasms but dont have any women to fuck with . Get out of youtube and get yourself a REAL WOMEN !!!

[publicelement]

Arranged marriage is like watching a movie without reading its review, good or bad, you will live with it.

Love marriage is like watching a movie after reading the reveiws. You go with high expectations and you might find it to your expectations or might not. Eventually after some years, both types leads to the same state.. i.e. either a happy married life or a worst, depending upon individual understanding. It is totally a misconception that in a love marriage there will be understanding.

[mprulez]

may be the analogy was only used in venu"s family....and yes....it works well if he is not drunk!

[ssjasper2003]

No such thing, you only learn to stand them & cope with it.

Im glad my parents got a court marriage(love marriage), April 30th(2 days ago) was their 24th wedding anniversary.

Better to know that your parents were in love when they had you rather than just a process of "learning to love" the other person.

[cristicc1]

Jolly well said. And let's not all forget all those poor souls killed 'In Honour' for refusing their parents wishes. If the arranged marriage works- it's often because the culture just SHUTS UP AND PUTS UP!!!

[gwanstikitin]

hmm... i'm still not convinced :) great theory though!

[hybidvigor]

Venu!! you rock. this is such a sweet way to learn stuff such personal stuff about you and your culture. thank you.